Are you an Empath?

The chances are if you’ve happened across this blog after typing the words: ‘traits of an Empath’ into any search engine, you will very likely be an Empath.

As soon as you heard and read of the traits of an ‘Empath’, you knew that it was describing you and, with the discovery of a title for your condition, this probably came with a huge sigh of relief… Finally, you can piece it all together, you have an understanding as to why you’ve felt the way you do with certain people and in certain places, why you know things you shouldn’t and seem to experience more emotional and physical pain than others.

Empaths are an inquisitive bunch and just love to learn or get confirmation on our ‘suspicions’, ‘hunches’, or feelings. So, hopefully the info below will give you a few more ‘aha’ moments in your quest for self discovery.

If you’ve already read my list of  ’30 Traits of an Empath’ and know it applies to you, click here to read some very important information on how to protect yourself and/or scroll down the page to an article written  by Christel Broederlow on the subject. I could not sum up the typical traits more perfectly than she has already done.

30 Empath Traits by Just Be:

 1.     Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It’s a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.

2.     Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums where there are lots of people around can fill the empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.

 3.     Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for empaths. To some they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from great distance.

 4.     Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.

 5.     You know when someone is not being honest: If a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.

 6.     Picking up physical symptoms off another: An empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains) especially those they’re closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.

 7.     Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the centre of the abdomen and it’s known as the seat of emotions. This is where empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an empath, will almost always be ungrounded.

 8.     Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an empath’s attention and compassion.

 9.     Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own.

 10.    Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.

 11.    Addictive personality: Alcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions that empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It is a form of self protection in order to hide from someone or something.

12.    Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many empaths would love to heal others they can end up turning away from being healers (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily. Even at the revelation of what many others would consider unthinkable, for example, empaths would have known the world was round when others believed it was flat.

 13.   Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.

 14.    Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.

 15.    Need for solitude: An empath will go stir-crazy if they don’t get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.

 16.    Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.

 17.   Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It’s for this reason many empaths get labelled as being lazy.

 18.   Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.

 19.   Always looking for the answers and knowledge: To have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an empath and they will endeavour to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.

 20.  Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.

 21.  Abhors clutter: It makes an empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.

 22.  Loves to daydream: An empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.

 23.  Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an empath even poisoning.

 24.  Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.

 25.  Excellent listener: An empath won’t talk about themselves much unless it’s to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.

 26.  Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider another’s feelings or points of view other than their own.

 27.   The ability to feel the days of the week: An empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective are feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.

 28.   Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-hand: Anything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

 29.   Sense the energy of food: Many empaths don’t like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.

 30.   Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnected: Depending on how an empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they’re sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it’s service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.

If you are new to discovering you are an Empath be sure to check out: Grounding Techniques for Empaths and Sensitives There are many tried and tested techniques on this page that will help you better deal with your gift.

Empaths are presently having a particularly difficult time, picking up on all the negative emotions that are being emantated into the world from the populace undergoing huge transformations. Please check out other pages and posts on this blog for tips on dealing with the ever-changing energies.

 Just Be ©

Here is a great article written by Christel Broederlow © about being an Empath. Enjoy:

TRAITS OF AN EMPATH by Christel Broederlow

Empaths are often quiet achievers. They can take a while to handle a compliment for they’re more inclined to point out another’s positive attributes. They are highly expressive in all areas of emotional connection, and talk openly, and, at times quite frankly. They may have few problems talking about their feelings if another cares to listen (regardless of how much they listen to others).

However, they can be the exact opposite: reclusive and apparently unresponsive at the best of times. They may even appear ignorant. Some are very good at “blocking out” others and that’s not always a bad thing, at least for the learning empath struggling with a barrage of emotions from others, as well as their own feelings.

Empaths have a tendency to openly feel what is outside of them more so than what is inside of them. This can cause empaths to ignore their own needs. In general an empath is non-violent, non-aggressive and leans more towards being the peacemaker. Any area filled with disharmony creates an uncomfortable feeling in an empath. If they find themselves in the middle of a confrontation, they will endeavor to settle the situation as quickly as possible, if not avoid it all together. If any harsh words are expressed in defending themselves, they will likely resent their lack of self-control, and have a preference to peacefully resolve the problem quickly.

Empaths are more inclined to pick up another’s feelings and project it back without realizing its origin in the first place. Talking things out is a major factor in releasing emotions in the learning empath. Empaths can develop an even stronger degree of understanding so that they can find peace in most situations. The downside is that empaths may bottle up emotions and build barriers sky-high so as to not let others know of their innermost thoughts and/or feelings. This withholding of emotional expression can be a direct result of a traumatic experience, an expressionless upbringing, or simply being told as a child, “Children are meant to be seen and not heard!”

Without a doubt, this emotional withholding can be detrimental to one’s health, for the longer one’s thoughts and/or emotions aren’t released, the more power they build. The thoughts and/or emotions can eventually becoming explosive, if not crippling. The need to express oneself honestly is a form of healing and a choice open to all. To not do so can result in a breakdown of the person and result in mental/emotional instability or the creation of a physical ailment, illness or disease.

Empaths are sensitive to TV, videos, movies, news and broadcasts. Violence or emotional dramas depicting shocking scenes of physical or emotional pain inflicted on adults, children or animals can bring an empath easily to tears. At times, they may feel physically ill or choke back the tears. Some empaths will struggle to comprehend any such cruelty, and may have grave difficulty in expressing themselves in the face of another’s ignorance, closed-mindedness and obvious lack of compassion. They simply cannot justify the suffering they feel and see.

You will find empaths working with people, animals or nature with a true passion and dedication to help them. They are often tireless teachers and/or caretakers for our environment and all within it. Many volunteers are empathic and give up personal time to help others without pay and/or recognition.

Empaths may be excellent storytellers due to an endless imagination, inquisitive minds and ever-expanding knowledge. They can be old romantics at heart and very gentle. They may also be the “keepers” of ancestral knowledge and family history. If not the obvious family historians, they may be the ones who listen to the stories passed down and possess the majority of the family history. Not surprisingly, they may have started or possess a family tree.

They have a broad interest in music to suit their many expressive temperaments, and others can query how empaths can listen to one style of music, and within minutes, change to something entirely different. Lyrics within a song can have adverse, powerful effects on empaths, especially if it is relevant to a recent experience. In these moments, it is advisable for empaths to listen to music without lyrics, to avoid playing havoc with their emotions!

They are just as expressive with body language as with words, thoughts, and feelings. Their creativity is often expressed through dance, acting, and bodily movements. Empaths can project an incredible amount of energy portraying and/or releasing emotion. Empaths can become lost in the music, to the point of being in a trance-like state; they become one with the music through the expression of their physical bodies. They describe this feeling as a time when all else around them is almost non-existent.

People of all walks of life and animals are attracted to the warmth and genuine compassion of empaths. Regardless of whether others are aware of one being empathic, people are drawn to them as a metal object is to a magnet!

Even complete strangers find it easy to talk to empaths about the most personal things, and before they know it, they have poured out their hearts and souls without intending to do so consciously. It is as though on a sub-conscious level that person knows instinctively that empaths would listen with compassionate understanding. Then again, for empaths, it is always nice to actually be heard themselves!

Here are the listeners of life. They can be outgoing, bubbly, enthusiastic and a joy to be in the presence of, as well as highly humorous at the most unusual moments! On the flip side, empaths can be weighted with mood swings that will have others around them want to jump overboard and abandon ship! The thoughts and feelings empaths receive from any and all in their life can be so overwhelming (if not understood) that their moods can fluctuate with lightning speed. One moment they may be delightfully happy and with a flick of the switch, miserable.

Abandoning an empath in the throes of alternating moods can create detrimental effects. A simple return of empathic love–listening and caring compassionately without bias, judgment and/or condemnation–can go an incredibly long way to an empath’s instant recovery. Many empaths don’t understand what is occurring within them. They literally have no idea that another person’s emotions are now felt, as one’s own and reflected outwardly. They are confused as to how one moment all was well, and then the next, they feel so depressed, alone, etc. The need to understand the possibilities of empath connection is a vital part of the empaths journey for themselves and for those around them.

Empaths are often problem solvers, thinkers, and studiers of many things. As far as empaths are concerned, where a problem is, so too is the answer. They often will search until they find one – if only for peace of mind. This can certainly prove beneficial for others in their relationships, in the workplace, or on the home front. Where there is a will, there is a way and the empath will find it. The empath can literally (likely without the knowledge of what’s actually occurring) tap into Universal Knowledge and be receptive to guidance in solving anything they put their head and hearts into.

Empaths often are vivid and/or lucid dreamers. They can dream in detail and are inquisitive of dream content. Often they feel as though the dreams are linked to their physical life somehow, and not just a mumble of nonsensical, irrelevant, meaningless images. This curiosity will lead many empathic dreamers to unravel some of the “mysterious” dream contents from an early age and connect the interpretation to its relevance in their physical life. If not, they may be led to dream interpretations through other means.

Empaths are daydreamers with difficulty keeping focused on the mundane. If life isn’t stimulating, off an empath will go into a detached state of mind. They will go somewhere, anywhere, in a thought that appears detached from the physical reality, yet is alive and active for they really are off and away. If a tutor is lecturing with little to no emotional input, empaths will not be receptive to such teaching and can (unintentionally) drift into a state of daydreaming.

Give the empath student the tutor who speaks with stimuli and emotion (through actual experience of any given subject) and the empath is receptively alert. Empaths are a captivated audience. This same principle applies in acting. An actor will either captivate the audience through expressing (in all aspects) emotions (as though they really did experience the role they are portraying) or will loose them entirely. Empaths make outstanding actors.

Empaths frequently experience déjà vu and synchronicities. What may initially start as, “Oh, what a coincidence”, will lead to the understanding of synchronicities as an aspect of who they are. These synchronicities will become a welcomed and continually expanding occurrence. As an understanding of self grows, the synchronicities become more fluent and free flowing. The synchronicities can promote a feeling of euphoria as empaths identify with them and appreciate the connection to their empathic nature.

Empaths are most likely to have had varying paranormal experiences throughout their lives. NDE’s (Near death experiences) and or OBE’s (Out of body experiences) can catapult an unaware empath into the awakening period and provide the momentum for a journey of discovery. Those who get caught up in life, in society’s often dictating ways, in work etc., can become lost in a mechanical way of living that provides very little meaning. All “signs of guidance” are ignored to shift out of this state of “doing”. A path to being whole again becomes evident and a search for more meaning in one’s life begins.

These types of experiences appear dramatic, can be life-altering indeed, and are most assuredly just as intensely memorable in years to come. They are the voice of guidance encouraging us to pursue our journey in awareness. Sometimes, some of us require that extra assistance!

For some empaths, the lack of outside understanding towards paranormal events they experience, may lead to suppressing such abilities. (Most of these abilities are very natural and not a coincidence.) Empaths may unknowingly adopt the positive or negative attitude of others as their own. (This, however, can be overcome.) Empaths may need to follow interests in the paranormal and the unexplained with curiosity so as to explain and accept their life circumstances.

Words © Christel Broederlow

If you are new to discovering you are an Empath be sure to check out: Grounding Techniques for Empaths and Sensitives There are many tried and tested techniques on this page that will help you better deal with your gift.

343 thoughts on “Are you an Empath?

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  3. Wow. I’m floored by how accurate this article and the last article I read have been, perfectly describing nuances in my life that I thought were only subjective to me. I don’t think there was a single thing mentioned that didn’t have me feeling like this itself was written for me (not in a narcissistic manner!). Amazing job, absolutely amazing!!!

    • This was me to a “T” !! Finally an answer, especially to the sycronicities mentioned. I feel like I am constantly saying to my husband, wow that was a coincidence or what are the odds? The odds were always good in my world because I described it before my awakening as “weird stuff following me around” I also know my daughter is an empath. She is only 10 and I haven’t tried to explain this to her, but I will know when the time is right or she will come to me when she has an awakening or has questions for me on why she is feeling this way! This is all new to me so it is nice to finally have some answers and aha! moments! Even writing this I feel like I am talking to much about myself and it starts making me uncomfortable because I always feel more comfortable complimenting or helping others so I will end here! Thank you so very very much for such an enlightening read! Love to all!!

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  5. Aha! I see how it works. So I’ll just post it and you can read it first before releasing. That’s all I really wanted anyway, to send it to you privately for you to use as you see fit. I’m only up to Alanna 5/21/13 6:50am so I’ll just keep reading while you can peruse my words.

    Nice meeting you finally.

    Major problem – this site doesn’t accept colored fonts. So I guess you’ll have to reach out to me. You can see my email yes? Anyway, I’ll just wait until I here from you.

  6. @justpassingthrough. Have you felt this coming? I have a super long post, 7264 words, and before I clutter this wonderful thread more, I thought I’d ask you first since you seem to moderating it. Tell me you think. Thanks.
    And to the rest of you…. This is the high school reunion I want to attend.

  7. Trust your self and your feelings. Never apologize for the feelings that you have. I think as I get older I trust people less to be openminded; about people who see and feel things others do not. I believe we all were born with these gifts and somewhere along the way they were shamed or quieted by people. You have to pick and choose how you use this great gift. It has kept me from harm, it hs helped me send good energy into someone who was sad. This is the power of the universe flowing through us all. Don’t be afraid to be connected to it. Embrace it. It is important to know that people who are not good will feel your strength and try to take it from you as well. Socipaths love empaths. We are their greatest challenge. So as you walk into the rest of your life be careful, but realize that what you have is special and use it to make things better for everyone, that includes you. I use the Ocean to temper all the feelings that build up inside me and I take long walks in nature as I can. Make a village around you of people who will allow you to be who you are. I wish you all well in your journey.- Krii

    • I had such a crazy day at work already with feeling bosses energy sometimes. .. its so hard to be his assistant… he’s a passive aggressive and I know when he’s not being sincere or not happy, or overwhelmed. ..i pick up all these feelings… and it drives me crazy..and….. it’s very hard to deal with it in a relationships with someone…my boyfriends, he’s going through a real tough time in his life and I can feel on his energy and it’s happened to me before and I wouldn’t know how to deal with these emotions I’m learning

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  9. hey has anyone had a look at the guy that appaers in a lot of peoples dreams.coz i saw it for the first time on Facebook today and i got the shakes and really bad anxiety for about 5 mins wtf.what do others think.

    • Thank you for sharing all of this, I was going to post this on my blog, then I saw this, as an emerging empath who is just discovering her own abilities, and realizing just how painful it can be to know things and not be able to prove it, I am very lucky to have made a few friends who also are empaths, and my children are as well, my son is especially strong, trying to teach them about how to understand that feeling in your stomach, all of my hunches come from my stomach and when I connect with my mentor, I feel him there. I had asked in my empath group on facebook, how to know if it is your instincts that are telling you or is it your own desires and wishes, they said to me, always listen to your gut, even when your mind says otherwise. I also have been practising my reading abilities of people with the warning that I am just learning and I confirm them as well. I pick up imprints of I guess you would say ghosts on people, I just seem to know things I can’t explain.

      So again, awesome blog and thank-you. Love and Light to you.

  10. I’ve known since I was young that I was an empath. I often find it painful and depressing, but I wouldn’t want to change. I just can’t imagine being any other way.

    • hi i have always wondered why i was so overemotional about everything it never really clicked with me.i joined the army and served in Afghanistan and i suffered greatly i kind of new there was something going on with me but did not know what.2 years later i had a missive phsycotic breakdown i ended up in hospital because i went nuts feeling every kind of emotion all at once but then when i started to recover i started seeing images from people words numbers pictures it sent me round the loop i was put on meds which made it 10 times stronger.i told one of my doctors he tested me out and he was so excited by it but i was terrified and still am i stopped the drugs in hole to calm it down again but its been 8 months to no avail i don’t know what to do because now its debilitating the worst person i connected with was a guy in the hospital that was sexually abused as a child and he was the same way it scared me for life .this post is me to a tee every single little detail is me i don’t know what to do.thanks

      • Hello Nicolas,

        I guess the best You could do now is free Yourself from fears, anxiety and other negative emotions. I don’t know what those words, numbers and pictures You “get” from people might mean, but I believe You’ll figure it out within some time.

        By now I’d like to post links to some articles I hope You’d find useful:

        The Shamanic View of Mental Illness

        Archons – Exposing Our Covert Controllers

        I suggest to use Your intuition while reading those articles to find out whether it resonates with You or not. I believe no one on Earth could tell “the 100% truth” about how “the stuff” works. :D I think we all have individually “designed” paths and there might be some differences anyway. ;)

        Take good care and best wishes! :)

      • Hi Sandra a massive thanks for those posts it was really confronting reading because thats exactly what i went through in the looney took me two years to look to the phsycic area for myself, just kept on thinking i was mentally ill .from the get go i new the meds were a bad thing but i continued to take them it just made everything worse but i already said that. but an interesting progress on my behalf . i actually don’t think I’m an empath its stronger than that but i will keep looking for answers. usually i think that all this stuff is a massload of bull@#$% but the only thing that stayed in my head was the fact that when i first told one of my doctors that i think i could read peoples minds well not read but just get the pics and numbers then he tested me out on a few number patterns that he thought up and to my well disgust i got them right and he was so so excited than for some reason he was taken away and then i had a new doc weird huh i mean i am getting control of it because when this stuff happens i will see it and feel it then my mind will just continue and make it into something its not but am learning that when its in my gut its real when its solely in my head it aint haha cheers.

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  16. I’m starting to think I am an Empath. I have 2 conundrums. 1) I do enjoy antiques. I LOVE history! I actually enjoy (and find peace in) being in any old cemetery. But, I will not live in an old home yet I enjoy exploring old homes…weird right? 2) I am a Christian. I do believe Jesus died for my sins. I can’t reconcile the 2 worlds. Feel really mixed up…

    • Maybe your empathic gifts are from God and your enjoyment of antiques is in the positive feelings they evoke. I am also a Christian, and learning about being an empathic makes me realize why I have been drawn to all the different volunteer activities I’ve enjoyed. I’m currently volunteering with hospice, visiting those on the last leg of this earthly journey. The key for me not to be overwhelmed is to make sure I have “down time” alone with my cat, my thoughts, and my books. Even positive things such as church and family gatherings leave me drained because of all the intense emotions involved. I have to process my feelings, let go of the things I don’t need to be involved in, feel and learn from those I know I need, and pray constantly for situations and people that come to mind. The Holy Spirit will keep you from false mysticism, and lead you to use your gift to comfort and encourage others in tangible ways and in prayer. What befuddles me is that sometimes I’ll know something is going to happen, then it does, but it seems like the only good it does is to spur prayer. It can be a world event, or the name of a baby to be born in the family, or an idea that becomes popular in the news. Enjoy your gifts, even if they are not as valued by the world as more “productive.”

      • Hi Paula and Mrs. V,
        I appreciate finding your question and answer. I guess I will admit I am an empath…(0:
        I finally am at a place in my life where I need to admit this and get a grasp on it because it is driving me nuts. As a Christian my concern has been that I would get deceived into false mysticism…so thank you for reminding me that it is the Holy Spirit that will protect me from that. I turned from this a long time ago because i too would know the future but felt and was powerless to impact it. I seem to be sensitive to sad, grief, etc…..the only answer seemed to be to pray but not seeing the positive impact of prayer ended up being so draining. As such I have found myself withdrawing more and more. I seem to need to embrace this and learn some boundaries….I think I am married to an unaware empath and this might be the answer as to why our marriage seems so….crazy with little relief no matter what we have done to understand and change! I would love to find the blessing side of this……any suggestions? Or direction? Please feel free to email me at

  17. ok, I have a huge respect for the paranormal and wonder where I “fit” in. My family has a lot of sensitive women in it…. my grandmother and sister can see and interact with spirits and passed family members, my mother can feel and is a healer, my youngest daughter can feel and hear, and me, well I can feel upon meeting a person or going someplace that something is going to happen-good or bad. I will know immediately that a person will have an impact somehow on me, my immediate surroundings, or something will happen to them good or bad and I cannot tell which one it will be. I will meet someone and the feeling is so intense that I will avoid them other than casual conversation (which gets complicated, cause Im naturally a nice talkative person)…but its just gotten to where the bad is so intense it outweighs the good.
    Oh, and don’t try to lie to me, I get overwhelmed with feeling and don’t know how to read it other than I know its a lie. I can feel it before they even begin to speak or initially approach me to talk.
    I was deployed to Afghanistan and met another soldier for the first time before we deployed together. He didn’t work directly with me but I got such an intense feeling that I avoided him, I could see him from across the base and feel something from there. I kept away, other than for a hello in passing, and then we had a patrol together and an IED hit his vehicle, which was ahead of mine, and he was on top of the vehicle in the gunners hatch. He was air evac’d out, and when I saw him again the overwhelming feeling was GONE. I could talk to him without being comepletely overwhelmed.
    Another example is when my husband and I moved to where we live now in AZ. We went to check out a bar and are “happy hour” people so we would go in the afternoon, early evening, sometimes during the week so we would always have Jen, the day bartender. As soon as I walked in for the first time, I got a intense feeling and a sensation of choking. I mean an overwhelming sensation of choking to where it was hard for me to swallow, so I eventually asked Jen if something bad had ever happened there and she said not that she knew of, it was new construction, but she would ask the owner. When I saw her again, she said she asked the owner and nothing had happened, but that her nine year old son had died from choking almost two years earlier.
    Those are only two of the bigger examples. Can you help me understand this, and possibly guide me in the right direction to research this and learn how to use and control it

  18. I was confused my whole life on who I was….I have been single my whole life…I see apparition from time to time…I am always tired and drained…always depressed and isolated to myself…saught drugs and acholhol for comfort….since I was 4 I could feel other peoples emotions and I react to it I don’t know how to control it..need help please

  19. The majority of this was spot on for me but the one thing I keep wondering about is my love for the city. I don’t like overly crowded parts of the city like Times Square – it is overwhelming and annoying, but I do find myself drawn to the energy of cities and abhorrent to suburbia. I actually have to leave my life in suburbia often to get a “city fix”. The lifestyle and people around me where I live gives me feelings of hopelessness and despair for some reason – and complete boredom as I am an artist and there’s a huge lack of funding and love for the arts where I live. When I am in the city i feel alive & not alone. I feel this energy just being surrounded by complete strangers on the street. Recently i discovered my love for the beach and parks and and it’s relaxing affects and while I still need times of solitude, I am not a nature person at all – hiking, woods, anything in water frightens me.

    So is it possible that I am still an empath? I have been told i draw in negative energy into my aura from the people around me and that all seems to dissipate when I am surrounded by the city’s energy.

    • Hi, hope no one minds if I respond here. This is actually normal. Some empaths love the connection of nature, some love the energy of the city. I find it hard to connect to nature because I’m attuned to city living. Doesn’t mean you don’t respect it. It’s simply what suits your purposes at the time.

      Also, remember to cleanse that aura with a daily shower and visualize light coming through your crown and down into your feet, taking all the psychic pollution with it.

  20. I’ve been feeling really, really depressed lately not only at the position I’m at in my life, but also because I seem to be extraordinarily perceptive to other people’s feelings and thoughts. I’ve had people tell me that it’s almost like I’m reading their minds when they ask me for advice or confide in me about something. I can also tune in to when someone is lying to me, and it’s really frustrating when the person in question denies having done so. All I want is honesty. Why is that so hard for people to understand?

    Anyway, I had a friend tell me about being an empath because he believed that I could very well be one. I had never heard of such a thing, so I started doing research about three months or so ago and it’s cleared up a lot for me, but I can’t help but feel even more like my path in life is still very out of focus.

    I would love to utilize my natural born abilities as an empath and help people, but I fear that the emotional aspect of it all would take a huge toll on me.

    I just feel so lost.

    • The key to dealing with the emotional part is to connect to the person, take what you need, and disconnect. There is really no need to stay connected. You can then do what you need to do. Most seem to stay connected, which is generally a rookie mistake. :)

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  24. Can i say – hell yeah to the above :) tho ive known im an empath for most of my life its always good seeing it written clearly -certainly the aha moments … One exception i love antiques and old things – the history and artistic creativity gives me a beautiful feeling :) the best thing tho is understanding who and what you are – that gives perspective to life … Tho its so easy to forget at times til the aha moment happens again :)

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    • I am an empath , and I am now experimenting on giving over relaxation vibes and I am getting very good results . I tuned in too my wife to help her relax and every time she got disruptive thoughts I knew it it and was pointing them out telling her to let it go , so I am wondering is there a way I could start doing this professionally .

  27. Not sure if this is related, but often have vivid dreams where I can feel what the other person is feeling. Its not myself in a dream, I become someone the dream, im seems as though I am usually”floating” above watching things happen, but able to feel what that person would. For example, please don’t think I’m a weirdo, I just dreamed about two boys being molested by a boy scout leader. I was floating watching it happen. I could feel the physical and emotional pain of the little boy.what was strange is that I could feel his confusion of not understanding what was happening but knowing it was wrong. This happens a lot and is very emotionally disturbing, I’ll probably think about it all day. I have always been sensitive to energy, from the living and deceased, but not sure what to make of my awful dreams, not even sure anyone here knows what im talking about but im disturbed enough I figured its worth a shot. Sometimes I feel as though im “floating in limbo” I either need to block this sensitivity completely or figure out how to manage it before I go crazy. Thanks!

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  29. Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!
    This helps me to understand me so much better. I let my husband read it & it helped him to understand why i do a lot of crazy stuff, especially drifting off somewhere while people are talking, my emotional light switch & why do many different people come to me with their problems.
    Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU!

  30. I think I’m an empath, but I’m not quite sure. I don’t think I feel other people’s physical pain/sickness, but when someone is stressed, I feel it, and I can’t “turn it off. “When someone is angry, i think I feel it, but once it comes into me, it triggers fear on my part, which mostly drowns out the anger. A few days ago I realized that I always feel depressed when I’m with my psr worker. I went to another room for a few minutes, and I felt better, but it came back when I went near my psr worker again. I can also ” feel” people’s personalities. All this applies to animals too. What do you think?

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  33. Fantastic article – I resonated with all 30 points…. eerily so. I felt as though you had a window into “me”. I have told a few trusted souls that I can “feel” when someone is thinking/talking negatively or just sending me negative energy. I only ever told a couple of people because I realize it sounds sort of loopy, but to actually read that in #3 was so validating to me. Its nice to know there are many others out there who are like this, I have felt sort of alone/weird my whole life because I see the world sort of differently and on a pretty deep level. But then, on a dime, my laughter can turn to anxiety / sadness. Too much sensory stimulation drains me completely, and I find that I need “alone” time to recover and decompress and basically stop buzzing with other people’s energy. Thank you for this article – I am so glad I stumbled across it.

  34. I always thought there was more to how I was experiencing the world around me- and upon taking the time to hit Google tonight, I think i’m on the path to learning how to make the most of being an Empath. I cry when other people cry. Yesterday I saw and overheard a woman crying on the phone on the train. She had a diary filled with scrap paper, a big bag…was on the phone, sounded like she was without a home. If i’d had a place to stay I would have just offered it to her…instead resorting to giving her half a packet of my tissues. When she thanked me, I looked her in the eyes and my heart just ripped apart and sunk and I could feel myself about to choke as tears started welling in my eyes. Apart from that, I kept hearing a guiding voice tell me to give her the tissues, lol! Separate from my thinking voice. Masculine presence.
    Anyhoo- thank you- you’re the first article i’ve taken the time to read! I will be delving more into being an Empath in time to come! Positivity zaps :)

  35. It’s pretty amazing isn’t it? I felt like all of you when I read this. Now since it is clearly a gift, not a curse, what is it’s intention.? We must have this so we can use it for good, right? But how?

  36. I discovered your blog a few days ago. It’s a blessing for me. The thirty traits are me. Now I know why I have felt miserable for most of my life. The past year, I sank into a deep depression and was on the verge of asking my doctor to give me a stronger anti-depressant. I had to spend all of my weekends in bed so I could make it to work. I was at the point that I could no longer be around people except for my husband. I have not felt this alive in such a long time. Thank you so much.

      • Bless you!!! I am very aware that I have many spiritual capabilities, far beyond my own understanding at times. Thank you sooooo much for this post, it has brought so much clarity to why I am the way I am. This literally describes me to a T!!!! I can’t think you enough love.

  37. DUDE. DUDE. Whoa blogger…that completely fits. Seriously- I have been looking online being skeptical, and this is the only thing I have read that completely fits (except for the ‘children not supposed to be heard’ thing). Not only does it fit- it really really really fits, which is crazy….its blowing my mind :P Thank you, you’ve made me a very happy person today! I think I shall take this knowledge and move forward. Daaaaaaaaaang. I really can’t believe how spot on you were. When I got to the family historian part I just bust out laughing…lol. Big smiles from my end :D

    • I need help. The term empath is a recent discovery for me, but have had all of these feelings listed above all my life, plus some. I’m sick of people telling me I’m too sensitive. The world is too heavy anymore. I’ve seen psychologists, psychiatrists, they put me on meds that never really work and I feel like I’m spiraling. I feel everything & can’t control anything. What do I do with this so-called gift. It doesn’t feel like a gift at all, it feels like a curse. I can’t watch the news or anything that is cruel. Started watching Black Fish, nearly kiled me among many other documentaries that show this type of cruelty. I feel people right away and animals & children are drawn to me. I can pick up or pet aninals that people can’t touch. I know things that…well, I just know. I know who is calling before I pick up the phone & my friends phones. I can’t feel me though. Supernatural occurrences occur often in my life. I’m tired, in fact I’m exhausted & feel so heavy most of the time. I hide in my house I can’t handle crowds of any type. I cry at the drop of a hat, I try so hard not to, but it comes. I’m told often that I’m the ‘most magnetic’ person they’ve ever met, and people tell me the craziest deepest things. I’d never betray their words, however. Ugh, I’m so damn tired, please, help me what can I do? Who can I call?

      • Hi, Jamie, you are not alone. So many feel and say the same things. If you are seeking others who are like yourself and are after resources, the site has been created for such a purpose.

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  44. Hello. My name is Allison. I am 35 years old and I am an introvert, INFJ, and just realized that I am also a HSP and an Empath. I know, it’s not a surprise because most empaths are INFJs. I feel like I finally figured out who I am and things now finally make sense. I have always been different and have even had a few NDE’s, even when I was first born (I wasn’t “supposed” to make it).

    I just had a MAJOR déjà vu or realization when I reading this info on empaths. I few years ago I started to write a book (but only finished about 3 chapters) because I had this awesome idea of this young woman who was dropped into this alternate universe and couldn’t communicate with the people because of they spoke different languages. I just realized that this young woman is me. She looks like me, talks like me and I am surrounded my family and friends who are mostly extroverts. It’s like they’re talking a different language than I am.. It’s really frustrating sometimes and I just wish they could feel what I do…just once…
    I would really appreciate any advice, comments, whatever.
    Thanks for reading my ramblings…

  45. The issue with paranormal claims and supposed esp is that to gain acceptance it must be backed up with scientific empirical data. I would encourage any “brave” em path to look into em sensing and what nature has to offer and physics. Geese. I am willing to entertain the idea that some can perhaps sense something more than the base five senses. It will remain the realm of pseudo science until the time the community steps up.

    • Well Hello
      I read your comment and it’s kind of the same thing for me except that i am not writing a book
      Seems like whatever’s on this blog is true
      In fact I’m replying to you to tell you that i could help you with ideas for your book if you’re at loss of ideas
      I’ll be glad to do it because I just feel the need to you know let my emotions go a little…
      i’m so like closed sometime its difficult for me to converse with my mom sometimes because i know that our discussion will end up with a fight(It’s always like that)
      I just see things in another way so I thought that maybe if i talk with an empath like me i might feel less lonely and your project about this book seems fascinating
      I love the idea
      Do reply soon :D

      • Hi. I was not thinking about a book on this subject much.. Short version for a learning. Logic over emotion. Cooling down, control and breathing over the perceived/felt connection. Then explore that connection if your logic says it is good for you.

  46. Thank you for this piece.
    Over the years, I can put a tick to each of the 30 points mentioned.
    Being on the spiritual path for the past 2 years, I can now put a tick to all of the above. Especially with the experience I am having now (after my recent spiritual retreat).
    Never occurred to me that my experience is that of an empath.
    This explains many things, I am very enlightened.

  47. Hello,
    I found this blog while looking in google for help. The article above seems like my biography! You have described me better than I would describe myself. I have been going through a turmoil for months now and I feel lost. I feel alone, but I am surrounded by family and friends. I feel I lack fulfillment at work, when what i do is important for others. I feel like a lost soul that doesn’t know what is their life purpose.
    My emotions are taking me on a roller coaster ride. I feel happy and laughing and then in matter of seconds I am the complete opposite. I try not to show my sad emotions to people and keep them to myself but sometimes i take it out on my parents in the form of subtle anger because i feel that i can be myself at home.
    I can be perceptive without knowing it. few weeks back i found a note from my ex-boyfriend hidden between my things and when i read it i remembered the negative emotions i had with him before breaking up and I thought to myself “I can’t believe I was with him that long let me throw this out amongst other stuff that I kept for keepsake”. Few days later I discovered that on that exact day he got engaged to someone. As if some bigger power was looking to protect me from the news that might make me upset. This keeps on happening to me having a thought about someone and later i discover that something important happened to them whether its good or bad.
    I feel i need to find love and start family, but i have been unsuccessful and thus feel a big empty space in my life. I, also, feel I need to find a mentor for work or life to guide me because I don’t feel grounded enough.
    I have a strong personality yet very understanding of others. I would move mountains if I thought this would bring happiness to someone i care about.
    I need someone to help me find solutions for not carrying other people’s emotions and making them my own and how can I find peace within myself ?

    Can someone help me ? I feel as if I’m imploding:(

    • Hi Shafi!
      I listened to the Voice in my head to go ahead and leave a reply. I could go on and on about lot’s of things but what I was guided to write was my most recent discovery, Tao Te Jing (pronounced dow da jing). Actually it was Dr Wayne Dyer who i learned about it from. I was guided to watch this movie called The Shift on youtube. Great stuff when it comes to your Life’s Purpose!
      Right so this is brief and also the first time I ever used my phone to make any kind of posting before :D. Good Luck!

    • Hi Shafi,
      You sounds just like me. I discovered the empath term and this forum last Spring and it was a bit of a shock to the system. I really wanted to find a mentor to talk to personally, I didn’t want to read books, as I want the interaction of someone who will understand.I spent a while researching potential coaches and reading and listening to their stuff.

      I heard Michael Smith on a webinar, he sounded like he fitted the bill. I looked him up and liked that he has the academic and professional credentials of Psychology and Counselling, as well as highly developed spirituality. It’s not cheap and he gets booked up months in advance, but I have booked a session with him in May as I would prefer to spend the money wisely with someone who really appears to be at the top of his game. Here’s his website which you might like to review yourself:

    • There was a psychic by the name of Sylvia Browne who wrote about life paths and the meaning of our life….etc. There was a lot of controversy surrounding this woman over her predictions but her life books were pretty easy to understand. You might find something she wrote beneficial in finding your questioning to the meaning of your life.

    • I can relate with your emotions as i work on daly basis with patients in a deep transhealing and after they feel fress but the next day they might get bone og muskular pain for some hours and total O mindfulness.
      I did not know about my abilities until i retired at 60 after working with public in law enforcement for 43 years and never had problems. From the day i started it has been like a roller coster ride going back in time looking in the patients past to find the source for the illness and the longest 56 years.
      Sent to India Agra 2007 to connegt with my helpers and on my home padge ther is a detaild article from this trip. There is a photograp on the front padge of me taken in an old church in Budapest 2007 and i sent it to Germany for aura reading with these new hi tec photo analyser. The resaults were amazing strong beam of blue combined with white lite emenating from my heart station and the reading with it was that my head chakra and the heart chakra are combined as one it would be needed for me as the bearer off light to have it.
      love and light

    • Hi, Shafi, I feel you deeply. You do indeed need strong protection from all the energy that is barraging you. Here is one thing I just found when I googled:

      There are many great videos and other resources online that can help you ground yourself. One site I’ve recently discovered is Check it out. Just trust whatever resonates with your spirit.

      I had a psychic tell me years ago, that I was an empath and would be attracting spirits, both in the physical world and otherwise, and that I would need protection, but at the time I did not completely understand that.

      For help with your empath abilities, I would recommend you contact a person experienced in such abilities, and for your life path, I would recommend a holistic life coach. These people can help you understand that you are heard and you are important and you are not crazy… and that the answers you seek are inside you.

      I personally have just enrolled in a school for holistic life coaching/wellness. I am only beginning to discover my own path — it has taken me many years, largely due to being around the wrong people.

      I know you want to find a partner and have a family, but the most important thing is to know yourself. Otherwise, you may find yourself linked with a person who is not right from you and may steal your energy. Wait for it … know yourself, love yourself completely, and then it will happen when the time is right.

      Love & light

  48. Hi everyone. I’ve been an empath for my whole life (I’m 37 now). It’s gotten stronger as I’ve gotten older, so I can’t handle public places too well. Luckily I’m color blind lol. So the colors aren’t too much of an issue. My 17-year-old son is taking on the same traits and I believe he also is an empath. Anyone have tips on grounding for a teen boy? Right now he is having trouble at school and being sick to his stomach in the mornings. I think this is a result of the turmoil of other people’s feelings at school although he doesn’t understand why :-( he has quit playing on his hockey team and now is not doing well at school. How can he ground when he starts feeling this way in public? Any help would be appreciated!

    • Key to being grounded is self confidence and setting your boundaries. Can be quite a challenge for teens when they are trying to find who they are and pick up on everything around them.

      Personally, I’ve found using Bach Flower Remedies to help me and I believe they would help any Empath.

    • @Aubrey
      I am an empath/spiritual healer/medium/intuitive
      And though I’m still learning how to better grasp all of the above I will share with you a few things that help me stay centered and help repel people’s/places negative energy.
      1. Absolutely do meditate. And when I say meditate I don’t just mean sitting with your legs crossed going om for 20 minutes no.
      I mean meditate/visualize a protective set of shields/lights surround your home as well as yourself and loved ones(especially your Son-this is called bubble meditation). Do this daily/ or whenever you’re about to head out/before he goes to school. But don’t just visualize it, know it.
      It’s a state of knowing and being that once you become use to you will not have to do as often.
      I can be around crowds and have a block on their negative energy because of this.
      2. Avoid the news. Especially your local news. News is depressing and induces feelings of despair, sadness and negative feelings as mentioned above.
      3. Now for your Son. I suggest you going to and researching ‘bubble meditation’ which is my absolute most used technique(as mentioned above). As it helps you by keeping you in a state of knowing that you are protected at all times(him also). And if you cannot get him to follow these rules but know he must follow them in order to regain some normalcy then I suggest sitting down and having a talk with him.
      A lot of times we pick up on people’s energies, take it on and whether it’s emotional or physical can cause a lot of energy drainage.
      He might find it all weird but if he truly wants to gain a hold of his own senses again then he needs to learn how to ground himself.

      Here’s an fb group dedicated to empaths like all of us here.

      And here is a group that shares information about all things spiritual. Not just for empaths:

      Check their photos and files with the subjects that pertain to you most. They may have more in debth information that could help you figure out better ways of helping not just yourself but your Son.

      I hope this helps some what.

      Love and light
      Beyonder :)

    • I’m 18 and I’ve been aware of my empathetic skills for about 4 years. It’s odd your son and I went through similar things as far as the grades and hockey go. I was very ungrounded for a long time because of my lifestyle and it had a lot of detrimental effects on my social life and feelings toward others . Get him back on the hockey team, sports and exercise are great grounding activities. If you can spend more time outside with nature,go on hikes, start a garden. You can also guide him through grounding meditations (very helpful). Any way that you can connect with the earth will strongly aid in keeping grounded. Let him know there’s thousands of kids out there going through similar situations. Kids our age can feel really isolated sometimes.

      • Read your comment and i thing the same thing might be happening to me along with that i’m very much sensible to other’s comment about me
        Sometimes it just gets difficult for me to be around others i feel like no one cares for me
        this is to ask you if ever you are able to cope with these feelings of being an empath could you tell me how please?
        thank you a lot

    • Take the young man on a walk to where homeless people live. Show compassion and explain that our society is driven by trade, and he should be part of that trade. His life span will hopefully be full and he will need to have an economic base. Place what you can for him in a savings fund and refresh it monthly. Peace.

      • Mis post my apologies I was channeling lol. This was for the man who was having issues with his son.. Peace

    • Take the young man on a walk to where homeless people live. Show compassion and explain that our society is driven by trade, and he should be part of that trade. His life span will hopefully be full and he will need to have an economic base. Place what you can for him in a savings fund and refresh it monthly. Peace

  49. Does anyone ever have issues when going into a mall or supermarket that the colors today are screaming at you and they literally do you in? thanks

  50. Thank you so much for this article and the good energy you have shared in my reading of this. I’ve always known I was an empath, from a very young age I’ve been able to feel and know exactly what people are thinking and feeling and often growing up was amazed, shocked and frustrated that no one else in my family seemed to be. After a life time of souls searching I am finally giving my empathic lineage the respect it is due and trying to change my life and career towards nurturing and developing my skills to help heal a childhood of trauma and help heal others in the world. Reading this, in particular Christel’s detailed description has brought such wholeness and feelings of joy I can not describe!! It as if you’ve just written with insight about my entire life. And at the biggest toughest choice point of my life yet! Talk about the universe giving you what you need! Thanks, light & love xxx
    Please if you know anyone who gives guidance or coaching for Empaths, particularly about careers email me:

  51. I just hate picking up on negative energy from someone that I love(d)
    Example: My ex Boyfriend. We’re only broken up about 2 weeks.
    The deal with that was a few weeks before the break up I could sense something was off about Him. Like I just knew in my gut that he’d been seeing someone else even though he completely denied it.
    About a week or 2 before that I felt like things were improving because I was able to express sentiments a little more.
    But he was NEVER expressive, always detached and never very communicative.
    We were together almost a year and a half.
    And just a few days before I could initiate the break up I was already in the mourning phase.
    Crying myself throughout the night, unable to sleep. Making myself sick to my stomach.
    I did have some evidence of him possibly cheating. But there were Red Flags since the beginning that I let go because I wanted things to work out between us so bad. I think he knew it wasn’t working out because he was avoiding seeing me. I wanted to confront him face to face but we spoke on the phone finally. He NEVER talked on the phone with me. He only ever texted.
    I opted for a break. Silly of me when he said it was time to say goodbye. I didn’t want to believe it though. I mean even if he tried to come back to me the trust is completely gone.
    Any way I don’t need to go into more details.
    I do send him off with love and light. This relationship we had wasn’t going any where any how.
    I was hopeful at one point though

    • Beyonder33, yours is a very touching story. Totally identify. A feeling, a sense that Somebody is right for you, but yet…something is not quite matching up, but you can’t quite put your finger on but still connected, right? Empath meets logical. Logical cannot deal with emotions. Logical and emotions collide. They do not sit well together. Logical runs to be safe, hey those feelings frighten me, I am off. Empath is still wondering and still hoping that Logical will return and see the world as she does but he is so scared, he distances. Logical is actually in love with Emotion, but does not know how to deal with It, it is such a strange thing. It is so far away from his safe, detached world. Tell me all about it !

      • Hi Lilie
        It’s funny that as empaths we are also very forgiving and compassionate
        On that note I took him back(for the 3rd time)
        But it’s same shi7 different toilet. I’m giving him some time to get his act together b4 calling it quits. I don’t like the idea of it but his communication has to improve otherwise it cannot work. The only thing I want/need for security from him IS communication and if he cannot afford to give me that then I cannot stay with him.
        I love him and I feel like we are Twin Souls. But maybe like a friend said: It’s not a good time for ‘US’ to be together. I’ve always been very patient and even feel at times I’m not patient enough but, I also feel that other normal chicks WOULD NOT put up with a guy that is so aloof, distant and detached as he is!
        He’s aquarius by the way :p lol

    • Hello Beyonder, yes, your story struck a cord with me as I went through something similar. Was with a guy for a few years and like yours, he was not very communicative, not very expressive
      and kept things mostly to himself and yes red flags too but not glaring ones, just little telling things but it is often the little things that people do that give you the most information about them.
      On the empath part of the story. Last time I saw him was in mid- December, all fine, well as fine as it ever was with him lol. Text exchange, still ok and then one of his silence gaps. This time I felt, really felt there was something wrong. I was right because around 22 December the bombshell dropped and he left me, virtually!!. Well all that day, I was in such a state as if I was waiting for something bad to happen, well more like it had already happened and I was already feeling it as if had occurred, if you know what I mean. Sorry if I sound odd. So the day went by and I thought I was off the hook but around midnight (there are some times and dates you never forget) I got the message (yes pathetic I know, a BBMsge).
      Now stranger than that, maybe I should have broken down after I read it, called a friend, called him but I just went to bed and slept normally and it was only the next day it hit me. I think I may have been broken up with but I am not sure. He couldn’t even get that straight ha ha. And then, I decided that never again would I contact him and that is where it is today, I was so attached to him and so distraught that he would have done this and in this way. Then come his birthday, strange again as I toyed all day about wishing him a happy birthday (it was 7 Feb) but decided not too but instead lit a candle for him, it was the only thing I could think of doing to let him know I was thinking of him, a sort of silent reaching out.That same night I had the most vivid dream about him on a large plasma screeen! (won’t go into the details as they are personal to me) but it told me that he was a guy in much anguish. That’s my story, sad but true. And yes, I do believe I am an empath, I tick most of the boxes and I am far too sensitive for my own good. As for you, I can only imagine that he has a lot more to learn from you that you from him!

      • Yep like I said: Mine is aquarius and so is yours right? lol
        That’s how they do. Makes you sure they’re with someone else. i hate that ugh

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  53. I went through a similar experience only the person I had a soul tie with was a serious drug addict. I had to endure “no contact” and though extremely painful, emotional and spending three months practically paralyzed I overcame it. You will too, I promise.

    • Thanks Gary, I’ve been reading a bit on your forum, and I’m not sure if I know how to differentiate between a soul mate and a soul call. This guy is married. I know his marriage is just not right. I have been trying to be a friend but removed enough so he sorts himself out. He suffers from depression. Yes, he sounds like a nightmare, especially considering we both come from broken families (and neither of us want to do that) and my father is manic depressive schizophrenic. All the things I should stay away from which weren’t obvious when we were first friends and have come apparent over time. But I undoubtably have a strong pull but the question is whether it’s true love or a lesson for one or both of us? Confused! All I know is I always miss him.

  54. It’s quite likely you have a deep soul connection with this person. If that is the case and you can’t be with them there is really only one solution and that is the “no contact” rule. None whatsoever. It’s difficult but it works. No contact of any sort…phone, text, email, physical…nothing. There are sites concerning soul ties that might help.

    • Thanks CherryLipGloss, there is for sure a strong and deep connection, the biggest of my life (41 years) to date. Usually I prefer to be on my own, i find relationships too claustrophobic. But with this guy I just want to be with him. The thought of no contact makes me feel like I stop breathing. It worries me this is unhealthy :(

  55. Can anyone help?
    I discovered this page last Spring, it came as a lightbulb moment, suddenly my life and struggles all made sense. After immediate relief, I experienced confusion, read and read, was quite overwhelmed by the realisation and am slowly learning to deal with it. I’ve got into meditation, done more yoga, and am trying to prioritise self care.

    One thing I’m struggling with is a strong love connection. I had a ‘penny drop’ moment with someone about a year ago, that this was the person for me, he instantly gives me peace of mind and makes me feel safe. but the context means we cannot be together. But without him, I experience massive panic, for days I am in a fog of anxiety. Just a quick few words connection is enough to completely calm me again.

    I’d really like to know how I cut off that attachment, if indeed I can whilst being in touch with him, or whether for my own sanity I have to NOT be in touch because it’s too much. If in touch, I have to be careful of overfunctioning, which I often do because I ‘just know’, when other people need to catch up, and I end up scaring them off because I’m a step ahead! I need to be detached but don’t want to mess this up.

    How the hell else does anyone deal with issues of love?!

  56. My husband and my Mother are both super empaths/healers – very gifted people as I am, but it sure makes it very hard to all be in the same place everyday. I would appreciate any advise. We pick up on each other’s emotions, pains, can be very debilitating to say the least. Thanks.

    • Avoid dramas if you can. Define your own boundaries and remain grounded. The key to grounding is self confidence. And for god sakes, communicate, especially when you’re feeling something is wrong. Empaths tend to immediately think it’s something they’ve done when it’s rarely the case.

      Empaths in the same space are a bad combination if they have unresolved fears and issues.

      Also, if you google The Empath Guidebook, you can find the free ebook on the subject.

      Hope this helps.

  57. What was In this blog summed it up. I needed this. It doesn’t answer one thing though.
    Every time I watch a movie About the paranormal or people talk about it, I start crying and it’s like I can’t breathe. Im not scared, not In the least, but… I don’t know but its like enter heart breaks.
    If you could answer this for me I would most pleased.
    Thank you, for all.

    • Hi Samantha! Wow! Can’t (can) believe I am responding to another post so soon after my last. Must be due to the recent energy changes I have been feeling since I moved. ANYWAY! I am totally not an expert. Bottom line up front… we say in my biz. I will throw some heart math out there for you. The Heart. That beautiful organ that beats in our chests is so much more than we ever realized. Well at least myself. In the past couple of months, synchronicity has led me to this topic. I had no idea that the heart is the first organ to manifest into REALITY after cellular division takes place in a mother’s womb. Huh. Right off the bat I’m like……..Pretty significant. Also, we are electro-magnetic beings and the heart gives off 5,000 times more electro-magnetic energy than the brain. AND if that is not enough, new research (no sources to cite now in this quick moment but it’s out there) is showing that we thought of the brain as being in charge and telling the heart to pump etc etc. Yeah. True, got it BUT the heart is doing something to the brain as well. The heart is sending more instructions and information to the brain than vice-versa. Incredible huh? They are saying with the new neural type (I am so not a doctor haha) pathways they are discovering in the heart that it is almost like a mini-brain. So here is my take (ish). The Heart generates our true feelings and that is conveyed to the brain which in turn interprets thru thought. Something along those lines, I am still a work in progress……as we All are.
      When it comes to seeing or hearing these things about the paranormal……..your heart is having a reaction……….I have no clue. I’m just typing words right now. But if you want some cheap two cents worth of a tip……..I would suggest going to a very quiet secluded place and have a conversation with your Heart. And then. Just Listen. I’m not saying this is something that can be done overnight. May take weeks, months, who knows. The important thing though is to not force it. Let it in. Do not try and grab it and drag it in. It will come on it’s own. No kicking and screaming necessary :D.
      Enjoy this beautiful Sunday!

  58. I am an empath I know it…42yrs old and seem to be having a hard time controlling it….I feel like a freaking sponge most days. …especially when we have a full moon or storms…any sugestions

    • I’ll go with the be brief is best technique here as there is so much. I have no clue what I am doing (in my life). Listening mainly. Going with the Flow. Burning sage and rosemary around the apartment, sea salt scrubs. Nutrition is HUGE (spirulina, if you haven’t heard of it……research it, get it) but trying to be brief AND throw you in a general initial direction. Meditate, meditate, and of course meditate. I have a grounding technique that is very powerful. Imagine yourself as a tree and begin pushing the roots deeper into the ground. Our thoughts are so powerful! I am going on 44 in a week and was just a few short months ago I found my true nature. Found JPT’s blog the next day and have generally been a silent observer…… least until a couple days ago. And now. Huh. The Voice. Go figure. The Voice told me, Brevity is Best here. Good luck!

  59. Thank you for this list, there is someone very important to me who is an Empath apparently, and this will go a long way helping me to understand and interact with her.

  60. I was wondering if someone could help me develop my abilities as an Empath, maybe even offer me guidance or even just moral support. I’m having trouble coping with being an Empath. I’m only 21, and not very many of those around me are tolerant of belief in things such as this. My email is Please contact me if you can help. Thank you for reading this regardless. It helps just to have gotten It out in the open at least.

  61. Thank you for this article. I am 57 and have known for a long time that I am an empath but have always been reluctant to put a label on it. For some reason, perhaps I am ready now, I just connected the irrational anxiety I feel at Christmas time with this and have gone in search of some further understanding, leading me to this site.
    No matter how much ‘cheer’ I attempt, I am always struck down with the most intense melancholy at Christmas. I can’t go near the big shopping centres because the emotional strain is so intense I can almost hear people screaming in their heads with worry about money, family, presents, time etc etc.
    Even though the holiday period can be a happy time for many families, for a lot of people it is a time of sadness, loneliness and anxiety and if you are an empath it is a time when the collective consciousness is swirling with this energy and you may feel, as I do, extra vulnerable to it. Look after yourself, be kind to yourself, understand and accept why you may be feeling this way and know that soon the energy will clear and if you are like me, I find that January is a time of fresh starts, moving on and new beginnings, so respite is not far away.

    • Oh no! I just “stumbled” onto your post researching Empaths and now everything makes so much sense. Christmas Eve I was shopping and it put me in a bad mood. Once home, I had a misunderstanding with my daughter. Christmas day, I got into an argument with my boyfriend and now we have broken up. I was so full of anxiety and took it out on everyone around me. Can’t turn the clock back, but I can learn from this incident so it doesn’t happen again.

      • Good luck Lucie. I believe that being an empath isnt a penalty, its a joy – you just have to manage your spirit when something ‘big’ is happening around you. Not always easy but there are plenty of tips on this site. I use Reiki and surround myself with light before I go to shopping centres etc. (just dont always remember until its too late!!)

  62. I was searching different self help topics and somebody was talking about “empath”? What the heck is that. I typed in ” what is an empath?” and that lead me to this site. WOW – THANKS! I don’t know if I am a full card carrying member of the Empath Society, however I have many of the traits and this all really makes sense to me. I live in a very desirable and beautiful location – I hate it, my house is for sale but due to the economy one must wait. I wondered what you would have to say about empaths and geography – like where they live, the structure they live in etc. I know I will feel a million, trillion times better when I move. I have lived places before and knew that I just had to move. I can drive through a town and know within a short period of time whether or not I could ever live there. This place was tolerable until my husband died suddenly. I try so hard to be grateful for my gifts, lucky to have a roof over my head etc. etc. but I feel like a caged animal here. I can’t shake it. Would love to hear your thoughts. And thanks again for this – lights came on!! Maybe I’m
    not crazy after all…

  63. Sandra, that test interested me so I took it myself to see what I would get. I ended up with ISFP. I’m still looking into it and I’ll comment more later ^_^

  64. This frightened me yet put things into prospective! Wow, I definitely understand myself a lot more now. Mood swings; why people come to me so easily for advice or just to vent but are so comfortable doing so; why animals are so comfortable in my presence or they come to me directly… Not gonna lie this shit is cray cray ok?! XD But thank you. I looked this up after hearing about it on one of my favorite shows: A Haunting. I went to look up what the traits were or what passes for an empath and I ended getting blown away. I had to put my phone down several times because I could not believe what I was reading. Me, me, me, ME! On that list, out of 30 points, I made up 18. I’m sure others had way more but, it was amazing and very insightful. Makes me want to sharpen these abilities in me. But overall, thank you. This really, REALLY helped.

  65. Thank you soo much for this great info and you are right because many statemants that you said really made me feel such as the same and what i feel bad about specially familly members try to understand me and worst of give a such crap that is just coiscidence about the feeling of spirits present or future knowing of deaths or accidents tru a third party but thank you now i know what i am and try and just managed it and stop soo much to feel not normal.

  66. Yeah, i can relate very deeply. at first people just seemed to overwhelm me whenever i got close to them. I always get their feelings mixed up with mine. i always attracted and was attracted to underdogs. im like a freaking underdog magnet, and the story goes, i burden their emotions and then they leave me so i go burden another persons emotions. Rather disappointing since everyone gets healed while i get stuck with their garbage. its been like this for a long time now and finally i can call it quits. no more empathy from me, ive already wasted a big part of my life and time burdening other peoples shit.

  67. Not bad a’tall, good job! Understanding what people are saying when they’re unaware it isn’t a blessing, always. Few witness “dawn” making taking trial and error imperative until it’s handled correctly, the right way. Like passion and love and so forth, it’s not what you say that people remember. It’s how you make them feel when you leave the room. Keep up the great work! These things are NOT easy to articulate and simple is a great way to go!

  68. I have to rewrite what I had writen be4!!, arghhhhhh
    Anyways today I’m not sure what to call it so I’ll call it ‘odd’ , I was baby sitting my nephew his 1 and 6 months still can’t talk but speaks baby!.
    So I love singing and my lil man loves singing (he shouts nd screams but its close enough) so I start dancing ‘end of time’ by beyonce, nd I’m feeling the song my nephew gets up and starts copying me, but I was only doin the footwork so it was easier for him to follow. The weird thing is that today (a hour ago)
    I saw a video of a little girl dancing to the same song with her mother which was weird to me cause it reminded me of my nephew , like is linking the two too much or am I over thinking this? .
    Ooh is it ‘normal for a empath to be ill and cause others that are close to be ill as well?, the other day I had a leg problem I was limping I hurt it (dancing or when I was playing football/ soccer) and the next day my close friend was limping!, my cousin never gets sick , I once had a bad flu and I stayed away from him but the next day he was as worse as me!, my mother who was on a trip got home that night nd in the morning she was the same as my cousin, and my cousin’s girl friend came to visit that next day and my cousin made sure she didn’t stay long (only one hour). So now whenim unwell I make people go away cause I hate seeing them unwell. I had a backache while I was dancing with my crew it was so bad I could hardly move, but by the end of practice half of the crew had bachaches and I was feeling a little better , I got home and the backache was back and an hour in my house my mother’s back was sore !,
    And another thing I ‘know’ when people are going to lose a close loved one. I can’t tell them that I ‘know’ cause it would be wrong , and mean. A year ago my best friend lost her father to cancer and her dad was my dad , so I came to see him and when I left I knew that it would be the last time I saw him and the way he looked at me I think he knew as well even if the docter had said 6 months, I knew it wasn’t the case. I said my last goodbye nd I know that he knew that ,that day was the last day I would see him creepy I know, I also knew when my great aunt would die, a few days earlier , I was reading a book nd the end was so sad the little boy died and then I got this sick feeling in me that I get when some is gonna die or is also dead, I started crying soo much my ex at the time tried to get to stop but I couldn’t . Then an hour later I stopped and I said goodbye to my auntie and the next day she died but I was at my friends house I already knew by the time they called what had happened. I they told me the last day of my visit at my friends house, I told my friend that knew , my friend looked at me and I felt her saddness off her and I stopped the convo.
    That’s all ! Hehehe thanks for reading

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  70. Okay,.. The most creepest thing happened today, its not creepy its just weirding (that’s not a word but it is now) me out , okay so today I was babysitting my nephew as normal on friday afternood for a few hours, so during those few hours I start singing nd my nephew can’t talk but he speaks baby, its really cute,.. Soo I’m singing a beyonce song ‘end of time’ nd I start doin the dance moves , well the footwork she does at the start of her concerts , nd my nephew starts doing what I’m doing with my leg nd tries to copy what I’m doin’… Now!, just now !, I hv just watched a video of a lil girl dancing to beyonce’s song end of time with her mother . I found it weird how that happened plus, my lil munchkin (my nephew) he looks like beyonce’s kid I swear, he is the male version of. Blue ivy nd its creepy , his only a shade lighter but apart from that you’d think they were related ..
    Another thing I wanted to say here, is thatwe end up feeling others pains, but with me its the other way around, when I’m sick or ill in some sort of way wheather I’m in pain or sick in bed, people around me start getting effected , they get pains on thr back , they start feeling sore nd what not its weird I find it weird,.. And paranormal, well I can sense death, I know its creepy but I know when someone close to me will lose someone, or I know when a loved one passes, my great aunt I knew a few days that she was gonna pass way that weekend nd she did so I made sure I was far way. Cause I can’t stand the pain from others it hurts me more . Nd when my uncle passed a way a few years ago, I walked home that day, nd half way home, I got this sudden gut feeling that shit hit the fan and it did when I got home, nd the saddness in the house cause the most painful headache.
    Also I don’t know about this but when I was like 10 or 11 I started meditating and I’d end up in this state of mind where my body is in the room but I wasn’t their . Then I could see the house house I went out side and I’d go any where, but it would suck the energy out of me that the only thing I could do was go sleep .
    My mother called me her lucky charm then that day I found this site! .

  71. I know that we as empaths have our own paths.
    We are all going through our own dillemas and experiencing the same things at different times

    In the past 2 years I’ve gone through some spiritual changes.
    My Spirituality went from it’s peak to almost not existing
    I went from feeling happy around Family and so open to socializing
    to not wanting nothing to do with my Family and wanting to just stay home
    Not stressing about other people’s problems.
    Maybe that’s the problem.
    Being an empath, medium and intuitive.
    I’ve literally blocked my gifts sort of.
    Not because I don’t feel I deserve them but because I’ve gone through so much I don’t feel that I can handle it.
    Yet.I recently began having Migraines on a regular basis.
    And though I know that they are based on several factors, I have a relative who has suffered from migraines for years.
    I think that I sense her from the distance. Her stress and emotions and am being made a vessel to harbor her stress.
    I can handle it to a certain degree but I really truly wish to be healthy.
    I know Diet is a big factor,
    Keeping up on Doctor’s appoinments.
    Taking allergy and asthma meds when needed.
    Because when I get a migraine it’s not just a headache.
    It feels like 3 plus things happening at the same time.
    Sinus pressure, throbbing pain that moves all around my head, Gas, chills
    It’s not cool at all
    Especially when they make you puke
    I hope none of you have to go through this bc it’s a pita

    Any how I guess all these changes that we are going through are the earth’s/God’s/spirit’s way of preparing us for what’s to come.

    The only thing we can do to stay sane, focused, healthy and in tune is to take time for ourselves.
    Stop worrying so much about others even tho that in of itself can be very hard.
    We as empaths tend to care a little too much about other pple’s well being and totally forget to take care of ourselves. This is why we sometimes tend to have health issues. Ignoring our own and tending to others.

    Please Take time to meditate, exercise and take some times to take care of yourselves.
    The best is yet to come!


  72. I had about 21/30 out of the above.
    I’ve always felt like I get too caught up with other people’s emotions and that when I let myself, I connect TOO deeply with other people.
    My thing is that I don’t even have to have met or know a person. I can be thinking about kids my age who’s families don’t have money for Christmas and how all they are asking for through the angel tree is money for their lunch account and a pair of jeans and I’ll get incredibly sad, to the point where I want to cry. I don’t know if that makes me an empath or just an overly sensitive person… if I don’t let myself think about something at a deeper level I am fine, like with picking a kid off of the angel tree. At first I was just going to pick a kid who was asking for things that it seemed like my class could provide the funds for and I was fine, but then I started reading all of them and thinking about what would happen to the kids that didn’t get picked, and about how selfish I am to be asking for money for my Europe trip when their are kids who only request some lunch money for Christmas and I felt absolutely terrible all day. I don’t think that is normal, but again, I could just be an overly sensitive person.
    I also have days where I just feel really emotionally and physically sensitive, which is how I have felt for the last few days (I picked a child off of the angel tree yesterday). I’ll be walking down the hallways at school and it’s like my nerve endings are sensitive and I don’t want anyone touching me and just people talking loudly makes me cringe even though it doesn’t physically cause me pain I kind of feel overwhelmed and just want to be at home curled up in a pair of sweatpants and a sweatshirt either reading or sleeping. I also will randomly get flu like symptoms where my body aches, and I feel cold, tired, and sad.
    I do feel like the ‘vibes’ of people around me affect how I feel.
    And while sometimes I can connect wholly to a person and their situations emotionally and physically, other times I find it almost impossible; like there is a block. So it’s like I either have to let it all in or block it all out.
    For the past few months it seems like I am always exhausted and have been run through the mill even if I didn’t do much that day.
    I have also had extremely frequent headaches the last few months (since school started in August)
    I also always feel stressed and overwhelmed and my back and shoulders are always tense due to it.
    Any tips would be awesome, I’m just tired of feeling all over the place and want to know if there is anything to help and if maybe me just not being grounded has something to do with it.

    • Hi Alys

      I think it would be in your best interest to begin meditating if you haven’t begun already.
      I realized that when we do this we can better control our level of empathy.
      Not to mention stress.
      I would search youtube for anything related to the above mentioned. Even classical music could help. These are only suggestions.
      Also you should look up the Bubble Meditation. It helps you visualize a protective array of lights or light around your body, thus feeling protected. It helps repel negative feelings and keeps the positive ones going. Hope this helps. Let me know


  73. hello people of the earth, hehe umm i am 25/30 in the checklist i made in being an empath and i truly believe now (seeing this blog) that i am an empath and kind of thanked god for making me unique but there are some things in me that differ in being an empath should i be worried or something please tell me

  74. This really described me and the part about the déjà vu and near death experiences made me cry I get déjà vu and something life changing always happens right after, I had several near death experiences , one almost drowning as a child, as I went under I felt something in my hand as my arms went up, and was able to get out of the water. I was only 8 , I can’t be around crowds unless they are in a collective good mood and are not really paying me attention, or I had a few drinks. I tried to get into chakras only because I heard it helped with absorbing the energy of others, it did not help, just couldn’t get into it. Being overly exposed to the emotions of others seems to be desensitizing me and making me emotionless , I know they say empaths show a great deal of emotion, but for me I’m starting to feel drained of my own

    • There seems to definitely be a learning curve when trying to figure out which emotions are actually ours and which are not. The problem then becomes the fact that we can begin to negate all feelings in an attempt to not be led around by them. My process has led me through 15 years of healing modalities, simplifying my life and giving myself permission to get off of the hamster wheel we’ve been programmed to “survive” by. Studying Buddhism and the nature of our collective “illness” and how to become non-attached has helped along with learning to love and honor myself and have compassion for myself FIRST… which means feeling my emotions as signposts to guide me away from destructive situations and energies. Yoga, Tai Chi, STOPPING drinking (which exacerbates the emotional roller coaster once the numbing wares off) and allowing myself to be the introvert that I naturally am… have all been vital in finding peace within and a deep and growing trust that I can honor who I am AND be fully supported by the universe. Have the courage to begin making new choices that honor and nurture YOU, because when you are well and happy… those vibrations ripple out into the universe and affect everyone for the better. Blessings on your journey <3

      • Good morning Mo,
        Thank you for that. This was a great little piece (and Peace ;) ) to begin my day. You virtually nailed that to a T for myself. Bring on the Love and Light!

    • @Alm
      I swear YOU just described what has been happening to me for the past 1-2 years. To the T.
      Like you just explained who I am and what I’m going through!

    • I cannot thank you enough for writing this! I have finally discovered why i’ve felt out of place from everyone I know, but in a very unusual way. All the pieces fit together!

  75. I have always been an empath, as I get older (I’m now 51) my empathic and psychic abilities get stronger. These 30 traits are me to a T!

    • Hi Sandra,

      Is it the Briggs/Myers test you took? It determines if you’re an introvert or extrovert.

      Apparently, at least 70% of Empaths are introverts, which totally resonates with me.

      I am reading a book at the moment by Susan Cain called Quiet. It is about introverts living in an ‘extrovert world’. It’s very interesting and worth a read.

      • Hi, Justpassingthrough!

        It’s called Jung Typology test, based on Carl Jung’s and Isabel Briggs Myers’ typological approach to personality. The results include much more than introvert/extovert thing. All I can say- it was a very interesting read for me. :) I was surprised that by googling the 4 letter combination there’s much more to read- internet is full of different information. There are 16 different types of personalities and INFJ is somehow “tied to” empaths. That’s why I shared it here (I hope You don’t mind ;) ).

    • Sandra, I am an INFJ~~~I took this test a year or so ago. A few months ago I joined a healing FB page and some people were talking about ‘Empaths’ my eyes bugged out. That brought me here~~I am 23 out of the 30 above~~I have always known that I feel differently than most I am around, my DH has always just called me a ‘free spirit’. I am thinking, I am an empath forsure;) Love it I am 65 and finding out I really am not a kooky/trippy as people have told me~~

      • Sandra, Mo and Jackie, I just took the test an am an INFJ as well. I am 29 and have just discovered in the last week that I am an Empath, and what a relief it is to know that I’m not just the “strange bird” of the bunch. It is a comfort to know there is a community of people with the same attributes out there. Thank you for all of the information you’ve provided. It is amazing to read things that describe so much of what you’ve experienced your whole life. To be honest, until my 20’s, I didn’t really understand how I differed from others, only that I didn’t fit in. I have grown now to understand the gifts more and more. I am looking forward to researching further and following your recommendations for grounding and controlling the skills.

  76. Holy ****, I’m definitely an Empath. Thank you for posting this, I can’t express to you how much this has helped me already. I’ve felt like something is wrong with me for my entire life based on how others view my behavior and the way I react to things a little differently than they do, while also always knowing in the back of my mind that there is truthfully nothing wrong with me at all. about 95% of what you have on this site is congruent to who I am and how I react to my environment.

    • Ditto .. Holly *** – Although I’ve always known I was overly empathetic, reading your experience and others clarifies many of the things I’ve done through out my life. From backpacking the Appalachian trail for 3 months alone in the winter after quitting my job as a funeral director; to living on an Island working on a shrimp boat when I was 29. I quit the shrimp boat abruptly based on a sense of darkness that overwhelmed me. Less than a week later, my friend and captain of the boat drowned.

      Embrace it and as suggested, meditate and find quite time outdoors to stay grounded.
      If you do so you’ll find great benefit. I can remember any face to face conversation I have verbatim. I have no need to take notes when in meetings at work.

      When I was in grad school I worked as a doorman at several large night clubs in Pittsburgh. I was not a bouncer, the term would be cooler. I could sense before anyone else when there was tension in the air. So much so that there was never an altercation in while I worked. I considered my job to change the vibe from tense to happy.

      Ryan, I’ve learned over the years how to make the most of this ability and hope you do as well. If you or anyone else would like to share experiences please feel email me at

  77. I have had every type of dream possible. I often dream of the future. My ancestors come in dreams and reality. I don’t see ghosts. But, I know they are there. Whether good or bad. I also can speak with them. As well as loved ones who have passed on. I am also a stigmatic. I also see and speak with Jesus and Mary at times. Usually, when things are tough for me. I have seen heaven in my dreams. I also see angels and demons. I not only feel others emotions but hear their thoughts. I also have heard others prayers. I feel others illnesses too. I am also telepathic. I can speak with people who are far from me. I have been troubled because I have been dreaming of a couple people and cannot figure out why. One is Chriss Angel. In my one dream his eyes turned black. This really was upsetting to me. I have many dreams of famous people. Even the president. Most of them come true. It is very rare for a dream not to come true for me. I have many times had dreams of strangers only to see them on the news within days. I also have visions of things. I do not know much about this Empath page. I recently found it. The vegetarian part. Well, I was told as a child to be a vegetarian. I did not listen. Recently, I heard deuteronomy 14: 2 one day when I was upset. I often hear Jesus and words I have never heard before. I know what they mean but still research them. Mary speaks to me the same way. I also have visions and dreams that have colors and light I have never seen. I say this because Mary is like this. Her robe changes color at times. I also speak to my guardian angel. I usually go in my room and close the door. After that I turn the light on close my eyes. I put myself on the beach. I pretend that it is raining small gold flakes. Eventually my angel comes once I am completely calm. Another thing I always pray Now I lay me down to sleep prayer. Once I forgot to pray and things went bad. Very bad. Either way, I was wondering if any of you are anything like me.

  78. Your site explains me to a T. Not only have I had THE exptended abilities you wrote of I too have had a NDE that showed me a mission I am to share, information that must be exposed. I am in the process of completing my manuscript but am in need of an editor.
    I have been in contact with Dr.Donald A. Treffert, he wrote Islands of Genius and treated the Rain Man. Dr. Treffert is awaiting my manuscript. He said he has never heard of experiences such a mine. Is it possible to meet with you?

    Marietta Forcht

    • Hi Marietta,

      Your work sounds interesting.

      If you struggle to find someone to edit your manuscript, there are editors online who you could use. Just needs some Googling.

      Thanks for sharing and good luck with your book.

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  80. I posses every trait on the list with the exception of #6. It has always been so hard to feel what others are feeling but never quite knowing how I feel.

  81. I love high places. I live on 10th floor of a condo block but never dare to look down!! Just like most of you, I have a thing about being airborne. I thought I’m insane & borderline suicidal. All the thoughts of others rushing into my head, everyday, every minute. I can’t switch it off. I have all the traits mentioned and more. It freaks me out and I’ll get very depress sometimes. I tried to talk to those close to me about this, they think I need “help”. So I shut my mouth up now & keep it all inside.

  82. These traits nail it right on the head. Reading them made me feel somewhat sad at first because more often than not I feel as if this is a curse.

    But knowing I’m not alone does make me feel better

  83. recently realising I was Empathic started a long self realisation. I am still coming to terms with this.
    I dream vividly at times. I have always believed in dreams and visions and implemented them totally into my life. So mcuh so that everything I achieve started from a dream or day dream. I make goals and live them out to the very end. I design logos and prochures and see the tiniest of details in the early morning dream before arising. I can stay there for ours pondering details I would have time to consider whilst awake.
    I sense things in people I thought I could never verbalise. I thought i was so alone all my life with this knowledge. I lost countless friends sensing how many men lie to themselves over their attraction to other men. It drive me mad at times.
    I have recently found alcohol intolerable. I am very sensitive in the liver and kidneys to it now. I have started talking more openly about energies, especially since working as a massage therapist and learning energetic boundaries and taking control of energies in peoples homes etc.
    I am obeying my gut instinct more now. I wont allow people into my life unless I am absolutely sure of the connections intent. I am not a base chakra gay man any more and part of me thinks I am not even sexual let alone gay. I am not used to not being sexual. I feel I am in a time of centring and balancing. I have even sought and found an energy healer locally to assist me in balancing my energies.
    If I trust I am completely myself but I have pulled back because I have lost so many friends by not caring about others’ feeling in my openness.
    life is such a lesson every day. I use law of attraction always and it works!
    I could go on and ON!!!

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  85. Empath?? Insane?? Things have occurred in my life since I was very young for example: I remember at around age five, a boy and man would come visit me and we would “fly” to distant places. I would have to jump from a higher place to take off and struggled with wanting to be able to just take off flying from where I was. Visions would flash in my mind like on a TV screen to the point i had to learn to turn them off because I would get no rest. To this day I wonder if I was on the brink of losing touch with reality? Thoughts of being burned at the stake? OK are you still with me here? I know how it sounds.

    • omg! i have such amazingly similar memories.. there was a particular low wall i had to jump from to get airborne! and i could never get quite high enough to be ‘safe’ … dreams … astral travel… insanity? … The “empath” label covers pretty much all of the weird shit that I’ve been trying to figure out for as long as I can remember…. hope that makes you feel less crazy – your post made me feel a little less insane :-)

    • Oh my gosh!!!! The flying thing….I spent my whole life thinking I was the only one until my brother, on his death bed, shared that he did it too. Now I see there are many of us! I am crying with joy.

      • I have had OBE’s about 3 times now (that I can recall) either I was up above my body or floating around in the air, and no walls or doors opened, I would just go through them….I will never forget being able to go right through the walls, I became particles then whole again….I have never shared that with anyone, the wall part that is ;)…..It’s good finding others who experience phenomenons as we do, helps to feel a little more sane in an insane world…

  86. Thank you Just Passing Through so much for starting this blog. I am extremely grateful to the person on Empath Solutions on Facebook where I was looking to connect with others, like myself, and the link to your site jumped out at me. It is a perfect match for me. Your being so open to share is very encouraging. The comments everyone has made have also played a part in making me feel at home here. Until 2 years ago I had no name for what I have been all my life. It is so wonderful to know that those who have a whole lifetime ahead of them will know they are not alone, have a name for what they are experiencing and will be able to avoid a lifetime on a roller coaster ride that never ends. It is so wonderful to finally be off that roller coaster. Because I relate to so much of what you have written and so many of the comments I would like to reply to some of the comment. The 30 Traits of an Empath is outstanding. The article Traits of an Empath by Christel Broederlow pretty much describes me.

  87. I am so grateful that someone sent me a link to your blog. I’ve learned so much from what you and everyone else has written on here. I didn’t know about the term ‘empath’ or what it meant. I do now…and can relate to a lot of what is written here. Thank you for writing the blog and to all who share their experiences as well.

    • I just found this blog as I was researching negative energy. I’m excited to to have a place where I can learn more about being an empath. I seriously need to learn how to protect myself from taking on other’s negative energy and emotions.. I look forward to following your blog and being in touch with others like me.

  88. I feel like this is me. but i have no one to chat to who knows about this. can someone please suggest a chat group or websites that could help me explore this further?

  89. Thank you so much..I thought I was going crazy!! I also have too much flab around the middle and yes to me it is a comfort blanket. I find it hard feeling other peoples emotions and illnesses. I want to help them but I have never known how. I’ve learned a lot from reading all of these posts so I know now I am on the right road. It’s so good to know that I am not alone.

  90. At 55 I’ve finally found out what’s right with me. So much of this is true to who I am. I had the opportunity at a memorial ceremony for 9/11 to see and then touch a piece of metal I-beam from the World Trade Center. You can’t believe the emotion I experienced. As a child in school, teachers would be teaching and I’d just drift off without realizing. So “healing” to find out the reasons.

  91. I just wanna say tht this article has really helped me…i never knew wat an empath was ill just a couple days ago when i was talkin to a good friend of mine tht i had known for about 18yrs….she is an empath as well n told me she thought i was an empath too…she sent me sites to read so i can learn about who i am ..reading all of these my life is starting to make sense…i too have been diagnosed with bipolar ,depression,severe anxiety ,ptsd a couple other things….my family would always tell me i was crazy n i dnt deserve my children n many other hurtful things so i dnt talk to them…i also have a very addictive personality n i struggke with addiction n reading these 30 steps it makes sense …i can relate to all of them except for num 28…i love antiques n i love goin to yardand garage sales… i don’t watch the news bec of how it affects me..the one step where it stated bout watching movies or tv shows with drama etc n we choke fighting back tears, i never understood why it was so easy for me to break out in tears…its lije i can feel the pain the actors are acting out …its crazy…also i would love to learn more about empaths n how to control it n how to expand my abilities … you know of any other websites that could help me with this??? i also have a great interest with the paranormal is tht a trait of an empath n are empaths also able to connect with pple who have crossed over once we learnexcited how to control it n learn exercises to help us

    • I also wanted to say i attend 2 group counciling sessions a month and well this month there were 2 loss/grieve. grouos n being tht i have lost many loved ones ovver the yrs n never really dealt with it properly, i thought this would b a great start dealing with all of the loss n maybe help me with overcoming my addiction among many other things…well i attended both grieve /loss groups this month n i noticed thy not only did i feel my own pain when sharing my stories but when other pple in the group would talk about wat thy went thru i felt their pain too….when someone else would choke up i would cry….i thought it was just bec i could relate bec of all of my loss in my life but i could actually feel their pain….should i continue this group every month or is it a not so good idea????? i do fel better @ the end of it bec I’m letting out everything i been holding in n i can actually talk n feel comfortable doin so bec I’m surrounded by ppl who r goin thru somewat the same thing….. Also i find myself helping pple in the group as well by giving advice n my input…i find it very rewarding in many ways…the only thing i dnt like tht much is the fact tht i cry for awhile after the group has been done…is tht normal of an empath??? Also, i can rem back to my cousins funeral it was the 1st time i notices feeling othrrs emotions….i had a severe panic attack…i could feel everyone’s pain plus my own n i was in so much pain i couldn’t take it…i felt my aunts pain losing a child i lost my child when he was born, her sister’s pain from losing her sister,her best friends pain her not having her best friend anymore, her ex boyfriend’s pain i lost my ex in a car accident….it was so overwhelming n i couldn’t understand y i was feeling all i was feeling ….i tend to knw when something bad has happened …..i get weird sickening feelings or my body won’t feel rite n i just knw something isn’t right n then the next day or a couple days later i find ouf tht someone i knw n love has either been hurt badly or has passed away….is tht normal for an empath or is. tht something more than just being an empath?????

      • The trait of crying when someone else does is very prevalent in my life. I could be a human lie detector. I’m never wrong. If someone is fake crying then I don’t cry along with them. Real tears and I lose it. When I watch true crime shows, I always tell my son who did it as soon as the interviews start. He’s amazed at how perceptive I am.

    • I know exactly what you mean by watching tv and feeling pain. Whenever I watch something that’s true crime or read about a murder I become so overcome with emotions. I cry, sometimes I become physically ill, angry, etc. I feel sometimes like
      I may be feeling what the victim was feeling and even what the victim’s family was feeling when they interview them. Its very emotionally and mentally draining for me. I’ve always thought I was just a sensative person but everything on this 30 list fits me except the antiques, I too love them, and eating meat I have no problem with that even though I am a huge animal lover, I just don’t really think about what I’m eating, and I don’t kill to eat, its already dead and somebody else is gonna eat it if I don’t.

  92. I’m 17, and this explains a lot that I’ve been through. I write, read, feel close with nature and in the 3rd grade my teacher put me on ADD medication that made me stop eating. I went back on it I’m 9th, and a few years later I started to have side effects- they blocked out both my emotions and those of the people around me, and I felt sick constantly. I am off them now, and this explains why I am continuing to have emotional episodes. (Though of a different kind). I went to the Pearl Harbor memorial and I had a meltdown. I was crying so hard I couldn’t see, everyone thought I was nuts. I had an equally bad meltdown after watching the cove, and I bake and eat desserts to feel better, though I’m actually unhealthily thin.

    • Another thing is that though I am religious, I can’t stand to be in most churches. Especially when a pastor starts to go on about the one true path and hell, I can feel something nasty and palpable in the air around me. It’s always made me want to run.

      • Have you considered the possibility that you are discerning the difference between being religious ( organized religion that you have been brought up with) and being in a true personal relationship with God? You state, ” I can feel something nasty and palpable in the air around me. It’s always made me want to run.” Looking at this strictly from a Christian point of view, then this would be the gift of discernment as stated in the Bible. Being aware of what kind of spirit is motivating what is being said will divide the truth from untruth. This is a precious gift to be embraced to help others. Always remember, with the gifts comes much responsibility. Pray that God will direct you in the way He wants you to go. I pray that I was able to express this in a way that will be helpful to you.

    • I have found that I have to completely avoid all news programs, televised trials and reality tv. I can’t even watch HGTV because I can’t view the interior of other
      peoples homes. It truly disturbs me. When I watch true crime shows I am particularly disturbed by the interior of the vicitims homes. Moreso than the bloody crime scenes and deceased bodies.

      I avoid almost everything on the internet….particularly all those AOL stories and youtube posts. Even celebrity stories bother me. I can’t watch stars walking the red carpet because I sense their mental issues and addictions.

      Animal cop shows are extremely disturbing because of the treatment of helpless animals. I have a really hard time dealing with the dark side of human nature. Even MTV and VH1 videos creep me out.

      I find reading, walks in nature, the beach, and time spent with animals to be most uplifting. We have become a society of greed, desire and neglect. My empathic nature finds that unbearable.

      And I completely understand your problem with churches. I feel religion is something that should not be proftied from. Sometimes I hear a pastor who seems sincere and reaches me until they start their cd, book and donation pitch. Sad….so sad

  93. This is really interesting. I have a blog on WordPress, too, and a lot of the things I’ve written about fit this perfectly, but I never knew there was a name for it. Granted, a lot of things I write about are completely unrelated to this – but the biggest thing that I have always thought was weird about myself and kind of seems to fit this is that I try purposely absorb people’s fears and anger and replace it with my own confidence and joy. I do a lot of visualization of me having wings, and wrapping my wings around someone who needs help, and absorbing the things that are making them need help and replacing it with good things. I was trying to find one of my blog posts where I described it, and this was one of the ones I’ve written about it: I am really glad I found your blog, I “followed” you and will be back!

  94. This is definitely me as well. Everything except disliking old things. Sometimes they have a story to tell. I love finding neglected things and making them right again.

    I don’t see anyone else mentioning this but do any of you get “Twinges” where things will just come to you? Feels like your brain is twitching. I’m not sure if it’s an actual physical manifestation of anything or just a feeling, but It’s like poke,poke, jab, jab, twinge, twinge.

    Here is something that maybe someone can help me with.
    There was a girl who kissed me in the first grade named Mandy. She found me randomly over the internet in 2007 and I went on a couple of dates with her before my spazziness drove her away. I was distraught and broken for a long time. I used to think that Kissing me in the first grade and then finding me again meant something, but I screwed it up so severely that I am not sure anymore.

    Fast forward to 2009 and I got my little sister who is also en empath to harass her, waking her up in the middle of the night, keeping her awake because she would not and will not talk to me. This, rather predictably has resulted in nothing good. I was being irresponsible and horrible and I can never seem to find peace regarding this. I will have bouts of intense sadness over her sometimes.

    I’d like to find some peace over this and I never seem to be able. Is there a way or do I just deserve to suffer? Nothing has ever caused me as much strife as this. Not even close.

    I’m sorry, Mandy.

  95. Until I read this I felt like I was losing my mind. I would see a depressed girl and I would spend the day crying , if someone at work was getting upset or irritated with something I would spend the night starting world war 3 over the littlest things. And if I was around happy people I felt like I was on cloud nine I think I’m finally starting to understand and maybe I can find a way to deal with this before. I go nuts

  96. Oh. Oh wow. First, let me say thank you so much, because I think you have just brought a lot of clarity to my life. I had heard the term empath mentioned a few times, and though I didn’t have much context, I immediately knew it was something I had to look into. I am somewhat skeptical by habit, but after reading just a few of the traits listed, I thought “This is a thing. This is a very real thing, and this is me.”
    Probably the trait that has affected me the most is feeling other’s emotions as my own. Whenever someone in my immediate family is stressed, sad, etc, I feel the same way. If someone is angry/almost any other emotion at me I will feel the same way about them. I thought this was genuinely because I was mad/etc at them for feeling that way about me, but even as I write this I am beginning to realize this is not the case. Physical pains have been a real enigma for me lately as well. Not too long ago my mom suffered a slipped disk that resulted in excruciating back pain for her, and during that time I began to have back troubles as well. During car rides, when sitting upright was especially painful for her, I began having sharp twinges, and every time these would happen, though she had no knowledge of what I was experiencing, I would hear her wince in pain.
    I have also been the confidant for lots and lots of people- at least 4 close friends, plenty of acquaintances, and a recent anonymous internet encounter in which a man related to me the story of his divorce and his desire to reconnect with his children and their mother. Does the subconscious sensing of an empath by others work over the internet? Even people who have admitted they should not be dumping their problems on me have struggled to not tell me their troubles.
    Anyway, I could go on forever about the other traits (especially rooting for the underdog, anxiety attacks in public places, my need for lots of time alone, and the fact that i haven’t watched the news or read the newspaper in months) but I really ought to go to sleep now. Anyway, I at least hope my account of the physical aspects can help somebody as other comments have helped me.

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  98. Wow…….. I never thought in a million years that there would be Someone that knows EXACTLY what I go through on a daily basis! At least I know I’m not alone in this gift! And that there are people like me and understand what it’s like to be an empath. I didn’t even know there was a name/word for what I’ve been experiencing! But I understand what I am, and just have to learn how to use this gift!……

  99. Yes! Thank you! I am also an Intuitive Empath. I am able to feel, smell and hear outside of the physical realm, sometimes I have dreams and visions. Some have called me a Kinesthetic Medium, because I can feel the physical and emotional symptoms of my patients in my own body. I really try to avoid this term because as a devout Christian and lover of Jesus, I feel uncomfortable with the word “medium” ( blame my childhood and missionary grandparents. LOL!) I have always been this way, but never knew others like me. My “gifts” intensified after my Mother died and I could no longer ignore them so I sought help from pastors, psychologists and healers from many faith backgrounds. As my spiritual gifts have developed, I began questioning whether I can continue my current profession, at least in the traditional sense. I have not yet learned how to not absorb the physical symptoms or emotions and energy. It has left me often utterly exhausted and in terrible pain. My patients leave the office feeling better, but I may develop a migraine, chest pain, back pain, depression or anxiety. I’m still learning to let the energy flow where it needs to be.
    I have become acutely sensitive to smell, sound and even taste. I had increasing migraines. Sometimes I hear or know what someone is going to do or say before they say it. I often feel overwhelmed and consumed by it, because I can’t always figure out what’s “mine” and what’s “theirs”. I used to be afraid, and sought to block and protect myself. I have found fellowship with other Christians who do hands on healing and prayer. I am learning how to use my gifts and let God work through me so it is not me, but Him doing the work. That has really helped me – to know I am not doing the healing, I am simply a conduit for God to work through. When I take my ego out of it, then I am not exhausted or holding on to pain and symptoms.

    • I have found that the senses are very heightened, smell , senses, sounds and a draining of me around negativity. I have experienced others pain and would love to learn how to let something flow through instead of affecting me. I believe in God, miracles, positive/negative energy, allowing those to believe what they need to. I find people with great pain drawn to me and start letting it out. I also can see past people pain and get along with folks no one else can tolerate. This is the first place that I have come across that experiences some of the things I do. I am grateful to have found this place. Thanks

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  101. It’s not long since I came across the term Empath, suddenly everything made sense, that was what I’d known all long but now it had a name and was a recognised ‘thing’! I felt it was the missing piece of the jigsaw. I’m about 25/30 of the above criteria, and 8 of the first 10.

    But while I feel all the jigsaw pieces are now there, they’re not quite put together yet. I’ve read a ton of stuff and I would like the self control to be able to switch on and off the constant mind chatter but feel/know I need some help or mentoring with this. I’m in London, does anyone have any suggestions as to who I could speak to?

    • Hi Vicky, ive only just learned the name Empath, previously always described myself as Empathetic x a million, as long as I can remember people have come to me with their problems and ssay they feel better after and i was left drained many of the 30 points apply to me, I too am in London, have you found any support groups or i would love to chat with you just to compare notes as such as i dont know any other Empaths personally

      • Ditto Clara! – haven’t found any groups but would like to! So exhausting, always wiped out! Has anyone else got any suggestions on groups or contacts?

  102. Oh my God! I can’t believe I finally have a “blue-print” of who I am! It’s amazing to know, at least a little more anyway, who you are so that you can diagnose problems and more quickly find solutions to inner/outer struggles we may encounter in life. Thank you so much for this blog post! I really, really FEEL that this has helped immensely! :)

  103. I have for many years have had a gut feeling, when I would meet someone I would instantly get this strong energy feeling, and know if they where dark or light. The stronger the energy/magnetic the darker or lighter, I could tell if they where a good or bad person. Some of the energy I get is very overwhelming. I scored 27/30. Just trying to understand and learn what I can. For the last 3 months I have become secluded. I spend most of the day alone at home. But I have for the last 3 weeks been drawn outdoors, taking very long walks. I feel complete walking down a wooded path, I’m not one to exercise, but I’m being pulled to it. I can’t stand being around a lot of people, anxiety sets in, then I feel i have to get away. Almost like I’m getting hit with energy from all sides. This has been very helpful, thank you so much. Now I don’t feel like an over sensitive person.

    • I think a lot of us (empaths) have become more reclusive lately. There are changes taking place…weather, government, religious, and financial changes on a global scale. I know I too have spent more time alone and yet I find peace through grounding which it sounds like you are doing.

  104. I do not think being an empath has to do with religion per say. I think if you were Christian you could consider it the gift of discernment and google that. Your religion will help you embrace or reject this gift. Pagan or metaphysics usually gets put on things that are not attributed to any one religion or is rejected by religion thank you for indulging my opinion.

  105. Thank you very much for sharing all these info! I’ve taken a number of psychology tests throughout my life and I’ve never been diagnosed with a mental illness yet. I passed for mild depression but none of it could explain where the kind of emotions and experinces I continuously go through is coming from. I’m very glad to have found this page! Bless you for posting this!

  106. This is a really helpful post. Very strange things happen to me regularly or maybe I just pay more attention to them than other people I’ve talked to. One area that I struggle with is trusting my instincts, for example a while ago I got the feeling that my partner was going to have a gig. He said that he had practice on an unusual day and it just popped in my head to ask. He said no, and even though my instincts told me that he was lying I convinced myself that he wouldn’t lie about it and that I was paranoid. I found out a couple of weeks later from a mutual friend that it had been a gig. I always vow to trust my instincts but then react in the same way. I think that people are creatures of habit, structure is comforting even if it’s a structure of our own creation. I suppose that when people differ from their own norms it’s usually a sign that there is something bubbling under the surface. Does that sort of thing happen to anyone else?

  107. So so grateful for the synchronicity of finding your blog at a time when I thought I was drowning. I’ve ‘known’ since I was a babe and that was decades ago – the only trait I don’t have is what most people on here have commented – the antiques and old stuff. New builds and furniture have chemicals that really affect me.

    I’ve had so much difficulty coping with this through life – frequent change of jobs, moving around a lot, became a psychiatric nurse (boy was that the worst job for me, in fact I don’t think I’ve ever recovered from that). These days I live on a remote Scottish island with my lovely husband and two wonderful kids (both grown and left home) and we grow food and keep animals.

    The hardest thing to cope with is the loneliness of having to keep people at arms length or on a very superficial level of friendship. I don’t know any other empaths apart from my kids and they’re
    in denial. I’m finding this year my worst one yet – now I have a feeling (excuse the pun) that things will be ok, I’m feeling at home already. Thank you :))

    • Totally understand what you are saying. I too have had difficulty all my life coping with this.I am highly sensitive to petrochemicals, formaldehyde, nickel, allergies to all animals except pigs! Chronic Fatigue 28 yrs and Fibromyalgia. Do not tolerate medication well and if I must can only take infant doses, I am 68. I am so happy you shared about your remote Scottish island, I got such a warm, happy feeling when I read it. I also have been like this all my life and am happy to finally find others like myself. Know what you mean about furniture, everything has to be solid wood. I was able to purchase a slat bed with a special 100% cotton mattress 2 yrs ago and finally can sleep better. Even things that are suppose to be hypo-allergenic bother me. Between the sensitivities to foods, environment, and picking up on emotions etc. . life is a challenge, like you I have to keep everything at arms length. Anything artificial is bad for me. Like you I feel at home already having found this blog.

  108. Well, this freak the sh$&@ out of me. Everything they wrote is e everything I am. It’s creeping me out a lot actully… I think I may need coaching in this thing lol. I am still freak out ha! …

  109. I know what you mean! I have this too except not so much with animals. I can ‘read’ what someone really loves AND what someone fears too. I just ‘know’ what they have to do to get to the thing or person they love. Mostly they have to conquer some fear to get to it. For me ‘reading’ this is simple. It took me years to see that not everyone can do this.

  110. Is it normal for an empath to only be susceptible to one specific emotion? I feel I am extremely vulnerable to love. It makes sense, really…people that are in love seem to be drawn to me, and I believe their love weakens their natural defenses, for it is then easier for me to read their other emotions. I am also quite attached to animals; I can feel their fear and tell their gender without having to check. I just…know. If empathy is simple reading one’s emotions and pain through their energy, then I suppose I read love. Is it normal for someone’s empathic abilities to be so…specific?

    • Hi Brook27lynne,

      I would say if the main emotion you pick up, as an Empath, is love then you are very lucky :). What is normal for one Empath may not be so much for another: one may be more sensitive to sound or smells or some may feel residual energy more than others. And I also think how we individually interpret energy plays a big part in how we read/feel it.

      Thanks for sharing

  111. It’s been known for years now that me sister is an empath. When I first found out from her I didn’t believe it until I did some research myself because I didn’t know what an empath was. For a while I believed I was a clairvoyant because I had extreme Déjà vu and would have dreams of things before they happened, but when I was a child I showed every sign of being an empath. I always felt things very deeply and would flip without any known cause or reason between moods (and I still do). My family always says that I take on other peoples problems and that I carry more emotional burden than I should, but I’ve never been able to control it. When I learned what an empath was from my sister, she said I was one, but I didn’t really believe her. When I became very closely connected to her emotionally because of some highly traumatic events a few years ago, I started becoming aware of what she was feeling and I felt it myself, as I had always felt what other people were feeling (I could never explain how I felt what they were feeling and why their feeling became my own). It used to be I was only aware of the emotions of people around me, but I began to feel what my sister was feeling when we were miles away. (An example of that was when I was at school and had a panic attack out of the middle of nowhere. I learned after school that at the same time I was having my panic attack, 9:10AM, my sister was being rushed to the emergency room.) Especially within the last few months whenever something violent has happened around me or in a movie I become very overwhelmed and will have panic attacks and start crying. I also haven’t been able to handle being around large groups of people because of how emotionally overwhelming it is. I’ve been doing more research lately, though, and am starting to learn how to handle being an empath (I still haven’t learned to handle as magnificently as my sister has), but I recently discovered that one of my every close friends is an empath (I’ve only known her for a matter of months, but I’ve been able to talk to her as I’ve never been able to talk to anyone else.). I’ve also learned that my mother is an empath. My research has turned up that, apparently, being an empath can be passed down through family members. I’m wondering if being an empath is genetic. I know that my mom, my sister, and I are empaths, but one of my cousins (on my mom’s side) also shows every external sign of being an empath. I’ve known her since I was a baby and I want to show her this blog and find out if she is an empath. I think she is, but I’m wary about jumping to conclusions.

    • Hi Jennan,

      I would say there is a good chance that the gift of Empathy is passed down genetically, as many gifts are. I have a suspicion that my own Mum is/was an Empath, but sadly she is no longer in a position for me to ask.

      You are very lucky to have friends and family around you who you know to be Empaths, as one of the toughest parts of this journey is the feeling of isolation.

      Thanks for sharing.

      • I have to agree with your suspicion that being an empath is passed down through genetics. I came to the realization that I was an empath after my dad mentioned that he was. Soon after I heard mention of it again online, and knew I needed to look into this. I googled empath and here I am! We have talked about it at length (though there is so much left to discuss) and discovered that he was going through many of the same things when he was my age that I am now. We differ in the traits we show but empathic ability is definitely intrinsic in our genes.

      • Hi,

        In my observations genetics is one way, but childhood trauma, where the person is often in a dangerous situation, such as abuse, will also awaken their empathy. They use it to try and detect danger before it happens, however, as most aren’t aware what they are doing, they tend to not have much control over it, or even believe it exists!

      • I very much believe that these gifts are genetic. I believe mine was passed to me through my father who talks of similar experiences that I have had, he also tells me my aunt (his sister) has gifts though the extent of them I don’t know. Also I believe my eldest daughter who is 16 is an empath, but her gift goes a bit further as she is also clairaudient.

  112. I know that was an ADD type comment :-X but I just really needed to get it out and trust the meaning would get through instead of over thinking the way its worded or formatted. You can see the tangents, its a whole lot of info and possible reasons behind everything in life and wanting to understand so many things that I’m over eager and intrigued but want to understand it the right way through people who have the knowledge base or different experiences. Thank you :) Bless you all. Yea see a tendency to take a sentence and turn it into a paragraph :-P I think I need to take a vow of silence and just listen. I just feel OVER EAGER AND SUPER STIMULATED… but more at peace because I understand more than I used to *blink blink* :)

    • Why the last few posts make me feel like I need to lose weight. I’ve been BIG all of my life. At 17 I was my smallest after doing a fad diet. I’ve been so physically ill that I believe it has closed my spiritual channel to an extreme extent. Though the past year I feel I’ve had the gift of being able to block negative energy anyway.
      I’m getting over pneumonia at the moment and in the past couple days I am suddenly very emotional(chalk it up to my Monthly friend?)
      Also swore I was expecting for the past few weeks. But would be afraid for my unborn child having been on all of these med’s for asthma/pneumonia etc.

      The last part where you mentioned feeling the love? That is me and my Current Boyfriend. He doesn’t ever need to say it for me to feel it. I just know it. (though it’s nice to hear right?)
      Being an empath gifted with extra sensory perception….. I know/see a person’s energy/chi/chakra. I can also tell whether or not someone has good versus bad intentions and or guilt weighing them down.

      I’m sure I would be better off living in a woodsy open place but that isn’t my path. Living in a city/urban area I’ve learned how to avoid/who to avoid..and who not to share information with. People are like cats/dogs sometimes. You share a tiny bit and they start gnawing at you for more and more.
      No thanks!

      Now yesterday.
      During those Tornadoes in OK……… I had a vision of a Woman, she had blondish hair. I saw her in the back corner of her home. Stuck under rubble. She was covered in dirt and dust crying for help. I looked thru my fb page to see if I saw her name. I did see a name but couldn’t put a face to her name from my friend’s list. I wanted to help her bc I felt her desperation.

      I do have visions sometimes but don’t always share for fear of pple assuming that I’m losing my mind lol

      My last SPIRIT encounter was with an old school friend’s deceased Father just a few Nights ago. I still haven’t told her because I’m not 100 percent sure that she would be receptive to the idea. I did consider telling her it was a dream and that he had a message for her…. in this dream.

      Oh the Joys of being an empath!

  113. unsettled premonition
    do empaths love the night, (or are we all just different) it seems like I’m more alive at night. I would rather be in the country under the stars than sitting under the sun. Esp because at night things just don’t seem so busy and overwhelming. I feel like I have a horrible time articulating…. its so frustrating. I know also that I tell people too much because I want people to understand. I want to be loved as I love people and to reach deeper into someone than the external process that seems to take part in peoples blocked extra personal relationships.
    do we tend to over explain things because we have the desire to be understood? Is it the desire to want to help that makes us feel pretentious or hesitant to say things certain ways? HOW DO WE CONNECT !!! It feels like being open results in others thinking you are crazy.. and they get threatened and negative when you approach things (like when we know something we shouldn’t that someone wouldn’t want us to know about) and they push us away. Do you just try to ignore it or do you just keep moving through life trusting that the people who matter will understand and appreciate that honesty. Honesty scares people, and some people seem afraid to get to close and keep their guard up.
    why do we want to doubt our instinct
    is it possible to take a bad energy that you sense from a distance like in the woods and determine if it is exactly what it feels… this sounds crazy like a cannibal or twisted soul stalking you or could it be a cougar? It was unlike anything vibe or energy Id ever gotten and the more I pay attention and trust myself with energy perception and intuition the more sick those feelings can make me feel. I guess it could mean a lot of things right. Someone just wanting to hurt you maybe. All I know is it felt like death and I say cannibal because if it was a human it wasn’t a peeping tom or some weirdo but more twisted and demented. evil energy doesn’t even seem to fit. It was something unnatural and it was something that wouldn’t have only hurt us but taken pleasure in the demented ways it did it. What I’m wondering is the stronger your gift gets and the more open you are to those energies is it difficult to misinterpret what you are feeling, or is that specific feeling in fact exactly was it seems or feels.
    Are all empaths open channels meaning we have to constantly fight evil and protect ourselves. Do they have more than just intuition is it always clairvoyant tendencies. Fighting evil I mean to say we could be in huge trouble if we let down our guard if we give into the human impure or evil thoughts? I know I don’t feel put together or strong when I’m not true with myself or following a righteous path. I shut down for a few years because i couldn’t handle feeling anything anymore and everything that found me during that time was evil and it was constant. I have no idea how I got out of it but I know I’m still trapped with my physical limitations. I need to cleanse my body and keep my mind crystal clear to be impartial loving patient and kind to everyone including myself. I hate feeling as though I am a victim of the environment.

    wow as i write this there is a cow bellowing, SCREAMING a couple properties down it feels hungry or thirsty and upset like neglected. Maybe its giving birth? I just wonder if our human mind our conscious tries to put meaning to feelings in a ways that misinterpret. just like communications through words seems inadequate, like sensing love as opposed to hearing the words. I just don’t know if we get that energy and apply human bias to it or if we actually understand and have the intuition about it as we feel it.

    • I would just like to reply to your comment by saying to be sure to trust your instinct. It sounds like you may live or are drawn to remote areas and if you get the feeling that evil is present please take it seriously. Evil has a very strong presence and it’s energy is far reaching. I am very sensitive to evil as well and have to avoid it sometimes to the point of staying out of public arenas. Perhaps the feeling of cannibals was the fact that someone was viewing you as prey. Whatever it may have been, don’t stay in an area that you feel such a strong presence of evil. Trust yourself

  114. I’m pretty much with all the comments left here, though I’ve known and had self-confidence and doubt emotionally beat into me in the past. It’s a special gift and I sometimes feel undeserving, even with its downsides. My own baggage probably.

    As with others, I fit everything, except I love old things, don’t have any diagnosed digestive problems and only occasional back and shoulder pain and I frequently need help remembering what day/day of the week it is when I have no reason to remember it (especially if the routine of others changes, like my husband works on one of his days off).

    I think perhaps the dislike of old things should be edited a bit to reflect the split I’m seeing in comments (no offense). For example, either a love of old things (many of us seem fascinated by the stories we feel in them…my reason as well as many others I’ve seen in comments), or an avoidance (using the original text). It does seem to be about an even split with us :D Since the second article notes many of us love story-telling, it also supports that exact reason for some of us loving old things. I have yet to see an ambivalent opinion on old things (but I’m sure it likely exists).

    However, in that, there are particular old things I would never purchase. Immediately offhand, I’d rather have a cheap (and I do, a simple 3-ring interlocking “friendship ring”), but meaningful NEW wedding ring, engagement ring, promise ring, etc. than select a beautiful piece given to a pawn shop…or his grandmother’s ring from a failed marriage (or loveless one). Then there are the things with negative energy, which fascinate my story-teller side, but I simply commit them to memory and avoid, rather than handle or purchase them. I digress. My point is, I think some of us with the story-teller trait in the 2nd article like old things for that reason. Their stories.

    With the rule about food, I almost don’t fit that, but I’ve realized I have a great empathy for plants too, so, even though you don’t need to kill the whole plant to eat it…I still have a lot of practice blocking that off with whatever I eat or I’d starve. I once visited a section of woods behind my college campus daily because it had a history of animal sacrifices. There was an area I would not sit or spend a lot of time in, with a fallen tree and long-neglected piles of stones (the sacrifices had been stopped long ago but nobody ever went in there).

    I suppose a lot of empaths would avoid it, but I didn’t know its history, it was lovely and it felt lonely, so I would walk around, off and on the deer trails appreciating it, sometimes singing to it. I felt it greet me happily every day. Then I learned about its history. That, all at once, explained both why all the plants felt lonely and unloved (I now think of a song I recently found by Blackmore’s Night called “The Old Hanging Tree” when I think of that section of woods), eager for a friend, and why I went out of my way to avoid that clearing in the middle, despite most paths connecting to it.

    None of this at all is why I started writing my comment, actually, but as many empaths, who I can share those feelings with and not sound crazy, is very limited and I find I miss my woodsy friend tonight (I moved several US states away). I still feel…pretentious when I talk about it ^^”

    Anywho my original intent in this comment, other than to thank you for your post, was to inquire about #24. I am prone to being overweight, and I even realized a few years ago that I don’t want to lose weight, though I want approval and to look good for my husband. I realized it makes me feel safe. I drew other conclusions about that from my past, but then saw it mentioned as a trait for protection. Does this have something to do with the chakra you mentioned? I am super curious about how that works, what protection it offers and why.


    • Hi Saronai,

      I’d say the extra weight round the solar plexus region of the belly is just extra padding to stop as many of the external emotions hitting the area as had, with it being the seat of emotions. It’s the place we feel the most. Another way we pad this area, without even realizing it, is folding our arms over our tummy. I tend to do that all the time when in public places.

      Thanks for sharing

      • Thanks for responding so quickly!

        I thought it might be something like that and was hoping for some insight regarding it. Now that you mention it though, since the years I’ve put on weight (and even the heavier I get little by little), the easier time I have saying no to huge energy drains, or at least keeping myself distant enough to avoid overpowering negative empathy. I’m still extremely open to pretty much all happy news of every type because that’s the upside to this gift, getting to share someone else’s buzz for a recharging energy lift. I chalked it up to simply being more experienced at saying no and proceeding with caution around negative emotions (while remaining helpful and trying to improve the mental and spiritual health of those around me). Could still be both.

        I wonder, if I learn proper blocking (I hate shutting it off entirely), if I’ll finally be able to still feel safe enough to shed some of my extra weight…so far it’s been pretty stubborn at this exact weight the last two years no matter how much (or little) I exercise, nor how well, or badly I eat. Even if it only has a little to do with that, thanks for sharing that point. It never at all occurred to me that my persistent chub was helping me block emotions.

  115. It was always hard, as a scientist, to try to understand why I could do the things that I did. I kept trying to like make sense of it from what I’ve learned from physics and whatnot. I always felt like it was something that had to do with energy- considering that everything is energy (matter is just condensed energy). Still, in my head, all I want to know is how it works…

  116. I never knew what I was but I was able to answer YES on all but 2 of your list and Christel hit the nail right on the head. I have never been able to understand what it was about me that made me be able to KNOW things about perfect strangers that I couldn’t explain. It’s like I get pictures in my head that tell me their story or something that they are struggling with. People have called me their Guardian Angel for YEARS of my life. I thought it was just because they felt like I understood them in some way. Now I see that it was probably because they knew that i not only understood but that I could FEEL with them. Thank you so much for this and I look forward to learning more about this.

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  118. Thank you, thank you, thank you!! I am finally beginning to see that I am not alone. I am on a road to recovering from pretending to be normal for almost 20 years. I trust the best is yet to come. I hope to be able to teach and heal others who still have to deal with this.

  119. loved this find . Thank you so much . So many greatfull people sometimes it is calming just to know you are not alone. I have a question about energies When I think about antiques or non living things I do react to the energy around it , visual feedback and the way touching the object makes me feel either draws me in and moves me away. So what am I tuning in to? Is the energy like a residual imprint? How does energy maintain the source when the source is removed? Info about this will either help me or give me a whole pile more questions I am intrigued :-)

    • Hey Kayl,

      I would say it will be the latter. But hey, that’s what Empaths are all about…searching for the answers.

      Yes, you are correct in saying you are tuning into a residual imprint. Can’t say I completely understand for what reason an Empath will pick up on this residual energy or why it can linger so long after the source has been removed (perhaps another reader here may further enlighten you on that), but it just goes to show the power in the vibrations we all emit. The stronger the emotional energies (vibrations), positive or negative, left behind the more an Empath can feel or tune into it.

      Hope this helps

  120. Thank you for adding to my research about myself!! I’ve known I was an Empath, but I guess I wasn’t too clear on what all was involved with that. This blog has me to a T and my partner and I actually learned quite a bit from it. I think she understands more of what I’m going through now. Again Thank you!!

  121. Thank you note taken. I am going to do a blog talk about you are these articles. Thanks for sharing. I’ll let you know when it will air. Would you like to be a guest speaker?

  122. A friend, Aubrianna Hunter, shared this post on Facebook. Thank you Bree! I’m so glad the posting led me to your blog, Christel.

    My experience as an empath doesn’t match item for item, but it’s incredibly helpful to share the commonalities. Here’s one I can add: You drink a cup of coffee, I get a buzz! True story, verified over and over. It’s fun, because when you leave, the buzz wears off and I can still get to sleep that night. Yeah!

    I agree that these days are challenging. Not only are we shedding our own barriers, but we are experiencing the shedding of barriers by others.

    Hug! I’ve printed out this post and put it on the wall! Thank you again, Christel. I’ll be a frequent visitor.


    • Hi Carolemy,

      Thanks for your comment. I just have to let you know this is not Christel Broederlow’s blog. I shared Christal’s article on my ‘Are you an Empath’ page, alongside my (Just Be) ’30 Traits of an Empath’, because it’s a perfect description of an Empath, as well as being brilliantly written.

      Sorry if this caused confusion. I have re-worded some of the page to avoid any future misunderstandings.

      Thanks for bringing my attention to this.

  123. Absolutely beautifully written article. I would love to use it on my the show is entitled Positively Affirmative, it airs every Sunday at 6:30pm. I would definitely give you credit and direct people to your website. You are very insightful. Thank you for sharing.

  124. Six planets in Virgo… completely blown away by the detail, accuracy and confirmation of 30 Traits of an Empath… tears in my eyes… THANK YOU <3

  125. Once I read the first line of this article post in fb, I literally could NOT stop reading. This really does explain a lot of what I have been going through recently…that being said, I’d like to ask if there is any advice or direction that can be shared as far as finding someone who can help me with my new found abilities. I am having great difficulty with certain aspects at times, and I feel as though I need more guidance. I feel so grateful to have found this information, and any assistance to my inquiry would be much appreciated. Thank you very much.

    -JT Trivino

    • I hope the owner of this blog doesn’t mind me replying, but the commenter above you (dianne) included a link to her site and appears to provide services that might be helpful to you.

    • I’ve studied Empath for a long time now. If you need help, I’d be happy to do so. Also, if you google The Empath Guidebook, you’ll find a free e-book that will explain many of the aspects of being an Empath, and what you can do.

    • @JT Trivino
      My suggestion to you is: If you don’t know how to focus your gift, before you start your day; meditate and visualize yourself being surrounded by a white cloud like light/mist/cloud. I have been doing this for years and it helps. Also watching meditation/relaxation videos via google/youtube etc. There are many videos to help in this aspect. If you come across a supposed video that doesn’t seem to relax you then try another one. There are many out there.
      The ‘bubble meditation’ is what has helped me in preventing negative energy from consuming me. The white light meditation keeps negative energy out and positive energy in. Making it MUCH easier for me to be around people. Another thing that empaths may not be aware of is that we have the GIft of healing touch. Focusing on this has helped me tremendously also. Reiki is what it’s called. Look this up if it is of any interest to you. Otherwise My suggestions above should help. You do not have to be religious to meditate regularly. Meditation puts us all in a more relaxed and happy place. Good Luck

      • thats why you say “Just Be”… patience

        I should have read all your blogs before I (verbally spilled all my questions) I started focusing on the energy and the only way I can explain it to people is in that terms…. thats where the people think you are an emotional spazz. Like saying I need to recharge, or your energy is draining me. Maybe I shouldn’t say things like that to people. At the same time I know and can tell when I am projecting or draining someone else’s. I wish I had learned about energy healing sooner. I know now that I had people around me that saw me and understood but wouldn’t tell me too much unless I asked and even then it was almost like they knew I needed to figure it out for myself. I can see now those people I meet, before I thought it was just “genuine” people or grounded or wise people. I see how you guys sound and feel like I’m a giddy high school love crush girl pinging for answers. Did you go through phases? Will I learn not to want to share so much?

      • Hi Alanna,

        You are on a path which is unique to you. And you will most certainly go through many phases: Times when you want to be still and times where you want to share everything you’ve learnt :). You will make you’re own discoveries and find your own answers (part of what makes this journey so interesting). You are your own navigator and you will come to learn when it’s safe to be open with others and when it’s not. But having said that, never be afraid of being yourself.

        When others share their stories here it can be such a help to those who are just coming into the understanding of their gift, so thanks for sharing. ;)

  126. I have know I’m an empath for quite a while, but it is nice to see a list to check off. I notice that many posters here like antiques, but I do not. I can appreciate the work and artisanship but I cannot bring myself to own them. Give me modern anyday. I do like used clothes though – financially yes, but more so for the reusing quality for that which is already there.

    It’s odd about places too. I recently had this conversation with my best friend. As a child, I lived and travelled throughout Europe. It was agony and I hated it. Particularly Germany, sheer and utter agony and rage. Curiously, also the west coast of Canada, still haven’t figured that one out yet. I’m happiest when I’m in Nova Scotia, sigh……

    And just a word about feeling others…. I have become a quasi recluse. It just became almost impossible after a while. The other morning, I woke up with a blinding headache and after a bit, realised it wasn’t mine but my girlfriends’, and quickly found relief after five minutes after this revelation.

    And lastly, I “know” when others are lying or are projecting false fronts. It’s come in handy at times, but also has been one of those double edged sword kind of things. Many many people I come in contact with are so fear filled or just plain sleazy that I have given up hope for myself for ever wanting to be part of society anymore. It’s just too too painful. Give me animals of babies anyday – they like me and have no agendas……it’s all about the Love baby, all about the Love.

    Cheers all you fellow empaths, hope your way has been easier than mine.

    • We share some similar traits. I, too, have become more reclusive, but May is bringing some relief. There are changes taking place and as empaths we feel them more than others. Peace be with you.

  127. I was wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to block some Of these traits. I have become more and more sensitive after meditation and I really miss being able to be in social environments and am tired of feeling tired as well :/

    Thank you!!!

    • Hi MD,

      There are some posts on this blog that have suggestions on techniques you could try. As the energies are constantly shifting and changing so must our approach to dealing with them. The energies have really amped up of late (good and bad) and many are really struggling to deal with the onslaught of them.

      Hope you find something to help.

    • The most effective thing I’ve found to help Empaths cope are the Bach Flower Remedies. If you choose the right one, you can neutralize any of the empathic conditions you experience, at least in my experience.

  128. This is me to the t.
    But on top of being an empath, yes I have had a death experience. Over 5 years ago.
    I have seen spirits since I was a child and I have the gift of healing touch(aka Reiki)

    My other gift has developed over the last year. The gift of being able to BLOCK negative energy from overwhelming me. I am able to be around people and not get overwhelmed by them/their emotions.

    I went to a Family gathering this past weekend and felt quite comfortable. Until, I came cross 2 fellas whom I have never met. I felt uneasy as soon as I saw them. And that to that me was my gift telling me that they were doing something that their wives would not like. For eg, Cheating/chatting with other Females.
    I am also a sensitive intuitive. Late last year something told me to go check on some ‘online’ information to see if I’d find my boyfriend. And there I found him. Long story short. He had an account on a dating site. It had already been active a couple of weeks. Now right after I went and did the same thing(I know 2 wrongs don’t make a right) But I felt betrayed.
    Shortly after he closed his account down. I believe this was because he didn’t find anyone of interest or he was rejected. And we’ve been doing good ever since. And no I have not brought it up to him. I have no reason to. Unless I want to lose him for making him feel guilty.

    I am an extrovert/introvert depending on how I feel.
    It is so important to maintain our own health. Both inwardly and outwardly. I do think we have a tendency to focus so much on others that we forget to take care of ourselves.

    I started meditating and exercising regularly just recently. It helps a whole lot.

    Thank you for this Blog. I know there’s a lot of folks out there like me who may assume they are losing their minds. The last time I had a Spirit encounter I didn’t read the person for fear of them thinking that I was coo coo of course.

    Peace & Blessings

  129. I found your article on Facebook and it’s so me!! With a few exceptions (I like vintage & antiques and I sleep to escape – no addictive personality here). I look forward to reading through your blog and discovering grounding techniques when things are overwhelming.

  130. I am so glad I found you – I have been wondering this for a long while and this all makes perfect sense. Thank you so much – I’m on the empath web trail now, thank you xxxx

  131. Went through the list.. All but one. Had a friend go through it on my behalf, who knows me well, and he picked all but one. I love vintage and antiques. I’ve always had an eye for things. I can feel the history.. positive or negative and i respect it for its history. Do the same with people. Negative energy with others can be manipulated. I have tried my entire life to change negatives to positives and am greatly effected if i can not. I do not see it as a personal failure but a failure of me being unable to better someone’s life and attitude. Really, I do not know how to explain it. It makes complete sense in my head. ;) Knowing is a major one for me. Comes in just feeling, sometimes dead on.. Other times almost accurate.. But the details are skewed. I’ve had several dreams that have come true to the exact detail… It’s kind of scary. I know when a person is genuine.. And I know when they are genuine at heart but have been made to mask and front because of ill situations. I’ve never been able to out a name to how I feel, what I am.. It happens naturally and if I force it.. It really doesn’t work. But I think I might just be an empath. Or a seriously empathetic person. I know when someone is thinking of me. Know when they need me. Know when they are going to contact me. I just know. When first meeting someone I vibe off them. I always thought it was strange how I could pick up their emotions, but I think I’ve learned to block most negative emotions. Feel them but make a conscious decision how I can change the emotion and help the person in anyway possible. When I’m around energetic, happy people… I almost become manic with emotion and energy. It’s difficult to explain. Anyway… I could write a mini book on things I can not explain.. I look forward to reading more posts. Thank you! CLS

      • You’re welcome. I’m glad I found this blog. When expressing myself to others, I get tired of their apprehension, doubt and the plain look of “you’re cuckoo for coco puffs.” So mostly I keep it to myself. Honestly there’s only a few that understand slightly. It makes me smile when people say “I feel I’ve known you forever.” “I feel so much better talking to you.” Gives me a sense of accomplishment. My father expressed to me a few years ago about his dreams coming true. I just told him me too dad. And both of us dropped it. It’s a crazy life and I’m still skeptical of my own sanity… ;). But the more mature I get, the more accepting i get of things that just can’t be explained and maybe, just maybe I’m part of the unexplainable that uses more than 10% of their brain. :))). Glad to be amongst you wonderful souls!

    • I, too, have always had a passion for antiques @cls. That was one of the things that threw me off on the list. Although, 22 of the traits were extremely strong in my case. I have to guess that there can be some slight variations. Perhaps it’s possible for antiques to lose their negative energy or I’ve been extremely lucky and purchased things with good energy.

      The other trait thay confused me was travel, but then I have always preferred staying in historic cities and historic inns. In most instances my travel has been amazing but recently my experiences have been negative. I told the story above of the cottage which was originally a bell tower above. In the 1920’s it was a summer party place for a wealthy family. I just “know” something ocurred at that spot by my severe reaction.

      Also, I have recently been househunting. I immediately detect negative energy in a house and won’t even continue to look at one if it feels “off”. I’ve decided to build at this point even though it is more costly, simply to avoid bad energy.

    • Coocoo for cocoa puffs, LOL. You’re not crazy, the world is.

      I’m just beginning to recognize and develop (and accept) my own gifts and I am feeling a bit coocoo myself, wanting to impart my joy to everybody, but at the same time feeling soooo much negativity barraging me. I have to get busy and start protecting my psychic energy. So many energy vampires out there. At the same time, I can look at a person and see the pain in their eyes and see that they’re a good person and I wish I could help them.

      Anyway, know you’re not alone. We’re all going crazy together ….

  132. I first heard the term “Empath” on That Sex Show (mentioned by Dougall Fraser). I knew immediately that the term applied to me. When I read through the 30 Traits list it was confirmed. I’m an Empath! I am fortunate that my friends, family & co-workers already knew & accepted this but none of us knew what to call it. I am a professional organizer & work with clinical hoarders. This gift from God comes in very handy as I can “feel” what they feel towards their possessions and can help them work through it. It can be emotionally exhausting but very rewarding at the same time. I’m really happy to have a proper term to use. Psychic doesn’t fit. Intuitive, sure, but it’s more than that. I’m so glad I found this website!

  133. Being an empath isn’t easy. I’ve been an empath all my life and now it seems overwhelming. I’m so inundated by other people’s feelings that I hate going out. When I turn on tv I know how those people are feeling. Especially if they aren’t acting, for instance when actors are walking the red carpet….it comes over me and I immediately know exactly how they feel in that moment.

    I’ve been places that I had to leave because of the feelings that I got. One place in particular, I rented a cottage for a month near the beach. It was originally built in the 1920’s. Something was so off in that place, that I practically ran out, in tears after only a week and never went back. I felt like I was in a bubble and could barely speak. Nothing ever felt better than getting back home and snuggling with my puppy and being around my own surroundings.

    I always, always tear up if someone else is crying and they are crying real tears. I’m better than a lie detector. If I don’t cry when someone esle does then you can believe they are faking. Period!

    • a little p.s.
      this was my first time reading and my first time posting. I’d like to continue. It helps knowing there are others. btw I only rated the traits that I had very strongly and there were 22.

  134. I never knew what it was. I work as a Customer Service Rep and people would open up to me. By the end of the call they were feeling so much better and wished they could get me all the time. I knew something was wrong when my Mom had cancer through nightmares. I called her saying I know something is wrong and after not taking another ‘no’ for an answer, she told me she had breast cancer. On my first road trip in Canada (I had lived in Germany so this put off my getting my driver’s license) my Mom and my 2 very young daughters were with me. Mom had asthma but insisted on going. It got bad and I pulled into a restaurant to ask directions to a hospital. I lost my way into the town and with my mother now unconscious i ripped the car into a random driveway and ran inside screaming that I needed an ambulance. It was next door. There was no signage or vehicle. The doctors said 10 more minutes and my Mom would’ve been dead. Her lungs were 3/4 full. I’m very artistic. I feel at home with the ocean, a moody sky, a sunbeam in the forest. I can’t stand malls – pure overload. My dog and I communicate simply by looking at each other. I had a traumatic childhood and suffer depression/anxiety. I seek help for internal storms. Need I go on? I am floored and relieved to have a term. I can feel when it ‘fits’ and when it doesn’t. It makes so many things make sense. Thank you.

  135. Thank you so much for taking the time to do this, finding your page has helped me a lot. I can’t wait to devour it more.
    I can relate to practically everything you have written, my experience is the same to most, however, I do have some other things that happen too. I find I am able to really channel a persons energy if I choose to, and discovered this when I was mucking around with a friend doing readings with some tarot cards just for fun. I found I could actually channel the person literally, whether they were there or not and usually best when I didn’t know them at all. I could feel what they were feeling, and sometimes it can be really overwhelming, on a couple of occasions I have burst into tears amongst other things… then once I stopped the reading its as though it never happened. I have also been able to tell people things about their past, present and future. I am a big day dreamer and would get in trouble a lot for doing it when I was little, I love being creative and feel like a loner a lot but don’t mind it. I also have some funny ailments sometimes sharing with both humans and animals. I usually have stomach pain or tension and find I suck in mid section from the tension I hold a lot. Lower back pain is a real problem too.
    Interesting fact I found out was that there is a family history, my great grandmother was a Fae and was apart of a church where they would read objects etc.
    Despite how accurate I find I can be I still manage to question myself as I don’t want to necessarily label it. It’s really hard to share with people who might not understand or accept it as well. So I would like to be around similar people who can share and give guidance. Do you know of any groups in Australia? Really seeking more knowledge, understanding and growth. Thank you again. D :)

    • Hi D,

      Thanks for sharing.

      Sorry, but I don’t know of any groups in Australia, although I seem to recall another comment on one of these pages asking if there was anyone interested in starting a group there. There is a support group on Facebook for Empaths. Just type in ‘empath support group’ (assuming you’re signed up) and it should hopefully take you to the group page.

      Hope this helps and good luck.

  136. I’ve known about being an empath for years. I just wanted to say that your “30 traits of an empath” is one of the better lists I’ve seen. Almost all of them apply to me. Also, the “grounding techniques” page is also good. I already do many of those just to save my sanity, lol. I don’t have any other strong empaths around me right now and my close friends don’t believe in this type of stuff so sometimes it leaves me feeling like I’m insane or something… like I’m the only person around who thinks the way I do or perceives the world the way I do. In some ways I sort of feel like one of the people on X-Men or a similar movie/show… someone who is different from almost everyone else. I feel like an alien a lot of the time. That could be another thing to put on your list… a feeling of being different from almost everyone around you.

  137. I have about 24 out of 30 of these things. I really like this website, I can tell from just 5 minutes on it. Would you think it possible for an empath to try to purposefully absorb the negative energy from their close friends, so that the said close friends won’t have to go through it themselves? Just a curious question from a curious questioner. :)

    I have a particularly bad case of IBS (It’s actually chronic, if that means anything.) And I really like antique stores, because I think they have a story to tell.

    • Hi BT,

      I have never actually tried to consciously absorb negative energy off another but I can’t say I would recommend trying it either. As an Empath you will already be absorbing/transmuting more negative energies than you will be aware of and taking on more could lead to an overload. Guess we have to trust our energetic and physical bodies on this one, in that they know how much we can handle (even though at times we may feel like our circuits are being fried) :)

      IBS is very common in Empaths, as is many other stomach ailments. One of the Joys of our gift ;)

      There are some Empaths that don’t mind the energy held in antique or second-hand stuff, others can’t tolerate them, especially if an item holds negative energy from the previous owner. I have found as I’ve got older I am more tolerant of antiques but there are still exceptions.

      Thanks for sharing.

  138. I am looking to connect with other Christian Empaths. I consider my “Knowing” as a Spiritual Gift that is used for prayer. Always for praying for someone or some part of the earth. Often I have no idea who the person is, I just see a face. It can be difficult when it’s a general area of the earth and I know that a lot of people will be effected. Like this morning I was awake at 3:15 with the need to pray for Taiwan.
    I would like to talk with other Christians about how they deal with the sadness of knowing that they cannot stop what is going to happen.

    • P.S. A few days ago it was Russia I felt the need to pray for and then the meteor struck. Anyone else here had a knowing about that too?

      • Julie..I had two weeks of restlessness and pacing and felt very jittery. I couldn’t understand why and and had never experienced anything like this before. The feelings were very very strong and quite disturbing. It was threatening. It was the two weeks prior to September 11th.. the bombings of the twin towers. I haven’t experienced anything like it since and I pray I never do.

    • I am a bit overwhelmed by this page. I just stumbled across it. I knew I was different, I always hid everything. I don’t know if I would be considered a Christian Empath or not. I kinda of try to steer away from being a christian now. It scares me to get to close. I do pray everyday still and before sleep (very important to me). I have experienced extreme religious experiences, signs, dreams, and visions. While sleeping and awake. Things that would probably amaze you. This page is nothing compared to what I have seen and experienced. If you could please pray for me. I am able to talk in tongues (but I don’t usually because of my fear) and I have smelled the sweet savory smell (Philippians 4:18) and also fire. I hope you understand what I am talking about. I have dreams and think of words I have never heard of. They all have meaning. I had a dream about a calypso angel last year, if you could help me on this. It would be much appreciated. Oh, one thing I don’t understand is that you are not to judge people. I have heard certain people talk in bad voices. I see hear feel dream bad and good. I have also seen eyes change color and felt why. I have noone to talk to about this ….. so please get back to me. I left out a lot. One thing I have learned about the bad is if you talk about it …. it comes. I don’t know if this will help you. I found going in a room and closing all doors and windows, turning on a light and putting on a religious song or tv helps. If not just pray. I wish I could tell you more at this point but I can not, I really would appreciate your asistance. Thank you for taking the time to read this.

      • Lisa, I will pray for you. I will pray for you to learn and understand about your gifts and abilities, and that you will feel loved and protected rather than overwhelmed and wanting to hide (been there!). I will pray that God will send you the teachers and friends that you need to grow into your gifts, at just the right time- and for exactly what you need. I am learning that it is when I am living God’s calling and purpose for me, that sometimes that is the very time when I feel the most chaotic and confused and crazy. I believe that when we are working in The Light, that darkness can be very threatened by that. When I feel afraid, I pray and sing and keep my focus on whatever is of God and the light. Feel free to email me if you like.

  139. Wow! How do you know ALL this??? I already know I’m an Empath, but you have more signs than I’ve ever read before…I am all, but close to animals. I am close to nature, but not animals. I’m a beach lover and love rainstorms, thunder and lightening, also…love snow. I love water, in general, and I absolutely prefer washing dishes to using dishwasher because my hands soaking in warm sudsy water is extremely soothing. I can daydream aaalll day. I am a writer. I abhor clutter, and I will NOT buy antiques or second-hand clothes and stuff. I hate yard sales…yuk! I am everyting on this list. Also, I get other people’s illness. When my daughter was in labor, I felt pains in my abdoment for two weeks prior. Went to doctor, had test, they could not find anything. My daughter went into labor…I had pains the entire time (in the room with her). Then, after the baby was born, they stopped for good! There was a lady at my job who was feeling dizzy for a few days. I was feeling dizzy for a few days, then she came up to me and said, “I’ve been feeling so dizzy.” I said, “Really?” Then, I prayed for her healing, and it went away. I prayed for my son’s ear ache to go away, my ear popped as I was praying, he his ear ache went away. I LOVE being an empath, but sometimes, I just don’t know what to do with it. :)

  140. Thank you. Really, thank you. All the time I thought I’m overly dramatic and I can’t sort trough all this pile of emotions. I’ve got goosebumps from the text, it was nearly scary how accurate this hole description is. Now I have something to work with :) Thank you so much.

  141. I’m 16 years old, and I guess, thinking about it, it’s a bit odd that i’m so intent on finding myself. I always thought it was simply a personality of mine: my ability to care about people so much that their pain became my own, how I could just step into the car and know if my parents had a bad day… there are so many things that I related to. Especially the part where it was said that we are deemed over-emotional.
    there are some parts that I’m unclear about… on other sites it was said that I can read the emotions of other people? because I can’t. I just feel… and you’re right. Sometimes, my mood changes so quickly, and I get so confused as to why.

    most times, I feel misunderstood. my friend thinks it can be annoying.

    but thank you for the article. maybe I am, maybe I’m not.. but this was very informative.

  142. I love to own vintage and antique things , I think that must be a preference . I like the stories they carry . The history in an object adds to the appeal of it . I feel an aversion to new things because of the cheapness and lack of care that goes into most of them , with exception to certain brands that feel good .

  143. Oh my… I have chills running down my spine. I’ve never been able to put a finger on it, closest I could come was, maybe I’m a psychic and psychics are not what people think they are, or maybe I had multiple personalities… reading this, flashes of my life playing through my head the whole time, I’m almost shaking too hard to write this. I thought “energy vampire” was a phrase I coined many years ago to describe an ex, I must’ve been tapped in to the truth lol. I too feel as tho I have been living on auto and have an intense desire to get my life back in the energy flow. Most people think that means finding a job (I was fired for standing up for myself, and have been unemployed for a year) or going to school (I could never pick between science or music lol), but I just want to find inner peace… that’s never enough tho is it?

  144. It has been very difficult being a teacher and an empath. I am African American and live in the South. Having to stand up in front of a class and sense the scrutiny and negative emotions has been a nightmare. But I can’t find other employment that would put me in the background. Moreover, I realized just today that I have been picking up on the negative emotions of some of my students and sending them right back to them, which is probably not good. Because of all the negativity, I am angry a lot. I am very glad I found this site; it just validates what I have felt my entire life.

  145. Wow.. just wow. Until recently I thought I was the only one feeling what the person next to me in class was feeling, knowing instantly how people felt about me when they met me, picking up other peoples discomforts and pains.. and then I stumble on this word- empath- and see that there are lots of us about! It sort of makes me feel more brave, and I am thinking that there may be more to this… maybe I can control and make use of this, in some other way than supressing the experiences.. maybe I can just let it happen and enjoy the flow of whatever happens..please somebody tell me if I can work on thingie.. and how :) Love to you all out there !! good to know you exist!!

    • Hi Mezzo,

      Finding out that you are an empath is just the beginning of your journey. The road is challenging, has many ups, downs, side to sides, and is chock full of experience.

      The best advice I could offer to enhance your gift is to work on yourself by looking after both body and mind, and the rest will follow (please see other posts on this blog). Keeping a quiet mind (through various meditation techniques, exercise and relaxation) will help you discern between energies and emotions that don’t belong to you and therefore helps you to not get caught up in them and take them on as your own.

      An empath is always at work (absorbing and transmuting energies), if you realize it or not, and it is really important for us to look after ourselves. I am, hopefully, going to be writing a post in the next day or two regarding foods, that I’ve found beneficial, to eat or avoid. So keep an eye out for it.

      Thanks for sharing.

  146. This has been a great help. For exactly understanding myself better. Reading this gave me a huge relief. I almost felt better instantly while reading it. I wondered why I feel so attached and connected to the world and to people in an unexplained way. When i know something, i just know. And i feel like my emotions and feelings and surroundings have actually gotten higher every time something traumatic happens. I know need answers about, when i dream, i dream of how someone feels. When someone lies to the world or close ones how they truly feel. Even to me, i dream how they truly feel, i dream what they won’t say. Or i dream of what people hide. And i don’t know how my role plays in this. And how to deal with my own situation on difficult journey. help?

    • Hi Genesis,

      Thanks for sharing.

      The journey of an Empath is not an easy one, we are a rare and unique breed. And although we may understand the way we are, we don’t often understand why or to what purpose it is serving. We are constantly searching for the answers, more often than not, outside ourselves. From what I have learnt on my own path is that the answers lie within. If we listen to that deep inner-knowing we can find that which we seek.

      We are in the midst of huge changes on the planet that have been frazzling our circuits, giving us symptoms such as: weird dreams, emotional overload, brain fog, nausea, apathy, unusual pains in the body and much more, so things have been a lot tougher for us to deal with in recent times (like we needed things to get any harder).

      Hope this helps.

      • This does help! It is greatly helpful! So it is safe to say that I’m an empath. It explains why I’m so artistic. I can write for days. But i cannot physically talk, when it comes to my true inner self and feelings. But i can write them, so much more easier. Why people change my mood. Why i always feel the need to save someone. And why i cannot find my purpose in life. I cannot seem to figure out what i want to do or be. But i do know that it must involve helping people. It explains why people i do know or don’t know become instantly attached to me, and they feel the need to tell me their inner thoughts, feelings, and problems. And why i feel over whelmed so much and exhausted, so i often rather be alone then out and about. I guess that’s why I’m into movies. I only watch the ones i like. Its my escape from reality. Everything they feel. I feel even deeper. And i dream the truth. I guess my next task, is to get it under control. And also to find out what i truly want.

  147. Wow. There are only maybe 2 things on this list that does not describe me. I’ve recently been questioning whether or not I am an empath. I think this list might of confirmed it. My husband has told me several times that he think I might be an empath, but I had never done any research on what eexactly an empath was until now. One thing that first made me start to think that I was, was when my husband my husband started his new job. He was nervous and anxious, and I could feel his anxiety as if it were my own. It made me look into my past to see if I could pin point other peoples emotions I might of accidentally felt as my own. My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant for over a year now and everytime that I thought that I might be, I.e. I had pregnancy symptoms, I would find out someone close to me was pregnant. This has happened at least 5 times now. I’ve always been very quiet around new people, I get very anxious in large crowds and pretty much everything on that list. One of the things i know I cannot be is a healer. Anytime I see another person is in pain I get physically sick to the stomach and can’t be around them. It’s the same reason I can’t watch gory movies, and its not because all the blood and guts gross me out its because I think I feel what they feel, even when I know it is fiction. One thing that I noticed is not mentioned is reading. I feel all of the characters emotions as if they were my own, I actually love reading cause I feel like it is an escape from real life because it feels so real to me. If that makes any sense. Anyway I just wanted to share my experiences as well. I do think since I now know what been going on with me my entire life, is really like to learn to control it as well as enhance my abilities. Thank you for all those that actually read this entire paragraph, maybe it will help someone else with figuring out their empathic abilities.

    • I only days ago figured out that I am an Empath. I have always felt so different and most people just don’t take the time to really understand me. I have been trying to figure it out my whole life. I, like many of you have almost all the traits listed above. I, too love old furniture. I feel like certain pieces speak to me. I will only bring home pieces that feel nonthreatening. Also, Jessica, you mentioned how you like to read to escape and feel what the characters feel. I do the exact same thing. I can get lost in a book for hours on end. I also like to watch romantic comedies when I feel down, because it always uplifts me. I take a break from myself and pretend to be that girl who falls in love and gets her guy in the end. It just feels good to feel those feelings, even if it is fiction. I think it’s cool that you brought this other possible trait up. there are probably a myriad of other traits that empaths have in common as well. The possibilities are endless.

  148. Wow! The only one that did not discribe me was number 28. I like old things. You can feel their story, ya know like the things that peice of old furniture might have saw and heard if it had eyes and ears.
    The comments below the #30 list discribes me perfectly also.
    You know, as I was reading through it all I kept thinking how those traits are similar to that of people with ADD/ADHD. I wonder if perhaps a lot of people are wrongly diagnosed with ADD/ADHD when they are really empaths? Or does ADD/ADHD and empathic abilities some how run together?
    I have been dignosed with ADD.
    I have a hard time finding mature information on empaths without there being some kind of weird beliefs shoved in there. Often what I find appears to be written (I could be wrong) by wanna-be-something folks that like to play and pretend they know and have pyschic abilities, magic or whitchcraft or something like that. I get discouraged at the lack of mature intelligent info on empathic abilities. So, reading your article was encouraging to me and refreshing. I really like it.

    I am a Christian. No, dont take that the wrong way and assume I am the sterotypical type of Christian. I know Jesus to be God and to have freed me from many things by dying for my sins. But I am not a rule enforcer or a religious radical. I believe empathic abilities are a gift from God and can be used to help others. One should not ever think they are any better or more special then others because of their empathic abilities. In the Christian culture empaths are often thought to have discernment of some sort. But in the non-Christian culture discernment is called empaths. It appars to be the same thing but just worded different. Sadly most of the info on empaths are geared towards paganism only and do not help those empaths with other spiritual beliefs such as Christians,Jews, muslims and many others. It would be nice to see more info on empaths of the various religious cultures, sects, religions and beliefs. So I seek to find answers. A seeker. Empaths are seekers. The seekers of truth.

    • Hi BJ,

      Yes, you’re right on there: Empaths are most certainly seekers of truth.

      I’m afraid I don’t know too much about ADD or ADHD to comment on mis-diagnosis but it’s definitely worth exploring.

      Thanks for sharing and hope you get to find more info the religious cultures and empaths… or perhaps you’ll be the one to put the info out there (smile).


    • I just stumbled across your comment when looking for information on Christianity and being an Empath. (because I too want information without eastern mythology mixed in) I have ADD and my boyfriend is an empath. We are both Christians. I always felt like I am the opposite of an Empath because of my ADD. My ADD makes it harder to focus on any one thing, so I have a harder time figuring out what people are thinking and feeling (since my knowledge is solely based on body language, tone of voice, etc. but I pay less attention)
      Knowing how easily distracted I am from outside stimuli, I can only imagine how much worse it must be for you to have both. On the other hand, it gives you an advantage that I do not have in social situations.

    • Ahhhhhhh, I’m home at last <3… All my life I've known I was different. As a matter of fact, I believe my first cognizant thought was actually : "Why am I here?" and up until just recently, I was pondering that very same question…..until now! Oh I tried to be "normal" like everyone else….preoccupied with boys, money, physical appearance etc. etc….but I always found myself wanting….wanting so much more yet never finding it. After enduring and extremely traumatic childhood of ohysical abuse, additction and emotional/mental abuse I THOUGHT that I had come out of it pretty well adjusted and set about growing up and getting on with my life however I never felt that I have been really understaood by anyone…Always being made to feel that I was an alien from another planet and certainly the only one who felt and saw the world as I did. An outcast…a freak and more than what I was worth as a mate. I even tried the Christianity 'thing' and even fell for the brainwashing for a short time but all that resulted in was my severe distaste for organized religion of any kind. I mean, to me, it's just plain arrogant for these religious leaders etc. to claim that They HAVE IT ALL FIGURED OUT and what they don't which is MOST of the time…they chalk up to being Satanic. hahahaha REALLY?!?!

      Anyway, when I had children I once again put me on the back burner and actually tried my damnedest to be the normal perfect mom etc….but when I reached approx 35 years of age that's when all the advancements in medical science began…spewing out terms such as bi-polar, manic depressive and such and since no one in my life cared to see past that, I was labeled with each and every one of those and then some. Psycho Mom is the one that's really hurt the most…..and still does but at least I can say today that I'm a few steps closer to figuring out who I am and what I'm supposed to be really be doing here. I still have so many questions and I'm still confused as hell but I am grateful for people like you that are willing to take us newbies by the hand and help guide us through our journey.

      There are just a couple questions I wanted to ask then I'll be on my way. I too have a blog but it, like me has been in limbo for the past few years however I think I know now what I shall as well as should write about….I too saw myself unfold through every single one of the 30 traits of empaths you mentioned above except as someone said previously, number 28. I also love antiques because of the history connected. For some reason once I handle a historical object, I feel as though I'm catapulted back in time to when that object originated and know that much more about the people etc. connected with it.

      The scariest and I fear hardest thing I have yet to control, channel not even sure of the right words to use is my intense fear that overcomes me in regards to my childrens' welfare. I actually experience the most intense anxiety and panic attacks when I feel my kids 'might' be in danger which is almost ALL the time. :( I love them more than my life itself and they are the only family I have left in the world and they are now at the age where they mostly just push me away and leave me to my horrible imagination of the worst and since most of my life I've felt as though I've somehow lost God's love and favor….he will take the only things left that I care about….my kids. The last and most recent thing I've noticed though beside my recent diagnosis of Fibromyalgia is that every single time I touch metal of any sort…..I shock myself silly! Have you ever heard of this sort of phenomena amongst empaths?

      Anyway Moi, Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your article/blog. It has served to be quite comforting in knowing I'm NOT crazy nor alone… and for that I will always be grateful.


      aka angelheart

      • Welcome to the site. I have those feelings about my children too. I have to talk myself frequently out of having a panic attack. The feeling just instantly consumes me, sometimes I know why, other times I don’t. Most of the times it seems unfounded as my children are healthy and happy.
        I sent a request to your wordpress site. It might comes as “hereswhat”. You seem like such a lovely person.

      • Hi Debbie,

        You are very welcome.

        In regard to your electric shock treatment :), I too have experienced this on many occasions, over the years, although it never tends to be a consistent thing. I may get shocks from many things I touch, even my dog, for weeks or months at a time and then it just goes. Thinking about, it I’ve not had it for a while (guess I should touch wood there). And the fear you experience is, I would say, very common in Empaths. I do not have children, but I can relate to ‘The Fear’ you are talking about, which goes way beyond worry, it is all encompassing and paralyzing. And it is not helped by an Empath’s incredibly creative imagination (imagining, in the most vivid of colours, all the worst possible case scenarios). However, ‘The Fear’ is something I’ve found I can control through yoga and/or vigorous exercise (it burns the fear off), as well as avoiding caffeine at times of flare-ups. For Sensitives, it’s horrible that when we have such great love for something it can so easily be turned into such great fear.

        Thanks for sharing and the best of luck to you.

      • Hi Debbie,
        I relate to so much or what you say. I just want to share with you a great site. I had problems parenting and felt I was going crazy so many times. I am still working on it, and have only just read about Empaths and working all that out too.

        Have a look at AHA Parenting by Dr Laura Markham. She has great advice for parents wanting to be the best they can be and parenting with empathy.

      • Like you, I too have had ‘feelings’ regarding my child. One day I was feeling very ‘antsy and restless’ I didn’t know what was bothering me, but I felt I had to call my daughter. I called her up and asked her where she was. She was 19 at the time. She said she had just gone to the movies on a first date and was getting ready to get into her car and come home. I told her…leave NOW! I was adamant and said to her do not hang around and talk..get home! She listened to me and when she arrived home soon after…the feeling subsided. I asked her about her ‘date’ and she said she was glad I called because it gave her an excuse to leave right away. She said she got a ‘weird vibe’ from him and had already decided not to hang around any longer. I rarely get those ‘feelings’, but was grateful I did that day.

    • Hi,

      Wow is this spot on. I have always known about being able to feel others all my life ut got to say didn’t understand, just felt different or rather an observer and not belonging or fitting in, which I am mostly ok with not always. I remember at 5 having an out of body experience and have found I can control to some extent. I also feel people. The draining of negativity can bring me scarey low. Like the respondent below I feel electricity and shock alot of things in everything I touch and then its off for a while. like my electrolytes are off. I also find that I can share positivity. I find that really joyous and love sharing good thoughts with others. I do find people a bit overstimulating at times and prefer nature and my dawg and kids. I think I have one daughter that has it and would like to know how to help her understand and rejoice in the gift. She is 10 and I could just imagine how far I would be if I had been helped instead of such bad things happening because of not knowing. My Aunt had this too. She didn’t do so well with this and was shunned but she passed a few decades ago. I wish folks understoodthis, I feel its a gift from God and a great thing to explore and would like to find more info that helps with out the games of evil or satan involved. Labels are not what I am looking to find out, guidance. It has been a difficult journey as I have not always had great experiences and seem to get caught up in drama. Now I feel a whole world opening up to me in a very good way and would like to learn more!!


    • WOW…I’m amazed at how I’m seeing myself in all of you. Like you at 52 I started waking up. During my lifetime I’ve had several OBE’s. But the last one rocked my world as far as my Christian belief went. That experience taught me to stop making ourselves separate with labels and just BE while allowing others the same.

      Each of us has a different gift and we all use it differently. In the after life there is no religion or separation of beliefs… only the soul. My most recent OBE was to help my dog. He was choking, I went to him and helped him regurgitate…a washrag. I called my roomate the next day and sure enough it happened exactly in detail the way I described it. My pastor wasn’t receptive and I’ve never been back, bless his heart.

      I believe in my creator without requiring others to do so. I give others the respect of their individuality and their “personal” relationship. I no longer tell people what they should believe. It must be discovered within. Just like each empath on this board, no one expresses the gift in the same way.

      I was created exactly the way I am supposed to be, and so were you. I am no longer hiding or thinking I’m possessed or insane. And I’ve never looked back.

    • Dear BJ, your considerations and comments on the inquiry about Empaths are so similar to mine that I just needed to make a connection with you. Especially about wanting a more “mature” dialogue v. the “granola, Kumbaya singing, new age” stuff – no offense to those, but just not for me. I have struggled with this my whole life and being an Empath was just recently suggested to me by, of all people, my religious counselor. She is a minister, just not of my church ( i actually do not currently belong to one). I would be interested in corresponding with you on the matter. If you find this agreeable, please let me know. Sincerely, Tina

    • I was diagnosed with ADD. The medicine gave me terrible side effects and I’m off it now, I think it was shutting off the empathic part of my nature, because I had a huge emotional disconnect.

    • I also believe the points you brought up should be explored more deeply. Many symptoms described in this article are the symptoms that somehow get our kids into the “ADHD” category.

    • Being one who writes a lot about Empath stuff, I can tell you that I tend to avoid anything religious because it’s a real minefield and you’re going to knock a lot of noses out of joint.

      Not really sure how you would address such things from a Christian point of view, where many things are seeped in fear. :)

    • Me 2. I’ve always been able to tell what motivates anyone and if they have positive or negative intentions. Being around negative attitudes just knocks the energy of of me and can put me in alot of physical as well as mental pain. I cry so easy that my logical mind thinks it ridiculous. This are finally making sense

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