If you are an Empath there is a good chance you go through life feeling like you lead a double life. Because, quite often, you find yourself wearing a ‘mask of compliance’ when spending time with certain others.
Wearing a mask is a common theme with all humans and not just the Empaths. I recently read that the Japanese believe people have three faces: The face we show the world, the face we show our family and close friends, and the face we show no one. It is our hidden face which is apparently our truest reflection.
As Empaths, we often slip on our ‘muggle face’ when out in public, or even with close friends and family, as a way to better fit in or so as not to stir up emotions in others by discussing our feelings, true thoughts and ‘knowledge’. We may rarely get the chance to display our ‘magical Empath face’ for the fact we know, or feel, it won’t be accepted by those in our company. For some Empaths, the only time they get to be their true self is when at home or when alone.
Now, considering the fact most Empaths detest being around inauthenticity, we could be accused of being disingenuous or even cowardly for not openly and publicly displaying our true selves (explaining to others what we feel and know). But there is a very good reason we hide our truths… and it’s not just to protect ourselves.
When we awaken as an Empath a new world, which had been previously invisible to us, is gradually revealed. Not only do we come to embrace and appreciate our unusual traits—traits that set us apart from others—but we start experiencing more synchronicities, develop greater intuition and discover a new outlook on life. Everything we ever experienced emotionally and physically, when around people, finally makes sense. We understand our need for time alone, why we feel such crazy energy when in busy places, and why we experience such overpowering emotions when with certain people. We come to accept our ‘inner-Knowing’ as the pervasive guiding force it is and stop fighting or ignoring the strong intuition that comes with it.
‘Yes’, we holler, ‘Empath life is a very real phenomenon. We are not the only ones!’
We may become so excited by our newfound knowledge that we want to shout it from the rooftops! Tell the world who we are, what we know, feel, see and intuit. We have an explanation for all the inexplicable things we’ve experienced, throughout life, and we want to share it with anyone who will listen… Sadly, this intense enthusiasm, to share our new findings, is often short-lived. We quickly come to understand it is no easy feat discussing the ways of an Empath with muggles. Discovering who we are, it would seem, was the easy part of the journey!
Oh, we may try to explain what we now know about our traits to others. The reasoning behind our Empath ways is so simple to us why wouldn’t anyone else understand? But when we try to describe ourselves, to those we know and love, we are greeted with drooping jaws, wide eyes and blank expressions. How is it something we were so excited to learn about, which we found to be extraordinary and magical, holds no interest or is unbelievable to others?
It quickly becomes obvious that people find it difficult to believe what they don’t understand or experience themselves. If it’s not being openly discussed or acknowledged on the ‘News at Ten’, in the media or everyday social settings it can’t be real. It’s just too weird or ‘woo-woo!’
That is not to say no one accepts our Empath traits. There are some who are very understanding and accepting, but it is not the majority. We soon come to understand whom we can discuss our ways with, and those with whom we should keep a zipped mouth, by the way they feel to us.
Empaths like to live authentically and liberated. It feels uncomfortable to keep our ‘Knowing’ to ourselves. But it is also painful to open up to another, about our Sensitive ways, only to be rejected or ridiculed. However, whether we are aware of it or not, we hold ourselves back from revealing our truths, to others, not just as a way to protect ourselves from rejection but as a way to make the lives of others more comfortable.
An Empath is always concerned about how another feels and what impact our words have on them. The last thing we want to do is cause discomfort or freak anyone out by our ‘energy-sensing’ revelations. It is part of our ‘inbuilt’ nature to be protective of others.
So, although we may dislike not being ‘open’ we soon learn that it is ok. As long as we try to be our best selves and we work to understand who we are as an Empath and why we are here, we shouldn’t worry about keeping this knowledge from others.
Everyone has faces they show the world at different times for different reasons. Instead of feeling frustrated about not feeling free to reveal your inner Empath you could channel your energy into something else like:
- Uncover your purpose. Discover new passions and set out to achieve your dream life.
- Enhance your power by tuning into the energy of gratitude: The energy of gratitude is one of the most powerful energies you have access to (It’s a love frequency). It is uplifting and has the most magical transformative effect on those who embrace it.
- Be the change see the change: When you work to change yourself, for the better, this energy goes out into the world and a better life comes back to you.
I am a big believer that the discomfort we experience in life propels us forward. It is through suffering we have the greatest opportunity for expansion… Even if this suffering comes from, seemingly, living a double life! When we work through vulnerabilities and uncover our truth we grow exponentially. Our truth is for us. No one else need know. Although it is incredibly cathartic to to express oneself freely, it has to feel right to us when we do.
Until next time.