Finding Purpose and Taking Back Control

Last month, I happened across a great piece in The Guardian about depression and mental health, that really struck a chord with me.

Basically, the article said that depression is not about chemical imbalances—as it has been touted by the scientific and medical communities for many years—but more about power imbalances and a lack of control. (Even though it was not written with the Empath in mind, I recommend that you read it. It’s quite enlightening.) Here is a link to the article:

Most Empaths and Sensitives are prone to having bouts of depression and or depressive moods. Although we can often link these gloomy periods to spending time with overly negative people, being around those who act as trauma triggers, or eating unsuitable foods, etc. but power imbalances, and a lack of life-control is something we should also consider.

A lack of control being linked to depression makes total sense. Not having power in one’s life also equates to feelings of helplessness and the sense of walking aimlessly. When we feel we are not in control of our life, and have no direction it might also be said that we have no purpose.

Everyone needs purpose. To have a reason to get up in the morning to do something not only that we enjoy but that we know we are good at. But how many people can make that claim? Not many. Most are stuck in jobs not for the joy or purpose it gives them, but for the pay-check.

Anyone who is creative and/or intelligent (and I don’t just mean educated) are naturally inclined to want to be in control of their destiny and have a reason for being. Granted, some think they would prefer others to make their decisions for them—often born from having a fear of making the wrong decision or a lack of belief in self—but someone else controlling our life or purpose will never bring happiness.

As I’ve written about before, over 80% of the workforce are unfulfilled by their work. But if we consider that some went into professions chosen by their parents it makes sense. After all, who knows at sixteen what they will want to do for the rest of their lives. This, I believe, is a reason many find themselves unhappy in their work in later life. They didn’t choose their vocation, or they chose too young. Many are pushed towards careers for the remuneration as opposed to job satisfaction. And, although our parents know us better than we would care to admit, they are not there to choose our vocation, and in turn life purpose for us.

The lack of life-control in society means we end up living in conflict. Inside, we want to do something that feels meaningful and gives us purpose. In reality, many are stuck working to pay for mortgages, bills and children, and to fund a lifestyle.

What we are told will make us happy rarely does because one size does not fit all.

I often refer to myself as being a ‘quiet control freak’. And that is not because I secretly want to rule others or be on some kind of ‘power trip’ with them. But because I want to be in control of my life: I want to control what I do, where I go, and how my time is used. So, I tend to have a problem when others try to control me.

But having a desire to control one’s own life is not a bad thing. We are at the helm of our own ships and it is up to us to set our own course and destination. When we are ready to do so (which is rarely at the age we are expected).

Not being in control can seem like a form of imprisonment. As is feeling forced to do work we have no passion for or interest in. That is not freedom. Humans are supposed to have freewill. We also need to know we have choices even if we don’t choose to use them.

Too often Sensitive people are made to feel small and insignificant by those who enjoy undermining others. In our bid to overcome this we may search for positions of power or wealth in the belief they will make us whole or worthy. Alas, this is often not the case. Even if we achieve great status, power and vast material wealth, if we do not feel in control or if we are not following our calling the void remains inside.

The article I linked to above, an extract from Johann Hari’s book: ‘Lost Connections’, suggests that the depression most experience is caused by our inner-self trying to raise our awareness that we are off course. ‘It’s telling us that our natural psychological needs are not being met and is a form of grief.’ Which I totally agree with.

We need to listen to our emotional signals and this is something I write a lot about: By listening to our gut’s promptings and intuition it can save us unnecessary heartache. As an Empath, however, defining these signals is a challenge. Because we feel everything so powerfully, it is difficult to discern the trigger of our own emotions, and those that belong to others.  But, speaking from experience, this is something we can all learn to overcome.

In the past, I suffered with mild depression and low moods, both of which pushed me to find the cause and make necessary changes. Nowadays, if I experience a gloomy mood, I can link it back to either eating a food I shouldn’t (normally containing high levels of lectins), having spent too much time in peopled places or around excess negativity (or intense shifts in energy). Because I have learnt to interpret my own signals and triggers, I try to follow what is right for me. There is nothing worse than experiencing low moods unnecessarily.

If we are constantly down or depressed, these are our inner-messages telling us something is not right either with the path we are walking or the way we are living our lives.

If you regularly read my posts, you may already know I am a great believer that bad things happen for good reasons. We just don’t see it at the time. Depression can be a call for change, our change. But we have to question it and find the root cause, which will be different for everyone. However, sometimes depression is sparked by that which seems out of our control, which is something I intend to address in my next post.

We need to focus on taking back our power and that starts with getting in control of what we can.

To live happily as Empaths, staying in control is something we must work on daily, otherwise the world, and the way it makes us feel, will swallow us up.

Because this is a vast subject and an area many Empaths struggle with, I will continue the theme in my next post. But if you want to look at ways to take back control here are some posts that may help you on your way.

Are You Leaking Energy?

What is an Empath’s Purpose?

Transform Your Empath Life with This One Thing

An Empath’s Guide

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time.


©Diane Kathrine


Why Do Empaths Have Such a Strong Sense of Not Belonging?

Too many Empaths go through life feeling like they don’t belong. It’s as though they have been dumped in a reality that is not a fit for them… So why is that?

Even before we discover who we are, as Empaths, we can feel like a giant square peg trying to squeeze into a tiny hole.

We look around at those who glide through life, following the rules laid down by society, who appear contented with the way the system operates and who slot in with others effortlessly. Even if they are unhappy, they never seem to question anything, nor find fault with ‘the way things work’. We may wonder why is it so easy for them to ‘fit in’ but not for us?

There are several reasons for this ‘sense of not belonging’ the Empath has; one of which being the way we ‘feel’. Continue reading

A Guide to Surviving Christmas for the Empath

As I was nosing through some of my old posts, I came across one I posted two Christmases ago (read it here). It made me smile because I remembered how much I disliked the month of December and how bad I always felt when it came to the ‘Silly Season’.

But this year, I have loved every minute of the month. I have loved the cold, damp darkness and wrapping up in warm winter woollies. I have admired the twinkling lights dangling from the trees and houses in the neighbourhood and I have loved socializing and getting together with friends.

Although I still choose not to participate in the ‘material side’ of Christmas, I am now able to enjoy the month without being taken down by the ‘crazy energy’ it produces. And I know this change is due to the fact I continue to work on myself, as an Empath, and I am always finding new ways to overcome the many obstacles life throws us.

However, I know how challenging life can be for the Empath at Christmas. It can be overwhelming, draining and difficult. And, for that reason, I am sharing extracts from the ‘Surviving Christmas‘ post because the techniques still remain beneficial and are good to help one find balance.

Surviving Christmas

Daily Grounding

Most Empaths have a daily grounding ritual, but to stay out of the ‘Christmas stress’ we need to add something extra to it… childlike positivity.

Adopting childlike excitement into your energy can help protect you from the stress energy of others.

We have a choice where our energy and focus goes. Consciously choosing the right focal point is essential to keeping our energy in the right place.

You only have to cast your mind back to childhood to remember how explosively exciting Christmas was. So, instead of tuning into people’s stress energy, focus your awareness on a child’s exhilaration and it will help keep you uplifted and energised.

Carry Haematite or Other Protective Stones

Haematite is both grounding and mirroring, and it will help protect you when in busy, stressed places (basically everywhere over the festive period).

Keeping a piece with you at all times is a good way to shield yourself from unwanted energy. If you want to learn more about the benefits of Haematite for the Empath see this post.

Eat Lots of Bright Coloured Food

Oranges, lemons and limes, red apples, blueberries and bananas, for example, will help keep you protected and healthy over the silly season.

Christmas contributes to bad eating. Party food and alcohol carry little in the way of nutrients, and if we pick up lots of stress energy the immune system will be compromised.

By eating lots of lovely bright coloured foods it ensures you get lots of vitamins and enzymes which wards off colds and builds your resilience towards stress-related illness.

When we eat brightly coloured food, in the form of delicious fruit and veg, we reap many benefits.

Also whether we gaze upon it of consume it, colour raises one’s mood and vibration and that is always going to be super beneficial at this time of year.

Shake it Off

If you get overwhelmed by too much stress energy a brilliant way to get rid of it is by shaking it off.

Start by giving each leg a good shake, shake your bum and your torso, shake your arms and hands, blubber through your lips and wobble your cheeks, run your hands through your hair and give the scalp a good shake (I do not recommend shaking the head as tension is often held in the neck).

Shaking works even better if you can do it in water and/or with some uplifting funky music.

The shaking method also works great if you pick up on any anger energy.

Eat Chocolate

Eating moderate amounts of chocolate is a perfect, and delicious, way for an Empath to ground and recharge.

Many Empaths are naturally drawn to chocolate, their inner-knowing already knows of its benefits. However, not all chocolate is created equal, the darker the chocolate the better and if it is organic, perfect!

Opt for minimum 70% cocoa when choosing your chocolate fix.

Dark chocolate is super healthy as long as it in not loaded with unrefined sugar.

White refined sugar is inflammatory. It causes excess cortisol to be released into the body which then heightens uncomfortable emotions and stress for the Empath (click here to learn more). So try to avoid it.

Practice Gratitude

Christmas can cause overwhelm for an Empath and put them in a negative mindset, but by practising gratitude it can raise the spirits like nothing else.

Being grateful for what you already have in your life will bring in more things to be thankful for. Or, if you don’t feel like you have much to be grateful for, be grateful for the amazing things that are coming your way.

You will be amazed at just how uplifting this is. It also works like chocolate and floods your system with feel good hormones.

Here are some more posts that will help the Empath with Xmas stress

If you need to relax this post will help:  Incredible Relaxation Technique for the Empath

If you pick up on other people’s stress energy and emotions cast your eyes over this: Protection for the Empath

And if you spend time around overly negative people you need to read this: Reasons to Avoid Negative People

I would also like to take this opportunity to wish you all the very best this festive season and I hope and wish you all the most amazing 2018.

Wishing you all much love, happiness and festive fun.


©Diane Kathrine.


The Easy Empath Elixir

Are you one of the many Empaths who struggles to stay in balance?

You are not alone. The stresses of ‘Empath life’ certainly takes its toll on emotional and physical wellbeing. But did you know that just by drinking more water you can become happier and healthier as an Empath?

Sound too good to be true…? Read on…

The body consists of up to 75% water (some body tissue has 95%), so it will come as no surprise that we need to drink lots of water to stay in balance physically and mentally.

When out-of-sorts, we can turn to water as our primary holistic care. Not only will it help keep the body functioning properly but it also helps in dealing with Empath overwhelm and emotional energy.

Most are unaware just how dehydrated they are because they regularly drink fluids throughout the day. But as the body uses so much water, just to function, it is quickly being used and in constant need of replenishment.

Breathing alone loses a quarter of the body’s water, on a daily basis, and that’s without any physical exertion.

Dehydration affects well-being, appearance and accelerates the aging process. Being well-hydrated is essential to keep the body functioning optimally and one’s energy preserved.

We could not survive more than a few days without fluid and this should make it clear how important it is.

But not only does an insufficient supply of water create problems with the functioning of the body and mind, it can also influence how an Empath interprets and experiences the energy of others.

Because they are often on overload, from experiencing too much emotional energy, the Empath’s filtering system does not always work as efficiently as it could and toxins stay in the body longer than they should. And due to the fact, the body is fighting with an excess of toxins, the body’s equilibrium is affected. Continue reading

Connecting the Dots of Empath Life

We don’t always realize it, but life is a series of linked events; each one leading to the next, like the spots on a dot-to-dot puzzle. Yet, most are unaware that the seemingly random occurrences, of daily life, are in any way pivotal to the course of our destiny…

A chance meeting that happened 10 years ago may bring about an incredible job offer tomorrow, or a difficult situation endured in our teens may have helped us cope with an incident in our forties.

Because our mind is kept so busy trying to make sense of life’s conundrums,  we are often kept from connecting the dots on our unique and mysterious life puzzle.

Our Empath sensitivities and busy or stressed mind may also prevent us from seeing how amazing our lives really are.

The majority of us work hard trying to figure out life. We may wonder where our true purpose lies or we may constantly find ourselves looking at ways to fit into this crazy old world. And that’s not to mention the time we spend trying to balance our ‘Empath’ emotions.

Sadly, much of our present life is missed because we are stuck focused on negative issues or our mind skips off into the future searching for ways to find happiness.

It is as though our happiness lies only in the future or in tomorrow’s achievements…

We seem to think our happiness lies only in our successes and material gains. And because of that we tend to believe our future goals will bring us our deserved and long sought after happiness.

But how many of our accomplishments came and went without being enjoyed or celebrated?

Probably not too many.

Was that because they did not bring with them the feelings of completion or fulfilment we expected?

You’ve probably already passed exams, got the job you applied for, bought the car or home, travelled the world, found a partner, enjoy financial stability, had children…

When you stop and look at how much you’ve already achieved in life,  you will see there’s been a lot to celebrate… So, if true contentment comes with our accomplishments shouldn’t we be ecstatic?

So why do so many of us feel disconnected or dissatisfied with our lives?

It may certainly seem that the Empath is destined to got through life feeling unfulfilled or overwhelmed, and that happiness is a destiny that belongs to someone else…

But I know, for a fact, that does not have to be the case.

Yes, there are many things that come with being an Empath that make life difficult: getting hurt easily, feeling other’s emotional pain and often being a beacon for negativity. Yet all the difficulties we endured have built an incredible resilience and strengthened us in ways we cannot begin to imagine.

It is easy to forget that we came here for a reason – to experience life as an Empath and the many challenges that go with it – because we get so distracted by the challenges thrown our way.

Empath life is often strenuous, painful, overly emotional and sometimes lonely. But it is also enlightening, invigorating and electrically charged and, when we allow ourselves to see it, a true gift!

We just need to change our perspective.

As an Empath we can boast of life experiences few can expect to have. We feel things others don’t and we have a strong sense of intuition that will take us to all the right places, if we allow it.

Sometimes, we purposely make life more difficult for ourselves, without realizing. And sometimes we allow ourselves to wallow in self-pity or we get stuck in victim mentality. We may also subconsciously choose to ignore what we need to do to keep us safe and sane on our journey … but the keys to our happiness are always there for us to find, when we are ready.

And we don’t have to wait, we can choose today to make life changes. A shift in our perspective is all it takes to change our whole outlook and in turn our life experience.

It is only in the here and now where we get to experience true contentment but we have to choose it first.

To speak metaphorically: we are at the helm of our own ships on a vast ocean steering through rough seas, riding the choppy waves and navigating through storms. Yet, we also sail through the blissfully still and calming waters.

Sadly, when our minds are stuck in past traumas or in future worries we won’t see or appreciate the incredible moments as they unfold, where we can feel the sun on our face and kick back and just be.

As an Empath, it is easy to see dark or challenging times as punishments but when we come through the other side we always find an incredible gift inside the experience.

The experiences we have as Empaths really are unique, and every difficulty we have endured and overcome has catapulted us forward, shaping the course of our life. Everything we have experienced has brought us to where we are now but it is up to us how we interpret and perceive our own reality.

If we choose only to see the dark that is all we will know.

When we connect the dots of our past we  see a bigger picture emerge. Everything happens for a reason, and when we focus on the silver lining we will always see it.

We can choose our outlook and thus our life experience. We have the power!

Hope this helps on your journey…

Until next time.


©Diane Kathrine

Explaining Who You Are as An Empath

A question that often comes up on my blog, and on Facebook, is how to better explain to others who we are as Empaths. Although I have written about the subject in the past, I feel it’s a good time to revisit the topic because it can be such a frustrating part of Empath life.

When we awaken to our Empath ways everything we’ve experienced emotionally and physically, when around people, finally makes sense. We understand our need for time alone, why we feel such crazy energy when in busy places, and why we experience such overpowering emotions when with certain people. We come to accept our ‘inner knowing’ as the incredible guiding force it is and stop fighting or ignoring the intuition that comes with it.

We often become so excited by our newfound knowledge that we want to tell the world. We have an explanation for all the inexplicable things we’ve experienced, throughout life, and we now know we are not the only ones. However, we quickly come to discover that discussing the ways of an Empath is no easy feat. Learning who we are, it would seem, was the easy part of the journey.

Oh, we may try to explain what we now know about our traits to others. The reasoning behind our Empath ways is so simple, why wouldn’t anyone else understand? But when we try to describe ourselves it doesn’t always go the way we hoped. And when we see others struggling to comprehend our explanations it causes us more frustration. We may then try to overexplain ourselves, struggling to find the key words to convince the other of our validity. Yet the more details we give the more discouraged we become. Sadly, the reason people don’t hear is not just because they don’t understand but because, too often, their ears are closed to the subject.

Although we like to believe we live in a world of free speech, opinion and thought it is clearly not the case (although, I believe it is changing for the better. Tends to get worse before better). We regularly see those who don’t follow the herd, or agree with the majority, attacked or ridiculed. So, it is hardly surprising some Empaths fear talking openly about who they are. People can be very closed-minded as well as fearful of acknowledging the minority. And it doesn’t help that the greatest prisons we live in is the fear of what others think of us.

If you’ve been an awakened Empath for some years you will no doubt already know that explaining to others, about who we are and what we feel, can be a gruesomely tricky area. Most Empaths quickly come to realize that the subject of being ‘Sensitive’ to energy and the emotions of others is just too ‘out there’ for some to consider.

The distinct lack of interest, shown by those closest to us, may come as a surprise to the newly awakened Empath. But the longer you walk this weird and wonderful path the more sense it makes. For one thing, we often do not know our friends as well as we’d like to think we do. And just because we are ready to accept who we are does not mean they are.

Although it may be difficult to admit, not all friends, or family members, have our best interests at heart. Everyone has faces they show the world and in friendships it is no different. Some friends cover up unpleasant traits, for their own reasons, but when faced with certain revelations—perhaps when we explain ourself as an Empath—their true colours are often shown. Even if they don’t verbalise their dismay, at our disclosures, we always sense a lack of acceptance or a quiet rejection, even at it’s most subtle. Continue reading

Have You Been Affected by The Eclipse?

Whilst writing a post about ways to explain yourself, as an Empath, I had an overwhelming feeling that I should make a side note about the strange sensations some of you may have endured for the past month, since the solar eclipse in the USA. So, what started off as a few lines about the strange aftereffects quickly grew into several paragraphs and, for that reason, I have decided to put this out as a mini post on its own—with the originally intended post to follow in due course.

I don’t tend to write much about the effects of earth energies or solar phenomena, because there are many others far better versed on the subject than I. But, as the aftershocks of last month’s solar eclipse (which is still ongoing) has left many Sensitive folk reeling, I thought it a good idea to mention some of the symptoms you may have undergone… in case any of you are thinking you are going slightly cuckoo.

So here goes: Last month’s solar eclipse has bought up some intense emotions in people and may have also triggered waves of lethargy and a lack of inclination towards doing anything—especially usual routines.

If you have experienced unusual fatigue and a ‘can’t be bothered’ attitude towards most things, since the eclipse, it is probably a good idea to give into it and allow yourself to rest as much as possible. Put off what you don’t need to do and allow yourself guilt-free respite.  Continue reading

Ever Wondered Why You Continue to Suffer as an Empath?

Have you tried all types of grounding or protective techniques, as an Empath, and find nothing works? Or have you found you are more negatively affected when spending time around people than you ever have been?

Have you considered the possibility that you may be suffering with leaky aura syndrome?

Most Empaths come to realize they have a leaky aura when they experience near-constant exhaustion, after spending time around people. The grounding and protection techniques, they try, don’t make any difference to how they feel or experience energy, they become overly sensitive and struggle to enjoy life.

Anyone whose auric field is congested, particularly with negative energy, may eventually develop auric permeability. But it is not just negative energy that can cause leaky aura syndrome: the biggest contributors are excessive stress, emotional pain, poor lifestyle choices, bad people, toxic environments and food.

After a lifetime of being Sensitive, and the challenges that go with it, the Empath’s body becomes less resilient (especially evident after the age of thirty). A weakened body weakens the energy field and is a major contributor to leaky aura syndrome.

The auric field is affected by your thoughts, feelings, actions and words. And because of the law of attraction, depending on the way you think and feel will determine what you draw into your life.

If as an Empath you have leaky aura syndrome, and are unaware of it, you have little control over what you attract. You will struggle to protect yourself from the low-level vibrations in your environment; they seep into your energy field even when you work to stop them. You then vibrate at this same frequency, drawing in more of the same. Continue reading

Should the Empath Become Vegetarian?

There is much debate within the Empath world as to whether meat should be consumed. Many Empaths find themselves naturally drawn to vegetarianism, even from a young age. Some even become strict vegans, others may eat only chicken or fish. However, as each Empath is affected differently by their consumption of meat, chicken and fish it is a choice they have to make for themselves as to whether they consume.

The majority of Empaths will question their meat intake at some point on their journey, even if they like the taste. And this often comes down to their love and respect for nature and the animal kingdom, as well as the fact that consuming animals just feels  wrong.

It has to be said, we live in a barbaric world where animals eat animals, fish eat fish, and insects eat insects to survive… and yes, humans eat animals (and, in some rare cases, other humans). But these days more people, and not just the Sensitive, are choosing to stop eating meat because of the way animals are treated.

It is not just because of their love of animals that turns the Empaths away from eating meat, whether they realize this or not, it’s often because they feel the energy of an animal when they eat its meat. Some are so Sensitive that they can even feel the energy of an egg and will avoid eating them too.

If an animal suffered or felt much fear before being slaughtered, it can cause depression and low emotions in the Empath who consumes its meat. The bigger the animal the more this energy is felt. These emotions are normally experienced soon after consumption, within minutes or hours. One may feel weepy, sorrowful, irritation or experience waves of anger. You may even find yourself more sensitive to the energy of your surroundings. That said, some are little affected. It really depends on one’s level of Sensitivity and the type of animal produce. For example: some Empaths may eat chicken or fish and feel no ill-effects, but if they eat meat, derived from a cow or pig, it greatly affects their moods.

It is probably safe to say, should you develop low emotions soon after eating meat, avoidance may be the best option for you as an Empath.

I eat chicken and fish, and very little meat. I would prefer to be vegetarian, and for some time I was, but it didn’t suit my health. I have autoimmune and a leaky gut, which I can control through my diet. I find most vegetarian proteins cause a negative bodily reaction (even avocados). And because of the environment I live in, I tend to stay overly responsive.

Leaky gut and autoimmune disease are conditions common among Sensitive people. After experiencing a lifetime’s worth of heightened emotions and sensitivities, the gut, which is the area of the seat of emotions, weakens. Couple that with the amount of chemicals in our atmosphere and diet, and the foods that have been genetically altered, makes us vulnerable to developing physical and energetic weaknesses.

In brief, if you suffer with a leaky gut, the lectins in many vegetarian foods trigger a reaction that allows food particles, that should stay inside the gut, to leak out into the body. This causes an immune response. When this happens regularly it eventually leads to an autoimmune disease, where the immune system attacks the organs and glands. For the Empath, this opens another can of worms, igniting unbalanced chakras and a leaky aura.

Should you choose to eat meat, fish, chicken, or even dairy products, as an Empath you are best eating the finest quality organic, pasture-raised produce. Not only because the animals will have been better looked after but because of the amount of chemicals pumped into most livestock.

Over 80% of all produced antibiotics are given to livestock. And up to 20 different medications and vast quantities of hormones could be present in non-organic meat and dairy. The antibiotics and hormones found within animal produce are causing humans many health problems. They are known to be endocrine disruptors. And anything which is an endocrine disruptor upsets the balance of hormones within the body. This in turn disrupts the health of the chakras and weakens the Auric field (meaning you pick up more energy from others).

So, as already noted, should you choose to eat animal produce it is probably best to consume the finest quality.  The last thing you want, as an Empath, is  your diet to destabilize your aura and debilitate your chakras (You may want to read this post on how unbalanced chakras can destroy the Empath). Empath life already comes with enough hurdles as it is.

For more posts on how diet affects Empath health click here here, and here.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Stay happy and healthy.


©Diane Kathrine

What Every Empath Needs to Know About The Dark Side of Sensitive

When I started writing for the Empath, back in 2011, there was very little material available on the subject, and this is what drove my compilation of  the ‘Traits of an Empath’. I wanted to help other Empaths understand who they were and discover why they felt all they did. I also wanted to share what had helped me.

It doesn’t seem so long ago that the word ‘Empath’ was a rarely mentioned term. But we can see how that’s changed in recent years. Thousands, if not millions, have discovered who they are as Empaths with all the information now available.

However, with this Empath uprising there also seems to have been an upsurge with the ‘dark side of sensitive’. This can be observed with the rise of the narcissist and those encompassing narcissistic traits.

What Makes a Narcissist?

Although the term narcissism originally stemmed from having extreme vanity, today it represents so much more:

The definition of a narcissist is: a psychological condition characterised by self-preoccupation, high self-esteem, a distinct lack of empathy, excessive self-admiration and a tendency towards selfish or resentful behaviours. But there are many more dark traits associated with this type of disposition such as: one-sidedness, a manipulative nature, unrealistic expectations of others, excess need for control, and a huge sympathy deficiency. In some cases, the traits of a narcissist match up with a psychopath.

The Empath Connection

Where you find an Empath, you often find a narcissist nearby… or at least those who display several narcissistic tendencies.

In fact, if an Empath takes a look into their past they normally see a pattern of people displaying the above traits appearing throughout their lives.

There are some who would argue that an Empath and narcissist are two sides of the same coin. And although I certainly agree they both have heightened levels of sensitivity they are expressed in opposite ways.

An Empath’s sensitive side may breed and feed their emotional pain but it also contributes to their consideration, compassion, and abundance of empathy.

The narcissist’s sensitive side also contributes to their inner-pain but, in many cases, their wounds bred bitter, resentful and vengeful tendencies.

And when a narcissist has been offended it is often the result of a wounded ego as opposed to a pained soul — as in the Empath’s case. Continue reading

Why Do Empaths So Often Feel Lost, Alone or Disconnected?

I’m sure you’ve noticed the roller-coaster of emotions being triggered, by the media, recently? And when I say recently I mean the past couple of years. It goes quiet for a while then wham, more stories suddenly arise that only serve to divide and cause conflict.

It seems the media is constantly guiding people into dark stressful places through their fear and anxiety-inducing stories.

As an Empath, whether you pay attention to all the propaganda or not, you will still be affected by the emotional energy it produces. It can be destructive.

In my opinion, the fear mongering is a tactic used to keep people in fear, controlled, distracted and divided. For the Empaths, however, it often creates feelings of isolation and disconnection.

Many years ago, when I started my junior hairdressing apprenticeship, we were given certain rules of what not to discuss with clients. The first rule was to hang up our problems with our coats in the morning. The second was to avoid, at all costs, discussions about politics or religion. We were told these two subjects were the worst for igniting angry disputes. At sixteen years old I didn’t think much of it, but now I see just how pertinent it was.

If there are two things that create conflict, division and hatred it is over zealous political opinions and religious beliefs. This is so clear in what we are seeing in all corners of the globe. It seems stories are being created just to create negative responses in the populace

When conflicts arise, both in the media and out on the streets, a blanket of massively contagious, dark energy is produced. When at it’s worse, even if you lived far underground it would be difficult to avoid this dismal energy.As I mentioned in my last post: negativity generates negativity. Negative emotions are contagious and are subliminally taken on even by those who aren’t Sensitive

People get swept along by the irrational, infectious moods being intentionally perpetuated. They breed and feed.  It is a form of gaslighting. And because the populace is continuously fed more reasons to become fearful, infuriated or dissatisfied, and very little to feel positive and cheerful about, low-level energy continues to escalate.

So, even if you pay little attention to the media and it’s propaganda, the murky energy stirred up leaves you feeling lost or alone.

Many Empaths find that mass produced dark energy seeps into the energy field, even whilst we sleep, and because it is so all encompassing affects us on many levels.

Its effects may show up as periods of lethargy, chronic fatigue, depression, and an absolute sense of disconnection. But too often the Empath blames these dark energies on their present life circumstances.

I have already written about this subject in recent months. But as it is a continuing theme I feel it is right to discuss it again, because the impact it has on an Empath is not pleasant.

Picking up on dark energy coming from the masses, is nothing short of exhausting. It is difficult to hide from even with the best intentions.

Living within a bubble of negative energy feeds one’s darker emotions. This keeps an Empath (and even those not of a Sensitive nature) from uncovering their true power. And if distracted from one’s true power one cannot find the peace, happiness and balance we are meant for.

Part of overcoming the low vibrational energy being contagiously projected into the world is to keep mind, body and spirit strong. Eat good food, exercise, stay grounded and keep clearing your energy field.

Also, if ever there was ever a time to keep your mind empowered now is it. A good way to do this, other than the aforementioned, is by focusing on all your strengths, staying positive and being grateful for the small things.

Look to find your hidden super powers and stay focused on them. Like attracts like.

What we focus our attention on grows. When we embrace our positive inner power, that power will grow. We then project out this positive vibrant energy out into the world.

Coming Soon: Be sure to keep an eye out for my post on leaky aura syndrome and why it is impacting so many Empaths.

Until next time…


The following posts may also help:

Clear Your Energy Field: here, here and here

Stay Grounded: here, here and here

Empath Diet and Exercise: here, here and here



©Diane Kathrine

9 Reasons Why the Empath Should Avoid Negative People

There is no denying it, ‘people stress’ exists. Every one of us has experienced it. And I have no doubt we will have caused people stress to others at some point in our lives. But there are some who seem to prefer living under a dark cloud and make an occupation out of unpleasantness; they talk malevolently of people, places and pastimes and suck the joy out of life… These are the negative people of the world

Science has acknowledged that just by spending too much time around those who are constantly disapproving or miserable can have an undesirable influence on one’s health and happiness.

There are many studies showing how prolonged ‘people stress’ alters gene expression within the immune system… Meaning: we can become sick just by hanging out with angry, gloomy or demoralizing people.

Some doctors now even recommend their patients avoid spending time with those who cause them emotional stress; for the fact they could exacerbate health conditions.

It may seem unkind to suggest avoiding negative people, but here are 9 reasons why you should:

1, Low Moods are Triggered by Emotional Contagion:

Emotional contagion is the phenomenon of having one person’s emotions and linked behaviours trigger similar emotions in others. Meaning: Negativity is contagious.

You can experience other people’s low moods just by spending time with them.

2, You Become a Magnet for Negativity:

Ever wondered why after spending time around negative people you draw more negative situations towards you?

Like attracts like.

When you unintentionally harvest other people’s negativity, through emotional contagion, it often becomes your own. Through the law of attraction, you then attract more.

Negativity breeds negativity!

3, You Experience an Energy Drain:

You may have noticed that when you spend time around negative people you feel cloudy, flat and lethargic.

Most negative people are also energy vampires. Their negativity sucks the energy from you, even after a short time spent in their presence. This drain can leave you feeling low, uninspired and weary.

4, Negative People Contribute to Inflammation:

Stress causes inflammation in the body.

Chronic inflammation has been linked to autoimmune disorders, depression, heart disease and even cancer.

By keeping negative people in your life, who cause you stress, you are causing your body more damage than you know.

5, The Adrenal Gland Weakens:

Although every organ is affected by people stress, the adrenals are one of the first to be impacted.

The adrenals are part of the endocrine system and are responsible for releasing the stress hormones cortisol and adrenaline.

When the adrenals are functioning properly, cortisol is anti-inflammatory, otherwise it has the opposite effect.

By spending time around negative people it causes excessive stress which activates the fight-or-flight system. This system is supposed to keep you safe from harm, giving you the energy to run away or stay and do battle… but there is no danger just people stress. This happening repeatedly not only weakens the adrenals but inhibits the proper release of cortisol and impairs health.

6, Weight Gain:

If you are Sensitive and spend a lot of time around stress-inducing people, your adrenals become impaired, which – as mentioned above – plays havoc with cortisol production and can lead to weight gain.

As well as being known as the stress hormone, cortisol is also referred to as the fat storing hormone.

The weight gain, caused by excess cortisol production, is often seen around the stomach – and a reason many Empaths have a squidgy, pot belly. This fat is difficult to eliminate because it is not caused by eating too much food and so, reducing food intake has little effect on it.

7, Imbalanced or Blocked Chakras

Chakras are also known as energy centres.

The chakras are directly linked to your endocrine glands (glands that release hormones into the body), and people stress is known to impair the endocrine glands.

When any endocrine gland weakens (adrenals for example), it has a knock-on-effect and leads to unbalanced chakras.

Blocked or unbalanced chakras cause many health problems and can also lead to leaky aura syndrome (a problem many Empaths struggle with).

8, Weakened Energy Field:

Also known as the aura or pranic sheath, your energy field emanates around you like a luminous egg-shaped sheath.

The energy field has been defined as a haze or ‘metamolecular space’ that surrounds every living thing.

A healthy energy field keeps good energy in and bad energy out. A weak energy field, however, is porous and leaky – also known as leaky aura syndrome – and allows in too much energy from others.

If you become overly stressed or anxious, when around negative people, you are more at risk of developing a permeable aura. This can cause many unnecessary difficulties in life.

A weakened aura is bad news on many levels for the Empath (see this post to learn more) and by staying away from negative people it will help keep your energy field healthy.

9, Unhappiness and Depression:

It is difficult to stay upbeat when around anyone who drags you down emotionally.

Sensitive people are prone to low moods and depression and for this – and all the above reasons – the best way to stay happy is by avoiding nasty or unpleasant people.

If you experience guilt at the prospect of avoiding certain negative people, remind yourself you are looking after your health and wellbeing… You deserve to be happy and healthy!


Because complete avoidance of negative people is near impossible, I have included 3 quick recovery remedies that aid relaxation and help switch on the parasympathetic nervous system (system responsible for bringing calm and balance to the body).

Take a Salted, Magnesium, Essential Oil Bath: This is an incredible combination for instilling calm and overall balance. Salt clears negative energy, it also heals and softens the skin.

Magnesium helps one relax, and boosts energy, supports the endocrine system and aids sleep (quality sleep is essential for repairs).

Choosing an essential oil, such as lavender, further supports deep relaxation.

Still the Mind and Calm the Breath: When stressed or anxious the breathing becomes erratic and thoughts go into overdrive, this only serves in heightening stress and weakens the body.

To quieten the mind, sit comfortably in a darkened room, with incense or your favourite essential oil burning, and practice alternate nostril breathing. This breathing technique brings instant serenity and quietens a chaotic mind.

Get Outdoors: An effortless way to restore balance is by simply stepping out in nature (read more here), or by using a technique called Earthing (read more here).

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time


©Diane Kathrine


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The Power Nature Has to Heal the Empath

As an Empath, you will already be aware there is nothing more healing to the body, mind and spirit than being in Nature.

A stroll through a beautiful woodland, over a grassy meadow or near a natural-flowing stream is not only uplifting but it is also grounding.

It is not by chance Empaths love being outdoors. Their inner Knowing guides them towards the Earth’s natural healing power to harness its power.

Spending time in Nature is uplifting for all humans, but to the Empath it activates a special kind of magic. It removes impurities from the energy field and quietens a busy, stressed mind.

Even sitting in your garden listening to the birds sing, whilst eyeing over the vegetation has a clearing and calming influence.

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Unshackle Yourself From Empath Clutter

So what is Empath clutter, I might hear you ask? And the simple answer is anything within your environment that holds or creates stagnated energy. House clutter being one of the worst offenders.

It’s incredible how quickly clutter builds within the home. 

How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?

Have you kept old clothes for when you lose weight or in the hope they may come back in fashion one day? 

Or have you been given a gift  you didn’t really like, but kept it to avoid hurting another’s feelings?

I think it’s safe to say most could answer yes to the above questions. But hoarding, even just a little bit, soon sees your home overloaded. Which is bad news for Empaths.

Just like an Empath might feel overwhelmed by being around a large number of people they may also experience a heavy feeling or a claustrophobic reaction by being around object-crowded places.

Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is draining to the body and mind. Even clutter the eye cannot see has a debilitating effect on the Empath psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling.

Empaths already pick up enough energy from the people around them, the last thing they need is to be weighted down by clutter energy of objects.

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The Crossroads of Change: Unplugging from The Hysteria

You would have to live very deep underground to not have noticed the crazy happenings in society. Almost everyone has been affected, in some way, by the engulfing mass hysteria that has swept the world. It is easy to believe that most of it is politically fuelled but; it is my belief, the real reason goes much deeper than that.crossroads2

The world is not a happy place. The masses are angry and afraid. Either because there are changes afoot they do not agree with or they are scared to speak out about their true beliefs for the fear of being labelled as racist, sexist, stupid, a conspiracy theorist or not politically correct.

Dogmatism and cognitive dissonance is rife. Freedom of speech, freedom of thought and individuality are being supressed. And the energy of hate is skyrocketing. It certainly feels like all humans are being manipulated to turn on each other. This is not a recent thing it has been building for a while and affecting Empaths on many levels.

2016 was one of the most energetically chaotic years I can remember. Not so much from a personal perspective, but within the populace. There was so much shifting going on that no one could hide from the turbulently vexed energy being pumped out. I don’t know of anyone who did not face some type of challenge, pain or frustration during 2016 (even if it was just political frustrations). Empaths, the world over, were drawn into this tumultuous vibrational energy, if even indirectly, without realizing. Even those who considered themselves to be in a good vibrational space, were affected.

For me, I look back on 2016 and see it as a huge transitional year. A time of growth and empowerment. But it was not an easy year to live through and, it would seem, 2017 has started much the same.

We reside in a world going through the quickening of change. These changes are causing trauma, chaos, emotional pain, depression and more. Although trauma and upheaval may be considered as emotionally damaging, it actually leads to growth and spiritual awareness… if we allow it. Trauma is the first step we take across the tempestuous waters of awakening. Pain is a prelude to birth.

For some, the initial stages of awakening are seen in random behaviours. Two of these being: denial and blame. In the past couple of years, you will have seen this behaviour everywhere. People pointing the finger of blame and convincing themselves their problems lie in the hands of another. Most are so busy avoiding themselves, and instead lashing out at others, that they are miss a unique opportunity for transformation.

Suffering is part of the ‘wake-up call’. People far and wide are hearing the sirens of the awakening, and call to change, but it is their choice how the transition goes. The words of Tony Robbins spring to mind:

‘Change is inevitable. Evolution, however, is a choice

We can choose to wake-up, evolve and grow or we can choose to stay in denial. Denial is the comfortable, normally, safe passage. At least for a while. However, we can’t ignore evolution forever. If we try things will eventually become so bad that we are forced to change.

All humans are presently being fed fuel to stoke up raging emotions, such as anger, bitterness and hate. If we engage them, these types of emotions keep us trapped in mental conflict and away from finding peace and harmony.

Evil begets evil. Hate breeds hate. Anger feeds anger. Fear fuels fear. The more of this type of energy people put out into the world the more it grows.

We all have light and darkness within; both love and hate. Whichever we choose to give the most attention to will be the force that guides our feelings, thoughts and choices. Choose wisely. We are the creators of our own reality.

Strange Things Afoot

It is clear there are some seriously strange things happening in the world. (If you’ve read anything about the Mandela Effect or the flat Earth theory, you’ll know what I mean). There is a lot of positive change happening and many truths are being revealed. But we are also being distracted to prevent us from discovering our own power. Distraction is a powerful tool. When our mind is preoccupied with all the wrongs in the world, we don’t see what is right. And we don’t notice the powerful positive and uplifting energy that is all around us.

We are at the crossroads of change. Being a crossroads means we have a choice of which direction to take. We can choose the path of denial and despair or the one of love and gratitude. That choice is often determined by where we place our focus.

You would think it’s a no brainer for us to choose the positive, love energy. But the more people who focus and send out the hate/fear energy the more this builds and the harder it is not to become embroiled in. For anyone Sensitive, this low-level energy, that has swept the globe, is agonizing to experience. But it can also be perversely alluring; drawing us in without our realizing.

I too have been lured into engaging the distressing and emotionally provoking news, designed to distract, divide and enrage. And yes, I get wound up by it all. I keep having to remind myself to unplug and stay switched off from it. No good comes from occupying the mind with such negatively charged news.

Some might argue that we have a duty to stay informed, we should fight for our rights and silence is consent. And as much as I may agree with that, most of what we are being fed is shameful propaganda, which does nothing but feed our darkest emotions and pains the soul.

When we focus on the incredible force of gratitude and love it is a game changer. You see more and more positive come into your life. This amazing energy is all around us, we just need to take our eyes off the distractions and diversions to realize it.

By not giving our attention to anything which feeds negative emotions, we can free ourselves and then take our focus to the more positive. Choosing to stay unplugged is the best form of protection at this time. Especially if you are badly affected by all the hysterical energy.

Here are some excellent ways to stay unplugged:

  • Stay away from the media: Online news, social media and televised news reports can lure you into negative thinking, frustration and anger.
  • Avoid politics: Don’t get involved in dogmatic discussions and avoid those who seem to thrive when politically venting.
  • Steer clear of large groups of people or protests: Mass hysteria is contagious and drags everyone in, even those with the best intentions.
  • Pursue your passions: Do what you love and be creative as often as you can (your own form of distraction).
  • Express gratitude every day throughout the day: Be grateful for anything you can. A delicious meal, a good book, film or just the traffic lights being on green. Keep pumping this positive energy out.
  • Keep control of the mind: Meditate or perform moving meditations like yoga, Thai-chi or dance.
  • Get outdoors: Spend as much time in nature as possible and bask some natural sunlight.

Pain serves us in mysterious ways. We eventually come to a point when we understand why we endured all we have, and we recognize how our pain shaped and changed us for the better. But we don’t need to keep experiencing it over and over. We have a choice. Now is the time to start shaping your new reality by unplugging from the old.

Until next time.


©Diane Kathrine