The Morphing Empath

If you are an Empath you have probably had at least one morphing experience. Some of you may experience it on a daily basis.  I liken morphing to what an encounter with a boggart would be like. You would have to be familiar with Harry Potter to understand where I am going with this.


In the Harry Potter books a boggart is described as a shape-shifting non-being that takes on the form of the viewer’s worst fear.

So what does this have to do with an Empath you might ask?

Well, there are some Empaths who act like a boggart but, rather than shifting their shape, they shift their behavior to fit in with the onlooker’s assumptions, or unconsciously morph their personality traits to fit the profile of another person’s beliefs.

Many Empaths are misread and wrongly interpreted. Their quiet ways are sometimes seen as arrogance, snobbery or standoffishness. Depending how the Empath feels will depend on what face they show the world. When displaying their ‘face of overwhelm’ it is often misinterpreted as an air of snootiness or a distinct lack of interest in others. There are some who will take the Empath’s still ways as a sign of self-importance and grandeur. They may feel judged and awkward, when in the Empaths presence, which can lead to the most monstrous of ill-informed impressions to form. (Also similar to the mirror-effect.)

When someone has a strong opinion of who they ‘believe’ you are, they will mold it into a vibrant mental picture. Because the Empath picks up on other people’s strong beliefs, and opinions, they can inadvertently morph their personality to fit the shape of these visions.

How does it work and what does it feel like?

When an Empath starts morphing, their behavior changes: They talk in ways not typical of their usual dialogue, they feel different and sense they are acting out-of-character but cannot shake off this assumed personality. Even when aware they are portraying a manifestation of another’s beliefs, they feel unable to step away from the foreign traits they are exposing.

Most Empaths are familiar with picking up, and acting out, other people’s personality traits. They can easily rub off and they may find themselves mimicking the ways of others. But during a personality-shifting episode the Empath parades the behaviors of what the other ‘believes’ they own. Time spent in the presence of those who see them in a less-than-cheery way, creates a short transitional period for the Empath, as they act out the attributes befitted to them. These traits are a far cry from their true personality, but for a time, whilst in the other’s company, they become imparted.

When no longer in said person’s presence the Empath may be left scratching their head as to why they always act in such a way, especially after they tried to be their true-self and not the fictitious oddity of a creature they often portray.

The positive side

It may seem I have painted a negative picture of how Empath morphing looks. There is also a positive, uplifting aspect which transpires during time spent with those who hold the Empath in high regard. For example, those who see the Empath in a good light, who understand their traits and see only positive qualities in them, it will generate an uplifting morphing episode. When this happens the Empath experiences an inner-power and their positive personality traits become more vibrant, energized and inspiring. They glow with confidence and an inner-strength, not always accessible, and generally feel elevated.

Although morphing may sound a tad ‘out there’, it is just another quirky trait of the Empath and a further example showing how easily influenced they are by the suggestions of other people’s energy. Morphing is simply another aspect of energy transferral. Empaths can be manipulated by powerful energy, such as strong emotion, opinions and ideas, and this is no different.

When they find Empath balance, or just become aware of their abilities, morphing becomes easier to recognize and control, as does controlling any type of external influence.

Hope all is keeping great in your world.

Until next time.


©Diane Kathrine

11 thoughts on “The Morphing Empath

  1. I had never heard it described in such a way, but… Yes! That’s it exactly. I always thought of myself as a chameleon, but boggart works too. The difficulty I’m finding is… when one is no longer shape-shifting… who IS the authentic person? That’s the tricky part.

  2. Oh my, I am finally getting answers to questions I have been asking myself all my life. I hate the way I act around certain people, curse myself and fret over it for days, but for what ever reason I act the same way every time I am around them. Your articles, and sharing your knowledge has helped me to understand and accept myself for who and what I am. A wonderfully unpredictable, loving, passionate empath.

  3. Hi Diane….Fabulous article! You are so right….we Do need to be aware that we can take on other people’s emotions and even ‘live’ our lives as their lives! I think we just need to be more aware that this can happen, and try to keep travelling on our own path or journey (easier said than done sometimes). Thanks for the heads up! Awesome…..Blessings to you, Barbara xxxxx

  4. Yes, I definitely do this. Not only do my behaviors change (though I still generally keep the same mind-set as I typically have), but my handwriting will morph, as well. It used to be really bad in school when a teacher actually accused me of having a classmate do my homework for me because, subconsciously, I was thinking about her (she was going through some pretty nasty stuff with family at the time) and my writing and word choice in the assignment reflected that.

    Back then, not only was I unaware of what an empath was, but I also had no idea I was altering how I acted around different people, but as I’ve grown older, I’ve become aware of that. I still do pick up other people’s mannerisms and being around certain people brings out different personality traits, though now I can usually tell if these traits are a natural part of me or if I’m picking them up from someone.

  5. I moved a lot when I was a kid, I went to 16 different schools and used morphing to fit in. It works great and people think they’ve known me for years, when It’s only been months or even weeks.
    The thing is now as an adult I will catch myself being whats expected of me without wanting to. I’ve actually got pretty good at holding on to who I am instead of “following that feeling”, but it still happens from time to time, especially if I’m going to be around several people that I already know, but, don’t necessarily associate with each other, (like a neighborhood meeting). I can hardly go to things like that (compared with all strangers) I get a feeling much like stage-fright before I go, so, often I just don’t go.

    • Thank you Diane. I purchased both your books recently and half through one – I have to say I am finally reading my truth! After searching for a long time, you have nailed it for me. Very insightful indeed. This article is so bang on! I knew this as: ” being fake to cater to others” and I hate myself for doing it every time. I like the term “morphing” much better because it’s a more precise explanation. It’s not just a single way fake persona! It’s different depending on who you talk to. I could have a conversation as “completely clueless” pretending not to know anything and asking a million questions, even though I know the answers or I can completely flip and spew all my astronomy knowledge to impress a bunch of geeks I just met. I thought it was based on the persons likes and dislikes, but you are absolutely right, it’s more their expectations of me! Makes so much more sense. I’ve often felt frustrated with why I have done this because it feels fake, like it’s against all I value and someone like my hubby who stands there and watches me do this I feel is just like, “what the heck?” and I feel guilty!! Like I’ve been caught at my game. Thank you for making the connection. Lol yes, I know the feeling of stage fright David Perry – because you are about to put on a performance scripted in someone else’s head. I’ve stopped doing it so much as I get older, maybe because I am tired and drained or maybe because I avoid most functions anymore. Please keep doing what you are doing Diane, you are helping so many of us! Thank you.

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