Connecting the Dots of Empath Life

We don’t always realize it, but life is a series of linked events; each one leading to the next, like the spots on a dot-to-dot puzzle. Yet, most are unaware that the seemingly random occurrences, of daily life, are in any way pivotal to the course of our destiny.

A chance meeting that happened 10 years ago may bring about an incredible job offer tomorrow, or a difficult situation endured in our teens may have helped us cope with an incident in our forties.

But because our mind is kept so busy trying to make sense of life’s conundrums,  we are often kept from connecting the dots on our unique and mysterious life puzzle.

Our Empath sensitivities and busy or stressed minds also prevent us from seeing how amazing our lives really are.

The majority of us work hard trying to figure out life. We may wonder where our true purpose lies or we may constantly find ourselves looking at ways to fit into this crazy old world and balance our emotions.

Sadly, much of our present life is missed because we are stuck focused on negative issues or our mind skips off into the future searching for ways to find happiness.

It is as though our happiness lies only in the future or in tomorrow’s achievements…

It’s funny how we have been programmed to think our happiness lies in our successes.  We are led to believe our future goals, will bring us our deserved and long sought after happiness.

But how many of our life accomplishments came and went without being enjoyed or celebrated? Probably not too many. Was that because they did not bring with them the feelings of completion or fulfilment we expected?

You’ve probably already passed exams, got the job you applied for, bought the car or home, travelled the world, found a partner, enjoy financial stability, had children… In fact, when you stop and look at how much you’ve already achieved in life,  you will see there’s been a lot to celebrate… So, if true contentment comes with our accomplishments shouldn’t we be ecstatic?

So why do so many of us feel disconnected or dissatisfied with our lives? It may certainly seem that the Empath is destined to got through life feeling unfulfilled or overwhelmed, and that happiness is a destiny that belongs to someone else. But I know that does not have to be the case.

Yes, there are many things that come with being an Empath that make life difficult: getting hurt easily, feeling other’s emotional pain and often being a beacon for negativity. Yet all the difficulties we endured have built an incredible resilience and strengthened us in ways we cannot begin to imagine.

It is easy to forget that we came here for a reason: to experience life as an Empath and the many challenges that go with it. Because it can certainly be a challenging path to walk. It is often strenuous, painful, overly emotional and sometimes lonely. But it is also enlightening, invigorating and electrically charged and, when we allow ourselves to see it, a true gift!

We just need to change our perspective. As an Empath we can boast of life experiences that few can expect to have. We feel things others don’t and we have a strong sense of intuition that will take us to all the right places, if we allow it.

Sometimes, we purposely make life more difficult for ourselves, without realizing. And sometimes we allow ourselves to wallow in self-pity or we get stuck in victim mentality. We may also subconsciously choose to ignore what we need to do to keep us safe and sane on our journey … but the keys to our happiness are always there for us to find, when we are ready. And we don’t have to wait, we can choose today to make it happen. A shift in our perspective is all it takes to change our whole outlook. It is, after all, only in the here and now where we get to experience true contentment but we have to choose it first.

To speak metaphorically, we are at the helm of our own ships on a vast ocean: steering through rough seas, riding the choppy waves and navigating through storms. Yet, we also sail through the blissfully still waters. But, when our minds are stuck in past traumas or in future worries we won’t get to see or appreciate these incredible moments as they unfold.

As an Empath, it is easy to see dark or challenging times as punishments but when we come through the other side we often find an incredible gift inside the experience.

The experiences we have as Empaths really are unique, and every difficulty we have endured and overcome has catapulted us forward, shaping the course of our life. Everything we have experienced has brought us to where we are now but it is up to us how we interpret and perceive our own reality. If we choose only to see the dark that is all we will know.

When we connect the dots of our past we  see a bigger picture emerge, everything happens for a reason, and when we focus on the silver lining we will always see it. We can choose.

Hope this helps on your journey…

Until next time.

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

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Explaining Who You Are as An Empath

A question that often comes up on my blog, and on Facebook, is how to better explain to others who we are as Empaths. Although I have written about the subject in the past, I feel it’s a good time to revisit the topic because it can be such a frustrating part of Empath life.

When we awaken to our Empath ways everything we’ve experienced emotionally and physically, when around people, finally makes sense. We understand our need for time alone, why we feel such crazy energy when in busy places, and why we experience such overpowering emotions when with certain people. We come to accept our ‘inner knowing’ as the incredible guiding force it is and stop fighting or ignoring the intuition that comes with it.

We often become so excited by our newfound knowledge that we want to tell the world. We have an explanation for all the inexplicable things we’ve experienced, throughout life, and we now know we are not the only ones. However, we quickly come to discover that discussing the ways of an Empath is no easy feat. Learning who we are, it would seem, was the easy part of the journey.

Oh, we may try to explain what we now know about our traits to others. The reasoning behind our Empath ways is so simple, why wouldn’t anyone else understand? But when we try to describe ourselves it doesn’t always go the way we hoped. And when we see others struggling to comprehend our explanations it causes us more frustration. We may then try to overexplain ourselves, struggling to find the key words to convince the other of our validity. Yet the more details we give the more discouraged we become. Sadly, the reason people don’t hear is not just because they don’t understand but because, too often, their ears are closed to the subject.

Although we like to believe we live in a world of free speech, opinion and thought it is clearly not the case (although, I believe it is changing for the better. Tends to get worse before better). We regularly see those who don’t follow the herd, or agree with the majority, attacked or ridiculed. So, it is hardly surprising some Empaths fear talking openly about who they are. People can be very closed-minded as well as fearful of acknowledging the minority. And it doesn’t help that the greatest prisons we live in is the fear of what others think of us.

If you’ve been an awakened Empath for some years you will no doubt already know that explaining to others, about who we are and what we feel, can be a gruesomely tricky area. Most Empaths quickly come to realize that the subject of being ‘Sensitive’ to energy and the emotions of others is just too ‘out there’ for some to consider.

The distinct lack of interest, shown by those closest to us, may come as a surprise to the newly awakened Empath. But the longer you walk this weird and wonderful path the more sense it makes. For one thing, we often do not know our friends as well as we’d like to think we do. And just because we are ready to accept who we are does not mean they are.

Although it may be difficult to admit, not all friends, or family members, have our best interests at heart. Everyone has faces they show the world and in friendships it is no different. Some friends cover up unpleasant traits, for their own reasons, but when faced with certain revelations—perhaps when we explain ourself as an Empath—their true colours are often shown. Even if they don’t verbalise their dismay, at our disclosures, we always sense a lack of acceptance or a quiet rejection, even at it’s most subtle. Continue reading

Have You Been Affected by The Eclipse?

Whilst writing a post about ways to explain yourself, as an Empath, I had an overwhelming feeling that I should make a side note about the strange sensations some of you may have endured for the past month, since the solar eclipse in the USA. So, what started off as a few lines about the strange aftereffects quickly grew into several paragraphs and, for that reason, I have decided to put this out as a mini post on its own—with the originally intended post to follow in due course.

I don’t tend to write much about the effects of earth energies or solar phenomena, because there are many others far better versed on the subject than I. But, as the aftershocks of last month’s solar eclipse (which is still ongoing) has left many Sensitive folk reeling, I thought it a good idea to mention some of the symptoms you may have undergone… in case any of you are thinking you are going slightly cuckoo.

So here goes: Last month’s solar eclipse has bought up some intense emotions in people and may have also triggered waves of lethargy and a lack of inclination towards doing anything—especially usual routines.

If you have experienced unusual fatigue and a ‘can’t be bothered’ attitude towards most things, since the eclipse, it is probably a good idea to give into it and allow yourself to rest as much as possible. Put off what you don’t need to do and allow yourself guilt-free respite.  Continue reading

Ever Wondered Why You Continue to Suffer as an Empath?

Have you tried all types of grounding or protective techniques, as an Empath, and find nothing works? Or have you found you are more negatively affected when spending time around people than you ever have been?

Have you considered the possibility that you may be suffering with leaky aura syndrome?

Most Empaths come to realize they have a leaky aura when they experience near-constant exhaustion, after spending time around people. The grounding and protection techniques, they try, don’t make any difference to how they feel or experience energy, they become overly sensitive and struggle to enjoy life.

Anyone whose auric field is congested, particularly with negative energy, may eventually develop auric permeability. But it is not just negative energy that can cause leaky aura syndrome: the biggest contributors are excessive stress, emotional pain, poor lifestyle choices, bad people, toxic environments and food.

After a lifetime of being Sensitive, and the challenges that go with it, the Empath’s body becomes less resilient (especially evident after the age of thirty). A weakened body weakens the energy field and is a major contributor to leaky aura syndrome.

The auric field is affected by your thoughts, feelings, actions and words. And because of the law of attraction, depending on the way you think and feel will determine what you draw into your life.

If as an Empath you have leaky aura syndrome, and are unaware of it, you have little control over what you attract. You will struggle to protect yourself from the low-level vibrations in your environment; they seep into your energy field even when you work to stop them. You then vibrate at this same frequency, drawing in more of the same. Continue reading

Should the Empath Become Vegetarian?

There is much debate within the Empath world as to whether meat should be consumed. Many Empaths find themselves naturally drawn to vegetarianism, even from a young age. Some even become strict vegans, others may eat only chicken or fish. However, as each Empath is affected differently by their consumption of meat, chicken and fish it is a choice they have to make for themselves as to whether they consume.

The majority of Empaths will question their meat intake at some point on their journey, even if they like the taste. And this often comes down to their love and respect for nature and the animal kingdom, as well as the fact that consuming animals just feels  wrong.

It has to be said, we live in a barbaric world where animals eat animals, fish eat fish, and insects eat insects to survive… and yes, humans eat animals (and, in some rare cases, other humans). But these days more people, and not just the Sensitive, are choosing to stop eating meat because of the way animals are treated.

It is not just because of their love of animals that turns the Empaths away from eating meat, whether they realize this or not, it’s often because they feel the energy of an animal when they eat its meat. Some are so Sensitive that they can even feel the energy of an egg and will avoid eating them too.

If an animal suffered or felt much fear before being slaughtered, it can cause depression and low emotions in the Empath who consumes its meat. The bigger the animal the more this energy is felt. These emotions are normally experienced soon after consumption, within minutes or hours. One may feel weepy, sorrowful, irritation or experience waves of anger. You may even find yourself more sensitive to the energy of your surroundings. That said, some are little affected. It really depends on one’s level of Sensitivity and the type of animal produce. For example: some Empaths may eat chicken or fish and feel no ill-effects, but if they eat meat, derived from a cow or pig, it greatly affects their moods.

It is probably safe to say, should you develop low emotions soon after eating meat, avoidance may be the best option for you as an Empath.

I eat chicken and fish, and very little meat. I would prefer to be vegetarian, and for some time I was, but it didn’t suit my health. I have autoimmune and a leaky gut, which I can control through my diet. I find most vegetarian proteins cause a negative bodily reaction (even avocados). And because of the environment I live in, I tend to stay overly responsive.

Leaky gut and autoimmune disease are conditions common among Sensitive people. After experiencing a lifetime’s worth of heightened emotions and sensitivities, the gut, which is the area of the seat of emotions, weakens. Couple that with the amount of chemicals in our atmosphere and diet, and the foods that have been genetically altered, makes us vulnerable to developing physical and energetic weaknesses.

In brief, if you suffer with a leaky gut, the lectins in many vegetarian foods trigger a reaction that allows food particles, that should stay inside the gut, to leak out into the body. This causes an immune response. When this happens regularly it eventually leads to an autoimmune disease, where the immune system attacks the organs and glands. For the Empath, this opens another can of worms, igniting unbalanced chakras and a leaky aura.

Should you choose to eat meat, fish, chicken, or even dairy products, as an Empath you are best eating the finest quality organic, pasture-raised produce. Not only because the animals will have been better looked after but because of the amount of chemicals pumped into most livestock.

Over 80% of all produced antibiotics are given to livestock. And up to 20 different medications and vast quantities of hormones could be present in non-organic meat and dairy. The antibiotics and hormones found within animal produce are causing humans many health problems. They are known to be endocrine disruptors. And anything which is an endocrine disruptor upsets the balance of hormones within the body. This in turn disrupts the health of the chakras and weakens the Auric field (meaning you pick up more energy from others).

So, as already noted, should you choose to eat animal produce it is probably best to consume the finest quality.  The last thing you want, as an Empath, is  your diet to destabilize your aura and debilitate your chakras (You may want to read this post on how unbalanced chakras can destroy the Empath). Empath life already comes with enough hurdles as it is.

For more posts on how diet affects Empath health click here here, and here.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Stay happy and healthy.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

What Every Empath Needs to Know About The Dark Side of Sensitive

It doesn’t seem so long ago that the word ‘Empath’ was a rarely mentioned term. But we can see how that’s changed in recent years with all the information now available. When I started writing for the Empath, back in 2011, there was very little accessible material and this was one of the reasons behind my compilation of  the ‘Traits of an Empath’. I wanted to help others uncover who they were, understand why they felt all they did and work to become empowered. Nowadays there are many new blogs and groups aimed at helping the Empath find their inner-light, which means more are awakening to their true potential.

However, with this Empath uprising, we are witnessing, it appears there has been an upsurge within the ‘dark side of sensitive’. This is observed with the rise of the narcissist and those encompassing narcissistic traits.

What Makes a Narcissist?

Although the term narcissism originally stemmed from having extreme vanity, today it represents so much more:

The definition of a narcissist is: a psychological condition characterised by self-preoccupation, high self-esteem, a distinct lack of empathy, excessive self-admiration and a tendency towards selfish or resentful behaviours. But there are many more dark traits associated with this type of disposition such as: one-sidedness, a manipulative nature, unrealistic expectations of others, excess need for control, and a huge sympathy deficiency. In some cases, the traits of a narcissist match up with a psychopath.

The Empath Connection

Where you find an Empath, you often find a narcissist nearby, or at least those who display several narcissistic traits. In fact, if an Empath takes a peep into their past they normally see a pattern of people displaying the above tendencies appearing throughout their lives.

There are some who would argue that an Empath and narcissist are two sides of the same coin. And although I certainly agree they both have heightened levels of sensitivity they are expressed in opposite ways. The Empath’s sensitive side may breed and feed their emotional pain but it also contributes to their consideration, compassion, and abundance of empathy. The narcissist’s sensitive side also contributes to their inner-pain but, in many cases, their wounds bred bitter, resentful and vengeful tendencies. And when a narcissist has been offended it is often the result of a wounded ego as opposed to a pained soul—as in the Empath’s case. Continue reading

Why Do Empaths So Often Feel Lost, Alone or Disconnected?

I’m sure you’ve noticed the roller-coaster of emotions being triggered, by the media, recently? And when I say recently I mean the past couple of years. It goes quiet for a while then wham, more stories suddenly arise that only serve to divide and cause conflict.

It seems the media is constantly guiding people into dark stressful places through their fear and anxiety-inducing stories.

As an Empath, whether you pay attention to all the propaganda or not, you will still be affected by the emotional energy it produces. It can be destructive.

In my opinion, the fear mongering is a tactic used to keep people in fear, controlled, distracted and divided. For the Empaths, however, it often creates feelings of isolation and disconnection.

Many years ago, when I started my junior hairdressing apprenticeship, we were given certain rules of what not to discuss with clients. The first rule was to hang up our problems with our coats in the morning. The second was to avoid, at all costs, discussions about politics or religion. We were told these two subjects were the worst for igniting angry disputes. At sixteen years old I didn’t think much of it, but now I see just how pertinent it was.

If there are two things that create conflict, division and hatred it is over zealous political opinions and religious beliefs. This is so clear in what we are seeing in all corners of the globe. It seems stories are being created just to create negative responses in the populace

When conflicts arise, both in the media and out on the streets, a blanket of massively contagious, dark energy is produced. When at it’s worse, even if you lived far underground it would be difficult to avoid this dismal energy.As I mentioned in my last post: negativity generates negativity. Negative emotions are contagious and are subliminally taken on even by those who aren’t Sensitive

People get swept along by the irrational, infectious moods being intentionally perpetuated. They breed and feed.  It is a form of gaslighting. And because the populace is continuously fed more reasons to become fearful, infuriated or dissatisfied, and very little to feel positive and cheerful about, low-level energy continues to escalate.

So, even if you pay little attention to the media and it’s propaganda, the murky energy stirred up leaves you feeling lost or alone.

Many Empaths find that mass produced dark energy seeps into the energy field, even whilst we sleep, and because it is so all encompassing affects us on many levels.

Its effects may show up as periods of lethargy, chronic fatigue, depression, and an absolute sense of disconnection. But too often the Empath blames these dark energies on their present life circumstances.

I have already written about this subject in recent months. But as it is a continuing theme I feel it is right to discuss it again, because the impact it has on an Empath is not pleasant.

Picking up on dark energy coming from the masses, is nothing short of exhausting. It is difficult to hide from even with the best intentions.

Living within a bubble of negative energy feeds one’s darker emotions. This keeps an Empath (and even those not of a Sensitive nature) from uncovering their true power. And if distracted from one’s true power one cannot find the peace, happiness and balance we are meant for.

Part of overcoming the low vibrational energy being contagiously projected into the world is to keep mind, body and spirit strong. Eat good food, exercise, stay grounded and keep clearing your energy field.

Also, if ever there was ever a time to keep your mind empowered now is it. A good way to do this, other than the aforementioned, is by focusing on all your strengths, staying positive and being grateful for the small things.

Look to find your hidden super powers and stay focused on them. Like attracts like.

What we focus our attention on grows. When we embrace our positive inner power, that power will grow. We then project out this positive vibrant energy out into the world.

Coming Soon: Be sure to keep an eye out for my post on leaky aura syndrome and why it is impacting so many Empaths.

Until next time…

Diane

The following posts may also help:

Clear Your Energy Field: here, here and here

Stay Grounded: here, here and here

Empath Diet and Exercise: here, here and here

 

 

©Diane Kathrine

Earthing: Easy Grounding for the Empath

Happy 2017!

I don’t know about you but I love this time of year. All freshness, new beginnings and new intentions. January is a re-start. When the Christmas craziness has passed, it is a great time to develop healthy habits and get back into our grounding, re-balancing techniques.

I have just returned from a two-week break in the Caribbean, which I have to say was absolutely delicious! Seeing the sunshine, blue skies and beach every day, whilst getting to daydream and devour book after book, was the best gift I could have been given. Especially when it’s been nothing but drizzle and dreariness, in the weather department, back home.

When I go on holiday, I often let my exercise and healthy eating habits slide. But, this time, I was intent on keeping them up (well, at least the exercise side of things). So, the first morning of our arrival we eagerly turned up at the hotel’s gym for our pre-breakfast work-out. To our dismay, we found the gym was small, stuffy and super-busy, with no floor-space to do stretches or yoga. We spent more time waiting for machines than we did working-out. Anyway, not wanting to sound all winey and ungrateful, it turned out to be a big blessing in disguise.

The following morning I suggested to my husband that we work-out on the beach instead of venturing into the gym. He wasn’t too keen on the idea, being a big fan of the treadmill and weights, but went along with it because of the busyness of the gym. grounding

On the beach, we did a mix of high and low intensity exercise whilst wearing training shoes but when it came to yoga and stretches, it was time to go barefoot. As soon as I kicked off my shoes and grounded my feet into the sand, I felt an incredible calming, yet powerful, energy surge through me. In an instant I remembered the familiar tranquillity and pureness that comes with connecting to the Earth. (It also helped being able to gaze out over the beautiful sea and watch the palm trees swaying idly on the light, salty breeze.)

The Earth’s powerful healing energy, I now realize, is something I take for granted or forget about, especially whilst my feet are swathed by toasty socks and sturdy rubber-soled shoes. But even when I do remember, life or bad weather (especially here in Manchester), gets in the way of good intentions to ground barefoot with the Earth.

Grounding with the Earth is also known as Earthing and is a quick powerful way to harness the Earth’s power.

Earthing has gone from being a somewhat ‘woo-woo New Age trend’ to being a well-researched practice with a number of proven beneficial health benefits. From the perspective of being an Empath, I have found Earthing has some of the following positive benefits: Continue reading

Two Days Left to Grab Your Free Copy

Hope you’re all having a fabulous weekend!

Just another quick reminder that there are just 2 days left to grab your free copy of  The Empath Awakening on Kindle. The offer ends at midnight Pacific time on Sunday the 21st August (tomorrow). The price will then return to $7.99

The book reveals the many interesting  ways of an Empath and covers subjects about what can weaken or strengthen them, including: relationships, work, stress, deceit, residual emotions and much more.

Kindle Version Empath AwakeningDiscovering you are an Empath is a day of great revelation. Finally, you have an answer for all that you feel and experience! This knowing is just the start of an incredible journey…

Understanding the gift, and all it entails, is the first step to unleashing its gentle power and truly defining yourself as an Empath!

For the newly awakened, life can be wrought with challenges and emotional pain; but it doesn’t have to be. The Empath Awakening shows you where your imbalances may hide and how to treat them. It teaches you how to heal and seal a permeable aura and unplug from unnecessary emotions. The book also imparts valuable knowledge essential for a happy, healthy  life!

You can read the book on any device from your phone, laptop or iPad although you may have to download the free Amazon Kindle App.

Click here for free Kindle download of The Empath Awakening or here for paperback version (not included on offer). Please note these links are for Amazon Kindle US. If you are from another part of the world you will have to download it from the online Amazon store in your area. Just type in The Empath Awakening by Diane Kathrine in the Amazon Kindle search bar.

Hope you enjoy…

19 Surprising Secrets Of An Empath

There are many layers to being an Empath, and the sooner we discover who we are, and come to understand our incredible traits, the better we can navigate life. However, many Empaths go through life not knowing who they are. Nor realizing some of their quirky ways are actually part and parcel of being Sensitive.

Most already know the usual traits of an Empath, but here is a list of some of the less discussed and recognized behaviours that sets the Empath apart (as well as a few of the better known ones – thrown in for good measure). It is often the case that by simply recognizing certain traits is enough to master them:

1. Possesses Emotional Intelligence

Empaths encompass incredible emotional intelligence, which they use to make careful decisions they hope will bring balance into their life and the lives of others. But as emotional intelligence is a rare gift, in a world ran by logic and rules, it can leave the Empath hurt and vulnerable by those who do not function or think in the same way.

2. Excellent Judge of Character

Sensing all they do about people and life situations makes the Empath an excellent judge of character. Their first impressions are always correct.

3. Senses Deep Emotional Energy

An Empath senses emotions intensely, both their own and others. But this ability can weaken the Empath, especially when it is emotional pain they feel. This is the opposite of who they know they are. Deep within they recognize they are here to do something special, but are often held back from finding their purpose by the confusion of what they experience emotionally.

4. Endures Empath Overwhelm

It is easy for an Empath to become overwhelmed without necessarily understanding the reason for it. They often look for ways to shelter from this overwhelm in vices such as alcohol or drugs. It may take time for the Empath to discover these substances have the opposite effect and make their pain more intense.

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5 Easy Ways to Stop Empath Overwhelm

overwhelmEvery Empath experiences it at some point and it is one of the most challenging aspects of being Sensitive. The overwhelm endured, from taking on too much emotional energy, can  at times be unbearable.

Empath overwhelm is often caused by being “peopled”. But being around crowded places or overly negative people is not the only way an Empath becomes overwhelmed.

When someone has caused hurt, by their words or actions, or if the Empath has had negative thoughts directed towards them  it often throws them completely off-balance, sending them nose-diving into overload. And that is not to mention what they suffer from being in the firing line of another’s low-mood.

The more out of alignment the Empath (feeling run down, emotionally low, having unbalanced chakras and hormones, etc.) the worst they will be affected by overwhelm and the longer it will last.

Empath overwhelm affects everyone differently, some much worse than others, at different stages of life. It causes lethargy, apathy and mood swings, and can  trigger thoughts that keep you awake at night and dark emotions that reduce  your verve for life.

The best way to combat the impact of overwhelm is to ‘nip it in the bud’ as soon as you become aware of it. The following techniques work quickly to stop Empath overwhelm in its tracks:

1. Eat a small amount of chocolate: I say small amount because large amounts have the opposite effect (I discovered this the delicious way, by devouring too much).

Chocolate can transform and uplift oyur mood in an instant. Containing compounds which promote happiness, chocolate is the go-to food when you have been emotionally or energetically triggered.

Serotonin is a neurotransmitter, produced by eating chocolate, known as the happy hormone. This hormone not only activates your bliss centers but it also helps refrain you from dipping into dark thoughts.

In my opinion, milk chocolate tends to work better than dark (as dark chocolate has a higher amount of caffeine). But the type you choose is something you can experiment with yourself. Most chocolate contains refined sugar which is a big cause of depression, and inflammation, not just in Empaths but all humans. So keep chocolate just for the times when you’ve been hit by emotional overload.

Eat between 2 to 4 small squares of chocolate, washed down with a pint of cool water. The water speeds up the healing and re-balancing process. 

2. Temple hold: Place two to three fingers on either side of the temples (between the eyebrows and hairline) and hold for as long as needed.

This simple technique helps break the repetitive thoughts that are triggered from emotional pain and overwhelm. It also works to block the dense feelings they cause.

I’m not sure why this method works but it does. (I suspect it is because it activates acupressure points and soothes the parts of the brain responsible for emotions.) It makes one feel safe and helps contain any excess ‘head energy’.

Great to do at bedtime, when emotional overwhelm turns into rampant thoughts that keep you awake. Taking some calming, conscious breaths at the same time further helps.

3. Short burst of high intensity exercise: A mini power-walk or run, dynamic yoga moves, dance routines or skipping, etc.  helps burn off raging or uncomfortable emotions. I’m talking very doable bursts of exercise that last between 1 to 5 minutes.

Performing short bursts of high intensity exercise releases endorphins into the body which block the pain transmission signals and produce euphoric feelings that calm the entire system.

A great exercise I use, when I have been emotionally fired-up, is the plank. Most will have heard of the plank; it is a challenging yoga move that activates all the muscles in the body. Maintaining it for just 30 seconds is often all it takes to blast out any negative energy.

There is a variation of the plank to do whatever your fitness level, from beginners and beyond. You will find plenty of excellent instructional videos on YouTube to get you started.

Whatever exercise you choose, as your mini blast, make sure to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable and your muscles burn. (The saying ‘fight fire with fire’ springs to mind here).

See 7 Secrets for more on the transformative power of specific exercises and the healing hormones they release.

4. Singing: This may not be something you want to do when feeling low, but it is excellent for lifting the moods. Sound affects you on many levels and singing raises your vibration and can stop emotional overwhelm in its tracks.

Anyone can sing, hum or chant, even whistling works. Just make sure the song you chose is uplifting and not one that stokes up painful emotional memories.  Try it and see.

5. Avoid caffeine: Being a stimulant, caffeine will heighten any emotional overwhelm you are experiencing. You don’t always realize how caffeine worsens your emotions because the effects kick in 30 to 40 minutes after consumption.  It can make you anxious and jittery and anything you feel negatively inside is amplified. Not having caffeine will not always prevent emotional overload but it significantly reduces the symptoms and the way it affects you.

So there you go, quick, simple techniques, taken from the book 7 Secrets of the Sensitive, that work to reduce the Empath’s overwhelm! For more similar techniques see 10 Ways to Protect Yourself.

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Until next time

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

 


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Defining the Emotions an Empath Feels in Others

Learning to differentiate between ‘whose emotion belongs to whom’ certainly proves to be a challenge for those of a Sensitive disposition.

Every Empath quickly discovers of their ability to sense the emotional energy in others but some struggle to distinguish these emotions from their own.

I often get asked questions like: ‘How do I define what I feel in another person?’ or ‘How can I block the emotions I feel in others?’

Not understanding what other people’s emotions represent is more common than you might think within the Empath world.

When I was younger (teens and twenties), I did not know I could sense the emotions in others. I thought my own insecurities made me feel uneasy when around certain people. If anyone carried hidden pain, negative energy or anger issues I felt them as a deep sense of discomfort. Which I wrongly interpreted as being part of my own social hang-ups. Continue reading

Trinity Healing for The Empath

Anyone who has read many of my posts is probably aware that I am very much an advocate of taking responsibility for self-healing.

When it comes to realigning mind, body and spirit, I believe  we are the ones who must do it for ourselves and we should not hand our power over to others (in most cases). It is after all our unique journey. We learn most in life by that which we overcome.

I wasn’t always of this mind. When I was younger, I hoped others would or could do it for me. I thought the best option was the easy option… I learnt the hard way on that one.

It was over 20 years ago when I started looking for answers to mysteries of life. And in that time I have made many discoveries. Especially in regard to Empath life!

It took me a while to see it, but the journey of an Empath, and its many ups and downs, is a brilliant and amazing fast-paced rollercoaster ride and a true blessing. If it were an easy, comfortable trip we would never get to overcome the many obstacles we do. And, in turn, accomplish and learn so much.

We climb mountains, float on clouds and stumble into darkness, sometimes all in one day, and it is these experiences that make the Empath journey so worthwhile.

I have by no means got the answers to life’s mysteries, nor would I yet want to have. We have to leave something to learn on life’s path. However, the most important detail I have realized to date is: we will never find true health, peace or happiness as an Empath until we heal the trinity of mind, body and spirit.

Mind = thoughts, ego and emotions
Body =  physical vessel
Spirit = the energetic body and higher self or soul

We come as a trinity package and when it comes to healing we generally have to work on all three.

The longer body is out of alignment the worst damage it will cause to the Empath trinity.

Some of the worst damage caused to the mind, body and spirit is from the consumption of an unsuitable diet.

It does not matter if your body is toned and athletic or whether you have a regular spiritual or meditative practise. If your diet is unsuitable it not only weakens your body but also causes leaky aura (seriously bad news for the Empath )and has a harmful effect on your mind (also bad news for an Empath).

I had no idea that what we put in our mouths could have such a harmful effect on our all round physical and mental health, as an Empath, until I changed my diet.

My transformation began when I gave up wheat [see post here ]. Once my mind was clear of the drug-like and mind-numbing effects of wheat, tuning into my body’s needs became easier and easier.

After wheat elimination came the removal of refined sugar and again, I could not believe the change. Happiness became a staple.

I now realize that within the medical establishment, holistic and new-age arena, they and we are being misled and misinformed. The cause of most problems in both body and mind is what we feed ourselves. The low-fat, high grain/sugar diet we have been consuming these past thirty years has turned many into sleep walkers. This way of being stops us from reaching any type of enlightened state.

Wheat and refined sugars strip the body of essential nutrients and enzymes. An imbalance of just one nutrient or enzyme, in the body, causes untold misery in the mind. Deficiency is destructive.  I would not have believed this had I not witnessed such a transformation within myself by eliminating the foods that deplete nutrients [see post here on supplements for Empaths].

Without enzymes we would cease to exist. They keep us alive, nourish our bodies and keep our mind healthy. As we age our enzyme production decreases. This, coupled with a bad diet, puts us on a fast-tracked-path to mental and physical illness. This is why it is so important to keep our enzyme consumption high and eliminate foods that strip them.

Giving up much loved foods is not easy, I know, but once out of the system you do not miss them and you will not believe just how amazing you can feel. Your Empath life will turn around!

For those of you who have suffered a lifelong battle with ailments, allergies, fatigue, illness or depression, you will be amazed just how well you can feel. In fact, just by eliminating wheat alone will get a new lease of life.

This may sound like a bold statement but making changes to your diet will help you discover your true self and accomplish your dreams. Click here to learn more.

Modern diets and lifestyles have taken too many Empaths and Sensitives down. Putting them out of action without them realizing their diet is preventing them from becoming who are they are meant to be.

You may already consider yourself to have a ‘healthy diet‘, but if you don’t feel amazing as an Empath, something is off.

If you want to see BIG changes in your life, change your diet!

If you have worked on yourself mentally, spiritually and physically and still suffer bouts of  Empath fatigue, overwhelm, depression or many physical ailments it is time to address what you eat…

The time has come for you to really start living, not just existing, and get doing what you came here to do. There is nothing to lose but everything to gain…

2017 Update: If you are interested in changing your Empath life for the better this book will help you. Or click on the link if you want to check your Empath symptoms.

Hope this helps on your journey!

Until next time,

Diane

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Find Your Empath Dosha Type

I have always been fascinated and had an unquenchable thirst for knowledge on anything to do with healing, as is typical of an Empath. I have constantly searched out different healing modalities in the quest for salvation from my Empathic traits and have always been on the lookout for that miracle cure…

In the days before I learnt of my being an Empath, I would get frustrated by the fact that I didn’t get the desired, expected or promised results from the many holistic treatments, I tried and even learnt; that others had sworn by. It was only after I discovered of my being an Empath, that I realised most of my maladies were coming from external sources (other peoples’ emotions) and the therapies that were beneficial to some, in dealing with stresses and other emotional states, were of no use to me. But that did not stop me from searching for an antidote. Unfortunately, I can not lay claim to having found the solution to impede or quash the barrage of unwelcome, incoming energies, I have, however, found ways to tolerate and lessen the symptoms.

What I have learnt and continue to learn is that knowledge is the key to safeguarding our wellbeing. We are ultimately responsible for the health of our body, mind and spirit. I always had an inkling and then later a knowing, that this life is a DIY (do it yourself) job/journey and that, after childhood, relying too much on others, to take away our pain or make our life easier, is not the answer. We are answerable to ourselves and it is up to us to discover what will help and/or hinder our wellbeing, mentally and physically.

Empaths tend to be hardwired for learning and are constantly on the lookout for therapeutic techniques, not just for themselves but for others too. Just the act of reading this or any other similar blog, is in the quest of healing knowledge and a way of looking for the answers. I’m sure we would all love to find a quick fix or miracle pill to take our, and others, woes and pains away, but then if everything came easily, there would be no sense of accomplishment in life. And that is not to say I believe life should be a struggle and a constant uphill battle, we just need challenges and lessons to help us grow and we can do that through taking self-responsibility.

As we are all so very different, what works for one, does not always work for another and because of this it can prove difficult to find out what is best for our personal healing. Bearing this in mind, I would suggest that finding out one’s individual body type is a must in the interest of our health and sanity, and we can do this through the healing art of Ayurveda.

I have long been an advocate of the healing powers of yoga on the physical body and mind (hence becoming a yoga teacher) but I never seemed to get it quite right with diet and digestion and it is only recently that I have made the connection with diet and our body types.

A part of my yoga teacher-training was devoted to the study of Ayurveda, an ancient healing practice, thousands of years old and a sister science to yoga, in which we discovered our body constitutions or prakruti known as the doshas.

The meaning behind Ayurveda can roughly translate to the science of life and its aim is to bring balance and health to both body and mind. This is achieved through various Ayurvedic methods, but one essential element that firstly needs addressing is what we put into our mouths, whether that be hot/cold, wet/dry, sweet/sour, bitter or pungent. Before we can find what to eat for optimum health, we need to discover our dosha type.

There is much free information out there on the net in regards to Ayurveda and dosha types but to explain in brief: it is said that we are all born with one basic constitution (dosha) which are known as, Kapha, Pitta, and Vata. 80% of us are born with one primary dosha and the other 20% will have a dual-dosha or even tri-doshic type. Dependant on your type will depend on what foods to enjoy in abundance and those to avoid or eat in small amounts. For example, a Kapha type who tends to be on the heavier side, dislikes the cold, puts weight on easily, is sluggish, can have oily skin, suffer from excess mucus and in general be very laid back in life, a diet consisting of low-fat, low-sugar, low-wheat products and plenty of spicy food should be consumed. Then for a Vata type who, among other traits, tends to have dry skin, fluctuating energy levels, an ever whirring, restless mind, be of slim build, quick to anger and quick for anger to subside; a diet consisting of sweet, warm, moist and oily foods is followed (not processed food). It goes against the grain of what  the Western world has promoted, in that a healthy diet is beneficial to all. An incredibly healthy food, which is great for one dosha type, may not be so good for another.

The three dosha's and the 5 great elements the...

The three dosha’s and the 5 great elements they are composed from (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

To determine the dosha type you were born with, visit: http://www.banyanbotanicals.com/constitutions/  or  http://doshaquiz.chopra.com/  and do the dosha test. When answering the questions it is best to cast your mind back to late childhood, early adulthood, because this is when you were most likely your true dosha type, before you got imbalanced from a stressful lifestyle, wrong diet and exercise et-cetera.

There is a wealth of information on both websites about your dosha type and what foods to eat, or to avoid, to balance it/them. You can also discover how much exercise is beneficial to your type and whether eating your food hot or cold is a consideration. It is always best, if you get chance, to visit an Ayurvedic practitioner, who will give you a reliable diagnosis of your dosha. If this subject is of interest, you will no doubt find yourself perusing the web for hours searching more information on Ayurveda and the doshas.

So how does this information help out an Empath? Finding your dosha certainly won’t take away the difficulties we have to endure, but if we balance our dosha types it is just another step towards overall balance. Empaths take on so much from others and can spend much of the time feeling exhausted just from dealing with external influences. Sometimes it can be hard to tell what belongs to us and that which belongs to another, but if we know that we have balanced our body, mind and spirit through eating, drinking and exercising according to our type, being in balance will help us discern the energies and then use the tools that we have found helpful in dealing with toxic energy overloads. We have to remember that as humans we will still suffer from our own range of emotions, anger, anxiety and fear (finding your dosha will also determine whether your type is more prone to certain emotions than another) caused by life situations.

These days we can not afford to get ourselves any more out of balance than we already are. If we are not physically in good shape, through healthy exercise, good nutrition and mind stilling exercises, then we will be vulnerable to a whole host of illnesses ready to knock us out of our groove (stressful emotions lead to illness, whether they are ours or not). I know on some days just putting one foot in front of another can be a real effort and even just thinking about exercising is hard work, so it is my advice that on these, low energy, days you should think of doing some passive stretching and restorative yoga. Basically, it is putting your body in certain poses and let gravity do all the stretching work, whilst allowing your breath to rejuvenate the body. When it comes to Empaths and exercise, a little is always better than none.

We are currently in the throes of a huge transitional shift and there are a lot of fearful and heightened emotions out there. If it’s not the energies of other peoples’ pain bodies we’re dealing with, we’re being floored by the many solar flares that are pounding the planet. Now, more than ever, we need to look after ourselves. If you haven’t already, check out  Grounding Techniques for Empaths and Sensitives, you may find some useful tips. I have also found supplements quite helpful too. As they say, ‘every little helps…’

If you are an Empath, I empathise with you for what you will probably be going through or have already been through. We have to keep reminding ourselves that we wouldn’t have agreed to take on all that we do if there wasn’t a very good reason for it. So, chin up, smile and keep plodding on…