If you are an Empath there is a good chance you go through life feeling like you lead a double life; or you may wear a mask when spending time with others.
I recently read that the Japanese believe people have three faces: The face we show the world, the face we show our family and close friends, and the face we show no one. It is our hidden face which is apparently our truest reflection.
As Empaths, we often slip on our ‘muggle face’ when out in public, or even with close friends and family, as a way to better fit in. We rarely get the chance to display our ‘magical Empath face’ for the fact we feel it won’t be accepted. For some, the only time this face is openly worn is when at home or when alone.
Now we could be accused of being disingenuous or even cowardly for not publicly displaying our Empath face. But there is a very good reason we hide our truths… and it’s not just to protect ourselves.
When we awaken as an Empath a world, which had been elusive to our conscious mind, is gradually revealed. Not only do we come to embrace and appreciate our unusual traits—traits that set us apart from others—but we gain a new outlook on life. Everything we ever experienced emotionally and physically, when around people, finally makes sense. We finally understand our need for time alone, why we feel such crazy energy when in busy places, and why we experience such overpowering emotions when with certain people. We come to accept our ‘inner-Knowing’ as the pervasive guiding force it is and stop fighting or ignoring the strong intuition that comes with it.
‘Yes’, we shout, ‘Empath life is a very real phenomenon. We are not the only ones!’
We may become so excited by our newfound knowledge that we want to shout it from the rooftops! Tell the world who we are, what we know, feel, see and intuit. We have an explanation for all the inexplicable things we’ve experienced, throughout life, and we want to share it with anyone who will listen… Sadly, this intense enthusiasm, to share our new findings, is often short-lived. We quickly come to understand it is no easy feat discussing the ways of an Empath with muggles. Discovering who we are, it would seem, was the easy part of the journey!
Oh, we may try to explain what we now know about our traits to others. The reasoning behind our Empath ways is so simple why wouldn’t anyone else understand? But when we try to describe ourselves, to those we know and love, we are greeted with drooping jaws, wide eyes and blank expressions. How is it something we were so excited to learn about, which we found to be extraordinary and magical, holds no interest or is unbelievable to others?
It quickly becomes obvious that people find it difficult to believe what they don’t understand or experience themselves. If it’s not being openly discussed or acknowledged on the ‘News at Ten’, in the media or everyday social settings it can’t be real. It’s just too weird or ‘woo-woo!’
That is not to say no one accepts our Empath traits. There are some who are very understanding and accepting, but it is not the majority. We soon come to understand whom we can discuss our ways with, and those with whom we should keep a zipped mouth, by the way they feel to us.
Empaths do not enjoy pretending. We like to live authentically and liberated. And it feels uncomfortable to keep our ‘Knowing’ to ourselves. When engaging in superficial dialogue or conversations, that bear no meaning, it almost feels like we are a big fat fake. Whether we are aware of it or not, we hold ourselves back from revealing our truths, to others, not just as a way to protect ourselves from rejection but as a way to make their lives more comfortable. We may not like it but we soon learn who are ready to hear and those who are not.
As long as we know who we are, and we aren’t trying to manipulate, we shouldn’t worry about what we keep from others . Everyone has faces they show the world at different times for different reasons. Instead of feeling frustrated about living a ‘double life’ you could channel your energy into something else:
- Face your truth. Discover your true purpose and find what you want out of life.
- Enhance your power by tuning into the energy of gratitude: The energy of gratitude is one of the most powerful energies you have access to (It’s a love frequency). It is uplifting and has the most magical transformative effect on those who embrace it.
- Be the change see the change: When you work to change yourselves for the better, this energy goes out into the world and has a knock-on effect. It is also worth remembering that what you give out, energetically, you receive back.
I am a big believer that the discomfort we experience in life propels us forward. It is through suffering we have the greatest opportunity for expansion… Even if this suffering comes from living a double life! When we work through vulnerabilities and uncover our truth we grow exponentially. Our truth is for us. No one else need know. Although incredibly cathartic to to express oneself, it has to feel right when we do.
Just as we don’t think twice about not parading around in our underwear, we should not worry about revealing our Empath traits to others.
As already mentioned, as long as we know who we are, what we came here for and continue to work to project magic into the world, the face we choose to wear when in public is for our own discernment.
Until next time.