CAN SOMEONE BE AN EMPATH WITHOUT HAVING EMPATHY?

Have you ever wondered whether empathy is built-In? Does it come part and parcel of being an Empath? Or is it something that comes with the journey of life?

I was having a conversation with a friend the other day. He was explaining to me how he was teaching his daughter the impact of her actions, and how teasing or making fun of other children was not a kind thing to do. Which then led to the discussion as to whether telling your child is enough? Or do they have to experience unkindness from others for them to understand the impact of cruelty.

It got me thinking… If I hadn’t been on the receiving end of cruel words, as a child, would I have the same empathy and understanding as I do now? In that I always try to consider the effect of my words, and will avoid saying something that may hurt or offend another. Or, did my empathy come part and parcel of being an Empath?

Let’s face it, there aren’t many children who sail through life without getting bullied or teased for one thing or another.

I’m sure you all have memories of being picked on by someone, whether that be an older sibling, parent, teacher or other. I don’t think anyone really escapes. And whether sensitive or not, the effects of being on the receiving end of cruel words in childhood can be carried for a lifetime.

However, just because we were on the receiving end of unpleasant behaviour, doesn’t always mean we were innocents. People can have very one-tracked minds, or should I say they can have selective memories, in that they remember being hurt or teased, but don’t remember the things they did themselves as children.

I was by no means perfect as a child. In my youth I did my own fair share of inconsiderate stuff. I know I have said unkind words to others. Even though, at the time, I knew it was wrong.

Looking back, I’m not really sure why on occassions I was unpleasant. Perhaps I was finding my way in the world. Maybe even trying to fit in. However, I also think it could have been that I was mirroring certain people’s pain, especially in teenage years, there were so many strange emotions to deal with.

From a higher perspective, I was also giving myself an experience. Because one thing is for sure, the times when I said mean things to others, have stayed with me and haunted me through life.

Not that I realised this back then, but being an Empath meant I got to feel the impact of any cruel words I said. Like instant karma.

Now, in case you are wondering what types of things I said, it was just the usual childish stuff, and it wasn’t a regular occurrence. But had I not been on the receiving end of cruelty, and had I not myself participated, would I have the same level of empathy?

Something I love (and sometimes detest) about Empath life is there is always an experience to learn and evolve from; usually from experiencing difficult situations and difficult people.

As an adult, before I understood that not everyone felt the things I did as an Empath, it used to baffle me how people did or said unkind things without, seemingly, feeling anything. Or how they could let others down, without so much as a whiff of remorse.

Even now, I look around the world and see how people, who themselves have a history of being oppressed or bullied, openly attack others. Often it is that they are attacking those whose opinion are not the same. But attacking, ridiculing or bullying someone, because their opinions don’t align, shows a distinct lack of empathy. As the age old saying goes: two wrongs do not make a right.

So, this would suggest to me that enduring difficulties in life, at the hands of another, does not always build empathy.

We all get angry. (Yes, that includes the Empaths of the world.) It is a human emotion. But taking it out on another will never lead to anything good for anyone. Inside, I believe most adult Empaths can feel this. And this stops them from intentionally causing unnecessary pain to others. I say intentionally because we can all inadvertently offend or upset others from time to time. Whether that be through word or action.

I should probably also point out that being an Empath does not make us saints who are devoid of any ill-feelings towards others. We are human, having a human experience, and all the obstacles that come with it. But most Empaths will not lash out or give people a piece of their mind, especially in public. Unless they are defending another, whether that be human or animal.

One thing is for sure, you won’t find a real Empath being an online troll or bully, or publicly humiliating another. They tend to walk away, rather than attack, even when they know they’re right. (You may find a narcissist, disguising themselves as an Empath, attacking others in online spaces. But that’s a post for another day.)

I’m not saying an Empath won’t defend themselves, but they won’t generally be the one to openly ridicule or criticise another for their beliefs or opinions.

Why? Because they know what it feels like. Their empathy stops them. And that empathy also allows us to understand that we are all supposed to be different with different heroes, opinions, ideals and beliefs.

So, getting back to my original question, does empathy come with being an Empath? Yes, my answer is yes. We can certainly work on and build this empathy, and it will most certainly develop by ourselves enduring difficult times, but I would say it is very much part of being an Empath.

Hope this helps on your journey…

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

WHAT ARE THE BENEFITS OF BEING AN EMPATH?

It has to be said, there’s no getting away from it, life as an Empath can be difficult.

You may even question whether there are any benefits.

I suppose there’s not many who would deny that being an Empath has its challenges, and these are challenges that most other humans don’t have to deal with.

However, I have found that most of the challenges that arise for an Empath are born from being sensitive to the modern world, and the many toxins that are in it, from experiencing the energy of a stressed and fearful population, and being out-of-balance.

THE POSITIVE ASPECT OF EMPATH LIFE

Over the years, I have had so many comments from Empaths not understanding what they are here to do, and not finding any benefits of being an Empath. And today I hope to change that.

I have written a lot about the downsides of Empath life and ways to find balance, in my articles and books. And in this post, I want to focus on some of the incredible and positive aspects of Empath life.

To some, this post may seem egotistical, even arrogant. But one thing is for sure, it is needed.

During difficult times, many Empaths need reassurance of who they are and the purpose they serve, because it often appears as though all they do is ‘feel’.

This post isn’t a way to boost egos or make anyone feel superior. It’s about helping the Empaths of the world see and understand the purpose and benefits of their gift.

So here goes:

1. EMPATHS HAVE ADVANCED INTUITION

When they tune into its dynamic vibration, their intuition, also known as the Knowing, is a powerful tool that protects and serves the Empath. It is a silent friend and guardian that helps an Empath when making decisions, or just finding their way in life.

In a way, it’s like the Empath has an early warning system in place, that can guide them away from unnecessary encounters.

2. EMPATHS HAVE UNIQUE LIFE EXPERIENCES

Being energy sensitive offers the Empath experiences that few others get to have. The energy sensations they undergo when with people or within places are unique and precious.

Reading energy is an ability that comes naturally to an Empath, but is something most others have to train years for.

3. EMPATHS TEND TO BE CREATIVE AND HAVE WICKED IMAGINATIONS

Having a vibrant imagination means life will never be dull for an Empath. And this is something that money can’t buy.

There’s nothing more satisfying to the soul than spending time creatively, in which ever area of life you choose, the joy it brings is second to none.

All an Empath has to do is tune into their creativity and away they go.

4. EMPATHS LEARN AND EVOLVE FASTER THAN MOST

Have you noticed how many experiences that you have, compared to the people that you know? Both good and bad? If you are an Empath, you are on a fast-tracked path to learning.

Life is a school and every day has the opportunity for a new lesson and encounter.

All humans are here to learn and evolve. But boy, an Empath comes up trumps in that department.

Your ‘speedy growth’ is one of the reasons people cannot always relate to you. They’ve not had the experience or the lessons for themselves, so they cannot always understand your findings.

5. EMPATHS ARE A PRECIOUS GIFT TO OTHERS

Many people will come to an Empath to talk, when no one else listens. Listening is so healing for the one being heard. Not only is knowing you have helped someone heal, a gift in itself, but it has a positive ripple effect into your future.

6. EMPATHS HELP BRING LIGHT INTO THE WORLD

Every person alive brings their own light to the world, but because an Empath helps mop up the dark energies, in the ‘unseen realms’, it helps clear away so much of the energetic debris, so that ‘the light’ can shine through.

 7. EMPATHS ARE RARE

You may not think so, because you meet many other Empaths online, but Empaths are rare. How many people do you know, in your everyday life, that could call themselves an Empath? You are part of a unique breed of human.

Empaths want to change the world and help others, if only in their own little way, whether that be out in public or from their own private sanctuaries.

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So, there you go. Just a handful of benefits of being an Empath, but on their own they are a priceless gift.

I hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

DO YOU REALLY KNOW WHO YOU ARE AS AN EMPATH…?

It was back in 2011 when I started this blog, with the intention of sharing my research and findings, as well as sharing my own experiences, with the Empaths of the world.

Now, over ten years later, I have published 7 books and well over a hundred articles.

Although life is constantly changing, which means we have to adapt to those changes, much of the information I have posted over the years, in regards to Empath wellbeing, still remains relevant today.

For this reason, from time to time, I like to share some of the information that I have shared before.

I think it’s nice to have refreshers on some of the traits that define an Empath’s life. Because, let’s face it, they do come with their own set of challenges. It also helps those of my readers who haven’t seen the information before.

The following is an updated version of an article I originally posted in 2011 (I really cannot believe how fast time flies.) on Empath attributes and how they can impact life. Again, it’s information that still remains relevant and beneficial.

Another reason I thought it important to repost the article is because more and more people are waking up to the fact that some of the traits, which make them so uncomfortable in life and set them apart from others, are actually happening because they are an Empath.

I’ve updated the post, adding information that was not contained in the original, and put links on to other articles that give a greater explanation of those certain traits, in the hopes that it will make life easier for anyone in current need of the information.

Happy reading:

1. EMPATHS FEEL EMOTIONS BELONGING TO OTHERS

This is the most prominent trait of an Empath. Feeling and experiencing the emotions of the people around them, whether that be friends, family or strangers.

As an Empath How do You Know Whose Emotions You are Feeling? | 

2. BEING IN BUSY PUBLIC PLACES CAN BE OVERWHELMING FOR AN EMPATH 

Areas where there are a lot of people around can be overbearing for the Empath. The energy of lots of individuals, in a relatively small space, can have an almost a claustrophobic effect on their body and mind.

5 Easy Ways to Stop Empath Overwhelm |

3. AN EMPATH HAS A POWERFUL KNOWING

Most Empaths have a perception that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, although this is how many would describe the knowing. The more an Empath works on this gift, the stronger it becomes.   

Understanding an Empath’s Powerful Intuition |

4. VIOLENCE, CRUELTY OR TRADGEDY IS UNBEARABLE FOR AN EMPATH TO WITNESS 

The more sensitive an Empath becomes, the worse this trait gets. Some Empaths even stop watching TV and reading newspapers, to avoid the traumatic stories they put out.

AN EMPATH’S GUIDE TO LIVING IN THE WORLD | Empaths Empowered (wordpress.com)

5. AN EMPATH FREEZES AROUND INAUTHENTICITY

An Empath feels the energy of a lie, without trying. If someone is being dishonest or saying one thing whilst feeling or thinking another, they will feel it. This is often seen in the Empath stumbling over their words or just not being able to be themselves.

Why Empaths Freeze Around Inauthentic People | Empaths Empowered (wordpress.com)

6. THE EMPATH CAN ENDURE THE PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS OF ANOTHER 

Not only can an Empath experience the emotions belonging to others, they can also develop the ailments that another is suffering, such as body aches or pains. This reaction is somewhat like sympathy pains. The good news is, it can be controlled once the Empath is aware it’s happening.

Ever Wondered Why You Continue to Suffer as an Empath? |

 7. EMPATHS OFTEN SUFFER DIGESTIVE DISORDERS

The solar plexus (which is situated mid-stomach) is mostly where an Empath feels the emotions belonging to another. This can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS.

Does Diet Impact Your Empath Traits? |     

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8. THE EMPATH ALWAYS LOOKS OUT FOR THE UNDERDOG 

Anyone suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied, will draw an Empath’s attention and compassion.

How do You Know if You are an Empath or Simply Sensitive? |

9. PEOPLE LOVE TO OFFLOAD THEIR TROUBLES ON AN EMPATH 

If they are not careful, an Empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s problems. Eventually, they come to understand that the more attention they give to people, in regard to their issues, the more time they want to take from them.

Knowing it’s Time to Let Go of Toxic Friends or Family |

10. EMPATHS DEVELOP INTROVERT TRAITS 

Because the way the world makes them feel, many Empaths, who might have considered themselves to be extrovert, find themselves developing introvert traits.

How Do You Know If You’re An Introvert Empath? |

11. EMPATHS ARE HIGHLY REACTIVE AND OFTEN DEVELOP ADDICTIONS

Alcohol and drugs are just a couple of dependences some Empaths turn to, to block out all the emotions they experience, both their own and those they pick up from others. However, what starts as a form of self-protection often ends up as an addiction.

Want to Know One of the Worst Things for an Empath? |

12. EMPATHS HAVE A STRONG SENSE OF NOT BELONGING

Many Empaths go through life feeling like they don’t belong anywhere. It’s as though they have been dumped in a reality which is not a fit for them. The good news is, overtime, they find their place in life.

Why Do Empaths Have Such a Strong Sense of Not Belonging? |

13. AN EMPATH HAS A CREATIVE STREAK 

From singing, dancing, acting, or writing, an Empath has a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination. Being able to express themselves, through this creativity, allows them a sense of freedom, which in turn helps them grow, both spiritually and emotionally.

WHAT MAKES AN EMPATH? |

14. EMPATHS ACT LIKE A MIRROR 

An Empath can reflect back the truth that a person may be hiding from the world. Sadly, this is often the root-cause of resentments to build towards them, as too many people do not like to see their own reflection.

The Mirror Effect of an Empath & Why Some People Instantly Dislike You |

15. AN EMPATH HAS A DEFINITE NEED FOR SOLITUDE 

Most Empaths come to realise that they have to protect their space, and they do this by having a time out or just quiet time away from people. They need an escape from the noise of everything they experience, both physically and energetically.

Transform Your Empath Life With This One Thing |

16. EMPATHS BECOME EASILY BORED 

An Empath finds it near impossible to do things they don’t enjoy. Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for them or they switch off. This can be seen by a glazed look in their eyes, as their thoughts drift off to somewhere more entertaining, or you may see them doodling on a corner of paper. To force an Empath to do something they dislike, through guilt or labelling them as idle, will only serve in making them unhappy.

EMPATHS: WHAT IT IS YOU ARE HERE TO DO? |

17. EMPATHS ARE EASILY HURT

Because they are considerate, often putting the needs of others before their own, an Empath finds it difficult to understand those who don’t do the same. If you let an Empath down, or are overly critical of them, it will hurt them more than it hurts most others.

Why Are Empaths So Easily Hurt By Criticism? |

18. AN EMPATH ALWAYS STRIVES TO UNCOVER THE TRUTH

Anything untruthful simply feels wrong to an Empath. It also creates the feeling of having unanswered questions within. Deep down, an Empath knows, their truth will set them free, and this is what keeps them striving towards it.

One Thing That Will Set you Free as an Empath! |

19. EMPATHS LOVE TO LEARN AND HAVE NEW EXPERIENCES

An Empath understands that experience and knowledge are the only things they get to take away from this life. They know life is about learning and evolving, and this is something else an Empath is always aiming for.

Discover Your Purpose & Find Your Empath Wings |

20. AN EMPATHS STRUGGLES TO MAKE REAL CONNECTIONS

Because they are so adept at reading the truth of people, many Empaths find it difficult to build real relationships. If they feel someone is not showing their ‘true colours’, they will find it difficult to be themselves around them. Thus, causing an inability to truly connect.

5 Reasons Why an Empath Doesn’t Like You |

21. EMPATHS ABHOR CLUTTER 

Any kind of chaotic mess makes an Empath feel weighted and heavy. Clutter equates to stagnated energy, which is draining to both the body and mind of an Empath.

Clear Your Empath Clutter Transform Your Life! |

22. EMPATHS LOVE NATURE AND ANIMALS 

Being outdoors in nature is a must for an Empaths wellbeing, and animals tend to be an essential part of their life.

The Incredible Way Nature Can Heal An Empath Of Emotional Toxicity |

23. AN EMPATH FINDS ROUTINE, RULES OR CONTROL IMPRISONING

Anything that takes away an Empath’s freedom is poisoning to their soul. This is why some Empaths struggle with any kind of relationship that is overly controlling.

24. EMPATHS ARE PRONE TO CARRY WEIGHT WITHOUT NECESSARILY OVEREATING

The excess weight, carried mostly around an Empath’s belly area, is often caused by the constant activation of the stress hormones. This is another reason why it is so important for an Empath to control the emotions they experience, both their own and those they feel in others.

The Real Reason Empaths Have Heightened Emotions |

25. EMPATHS ARE EXCELLENT LISTENERS

An Empath loves to hear about the lives and wellbeing of others, and they genuinely care.

15 THINGS YOU NOTICE WHEN IN THE PRESENCE OF AN EMPATH |

26. AN EMPATH HAS AN INTOLERANCE TO NARCISSISM

Although kind and often very tolerant of others, Empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical or narcissistic people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider anyone’s feelings or points of view, other than their own.

Is the Empath Really an Introvert Narcissist? |

27. AN EMPATH CAN FEEL THE ENERGY OF THE DAYS OF THE WEEK

An Empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ whether they work Fridays or not. This is because they pick up on the energy of the collective. For example: the beginning of a working week has a very heavy feeling, which is not surprising considering 80% of the workforce don’t like their jobs. Whereas public holidays can feel like the world is smiling: calm and relaxed.

Is There More to an Empath Than Just Feeling Others’ Emotions? |

28. EMPATHS MIGHT AVOID BUYING VINTAGE OR ANTIQUE

Anything that has been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. If an Empath is overly sensitive to residual energy, they often avoid second-hand items.

What’s the Deal with Antiques and Empaths? |

29. AN EMPATH EXPERIENCES THE ENERGY OF SUFFERING IN BUILDINGS AND PLACES

If a trauma has happened in an area or site, an Empath will sense it, often as dark marauding feelings within. This energy can make them feel sad or even depressed. The feelings of which, can stay with them for some time after. For this reason, it really helps for the Empath to ground themselves before visiting places where they know a trauma has happened or where dark energy is residing.

Residual Energy and How It Impacts the Empath |

30. EMPATHS MIGHT APPEAR MOODY AND WITHDRAWN

When an Empath experiences too many negative emotions, whether they be their own or those picked up from others, they may appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. Depending on how they feel inside will depend on what ‘face’ the world sees. When an Empath feels this way, it is best for them to be left alone until they have had chance to ‘recalibrate’.

Why Certain People Acts as a Trauma Trigger for An Empath |

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

Empaths: Stop Absorbing Other People’s Emotions

One thing we all know, as Empaths, is that we feel other people’s emotions.

Which isn’t always a bad thing, when they aren’t affecting us in a negative way.

However, the problem arises when we start absorbing the emotions, belonging to others, and taking them on as our own.

Regularly absorbing other peoples’ emotions can affect our health and happiness in so many different ways. Often leading to issues such as emotional toxicity.

When we absorb other people’s emotions it can affect not only the way we feel, but also the way we think. It impacts our adrenals, which are the stress glands. This then has a knock-on effect on the other endocrine glands, which are the glands that produce our hormones. This in turn can lead to hormone imbalances.

Everything in the body is connected, and so are our endocrine glands. When one hormone goes out of balance, it can affect another gland and the hormones it produces. So, what starts off as absorbing another’s emotions, and thus taking on their stress, can eventually lead to thyroid issues, chronic fatigue, food intolerances, and so much more.

I often describe the aftereffect of Empaths absorbing negative emotions as like having an allergy or food intolerance. Just like an allergen might give you a physical reaction, when you come into contact with it, you can get a physical reaction from the emotions you absorb.

And, just like with food intolerances, you don’t always get the symptoms straight away. Sometimes it’s not until the day after that you feel the impact.

The First Step

Every Empath quickly discovers of their ability to sense the emotional energy in others, but some struggle to distinguish these emotions from their own.

I often get asked questions like: ‘How do I define what I feel in another person?’ or ‘How do I know when emotions are coming from others?’

Not understanding what other people’s emotions represent, within your own body, is more common than you might think within the Empath world.

When I was younger (teens and twenties), I did not know I could sense another person’s emotions. I thought my own insecurities made me feel uneasy when around certain people. If anyone carried hidden pain, negative energy or anger issues, I felt them as a deep sense of discomfort. Which I wrongly interpreted as being part of my own social hang-ups.

Before I had heard the term ‘Empath,’ I was already working on myself in the mind, body and spirit.  But, unbeknownst to me, when I began developing a spiritual practise, as well as striving for balance, I began to sense other people’s energy/emotions more intensely.  And it did not feel good. I was later to discover that by developing a spiritual practice it effectively purifies the Empath and speeds up their vibration. Meaning, anything of a lower vibration feels awful.

Symptoms of Absorbing Negative Emotions

Generally speaking, when we absorb emotional energy off others, we might interpret it as the emotion we either least enjoy or that which is related to an unresolved issue.

Also, after having absorbed external emotions, you might feel like you’re coming down with a cold, or perhaps you might become excessively fatigued, or even angry. The response will be unique to you, and is something you need to watch out for. Basically, it is a stress response, except you are experiencing and absorbing another person’s stress.

So, we either want to stop it from happening in the first place, or take steps to stop external emotions doing harm.

If you are one who dislikes people in your ‘personal bubble’ you will not welcome their emotional energy either, especially if you then start absorbing it.

It often takes a while for an Empath to learn how not to absorb the emotional energy of others. And just by being an Empath, does not mean you automatically understand the energy you feel or are able to prevent it from affecting you.

The Human Allergy

There will also be some people in your life to whom you actually become ‘energetically allergic’. You have a reaction, no matter what steps you take for protection.

This is more evident in the Empaths who have leaky aura, those who are out of balance, or those who suffer with histamine sensitivity or have allergies.

Just like an allergen, some people you have to avoid, or at least until they change their emotional energy or you heal your imbalances.

Protect Yourself from Absorbing Emotions

When it comes to protection, from absorbing other people’s emotions, grounding yourself is, of course, paramount. See this post on Grounding for Empaths.

My last article, discussed how Forest Bathing and Earthing are incredible for clearing and protection. I have also got some top protection tips further down.

Staying in balance and looking after your health, in both body and mind, is huge when it comes to protection.

When unhealthy, your aura can weaken. Basically, with a weakend aura, you become like a sponge for other people’s emotions.

As I often mention, my posts and books are written with the intention of helping the Empaths of the world find balance. And, as we are all different, what works for one won’t always work for another. It does take work. We have to be dedicated in our own healing.

So, getting back to protection from absorbing emotions, one of the first things is avoiding caffeine, either when in public places or when spending time around people.

Avoid Caffeine

Being a stimulant, caffeine will heighten any emotions you are experiencing or absorbing. You don’t always realize how caffeine worsens your emotions because the effects kick in 30 to 40 minutes after consumption.  It can make you anxious and jittery, and negative emotions are amplified. Both your own and those you feel in others.

If you are a coffee addict, and can’t imagine a day without your favourite blend, be sure not to drink it on an empty stomach. Or if you do, have it with heavy cream, to prevent the caffeine from entering into your system too quickly.

Short Burst of High Intensity Exercise

Another way I have found to be excellent for emotion clearing and protection, which I realise will not be for everyone, is high intensity exercise.

 A mini power-walk or run, dynamic yoga moves, dance routines or skipping, etc.  helps burn off raging or uncomfortable emotions. I’m talking very doable bursts of exercise that last between 1 to 5 minutes. The sooner you do it, after absorbing emotions, the better the results.

Performing short bursts of high intensity exercise releases feel-good endorphins into the body, which block the pain transmission signals and produce euphoric feelings that calm the entire system. A quick power pose can also be beneficial.

A great power pose I have used, when I have been emotionally fired-up, is the plank.

Most of you will have heard of the plank; it is a challenging yoga move that activates all the muscles in the body. Maintaining it for just 30 seconds is often all it takes to blast out any overwhelm or negative energy.

There is a variation of the plank to do whatever your fitness level, from beginners and beyond. You will find plenty of excellent instructional videos on YouTube to get you started for both the plank and high intensity exercise.

Whatever exercise you choose, as your mini blast, make sure to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable and your muscles have that burning sensation. I’m not talking putting yourself into pain or throwing yourself into exercise that is beyond your fitness levels. I mean get a little out of breath and feel the ‘burn’ within the core of your muscles .

However, if you are unfit, seek the advice of a fitness professional before embarking on any exercise program.

If doing any of the above does not appeal to you, never fear. There’s more.

Stop Absorbing Other People’s Emotions

The following post: 16 Ways for Empaths to Protect from Other People’s Emotions, is a quick go-to guide. It gives lots of different options of tried and tested techniques that work in either being protective or preventative. You could print it out and keep on hand as a reminder.

Brain fog seems to be affecting so many people lately, not just Empaths. Because of this, we often forget to take the essential steps we need to take before or after being around people. Having a printout works as a reminder of what we could/should be doing.

So, hopefully, this post will help you understand how absorbing other people’s stress can impact you as an Empath. We already have enough issues and stresses to deal with in everyday life, we really don’t want to be taking on any more 😉.

I hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

The Incredible Way Nature Can Heal An Empath Of Emotional Toxicity

You may have heard the term emotional toxicity, but didn’t really know what it entailed or whether it applied to you or not.

So, in today’s post, I will walk you through some of the symptoms and then discuss how spending time in Nature offers natural incredible healing.

When we become emotionally toxic, it is most often caused by either having experienced a stressful event, from having a diet and lifestyle that does not agree with us, or even from contaminants in our environments or WIFI.

On top of that, as Empaths, we can also experience emotional toxicity by experiencing or absorbing too many negative emotions.

When we become overwhelmed with emotions, whether they be ours or those we lift from others, the ability to properly filter our feelings becomes compromised. Our insecurities resurface and we often become vulnerable and emotionally intoxicated.

Here are some other ways we can be affected by emotional toxicity:

Signs of Being Emotionally Toxic

1.  We don’t feel ourself

This is the biggest sign we are emotionally toxic; not feeling like our usual self. Its almost as if our energy is stagnant and sludgy, and we lack the energy to find ways to snap ourselves out of it.

2. We lack motivation

If we become lethargic in both our body and mind, and don’t feel like trying anything new, this could be another sign of emotional toxicity. Especially if you once considered yourself as a bit of a go-getter. When our vitality diminishes, it becomes an effort to make decisions or to stay on top of everyday tasks

3. We find fault in most things

When we constantly see faults and flaws in the world, it can be a sign that we have become so overwhelmed by emotions that it has altered our perception. We seem to find our focus is constantly taken to negative issues.

4. We can’t let go of that which no longer serves

When suffering with emotional toxicity, we often become stuck in life. We can’t move forward because we are either too afraid to let go of that which no longer serves or we lack the motivation.

5. We quickly get on the defensive

If we are highly sensitive to others over the slightest things, when we never used to be, there is always a reason. When we become overly defensive, it’s often because we are protecting ourselves from what we could consider to be harmful.

6. We feel insecure

If our confidence has massively waned and we lose faith in ourself, this could be another tell-tale sign of toxicity. When our self-esteem takes a nosedive and we have become burdened with insecurities, we often feel utterly defenceless, almost as though we have lost our power.

How Nature Can Help

Ok, now that we know what emotional toxicity is, let’s take a look at how Nature can help.

As an Empath, you will already be aware that there is nothing more healing to the body, mind and spirit than being in Nature.

A stroll through a beautiful woodland, over a grassy meadow or near a natural-flowing stream is not only uplifting but it is also grounding.

It is not by chance Empaths love being outdoors. Our inner Knowing guides us towards the Earth’s natural healing to harness its power.

Spending time in Nature is uplifting for all humans, but to the Empath it activates a special kind of magic. It removes impurities from the energy field, quietens a busy stressed mind and helps purge emotional toxicity.

Even sitting in our garden listening to the birds sing, whilst eyeing over the vegetation, has a clearing and calming influence.

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15 Questions to Determine if You’re an Empath, Old Soul or Both

If you’re reading this, I expect you’ll already consider yourself to be an Empath?

Would you also say you’re an old soul? Or have you never really given it much thought?

It doesn’t really matter either way whether you’re an old soul or not, but one thing I know about the majority of ‘old soul Empaths’ is they are always on the lookout for kindred spirits or even just to have confirmations of what they naturally experience.

You would assume that all old souls are highly Empathic, which most are, but not all Empaths are old souls. People can be sensitive, as well as being sensitive to energy, without having deep, old soul wisdom.

I should also note that just because one Empath is an old soul does not make them more superior to another. This life is a journey of evolvement for everyone. And everyone has different jobs and lessons to learn…. But still, it’s nice to have confirmation of what you feel inside.

If you want to know if you’re an Empath, see this post first. If you already know you’re an Empath but want to know if you own old soul traits, here’s some questions and explanations that will help you make that determination:

1. Do you strive to live authentically with yourself?

One thing an Empath is known for is zoning in and abhorring the energy of a lie. But an old soul is also striving to find the truth in themselves. Which, let’s face it, is not such an easy task when you’ve had many layers of programming to unpeel. An old soul strives to understand their own actions and insecurities and are constantly working to release implanted lies and beliefs.

2. Do you love spending lots of time alone?

Many people love alone time, especially Empaths. But time spent in solitude is a necessity for an old soul. It’s a way to unplug from the external energies and cleanse oneself of that which does not belong. Sort of like regrouping with self. It can also be classed as a spiritual experience for many old souls.

3. Would you say you have a strong intuitive nature?

Empaths just know things, but so do old souls. An old soul might not understand or be able to control their intuition, but it certainly proves to guide them through life. Over and over again, their intuition proves itself to be accurate, if they listen.

4. Are you always on the lookout for new ways to improve yourself?

At a higher level an old soul knows they are here to grow, evolve and learn. The knowledge, and love, gathered on this journey are the only things we get to take with us. No material stuff or riches come with us when we leave our body. So, it makes sense that the old soul instinctively knows the more life experiences they collect, the ‘wealthier’ they are.

5. Do you feel like an outsider?

Many old soul Empaths often feel like an outsider to other people, even other Empaths and highly spiritual people. They may feel like they don’t quite fit in anywhere.

6. Are you always plotting new adventures and wanting to see the world?

This is an inbuilt trait, just like needing to learn, there is an instinctive desire to visit new places and have new experiences.

7. Are you sensitive to the needs of others, even those who have shown not to care about your own needs?

An old soul is understanding of the requirements of others. They understand why others act in certain bad ways (doesn’t mean they like it), and in turn are more understanding to their needs.

8. Do you feel overly mature but still remain childlike?

Somewhat of a contradiction there, wouldn’t you say? Having maturity, yet at the same time feeling immature, especially in comparison to others. Being childlike is seeing the wonder in everything, becoming excited about new projects and always looking for the new escapades that can be had in life.

9. Can you change people’s energy with your gaze?

Although this may sound like a weird type of mind control, it’s more of a way of telepathically communicating energy through projection.

Imagine having a conversation with someone and all they are doing is putting others down or being angry, when an old soul holds their gaze they can project their peaceful energy, soothing and calming them down.

10. Are you naturally drawn to spiritual concepts and ideas?

All things magical and spiritual will draw an old soul in. Crystals, natural healing, ancient magical mysteries and powerful energetic places capture their interest.

11. Can you not help but learn?

An old soul has an in-built desire to learn. They may take breaks, from time to time, from learning new stuff, but a theme of life will be study. Generally, subjects have expiry dates.  When all has been learnt from a certain topic, then the interest in it often expires.

12. Do people say you have a naturally calming and healing energy?

When in balance, an old soul has a naturally calming energy. People and animals love to be around them. They get drawn in by their calming light energy. When out of balance, however, the opposite is true. They might actually repel people. Reason being, they are powerful projectors. When out of balance, this energy is projected out.

13. Do you have a tendency to be introvert, but can easily transform to being extrovert?

Many old souls would consider themselves to be an ambivert, sitting somewhere between the introvert and extrovert. Depending on life circumstances, jobs, etc, will depend on where their tendencies lie. Also, their age. The older they get the more they embrace introvert tendencies.

14. Can you spot insincere behaviour in others a mile off?

When someone is faking it, no matter how well their behaviour is masked, an old soul senses it in their energy. Manipulative people and grandiose narcissists are exceptional at masking their behaviour in pleasantries and fake kindness. They could have the world fooled, but an old soul will sense their insincere and calculating behaviour.

15. Do you find the more you know, the less you speak?

Last but not least. This is something all old souls become aware of. If someone is not meant to hear an old soul’s wisdom, it won’t matter how loud they shout, or how articulate they are in their wording, others won’t hear them.

They soon come to understand that they have no need to try to convince others of their knowledge or findings. Everyone is on their own journey of evolvement and information comes to them when the time is right.

The voyage into ‘awareness’ has a unique starting point for everyone. Information is rarely delivered in one big package. It generally comes in many small parcels over the years. For this reason, the more one knows, the quieter they become.

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The more nods you gave to this list, the more chance you are an old soul.

It should be noted that just because someone is an old soul does not mean everything in life will be easy. Far from it. It certainly seems that the more evolved the person the more challenges they face.

It doesn’t help that most old souls become out of balance because they are overly sensitive to this toxic world.

If you are an out of balance old soul, from being around bad energy, toxic environments, or from consuming inappropriate diets etc, you will not necessarily identify with all the above traits. You will be very disconnected from your higher self and your inherent ways of being.

I discuss the ways in which most Empaths, whether old soul or not, become out of balance in some of my books. Three in particular: 7 Secrets of the Sensitive, Become a Super-Empowered Empath and The Eating Plan for Empaths & HSPs.

As already noted, it really doesn’t matter whether you’re an old soul, an Empath or both. ‘Labels’ just help us understand our ways. And sometimes it’s just nice to know that we’re not alone in our behaviours. Our traits are shared with many others, who are having similar life experiences…

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

TOP 10 POSTS FOR EMPATHS

Greetings.

I hope everything is keeping really well in your world during these challenging times.

As you probably know, things are massively changing in the world. As Empaths, we are picking up on all the fear and uncertainty that is all around us, which is affecting many of us in some very random ways.

It is in these times that we have to remain vigilant of keeping ourselves in a good place, both mentally and physically.

But it doesn’t help that it is so much harder to find articles on the internet these days in regards to natural health and wellbeing. It seems like the majority of ‘alternative’ self-help articles are hidden from view or it takes a lot of scrolling through search engines to find what we need.

For this reason, I thought it would be a good idea to share some of the most popular posts, from my blog, that have been shared on social media and the like over the last 12 months.

You may have already read some of the following articles, depending on how long you’ve been following this blog, some of them go back to 2011, but it’s always nice to have a refresher.

We are often presented with information, that we need to hear/see, when the time is right. It could be stuff we already know, but have squirreled away to the back of our mind for a ‘rainy day’. But when it’s re-presented, it usually means it is something we need.

So, let’s get to it.

Simply click on the title to read the post:

The Top 10 Post for Empaths

1. The Mirror Effect of an Empath & Why Some People Instantly Dislike You

This post explains how an Empath can reflect back to people their true personality traits, the traits that they have hidden from the world.

2. How Do You Know If You’re Really an Empath?

Over the years, I have often been asked, by readers, how to determine whether they are an Empath. This article is the simple answer.

3. Why Empaths Freeze Around Inauthentic People

This is one of the most popular posts on my blog. It has been shared and copied millions of times. The article explains the ‘inauthenticity reaction’ in an Empath. People who carry an ingenuine vibe or hide their true personality traits can make an Empath feel very uncomfortable. So much so, it makes them ‘close down’. This post explains why.

4. Balancing Masculine and Feminine Energy… Notes for an Empath

We all contain masculine and feminine energy. When they are out of balance it can create many problems within the body and mind. This post explains the whys and hows of it all and how you can work to rebalance the two. Continue reading

7 REASONS WHY YOU ARE NOT A HAPPY EMPATH

Everyone has times when they are not happy. There will always be ups and downs. Life tends to throw things our way that takes us off course or puts us in a dark place for a period of time.

Everyone experiences difficulties.

No one is exempt.

And it’s not always because you are doing something wrong.

However, there are some ways of being that will keep you unhappy if you don’t work to fix them.

The good news is they are very fixable. The problem is just figuring out what is really making us unhappy. Because, it is too easy to blame it on the wrong thing.

As the old saying goes: ‘You’re not unhappy for the reasons you think.’

So, without further ado, let’s take a look at 7 reasons why you might not be happy as an Empath:

1. STAYING IN VICTIM MODE

When you feel like a victim you will live like a victim, and you will be unhappy. You will attract back more situations to match this victim vibration.

Everyone has issues from their past, involving other people, that cause them pain in the present. But constantly keeping your mind focused on these injustices, and overthinking them, only serves in keeping you trapped in unnecessary strife.

 

Instead of focusing on your vulnerabilities, or past injustices, keep your mind on all your positive attributes. Trust in yourself. The more you think this way, the happier you will feel.

2. FEELING LIKE YOU DON’T FIT IN

There is a saying that if you feel like you don’t fit into this world it’s because you are here to create a new one. Which I think is very fitting for the Empaths of the world.

Being an Empath often means you will feel different. Because you are different, in many ways. But that doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.

It is difficult for anyone who has a gentle spirit to fit into a system like the one we live in, and indeed around people who are committed to misunderstanding you.

But remember, you don’t have to hide who you are or pretend to be someone else in order to fit in. When you are yourself, the right people will love and respect you.

3. A LACK OF GRATITUDE

Where focus goes energy flows.

When you feel resentful or not grateful for all that you have in your life you attract back more of the same.

Having gratitude really does change the way you feel and think.

Be grateful for everything that matters in your life and don’t focus on what doesn’t.

As Rhonda Byrne would say: ‘There is always, always, always something to be grateful for’.

4. HOLDING A GRUDGE

One of the biggest factors that will keep you unhappy in life is holding a grudge.

If someone has hurt you, the worst thing you can do is carry a grudge around with you. All that is doing is keeping the pain alive within.

As hard as it is to do, if anyone has betrayed you or let you down, let it go. Don’t put energy into it. Otherwise, you will continue to recycle the experience, which only allows for more resentments to grow.

 Closure comes from within. You hold the power to give yourself the peace you deserve.

5. EXTERNAL EMOTIONS

As you know, being an Empath means not only do you experience your own emotions, you can lift and take on those from the people you surround yourself with. This becomes a problem, in creating unhappiness, when you constantly invite these emotions in, and take them on as your own.

There are several reasons why an Empath will take on too many external emotions, which I have written about here, here, here and here.

The good news is, as discussed in the aforementioned posts, there are several things you can do to either block or diffuse these emotions, that prevents them from making you unnecessarily unhappy.

6. AN UNHEALTHY DIET AND LIFESTYLE

Your diet and lifestyle impact your happiness more than you may know.

Anyone who is Sensitive tends to be sensitive to many things in this modern world, and that includes chemicals in the environment, food and even stress.

Empaths get sick sooner than those who don’t feel everything so powerfully and often feel greater levels of melancholy.

Because of their sensitivities, many Empaths have to be extra vigilant with their diets and lifestyle.

Having seen, first-hand, how diet and lifestyle can negatively impact Empath traits and thus happiness, I wrote a book on the subject. Read more here and here.

 Addressing what you eat, as well as getting in some endorphin-boosting-exercise, can have a major impact on how happy you feel as an Empath.

7. PEOPLE WHO POISON YOUR SOUL

You deserve to be happy. You don’t deserve to be around people who drain your energy and poison your soul.

You shouldn’t have to sacrifice your peace and happiness just to give others what they want, especially when they are not willing to look out for your needs in return.

If spending time with someone is making you unhappy, or if they repeatedly bring you down, they are harming your health. And it is up to you to either break the connection or confront the situation.

We cannot change others. We can only change ourselves.

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If you are an Empath, chances are you have worked hard to find your happiness. Trust in the progress you’ve made. Know that every experience you have is taking you somewhere special.

Every step you take to transform your life is a step in the right direction.

Your sensitivity really is your superpower!

And finally, remember this: You matter. You are special and loved, even when your thoughts tell you otherwise, and you deserve happiness.

You may also want to read this post.

Until next time.

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

 

 

11 CALMING & HEALING TEAS FOR AN EMPATH

As you know, here on my blog, I like to write articles about how to make life easier for an Empath, and how to combat the emotions they often have to deal with.

One of those ways is by sipping a lovely cup of healing char.

Teas that calm your soul and soothe your emotions have so many benefits for an Empath.

Because, let’s face it, one problem that comes with Empath life is having heightened or erratic emotions. (Especially after what we’ve all been through these past two years.)

Heightened emotions can lead to all sorts of health issues, especially of the adrenal glands (endocrine glands that produce the stress hormones adrenaline and cortisol).

When the adrenals get overactivated, by too much stress, it can cause a whole host of mental and physical problems, as well as autoimmune conditions…

Increased cortisol can also lead to weight gain (hello pot belly), without you having to overeat. Which is made all the worse worse if you drink coffee with caffeine.

So, anything we can do to help soothe our emotions, naturally, is a big bonus for all-round wellbeing (and for our waistline). And this is where herbal teas come in…

Nature gave us many of the things we need to heal, or find calm in life, in the way of herbs and spices. Too often, when on the hunt for a ‘quick-fix’, we overlook these powerful healers.

Drinking more herbal tea not only increases your water intake (water being another great one for soothing emotions), but it gives you the healing benefits of the herbal infusion at the same time.

My Choice

Although I am about to share 11 exceptional soothing teas, I have two favourites: Chamomile and Valerian.

Chamomile is so lovely and comforting as a tea; its calming effects can be felt within ten to fifteen minutes after consumption.

Valerian is the same, although too much drank through the day can make you feel a bit sleepy, but it is great for soothing the emotions.

One of the problems with the most beneficial herbal teas is they might not have the best flavour. A way I have found to overcome this is by mixing them with other teas or natural flavourings that I like the flavour of.

I actually don’t mind the flavour of Chamomile, so I’m happy to drink it alone (usually 2 teabags per cup). Valerian, however, does not have the most pleasant aroma or taste. So, I mix it with lemon and ginger, which makes it more palatable. Cinnamon is also good flavour infuser.

When it comes to purchasing teas, a little advice, buy a small amount first.

Herbal teas can be expensive. The last thing you want is to buy in bulk before trying, because you may not like the taste, no matter what you mix it with, or the herb might not agree with your system.

I often buy from independent retailers on eBay, who sell sample sizes. This way, I get to see how a certain tea suits my body and mind before purchasing more.

Brewing Your Herbal Tea

Depending on whether you are using loose teas or a teabag, there are numerous ways you can brew your herbal teas: A mug, a pan on the stove, a teapot or an infuser (container that allows you to put loose tea herbs in).

I have a little teapot that has its own infuser, which ensures the loose herbs don’t get mixed in with the water. The teapot also keeps the water hot whilst the teas blend and brew. The tea infuser can be removed when the desired strength is achieved, but I tend to leave mine in.

I find the longer the tea is brewed, the more potent the brew. But sometimes, a few minutes is all that is needed to get the calming benefits of the herbal tea.

Although the following teas have numerous healing benefits, I’m mainly listing their soothing qualities for an Empath. So, without further ado, here’s your list of emotion calming teas:

1. Valerian Tea

Valerian is often used as a sleep aid. It is known to help with anxiety and for soothing stress-induced headaches. It is also brilliant for relaxing tense muscles (a problem many Empaths suffer with), which in turn calms the sympathetic nervous system (read more here). Valerian is also perfect for calming ‘wired’ emotions.

2. Chamomile Tea

As well as having incredibly calming and sedative qualities, chamomile is known to help with an upset stomach, which many Empaths suffer with after experiencing too much emotional energy, and many other ailments. It contains an antioxidant called apigenin that is known to induce sleep, which makes it perfect if you are a creative night-time thinker, and are kept awake by your active mind.

3. Holy Basil Tea

Holy basil is a herb that has several medicinal uses. It is particularly well-known for its benefits for generalised anxiety disorder (GAD). More and more studies are showing that it improves physical, metabolic and psychological stress. It is often used for boosting mental health and for balancing stress hormones. A perfect tea for an Empath who easily picks up the stress from others.

4. Lemon Balm Tea

Lemon Balm has been used traditionally for many years to improve mood and boost brain power. It is believed to work by boosting GABA, a neurotransmitter that reduces stress. Lemon Balm is often used to treat depression and anxiety. It has also been used as a sleep aid.

5. Ginseng Tea

Ginseng is another great all-round herb, used for several disorders of the body and mind. It is also used to calm stress and anxiety. It is known to help reduce the effects of stress and fatigue. Ginseng is also known to benefit brain function. Which is great for an Empath if they are suffering with a bout of brain fog that has been brought on from too much people energy.

6. Lavender Tea

Lavender is well-known for its calming and sedative effects. Lavender is a great allrounder for both body and mind of an Empath, and great for soothing anxiety or stressed emotions.

7. Passionflower Tea

Passionflower is a herb that is popular as a sleep aid, (especially good when combined with Valerian). Passion flower is native to North America, yet is now grown throughout Europe. Drank as tea, it is calming and soothing to the emotions, and supports relaxation.

8. Peppermint Tea

Peppermint is known to heal anxiety symptoms or stress-induced emotions. It also offers an uplift if you are feeling drained from Empath fatigue. Peppermint is known to contain antioxidant, antibacterial and antiviral properties. It is often used for digestive upset. Which is great for those Empaths who experience stomach disturbances, such as IBS, due to experiencing stressed emotions. (Be careful if you have excess stomach acid, or gastritis, as it can aggravate it.)

9. Ashwagandha Tea

Ashwagandha is an ayurvedic herb known to combat stress and fatigue. it is believed to be especially good for those who have a nervous disposition. Ashwagandha is adaptogenic and is often used to reduce inflammation in the body that could have been brought on by stress. It is known to lower cortisol levels (a stress hormone that is often raised in Empaths) and improves mood.

10. Turmeric Tea

Turmeric is rich in the anti-inflammatory compound curcumin. It is known to be a great all-round healer. It has been used to treat anxiety and depression, but is good to use to soothe anxious emotions. Empaths will benefit from regularly drinking turmeric tea or taking it in supplement form to keep their emotions, and thus health, in check.

11. Liquorice Tea

Liquorice comes with many benefits, not least for relieving pain, stress and depression. It is known to reduce stress and anxiety, and is good to soothe the emotions. Which makes it perfect for an Empath who experiences more than their fair share. Liquorice has been shown to increase the relaxing benefits of Valerian. It has a sweet flavour and can be used to make other stress-busting teas more palatable.

You may also find this post on Essential Oils of interest.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

10 Reasons Why People are Intrigued by Empaths

I do hope everything is keeping well in your world.

Today, I’m back with a post that explains some of the reasons why people are quietly intrigued by an Empath.

Most will never say it, but the following traits do get noticed. Enjoy…

1. An Empath’s Mysterious Ways Cause Fascination

Because an Empath often displays quiet mysterious ways, it can be most intriguing to the outside observer.

An Empath usually has a peaceful yet mystifying aura. They have a strong sense of intuition that helps them understand others’ feelings. They know when someone is sad, despite a cheery smile, or if someone is being fake.

Empaths make others’ feel comfortable, but at the same time they can be complicated and difficult to read, which further adds to their mysterious aura.

2. Empaths Have Distinctive Hobbies and Careers

Many Empaths are contradictions in what they do, whether that be for work or as a hobby. It wouldn’t be unusual to find an Empath with several careers going on at the same time. From being a scientist to a writer, actor to hair stylist, mathematician to nurse, an Empath’s diverse career/hobby choices often puzzle others.

Even if an Empath doesn’t have multiple careers/hobbies, their interests will be diverse. They may read a book on horses one week, a book on Egyptian pyramids the next, then a book on how to heal the aura another week.

Many Empaths class themselves as being Multipotentialites. They like to have many life experiences, are often quietly creative, and thrive when around those from whom they can learn.

3. An Empath May Look Composed Yet Inside They are Crumbling

Something that baffles those who know an Empath, is when they appear externally calm, cool and collected, yet on the inside they are actually crumbling.

An Empath may feel a world’s worth of emotions, and still wear a smile. They often keep their thoughts and emotions to themselves. Having a meltdown in public is not a favourable thing. So, they hold it together until they can be alone.

4. Empaths Suffer by Observing Suffering

An Empath has a nose for those in need. They look out for the underdog, and will tuck those who are suffering under their wing.

To see or feel another in pain can actually make them suffer. They like to give time to those who really need it.

5. Empaths Have Their Own World

Empaths are often endless thinkers, and have an inner world that can be both magical and menacing; but it is a place that offers them great fascination. Their minds can be playful and imaginative and offers them hours of distraction and entertainment.

Because of this exciting inner-world, they sometimes appear to be spaced out or not on people’s wavelength.

An Empath needs to feel things at their own pace and in their own time. No one can force them to see their world differently. It is what it is. Usually, it is only those who are closest to them who understand their stillness.

6. Empaths Are Quiet Perfectionists Yet Often Make Mistakes

Empaths are confusing in that they can be both perfectionists but also careless. They can be as laid back as they come, but when it comes to their work or offerings, they like to see everything perfect. Yet still, they often miss small mistakes.

Why?

Because they are often looking at the bigger picture, sometimes obsessively, so they miss/overlook small details.

7. Empaths Both Like and Dislike Being Around People

Yet another contradiction. An Empath can be both introverted to the point of avoiding people completely, to being people-orientated and extrovert.

Considering they lift the emotions of others; Empaths often perform better than expected when in social situations. But in turn, they need time out from the world to heal and repair. This makes them like and not like being around people. Which often leaves those who they socialise with confused, as to their shifting nature.

Empaths are sensitive to the needs of others, but they get torn between their recharge time and their social duties.

8. Empaths Form Deep Connections Despite Initial Apprehensions

Empaths often crave deep connections with others. But in the beginning of a friendship or relationship, they might struggle to be themselves openly. This might push people away from them, giving the impression that they are uncaring, when all they are doing is finding their feet in the relationship. Not running before they walk.

However, when someone is patient or devoted enough to see this through, they are more than rewarded by an Empath’s loyalty.

9. Empaths Absorb Information Others Don’t Notice

Keen observational skills allow an Empath to take in information from their environment that others might not notice.

They will notice a picture in a room that is slightly off. They will notice a simple change of hairstyle in another, or a slight drop in someone’s weight. They see things others don’t see, and notice everything that isn’t being said in words.

10. Empaths See Beyond a Mask

Empaths not only sense the feelings in another, they can also read their intentions without the other showing any outward clues. They see beyond ‘a mask’, often knowing more than people reveal.

An Empath might reveal the truth of a person, many months or years, before it has become common knowledge as to what that person is really all about.

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Obviously, as an Empath, there may be things on this list that you may or may not agree with. However, one thing that is for sure: Empaths are enigmatic and a mystery to many!

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

Here’s some other posts you may find interesting:

Do You Own These Incredible Empath 

Traits?

Is There More to an Empath than Just Feeling Other’s Emotions?

30 Traits of an Empath

An Empath’s Guide

 

16 Effortless Ways for Empaths to Block the Emotions of Others

As I was nosing through some of my older posts, I realised I have written many ways for Empaths to block the emotional energy of others, but I have not got one post that is specifically dedicated to just that.

So, today, I present you with some of the top ways to block the emotions you may pick up from others. The techniques also work in balancing your own emotions. A win-win situation for Empath wellbeing.

Hot Amygdala

As you may already know, Empaths tend to have an overactive Amygdala, which, when one is experiencing uncomfortable emotions, activates the stress hormones. Read more on the subject here.

The problem is, when an Empath is around people, whether in the home or out and about, they can pick up their stressed emotions and take them on as their own. This in turn activates the Amygdala.

Constant Amygdala activation can compromise one’s mental and physical health. Which is something we want to avoid at all costs. This is why it is so important to work to keep our emotions in check. Whether that be our own or those we pick up.

16 Ways to Block the Emotions of Others

The following techniques can be used daily, before, during or after venturing into public places. Experiment with them to see which works best for you.

Also, remember that protective techniques work best when they are swapped and changed. It tends to keep them more effective. Continue reading

4 Reasons Why Empaths Get Sick When Around Certain People

Have you ever come away from spending time with certain people and felt physically ill?

Did you ever feel like you had a hangover after an evening out with friends, but weren’t actually drinking alcohol?

Or have you had a brief conversation with someone, only to feel pains or physical symptoms in certain body parts?

Have you ever wondered why this might happen?

There are a number of reasons that could be causing these reactions, but here we will look at the most common causes for Empaths to get sick after being in the presence of certain individuals.

1.You Are Intuitively Picking Up on Their Illness

Did you ever seen the famous psychics on TV who describe how someone passed, by explaining how it feels to them? They may experience a pain or pressure in a certain area within their body, which might, for example, tell them what body part of the deceased was impacted by an illness.

This is similar to what an Empath might experience, when they intuitively pick up an illness or imbalance within another.

Just like their ability to feel another person’s emotions, some Empaths can also pick up on physical imbalances, which might make them feel sick or weak in certain body parts. They may not know what it is they are sensing, just that they don’t feel great.

The sensation normally lasts for the duration of time spent in said person’s presence, up to a few hours after.

The good news is once the Empath understands what they are enduring, the easier it is for them to ‘switch off’ the sensation in the future.

2.You are Mixing with the Wrong People

If someone you are interacting with is highly negative, if they have bad intentions, or if their vibration is running at a much slower pace than yours, you can have a physical reaction within your body.

Anything from fatigue to feeling fluey could be experienced.

You will have a worse physical experience if said person also makes you stressed.

Stress contributes to and worsens any health problems. Stress-related illness can lead to autoimmune conditions. These conditions, that often go undiagnosed, cause many complications for the unaware Empath. Which might lead them to becoming physically sick when with certain people.

If someone is no good for you, especially if they activate your adrenals, which release stress hormones, your body will tell you by giving you a physical reaction.

In these cases, staying grounded and protected is your best option for prevention. However, with some people, avoidance may be the best option.

3. Your Immune System Has Been Compromised

When you have a compromised immune system, or an autoimmune condition, it is very common for you to have illnesses and physical reactions to chemicals, certain foods, and drinks. But that’s not all, you can also react to people’s energy in a physical way that makes you feel ill. This works like a ‘people allergy.’

The problem is, many Empaths don’t realise that a compromised immune system is making them sick after being around certain people. But if you are sensitive to energy, in any way, you can react in mysterious ways to people’s emotional energy.

Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies, whether that be food, chemicals, emotions, or people.

If what the Empath is experiencing, after being around certain people, is immune-system related, the physical sensations, or not feeling well, can last for 12 to 48 hours after exposure. This post has 6 ways in which to quickly reduce these reactions.

4. You Have a Permeable Aura

Most Empaths come to realize they have a leaky aura when they experience near-constant exhaustion, and physical symptoms, after spending time around people. These people don’t have to be negative, angry or ill for this to happen. (This is also interrelated with number 3 on the list.)

Anyone whose auric field is permeable will experience discomfort when spending time around others. A healthy aura protects you from ‘ingesting’ the energy of others or any external influences.

Think of a shoe, when there’s a hole in the sole it allows in water, stones and other fragments that could damage the foot. Repair the sole and the foot remains dry and comfortable. This is like the aura. When it is leaky or permeable it lets in energy that doesn’t belong. Repair the damage and you become better protected.

One of the biggest indications of having leaky aura is if you remember a time when you weren’t so badly affected by being in the presence of others. If you want to learn more read this.

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Many Empaths have an inkling of what they should or shouldn’t do to stay happy and healthy, because their inner Knowing is constantly guiding them. Those nagging feelings, that something is not a fit, is your intuition at work trying to get your attention.

If you get physically ill after spending time around certain individuals, and you are not intuitively picking up on their pain or a bodily illness, take it as a warning sign. Either the other person is not good for you, or you have imbalances of the physical or energy bodies that need addressing.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

 

ARE YOU FEELING UNDER ATTACK OR OVERWHELMED WITH FEELINGS OF DREAD?

If you are feeling emotionally attacked in anyway, or if you keep experiencing a sense of dread or doom, know that you’re not alone. It is happening to many Sensitive people.

There is some strange energy around. Major solar activity and sun flares have been firing off, which has a massive impact on how we feel physically and emotionally (read more here how solar flares impact emotions).

There is also a dark wave of emotional energy coming from the fears of the masses. People are afraid and confused. ‘The powers that be’ are using behavioural psychology, again, to stir up fear, which is continuing to instil a sense of terror within the populace.

As well as that, people are catching on that something is very amiss in this world. They know things aren’t right and it is causing major agitation and worry.

As an Empath, you will likely be picking up on all these confused fearful emotions, as well as the impact of the flares. It can almost feel like psychic attack. This influx of energy might have taken you right out of your groove, without you knowing why.

What makes matters worse, when we become overwhelmed with dark feelings, for whatever reason, we often forget to do the things we should to stay on top of our game and in control as an Empath…

So, today, as well as letting you know what could be causing any weirdness you may be feeling, I also have some suggestions of what you could be doing to get through these strange and disturbing times, to not only keep you in a positive space but to bring back your joy. Here goes:

Stress Your Body

The first one is to take your body into a space of physical discomfort.

Yes, you did read that correctly.

As bonkers as this sounds, doing something that makes you uncomfortable can be so empowering to your body and mind. But more importantly, it can also nullify any emotional pain or dread you may be experiencing. We’re talking ‘fighting fire with fire’.

I’m not saying you should be sending your body into pain; I’m talking about doing something that puts a positive type of stress on the body.

For example, exercise that makes you break a sweat and breathless, or works your muscles to a point they burn.

If you don’t like the idea of exercise, why not try physical labour, preferably outdoors, that is taxing to your body, but is also something that you enjoy. Gardening, for example, is a work out in itself, and connects you to nature.

Cold-Water Treatment

Another fantastic way to put your body into positive stress is through cold-water treatment. Cold showers, ice baths and the like.

Last night I watched a programme on Netflix about people in the UK, who go swimming every day in outdoor ponds in Hampstead Heath. Even when it is freezing cold, they still brave the icy waters. Most of the swimmers all commented how it made them feel alive and nulled emotional and physical pain.

It reminded me of what is said by those who practice the Wim Hof Method. People transform their life by regularly taking a dip in ice water. Not only do they cure themselves of health issues, but they also master emotional trauma, and stress.

I will admit, I am not a massive fan of the cold-water treatment (I don’t like being cold), but I know it can give incredible results in banishing physical and emotional pain. It is one of those techniques that you have to try for yourself. If you haven’t heard of the Wim Hof Method, I urge you to look it up.

If you do try a cold shower, I would recommend adjusting to the cold water gradually. There are lots of YouTube videos on the subject.

Raise Your Spirits

As well as taking your body into physical discomfort, another fantastic way to stop the ‘weird energies’ taking you down is by doing anything that makes your spirits soar.

Read or watch inspirational or uplifting material. Listen to empowering music that makes your heart sing, and have a good old boogie whilst listening, get out in nature, or get creative.

Being creative in times of distress is so vital to our wellbeing. Not only does it work as a distraction, it also keeps our mind engaged with something positive. Rather than it being overwhelmed by the negative.

Crystal Vibes

Another great way to protect from the energy, that may be frying your circuits and dimming your light, is to get your crystals out. To take back control of your thoughts, use your grounding crystals, on your third eye, to soothe your heart use comforting stones like Rose Quartz, or use Citrine, on your Solar Plexus, to quash negative emotions. Here’s a couple of posts that may help, here and here.

A crystal healing bath, with magnesium salts, also works wonders for soothing any wired emotions. Recipe below:

Stay Away from Anything That Lowers Your Frequency

It is so important to avoid anything or anyone that brings you down. As an Empath, you are already carrying more than you should be, in the way of emotional energy.

If you come into contact with anyone who drags down your spirits, take a wide swerve. Likewise, if you go on any media site that makes you feel uncomfortable or drained, it is best to avoid.

Just watch how something shifts your mood to a lower vibration, bearing in mind this might be things that didn’t negatively affect you before, and try to avoid.

I hope this helps you get through any turbulence you may be experiencing. Don’t forget, we are all in this together. ♥

This post may also be helpful.

Until next time.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

5 Reasons Why an Empath Doesn’t Like You

I have written before about why people might take a dislike to an Empath, for no apparent reason, but I have never discussed why an Empath may take a disliking to others with no outward clues as to why.

Empaths tend to be considerate and understanding, and probably won’t like to admit that they don’t like certain people. But, just like with anyone else, resentments can form towards others.

Generally, if an Empath takes a dislike to you, it will be more because of the way you make them feel. They pick up things that you try and hide, and they will observe everything you don’t say in words. Your energy speaks louder than words.

Unfortunately, most people manage to invoke an emotional response within the Empath at some point, without saying or doing anything, and it is often the kindest of people who carry the most pain.

Occasionally feeling another’s emotions is nothing compared to what certain people can activate within an Empath, and this is what most often causes a dislike to happen. But that is not always the case…

So, here’s the top five reasons an Empath might dislike you:

1. You Have Narcissistic Traits

The definition of a narcissist is: a psychological condition characterised by self-preoccupation, high self-esteem, a distinct lack of empathy, excessive self-admiration and a tendency towards selfish or resentful behaviours.

There are several other traits that also fit the bill of narcissism such as: one-sidedness, a manipulative nature, unrealistic expectations of others, excess need for control, and a huge sympathy deficiency.

Empaths tend to have very low tolerance for narcissists, and their ways, especially if they ever had a bad run-in with one. So, even if you carry a few of the above traits, you may find an Empath will take an instant dislike to you.

2. Your Vibes don’t Match Your Words

When in the company of those whose words don’t match their vibration, the Empath’s brain tends to scramble. So much so, they may struggle to form a coherent sentence. This mind-numbing effect is caused by their ‘Empathic antenna’ sensing all is not what it seems. It is detecting this person is not showing a true reflection of who they are.

When an Empath comes across fake people, or those who are hiding their true personality, it is common for them to close down. A barrier comes up and there’s no getting past it. Anyone who is not giving truthful vibes will put an Empath on high alert. This impact can also ignite an instant dislike to form, and they may avoid being in your presence.

3. You Wallow in Negativity

An Empath, who both lifts and experiences the dark emotions or intentions of others, are worst affected than most by being around negative people.

Many Empaths come to realize that when they spend time around downbeat individuals, they feel cloudy, lethargic, and low. Too often, the Empath ends up wearing the energy of these people for days after exposure.

Also, those who tend to wallow in negativity can act as ‘energy vampires.’ Their gloomy manner drains an Empath’s vitality even after a short time spent in their presence. This drain can leave them overwhelmed with dark emotions and pessimism. For this reason, many Empaths find a dislike develops for those who are overly negative.

4. You Constantly Criticize Others

Most Empaths abhor being in the presence of people who are constantly critical of others. Those who appear to thrive on seeking out flaws and faults in people are ‘venomous’ to an Empath. It’s as though the criticizers are not happy unless they are finding failings in someone else’s life. Either in their appearance, status or achievements.

Being highly empathetic to another’s suffering, an Empath will always look out for the underdog.  Anyone who’s being bullied or treated unfairly draws their compassion. Likewise, anyone who is ‘stealing the light’ from others, in order to feed their own, will gain an Empaths disapproval.

5. You Act as a Trauma Trigger

When someone acts as a trauma trigger to an Empath, it does not mean they are bad people. It can simply mean they carry a lot of buried pain within.

A trauma trigger is a memory from the past that triggers a reaction, such as anxiety or fear, in the present. Because an Empath has a highly reactive amygdala, they are adversely impacted when around those who act as a trauma trigger.

The amygdala is a reacting part of the brain which activates when exposed to stimuli, such as fear or other strong emotions, and stimulates the stress hormones. (Read more here.)

Simply being in the presence of someone suffering emotionally is enough to ignite an amygdala reaction, in an Empath, whether the other person shows their emotions or not. This reaction can mean they overproduce adrenalin and cortisol. Both of which stimulate fearful or pained emotions.

In these cases, an Empath may not know why they don’t like you, they just know they don’t want to be in your company.

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So, there you go. If as an Empath you are reading this as a way to understand why you don’t like certain people, then hopefully this will have given some insight. If, however, you have been spurned by an Empath, and don’t know why, hopefully it will have done the same for you.

It has to be an accepted truth that we all have people who don’t like us, for whatever reason, we are not meant for everyone. And that’s ok.

Until next time. 

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

As an Empath, if It’s Not True for Me Does That Mean It’s Not True for You?

It is an interesting question, isn’t it? If It’s Not True for Me Does That Mean It’s Not True for You?

If I experience something as an Empath, but you don’t, does that mean that you’re not an Empath?

If you have strong intuition, but I don’t, does that mean I’m a weak Empath?

If I can see your aura, but you can’t see mine, does that make me a more powerful Empath?

If you know the meaning of the emotions you feel in another, but another Empath doesn’t, does that mean they are unskilled or inauthentic?

Or what if I get incredibly fatigued when around a certain person, but another Empath doesn’t, does that mean I’m just bored of paying attention to that person, and the other Empath has got a greater attention span? Or is it they’re vibrational frequency or negativity is ‘sucking out my sunshine?’

I have said it before and I will say it again, as Empaths we are all diverse. Just like everyone else, we have different personalities, we have had different upbringings, we have different DNA, we have differing physical ailments, we have different beliefs and different abilities.

What works for one Empath won’t necessarily work for another.

Some Empaths are introvert. Some Empaths are extrovert. Some Empaths will be highly vocal in their beliefs, others will keep their opinions to themselves (often from learning that when someone is not ready for the information, they cannot hear).

However, we are so pushed into herd thinking, that it becomes difficult for us to accept that, even as Empaths, someone can have different abilities, outlooks or issues to deal with.

I have even seen written, within the Empath community, that an Empath having to ground or protect, from the emotional energy of others, is a ridiculous idea. The writer stated we simply need to learn to navigate the various energetic frequencies instead of ‘protecting’ from them.

Which could be classed as a very valid concept. Learning to navigate the energetic frequencies that surround people and our environment is an excellent idea. But it really isn’t that cut and dry.

Just because one Empath doesn’t need to take measures of protection/grounding, before spending time in public, or within certain energetic frequencies, does not mean that another won’t need to. Their energy sensitivity may be higher.

Humans Are All Different

There are some who need to take extra vitamin C and zinc, in the winter months, to protect from winter viruses. Others take no supplements and are fine. Some people need to use extra high factors of sun cream, to protect from sunburn, others don’t. One person may need to use earplugs to protect from sound frequencies, or music, another might not. And yes, some Empaths need to take protective measures, before going in public places, and some don’t. It really is that simple!

I have said before on this blog that the more I learn about life, the less I know. But something I do know, is that the human experience is supposed to be unique for each of us, as is the Empath experience.

It is just society that tries to convince us that we should all be the same box-tickers, living like robots, with no acceptance for anyone who has opposite beliefs or indeed ‘unusual abilities.’

Lack of Acceptance

Now, although this post may sound like I’m having a good old rant, I really wanted to point out the importance of acceptance, and how it can really change our outlook on life.

We see it all around us. People expect others to accept them, for their beliefs, feelings or ways of living, but they refuse to accept anyone who chooses not to adopt their views…

It is human nature to want to be accepted, but if someone is not willing to understand or accept that others experience life from a different perspective than themselves, how can it happen?

Acceptance is Bad for Business

Why do you think we are encouraged to attack each other constantly, instead of accepting each other?

We cannot stop hate with hate, we cannot stop racism with racism, we cannot stop discrimination with discrimination, and we cannot stop unacceptance with unacceptance. But that is so often the narrative pushed.

One thing is for sure, if the world can simply learn to accept others, and all their differences, then there would be no reason to fight. But I doubt that would ever be encouraged by the ‘mainstream’, because, let’s face it, acceptance of self and each other is bad for business.

Make The Changes You Can, Accept What You Can’t

When I advocate for acceptance of others, I am not saying we get to live happily ever after with someone we have no right to be with, or that we should put up with bad behaviour. But if we accept the fact that we are all supposed to be unique, it goes a long way towards a happier life.

I am also not trying to encourage anyone not to make changes in life or just to accept their lot. More that we should ‘change what we can change, and accept what we can’t’.

When we truly accept that we are all meant to be different, in our appearance, health, thoughts, beliefs and abilities, it is incredibly liberating.

Even by accepting that some people can be completely disagreeable and we will never get along with them, it frees up so much of our time wasted in frustration by them or their ways.

If It’s Not True for Me does That Mean It’s Not True for You?

So, going back to the title of this post: As Empaths, if It’s Not True for Me Does That Mean It’s Not True for You?

We can say that my life and your life or my truth and your truth may be poles apart, but if we can come to accept that, then the world will be a much brighter place to live.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine