10 EMPATH MYTHS

I often say that us Empaths are a very misunderstood bunch. So much so, we often get misconstrued or just plain attacked for discussing the way we experience the world. Which can certainly be frustrating.

As many of you know, I have been writing articles for Empaths for over ten years now. I started back in 2011. In fact, it was on 30^th June 2011, that I published my first article, Being an Empath.

Over the years I have seen many derogatory comments and misinterpretations of our Empath traits. And, since starting to publish video posts on YouTube, I am seeing it all the more.

So, in light of that, today I present you with some of the myths and misrepresentations of an Empath I have come across whilst posting articles online…

MYTH 1: EMPATHS ARE VULNERABLE NARCISSISTS

Everyone carries at least one trait that could fall under the umbrella term of being a narcissist. But it always baffles me why an Empath so often gets compared to one. I cannot tell you how many times I’ve seen comments saying how Empaths are really quiet, introvert or vulnerable narcissists. I wrote an article about the subject, several years ago. Read it here.  

The one question that always comes to my mind is why someone would compare an Empath, who generally puts the needs of others ahead of their own, who looks out for the underdog, and has a deep level of empathy, to a narcissist. But I always answer my own question, and that is because people attack what they don’t understand. Also, if someone has been rejected by an Empath, they will often do anything to discredit them.

MYTH 2: EMPATHS CANNOT FEEL OTHER PEOPLE’S EMOTIONS

This is very much a MYTH. Feeling the energy of other people’s emotions is what really makes an Empath an Empath.

They may not always realise that when around other people, and feel strange sensations, that they are picking up on their emotions, but eventually the Empath comes to figure it out.

MYTH 3: AN EMPATH ALWAYS KNOWS WHAT THE EMOTIONS THEY FEEL IN OTHERS REPRESENT

This is another myth. An Empath does not automatically know what the emotions they feel in others signify. For example, certain pained or stressed emotions, such as anger or grief, can have a similar vibratory signature, and can be difficult to differentiate.

However, over the years, and the more they work on themselves, many Empaths become more attuned with what particular emotions stand for. This also makes them very good at reading people. But understanding what emotions represent in others is not always a given Empath trait.

MYTH 4: AN EMPATH WILL ALWAYS ATTRACT NARCISSISTS

This is a bit contradictory in that it can be both a myth and a fact that an Empath will attract a narcissist. It all depends on the Empath and the situation. On the one hand, an Empath, with their kind and considerate nature, can draw in a narcissist, but on the other, they can also repel them with their mirroring ways.

An Empath can, inadvertently, reflect back what they pick up in another, and many people, especially narcissists, do not like to see their own reflection.

However, it is a different story with a grandiose narcissist, as they do not tend to give off much in the way of emotional energy. Their own self-belief is so powerful that an Empath could be caught off guard and taken in by them.

Whatever the situation, once an Empath has been ‘burnt by a narcissist’, they will generally avoid them like the plague.

MYTH 5: AN EMPATH IS DELUSIONAL

Sigh! Yet another response I have seen in comments, that people who claim to be Empaths are delusional. Although there are hundreds of thousands of Empaths around the world, they are still in the minority.  So, yes, I understand that if someone does not have the same experiences as an Empath or feel the emotions the way they do, then it is very difficult for them to believe that anyone else can.

The claim of an Empath, that they can feel things others can’t, may also seem to some like they are trying to make themselves ‘special’, and this also ties in with the claim that Empaths are in fact quiet narcissists.

MYTH 6: EMPATHS ARE WEAK BECAUSE THEY EASILY GET ADDICTED

Many Empaths get addicted to certain substances, including food, as all humans do. But it is not because they are weak.

Feeling the pains of the world so powerfully, an Empath often wants to numb what they experience, and they do this with whatever gives a dopamine hit (the feel-good hormone). Things such as sugar, alcohol, wheat and other high carb foods, as well as drugs, are just some of the vices that can increase dopamine, all of which can become very addictive.

However, it is usually the case, that once an Empath realises what damage many of these addictive substances cause to the body and mind, often making things worse in the long run, they use their strong will to overcome these addictions.

MYTH 7: EMPATHS ARE LAZY

An Empath might get labelled as idle because they have the tendency to avoid doing anything that they do not like doing. But, in general, get an Empath doing things that they love, and they will show you just how un-lazy they are. So, yes, another myth.

MYTH 8: AN EMPATH IS RUDE AND UNSOCIABLE

If an Empath has taken on too much from their external world in the way of emotional energy, they may appear rude or even unsociable. This doesn’t mean they are. They simply need a time out. But when they feel low, overwhelmed or down, it can be hard for them to pretend otherwise.

MYTH 9: EMPATHS DON’T LIKE ANTIQUES

This is something I have had comments on over the years because it is on the list of 30 Traits of an Empath. Antiques can be items of incredible beauty, but they can also be quite energy dense. Meaning, that within cherished historical trinkets the energy of the previous owner or owners are often imprinted, which can feel weighted and heavy to an Empath. And this is the reason why some Empaths avoid antiques, because of their contained energy, and not because they don’t like them.

MYTH 10: AN EMPATH HAS NO PEOPLE SKILLS

This is one of the myths that is quite the opposite, an Empath can have excellent people skills. But when around anyone who is inauthentic, or if they carry a lot of emotional pain, they may struggle to be themselves. Contradictive energy can impact an Empath in some very weird ways, which might make them appear as if they are incapable of people interaction or have no social skills.

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So, there you have it, 10 Empath Myths.

Although I am sure there are many more myths that could be listed, these are just some of the more common ones I have come across.

I hope you enjoyed the post, and that you are keeping happy and healthy in your own corner of the world.

Until next time.

Diane

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Are You Struggling to Sleep?

Are you finding it difficult to fall asleep at night lately?

Or are you waking up, and not being able to fall back to sleep?

If that’s a yes, you’re not alone. Many people are struggling with sleep problems.

The thing is, when you are losing sleep, you are never going to feel your best. Not to mention how frustrating it is to be lying in bed, wide awake, clock-watching or feeling stressed about how little sleep you are getting.

There are many reasons that could be behind this, but some of the main causes are having unbalanced or erratic hormones (For women during perimenopause and menopause, sleepless nights are a common theme.), stress, lifestyle choices, and of course, strange energy shifts. And sometimes, an explanation can’t be found.

But one thing is for sure, a lack of sleep can impact us in some destructive ways. It can even lead to weight gain. Which none of us want.

So, in this post, rather than focusing on the reason for restless nights, I’m sharing some simple ways for you to get to sleep without having to do anything too taxing on your system, or without adding extra stress into your life.

1. Use Magnesium

Magnesium is essential for the proper functioning of our nervous system and neurotransmitter activity. Magnesium helps us relax, and boosts energy, it supports the endocrine system, which balances our hormones, and aids sleep.

Some foods containing magnesium are: dark chocolate, bananas, almonds and avocado.

But an easy way to get more magnesium is either by taking a supplement, by having an Epsom salt bath, or by using magnesium spray before bed. I have used all three and can vouch for their effectiveness.

Although it is not supposed to be the most absorbable form, I use magnesium oxide. As a sleep aid it seems to work exceptionally well.

However, some people find magnesium oxide has a laxative effect. If this is the case, you can use a magnesium spray instead.

You can buy magnesium spray online or even make it yourself.

Simply mix ¼ cup of magnesium flakes or Epsom salts with 1 cup of warm water. Allow the magnesium to dissolve completely, and cool down, then pour into a spray bottle. Apply several sprays of the mix on the soles of your feet before bed.

2. Apply Chamomile Essential Oil

Known for its sedative and anti-inflammatory benefits, chamomile is an excellent sleep aid. Good to add a few drops on your pillow at night or add to a bath (with a carrier oil) before bed.

For best results, use it on your pulse points (neck and wrists), fifteen minutes before bed, or put a few drops on your hand and inhale the aroma.

Always dilute your essential oil with a carrier oil, such as almond or coconut oil, before applying directly to your skin. Simply mix a few drops of essential oil to one tablespoon of your chosen vegetable or nut oil.

You can make a chamomile blend and keep it on your bedside cabinet. If you wake up during the night, roll it on to your pulse points and within ten minutes, the effects have normally kicked in.

If you like lavender, this is also another good oil to use for sleep and relaxation.

As a side note, always buy your essential oils from a reputable supplier. When it comes to aromatherapy, you get what you pay for.

3. Take Valerian and Passion Flower

Valerian root is a natural herb used for treating anxiety and insomnia. Similar to melatonin, valerian root puts you in a relaxed sleepy state. Valerian contains a neurotransmitter called GABA, that is known to have a powerfully calming effect on the mind.

Passion flower has many of the same qualities. When combined together, they make a potent sleep aid.

Take the supplements close to bedtime.

You can generally purchase pre-combined herbal valerian and passion flower supplements, in differing strengths, from all good health suppliers. However, you can also combine them in tea form, either loose tea or tea bags, and drink one hour before bed.

4. Wear Blue Light Blockers

When we watch TV, or go on our phones and laptops it exposes us to blue light.

Our brain associates blue light with daylight. So, when we look at our electronic devices in the evening, our brain gets the signal that it is daytime, which will keep you awake. This can then mess with our circadian rhythms.

Circadian rhythms are our internal body clocks that signal a cascade of hormones to be released at the right time each day to perform set functions within the body.

The circadian rhythm has a tremendous effect on our sleep and our energy levels throughout the day. When functioning optimally, it helps us sleep soundly at night and keeps us energised during the day. However, when out of balance, both our body and mind get thrown into disarray and we suffer the ill-effects.

Because we are always exposing ourselves to blue light, it offsets the release and rhythm of our hormones, especially cortisol, melatonin and leptin.

These are our master hormones that we really do not want to upset. But so many of us do without even realising. This can be behind the cortisol spikes that, amongst other things, keep us awake.

While we can’t avoid blue light altogether, we can lessen the effects by wearing blue-light-blocking glasses, a few hours before bedtime, for watching TV, checking our phones or going on our laptop.

Wearing them in the morning, before it goes light, if working on a computer or checking your phone, will also keep your circadian rhythms in check.

If you wake up regularly during the night, to go to the bathroom, and can’t avoid turning on bright overhead lights, use your blue light blocking glasses. This will also help keep you in sleep mode.

5. Lower the Lights Three Hours Before Bedtime & Sleep in Darkness

This is such a simple but effective way to help fall asleep and prevent us from waking up again during the night.

By lowering the lights, a few hours before bed, and then sleeping in complete darkness, it encourages the release of melatonin, which not only prepares our body for sleep but also helps us stay in a relaxed state, throughout the evening, and prevents nighttime waking.

Melatonin is known as the anti-ageing hormone that is produced by the pineal gland (area of the third eye) in the darkness. It is a naturally occurring hormone that regulates the sleep cycle. It is an antioxidant and anti-inflammatory that helps to prevent, and treat, many illnesses including cancer.

By blocking out all light from our bedroom, whilst we sleep, it goes a long way to help our melatonin levels to remain balanced.

6. Turn Off Your WIFI Router

Did you know that WIFI can prevent you from sleeping?

Over the years, the use of smart phones and laptops have skyrocketed. Even the ‘untechiest’ person will have a mobile phone.

This increase in mobile phone use has also led to the need for more cell towers around our towns and cities, which means greater levels of EMF in our environment, and within our homes.

Wireless gadgets are not the only problem. There are many other devices within the home that allow EMF frequencies to build up; such as televisions, fluorescent lighting, microwave ovens, etc.

EMFs disrupt energy frequencies within our body and within our energy field, they affect our endocrine glands (glands that produce hormones), immune system and nervous system.  They also cause sleeplessness.

By turning off your WIFI at night, it will help to remove some of those frequencies that disrupt the body’s natural rhythms. Which can help you have a better night’s sleep.

7. Avoid Caffeine After One PM

Most people already know that caffeine wakes us up, but may not realise just how long it stays in our system.

Every one of us is different, but generally caffeine can stay in our body from anything between two to twelve hours.

Determining how long caffeine stays within your body is something you will have to play around with yourself.

But a good guideline is to avoid having caffeine after one pm.

Caffeine is in colas, coffee and teas, both regular and green tea, it is even in chocolate.

Some people are more caffeine sensitive than others, especially when it comes to sleep. You may find you are best avoiding caffeine altogether to get a good night’s sleep. There are many great decaffeinated versions of both tea and coffee. Their flavour might be slightly different than you are used to, but it doesn’t take long to get used to them.

Just a word of warning, if you decide to give up caffeine, I would not recommend going cold turkey. Wean yourself off. Otherwise, you can get withdrawal symptoms that are not very pleasant.

8. Keep Your Clock Out of Sight

When you can’t sleep, having a clock close by will only cause stress, and in turn, keep you awake.

Why? Because you will keep looking at it, counting down the hours and minutes until you need to wake up. Which is too stressful.

9. Avoid Carb Heavy Meals Before Bed

Although a full belly of food can normally send us into a ‘comatose state’, having a starchy carbohydrate heavy meal, as our last meal of the day, can cause us to have energy spikes during the night.

Because carbohydrates break down into glucose, which is a form of fuel for the body, it can create an energy surge which can cause us to wake up.

When I refer to starchy carbohydrates, I’m talking about potatoes, pasta, bread or pizza, and anything containing sugar. The low glycemic carbs are the best option to have as part of your last meal of the day.

If you like to eat starchy carbs, try eating them for your lunch or breakfast instead.

10. Perform A Muscle Relaxation

Our muscles are constantly stimulated through the stresses of modern life. Because of this, even in sleep, the muscles might not fully relax. When our muscles are constantly contracted, they are fuelling the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight). Not only is this depleting the body of vital energy, but it can also be the reason behind sleepless nights.

I have included a link here to a short post that explains more about tight muscles, and a quick technique to release them.

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Hopefully, you will have found something from this list that will help you fall asleep and sleep through the night. Generally, you will need to use at least three of the above, but by using all of them it should help you get through those sleepless nights.

Obviously, there are other things that you can do to get a good night’s sleep, all of which would involve lifestyle changes, and reducing stress. But sometimes we just need something to help us in the here and now, and that is what I want to offer with this post.

I hope everything is keeping well in your world.

Until next time.

Diane.

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Empaths and the Rebound Effect of Stress

Most Empaths do not handle stress well. Fact!

Why?

For one thing, being overly sensitive in this insensitive world plays a big part. Our Empathic antenna is always on high alert as we navigate our way through life, picking up all sorts of pained emotions and stresses as well as dealing with our own stress.

As Empaths, our emotional senses are generally heightened, which can mean we just don’t handle any other excess stress. And it certainly doesn’t help that so much in this world seems to be designed to cause worry in one way or another. For example: the cost of living, excess traffic, career misery, and, for us Empaths, over feeling everything.

But one major issue, for an Empath, is the energy we project when feeling stressed. It can have a rebound effect, which, in the long run, can cause many more issues. We will look at how this works shortly. But first, why does an Empath so quickly get hooked by anything that triggers stress?

10 Ways Empaths Become Toxic

Did you just read that headline correctly?

Can an Empath become a toxic person?

Sadly, yes. But there’s more to it than you may think…

We may regularly read about the people who are toxic to an Empath, but not often the other way around. But he Empath can become toxic. Both to themselves and to others.

This may come as a surprise, considering all Empaths have a strong sense of empathy, and the last thing they would want is for another to suffer by the energy they emit, or their ways of being.

We will look at how an Empath can become toxic shortly, but first, I would just like to say that although the word toxic sounds a bit extreme, it is simply an easy word to describe something that is harmful not only to self, but also to others. I am not using it in respect of being fatal, causing another’s death or anything like that… Just thought I should point that out before I start 😉.

The thing is, we are currently living in a very tarnished world. It is a world that is purposely triggering us as humans, both physically and energetically. The more our emotions are negatively manipulated, the more negative energy we emit. Which, as you can imagine, is not good for anyone.

As Empaths, we tend to have heightened emotions, and an ability to powerfully project energy. So, the last thing we want is for our low-level emotions to be artificially stimulated, but, sadly, it is happening more and more.

So, without further ado, let’s take a look at some of the common themes that could make an Empath fall under the umbrella of being toxic:

Waking Up In A New Reality

I would just like to start by apologising for not posting very much lately. I feel like I’ve been super-busy (with very little to show for it), and finding myself with little time to write a post.

Anyway, whilst going through my files recently, to make some space on my laptop, I came across an article that I had written a few years ago, but never got around to posting. As I read through, it made me smile, thinking about how much of it relates to the journey of life.

So, I decided I would share it with you all today, and see whether you too can relate to it.

Enjoy…

Did you ever watch the film, The Wizard of Oz?

Was it one of your favourite films as a child?

Or did you read the book, authored by L Frank Baum?

I loved the film. I remember viewing it at Christmastime every year. It was so magical and amazing to watch. I never got bored of it, even though I’d seen it so many times.

So, when I have been doing my meditations of late, The Wizard of Oz theme keeps coming in to my awareness, especially the Emerald City.

When I pondered the significance behind the visions, it came to me that the story itself very much embodies the journey of life.

In fact, there is so much symbolism in the story of Dorothy on her journey to find the Wizard, that I’m not sure if I ever realised it before (I often forget the findings I make, during meditations, unless I write them down). But now, I am fully understanding the hidden messages within the story of The Wizard of Oz (the version where Judy Garland plays Dorothy.), and why it has been popping into my meditations.

If you’ve never seen the film, I’ll explain a little more…

Dorothy gets stranded in a strange but magical place after being knocked unconscious during a tornado. She wakes up in a land that is bright and beautiful, filled with little people, called Munchkins, and witches, both good and bad. Upon waking, in this strange world, Dorothy is desperate to get back home to her family and friends in Kansas, where she feels safe and her life makes sense. She is told by a Good Witch, Glinda, that she must find the Wizard of Oz, for he is the only one who can help her get back home. So, Dorothy sets off on her journey, on a yellow brick road, looking for the Wizard. Along her path she meets a scarecrow, who thinks he doesn’t have a brain, a tinman, who thinks he doesn’t have a heart, and a lion, who doesn’t believe he has any courage. Together they head off to find the One who will give them all what they need.

When they finally get to the Wizard of Oz, they discover that he is a fraud. He has pretended to be an all-powerful being to gain respect from others and to be in charge. However, Glinda then reappeared, and explained to Dorothy that she had to go on the journey to the Emerald City, and face the dangers along the way, because she had to discover for herself that she had the power within to get herself home. If she had been taken directly to the city, or if she had discovered her own power straight away, she wouldn’t have made the friends she had, or had the experiences she’d endured.

How the Film Compares to Life

We are all on our own ‘yellow brick roads.’ AKA the journey of life.

It’s a journey where we have to confront many fears and find our courage (Lion), a journey where we have to wake up to the control and programming of governments and authority, and the mainstream media (Wizard of Oz), and free our brains by thinking for ourselves (Scarecrow), a journey where we work to have more compassion and empathy for others, and move out of the lower three chakras into our heart centre (Tinman), it is also a journey where we find our ‘inner-home’, and come back to ourselves, through overcoming our own challenges (Dorothy).

In the film there is a good witch and a bad witch. The bad witch seems to be the more prominent character, who is constantly appearing. She desperately wants the ruby slippers off Dorothy’s feet, because they are magic and hold much power.

And doesn’t that also compare to life?

We have all had the experience of a ‘dark witch’ wanting to take our power (joy), and use it for themselves. And when I mention the dark witch, I’m referring to the narcissists of the world.

We may be travelling down a beautiful road one minute, then the next, a dark witch (narcissist) and her flying monkeys (followers) come to test us, throw us off our path, push our buttons, and steal our shine.

These encounters are often painful, yet, in the thick of things, they generally serve a purpose that not only teach us valuable lessons, but ultimately raise our vibration and awareness. It’s in facing these trials, and learning from them, that we eventually come to find ourselves in a better space.

Just like Dorothy, we’ve got to keep going if we want to get to the place we want to be. A place that feels like home, where we are safe and at one with ourselves.

We make these realisations whilst travelling the turbulent path of life (yellow brick road). And, again, just like Dorothy, we can make the discovery that we had the power all along, we just need to uncover how to use it.

So, yes, in my opinion, the story of The Wizard of Oz is symbolic of life now as we are living it. We may not always realise the significance of something as it is happening to us, or how it is shaping our choices and the direction we are taking, but generally all will be revealed.

Ok, there you go.

Hopefully, this quick read will have given you some food for thought, and maybe let you see the much-loved story in a different light.

I trust everything is keeping fabulous in your world.

Until next time.

Diane

©DianeKathrine

Should We Control Our Feelings or Should the Ability to Speak Freely Be Controlled?

First of all, I would just like to say a very happy new year to all you lovely Empaths out there. Let’s hope 2024 brings peace, happiness and health to all.

I write this post whilst sitting out on a veranda in Marbella, Spain, overlooking a rather spectacular golf course. My husband is out on the course playing golf, so I thought I’d take this opportunity to write a post, and share some thoughts with you, as I’ve not had much time to write of late.

As I tap away at my keyboard, the sun is shining down through a cloud-speckled blue sky, and within my eyeline palm trees are swaying gently on a light breeze. Perfect!

It is just so lovely being outdoors. The past few months in the UK have been pretty much non-stop rain. I’m not sure what kind of weather you’re experiencing, in your part of the world, but being able to get outdoors without an umbrella and a rain coat is so uplifting, and now almost feels like a novelty.

Anyway, I digress from the topic I wanted to discuss with you all today, and that is the subject of whether we should have the right to control freedom of speech to protect our feelings. Because, in a world that appears to be on the cusp of collapse, having freedom of speech just seems so important, especially when so many people are swallowing down their truth for fear of being cancelled, attacked, ridiculed or rejected.

I recently watched an interview with the comedy actor, John Cleese. He was discussing the importance of creativity in our lives, and how modern society and the education system seems to be stamping it out.

A point he also made, that I found to be very valid and interesting, was how people are no longer taking control of their emotions and are instead trying to control the words and behaviours of others.

When we attack someone’s opinions, and try to control what they say or think, we are restricting them from being their true selves. We are also taking away human liberties, which allows for us all to have different outlooks on life, whether those outlooks be right or wrong in the eyes of others.

I am not talking about trying to curb harsh demeaning comments that are said or written purely to hurt others, nor am I advocating for unnecessary cruelty or bullying. But everyone should have a right to an opinion, and be able to vocalise that opinion, regardless of whether it offends or whether others don’t believe in those same ideals.

We are all different, even as Empaths, in our beliefs and ideals, but what I am seeing now is how individuality is being stamped out. And, I don’t know about you, but I find that quite scary.

As a Sensitive person, I am more than aware how we can take offence in someone’s words or actions, or how we can have our feelings hurt by other people’s insensitivity. I also know how dark or pained emotions feel inside, especially those times when we don’t feel good enough.

As I look back on my own life, I can now see how the emotional reactions I endured have served a purpose in my own development. Through the steps I have taken, in the quest to feel more emotionally balanced, I have naturally evolved. As I know many of you have too.

Instead of expecting others to change for us, it is part of our responsibility to find out what is really causing any hyper-sensitivities and then work to find balance. That is not to say we have to do it alone or without help, but nevertheless, we’re the ones who have to do the work.

And sometimes, we simply have to accept that we are highly sensitive people, who might always be on the defensive or offensive.

Take Back Control

I am constantly advocating ways for Empaths to take back control of their emotions. This blog is full of posts written to help Sensitive people find balance or get back in control of what they feel, especially within this world that is constantly manipulating emotions, so that they can enjoy the life they were meant to lead, free from unnecessary pain.  

However, when we expect others to change their ways for us, instead of looking at ways to take control of our reactions, we are effectively giving our power away. We are allowing others to be in control of us.

The irony is, all the answers we need to find happiness and contentment lie within. We just need to find the right keys to unlock the doors to our hidden potential.

These keys can be as simple as stilling the mind, enough to hear our quiet guiding voice, through meditative practices, or by changing the diet, or balancing our hormones, or simply getting out of a toxic relationship. And sometimes, it is just discovering what is making us unhappy or even depressed.

Whilst I’m on the subject of depression, something that is currently massively overlooked, in these times of shutting people down to protect people’s feelings, is depression has been skyrocketing. This in itself shows the approach of controlling the behaviour and words of others does not work in making people happy.

As I have discussed many times before, the types of emotions that are currently being ignited, do untold damage to both the body and mind. The energy of which keeps the bearer continuously in their heads, which effectively prevents any true connection back to the heart.

Staying within the heart, so to speak, is the best way for us to remain connected to our own intuition, which in essence keeps us on the right track.

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Also, a question that is not being asked is why is everyone so incredibly sensitive, emotionally, to everything? And I am not just talking about the HSPs and Empaths. I am talking about a large percentage of the population. What is causing this pain?

This is me talking as an Empath, someone who overly feels everything and always has. And I would not wish emotional pain on anyone. But nor would I want to take anyone else’s freedom away to protect my feelings. Because, another very big lesson I have learnt on this journey is that not only do we have the responsibility to get in charge of our emotions, but also how we interpret the intentions of others.

All I am currently seeing around the media are reasons to be fearful or angry. And the thing is, people are reading and believing headlines, designed to distract, divide and offend, instead of stopping to question the narrative behind them.

Offence Cannot Be Given

There is a saying that offence cannot be given, only taken. Which suggests that we have the power to choose whether we should be offended or not. And that also means we have a choice whether we allow ourselves to get riled or insulted over goading headlines.

As a society, instead of giving people more reasons to be angry or fearful, we need to be helping people find the root cause of their sensitivities and emotional pain. And help each other heal, instead of trying to silence people. Because being trapped inside a world where there is no freedom of opinion or speech is a seriously frightening place to be. Think George Orwell’s 1984

We need to be looking more at reasons why so many people are suffering and cannot cope with life. The old adage that we are now living longer, so people didn’t live long enough to experience what they are now suffering, doesn’t work anymore. Because this is not an old person thing. Many young people are not coping with life.

Life in the Past

We only need to go back 80 years to our grandparent’s era, and see that the masses were not experiencing what we currently are.

Something they didn’t experience, back in the day, was EMF, chemicals in their diets or genetically altered foods, they also didn’t have hormone disruptors like plastics, and they weren’t constantly stuck indoors looking at computer screens whilst being bombarded with blue light. In fact, there’s probably a long list of toxic things they didn’t endure that we do.

Granted, their sanitary conditions weren’t what they are today, and they were also exposed to toxins in their environment that we no longer are. The place where I live used to be a big mining area. Mining was the main source of income for many households. In fact, most of my ancestors on my father’s side were miners, so they would have been exposed to all kinds of noxious dust and harsh working conditions. And every day, when they went to work, there was always a risk to life if, for example, a mineshaft collapsed.

Obviously, there were other toxic work places, like factories that had no health and safety measures. There was also food and money shortages (aka The Great Depression) that made life difficult. But people just seemed to get on with it, and made the most out of life. At least that’s what I can tell from the many stories I have been told or read.

Although we may have come a long way in some respects, we have also regressed in others. And people, especially the young, are suffering the consequence.

The Cause

So, getting back to what is the cause of all this deep unhappiness and depression. In my opinion, a big cause is the fact our hormones have been hacked. And not in a good way. Which is having the effect of making people unable to control how they feel, both emotionally and physically.

Ask any woman who has experienced a monthly period or gone through menopause, how their moods and happiness can be impacted by shifting hormones. We will tell you that our hormones can make us depressed, angry, upset, give us headaches, fatigue, brain fog, and more. And yes, we can be overly emotional, or sensitive to the words and intentions of others.

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But I don’t think it was ever suggested that people should be stopped from speaking their opinions, just to stop us having our feelings hurt.

It reminds me of when we are not feeling good enough, and we look to the outside world, wishing for it to change. We may think, for example, if that person were nicer to me, I would feel happier. And then we may get what we wished for, but yet feel no better. It doesn’t complete us or make us happy. We then look for something or someone else to change how we feel, and then when that doesn’t work, something else. Generally, when we look outside of ourself for answers it doesn’t make us happier. That is an inside job.

Emotions are Transient

To quote Matt Haig, ‘You are not your feelings, you just experience them. Like walking in the rain. But the rain will pass.’

And to add to that quote, if we want to get away from the rain we go back inside. If we stand outside and wait for someone else to bring an umbrella to shelter us, we will just get wet.

Yes, emotions come and emotions go. Sometimes they can be so all-encompassing that they are almost suffocating. But unless we take steps to get back in control, we will be forever at the mercy of our emotions.

Sometimes in life, we all need the reminder that waiting for someone else to make changes to their lives in order to change ours doesn’t work. Even in a relationship, there’s got to be both parties working to make it succeed.

So, in culmination, although I do not accept that we should expect people to change their beliefs or opinions in order to protect our feelings, I do believe we should all be working together to help those who are suffering, and try to find the root cause.

And perhaps we will all benefit from showing more empathy and understanding, in how we express our ideals and beliefs, so that we don’t cause unnecessary harm to others.

Ok, that’s my musings for today.

I hope everything is keeping perfect in your world.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

How I Am Surviving The Crazy Energy

Well, we’re back in full throes of the silly season, AKA Christmas.

For the Empaths of the world, this time of year can affect us in some weird and wonderful ways.

I don’t know about you, but each year I seem to have a different December experience. One year might be up, and another might be down, emotionally, physically and energetically. I may want to celebrate the festive season one year, and then the next I may want to avoid it and get away to the sunshine.

This year has been a bit of a one-off. In that it has been kind of hectic, but in a positive way, with lots of socialising and meeting up with friends.  (So much so, it has been difficult to find the time to write a post.) But I have to say I have thoroughly enjoyed it thus far (I know, we still have a way to go yet 😉), and I feel my daily habits are what have kept me so uplifted and in balance.

I wanted to check in with you all because I know how challenging the month of December can be. Not only with all the fluctuating stress energy of the populace, but with lack of daylight, cold weather, and with all the illnesses being passed around.

Because there is so much more stress in the air, it can be difficult for an Empath to stay centred, and things can often become overwhelming. And I know only too well what that feels like.

Within this month, many Empaths feel like they are experiencing a daily emotional and physical hangover, especially in the Northern hemisphere.

Yet, even those Empaths in the sunnier climates may still struggle with December energies.

I remember, many years ago, spending Xmas in Australia, where it is their summer, and I still experienced the similar physical and emotional sensations as I did when in the UK.

So, in case you’re wondering, here are some of the physical and emotional sensations some Empaths experience during this hectic period.

• Fatigue
• Headaches
• Becoming overly emotional
• Stress
• Nausea
• Feeling flu-ish without actually getting flu

There are many more symptoms you could experience. And, yes, I understand all of the above can actually be related to other things or indeed illness. But for many Empaths, having strange physical and emotional symptoms can be a common December theme.

Why Does It Happen?

In my opinion, it is all the different types of stress energy that triggers different responses within us Empaths. Stress can cause many problems within the body.

Most adults in the world experience some type of hassle over Christmas, whether that’s financial, physical, or just having a never-ending to-do list. As you know only too well, stress energy is hard to avoid for those of us who pick up on the energy of others.

The Solution

For that reason, I am sharing with you what I do daily, in the hopes it might help you too…

The following work an absolute treat for keeping me balanced, grounded and happy. And has, so far, helped get me through the silly season.

Hopefully, you’ll be able to find a trick or two that might help you too.

Getting Morning Light

I wrote about the incredible benefits I experienced by daylighting, earlier in the year. It is something I still do every day. No matter the weather, I get outside first thing in the morning, when it’s light, for at least 20 minutes. If it’s raining, I sit under my umbrella. If the conditions are really bad, I open the patio door and see the daylight from there.

I know my neighbours must think I’m completely bonkers (still haven’t got around to telling them what I’m doing), sitting there outside in all weathers, but it has worked a treat for rebalancing, and continues to do so.

I also nip out for snacks of light throughout the day, just for a few minutes.

As a side note, studies have shown that getting vitamin D, especially when absorbed from morning light, raises oxytocin levels. Oxytocin is the feel-good hormone that is super-beneficial to have at this time of year.

Daily Earth Grounding

This is also something I do every morning when I go out to get my morning light.

I usually wear my flip flops to go outside. I flick them off, before placing my bare feet on the grass (yes, it is cold, but bearable).

I realise that the problem many of you have with external winter grounding is the extremely cold earth, especially when there’s a layering of snow or frost. This is where grounding gadgets come in, such as grounding mats or shoes, etc.

I have a grounding mat that I use when the weather is too cold or too wet. Again, I put my bare feet on it. But generally, you have to spend more time on a grounding mat, than you do on the natural earth, to get the full benefits.

You can easily buy grounding mats and products off the internet.

There is a website here in the UK that sells grounding stuff: www.groundology.co.uk Although I have not yet bought anything from them, they seem to come highly recommended. Grounding mats, Grounding Yoga and Fitness mat (groundology.co.uk)

Protective Crystals

When I am out and about in peopled places, I usually wear my crystal bracelets (when I remember to put them on 😉).

Haematite used to be my go-to grounding stone, because it is both grounding and mirroring, and is protective when in busy or stressed places (basically everywhere over the festive period). But I now have another favourite, Black Tourmaline. Not only because it is protective and grounding, but because it is great for EMF protection.

EMF is quietly causing more problems in our world than you may realise. We can’t see it, but just like negative energy, many Empaths are taken down by EMF, and it is known to cause many health problems.

If you don’t own any crystal jewellery, keeping a piece of Black Tourmaline or Haematite with you at all times is a good way to shield yourself from unwanted energy and EMF.

If you want to learn more about the benefits of crystals for an Empath, see here.

Salt Lamps

Salt is so healing and grounding for the body and mind. I am a big fan of using salt, both inside and outside the body. I even drink a couple of glasses of salt water daily.

But something I find incredibly beneficial to use, at this time of year, is Himalayan salt lamps. I have two of them in my bedroom, and use them as bedside lamps.

I turn the salt lamps on a couple of hours before bedtime. And not only do they change the ambience of the bedroom, instantly making the room more relaxing, but they infuse the air with negative ions, which are known to ease anxiety, stress and depression. I feel the salt lamps also help with sleep and overall wellbeing.

Shake it Off

Although it is a crazy time of year, exercise is still something I aim to do every day. I find it incredible, not only for keeping me grounded, but also just for feeling good and uplifted.

However, I also know how busy everyone is at this time of year, and the thought of doing exercise every day can itself cause stress. Something that we want to avoid. So, this is where shaking comes in.

Shaking the body is something I have found to help rid the body of sluggish feelings or those blah moods. The saying, ‘shake it off’ clearly has merit in more ways than one.

Here’s What to Do:

Start by giving each leg a good shake, shake your bottom and your torso, shake your arms and hands, blubber through your lips and wobble your cheeks, run your hands through your hair and give the scalp a good shake (I do not recommend shaking the head as tension is often held in the neck).

Shaking works even better if you can do it with some uplifting funky music playing in the background. The music we love can do incredible things for us Empaths when experiencing energy overload.

The shaking method also works great if you pick up on any anger energy, It clears it from your energy field.

My diet also plays a massive part in my overall wellbeing. But, as I realise Christmas is not the time for that subject, especially with all that delicious festive food around 😉😊😊, I shall save that subject for another time.

Ok, that’s it for me today.

Hope you have found something to help you get through the silly season.

May I take this opportunity to wish you all a very Merry Christmas and an Incredible New Year.

Until next time.

Diane

 

 

Here are some more posts that might help with Xmas stress.

If you need to relax this post will help:  Incredible Relaxation Technique for the Empath

If you pick up on other people’s stress energy and emotions cast your eyes over this: Protection for the Empath

And if you spend time around overly negative people you need to read this: Reasons to Avoid Negative People

 

 

The Two Faced Empath

As an Empath, do you sometimes feel like you have got two faces?

As in the face you show one group of people, and then the face you show another?

If you do, you are not alone. Many of us do. And there is generally a reason for it.

I know the majority of people have ‘their faces’. But for an Empath it can be quite a contradiction on who we feel we should be.

As Empaths we tend to dislike inauthenticity, and not being able to be our true selves, and wearing another face is just that. I will get to alternative ways to look at this shortly. But let’s dive a little deeper into the reasons behind this two faced thing…

Now, I know everyone has a ‘professional face’, as in the job personality shown to customers or clients when in work, but that’s not what I’m really referring to in this post. It’s more to do with when around people with whom you consider yourself to be friends, acquaintances, or even certain family members…

Many Empaths will probably admit that the only time they get to be their truest self is when at home or when alone. (And that is another reason why so many Empaths love their alone time, because they are ‘free to be.’)

But why, when with certain friends, do we feel like holding back?

There is a good reason… and it’s not to be manipulative or to get them to like us.

The Awakening

When we awaken as an Empath, a new way of life is gradually revealed. Not only do we come to embrace and appreciate our unusual traits – traits that set us apart from others – but we start experiencing more synchronicities, we develop greater intuition and discover a new outlook.

Everything we have experienced when around people, emotionally and physically, finally makes sense. We understand our need for time alone, why we feel crazy energy when in busy places, and why we experience overpowering emotions when with certain people.

‘Yes’, we holler, ‘these feelings are real and have a reason. And we are not the only ones!’

We may become so excited by our newfound knowledge that we want to shout it from the rooftops! Tell the world who we are, what we know, feel, see and intuitively perceive. We have an explanation for all the inexplicable things we’ve experienced throughout life, and we want to share it with anyone who will listen…

Sadly, this enthusiasm, to share our new discovery, is short-lived. We quickly come to understand it is no easy feat discussing the ways of an Empath. Discovering who we are, it would seem, was the easy part!

Oh, we may try to explain our traits. The reasoning behind our Empath ways seem so simple, why wouldn’t anyone else understand? But when we try, we are greeted with drooping jaws, wide eyes and blank expressions. Even with close friends.

Or we may also sense that some go along with what we say just to appease us.

How is it that something we were so excited to discover holds no interest or is unbelievable to others?

It’s All Too Woo Woo

We soon learn that people find it difficult to believe what they don’t experience themselves. It’s as though if it’s not being openly discussed or acknowledged in the media, it can’t be real. It’s just too weird or woo-woo!

That is not to say no one accepts our Empath traits as being real. There are some who are very open to learn about the ways of an Empath, but it is not the majority. As we go along, we come to recognize to whom we can discuss our ways and to those with whom we should stay quiet, by the energy they emit.

Empaths like to live authentically and liberated. It feels uncomfortable to keep our traits to ourselves. But it is also uncomfortable to open up to another, who either doesn’t want to know or doesn’t believe.

But there is also another reason why many Empaths don’t open up about who they are and what they feel, and that reason is to not make others feel uncomfortable.

Let me explain:

Because part of an Empath’s nature is to be protective of others, the last thing we want to do is cause discomfort or freak anyone out by revealing that we can feel their emotions or know things about them that they don’t want others to know.

People don’t like it if they know another can see through them. It makes some people very uncomfortable. (Although, it has to be said, it can also have the opposite effect and make people fully open up, and want to offload. This is a subject for another time.)

So, although we may feel like we are living a double life, by not telling those around us that we can feel their energy, we soon learn that it’s ok.

Not everyone is ready to know about an Empath’s traits. We have to respect the journey of others. And, as long as we work to be our best selves and to understand who we are and why we’re here, we shouldn’t worry about not revealing ourselves. Having ‘two faces’ is simply a form of protection. Both for ourselves. and for the comfort of others.

However, there is a way to feel better about not being able to be your true self around certain others, and that is to remind yourself that you are simply acting in the ‘great play of life’.

Life is a Schoolroom

One of my favourite sayings is ‘life is a schoolroom, and each day is a lesson.’ And when we are at school, we get to act, play, and learn lessons. We are learning every day. Everything we undergo offers us a lesson, and that includes having ‘the two face experience.’

So, to summarize, this post is really a reminder that if you feel like you are living a lie, or get frustrated by the fact you are having to still fit in to a world where you don’t feel like a fit, or that you are not fully able to openly discuss what you feel and believe, know that you not alone, and it really does serve a purpose.

The best place I find for being my truest self is when out in nature, or simply connected to earth. I’m talking being in the woods, by the sea, or even when simply connected to the grass in the garden. Nature knows who we are, and doesn’t judge us. When in her presence, we are simply free to be.

If, however, you have come to a stage where you want to be more open and reveal more about who you really are, as an Empath, then the Traits of an Empath Uncovered  may give you the pointers you need. It helps by allowing you to better understand your traits, which in turn helps you better explain them to others. 

Ok, that’s it for me today.

Until next time,

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

HOW TO USE THE POWER OF CRYSTALS AS AN EMPATH

It is widely known that everything in the universe is composed of energy vibrating at different frequencies. We can thank Nicholas Tesla for that observation. He was amongst the first to introduce the concept that different vibrations of energy impact the way other forms of energy vibrate.

Nikola Tesla said, ‘If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration.’

Any Empath will attest to the above statement. Feeling vibrations of energy, belonging to others, comes naturally to them. As does their instinctual draw towards crystals and their healing power.

Crystals and the Empath

I have written several books aimed at empowering the Empaths of the world. In them, I have only briefly covered the subject of crystals and how beneficial they are, but there is so much more to be revealed. That is why I wrote a book on the subject.

Every Empath is on their own journey of evolution. All of whom have different interests and different needs. For one, a book about crystals will hold no interest, for another it is just what they need at their stage of development.

The book isn’t just about the benefits of crystals; it also details an Empath’s journey, why they endure certain life experiences, and how crystals can help.

There are many layers to an Empath, and indeed a Sensitive person. Their life is a journey of continual growth and change. It can also be an isolated path to walk. Few could ever understand the way an Empath experiences the emotions of other people or how this impacts their health and wellbeing. Feeling and taking on the energy and emotions of others can really take its toll on an Empath’s physical and mental health. Because of this, they have to work harder than most to find overall balance and peace of mind. And this is where crystals really come into play in making life easier.

CRYSTALS FOR EMPATHS

Crystals can help protect you from the energy and negativity of others, they can assist in keeping you grounded, they can reveal and heal your shadow side, they help with social anxiety, and much, much more. They simply make life better.

It is not until you start working with them, in your daily lives, that you come to fully understand the true power of crystals. They not only help in protecting an Empath from the emotional energy of others, which means they don’t get as drained when out in public, they can also protect them from sensory overload, and from electro-magnetic frequencies (which has now become a major problem for Empaths and Sensitive people of the world, as you will find out later).

Using crystals can alter your energy to such a degree that it allows for healing within the physical body. All of which goes a long way to helping the Empath find balance. Certain crystals can also help put you back in touch with your true self, and work as energetic medicine for your mind, body and spirit.

Although there are hundreds of different types of stones, all with countless properties, my aim with my book is to guide you towards the most effective crystals for you as an Empath.

So, let’s take a look at what this book is about with an excerpt from the first part:

The Journey Begins

Before we dive in, I must point out that although incredible, crystals won’t always be the elixir you are looking for. There is no denying that crystals have extraordinary power, but if there is an underlying condition being caused or impacted by, for example, your diet, nutrient deficiencies, by adrenaline dominance, or by hormone imbalances (such as menopause) you will probably need to take additional steps to heal. I say probably because, for some people, using specific crystals was all they needed to find balance of their body and mind. But we are all different. Some of us have to dig a little deeper to get answers and healing. Most holistic treatments that treat energy imbalances, take time to work their magic. Healings don’t often happen overnight. I go into greater detail about this subject in the chapter, When Crystals Don’t Work.

We all want to live happy, healthy lives which, in this world, is becoming increasingly difficult to do, especially for the Sensitive people. I hope that by the time you have finished this book you will be excited to include crystals into your daily life to help bring back balance.

You are about to embark on an incredible journey. It is a journey into learning everything you need to know about crystal healing for an Empath…

CHAPTER ONE

If you have come across this book, chances are you have a natural draw towards crystals and a curiosity to know why. This is not by chance. Your inner-knowing has guided you towards their transformational energy.

Crystals should play a part in every Empath’s life. They are little pieces of magic that emit powerful healing frequencies. After learning of their potential, you will be ready to use them every day, not just for rebalancing and happiness, but to be better in all you do.

The healing influence of crystals has long been understood in many cultures. Crystals have been regarded as vessels of power as well as objects of beauty. In Ancient Chinese cultures, Jade was prized for its medicinal properties, Ancient Greeks rubbed crushed Hematite on to the bodies of warriors before battle, in the belief it made them invisible, and even the Christian Church cherished the power of precious gems.

For a Millenia crystals have been used for their incredible power and their ability to absorb and transfer energy, and to balance the chakras for all over healing. The reason they are still used today, to heal and realign the mind, body and spirit, is because they work.

Having a thing for the crystal kingdom is quite normal for anyone who has an intuitive awareness. An Empath may build a collection of crystals and tumble stones without necessarily knowing of their benefits. They simply have an in-built attraction towards them. Interestingly, it is generally observed that when drawn to a particular stone, it is for a reason. You may not know of its attributes but your higher-self does.

Everyone, and not just Empaths, will benefit from having a range of crystals, especially during these challenging and changing times. A basic selection serves in so many ways. In this book, I discuss the various ways they can help in the home, when out and about, during travel, for protection from energy vampires, as a simple way to reset, and many other ways.  Crystals can be worn as jewelry, carried in pockets and bags, tucked in the socks, used in home furnishings and much more.

How Do Crystals Work?

Carrying the healing frequency of the earth, crystals are formed by magma or gasses in the earth’s volcanic lava streams, and the salt beds of natural lakes. They are defined as solid objects with atoms repeated in an organized pattern, known as a crystal lattice. Atoms group together to form the various qualities of crystals. Because each crystal has a unique molecular structure, that vibrates at a specific frequency, the many different stones are able to offer their own unique healing qualities.

Empaths, Energy and Crystals

Just like crystals, as Empaths, we have a unique frequency at which we vibrate. Our personal vibrations are impacted by our individual history, the way we think, the way we feel, our living environment, our diet and many other factors. Our biography impacts our biology and the speed at which we vibrate. The poorer our physical and emotional health, the slower our vibration. The opposite is also true. When happy and healthy, we vibrate at a higher frequency and life is better for it. As Empaths, we are also impacted by the energy of those we come into contact with. This too affects our health, happiness and what we attract. This is why crystals are so wonderful. They not only help raise our vibration, but also offer protection against anyone, or anything, that could lower it.

We are not only made up of a physical body, we also have an energy body or aura. The aura is our first line of defense and acts like a shield against the energy of others. I suppose it could be compared to an energetic immune system that fights off foreign energy not belonging to us. And, just like an immune system, it does not always work the way it should. If the aura is weak, damaged or leaky, too much external energy can be taken in. The impact of which is normally experienced in unpleasant ways. Some clues that an Empath has a weakened aura are: quickly becoming fearful, overwhelmed or fatigued when around people. This is because a rapid influx of external energy seeps in through the aura and impacts the physical body in unusual ways. Because crystals raise our vibration, they strengthen the aura (discussed in more detail later on), which then creates a stronger barrier towards external energy.

Grounding and crystal shielding are formidable tools for an Empath’s protection. We are each responsible for the energy that we attract, repel and send out. If, for example, we take on negativity from another person, or if we experience an energy clash that affects how we feel physically and emotionally, we need to take steps to rebalance. We cannot control another person’s emotional energy, but we can control how it is received within our body and mind, and this can be done by using crystals.

I once read that crystals can be used like an umbrella in the rain. Which I thought was a great turn of phrase. The umbrella helps keep us dry and protected when there is a light shower, but if there’s a heavy downpour it doesn’t always shelter us from all the splashes and gusting droplets of rain that swirl around us, battering us from all directions. We may also need to use waterproof trousers and a mac for extra protection. This is the same with crystals. Sometimes, we need more than one crystal. On occasions, when in heavily peopled places, we may require a crystal for grounding, one for protection and one for energizing. Or we could use a crystal in conjunction with another healing or protection method such as aromatherapy oils. Throughout this book we will be looking at all the different ways with which crystals can be combined for ultimate Empath protection.

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Ok, there you go. Hopefully you will have got a feel of whether the book is for you…

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I do hope everything is wonderful in your world.

Until next time

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

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THIS IS A CRUCIAL TIME FOR EMPATHS

Seems a bold heading, doesn’t it?

Why on earth would this be a crucial time for Empaths?

Well, it is a crucial time for us to stay in charge of our traits, our health and how we feel, for the reason we tend to project the energy of what we feel into the world.

As I know you’re only too aware, Empaths are known to lap up the emotional energy of those in close proximity, but we also project energy out.

Its not just Empaths, everyone has the ability to project out their emotional energy on to others, but in my humble opinion, Empaths tend to be extra good at it. If you get my drift?

I’m sure you will have noticed that when you are in a weird place, feeling agitated, upset or down, the rest of the world seems to adapt to your mood, whether you show your feelings or not.

To give you an analogy,

Have you ever watched Men in Black 2? When Kay reveals that Laura is The Light of Zartha, and he explains why she knows things before they happen, or that when she’s sad it starts to rain? She has the power to change the vibrations around her. And in a roundabout way, this is what many Empaths do. Maybe not in making it rain, but when our moods shift it can change the energy around us, and the way the world presents to us.

As you know, this world is in a seriously weird place. There is a lot of turmoil energy around.

It’s almost as if the world seems to be deconstructing.

Nothing is stable.

There is so much chaos and confusion that it can be hard to properly function.

People seem to be either burying their heads, to what’s going on, or losing their minds.

And that’s why it is so important for us to keep ours.

AVOID THE DISTRACTIONS

I have said it in other posts, we are being purposely distracted. Distracted from our own power.

Sensitive people, like Empaths, experience this more than most.

Those of us who have been working diligently on self-development, through balancing our mind, body or spirit, will have seen many positive changes in recent times. Our vibration is continually rising; our intuition has increased, as has our ability to manifest, and our moments of blissful clarity are getting bigger and better.

We are more heart centred than ever before. Yet, despite this, we can still easily be pulled down into a low vibrating space without us even realising what’s happening.

Over the recent years, I have noticed this occurring on numerous occasions. I didn’t recognize it at first, and would find myself getting caught up in the drama. But now, I try to stay aware of it as it happens and I know it is not a coincidence. It seems the better the space I am in, the more something tries to pull me out of it. And sometimes it works.

Yes, it could be some type of test, but the fact that every form of media is spewing some seriously dark stuff out from all directions, makes it hard to avoid.

These major distractions really can take us off our game.

KEEPING IT REAL

The thing is, when you’ve cleaned up your thoughts, your energy field and your diet, and you avoid unnecessary negativity, your mind, body and spirit naturally vibrate at a higher frequency. However, you don’t necessarily notice this higher vibration until you are pulled out of it, and when it happens, it feels worse than ever!

If you are one of life’s game changers (Anyone who works on changing themselves for the better, is a game changer.) you will probably be noticing this happening, and if you haven’t, look out for it.

When we are in our heart centre, we project a high vibrating energy out in to the world.

When our vibration lowers, and we get pulled from the heart, we no longer radiate that powerful vibration.

We are all human, and we all need reminders, from time to time, not to engage the madness. No matter how hard it tries to lure us in, and to recognize what is happening.

POSITIVITY BREEDS POSITIVITY

When we are in a high vibrating space, we project that energy out, and it is this energy that will help heal the world by aiding others in raising their own vibration.

No one benefits from the energy of anger or dark emotions.

Those who want to keep the world as a lower vibrating space, do not want us to radiate out powerful vibrations of love or of positivity, so they cleverly orchestrate distractions for us, that lower our vibration.

Being aware of when any type of trauma trigger is being activated is essential, because they are the fastest way to throw us out of our groove and take us down.

How we behave, act and feel is so important now. Not just to us, but to everyone.

As I said, what we feel, we project out into the world and when taken off centre, our mood shifts to a lower vibration and our awareness is compromised.

My last two posts have been focused on ways to stay in a more emotionally stable place, one by using daylight to balance circadian rhythms, and thus increase our frequency, and two, by using ways to increase the love hormone, oxytocin. But there are also hundreds of other free posts on this blog, all aimed at empowering you lovely Empaths out there.

The more we work to raise our frequency, the better place the world will be for ourselves and for others.

Ok, that’s it for me today.

I do hope this helps on your journey.

Don’t forget if you want to pre-order Crystals for Empaths, it’s half price on Kindle until 16th Oct 23. Click here for more info on the book.

Until next time.

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

 

 

 

 

HACK YOUR HORMONES: A GUIDE FOR EMPATHS

If you regularly read my blog posts, or indeed if you have read any of my books, you will probably already know that Empaths are at a greater risk from having unbalanced hormones.

I know this is a subject I tend to bang on about, but because I know how unbalanced hormones can make Empath life unnecessarily miserable, it will always be something I come back to. If I can share snippets of information that help prevent it from happening, then that is what I am going to do… 😊😉

So, because, as Empaths, we tend to endure heightened emotional reactions, on a regular basis, the body thinks we are under constant threat, which can then trigger repeated stress hormone spikes.

The thing is, when our body feels we are in danger, it will prioritise keeping us safe, and it will do this by releasing certain hormones that, for example, give us the energy to run away from dangerous situations.

However, in these cases, when the body pumps out more of certain hormones, such as adrenaline or cortisol, it will reduce the release of other hormones, such as progesterone.

MOST EMPATHS ARE IN THE DARK ABOUT THIS…

Have you ever experienced the incredible benefits of exposing yourself to morning light?

I call it daylighting. I’m not entirely sure if anyone else calls it that. But it’s a word that I think fits. And it is something that, as the title of this post would suggest, most are in the dark about.

Basically, daylighting is getting natural light into your eyes as soon as you wake up, every day, by either watching the sunrise or simply going outdoors and looking in the direction of the sun (not directly at the sun), first thing.

In a nutshell, what it does is balance our hormones, and has many other benefits, which we will take a peek at shortly. But I can vouch that it really works.

For the Empaths of the world, this is something that comes with many advantages.

8 Signs That Show You Are Unbalanced As An Empath

When you’re an Empath, there tends to be many hurdles to overcome in life.

And we often find that when we overcome one obstacle, another will replace it.

That’s not to mention all the challenges we face with our Empath traits, which in themselves can throw many problems our way.

Because of this, it is important to make sure we know where any Empath imbalances lie, so that they don’t cause any more unnecessary difficulties.

However, as you’ve probably already found out for yourself, it can be tricky to determine if something is a ‘human physical problem’ or if it’s something caused by an Empath trait gone awry.

WHAT IS THE EMPATH SHUTDOWN?

Have you ever been in a certain person’s presence, and found yourself feeling really weird, or even negative, yet having no reason for it? As in, the other person has done nothing to offend or upset you?

Or have you ever found you’ve not been able to talk to a certain person and not really known why? You might find yourself stumbling over your words, or sentences don’t form in your mouth. And again, there’s no real reason. The other person seems perfectly lovely.

This could be all part of The Empath Shutdown.

Here are some more symptoms of how an Empath can act, around certain people, when in Shutdown:

Determine Your Masculine and Feminine Energy Dominance

Some time ago, I discussed the idea that one of the reasons why we are now experiencing so much strife in the world is because the balance between masculine and feminine is seriously off.

Before I knew how masculine and feminine energy impacted the body, I would often question why when I got ailments or niggles in my body, it was often on my left-hand side.

Through my research and yoga teacher training, I came to understand that one of the main reasons was due to the fact I had an imbalance within my masculine and feminine energy. Predominantly my feminine energy.