Trauma Trigger People and the Empath

If you have someone in your life who acts as a trauma trigger they will no doubt have sprung to mind upon reading the title of this post.

Those who act as a trauma trigger cause a response at the mere mention of their name, and can have the Empath awash with a torrent of painful emotions, just by thinking about them.

For the Empath, feeling other people’s energy and emotions is normal, both negative and positive.

Some people emit lovely, light vibrations and are a joy to be around. But there are some who live under a cloud of negative energy and are riddled with angsts that they seem to thrive on.

These ‘trigger’ people tend to spew dark, angry energy  and refuse to accept or change their behaviour, even if it has been pointed out to them how their ways affect others. They tend to find fault in everyone (except themselves) and choose not to see the good in those around them.

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10 Ways Empaths can Protect Themselves from Other People’s Energy

For the Empath, being in public places is often a traumatizing time that may leave them floored and out of sorts.

Simply nipping to the shopping mall can mean they end up wearing someone else’s energy for the rest of the day. Which isn’t such a bad thing if the energy is positive and highly charged. However, it is mostly the not-so-nice energy that follows them home.


I have found that the best way to stay protected when in public is either to take preëmptive measures, before leaving home, or know some useful, energy balancing techniques to use as and when needed.

Here are some effective protective techniques:

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Could This be a Cure for Social Overwhelm for Empaths?

I think you will probably all agree that, for the Empath, there certainly seems to be never ending hurdles to overcome when it comes to wellbeing.

Like many of you lovely Empaths out there, I consider myself to be somewhat introverted. And living in this extrovert world can often make me feel like I’m a large square peg being pushed into a small round hole.

And as is typical of an introvert, the thought of going out in busy peopled places or having to attend bustling social events sometimes ignites a bout of ‘social dread’ for me.

So, when I recently came across a condition that causes unnecessary social anxiety and excessive introversion, it immediately caught my attention.

The condition is called Pyroluria. and is caused by a lack of vitamin B6 and the mineral zinc.

Vitamin B6 and zinc are stripped from the body when under a lot of stress. As most Empaths suffer with high levels of emotional stress, they have to consider their nutrient levels may be low.

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50 Simple Steps for a Blissful Empath Life!

We attract into our life who and what we are. To draw more magnificence to your Empath life it helps to develop a more magnificent outlook on life.

Here are 50 ways of being which, if adopted, will see many incredible positive changes happen in your life!

1. Let Go of Expectations of Others

Expectations can cause untold pain and frustration. Let them go and it will free you from disappointment.

2. Learn to Accept

You cannot and should not control everything in life. Acceptance is essential if you want to live a happy, healthy life.

3. Release Dependency on Others

When you depend on another to make you happy, or to give your life meaning, you miss out on discovering how incredible you are.

4. Control your Thoughts

Stress and unhappiness are born from chaotic Empath musings. Quieten your mind and calm your thoughts.

5. Judge Not

Judging makes you fearful of judgements. Choose not to judge, yourself or others, and you will find more emotional freedom.

6. Stop Procrastinating

Don’t put off today what you can do tomorrow. Why waste life thinking about what you could be doing?Just do it!

7. Be at Peace with Criticism

Trying to avoid criticism prevents you from doing what you are meant to do and becoming who you are meant to be as an Empath.

8. Change not Another nor let Another Change You

Don’t mould others into the people you want them to be and don’t change yourself to please another. Just be! Allow your Empath self to be true.

9. Don’t Take it Personally

If another treats you badly, it is a reflection on them. Not you!

10. Get Out in Nature

Spending time in nature is grounding and uplifting and will soothe your Empath soul.

11. Never Give Up

Good things don’t arrive overnight. People have little appreciation of that which comes easy. No matter what your age: Believe in yourself and continue striving towards your goals.

12. Leave the Crowd Behind

You are here to enjoy your exclusive life experience. Follow your calling not the crowd’s.

13. Collect Experiences not Treasures

When you leave your body you only take your knowledge and experiences. Make as many as you can.

14. Abandon the Fear of Failure

A failure is an experience that simply teaches you how not to do something. Whatever you choose to do as an Empath you will learn. Don’t let fear hold you back from trying.

15. Stay Protected

Keeping away from negative, draining energy will keep you empowered as an Empath.

16. Embrace Success

Expect success as an Empath and you will always have it!

17. Love What You Do and Do What You love

Follow your passions. When happy in your work success will follow.

18. Don’t Place Your Worth on Your Appearance

Youthful beauty fades but inner-beauty continues to grow. Let your inner-Empath-beauty shine!

19. Take Responsibility For Your Energy

You receive back what you give out. Project powerful, uplifting vibrations into the world and collect the rewards.

20. Create The Change You Want To See

Don’t wait. Create your Empath dream life. Be the change see the change.

21. Know Your Worth

No man is better than himself. Putting another on a pedestal instills the idea of unworthiness. Believe in your own brilliant Empath-self!

22. Listen to Others

Listening generously, to those who truly need to be heard, is healing. Heal others heal yourself.

23. Think Not of Revenge

You don’t need to ‘teach another a lesson’. Believe in karma. What goes around does indeed come around.

24. Remember You Have Freewill

It is your journey! Choose the Empath life you want to live.

25. Send Love into the World

Opening your heart to others is a show of strength. Love is empowering. Love will heal you and the world!

26. Let Go of Pain

You wouldn’t hold a fiery ember, so why allow painful emotions to burn within?

27. Don’t Allow Rules to Stifle Creativity

Creativity allows the Empath’s spirit to soar. If a rule no longer works make a new one.

28. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Daily

If you want to evolve as an Empath, do something each day that makes you uncomfortable.

29. Stop Waiting for Another to Complete You

The only person who can make you whole is you.

30. Learn to Be on Your Own

Spending time alone turns the Empath’s journey into an extraordinary expedition.

31. Express Gratitude

Being grateful sends a powerful message to the universe that you are open to more reasons to be grateful.

32. Keep Your Self-Talk Positive

A positive inner-voice is the key to a happy, productive Empath life.

33. Eat What Nature Intended

For lasting health and happiness keep your diet clean. Listen to your intuitive dietary promptings and feed yourself nourishing food.

34. Nurture Body Mind and Spirit

Your body, mind and spirit are connected. Only when all three are balanced will you find harmony as an Empath.

35. Free Your Voice and Learn to Say No

Only do it because you want to. You will never please others by constantly giving into their expectations. They just expect more.

36. Remember Your Friends

One of the biggest regrets of those on their deathbed is losing touch with old friends. You cannot make new ‘old friends’. You rarely make friends like the ones who have been in your life for the long hall, don’t forget them.

37. Free Yourself from Childhood Issues

The child in you lived and got through those difficult times; don’t let the adult be punished by them.

38. Let Go of Resentment

Why let another’s actions blight your life? Resentment makes you bitter. Let it go.

39. Control Anger

Breathe though and release it. Anger only punishes the bearer.

40. Help Others to Help Themselves

Instead of doing it for them, show them how.

41. Lose The Need to be Right

Wanting to be right just makes others wrong. Value opinions.

42. Question Everything

Don’t believe everything you read, hear or see. Trust your Empath gut. If it doesn’t feel right chances are it’s not.

43. Give Without Expect of Return

Doing nice things for others, without expecting anything back, is nourishment for the soul.

44. Stop Throwing Pity Parties

Like attracts like. Talking like a victim keeps you stuck in that mind-set.

45. Strive for Many Life Experiences

Keep your Empath life energised with new experiences every day.

46. Chase Your Dreams

Don’t die with your dreams unrealized. Step out there and create them.

47. Trust Your Intuition

Your Empath Knowing has more power than you may realise. Let it guide you.

48. Find Your Passions

How will you know what your true passions are if you don’t seek them out?

49. Select Acquaintances With Prudence

As an Empath, you become who you spend most time with. Choose wisely.

50. Choose Happiness

For a joyful  life make the decision to feel happy each and every day. And stay away from anything that hinders your joy!

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If you’re curious why people behave strangely around you or act as though they don’t like you, you may want to read this post: The Mirror of an Empath.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time,

Diane

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Navigating Psychic Attack: A Guide for The Empath

There are many forms of psychic attack. For the purpose of this post I’m referring to the type which is sent, from one person to another, through dark thought forms.

It is difficult to discern between the emotions our thoughts create, by pondering a stressful subject, to those we experience through psychic attack, and this is why many Empaths are unaware they are on the receiving end of malicious contemplations. 

Most people do not experience the dark thoughts of others. This is not the case for the Empaths. If another is having undesirable thoughts about them, it can turn into full-blown psychic attack.

We are in the midst of some challenging times which are bringing many insecurities, and hidden issues, to the surface within humans. Instead of facing them, many are projecting the discomfort they feel onto others by blame.

Those who choose not to deal with  their inner-conflicts tend to vibrate at a low-frequency and their energy becomes toxic to the Empath. Because they find it difficult to be around those who are experiencing deep negative issues the Empath may need to disconnect, or stop spending time around them, which often causes bitter resentments to form.

Generally, a psychic attack comes from family members, not necessarily blood related, friends who are close or once used to be, work colleagues or those the Empath has disconnected from. As already mentioned, most do not pick up on the dark brooding thoughts others have about them (everyone thinks badly of others at some point), but being so Sensitive, to all energy, the Empaths do.

How can you tell when being attacked?

When under psychic attack the tell-tale signs are repeating negative thought patterns surrounding one person. For example: a certain friend (the one thinking and thus sending bad thoughts) will repeatedly pop into your mind, along with negatively charged feelings, throughout the course of the day or days.

You may wake up thinking angry thoughts towards this person, when you have had no recent contact with them or reason to be feeling angry with them. And you will somehow manage to link the negatively charged feelings to a past situation and, therefore, falsely believe you are responsible for creating the angry thoughts.

When under attack, the one thinking/sending the dark thoughts does not necessarily know you are on the receiving end of their menacing musings. Instead of taking responsibility and finding the true cause for their troubles, they lash out and project blame onto others for their unhappiness, through their thoughts. (You will probably not be the only one the thoughts are directed at, but you will probably be the only one feeling them.)

What should you do when you sense a psychic attack?

You have to nip it in the bud straight away and this means not indulging the dark thoughts or emotions you are experiencing. Which has to be said, is not easy to do. By engaging their thoughts you become part of the problem.

The Empath has the power to project angry thoughts back to the source without realising, and in doing so, unintentionally open a two-way psychic battleground with angry thoughts flying back and forth. It can go on for days. And in these cases, the Empath always comes off worse.

More than any other, Empaths have to be cautious of what they project out into the world in the way of gloomy, angry or irrational thought forms. What goes out has the tendency to come back amplified. (The positive flip side to this is the return of projecting positive, happy, love-filled thoughts out into the world).

You may have noticed your moods are projected onto others. If feeling happy you lift others up, if sad you see it wash over those in your presence. Even your tiredness, and stumbling over words, is projected to another. So yes, Empaths take on negative, energetic vibrations from others, but they can also powerfully, project them back out.

How do we stop engaging dark thoughts?

The easiest way is to do this is distract yourself the moment you notice any dark thought forms. Especially if they repeatedly go back to the same person. You may have already discovered your own way to do this but making noise in your head can really help: singing, humming, chanting etc. Just like plugging in your ears and singing loudly blocks out external sounds, I’ve found this helps with outside thoughts too. You could also try exercise or get creative.

How can we protect ourselves from psychic attack?

Build up a strong energy-field (click here, here or here for more info).

Being weak, physically or mentally, automatically weakens your energy-field (aura). Your energy-field is your ‘invisible’ shield which protects you from outside ‘invisible’ influences, such as negative thoughts and emotions.

Suppressed emotions, poor diet, lack of exercise, a busy head, illness and emotional pain all contribute to weakening of the energetic body. If you suspect you have been on the receiving end of psychic attack it is a good time to tune into your IGS and reevaluate your lifestyle. By strengthening the body and mind  (see here for more) it will in turn strengthen your energy-field and thus help ward off psychic attack or negative energy.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time.

Diane

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AN EMPATH’S GUIDE TO LIVING IN THE WORLD

Living in this heavily populated world Empaths face many energetic challenges. If it is not having others dump their negative energies on them, they are drained of their vital energy just by spending too much time in public.

Learning to set energetic boundaries is, of course, a given for those of a Sensitive nature and many Empaths are hardwired into automatically doing this. However, sometimes life just gets in the way.

We all need gentle reminders, from time to time, about what we could be doing to protect ourselves and thus make life more enjoyable. And this is what I hope to present in this guide for the Empath.

For Empaths, wanting to block out all external emotions and energies would, no doubt, be a priority. But it is not always that cut and dry. For one thing, she might have already tried every energy-blocking technique known to man, without any success.

And then there are the questions: why is it Empaths feel and take on what they do, emotionally, is it not for a purpose? In taking on these negative energies are they not helping rid the world of them?

The answer to those question are debatable. But the fact is all Empaths need to learn to protect themselves from wayward energies, and know how to stay grounded, so they can continue to function in everyday life.

Out and About

When an Empath is alone in people-congested places, they may soak up the highly charged energies no sooner than having stepped over the building’s threshold.

If you are one who finds being in public areas, such as shopping malls and cinemas, unbearable, to the point of avoiding them at all costs, there are some techniques you could try that may help:

Take a Friend: Being with another person acts as a buffer and helps diffuse external energies. This lessens the impact, when spending time in public places. It also serves as a pleasant distraction and takes your mind off what you are feeling.

Chances are, after the shopping trip or outing, you may still feel drained but your experience will have been a much more pleasant one.

If taking a friend, or family member, is not possible find a grounding technique, that works for you, and use it before going out. Below are some you could try:

Power Poses: A power pose is generally anything that opens up the body. They can be as simple as opening up one’s arms wide (so your body is in the shape of a cross) and taking long, slow breaths through the nose. Holding a gentle smile is further empowering.

If you are familiar with yoga, a Starfish pose (standing with wide legs and arms) is ideal, as is a Warrior pose with open arms.

Holding the power pose for a couple of minutes before leaving home, or entering an energy-hostile environment, serves in uplifting and expanding one’s energy field. This is opposed to how an Empath often goes out into the world, wanting to feel small and invisible.

Grounding visualizations: These could be anything from visualising roots coming from your feet, grounding you to the earth, to mentally building a halo of white light around your body and expanding it with your breath.

Take a couple of minutes to quieten the mind before attempting.

Affirmations: Positive mini-declarations repeated in the mind can serve in being uplifting, empowering and protective. Statements such as: ‘I am empowered ‘or ‘I am in control’, instantly, and positively, change your mind-set, and your vibration, and thus make you better equipped to handle excessive energies.

Find one that works for you, suitable for the time and place.

Music therapy: Taking your music and earphones is a huge help when out and about. Listening to music you love creates an inner-expansion. It uplifts your energy and creates a protective ‘bliss bubble’ around you. This energy expansion enables you to glide through public-places seemingly unaffected.

It is best to get into the ‘music zone’ before entering a peopled place.

Breath-work: There are many grounding and mind quietening methods available, such as meditation, that require a committed, daily practise to reap the full benefits.  However, the breathing methods, included in the post below are  meditative techniques and can be done in a hurry or when one is feeling out of sorts.

You may need to play around with different breathing techniques to find one which works for you. They can be used before entering or whilst in a busy place. 

Please see this post for  various breathing techniques.

Bedtime

If you are one who doesn’t like sleep-snuggling, or having to sleep close to your partner in bed, no matter how much you love them, you are not alone.

Having sleeping-space is essential for the Empath. 

Most Empaths loathe having anyone get in their ‘energy-space’, day or night, but as sleep-time is crucial for recharging, it is even more important they are allowed it.

If you share a bed, and it is not possible for you to have your own bedroom, opt for the largest size bed available, if space permits.

If you still struggle sleeping near your partner or wake-up feeling drained, use one of the above grounding techniques and adapt them to bedtime mode.

Eating

Know your food and how it affects you. Listen to what your body is telling you about what is and isn’t right for you. If, for example, you have a nagging feeling that dairy is causing you to have an allergic reaction, you could try the 30 day exclusion challenge, to see if it is.

This involves abstaining from all dairy (or whatever you suspect does not agree with you, be it chocolate, tomatoes, alcohol or GMOs) for 30 days. After that time, gradually introduce it back into your diet. If you have a big reaction to it, you know you are intolerant, allergic or energetically incompatible and  are best removing it from your diet.

Over a period of about 15 years, I’ve tried many eating and exercise plans. I have tried and trained in many holistic therapies and healing, and researched the benefits of nutrients. I always believed that the answers to my healing lay in the metaphysical, and if I made myself more ‘spiritual’ I would find life easier… I hadn’t taken into consideration that it didn’t matter how many hours I sat in meditation or doing yoga, or how many spiritual texts I read, if I was putting poison into my physical body, no amount of meditation or spiritual awareness was going to balance me.

Of everything I have tried over the years, holistically, spiritually and energetically, the most profound changes happened to me when I changed my diet!

I have written about benefits of changing the diet before (and will do again, and again), but as I consider it to be one of the best things you can do to aid physical healing and spiritual growth, especially for Sensitives, I will keep spreading the word.

We may all be very different, with different spiritual, nutritional and physical requirements, but none of us will benefit from taking drugs or eating drug-like food…

Because they tend to be highly reactive, Empaths react more to drug-like foods than those not of a Sensitive nature. High reactive people taste the bitterness in lemons more than others, feel emotional and physical pain more, go red in the face easier and are affected by certain foods, drugs and alcohol worse than those who are not highly reactive.

High reactives are responsive to different vibrations of energy. Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies and that includes what we eat and drink: the faster the vibration, the higher the frequency. Empaths are negatively affected by anything of a low vibration. Certain foods, drugs and alcohol all have a low vibrational energy and bring the Empath down fast.

If you suspect your diet is impacting your health, and Empath ways, and are keen to learn of all the negative ways your diet can impact Empath life click here. 

It is also wise to take note how your food is prepared. Food made in an angry or unhappy environment will carry that energy and thus show up within you.

Most Empaths benefit from having mainly homemade food, so they know exactly what energy goes into their meals.

Socializing and Stimulants

Unfortunately, any kind of stimulant (alcohol, drugs, etc.) only serve in weakening the Empath (as they do any other human). Under the influence, it may feel like external energies are blocked but unfortunately this is not the case. They still seep in and still need to be dealt with.

When in company, other people’s emotions may show up in the Empath as aggression or an overly dominant ego on the evening of consumption or as a physical and emotional hangover from hell the day after.

If you don’t like the idea of giving up your favourite tipple, or social life, try using grounding techniques before an evening out and drink lots of water throughout the evening. Water has both a cleansing and grounding effect. Also include lots of alkalizing foods in your diet. By keeping your body in a more alkaline state it helps keep Empath balance and prevents alcohol doing as much damage.

Friends 

The longer the Empath has known a friend, the more impact the friend can have on their energy. As you would imagine this could be a good or bad thing, depending on the relationship.

Knowing how to navigate your friendships serves in offering healthier and happier relationships.

Friends’ energy and how it affects those of a Sensitive nature will change along with their age and life circumstances. If down or depressed, a friend can unintentionally take the Empath down with them.

In theses cases one has to learn to emotionally unplug. One can still listen and be there, but in a detached way.

Also, be very wary of an unwanted energy drain.

We all know people who drain energy, otherwise known as the ‘Energy Vampires’, but when a friend, who isn’t normally a drainer, is experiencing a tough time their energy-sucking tentacles may seek out an instant uplift from anywhere they can get it.

To avoid being a friend’s ‘energy-replacement-meal’, watch for any drain and where it is coming from. It is normally be from one of four of the main energy centres (chakras): sacral (below belly), solar plexus (mid belly), heart (heart area) or throat (front of throat) and it may be felt by a pull or ache in that area.

Wherever you feel the drain, cover that area immediately with your hands or arms. It is not by chance that we cross our arms over our stomach or chest in social situations; we are subconsciously stopping an energy-drain.

Empaths tend to be very faithful to their friends and keep them in their life for the long-haul. For this reason, it is a good idea to choose friends wisely.

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Work 

For the Empath finding their calling or vocation can be a challenge of epic proportions.

Living a lie, through having to pretend they like doing a job which they don’t, or sell a product they do not believe in, is nothing short of torture for the Empath.

As eighty percent of the workforce do not enjoy their job, this does not make for an energy-efficient or happy working environment (another obstacle for the Empath).

If you listen, your Internal Guidance System will continuously present you with vocational options, perhaps as interests or passions.

If searching for your dream job, or just a new direction in life, here are some questions that may ignite the answer:

  • What are your passions?
  • What do you love to do?
  • What do you believe in?
  • What would you wake up excited to do each day?
  • What can you not live without doing?
  • What engages you?
  • What interest keeps coming back to you?
  • If you could change the world for the better, how would you do it?

Roadblocks

Roadblocks are what stop you going down your desired or chosen route in life. They can be seen through sickness, redundancy, depression, loss of money and social status or non-starting projects. They can unexpectedly pop up out of nowhere, take you off your current journey and bring your life to a standstill or send you off in a new direction.

When encountering roadblocks it may seem like they are purely an unfair punishment, but this comes down to your perspective. They are normally presented as a detour and a way to make changes to your life’s journey when refusing to listen to your IGS.

This detour may involve a long and winding scenic-route, which also happens to be an uncomfortable, seemingly never-ending, bumpy road. But again, this is down to your perspective. 

You have a choice: you can get wrapped up in the inconvenience and discomfort of the long ‘scenic-route’, focusing only on that, or you can concentrate on the ever-changing landscape as it passes and be grateful for being given a chance to change.

Everything presented to us in life is a gift, even roadblocks, and are something to learn and grow from… if only you allow yourselves to see it.

Exercise

Exercise is essential to an Empath’s wellbeing. It works both the physical and energetic bodies, and helps clear stagnant or negative energy.

Sadly, we live in a society that promotes a ‘no-pain-no-gain’ philosophy towards exercise and a focus on sculpting the muscles instead of healing the body and mind. Exercise should be fun and liberating, not torturous or painful (unless you enjoy that ).

There are many ways to exercise and it doesn’t have to be costly or complicated. It can be as simple as turning on some funky music and shaking your hips around the kitchen. Dancing when no one is watching is unbelievably uplifting and you get to make your own moves with the beat of the music.

Running or walking in nature, freestyle dance, where there are no rules, or one of the many forms of yoga, are some of the best forms of exercise for the Empath. These could be done alone at home, and there is no need for a gym membership.

Swimming in the sea, or a lake, would also be great, if you’re fortunate enough to have one nearby.

A gym-class is not always the best environment for the Empath, especially if it has a very ego-driven or body-conscious atmosphere and adorned by lots of mirrors.

Some Empaths pick up negative residual energy left on mirrors. If there have been many insecure, or body conscious, people gazing into gym-mirrors (or mirrors in clothes shops, etc.) an Empath may feel the lingering energy of these insecurities and take them on as their own.

Relationships 

For the Empath, relationships often prove to be a complicated area of life. But also very rewarding when they find a compatible mate (who very likely won’t be an Empath but may still be sensitive).

Empaths are a greatly misunderstood bunch. If they seem aloof or disconnected (after suffering Empath overwhelm) it may take a while for their detachment, and need for time alone, not to be taken personally by a prospective partner.

When one is romantically connected to another, it can make the energetic connection complicated.

Reading someone, who holds no emotional ties, comes quite easily for the Empath. However, when there is a strong emotional bind it can distort one’s ability to read energies clearly. This can lead to confusion and frustration, especially in the early building, days of a relationship and even further down the road.

Not everyone is as inclined to be as honest as an Empath; especially if they have grown-up or worked in an environment where lying is ‘quietly’ seen as acceptable (it is surprising how often this is the case). This is a huge bugbear for the Empath because they feel the energy of a lie, but not always what the lie is. In some cases, this leads to paranoia which in turn leads to ungrounded accusations and arguments.

A whole book  could be dedicated to the relationship highs and lows of an Empath and how to handle every situation (see The Empath Awakening for more on Empath relationships). But in brief, it’s safe to say that the best way to be in any relationship is honest (unless the truth will cause unnecessary pain) and never be afraid to show your True-Self.

It’s always good to remember that every relationship, no matter how brief, offers valuable lessons. Even toxic relationships, filled with strife and arguments, can show areas of  life that need to be worked on or improved.

Comfort Zone 

Allowing yourself to step from your comfort zone, on a daily basis, allows for growth in all areas of your life.  It enables you to face your fears and, in facing them, it gives you a greater capacity to deal with any negative emotions you meet.

When we stay comfortable, we stay small and don’t expand. As the saying goes: 

‘If it doesn’t challenge you it doesn’t change you!’  

                                                                          – Fred Devito

Stepping from the comfort zone can be done by going further than you would like during exercise, by making a phone-call you’ve been putting off for months, by telling someone you love them, or anything that makes you squirm but which you know you should do. 

Getting Out of Your Head

Thoughts can be destructive to your health and wellbeing, especially when they are negative and repetitive. Empaths tend to spend a lot of time in their heads, which is great when thoughts are creative, happy or enlightening. But spend too much time around certain people, or places, and those happy thoughts can quickly turn into painful memories, anger or notions of being wronged or unfairly treated by another.

You may not realise those irrational thoughts, that are on a perpetual time-loop, were ignited by being around certain others, as they don’t always kick in till a day or two after exposure.

So, how do you stop them? It’s not easy but it can be done. The best techniques involves externalising your awareness or by distracting the mind.

Externalising Awareness: One of the best ways to get out of the head is to focus your awareness outside of yourself, using a meditative technique called mindfulness.

This can be done almost anywhere and involves focusing on something outside of your mind. You could gaze at a flickering candle or pay close attention to your scenery as you pass it by (obviously not to be done whilst driving).

If you like walking in nature look up at the trees and notice all you can about the bark, branches and leaves, see the different cloud formations in the sky or inspect the wild flowers growing within the foliage.

Thought Distraction: When your thoughts are on negative-overdrive, doing activities which allow you to indulge them is not advisable. You need to distract yourself. One of the quickest ways to do this is by stepping out of your comfort zone. 

When your mind becomes preoccupied by anything which causes discomfort it stops engaging dark or repetitive thoughts. A few minutes exercising usually does the trick:

If you practise yoga do a pose you find challenging or which requires stamina or concentration, such as the Plank, Warrior, Tree or Crow.  

Do some on the spot exercise: march, jog, star jumps, twist jumps, etc.

Just be wary of injury before doing any on the spot exercise. When your muscles, or joints, are cold they are not as pliable and are more prone to injury. Start slowly and build up the intensity.

 Conclusion 

As we are all here on our own journey with learning experiences unique to us, not all the tips and advice offered here will be helpful to everyone. But until you try them for yourself you will not know what works or what doesn’t. 

As an Empath, you may have come into life purely to gain experience of feeling others’ emotions. And because of this, it is important to remember that just because one Sensitive has learnt how to deal with external energies and you haven’t, even after trying every technique in the book, doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong or being punished. It may simply mean you have not yet achieved a certain lesson from a certain experience.

It could also be that you are capable of enduring more hardships in life and your mountains are higher and harder to climb than most and in turn you will be learning more.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time…


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The Awakening of Others

As I mentioned in my last post, many of you will be seeing others around you who are starting to break from the pressures of the current energies. You will see this in severe depression, anger and even nervous breakdowns. Men seem to be suffering quite badly with this. For one: it is because of the strong influx of feminine energy, pounding the planet, which, for most, they don’t know how to navigate and because they don’t tend to have the same emotional releases women have (for all the female Empaths living with awakening males, you can expect to be seeing/feeling this in a big way. You will be part of their wake-up trigger and will need to be extra vigilante not to take on their negative releases, nor take them personally and be as supportive as is possible).

In many, there is an internal battle going on between the ego and the authentic, true-self. As humans we are ready to evolve, yet the ego knows with evolvement comes its own demise, so it is in survival mode. It doesn’t’ help that our external environment is designed to feed and stimulate the ego into wanting more of everything, in the shape of money, power, fame, success, fashion and beauty, with the premise that when we attain them, our happiness will be fulfilled and we will be worthy. We all eventually become aware, that this never happens. The true-self is happy with having just enough, the ego always wants more and is never satisfied. Thing is, most people aren’t even aware that it is their ego which is running the show and doing all the talking; they believe it’s their own heartfelt desires guiding them.

There are many people who are too afraid to hear the truth of what is really going on in the world. They read the paper or watch the news and take what’s been said as gospel and without question. There is an attachment, so strong, to their false impression of life that it is like an addiction and it needs to be fed on a daily basis. But somewhere, deep within, they know the truth and are keeping it hidden because they also know that when they listen to that truth, their illusions will be shattered and this may lead to the start of a painful journey.

Awakening and evolving is a destructive process and, on a soul level, one has to be completely ready for it. There will be some who, in this life, won’t choose it. I don’t believe Empaths had much choice when it came to ‘The Awakening’. We all had the internal alarms set, which when they went off, normally came in the shape of a nagging feeling that something was amiss with us and the world. This then heralded our quest to seek out answers and from there our adventures unfolded.

So, what advice do we have for those around us who we can see are in the first throes of self-realization and turmoil? It is too easy to want to reveal all that we have learnt, and know, in one big dollop, because we want to help others, but this may only serve in closing them down (too much too soon). As most are so completely shut off to anything that seems a little ‘woo-woo’ or out there, information has to be spoon-fed and given in small increments. If you have been on this path for a while, think back to what or who helped you in the early days: was it a book, a video, yoga or meditation? Much of which aided us back then, we have long since moved on from, but it may be just what the newly awakened need. Perhaps try to explain that humanity is ready to evolve, but resistance to it is the cause of much internal conflict and pain.

What we, as Empaths, have to be careful of in our quest to help and serve, is becoming a toxic-dumping-ground for others. People come to Empaths because they listen and really hear what they have to say and, as this is quite rare in today’s society, it can become like a drug to those who want to be heard or who love to talk about themselves (this is one of the main reasons many Empaths close themselves off and make it so they are invisible to others). Here is where we have to serve our needs first and say no to those wanting to offload. I’m not saying don’t lend an ear to those in need, but if they keep coming with the same victim-mentality or me-me stories they are just taking from you and this helps no one. It’s all about helping others to help themselves in taking self-responsibility; one can do no more than that. However, if someone does not want to hear the advice you may offer, it is not your responsibility to keep trying to get them to hear you.

Empaths, whether they realize it or not, generally know who wants to listen and those who don’t by their internal feelings. When talking to one, who doesn’t want to hear you (this covers all topics), and even if they act or look interested in what you are saying, you will normally feel an internal compression, like your torso is being squeezed and you will have a reluctance to talk.  For example: you may be having a conversation with an acquaintance and when it’s your turn to talk, you may feel a wave of heaviness and boredom wash over you, this is coming from the other and it’s the signal that they don’t want to hear what you have to say. This isn’t because you are boring them, just that they want to get back to talking about their world, because, sadly, that’s all that some are really interested in.

Unfortunately, not everyone is ready to hear what you know or have learnt. Most of us gained our understandings in small stages, so the information has to be imparted in small digestible pieces. But only to those who are ready to hear and have made the first approach.

Many Empaths feel frustrated that they are not doing enough to assist others, especially when one can feel their pain. It is difficult to see those suffering and know the steps they could take to help themselves. But, as I’ve said in earlier posts, we are all doing more than we realize in transmuting the energies.  Remember, in just offering a bright, beaming smile or lending an ear, for a few minutes, to a stranger is a priceless gift to some and can be appreciated more than you know.

Clear Your Empath Clutter Transform Your Life!

It is incredible how quickly clutter builds within the home and the mind. How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?

Have you kept old clothes for when you lose weight or hope they may come back in fashion one day? 

Or have you been given a gift  you didn’t really like, but kept to avoid hurting another’s feelings?

I think it’s safe to say most could answer yes to the above questions. But hoarding, even just a bit, soon sees your home overloaded with junk. Bad news for Empaths or those of a Sensitive nature.

An overly cluttered house leads to an overly cluttered energy field.

Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is extremely draining to the body and mind. Even clutter the eye cannot see has a debilitating effect on the psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling.

If you have a crowded house (and I don’t mean with people) you may not realize how much it depletes your energy. Clutter causes sluggishness, apathy and an uninspired Empath mind.

Empaths tend to have an inbuilt loathing of clutter, whether they are aware of their gift or not, and this is because they feel ‘clutter energy’ dragging them down. They may opt for an uncomplicated decor, without too much fuss, for the simple reason all objects hold energy. But over the years clutter unintentionally builds.

Many years ago, I read a book by Karen Kingston called: ‘Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui, it really resonated with me and inspired me to have a full-on house detox.

I hatched a plan to rid the home of all unwanted, unused and unhelpful items we had hoarded. My husband and I ploughed through the house, room by room, and cleared tonnes of stuff (slight exaggeration, but you will be surprised how much is crammed into the smallest draw). I have a minimalistic décor style and have never liked visual clutter. So everything removed came out of cupboards, draws and wardrobes.

It was amazing how clean, fresh and liberated we both felt afterwards. Removing the clutter also cleared energetic debris held within the unused items.

Where to start

The first thing you need to summon when de-cluttering is bravery. Yes, it may sound silly to suggest being brave when it comes to house-clearing, but it’s often exactly what you need. Letting anything go causes discomfort. Fear always rear its ugly head when making any changes in life. When de-cluttering, fear likes to perch on your shoulder and whisper in your ear, telling you how much you need those unneeded items.

Hoarding is born from the fear of lack. By clearing your clutter you face this fear. When your home is full there is no room for anything new to come into your life. In making space, you send out a message to the universe that you are open to receive (but hopefully not to more clutter).

To find out whether you really need something in your life simply ask this question: How will this item improve my life? If you can’t come up with an answer (other than it won’t) it’s probably time to ditch or give it to charity.

Mental Clutter

Clearing the clutter doesn’t just have to be of your home, you can have an internal-clutter-clearing session.

Disposing of old beliefs, traits or thought patterns is both liberating and rejuvenating. Granted, they’re not as easy to be rid of as belongings, but probably ten times more beneficial.

A trait that will serve you no-end in eliminating is overly judgemental behaviour.

Judgemental behaviour carries a dark, cluttering energy

Although Empaths may dislike judging others it doesn’t mean they won’t harshly judge themselves. Being judgemental is imprisoning and causes untold harm. And it doesn’t have to be vindictive to be damaging: Believing you are not good enough, or another is more worthy is destructive. Self-judgements shrinks your self-worth and clutters your mind with insecurities.

Being judgemental catches all Empaths unaware. But when you work to clear it you become more conscious and automatically disengage from judgemental musings before they have chance to do damage.

Clutter Clearing Check List for the Internal and External

If you are in doubt of what you should or shouldn’t keep in your life, see the following questions:

  • Does this serve me today?
  • Will this serve me in the foreseeable future?
  • Can this serve anyone else?
  • Why am I holding onto this?
  • Will keeping/holding onto this make me happy?

A word of warning: Within days of having a clear-out your mind will play tricks on you. You will suddenly find use for everything you de-cluttered. You may not have used an item for 5 years but your mind will find a job for it once you’ve binned it. Just know that this is part of the de-cluttering process and it will pass.

Hope this post helps you on your Empath journey.

Until next time

Diane

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Developing Traits of an Empath

In recent months I noticed many comments asking how to develop the traits of an Empath. Many are now wanting to follow their calling but are not sure how best to do it.

Although an Empath came into the world ready to do their job of transmuting negative, dense and dark energies, they find they are taken down by them. There are many things about modern life that pushes an Empath out-of-balance. This not only makes life difficult and sometimes painful, but it also means the energy they pick up has a negative impact on them.

It also doesn’t help that they cannot openly discuss their abilities. Try explaining to anyone, who has their feet firmly rooted in the material world, about an Empath: They assume you’ve lost your marbles and look at you as if you are from another planet. For this reason, many Empaths keep to themselves who they are, which can make this a lonely path to walk. It also makes it difficult live authentically. But this is not enough to stop the Empath from pushing onwards and upwards.

It goes without saying that an experienced Empath takes on more than the inexperienced. When I say experienced I’m referring to those who are aware of their gifts and know how to stay grounded and protected. Experience also comes through the obstacles and hurdles met and overcome.

Ironically you would think the more challenges an Empath faces the easier life would become. Not the case. Many Empaths find the further they travel in life the steeper their climb. I guess this comes down to the more done the more expected.

Empaths are constantly at work in the unseen realms mopping up negative energies. Whether they are aware of it or not, they go through life transmuting energy. And, as there seems to be a never-ending supply of dense and dark energies, they are always on call.

It is part of an Empath’s life-path to help bring balance into this chaotic world and many are doing this without being conscious of it. Sadly, the job of an Empath is thankless and, usually, an unrecognised one.  But all the same it is a very real one.

Unlike other metaphysical jobs, the majority are not aware of just how much an Empath takes on. What makes matters more frustrating is if they get labelled as being lazy or a hypochondriac because of what they take on.

Negative energy can make an Empath physically ill, especially when they have a weak energy field and are out-of-balance. It is the type of illness a medical doctor cannot treat.

Learning to discern between energies/emotions coming from their external environment, and that of their own, proves to be a huge challenge for an Empath but it is one of the first things they need to become aware of for self-protection (see this post). It is too easy for an Empath to take on another person’s pain and mistake it as their own. This causes stress and  emotional pain which may lead to unnecessary illness. Building a powerful energy field also helps protect from overwhelming emotions. A good diet and exercise is one of the best ways to do this.

I  recently watched a program about solar flares (coronal mass ejections) and how power plants protect themselves from their impact. When a solar flare is expected to hit, the power station cranks up the electricity in the grid to full blast. This gives a protective shield and diffuses the energy, of the flare, though the grid. The Sun’s energy can’t then fry the system. This reminds me of what happens when we do vigorous exercise: we crank up our feel good endorphins, which in turn raises our vibration and builds a stronger energy field so that when the external energies hit, they simply get diffused. Even just 5 minutes working out to your max reaps huge benefits. (If you become easily overwhelmed from too much energy see this post)

As well as doing exercise it is good to keep a quiet mind. Negative thoughts cause stress and emotional turmoil. Because an Empath picks up the thought-forms of others it is imperative they have control of their own mind and thoughts. Meditation is the best way to get a still mind.

However, sometimes, for the Empath, mediation is difficult to do or keep up. There are many reasons for this. But if you are one who finds mediation incredibly frustrating, do not despair. There are some other brilliant techniques you can try that will help calm your mind and build a strong energy field (see this post).

If you are interested in developing your intuitive gifts there are some easy steps to take (see this post), but if you are more drawn to developing other metaphysical abilities such as: healing or clairvoyance it is best to do so under the guidance of a good teacher (who knows about Empath abilities). Although some Empaths are born with clairvoyant, mediumistic, medically intuitive or other abilities, I would not recommend developing them on your own. Opening up energetically to the invisible realms may cause problems for the unaware and could lead to some scary experiences. 

If you want to transform your life as an Empath and harness your hidden power you may want to read this

 

 

 

Hope this helps on your journey as an Empath.

Until next time.

Diane

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Modern Wheat and the Empath

I don’t k now about you but I have found these past several months to have been such a challenge, both mentally and physically, through the energies bombarding us. I never tend to fare well in the dark, winter months anyway so lately it’s a double whammy. It has been my intention to write a post for months now but, unfortunately, I have not had the energy or focus for it.

One of the main problems I’ve had, as I’m sure many of you will too, is having extreme brain fog and debilitating fatigue. It’s been, well, nothing short of ridiculous really and has made just stringing a sentence together an ordeal, never mind writing a post. Many of the symptoms we’ve been dealing with could tally in with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (many Empaths and Sensitives get diagnosed with this illness) and have not been at all pleasant. Here is a sampling of them:

  • Extreme lethargy and/or fatigue
  • Cold/flu-like symptoms without actually having cold or flu
  • Sensitivity to noise/bright lights
  • Nausea
  • Muscle/joint pain, especially the back area
  • Headaches
  • Brain fog and bad memory
  • Stomach pain, digestive disturbances
  • Depression/sadness/emotional pain
  • Insomnia, even though exhausted

The energies we have experienced lately have been seriously intense and debilitating. The usual tools and techniques that may have worked in the past, for uplifting energy levels and focus just don’t seem to work the same lately…or at least that’s been the case for me. So I’ve had no choice but to lay low and take the energetic poundings as they come.

It is frustrating though to feel as bad as this and not be able to do much to help ourselves. After enduring months and years of these symptoms, that just seem to escalate, many of us may be at the stage where we are tempted to pop a pill in hope of getting rid of the ailments. But, as any Sensitive who’s tried will tell you, medication will not get rid of our maladies, especially if they are energetically related (it is always a good idea to get checked out at the doctors though, the above symptoms can also tie in with many physical illnesses). Medication may mask some of the symptoms but that’s it.

It makes sense that if an Empath is extra sensitive to external energies we will be sensitive to anything we ingest and for this reason we should try to be extra vigilante with what we consume. It has long since been my belief that Nature will always offer an antidote to the many illnesses/ailments that all humans endure. The problem that we face today is that our water contains dangerous chemicals and many of our ‘so-called’ healthy-foods have been altered genetically and are no longer a product of Nature, but that of science/man. One of the foods, labelled as a health-food, that I have recently discovered to be incredibly toxic, is wheat!

I was lucky enough to come across the website of Dr William Davies: http://www.wheatbellyblog.com/about-the-author/  He has written extensively about his research into the damaging and detrimental affects of modern wheat on both body and mind, and how it is predominantly responsible for the obesity epidemic which has swept the globe in the past few decades.

Little did I know that wheat was genetically modified back in the seventies, basically for profit, to give a greater yield to the wheat crop, and is no longer a natural food. After reading Dr Davies’s research I decided to abstain from wheat for just a month and see if it made any difference to my well-being…  it did. One of the first things I noticed was my appetite reducing and my craving for wheat-based products disappearing, which resulted in weight-loss. I also found myself feeling much happier. Others, to whom I suggested dropping wheat, reported the same and more: better digestion, more energy, acne clearing up, etc. For years I had a nagging feeling that wheat did not agree with me but the thought of giving it up filled me with dread. I did not think I could live without bread and pastries, but this was just my wheat-addiction talking.

The scary thing is wheat is a staple in the western diet.  A supposedly healthy diet could consist of: toast/wheat cereal for breakfast, a sandwich for lunch and pasta for evening meal, but in that way of eating we are destroying our health. Wheat is addictive, stimulates appetite and is a depressant, to name but a few of its shortcomings.

Highly sensitive people and Empaths have enough to contend with, without having to deal with the drug-like effects of wheat. I urge you to visit Dr Davis’s site/blog http://www.wheatbellyblog.com/  and read all the information offered, especially the testimonials given by those who have given up wheat. Try it yourself, if only for a few weeks. But to really reap the benefits of wheat-elimination you have to give it up completely, which means no breadcrumbs/batters, sausages, sauces thickened with wheat, soy sauces, beer/larger, etc. Always read the label, you will be amazed where it is hidden.

I am in the process of experimenting with adding raw coconut oil and higher levels of omega 3, essential fatty-acids, into my diet to see if there is any improvement with my energy levels. I will keep you posted if it works.

Introverts, Empaths and Spirituality

Below is a brilliant post by Gregg Prescott of in5d.com.

Most, if not all, Empaths are introverts and should find this an interesting read:

by Gregg Prescott, M.S.
www.in5d.com

Why do introverts tend to be highly spiritual?

Society dictates that we follow specific images projected by the main stream media, so why do introverts tend to rebel from these stereotypes?

Introverts tend to look within for answers versus having the need for societal approval. Often, extroverts will view the introvert as being antisocial, stuck up or as loners, but even with these labels, the introvert will stand his or her ground with complete disregard for how others perceive him or her.

If you are an introvert, then you will find complete comfort in solitude. You often find yourself immersed in deep thought and contemplation. Your need for approval by others is significantly less than the extrovert as you realize that all answers come from within.

While you may partake on social occasions, you often enjoy simply watching the environment around you versus being the center of attention, which many introverts try to avoid. On a metaphysical level, the introvert realizes how we are all connected and does not need the external approval and attention that is often sought after by the extrovert.

Approximately 75% of the world are extroverts, which makes the introvert the minority, yet the introvert will not succumb to societal pressure in order to conform.

While some introverts may be shy, there is a big difference between shyness and being introverted. Shyness is a facet of social anxiety and the fear of rejection while being introverted is the ability to be at social function without the need for complete social interaction. For example, if the introvert was at a party, he or she can easily have conversations with many people, but often chooses not to.

The introvert can have extroverted tendencies while still remaining to be an introvert. Many introverts will pick and choose the time and place to be extroverted, such as waiting in line at the grocery store. In this situation, the conversation is limited and there is no long term commitment to continue the conversation, allowing the introvert to have social interaction without being forced into it. Within minutes, the introvert will once again find the tranquility of being the observer.

Within the solitude, the introvert finds much time to reflect on life. He or she will have a small group of close friends and will feel comfortable being themselves around these people.

The extrovert will feel uncomfortable when there is a small break in the conversation while the introvert understands that sometimes words do not need to be spoken to appreciate the company of the person they’re with. A hug and a smile speak louder than words for the introvert.

The introvert is amused by the extrovert and will observe their mannerisms. An introvert will tend to be on the outside of a group, looking within.

Introverts prefer to watch, listen and observe and don’t talk very much but when they’re with people they feel close to, they will openly talk to about things that they’re passionate about.

Many people within the spiritual and metaphysical genres are introverts and often look within for answers. They are more apt to understand the principle of oneness and how we are all connected on a deeper level than the extrovert, who looks for physical approval.

Introverts tend to use the right side of their brain and often are often musically or artistically inclined. They may also be poets or philosophers and can easily see outside the box.

The introvert will question the origins of what society has told us to be the truth and unlike a scientist, he or she does not need empirical data to maintain his or her own beliefs. The metaphysical fields often attract the introvert because of this.

Inner reflection is commonly used by the introvert as he or she will look within for answers versus what he or she may have been taught. The introvert will use discernment as he or she weighs what has been learned externally versus what he or she feels resonates as the truth within.

Introverts are often empaths as well. Their sensitivity to how other people feel tends to be heightened as opposed to the extrovert who is more consumed with how others are perceiving himself or herself.

Extroverts may also be highly spiritual and will display their spirituality more openly than the introvert. They are easily able to talk to anyone about spiritual and metaphysical topics while the introvert will pick and choose who he or she will talk to about these issues.

The bottom line: despite being only 25% of the population, the introvert will rarely change their attitude or personality to appease others, with the exception of their employment. Many introverts have learned how to be “temporary extroverts” but in the end, their comfort zone brings them back to be an introvert. While society will continue to make the introvert feel like an outcast, the introvert will not be persuaded by peer pressure or conformity in order to appease others because he or she already knows that the truth is within.

Find Out if You are an Introvert Empath

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A Note to Empaths

I decided to write this short post for all you Empaths out there suffering and struggling with all these crazy, painful, bi-polar emotions, day-in, day-out. It’s been tough for us in recent months because not only have we got our own stuff coming up (made all the worse by solar activity), but we’ve also got all the emotional pain coming from outside of us, from family, neighbours, colleagues etc, which has also intensified and there is, seemingly, no escaping it. It’s certainly not an easy time to be an Empath.

At this time, you maybe experiencing many more physical maladies than usual, because you are picking up and absorbing them unintentionally, from those you spend time with or near. And because so many more people are suffering with different ascension/solar related symptoms, emotionally and physically, it’s double whammy for us. The other week I spent a day with a close friend who had sore, swollen eyelids. Guess what I got the very next day after being with her? Yes, sore, swollen eyelids, whilst my friend’s own swollen eyelids, quickly healed.

It can be difficult to tell what emotional/physical symptoms belongs to us and what doesn’t because we are constantly being bombarded from all directions. It is, however, still easy for us to gauge how bad another is feeling, especially when we enter their energy field, because we will immediately pick up on their pain body. It can make being round those we love difficult, especially if they are suffering. And it is so easy for us to interpret their pain as ours, which can, in turn, set off a whole host of other bad feelings within.You might be at a stage where you’re not particularly liking yourself, and that will be because you are identifying with all the stuff coming up/in, emotional-wise, and taking it on as either being part of your personality or as your own. And it would be easy for me to say, ‘It’s not yours, don’t take it on board.’ But as I know on some days it is almost impossible not to, I won’t say it.

So, this post is just a note to say you’re not on your own in this seemingly never-ending onslaught.  Each day will pose a new challenge for us, in some which way. Keep trying different remedies and see what helps (especially salt remedies) in lifting the dark, incoming energy. If an Empath were to go to the doctors in these ‘trying times’ we would surely be diagnosed with some kind of depressive illness, but at least we know the truth!

There is no way we would be going through all this stuff if it wasn’t for a reason…a very good reason. And if screaming into a cushion doesn’t help get some of the debris out, try smiling… because if nothing else, it will make you look (and hopefully feel) happier!

It’s True! The Truth will Set you Free as an Empath!

Finding the truth of who you really are as an Empath is one of the hardest things you will face whilst on this path of awakening.

If you are struggling with the current shift happening in the world, or with being an Empath, I guarantee, one of the reasons is you are not facing your personal truth.

The person you see in the mirror is an accumulation of many fear-based emotions, untruths, rejections and painful events, built up from your personal history.

Ever heard the saying, ‘We’re not really upset about what we think we’re upset about?’ It means we’re not facing the true cause of our pain.

Finding your truth is not an overnight process. It can take years. At least it took me years and I’m still uncovering new stuff all the time.

It was part of my journey to go the long way round, perhaps, so I could share the information here.

So how did I make the discovery? That the truth really will set you free…? Through journaling.

When I was at my lowest ebb (part of my resistance to the a changing world and my Empath ways) I did not want to talk to anyone about what I was feeling inside. I believed it would make me appear weak and vulnerable. I felt frustrated that I was not in control of my emotions (When I discovered I was an Empath they made more sense) and, as I was not prepared to talk to anyone about it, I had to find a way to offload. I did this by journaling.

I came across journaling, quite by chance during a quest to improve my writing skills. In her book, Writing down the Bones, Natalie Goldberg explained: to hone one’s writing ability one should write every day. The idea was just to put pen to paper and see what came out. This is exactly what I did… Continue reading

At A Glance: 30 Traits of an Empath

By Diane Kathrine

1.     Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It’s a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.

2.     Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums, where there are lots of people around, can fill the Empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.

 3.     Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for Empaths. To some, they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept Empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from a great distance.

 4.     Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an Empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.

 5.     You know when someone is not being honestIf a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many Empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.

 6.     Picking up physical symptoms off another: An Empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains), especially those who they’re closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.

 7.     Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the centre of the abdomen and it’s known as the seat of emotions. This is where Empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an Empath, will almost always be ungrounded.

 8.     Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an Empath’s attention and compassion.

 9.     Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An Empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own.

 10.    Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.

 11.    Addictive personalityAlcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions Empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It can be a form of self-protection in order to hide from someone or something (external emotions).

12.    Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many Empaths would love to heal others, they can end up turning away from healing (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to Empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily.

 13.   Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an Empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.

 14.    Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for Empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.

 15.    Need for solitude: An Empath will go stir-crazy if they don’t get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.

 16.    Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an Empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.

 17.   Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an Empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It’s for this reason many  Empaths get labelled as being lazy.

 18.   Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an Empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.

 19.   Always looking for answers and knowledgeTo have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an Empath and they will endeavour to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.

 20.  Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.

 21.  Abhors clutterIt makes an Empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.

 22.  Loves to daydream: An Empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.

 23.  Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an Empath even poisoning.

 24.  Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight, especially around the belly area, is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.

 25.  Excellent listener: An Empath won’t talk about themselves much unless it’s to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.

 26.  Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, Empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider anyone’s feelings or points of view, other than their own.

 27.   The ability to feel the days of the week: An Empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective are feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.

 28.   Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-handAnything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An Empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

 29.   Sense the energy of food: Many Empaths don’t like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.

 30.   Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnectedDepending on how an Empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An Empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they’re sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it’s service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.

 

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If you are new to discovering you are an Empath be sure to check out: Grounding Techniques for Empaths and Sensitives and Stop Empath Overwhelm Instantly 

For a more in-depth look at 30 Traits of an Empath‘ and to discover what type of Empath you are.

There are many tried and tested techniques on this page that will help you better deal with your gift. Also, check out these 12 quick questions, you may also find the following posts helpful:

Transform Your Life!

Why Empaths Freeze around Inauthentic People

It’s Time to Let go of Toxic People

Supplements to Heal the Empath

An Empath’s Life Guide

This above list has been compiled as a guide to help the unknowing Empath recognize his/her gift.

Empaths may carry many of the same traits but not all of them. One Empath may be able to eat meat whilst another may love being around antiques… we are all different.  Some can override or block certain traits and some traits will come and go over the years (strengthen or weaken) as life circumstances change.

Hope this helps you on your path.

Diane

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Being an Empath

Today, I decided I was going to create a page about life as an Empath. It wasn’t until I sat down and started to write about an Empath’s traits that I remembered downloading an article on the subject in May, last year. I’m not even sure if, back then, I looked at it, but when I read it earlier I felt as though it could have been written specifically for me. It then crossed my mind that there must be hundreds of thousands of people struggling with the same condition (some may call it a gift but until you recognize how it affects you mentally and physically it can be a detrimental condition), unaware that the bewildering, emotional ups and downs they deal with on a daily basis are, mostly, not their own.

If you didn’t know already an Empath is someone who is hyper-sensitive to many things, but mainly emotions of others. They can pick up the feelings of another and take it on as their own.

An Empath can be feeling perfectly happy and relaxed one minute, then enter a public place and within seconds get feelings of: anger, sadness or anxiety wash over them that are coming from others. If unaware that they are empathic, they may believe the cause to be a phobia of public places, a dislike of shopping, or even people.

Many Empaths become reclusive because it’s easier to stay away from the stimuli than to deal with the bombardment of negative emotions they get when in public.

My being an Empath is not something I tend to share with others. In the past I’ve tried telling close friends but just ended up feeling frustrated with their inability to grasp the concept. When one has not experienced something first hand we don’t tend to understand it and as Empaths are not generally subject to discussion in common society, we are probably seen as being neurotic or out there instead of gifted, although it certainly won’t feel like a gift to many. Another reason I don’t tend to tell others of my abilities is because I don’t want them feeling uncomfortable around me. I’m sure they wouldn’t want to know that I can tell if they’re lying or know when what they’re saying was not what they were truly feeling or thinking.

Everyone who is an Empath will have different empathic abilities. The two most common being: Picking up on others emotions and feeling the energy of places. For example: you may walk into a crowded room and sense a heavy tension, even though everyone was smiling. Or on entering a friend’s new house (which was old, but new to them) you feel a negative vibe, as if something bad has happened there. What we are picking up on is residual energy. If the house was filled with arguments and angst the energy stays there. Likewise, when walking into a house that has been filled with happiness and love, to an Empath it can feel like the Sun is shining indoors.

I was once a bit of a Facebook addict, however, this is a site that causes me much discomfort, emotionally. Especially reading a post by a person who is declaring their happiness and stating how wonderful life is, when you know it’s quite the opposite for them. We can pick up on all the energies of the people connected to us on Facebook and it can be most overwhelming. I’m never quite sure why I keep going back… but then Empaths are prone to addiction (more about that in later posts).

The more in tune you become as an Empath the more you see the world for what it is. Reading newspapers becomes a challenge, especially the ones packed with lies, gossip and no real news. The TV can become unbearable, in particular any kind of programmes with violence or cruelty. Even watching reality-singing-shows will sadden you. Seeing them quash the dreams of young hopefuls (whose main ambition in life is to feel special) and humiliate them in the name of entertainment and money. I’m amazed how many people love watching the early stages of the shows, when many of the contestants are ridiculed by the judges for their lack of talent (even though they’ve already been through two prior auditions before they get to see the celebrity judges, unaware that they are only through for the comedy element), only to stop watching when it becomes about the real talent. To me, the early stages of the shows turn the audience (at home and in the studio) from individuals into a crowd with mob mentality, laughing and jeering at those whose only crime was a belief they had the talent to make it in the world of showbiz. Reminds me of days people were put in the stocks to be scoffed at.

So there we go, my first post on life as an Empath with many more to come.

Till next time…