Apologies

I would just like to apologize to anyone who clicked on the Amazon link for my book, The Eating Plan for Empaths and HSPs, to find it full-list price.

For some reason Amazon only made it available on the Kindle Countdown in the UK.

I am still waiting to hear back to see whether the offer can be reset. I will let you know if or when it gets sorted.

Again, sorry for the inconvenience.

Hope all is well with you.

Diane

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This is Incredible!

Just a quick one today.

As it’s new year and we all have intentions of becoming healthier and happier, I’ve decided to do a fantastic offer on Kindle Countdown for all you lovely Empaths. For 2 days you can get the Empath Eating plan for $1.26. Yes, that’s right, only $1.26. The price will gradually increase until it goes back to full list price on 16th January 2019.

You can click here to have a quick read through of the first part of the book, to see if the information is for you. Remember it’s only for 2 days that the price will be so low.

Here’s a little blurb from the book.

Modern diets and lifestyles have taken too many Sensitive people down. Most have no idea how food hinders their happiness or how by making a couple of changes could transform their life.

The Eating Plan for Empaths & HSPs:

•Exposes the true nature of drug-like food on your Sensitive traits

•Reveals the easy-to-follow steps to overhaul your diet

•Enables you to take back control of what you feel, think and absorb

•Sets you up for a life of joy and emotional freedom

•Shows you how to suppress and soothe Sensitivity stress

•Promotes weight-loss and wellbeing

The secret to any self-empowerment lies in having knowledge and a willingness to change. Until you make changes to your diet, you will never understand how it affects you as a Sensitive Person.

If you want to see an amazing transformation in the way you look, feel and think you need to read this book!

Ok, that’s it for now. I’ll be back soon with my next post.

Until next time.

Diane

There seems to be a technical problem on the Kindle store. Some are seeing the full list price instead of the countdown price. I have been in touch with Amazon and I’m waiting for their reply.

This offer is unfortunately only available to those who have access to Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk

 

Can You Feel It?

 

Don’t you love the energy of a new year? Just today I felt a real shift in the way the energy feels. It’s like there’s a freshness all around and an upbeat vibe drifting through the air.

 It’s as though positive intentions are ramping up, as ideas for fresh starts are being put into place all around.

I was away for Christmas, in the Caribbean, so I missed a lot of the Xmas madness. I got back on the 28th, and there was still a real stressed-out energy lingering. It wasn’t very nice to come back to. Even my husband found the energy dark and stressful, which made him a little grumpy. (My Empath ways have shown up in him more in recent years and he has become much more in tune with the energy of others.)

It’s only today that I’ve felt the sludgy Christmas energy lift… Can you feel it too?

It never ceases to amaze me how one day can make such a difference to the way the collective energy feels. Today my environment feels calm and uplifted and, because of that, so do I.

Christmas isn’t a rest for most people and it certainly isn’t relaxing. Much of the festive period is spent drinking too much, eating crap, and burning the candle at both ends. It’s also stressfully busy. This is why many Empaths find it a difficult time of year (even if they like the tradition of the festive season).

As well as feeling the emotions of individuals, Empaths also feel collective stress, and no matter how well we look after ourselves, the month of December can be a trying time because there is so much stress energy around. This is why January comes as such a welcome relief.

I love the energy of new beginnings and new intentions. January is a fresh start for everyone. We get the chance to wipe the slate clean and set new goals for the year ahead. It feels uplifting and liberating.

I’m not sure yet what my intentions are for this year; other than to have more fun and listen to more music. I often forget how uplifting music is. Especially the tunes that I love. It’s such an easy way to get a quick pick-me-up. But, because I like to work in silence, I don’t tend to listen to music much, other than at the gym.

And fun. Life seems so serious these days. I love laughing and having a good time, but I am often so focused on living or working to stay in balance as an Empath that I forget life is also about having fun.

Laughter is the perfect way to release the feel-good endorphins, which helps wash away everyday stress and the energy of others. Laughing really does keep us young and in good spirits. I think I have just convinced myself even more that this year I intend to find more time for fun… Watch this space.

What about you? Have you got any plans or goals for this year? Feel free to share them in the comments below.

Ok, that’s it for today. Just a quick post to comment on the energy shift.

Until next time.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

How to Know What You Need to Heal Right Now

Empath life often feels like a double-edged sword. On the one hand we have incredible encounters and insights that few will ever experience, and on the other, we endure emotional energy and overwhelm that can at times be crippling, and affects our quality of life.

Experiencing the energy of those we come into contact with impacts our biology. Meaning, our immune system is compromised and our hormones get overworked just by picking up the emotions of others, which can eventually lead to anything from depression to physical health problems.

 So, yes, we have to constantly work to heal, reset and stay in balance. 

The problem is it is difficult to know what we need to heal for each given situation. Because Empaths tend to be Sensitive to anything of a low vibration, it is not only others’ emotions that take their toll. We can be taken down by work stress, being peopled, environment pollutants, EMF, earth changes, diet, etc.  Also, what works one day to reset or heal, might not work so well the next.

So, how do we determine what we need right now?

The best way to find that answer is to simply ask yourself.

Our body has the wisdom to know what’s required for self-healing, and we are able to determine what we need by the way something feels after asking prompting questions.

For example: sit quietly and take a couple of calming breaths, close your eyes and ask yourself: will my body benefit from doing a short yoga practice today? See how that question feels within your body. Then ask yourself, will my body benefit from not doing yoga today? Then see how that feels. One will feel right, one will feel wrong. You can use this technique with any question to see what you need to heal/rebalance right now.

When questioning yourself, be sure to listen to the body and not the mind. The mind is good at talking us out of doing what we don’t particularly want to do.

As you know, I share many techniques for the Empath to heal, reset, stay grounded or detached from emotional energy for the reason we are all different, we have different needs, and because we are constantly evolving. By swapping and changing it also helps to keep the body guessing. When we do the same workout every day, for example, the body gets used to it and we don’t always feel as much benefit as when we mix up our routines. The same can be said for rebalancing  or healing techniques:

One day we might need a certain crystal to stay grounded, another day an essential oil is required, we may benefit from yoga to reset one day, another day we may need HIIT, or meditation might work best one day to calm a stressed mind, then on another day pranayama breathing is more beneficial.  

I must say that my two all-time favourites for energy cleansing, emotional clearing, rebalancing, etc. are getting outdoors in nature and being in water (the bath/shower, sea, natural pools, etc.) Nothing works as quickly or as dramatically.

If I ever feel out of sorts or over-wired from too much emotional energy and go for a walk in the woods or down by the local waterway, I’m always amazed at how quickly I feel uplifted and cleansed. I can go from feeling wired or overwhelmed to feeling fantastic within an hour of being in nature.

Nature and water are also great to cleanse your energy field, especially if you have spent too much time on the internet or on electrical devices, or if you have been peopled.

Salt baths are also incredible for resetting and healing the body (it’s also a great time to do a meditation or to tune into your higher self).

So, if you are not sure what will work best to rebalance, sit quietly and ask yourself what you need. I will add links at the bottom of the page to posts with grounding/energy clearing/rebalancing techniques, just for some fresh ideas.

I would like to take this opportunity to wish you all a happy new year and I hope 2019 is a year of incredible new beginnings. Oh, and don’t forget, today is the last day you can get your copy of my new book half price.

See you in 2019.

Love and best wishes.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

15 Ways to Stay Grounded

An Empath’s Guide to Living in the World

5 Ways to Stop Empath Overwhelm

Essential Oils for the Empath

Meditation and Breathing Exercises

 

Unplug from the Energy of Others

 

So here we are again, not long off another year-end, and what a year it’s been! I’m sure 2018 will always be remembered as the year of conflict and division. I know every year has its own crazy vibe, but this one seems particularly explosive with all the dark energy that’s been stirred up.

For those of us who are Empaths, it has certainly been a challenge to stay out of the angry clashing energy, fired up across the world, that has created a huge wave of all-consuming dark emotions!

To top it all off, we’ve arrived once more at the ‘Christmas silly season’. I know many Empaths struggle at this time of year (I was once one of them). All the rushed and stressed emotional energy, being produced by the masses, can prove to be nothing short of exhausting. Even when we stay tucked away, in our own little sanctuaries, the emotional energy is difficult to avoid. And the lack of sun/daylight in the northern hemisphere, means a lack of Vitamin D, and thus extra stress-related colds and flu to deal with.

So, it goes without saying that we all need to step it up at this time of year. We have to work that extra bit harder to stay grounded, balanced and in control of emotions. Which, as you may now be thinking, is not so easy to do. When feeling out-of-sorts from not only the ‘Christmas energy’ but all the other ‘stuff’ we’ve had to endure, working on self is often the last thing we have time or energy for.

I think you’ll agree; this year has gone from one level of trauma to another. The energies have switched from stress to anger to hate to fear to more stress. It’s obvious the populace is being distracted and divided with the intention of keeping us from finding our true-inner-power.

What I mean is, we are in a unique time where past issues are coming up to the surface to be resolved and healed for everyone. Not only in the way of karmic return but in calls to find balance of the body and mind (modern life puts a huge strain on our human bodies). This shows up in many ways: feeling constantly dissatisfied, suffering illness, anxiety, fear, anger and other strong emotions.  There are many other ways in which people receive their inner-calls to make changes and go within.

Instead of being able to address old wounds and or physical issues, as they arise, people are being given reasons to project their emotional pain on to others. Which only serves in keeping the pain alive.

When we are kept angry or distressed, by focusing on the world’s injustices or propaganda, it not only keeps us trapped in a negative mind-set but it stops us from taking the steps to face and heal any physical or emotional wounds that need attention. We then continuously draw back more reasons to feel emotionally low via the law of attraction.

For those Empaths who have already done much inner-work, it sometimes feels like we are being taken back several steps. It doesn’t help that feeling the emotional energy of the world, when it is so negatively charged, can be incredibly isolating.

As I mentioned in my last post, because of constant shifting energy, we need to keep swapping and changing our healing/grounding techniques. But at this time of year it is even more important. If we don’t take control of what we feel, the way we feel will control our life.

So, here I have some winter remedies that I hope will help:

Consciously Unplug

This is so important, even if it’s just for five minutes a day.  By consciously unplugging from all external distractions, it not only allows for a vibrational reset, it shifts our focus. Which helps us break the connection to the emotional energy of others, and allows us to tune into our higher-self.

By simply closing your eyes and focusing on your breath or doing some type of meditative practice, it works well to unplug.

One technique I like to use is the ‘balancing triangle breath’.

This may sound strange, but in my mind’s eye I draw a triangle with my breath between my nose and third eye.

If you want to try it: Inhale through your left nostril (you can block the opposite nostril with thumb), taking the breath up to the third eye (centre of forehead), then on the exhale see your breath travel from the third eye down the right nostril and then back over to the left nostril. After a few breaths reverse the flow from right to left, and then keep alternating. (The power of the triangle can really be felt when performing this technique).

The image may help you get a better idea of what I mean (I apologize for the creepy face).

The above technique not only helps you unplug and re-centre, it also helps balance your masculine and feminine energy (learn more here).

Avoid Negative People

This is something I probably don’t need to remind you of, but I know how hard it is at this time of year. Work’s do’s, Xmas family get-togethers and the like, mean we end up spending time with those we wouldn’t normally. But if there’s one thing that can suck dry your last remnants of goodwill, its being around ‘negatives’ or ‘energy vampires’

Did you know, science has even acknowledged that by spending too much time around negative people it can influence health and happiness? There are many studies showing how prolonged ‘people stress’ alters gene expression within the immune system… Meaning: anyone can become sick just by hanging out with toxic people. So, for an Empath, who can wear another person’s emotional energy like a heavy winter coat, it’s double whammy!

So, what can we do to protect our health from people stress?

Well, an easy place to start is:

Eat Lots of Bright Coloured Food

Sadly, I’m not talking about Smarties and M&Ms. I’m talking real food.

By eating lots of lovely bright coloured fruit and veg, it ensures you get lots of vitamins, antioxidants and enzymes which ward off stress-related illnesses (especially colds and flu). If this is difficult, try taking a good range of supplements (read here to learn more about supplements and the Empath).

And, if all else fails have a bath:

Take a Salted-Magnesium-Essential-Oil Bath:

A salt bath with added magnesium and lavender is an incredible combination for instilling calm and balance. It’s also super soothing to your emotions.

Salt clears negative energy, it also heals and softens the skin. Magnesium helps one relax, and boosts energy, supports the endocrine system and aids sleep (quality sleep is essential for repairs). An essential oil, such as lavender, is both relaxing and uplifting. You can buy magnesium bath salts in most supermarkets.

Hope this helps.

Ok, so if I don’t get to post again before Christmas, I hope you all have a truly wonderful time.

Don’t forget to check this out before 30th Dec.

Until next time.

Stay empowered.

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

 

 

Empaths Are Now Being Talked About In The Mainstream Media


I would never normally share two posts within one week, but when I came across this article, I got quite excited and wanted to share it with you.

Empath traits are seldom talked about by anyone other than Empaths. So, to find an article that was published in the MailOnline about the subject made me giddy as a Kipper.

The Woman Who Swears She Can Feel Other People’s Emotions

It seems synchronistic with my last post about the Empath Awakening, that we are now seeing it discussed in the mainstream.

I’m sure you’ll read it yourself, but the article claims that our Empath traits are a form of synesthesia:

Wikipedia Definition

Synesthesia is a perceptual phenomenon in which stimulation of one sensory or cognitive pathway leads to automatic, involuntary experiences in a second sensory or cognitive pathway. People who report a lifelong history of such experiences are known as synesthetes. 

To put synesthesia into laymen’s terms, when someone hears poetry or song, they may see shapes, colours or patterns. For an Empath, however, they feel other people’s emotions as if their own.

I have written extensively in my books about how an Empath’s brain works in relation to experiencing heightened emotions via the limbic system, which apparently has a significant influence on the synesthetic process.

Although, I don’t want to get hung up on ‘labels’ and I believe the traits of an Empath has far more to do with than just being a ‘condition’, it is reassuring to know that it is now recognized as a very real phenomena and not some woo-woo topic.

It also means that we get to talk about the subject more freely. Many Empaths, myself included, don’t talk openly about what we feel and experience for the reason we can sense the disbelief or judgements in others (people find it difficult to believe in a] what they don’t themselves experience, and b] topics not being talked about in the mainstream). Which can in itself be draining as well as disappointing.

All in all, I’d say it is a good day for the Empaths!

So, that’s it for me today.

Hope you’ve had a wonderful weekend.

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

Why Are So Many Empaths Awakening Now?

 

I hope this post finds you well. It’s been a couple of months since my last blog offering. I’ve been super-busy writing, researching and editing my next book. But, I’ve wanted to address this subject for a while, about something you may yourself have noticed… an Empath awakening.

You’ve probably observed the wave of Empaths who have awakened to who they are in recent years. More and more are coming to understand that many of the challenges, they have faced throughout life, have come about because they are an Empath.

Why is this awakening happening now?

Good question. There has to be a reason. Right?

For the past forty years we have seen a huge spiritual awakening. But it’s only been within the past ten years or so that an Empath’s awareness has been on the increase.

This awakening seems to have been greatly perpetuated by the fact most of us felt lost or disconnected from society and we needed to understand why. But the other fact we have to consider to this uprising is the way the world is now.

All around us there has been a surge of crazy conflict energy that is being purposely stoked. The energy of which spreads across the world like wildfire, via the internet and other channels, and is hard to extinguish. Perhaps, this could be the reason behind this Empath emergence.

The theme surrounding an Empath’s awakening appears to be similar from one person to the next. For most, it occurs after enduring dark times, or when we start to ‘work on ourselves’. For example: we may begin a yoga or meditation practice to help us deal with the sense of disconnect we feel, or we may follow a calling to study metaphysical or holistic subjects as a way to gain a greater understanding of life or to become a better person. But after adopting new ways of being, or opening up our awareness it triggered strange physical and emotional responses within. Or, in other words, it rouses dormant Empath traits.

The thing is, when we start to work on ourselves our ‘Sensitivities’ heighten. We not only feel all energy more intensely, but we may also find that we become sensitive to everyone and everything.

What do I mean by this? Well, as an Empath, we have always felt the emotions and energy of others (often without realising), but when we start working on ourselves, we come to sense it more powerfully. This shows up in different ways: places frequented without problem suddenly induce exhaustion. The negative person, who used to drain us, now floors us. We start noticing injustices or seeing things in the world that were previously invisible to us. We may become more sensitive to food, chemicals and inauthenticity. There are many other ways, but the first sign of the awakening tends to be an increased sensitivity to people energy. Continue reading

The Daily Reset: Important for all Empaths!

If you are an Empath this post is important for you to read, especially if you answer yes to the following…

Are you struggling to stay focused? Do you feel enraged by the injustices going on around you? Does it feel like you are forgetting who you are or losing your mind?

If you answered yes to any of those questions you are not alone. Many Empaths are experiencing a strong sense of confusion and separation from their true-self.

Why?

Because of the triggering chaos energy that is all around us. The media is stirring up so much hate and uncertainty that it is felt by everyone, but it is particularly troubling for the Empaths. This energy is so potent it is difficult to keep it out of our heads and it becomes easy to forget ourselves.

You may worry that you are losing your mind, you can have a fuzzy brain, you might experience waves of anger or sadness, you could feel helpless or hopeless. It’s almost as if the mind has been hijacked and whilst we stay connected to the media, in all its shapes and forms, we will continue to struggle with these issues. However, I do realise avoiding all media outlets is near impossible for many and therefore it is so important to do a daily reset…

Those who control the media want to control people’s minds. When something controls your mind it also controls your thoughts and your energy. Bad news on all levels! Social media’s very nature is designed to be addictive, to draw you in and keep you going back for more. It has the power to activate your dopamine levels and, because of this, your body and brain wants to go back for another hit. You might think you are choosing to peruse online media outlets, but it is actually a reaction in your brain that is making the choice for you.

The fear mongering, used by the mainstream media, is often a tactic used to keep people controlled, distracted and divided. There is rarely any information shared that is uplifting, inspiring or ‘feel good’. By keeping everyone preoccupied by negative political opinions, global disasters, wars, etc. it keeps everyone in a low vibrating space.  These types of stories create anger and fear. All of which builds negative energy and conflict!

When conflicts arise, both in the media and out on the streets, a blanket of massively contagious, dark energy is produced. Which when at it’s worse is difficult to avoid, no matter how much you work on staying grounded and protected. Negativity generates negativity. Negative emotions are contagious and are subliminally taken on even by those who aren’t Sensitive. People then get swept along by the irrational moods being intentionally perpetuated by the media. They breed and feed.  It is a type of gaslighting.

Wikipedia defines gaslighting as a form of psychological manipulation that seeks to sow the seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception and even sanity! By using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction and lying it attempts to destabilize the victims’ beliefs.

So yes, when the mainstream media is gaslighting it stirs up all kinds of malevolence, which the Empaths take on, often without realising. This dark energy can seep into your conscience without your knowing and can shape your opinions and beliefs. It catches you off guard. And because the populace is continuously fed more reasons to become fearful, infuriated or dissatisfied, and very little to feel positive and cheerful about, low-level energy continues to escalate.

Whether you pay attention to the propaganda stirred up by the media or not, you will still be affected by the emotional energy it produces. At times, the energy of which is so overwhelming, it can seep into your thoughts, even during sleep.

What can we do?

We must work hard to stay unplugged and in balance, otherwise we will get swept along with all the hysteria. By doing a daily reset of mind, body and spirit it will help keep us vibrating in our higher energy and keep us protected. Here’s some ways to do that:

Daily Reset for Empaths

1. Get out in nature daily: Walk in woodlands or by the sea for at least 30 minutes a day. If you live in a city go to the park and stay near the trees (see this post to learn why it is so beneficial). If you live in a desert or have no access to sea air or dense greenery, the next best thing is a salt bath.

2. Meditate: Meditating is essential. Every day, we need to quieten the mind and clear it through meditation. Even if you do it for only 3 minutes it is more beneficial than not doing it at all. Use breathing exercises to calm your mind, then follow it with a mini meditation. A good one to use is focusing on your third eye (centre of forehead) and see it as a blank screen whilst listening to your breath. Learn the benefits of meditation for an Empath  here.

3. Exercise: When you exercise your body releases endorphins which make you feel good. It not only keeps you physically fit but also works all the systems in your body and keeps you happier.

4. Avoid eating rubbish food: This isn’t so much as being part of a reset but more a way of being. Essential nevertheless. When you eat rubbish, you feel more rubbish and end up eating more rubbish. It’s a vicious cycle. Keep your food fresh and unprocessed. If you want to learn more about how certain foods impact your Empath life see here.

5. Watch/read uplifting or spiritual material: We need to keep reminding ourselves of who we are and our true beliefs, otherwise we will be swamped by the fear-mongering opinions and hate that is spewed out by the media. If you spend a lot of time on your laptop keep a link to an inspirational website or YouTube videos. Also try to limit your time on the internet. I know it is difficult, especially if you use the internet for work or if it is your way with connecting with others, but the longer you stay connected, the worse you will feel.

6. Tax your mind: Do crossword puzzles, Sudoku, learn poetry or a language, even for just ten minutes a day. Anything that keeps your mind positively stimulated and distracted from the gaslighting will help keep your brain empowered. It also helps in preventing your thoughts from going over to the dark side.

7. Drink lots of water: Drinking lots of water is so simple to do, but many of us forget. Not only is water an elixir of youth, but it is incredible for keeping you grounded and ensuring your body and mind stays in perfect working order. This post explains just how amazing water is.

If you have any techniques that you find works for you, please feel free to share them in the comments below. Here are a couple of posts that offers ways to stay grounded and protected:

Easy Ways to stay grounded

An Empath’s guide

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

Whose Emotion Are You In? A Guide For Empaths

Is this your emotion you are feeling? Or does it belong to someone else?

Learning to differentiate between ‘whose emotion belongs to whom’ certainly proves to be a challenge for many Empaths.

Not recognizing other people’s energy, within oneself, is a common theme within the Empath world. Just knowing you take on the emotions from others, does not mean you can automatically discern them from your own or are able to prevent them from affecting you.

When you pick up heavy emotional energy you can feel it in a number of ways: Good emotions rarely cause problems. But if what you pick up is negative, you may interpret it as the emotion you least enjoy or that which is related to an unresolved issue. It is also common for foreign energy to stoke up anger or irritation, even if the other is not themselves experiencing this emotion.

Because there are so many people who carry stress and hidden pain, it can be difficult for the Empath to avoid when out in public places. And if you have a lot of buried pain, it will make the experience, of picking up someone else’s, so much worse.

The reason for this is, the brain tries to rationalize what the body is feeling and will try to categorize the feelings you take on. If the emotions, you pick up in another, are something similar to what you have experienced from a past experience, the mind will trigger that memory. Which often means you get caught up in painful memories, totally unaware it was triggered by someone else’s energy.

Also, if you are one who dislikes people in your “personal bubble” you will not welcome their emotional energy either and this itself can stoke up dark feelings. Others’ energy suddenly showing up, uninvited, in your energy field can feel invasive and claustrophobic. The energy you pick up does not have to be negative to stir up negativity; being unsolicited is enough to ignite unpleasant feelings. (This post may help you when out in public.)

So how can you tell when an emotion does not belong to you? The easiest and quickest way to make this determination is to speak to the emotions directly:

When you initially sense any type of overpowering emotion say to yourself: if these emotions are not mine, leave me now!

If the feelings do not belong to you, they will promptly start to lose their grip. You will experience a definite shift in the way you feel. It may be subtle but you will feel a change. When you notice this subsidence distract yourself, immediately.

Why?

Because negative emotions are powerful. If you don’t take your focus off them they will return. Unpleasant emotions engage unpleasant repetitive thoughts and once your thoughts get wrapped up in the emotions, belonging to others, there is no getting away from them.

Here’s a quick check list to help determine whose emotion you are in:

  • Were you feeling happy then within seconds of being in the company of another you felt sad, anxious or angry?
  • Do you suddenly find yourself caught up in feelings that are triggering long-forgotten memories?
  • Did your mind suddenly become scrambled and your thoughts become foggy?
  • Are you suddenly feeling uninspired or lethargic?
  • Do you feel like you are experiencing psychic attack?
  • Are you experiencing waves of bitterness, anger or irritability (when you don’t normally carry those traits)?
  • Does the area around your solar plexus feel fluttery, heavy or uncomfortable?
  • Are you feeling fearful with no real reason?

If you answer yes to any of the above it could be an indicator that you are experiencing someone else’s energy and emotions.

The Fear Belonging to Others

It is important to recognize if a fear belongs to you. Just like picking up emotions, the Empath can pick up other people’s irrational fears and take them on as their own. Feeling fear is not always a bad thing, it is often a protecting force, but if it belongs to another it may unnecessarily hold you back in life.

Fear is a powerfully controlling emotion. Because it is so potent, it can be debilitating. Even when it belongs to another.

Fear belonging to someone else, feels much the same as your own. If in doubt to whom the fear belongs, use the same technique as above and make the following statement: If this fear is not mine, leave me now! Say it out loud or in your head. If it is not yours, the fear will start to shift.

Another quick way to discern between your fear (or other type of emotion) and another’s, is to check if you had it before being in their company. For example: You may be going on holiday with a friend who has a secret fear of flying. You are super-excited about the trip, that is until you sit next to your friend on the plane. She hates flying and is terrified but is trying hard not show it. When seated, you suddenly experience a wave of panic wash over you. You don’t question if it’s anyone else’s fear because it seems so real. And, because your friend has not expressed to you, her fear of flying, you don’t suspect it is coming from her. You now think of nothing else but this prevailing wave of fear that is stirring up floods of panic within. It wipes away the joy and excitement, you previously felt, as you become traumatized by the panic. You then may convince yourself you are scared of flying.

You do not have to be connected to a person to feel, and take on, their fear. All it takes is for you to be connected to their energy. If you didn’t have fear about a situation, or event, before being in the company of another, you have to consider that the fear may not belong to you.

Fear creates negative emotions: Negative emotions create lasting memories. If someone or something caused an intense fear, every time you are with them, or in a similar situation, the memory of the emotion will be reignited. This is why it is important to distinguish whose emotion you are in.

The above is a snippet from the book 7 Secrets of the Sensitive.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

 

Is it Time to Let Them Go?


Being in harmony with people is essential to an Empath’s health and wellbeing. So, it should go without saying that as Empaths we should be extra vigilant of not only whom we allow into our life but also those we allow to stay.

This issue isn’t about being egotistical or ‘special’, and it’s not about thinking we’re too good for some people. It’s about letting go of those who constantly make us feel bad, who drain our energy and suck the joy from our life. And that should probably include the people who are angry or bitter towards us, those who attack or lie about us to others and those who seem to enjoy seeing us suffer.

Sadly, the people this includes is most often adult family members or friends who we would have, at one time, considered close.

Unfortunately, most people manage to invoke an emotional response within the Empath at some point, and it is often the kindest of people who carry the most pain. If we were to let go of all those who ignited an undesirable emotional reaction, we would probably be left with no one in our life. Occasionally being triggered or feeling another’s pain is nothing compared to what certain people can make an Empath feel, especially those who seem to thrive on ‘all things negative’.

Super-charged-negative people can drain your energy within a matter of minutes of being in their presence. Too often, you end up wearing the energy of these people for days after exposure. And nothing you try seems to prevent their dark vibes seeping into your aura.

Because an Empath cares and has deep empathy for those suffering, they tend to avoid doing anything that, they consider, may cause pain to others. Even to those who refuse to change and have allowed their unhappiness to make them bitter and angry and who blame the world for their unhappiness. It is for this reason many Empaths keep in their lives those who cause them great unhappiness.

Empaths often feel they have a responsibility to help others help themselves to change. But many of those people do not want to change and, although they may protest otherwise, they actually enjoy living under a cloud of negativity.

It might sound selfish to suggest that one must always put the emotional health of self first, but it’s true. We have a responsibility to keep our body and mind healthy. If another continually causes you stress it will eventually make you ill (continuous stress causes illness).

If a food or substance made you violently ill or caused you to feel depressed, you would likely avoid it; the same should be applied to those who cause you emotional turmoil or those who take pleasure in putting or keeping you down.

 

You may learn from bad experiences, but you don’t need to keep experiencing another person’s negativity to grow.

Why do Empaths get so badly affected by the negativity of others?

Most Empaths tend to continuously work on making themselves better people. When you work on yourself, and make any positive changes to your mind, body or spirit, you become cleaner and purer. Your vibration then speeds up and anything of a lower vibration can feel plain awful… and that includes negative people.

Another fact that has to be taken into consideration is that when you vibrate in a ‘higher space’ it can cause a reaction in those around you. People sense change, whether it is visually apparent or not. They feel when another has changed or stepped up their frequency and some don’t like it.

You have probably already noticed that when in an emotionally low place, some friends prefer you that way. Yet when you make changes and put yourself in a high vibrating space, those same friends don’t like it. They may try to bring you back down and attempt to extinguish your inner-light and happiness.

Because not everyone is ready to raise their vibration they may try to draw you back down to their level and they can do this through snide remarks or mean behaviour. Some still have lessons to learn at their level and are not ready to move forwards, but they may resent the fact that you are.

The purpose of an Empath’s suffering

The further I travel down this road, the more I see the higher purpose served behind the dark behaviours displayed in people.

When we endure difficulties, by experiencing challenging situations or relationships, we eventually come to realise what we need to change for our own growth and development.

We can learn so much from the bad behaviour of others. Even if it’s as simple as developing the courage to say no, or believe in one’s own self-worth, let go of the need to be in control or to finally walk away from those who continually make us feel bad.

Any undesirable behaviour that repeats, in any type of relationship, is something that needs to be investigated. Repetition highlights flaws or issues that need to be worked on and learnt from. We all learn from the bad situations presented in life. But if the same emotional scenarios keep playing out, no one is gaining, learning or growing from the situation and it is time to cut the cord. (If others truly care and want to keep you in their life they will work to change their ways.)

Once you have learned from an experience you don’t need to re-learn it over and over. You may learn from bad experiences, but you don’t need to keep experiencing the same peoples’ bad behaviour to grow.

This is not about being spiteful or uncaring. You can be grateful for all they have shown you in life and still keep the love you have for them. But if you know in your heart that a relationship is doing you more harm than good and it feels time to let them go, then it is probably time to let them go.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time…

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

 

Why Empaths are Hurt by Criticism and how to Prevent it Impacting Your Life

There is no escaping this simple fact of life, the majority of Empaths are easily hurt by the criticisms and judgements of others. In some cases, so much so, that it may prevent them from taking any creative risks in life.

Yes, the pain of criticism holds many of us back, for the simple reason it is human nature to avoid anything which causes pain.

But as the old saying goes: ‘The only way to avoid criticism is to say nothing, do nothing and be nothing’. And I doubt there are many Empaths who want to go through life doing nothing.

As a blogger, an author and an ‘active poster on Facebook’, I have come across my fair share of criticism. Some of it being quite harsh. And, I will not lie, it does not feel good.

I have often questioned why is it that I feel so disconcerted when someone insults me or criticises my work and the best answer I can come up with is because I care.

It is not that I am so much concerned about being ‘disliked’, but more that I don’t want to cause insult or feel I have hurt or offended another by my offerings or opinions. I also get a little rattled when someone has misread my intentions or made wrong assumptions about me or my work.

That said, I also know criticism can be a great learning tool. Especially in regard to anything work-related or creative. We are often too close to our own work to see where things could be improved. An honest, constructively critical eye can help us see what we were previously blinded to. But, sadly, there are too many people who are insulting in their criticism. Instead of using a critique as a way to help another, some deliver it in such a way that is belittling or cutting Continue reading

Are You an Introvert Empath?


Many Empaths identify with being an introvert, for the reason that introversion tends to go hand-in-hand with an Empath’s journey. Even if you started life exhibiting more extrovert ways, the way the world makes you ‘feel’ can trigger or build introvert leanings, such as: a regular need for solitude, not enjoying spending time around people, experiencing social aggravation when around crowds, etc.

Did you know that nearly 75% of the world are extroverts? So, if you consider yourself to be  an introvert Empath you are a minority and that is something to be celebrated. But even if you consider yourself to be extrovert, you may also carry many introvert tendencies.

Sadly, many Empaths, or those who sit in between the spectrum of introvert and extrovert as an ambivert, often feel that their introvert ways can hold them back in life.

Generally speaking, most Empaths go through a stage of excessive introversion at some point in their life, especially around times of awakening, spiritual development or major life transitions (extreme introversion can also be a sign of major imbalance or even nutrition deficiency please see this post for more information), it tends to be part of their path of evolvement. Introvert ways also become more apparent with age.

Having introvert traits, in this extrovert-driven world, often brings challenges and hurdles to overcome. So much so, it can leave many Empaths feeling out of place, as though they’ve been dumped into a reality where the rules have been written for everyone else. It’s a world where fitting in with social expectations often means living a lie.

There is so much pressure to exhibit extrovert ways, both in the workplace and in social situations, that many introverts are having to ‘fake it’ in order to ‘fit in’. But, if there’s one thing an Empath dislikes its having to pretend (unless they’re actors up on stage) or act in a way that does not represent their truth. They do not like to conform and they do not like having to live a lie by changing their true behaviour to appease others.

Many introvert Empaths prefer not to be the centre of attention and often dislike networking, small talk and fake friendliness. But as this is an expected way to progress in the modern world it can leave a number of Empaths at odds with themselves.

Some may believe their lack of social skills is down to shyness, but there is a considerable difference between being shy and being introvert.

Although some introverts can be shy, that is not always the reason they do not like excess social interaction. Shyness is born from a fear: a fear of judgement or social rejection and experiencing social anxiety when interacting with others. An introvert can happily engage others in conversation (when not drained or overwhelmed) at social events, they just don’t like having the pressure to do so if it’s not what they want. They prefer to observe a room rather than work it. And as an Empath can become easily overwhelmed by the dichotomy of energies produced by large groups, social engagements can be a thing of dread. Continue reading

30 Ways to Unleash Your Empath Power!

Sometimes we all need gentle reminders of ways we can help ourselves to live a happier, more empowered life as an Empath.

But it’s also important to remember, we attract who and what we are. To draw more magnificence into your Empath life, it helps to develop a more magnificent way of being.

Here are 30 quick ways of being that can bring about incredible changes to your life, and unleash your hidden power, just by applying them:

1. Let Go of Expectations of Others

Expectations of others can cause untold pain and frustration. Let them go and it will free you from disappointment. You cannot and should not control everything in life. Acceptance is essential if you want to live a happy, healthy life.

2. Release Resentment or Anger

Why let another’s actions blight your life? Resentment makes you bitter. Let it go. Anger only punishes the bearer. Breathe though and release it.

3. Select Relationships With Prudence

As an Empath, you can become who you spend most time with. Choose your friends wisely.

4. Still Chaotic Thoughts

Stress and unhappiness are often born from chaotic Empath musings. By quietening your thoughts it will help free you from any unnecessary pain they cause.

5. Judge Not

Judging makes you fearful of judgements. Choosing not to judge, yourself or others, helps you find emotional freedom.

6. Stop Procrastinating

Don’t put off today what you can do tomorrow. Why waste life thinking about what you could be doing? It’s time to do it! Continue reading

How do You Know if You are an Empath or Simply Sensitive?

Do you often struggle to know where you fit in or wonder whether you are an Empath or not?

Over the years, I have often been asked the question: ‘How do I know for sure if I’m an Empath?’

My answer always tends to be the same: Generally, if you’re an Empath when you discover the term and the traits it encompasses you just know whether it applies to you or not. It is like a light bulb moment. You finally have an explanation for all that you feel and have experienced throughout your life… But, there are always exceptions.

In this post we will look at two traits that truly define an Empath.

What does it matter?

Although I don’t like to get too caught up in labels, I do think knowing and understanding who you are can help you on your journey. Also, knowing your defining traits can help you find balance in life. There is also the fact to consider that what might help an Empath, might not help the sensitive person. For example: dealing with emotional pain you are picking up from another is different to dealing with emotional pain caused by past trauma.

Ultimately, we all want to live the best life we can. We want to be happy and find stability and we want to leave these bodies in the hopes we did little harm. Knowing who we are and what strengthens or weakens us can help us achieve this.

The reason I think some sensitive people get confused over whether they are an Empath is because they feel things so strongly and share many of the Empath traits. But there are two traits that sets the Empath apart:

  • An ability to feel/read the emotional energy of others.
  • Heightened empathy.

Feeling emotions and the energy of other people

The chief trait of an Empath is feeling other people’s emotions, moods, buried pain and energy, but they also have incredible emotional intelligence and empathy for others, even if they don’t actually like spending time with people.

We will now look at how these traits work:

As already noted, when an Empath discovers the term, it is the moment their life makes sense. Everything they have experienced finally has a reason. But still, there are many more layers to uncover…

If you have spent a lifetime feeling the emotional energy of others, without realising, it may take a while to differentiate these emotions from your own.

As humans, we are very good at hiding our true feelings and just because someone has a smile on their face, does not mean they are not experiencing emotional pain. But an Empath will always feel what another doesn’t show.

There are a number of ways in which you may experience another’s emotional energy:

  • You might suddenly feel insecure when in their presence (if they have low self-esteem, worry what others think or have social hang-ups).
  • You may experience waves of sadness or you may want to burst into tears (if the other is grieving or emotionally low).
  • You could suddenly fill with rage or annoyance or get stabbing pains around certain chakras (the other has hidden anger).
  • You sense a heaviness around the pit of your stomach (they have buried issues they refuse to deal with).
  • You might feel anxious or constricted around the chest, you could also experience palpitations (often happens when there is a clash of energy).
  • You start to act differently or take on their personality traits, especially if they have a dominant personality. (Read more about this here).

There are many other ways an Empath will interpret the emotional energy of others. They can even pick up others’ emotions and thoughts when not in their presence (read more about this here), especially if they are directed at them.

Heightened empathy

This trait is a very obvious, but not much talked about, way of an Empath. But nevertheless, heightened empathy is a prominent trait and a very big part of Empath life, which goes hand in hand with emotional intelligence.

Because an Empath knows how it feels to be hurt by another’s words or actions, they will go out of their way not to do it to themselves (but Empaths are still humans. They can still suffer anger or may occasionally lash out when they are in pain).

Empaths often consider how their words or actions may be interpreted and will be careful not to cause offence. They are often so conscious of not intentionally hurting another—either through the written or verbal word (criticism, belittlement, etc.), or through their actions or behaviour—that they are wary of what they share so as not to offend or hurt others… Which has to be said, is near impossible in a world of varying opinions and beliefs.

Again, we are all human and we can still unintentionally do or say something that offends or upsets. But if an Empath realises they have done or said something which hurts another it will eat them up for days, weeks, months and even years.

An Empath experiences incredible pain if they see others (human or animal) suffer. Even seeing suffering from afar can leave the Empath near heartbroken.

They also hate to let others down. For example: they might go out, on a social event, even though they feel ill, overwhelmed or fatigued, so as not to risk hurting anyone’s feelings.

I am by no means suggesting that a sensitive person does not have empathy or emotional intelligence. What I am saying is, in an Empath it is incredibly heightened. So much so, it can take them a long time to understand why others don’t have the same level of consideration.

(If you know that you are an Empath but your empathy has all but gone out of the window, after a lifetime of let-downs, there’s a good chance you could be quite out of balance. You may find the following posts beneficial: here, here, here, and here.)

Intuition

I was also going to add heightened intuition to the traits that truly define an Empath. But as someone can be intuitively savvy and have an ability to read someone, but not be an Empath, I decided against it. That said, it is still a defining trait, which most Empaths use to navigate through life.

All humans have intuitive senses, just as they also have the ability to sense energy in others and feel an atmosphere. In Empaths, however, these traits are incredibly heightened.

So, there you go. If you were not sure if being an Empath applies to you, I hope this helps you decide. Or if you are an Empath, helps you understand your traits a little better.

Until next time…

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

 

 

Are You Dealing With the Aftermath of Strange Energy?

Have you been feeling off this past week or so? Have you been picking up dark energy, feeling fatigued, frustrated, edgy or anxious? Has your appetite increased or have you been craving sugary foods?

If you answered yes to any of the above, you’re not alone. There’s certainly been a strange energy lingering, which is very likely due to aftereffects of the solar activity last week. Read more about it here.

When there are any shifts or changes in energy or excessive solar activity, the effects can ricochet out and be felt for days or weeks after by an Empath.

I wouldn’t normally put out a post so close to my last one, but as I have observed some strange behaviour and felt a real heaviness in the energy these past several days, I thought it a good idea to send this out in case any of you have been impacted.

I posted the following article a couple of years ago, but as it is still as relevant today as when I initially wrote it, the advice still applies…

In recent years there has been such a lot happening with energetic changes. And anything to do with energy shifting will always affect the Empath in weird and wonderful ways.

But it is how it impacts others that might disrupt your life as an Empath.

When there is any type of ‘shift’ it usually brings to the surface that which has long been buried within the populace. Which often causes conflict, activates anger issues and finger-pointing.

If as an Empath you experience waves of feeling emotionally floored, angry, anxious or under attack, with no real reason for it, it could simply be down to a shift.

When these shifts happen you may, at times, feel like you are out-of-body, observing life as it is going on around you, but not really feeling part of it. It might seem as though you are watching helplessly from the side-lines as others refuse to face the truths of themselves or of this world and that everywhere people seem angry and preoccupied with issues or concerns. They are busy looking for ways to project this anger and they lash out, which then fuels it further.

This destructive emotional energy then just builds and builds and becomes more overwhelming for those of us who are Sensitive.

When we are simply observing the madness going on around us, in a detached way, it does us no harm. But it is too easy to become embroiled in it all and thus take on emotional energy that does not belong to us.

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Because the ‘anger energy’ stirred up by shifts, can be powerful, our mind wants to search out a logical explanation and reason for it. Even if the emotion doesn’t belong to us.

For example, if you had a disagreement with a friend or family member in the past where you felt betrayed or treated unjustly, you might find yourself festering over those memories; even though you have already forgiven those involved or let the situation go.

But if the mind cannot find a memory to attach the emotional energy to, it will look for something else to connect with. You may find yourself drawn into an injustice happening to a friend or family member. A political issue, that would not normally garner your attention, suddenly draws you in and winds you up the wrong way. Or you may become engaged in an issue that isn’t really there.

As Empaths, when we absorb strong emotional energy belonging to another we can still be tricked into believing it is our own. No matter how aware or how much work we have done on ourselves, we can still be taken off guard by these potent energies

Here are some ways in which you might experience energy shifts:

1. Waking Up Vexed: This is a common theme. Waking up in the morning, or in the middle of the night, with your mind already focusing on some past injustice, that had not even been remotely on your mind. These memories take over your thoughts which then trigger emotional responses. If you start your day in a low mood, you will draw to you more situations that match this low mood energy and the darker your day becomes. Continue reading