When People Become Trauma Triggers for the Empath

Trauma Triggers EmpathIf you have someone in your life who acts as a trauma trigger they will no doubt have already sprung to mind upon reading the title of this post.

Those who act as a trauma trigger cause a response at the mere mention of their name, and can have the Empath awash with a torrent of painful emotions, just by thinking about them.

For the Empath, feeling other people’s energy and emotions is normal, both negative and positive. Some people emit lovely, light vibrations and are a joy to be around, but there are some who live under a cloud of negative energy and are riddled with angsts that they seem to feed on. These ‘trigger’ people tend to spew out dark, angry energy  and refuse to accept or change their behaviour, even if it has been pointed out to them how their ways affect others. They tend to find fault in everyone (except themselves) and choose not to see the good in those around them. Continue reading

10 Ways Empaths can Protect Themselves from Other People’s Energy

For the Empath, being out in public can be a traumatizing time that can leave one feeling floored and out of sorts. Simply nipping to the shops can mean we end up wearing someone else’s energy for the rest of the day; which isn’t such a bad thing if the energy is positive and highly charged. However, more often than not, it is the not-so-nice energy that clings to us and follows us home.

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I have found that the best way to protect myself when out in public is by taking preëmptive measures as well as having a few tactics to pull out of the bag when needed. I am sharing here with you some that I have found to be the most effective:

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Is This a Cure for Social Anxiety and Introversion?

It has been a while since my last blog post, to say the least. I hadn’t realized just how long, until I glanced at the date of my last post… Eeeek! Time really is whizzing by!

I apologise for the lack of updates. It is not because I have lost interest in my little blog, far from it, I have missed my time away from the keyboard and writing about my passions of self-development for the Empath. The reason I have been away for so long is because my life has seen many changes this past year (all positive), which has meant I have had little time to spend on Just Be. But as I have now found myself with a free period, I wanted to come here and share with you information I recently came across about a condition that could be causing some of you unnecessary social anxiety and excessive introversion.

Like many of you out there, I consider myself to be an introvert and an Empath, with food and environmental sensitivities…which basically means, in this world, it is a constant battle to stay in balance. There are seemingly never ending hurdles to overcome when it comes to my/our wellbeing.

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Rules of Life for The Empath

When we are in the midst of some trying times which can affect our attitude and mind-set in a negative way.

Our attitude reflects in all areas of our life. We draw to ourselves anything on the same level of our vibration. When our moods are low it is difficult to stay in a positive head-space. Our thoughts darken and it is easy to become entangled in low-level thinking. When we become embroiled in a stream of dark repetitive thoughts we start to draw more situations that match this frequency, which only serves in keeping us stuck in a dark mind-set.

If anyone can manifest more of their thoughts, opinions and ways it is the Empaths. For this reason, it is a good idea to reprogram our way of thinking and approach towards life. We draw back to us what we send out. If we get pushed into a low-level viewpoint, by picking up the negative opinions of others, overtime it will alter our attitudes and outlook on life.

We attract into our life who and what we are. To draw more magnificence, we need adopt a more magnificent outlook on life. The following are 50 ways of being to adopt into your life which will allow you to see positive changes.

1. Let Go of Expectations

Our expectations can cause us untold pain and frustration. When we let them go,  it will free us from disappointment.

2. Learn to Accept

We cannot and should not control everything in life. Acceptance of self, others and life situations is essential if we want to live a happy, healthy life.

3. Release Dependency on Others

When we depend on another to make us feel happy or to give our life meaning, we miss out on our own unique journey.

4. Control your Thoughts

Most of our stress is born, not from our life situations but the way we think about them. Choose your thoughts wisely.

5. Judge Not

Judging another will only serve in making you fearful of others judgements towards you; which in turn will make you afraid of doing, saying or being your true-self.

6. Stop Procrastinating

Don’t put off today what you can do tomorrow. Time goes by too quickly. Don’t waste life thinking about what you could be doing and just do it.

7. Be at Peace with Criticism

Trying to go through life avoiding criticism will only stop you from doing what you are meant to do and becoming who you are meant to be.

8. Change not Another nor let Another Change You

Allow yourself or others to be who they truly are. Trying to mould another into being the person you want them to be, or changing oneself to please another takes away life’s opportunities.

9. Don’t Take it Personally

If another judges, criticises or treats you badly, it is not a reflection on you but on them.

10. Stay Unique

With everyone trying to fit in originality is rare. Give yourself the gift of being a one-off original.

11. Never Give Up

Good things aren’t meant to arrive overnight and we have little appreciation of that which comes easy. If you want something and believe in it keep striving towards it, no matter what your age.

12. Leave the Crowd Behind

We are each here to enjoy our own exclusive life experience; following the crowd stops you from having it.

13. Collect Experiences not Treasures

The only thing we get to take with us when we leave this body is our knowledge and experience. Our possessions stay behind.

14. Abandon the Fear of Failure

A failure is simply a learning experience to teach us how not to do something in the future. When we learn something, through failure, it is a valuable gift that only we can give ourselves.

15. Believe in Yourself

Believe in what you want to do, not what family or society expects you to do. If you don’t believe in yourself, no one else will.

16. Embrace Success

Have confidence in the fact you are successful and you always will be!

17. Love What You Do and Do What You love

When you are happy in your work, success will follow.

18. Don’t Place Your Worth on Your Appearance

Youthful looks will fade in time but the beauty within continues to grow. Embrace who you are and not how you look.

19. Take Responsibility For Your Actions

Live life believing karma exists.

20. Create The Change You Want To See

Don’t wait for someone else to do it first. Be the answer you’ve been waiting for.

21. Treat Everyone as an Equal

No one is better than another, no matter what their wealth or status. Believing we are better or lesser than another leads to grandiosity or lack of self-worth.

22. Listen to Others

Most are not listening, they are simply waiting for their chance to speak. When we allow ourselves to really hear what others are saying, we expand our own consciousness.

23. Take Not Revenge

It is not up to us to punish others for what we consider bad behaviour. When we treat others badly, or push them away, to teach them a lesson, it will always backfire!

24. Remember You Have Freewill

It is your life, you do not have to do anything you do not want or choose.

25. Allow Yourself to Give and Receive Love

Opening your heart is not a sign of weakness, it’s a show of strength.

26. Let Go of Pain

We wouldn’t hold on to a burning coal, so why allow painful emotions to burn within our body.

27. Don’t Allow Rules to Stifle Creativity

Rules should be seen as guidelines, be a rebel and break a few.

28. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Daily

If you want to see life changes do something each day that makes you uncomfortable.

29. Stop Waiting for Another to Complete You

The only person who can make you complete is you.

30. Learn to Be on Your Own

Learning to like one’s own company makes the journey of life into an extraordinary expedition.

31. Love Yourself

If you don’t like yourself, you won’t respect yourself and if you don’t respect yourself, no one else will!

32. Keep Your Self-Talk Positive

It is the key to a happy, productive life.

33. Eat What Nature Intended

Genetically modified and chemically laden foods have no right being inside the human body. For lasting health and happiness keep your diet clean.

34. Nurture Body Mind and Spirit

They are connected and only when all three are balanced can we find harmony in life.

35. Free Your Voice and Learn to Say No

If others do not want to respect your right to choose, that is their problem. No matter what you do, you will never please others most of the time, so you may as well please yourself all of the time.

36. Remember Your Friends

One of the biggest regret of those on their deathbed is losing touch with old friends. You cannot make new ‘old friends’. You will rarely make friends like the ones who have been in your life for the long hall, don’t forget them.

37. Free Yourself from Childhood Issues

The child in you lived and got through those difficult times; don’t let the adult now be punished by them.

38. Let Go of Resentment

Why let another’s actions blight your life? Being filled with resentment towards others makes you bitter. Let it go.

39. Control Anger

Our anger only serves in punishing us, not the ones we are angry with.

40. Help Others to Help Themselves

Instead of telling others how to do it, show them by example.

41. Lose The Need to be Right

Wanting to be right, just makes others wrong. Value others opinions.

42. Question Everything

Don’t believe everything you read, hear or see. If it doesn’t feel right, chances are it isn’t.

43. Give Without Expect of Return

Doing nice things for others without expecting anything back, sets the spirit soaring.

44. Stop Throwing Pity Parties

Talk and think like a victim and be a victim.

45. Strive for Many Life Experiences

Keep your life energised with new experiences every day.

46. Why Wait? Go and Get It

If you want something, find a way to get it. Don’t die with your dreams still inside. Step out there and create them.

47. Respect the Elderly

We will all be old one day.

48. Find Your Passions

How will you know what they are if you don’t seek them out?

49. Select Acquaintances Wisely

You become who you spend most time around.

50. Choose Happiness

We have a choice how to feel. For a joyful  life make the decision to feel happy each and everyday!

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©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

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Navigating Psychic Attack for The Empath

There are many forms of psychic attack, the one I’m making reference to here is the negatively charged energetic vibrations sent from one person to another through dark thought forms.

It can be tricky to discern between the emotions our own thoughts have created, by pondering a painful subject from the past, and that when we are under psychic attack.

Most people would not feel the dark thoughts others have about them. However, this is not the case for those of a Sensitive nature. If another is having reoccurring bad thoughts towards the Empath, it turns into a full-blown psychic attack.

The times we are in are creating many imbalances within humans, mentally and physically, and it is those of us who are Sensitive getting the backlash.

Who will it be coming from? Generally, a psychic attack will come from family members, not necessarily blood related, friends who are close or once used to be, or work colleagues.

How can you tell when being attacked? When under psychic attack the telltale signs are repeating negative thought patterns surrounding one person. For example: a certain friend (the one thinking and thus sending bad thoughts) will keep popping in your mind along with negatively charged feelings, throughout the course of the day or days. You may wake up thinking angry thoughts towards this person, when you have had no recent contact with them or reason to be feeling angry with them. However, one will always manage to link the negatively charged feelings to an unhappy past situation and therefore falsely believe one is responsible for creating the angry thoughts.

When under attack, the one thinking/sending the dark thoughts does not necessarily know that you are on the receiving end of their menacing musings. The most likely explanation is that the said person is going through a difficult time in life and is filled with turbulently vexed emotions. Instead of taking responsibility and finding the true cause for their troubles, they lash out and project blame onto others for their unhappiness, through their thoughts. (You will probably not be the only one the thoughts are directed at, but you will probably be the only one feeling them.)

What should you do when you sense a psychic attack? You have to nip it in the bud straight away and this means not indulging in any of the dark thoughts or emotions you are experiencing, which has to be said, is not easy to do. By engaging the thoughts you then become part of the problem.

The Empath has the power to project angry thoughts back to the source without even realising it and in doing so, can unintentionally open a two-way psychic battleground with angry thoughts flying back and forth. It can go on for days and in these cases, the Empath will always come off worse.

More than any other, Empaths have to be cautious of what they project out into the world in the way of gloomy, angry or irrational thought forms. What goes out, will have the tendency to come back amplified. (The positive flip side to this is the return of projecting positive, happy, love-filled thoughts out into the world).

You may have noticed that your moods can be projected onto others. If feeling happy you can lift others up and if feeling sad, you can see it wash over others. Even your tiredness or stumbling over words can be projected onto another. So yes, Empaths take on negative, energetic vibrations from others, but they can also powerfully, project them back out.

How do we stop ourselves engaging in dark thoughts? The easiest way is to do this is distract yourself the moment you notice dark thought forms repeatedly going back to the same person. You may have already discovered your own way to do this but making noise in your head can really help: singing, humming, chanting etc. Just like plugging in your ears and singing loudly blocks out external sounds, I’ve found this helps with outside thoughts too.

How can we protect ourselves from psychic attack? Build up a strong energy-field (aura or energetic body). Being weak, physically or mentally, will automatically weaken your energy-field. Our energy-field is our ‘invisible’ shield which helps to protect us from outside ‘invisible’ influences, such as negative thoughts and emotions.

Suppressed emotions, poor diet, lack of exercise, a busy head, illness and emotional pain can all contribute to weakening our energetic body. If you suspect you have been on the receiving end of psychic attack it may be a good time to reevaluate your lifestyle. By strengthening the body and mind will in turn strengthen our energy-field and thus help ward off psychic attack.

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AN EMPATH’S GUIDE TO LIVING IN THE WORLD

 Living in this heavily populated world, Empaths are faced with many energetic challenges. If it is not having others dump their negative energies on them, they are being drained of their vital energy. Simply being out in public places can be enough to suck their life-force dry, or just by being in the presence of a certain family member can be the reason behind a weeks worth of energy and emotional clearing.

Learning to set energetic boundaries is, of course, a given for those of a Sensitive nature and for many Empaths they are hardwired into automatically doing this. However, sometimes life just gets in the way and we may need gentle reminders as to what we could be doing to protect ourselves and thus make life more enjoyable. Then there are the newly learned Empaths, who have only just discovered of their birthright and are in search of as much information as they can get feast their eyes upon, to help them deal with the rigours of life.

To Block or Not to Block That is The Question.

For Empaths wanting to block out all external emotions and energies would no doubt be a priority. However, it is not always that cut and dry. For one thing, she might have already tried every energy-blocking technique known to man, without any success. And then there is the question of why is it Empaths feel and take on what they do, emotionally, is it not for a purpose? In taking on these negative energies are they not helping rid the world of them? The answer to that question is debatable and it may well be that there is no answer, or can only be answered by opinions. However, Empaths need to learn how to protect themselves from wayward energies so that they can continue to function in everyday life.

Out and About

If you are one who finds being in public areas, such as shopping malls and cinemas, unbearable, to the point of avoiding them at all costs, there are some techniques you could try that may help when you venture into people-packed-places.

When an Empath is alone in people-congested areas, they can soak up the any negatively charged energies no sooner than having stepped over the building’s threshold. Being with another person (of whom you are energetically compatible) will act as a buffer and help diffuse the energies and lessen the incoming impact. It will also serve as a pleasant distraction and take your mind off what you are feeling. Chances are, after the shopping trip or outing, you may still feel drained but your experience will have been a much more pleasant one.

If taking a friend or family member is not possible, finding a grounding technique that works for you and using it before going out is essential. Below are some you could try:

Power Poses

A power pose is generally anything that fully opens the body and can be as simple as opening up one’s arms wide (so your body is in the shape of a cross) and taking long slow breaths through the nose. Holding a gentle smile is further empowering.

If you are familiar with yoga, a Starfish pose (standing with wide legs and arms) is ideal, as is a Warrior pose with open arms. Holding the power pose for a couple of minutes prior to leaving home or entering an energy-hostile environment will serve in uplifting and expanding one’s energy field. This is opposed to how an Empath would normally go out into the world, wanting to be small and invisible.

Grounding Visualisations

These can be anything from visualising roots coming from your feet grounding you to the earth to mentally building a halo of white light around your body and expanding it with your breath. Take a couple of minutes to quieten the mind before attempting.

Affirmations

Positive mini-declarations repeated in the mind can serve in being uplifting, empowering and protective. Statements such as: I can do it, I will do it, can instantly and positively change your mindset and thus make one better equipped to handle incoming energies. Find one that works for you, suitable for the time and place.

Music Therapy

Taking your music and earphones can be a huge help when out and about. Listening to music you love creates an inner-expansion, uplifts and creates a ‘bliss bubble’ around you. It can enable you to glide through public-places seemingly unaffected. However, it is best to get into the ‘music zone’ before entering a peopled place.

Breath-work

Please see this post for  various breathing techniques.

There are many other grounding and mind quietening methods available, such as meditation, that require a committed, daily practise to reap the full benefits.  The above methods are what can be done in a hurry or simply when one is feeling out of sorts. You may need to play around with different techniques to find that which works for you. For example, there is no point visualising yourself engulfed in a halo of white light if you do not believe it really works.

Bedtime

If you are one who doesn’t like sleep-snuggling or having to sleep close to your partner in bed, no matter how much you love them, you are not alone. Having sleeping-space is essential for the Empath.  Most Empaths will loathe having anyone get in their ‘energy-space’, day or night, but as sleep-time is crucial for recharging, it is even more important that they are allowed it.

If you share a bed, and it is not possible for you to have your own bedroom, opt for the largest size bed available, if space permits.

If you still struggle sleeping near your partner or wake-up feeling drained, use one of the above grounding techniques and adapt them to bedtime mode.

Eating

Know your food and how it affects you. Listen to what your body is telling you as to what is and isn’t right for you. If, for example, you have a nagging feeling that dairy is causing you to have an allergic reaction, you could try the 30 day exclusion challenge, to see if it is. This involves abstaining from all dairy (or whatever you suspect does not agree with you, be it wheat, sugar, alcohol or meat) for 30 days. Then, after that time, gradually introduce it back into your diet. If you have a big reaction to it, you know that you are intolerant, allergic or energetically incompatible and probably best removing it from your diet.

Over a period of about 15 years, I’ve tried many eating and exercise plans. I have tried and trained in many holistic therapies and healing, and researched the benefits of nutrients. I always believed that the answers to my healing lay in the metaphysical, and if I made myself more ‘spiritual’ I would find life easier… I hadn’t taken into consideration that it didn’t matter how many hours I sat in meditation or doing yoga or how many spiritual texts I read, if I was putting poison into my physical body, no amount of meditation or spiritual awareness was going to balance me. Of everything I have tried over the years, holistically, spiritually and energetically, the most profound changes happened to me when I changed my diet!

I have written about benefits of changing the diet before (and will no doubt again), but as I consider it to be one of the best things we can do to aid physical healing and spiritual growth, especially for Sensitives, I will keep spreading the word. We may all be very different, with different spiritual, nutritional and physical requirements, but none of us will benefit from taking drugs or eating drug-like food…

Empaths will react more to drug-like foods than those not of a sensitive nature, because we tend to be highly reactive. High reactive people will taste the bitterness in lemons more than others, feel emotional and physical pain more, go red in the face easier and be affected by drugs and alcohol worse than those who are not highly reactive.

High reactives are very responsive to different vibrations of energy. Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies and that includes food, drugs or alcohol: the faster the vibration, the higher the frequency. Empaths can be negatively affected by anything of a low vibration. Most drugs and alcohol have a low vibrational energy and will bring the Empath down fast.

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It is also wise to take note how your food is prepared. Food prepared in an angry or unhappy environment will carry that energy and thus show up within you. Most Empaths will benefit from having mainly homemade food, so they know exactly what energy goes into their meals.

Socialising and Stimulants

Unfortunately, any kind of stimulant (alcohol, drugs, etc) will only serve in weakening the Empath (as they do any other human). Under the influence, it may feel like external energies are being blocked out but unfortunately this is not the case. They still seep in and still need to be dealt with.

When in company, other people’s emotions may show up in the Empath as aggression or an overly dominant ego on the evening of consumption or as a physical and emotional hangover from hell the day after.

If you don’t like the idea of giving up your favourite tipple or social life, try using grounding techniques prior to an evening out and drink lots of water throughout the evening, it has a cleansing effect. Also keeping your body in a more alkaline state will help keep you balanced and stop alcohol doing as much damage.

Friends 

The longer the Empath has known a friend, the more impact the friend can have on their energy. And, as you would imagine, this could be either a good or bad thing, depending on the relationship. Knowing how to navigate your friendships can serve in offering healthier and happier relationships.

Have you noticed that friends may act differently depending on who they are with? For example: you may have two very good friends whom when you spend one-to-one time alone, there is no ill effect. However, put those two friends together and the energy dynamic shifts in such a way that one can feel drained, angered or even bullied in their collective presence. If this has been a friendship, or even family, experience of yours it may be advisable to see certain friends on a one-to-one basis only.

Friends’ energy and how it affects those of a Sensitive nature will change along with their age and life circumstances. If down or depressed, a friend can unintentionally take the Empath down with them. In theses cases one has to learn to emotionally unplug. One can still listen and be there, but in a detached way.

Also, be very wary of an unwanted energy drain. We all know people who drain energy, otherwise known as the ‘Energy Vampires’, but when a friend, who isn’t normally a drainer, is experiencing a tough time their energy-sucking tentacles may seek out an instant uplift, from anywhere they can get it. To avoid being a friend’s ‘energy-replacement-meal’, watch for any drain and where it is coming from. It will normally be from one of four of the main energy centres (chakras): sacral (below belly), solar plexus (mid belly), heart (heart area) or throat (front of throat) and it can be felt by a pull or ache in that area. Wherever you feel it, cover that area immediately with your hands or arms. It is not by chance that we cross our arms over our stomach or chest in social situations; we are subconsciously stopping an energy-drain.

Empaths tend to be very faithful to their friends and keep them in their life for the long-haul. For this reason, it is a good idea to choose friends wisely.

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Work 

For the Empath finding their calling or vocation can be a challenge of epic proportions. As living a lie through having to pretend they like doing a job which they don’t, or sell a product they do not believe in, is nothing short of torture for them. Also, as eighty percent of the workforce do not enjoy their job, this is not conducive to an energy-efficient or happy working environment (another obstacle for the Empath).

If we listen, our Internal Guidance System will continuously present us with vocational options, perhaps as interests or passions. If searching for your dream job, or just a new direction in life, here are some questions that may ignite the answer:

What are your passions?

What do you love to do?

What do you believe in?

What would you wake up excited to do each day?

What can you not live without doing?

What engages you?

What interest keeps coming back to you?

If you could change the world for the better, how would you do it?

Roadblocks

Roadblocks are what stop you going down your desired or chosen route in life. They can be seen through sickness, redundancy, depression, loss of money and social status or non-starting projects. They can unexpectedly pop up out of nowhere, take you off your current journey and bring your life to a standstill or send you off in a new direction.

When encountering roadblocks it may seem like they are purely an unfair punishment, but this comes down to our perspective of them. They are normally presented as a detour and a way to make changes to our life’s journey when we are refusing to listen to our Internal Guidance Systems. This detour may involve a long and winding scenic-route, which also happens to be an uncomfortable, seemingly never-ending, bumpy road. But again, this is down to our perspective. We have a choice: we can get wrapped up in the inconvenience and discomfort of the long ‘scenic-route’, focusing only on that, or we can concentrate on the ever-changing landscape as it passes and be grateful for being given a chance to slow down.

We can get so caught up in arriving at our destination that we miss most of the journey.

Everything presented to us in life is a gift and is something we can learn from, good or bad, if only we allow ourselves to see it.

Exercise

Exercise is essential to an Empath’s wellbeing. It works not only the physical but energetic bodies and can help clear stagnant or negative energy. Sadly, we live in a society that promotes a ‘no-pain-no-gain’ philosophy towards exercise and a focus on sculpting the muscles rather than healing the body and mind. Exercise should be fun and liberating, not torturous or painful (unless you enjoy that ).

There are so many ways to exercise and it doesn’t have to be costly or complicated. It can be as simple as turning on some funky music and shaking your hips around the kitchen. Dancing when no one is watching is unbelievably uplifting and you get to make your own moves with the beat of the music.

Running or walking in nature, freestyle dance, where there are no rules, or one of the many forms of yoga, are probably some of the best forms of exercise for the Empath. These can be done alone and at home, and there is no need for a gym membership. Swimming in the sea or a lake would also be great, if you’re fortunate enough to have one nearby.

A gym-class is not always the best environment for an Empath, especially if it has a very ego-driven or body-conscious atmosphere and adorned by lots of mirrors. There are some who can pick up negative energies from mirrors. If there have been many insecure, or body conscious, people gazing into gym-mirrors, an Empath may feel that residual energy (this can also be the case in clothes stores) and take it on as their own.

Relationships 

For the Empath, relationships can prove to be a complicated area of life, but also very rewarding when one has found a compatible mate (who very likely won’t be an Empath).

Empaths can be greatly misunderstood and seem aloof and disconnected to a new or prospective partner and it may take a while for their detachment and need for time alone, to be not taken personally by their partner.

When one is romantically connected to another, it can make the energetic connection complicated. Reading someone, who holds no emotional ties, normally comes quite easily for the Empath. However, when there is a strong emotional bind it can distort one’s ability to read energies clearly. This can lead to confusion and frustration, especially in the early building, days of a relationship and even further down the road. Not everyone is as inclined to be as honest as an Empath; especially if they have grown-up or worked in an environment that lying is ‘quietly’ seen as acceptable (it is surprising how often this is the case). This is a huge bugbear for the Empath because they can feel the energy of a lie, but not always what the lie is. In some cases ,this can lead to paranoia which in turn leads to ungrounded accusations and arguments.

A whole book  could be dedicated to the relationship highs and lows of an Empath and how to handle each and every situation (see The Empath Awakening for more on Empath relationships). But in brief, it’s safe to say that the best way to be in any relationship is honest (unless the truth will cause unnecessary pain) and never be afraid to show your True-Self.

It’s always good to remember that every relationship no matter how brief can offer a valuable lesson. Even toxic relationships, which are filled with strife and arguments, can show us areas of our life that need to be worked on or improved.

Comfort Zone 

Allowing yourself to step out of your comfort zone, on a daily basis, allows for growth in all areas of your life.  It enables you to face your fears and in facing them it gives you a greater capacity to deal with negative emotions. When we stay comfortable, we stay small and don’t expand. As the saying goes: 

‘If it doesn’t challenge you it doesn’t change you!’  

                                                                          – Fred Devito

We can step out of our comfort zone by going further than we would like during exercise, by making a phone-call we’ve been putting off for months, telling someone you love them or anything that makes you squirm or feel uncomfortable at the thought of doing. 

Getting Out of Your Head

Thoughts can be destructive to our health and wellbeing, especially when they are negative and repetitive. Empaths tend to spend a lot of time in their heads, which is great when thoughts are creative, happy or enlightening. However, spend too much time around certain people or places and the happy thoughts can quickly turn into painful memories, anger or thoughts of being wronged or unfairly treated by another.

You may not even realise that these irrational thoughts, that are on a perpetual time-loop, have been ignited by being around certain others, as they don’t always kick in till a day or two after exposure.

So, how do we stop them? It’s not easy but it can be done. The best techniques to try involve externalising one’s awareness or distracting the mind.

Externalising Awareness

One of the best ways to get out of the head is to focus your awareness outside of yourself, using a meditative technique called mindfulness. This can be done almost anywhere and involves focusing on something outside of your mind. You could gaze at a flickering candle or pay close attention to your scenery as you pass it by (obviously not to be done whilst driving ;)). If you like walking in nature look up at the trees and notice all you can about the bark, branches and leaves, see the different cloud formations in the sky or inspect the wild flowers growing within the foliage.

Thought Distraction

When your thoughts are in negative-overdrive doing activities which allow you to indulge them is not advisable. You really need to be distracted and this normally involves stepping out of your comfort zone. The easiest way to do this is through exercise. If you practise yoga do a pose you find challenging or which requires stamina or concentration, such as the Plank, Warrior, Tree or Crow (the Asthanga yoga sequence is great because you have to focus on sequence, breath and bandhas).  If you like to run, swim or cycle try doing it in intervals: power up for 30 seconds to a minute, slow it down for 30 seconds to a minute. If you like to dance or do aerobics do a routine which you have to memorize, this is great at keeping the mind distracted. Put on an exercise DVD or check out YouTube for exercise routines that will challenge you without being injurious. 

Summary 

As we are all here on our own journey with learning experiences unique to us, not all the tips and advice offered here will be helpful to everyone, but you will never know until you try them for yourself. 

As an Empath, you may have come into life purely to gain experience of feeling others emotions. And because of this, it is important to remember that just because one Sensitive seems to have learnt how to deal with the external energies and you haven’t, even after trying every technique in the book and attending every self-help seminar, doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong or even being punished. It may simply mean you have not yet achieved a certain lesson from a certain experience. It could also be that you are capable of enduring more hardships in life and your mountains are higher and harder to climb than most and in turn you will be learning more.

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The Awakening of Others

As I mentioned in my last post, many of you will be seeing others around you who are starting to break from the pressures of the current energies. You will see this in severe depression, anger and even nervous breakdowns. Men seem to be suffering quite badly with this. For one: it is because of the strong influx of feminine energy, pounding the planet, which, for most, they don’t know how to navigate and because they don’t tend to have the same emotional releases women have (for all the female Empaths living with awakening males, you can expect to be seeing/feeling this in a big way. You will be part of their wake-up trigger and will need to be extra vigilante not to take on their negative releases, nor take them personally and be as supportive as is possible).

In many, there is an internal battle going on between the ego and the authentic, true-self. As humans we are ready to evolve, yet the ego knows with evolvement comes its own demise, so it is in survival mode. It doesn’t’ help that our external environment is designed to feed and stimulate the ego into wanting more of everything, in the shape of money, power, fame, success, fashion and beauty, with the premise that when we attain them, our happiness will be fulfilled and we will be worthy. We all eventually become aware, that this never happens. The true-self is happy with having just enough, the ego always wants more and is never satisfied. Thing is, most people aren’t even aware that it is their ego which is running the show and doing all the talking; they believe it’s their own heartfelt desires guiding them.

There are many people who are too afraid to hear the truth of what is really going on in the world. They read the paper or watch the news and take what’s been said as gospel and without question. There is an attachment, so strong, to their false impression of life that it is like an addiction and it needs to be fed on a daily basis. But somewhere, deep within, they know the truth and are keeping it hidden because they also know that when they listen to that truth, their illusions will be shattered and this may lead to the start of a painful journey.

Awakening and evolving is a destructive process and, on a soul level, one has to be completely ready for it. There will be some who, in this life, won’t choose it. I don’t believe Empaths had much choice when it came to ‘The Awakening’. We all had the internal alarms set, which when they went off, normally came in the shape of a nagging feeling that something was amiss with us and the world. This then heralded our quest to seek out answers and from there our adventures unfolded.

So, what advice do we have for those around us who we can see are in the first throes of self-realization and turmoil? It is too easy to want to reveal all that we have learnt, and know, in one big dollop, because we want to help others, but this may only serve in closing them down (too much too soon). As most are so completely shut off to anything that seems a little ‘woo-woo’ or out there, information has to be spoon-fed and given in small increments. If you have been on this path for a while, think back to what or who helped you in the early days: was it a book, a video, yoga or meditation? Much of which aided us back then, we have long since moved on from, but it may be just what the newly awakened need. Perhaps try to explain that humanity is ready to evolve, but resistance to it is the cause of much internal conflict and pain.

What we, as Empaths, have to be careful of in our quest to help and serve, is becoming a toxic-dumping-ground for others. People come to Empaths because they listen and really hear what they have to say and, as this is quite rare in today’s society, it can become like a drug to those who want to be heard or who love to talk about themselves (this is one of the main reasons many Empaths close themselves off and make it so they are invisible to others). Here is where we have to serve our needs first and say no to those wanting to offload. I’m not saying don’t lend an ear to those in need, but if they keep coming with the same victim-mentality or me-me stories they are just taking from you and this helps no one. It’s all about helping others to help themselves in taking self-responsibility; one can do no more than that. However, if someone does not want to hear the advice you may offer, it is not your responsibility to keep trying to get them to hear you.

Empaths, whether they realize it or not, generally know who wants to listen and those who don’t by their internal feelings. When talking to one, who doesn’t want to hear you (this covers all topics), and even if they act or look interested in what you are saying, you will normally feel an internal compression, like your torso is being squeezed and you will have a reluctance to talk.  For example: you may be having a conversation with an acquaintance and when it’s your turn to talk, you may feel a wave of heaviness and boredom wash over you, this is coming from the other and it’s the signal that they don’t want to hear what you have to say. This isn’t because you are boring them, just that they want to get back to talking about their world, because, sadly, that’s all that some are really interested in.

Unfortunately, not everyone is ready to hear what you know or have learnt. Most of us gained our understandings in small stages, so the information has to be imparted in small digestible pieces. But only to those who are ready to hear and have made the first approach.

Many Empaths feel frustrated that they are not doing enough to assist others, especially when one can feel their pain. It is difficult to see those suffering and know the steps they could take to help themselves. But, as I’ve said in earlier posts, we are all doing more than we realize in transmuting the energies.  Remember, in just offering a bright, beaming smile or lending an ear, for a few minutes, to a stranger is a priceless gift to some and can be appreciated more than you know.

Clear Your Clutter Transform Your Life!

How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?

Have you kept old clothes believing they may come back in fashion one day, or in case you lose or gain weight?

Have you been given a gift that you didn’t really like, but kept it to avoid hurting another’s feelings?

I think it’s safe to say most of us could say yes to at least one of the above questions. But hoarding, even just a little bit, will soon see our homes overloaded with junk. Bad news for Empaths or those of a sensitive nature.

An overly cluttered house leads to an overly cluttered mind and energy field. Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is extremely draining to the body and mind. Even clutter that the eye cannot see, still has a debilitating effect on the psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling within. This can lead to the Empath feeling drained and lethargic!

If you have a crowded house (and I don’t mean with people) you may not realize how much it can deplete your energy, leading to feelings of sluggishness, apathy and an uninspired mind.

Empaths tend to have an inbuilt loathing of clutter, whether they are aware of their gift or not, and this is because they can feel it dragging them down, energetically. They will tend to opt for more of an uncomplicated decor, without too much fuss in the way of ornaments etc., for the simple reason that all objects hold energy. But over the years clutter can unintentionally build and we can find ourselves with all sorts of bric-a-brac, that were probably gifts, strewn around the house, which only serve in being draining.

Many years ago, before I was even aware of the term Empath, I read a book by Karen Kingston called: ‘Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui’ (unfortunately, I no longer have the book, and don’t have a photographic memory, so am unable to paraphrase), it really resonated with me and inspired me to have a full-on house detox. I hatched a plan to rid the home of all unwanted, unused and unhelpful items we had hoarded. My husband and I ploughed through the house, room by room, and cleared tonnes of stuff (slight exaggeration there but you will be surprised how much can be crammed into the smallest draw). I have a minimalistic decor-style and have never liked visual clutter, so everything that was removed came out of cupboards, draws and wardrobes. It was amazing how clean, fresh and liberated we both felt afterwards.

The first thing we all need to summon, when it comes to de-cluttering, is bravery. It may sound silly to suggest being brave when it comes to clearing the house, but in a way that’s exactly what we need. Fear will always rear its ugly head when making any changes in one’s life and when de-cluttering it will be there to tell you how much you need those unneeded items.

In the current economic climate it is an ideal environment for hoarding to thrive. We may hold onto possessions because we fear we won’t be able to replace them with something better or of equal value. You can probably look around any room in your house now and count at least 5 items that serve no purpose. Hoarding is born from the fear of lack and in clearing the clutter you are also facing, and in turn clearing, that fear.

To find out whether you really need something in your life simply ask this question: How will this item improve or make my life better? If you can’t come up with an answer (other than it won’t) it’s probably time to ditch or give it to charity.

When your home is full there is no room for anything new to come into your life. In making space, you are sending out a message that you are open to receive (but hopefully not more clutter).

Clearing the clutter doesn’t just have to be of your external environment, you can also have an internal-clutter-clearing session. Disposing of old beliefs, traits or thought patterns is both liberating and rejuvenating. Granted, they’re not as easy to be rid of as belongings, but probably ten times more beneficial.

A trait that will do you the world of good to eliminate is overly judgemental behaviour of self or others.

Being judgemental is so imprisoning and it causes untold harm to the bearer. It doesn’t have to be vindictive in nature to be damaging: it can be as simple as feeling another is more worthy than ourselves, thinking we are not good enough or believing our opinions are better than others.

Being judgemental catches us all unaware, but when we are conscious of it we are one step closer to removing it (for an Empath, if we are being judgemental, or indeed being judged, it can hold a heavy dark and anxious feeling/energy).

If you are in doubt of what you should or shouldn’t keep in your life, see the following questions:

Clutter Clearing Check List for the Internal and External:

  • Does this serve me today?
  • Will this serve me in the foreseeable future?
  • Can this serve anyone else?
  • Why am I holding onto this?
  • Will keeping/holding onto this make me happy?

A word of warning: you can guarantee that within days of having a clear-out your mind will play tricks on you, finding use for anything and everything you threw/gave away (even though you may not have worn/used it for five years, or previously forgotten of its existence). Just know that this is part of the de-cluttering process and it will pass.

Hope this post helps you on your path

Diane

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The Developing Traits of an Empath

In recent months I have noticed more of the comments are asking how one develops the traits of an Empath and I have given the subject much thought, not just recently but over the years, and it is my conclusion that an Empath just is. There isn’t really anything to develop. We came into this world ready to do our job of transmuting negative, dense and dark energies and our empathic abilities have developed on their own, over time as one matured and found his/her place in the world and of course one’s own birthright.

It goes without saying that the more experienced Empath will take on more than the inexperienced. Experience generally comes through the obstacles and hurdles met and overcome in life and this is the reason things tend to get more challenging for the Empath over the years, instead of easier: the more done the more expected.

There are some HSP’s (highly sensitive people) and Empaths born with strong clairvoyant, mediumistic, medically intuitive and other abilities. The above gifts can be developed, enhanced and worked on under the guidance of a good teacher and through various techniques. But for the hard-wired Empaths, who all have an intrinsic deep knowing, many have unwittingly, or even consciously, chosen not to develop other metaphysical (non physical) traits. This, I believe, is because they have already got enough to take on without having to attempt doing: healings, readings, regressions and the like. It would be too much as just being round others can be unbearable at times.

Empaths are constantly at work, whether they are aware of it or not, in the unseen realms mopping up negative energies wherever they go and then transmuting them into clean pure energy. And, as there seems to be a never ending supply of dense and dark energies, they are always on call. It is part of their life-path to help bring balance into this chaotic world and many are doing it without being conscious of it.

The job of an Empath is a thankless and, in most cases, unrecognised one. For, unlike other metaphysical jobs, the majority of others are not even aware that you are actually doing anything to help the world at large. What’s worse, Empaths may get labelled as being lazy or hypochondriacs because the dense energies they transmute can make them feel physically ill, especially when they are unaware of their gift, but it’s the type of illness a doctor cannot treat or cure.

Try explaining to anyone, who has their beliefs firmly rooted in the material world, about the existence and abilities of an Empath and they will think you have completely lost your marbles and this is why most just keep the knowledge of their gift strictly to themselves, which also makes it a lonely path to walk.

So, although the abilities of an Empath come as a package deal, there are still many other personal areas that can be developed, to keep one safe and sane whilst walking/working this ‘seemingly’ crazy planet. One such thing is being able to discern between energies/emotions coming from their external environment and that of their own. This can be a huge challenge for an Empath because they are still human, having a human experience and have to endure the same traumas, pains and heartaches that everyone else does. It is so very easy for them to take on another person’s pain and mistake it as their own. This is where discernment is needed.

It is relatively simple when entering a public place, such as a shopping mall, to recognize that one is taking on emotions off others, especially if you felt fine and dandy prior to the visit.  On entering it can feel like you’ve walked into a wall of dense energy (to me it feels like a rush of emotions. I compare it to the film: ‘Bruce Almighty’, when Bruce gets all of God’s abilities, and one of his jobs is to answer prayers. When he starts to hear the prayers he is bombarded with an onslaught of rushing voices in his head that are overpowering and unbearable, and to me this is what the energy of a shopping mall feels like, but without the voices in the head).

What is more difficult to discern is when one is in his/her home without anyone else around, and one starts experiencing an onslaught of negative emotions or even strange energies.  Falsely identifying with the emotions is all too easy and before you know it you can be wrapped up in an endless whirlwind of angry emotions and thoughts that keep you trapped all day. This sends your whole body out of whack and zaps you of vital energy.

So the question is, where are these emotions coming from? Pending on what you are going through in life, they may well be your own to work out and deal with, or they could be negative energies that you are in the process of transmuting. There is also the possibility that you are experiencing some kind of psychic attack. This generally happens when another is having bad thoughts about you and you are picking them up and feeling their intention. And, more often than not, it will be a close friend or family member having a bad day and using you as their mental punch-bag. To determine the energetic origin takes investigation: firstly, as soon as you feel the emotions/energies ask, ‘Are these emotions coming from me?’ If they don’t belong to you and are coming from another, they will normally lose their grip. When you feel this immediately distract yourself from them. If, however, you are in the process of transmuting some dense environmental energy (or indeed processing new energy), the emotions don’t tend to budge when you ask the question. If this is the case, vigorous exercise really helps:

I watched a programme recently about solar flares (coronal mass ejections) and how power plants protect themselves from being taken down by them. At the time a solar flare is expected to hit, the power station cranks up the electricity/power in the grid to full blast so that the energy from the flare gets diffused though the grid and basically, doesn’t fry the circuit. This reminded me of what happens when we do vigorous exercise: we crank up our feel good endorphins, which in turn raises our vibration so that when the external energies hit us, they get diffused into our energetic field and thus, aren’t as taxing on the physical. Even just 5 minutes working out to your max will reap huge benefits. For example walk for 1 minute then run for 1 minute as fast as you can.

As well as exercise to keep the body active, it is good to keep a quiet mind. I mentioned in my earlier post that various tried and tested techniques don’t seem to be working the same way they did for me, and one of those techniques is meditation to quieten the mind. I have found it near impossible to meditate and actually find it quite frustrating to even attempt it (that is not to say others will not find meditating hugely beneficial, we have to keep seeking, sifting and searching for what works for us individually and find new ways when the old no longer serve). If you too are struggling with meditation you may find pranayama (regulation of the breath through various techniques or exercises) or chanting works. It’s important to keep the mind quiet, because thoughts turn into emotions and vice-versa.

Our planet is in the midst of a huge shift and because of this we too have to adapt and evolve our own ways of being. I am constantly researching (one of my favourite pastimes), and trying out techniques, supplements etc, to see if they help in any which way, so I can then share my findings here. Hopefully, I’ll be back soon with anything I may have discovered.

Diane

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Modern Wheat and the Empath

I don’t k now about you but I have found these past several months to have been such a challenge, both mentally and physically, through the energies bombarding us. I never tend to fare well in the dark, winter months anyway so lately it’s a double whammy. It has been my intention to write a post for months now but, unfortunately, I have not had the energy or focus for it.

One of the main problems I’ve had, as I’m sure many of you will too, is having extreme brain fog and debilitating fatigue. It’s been, well, nothing short of ridiculous really and has made just stringing a sentence together an ordeal, never mind writing a post. Many of the symptoms we’ve been dealing with could tally in with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome (many Empaths and Sensitives get diagnosed with this illness) and have not been at all pleasant. Here is a sampling of them:

  • Extreme lethargy and/or fatigue
  • Cold/flu-like symptoms without actually having cold or flu
  • Sensitivity to noise/bright lights
  • Nausea
  • Muscle/joint pain, especially the back area
  • Headaches
  • Brain fog and bad memory
  • Stomach pain, digestive disturbances
  • Depression/sadness/emotional pain
  • Insomnia, even though exhausted

The energies we have experienced lately have been seriously intense and debilitating. The usual tools and techniques that may have worked in the past, for uplifting energy levels and focus just don’t seem to work the same lately…or at least that’s been the case for me. So I’ve had no choice but to lay low and take the energetic poundings as they come.

It is frustrating though to feel as bad as this and not be able to do much to help ourselves. After enduring months and years of these symptoms, that just seem to escalate, many of us may be at the stage where we are tempted to pop a pill in hope of getting rid of the ailments. But, as any Sensitive who’s tried will tell you, medication will not get rid of our maladies, especially if they are energetically related (it is always a good idea to get checked out at the doctors though, the above symptoms can also tie in with many physical illnesses). Medication may mask some of the symptoms but that’s it.

It makes sense that if an Empath is extra sensitive to external energies we will be sensitive to anything we ingest and for this reason we should try to be extra vigilante with what we consume. It has long since been my belief that Nature will always offer an antidote to the many illnesses/ailments that all humans endure. The problem that we face today is that our water contains dangerous chemicals and many of our ‘so-called’ healthy-foods have been altered genetically and are no longer a product of Nature, but that of science/man. One of the foods, labelled as a health-food, that I have recently discovered to be incredibly toxic, is wheat!

I was lucky enough to come across the website of Dr William Davies: http://www.wheatbellyblog.com/about-the-author/  He has written extensively about his research into the damaging and detrimental affects of modern wheat on both body and mind, and how it is predominantly responsible for the obesity epidemic which has swept the globe in the past few decades.

Little did I know that wheat was genetically modified back in the seventies, basically for profit, to give a greater yield to the wheat crop, and is no longer a natural food. After reading Dr Davies’s research I decided to abstain from wheat for just a month and see if it made any difference to my well-being…  it did. One of the first things I noticed was my appetite reducing and my craving for wheat-based products disappearing, which resulted in weight-loss. I also found myself feeling much happier. Others, to whom I suggested dropping wheat, reported the same and more: better digestion, more energy, acne clearing up, etc. For years I had a nagging feeling that wheat did not agree with me but the thought of giving it up filled me with dread. I did not think I could live without bread and pastries, but this was just my wheat-addiction talking.

The scary thing is wheat is a staple in the western diet.  A supposedly healthy diet could consist of: toast/wheat cereal for breakfast, a sandwich for lunch and pasta for evening meal, but in that way of eating we are destroying our health. Wheat is addictive, stimulates appetite and is a depressant, to name but a few of its shortcomings.

Highly sensitive people and Empaths have enough to contend with, without having to deal with the drug-like effects of wheat. I urge you to visit Dr Davis’s site/blog http://www.wheatbellyblog.com/  and read all the information offered, especially the testimonials given by those who have given up wheat. Try it yourself, if only for a few weeks. But to really reap the benefits of wheat-elimination you have to give it up completely, which means no breadcrumbs/batters, sausages, sauces thickened with wheat, soy sauces, beer/larger, etc. Always read the label, you will be amazed where it is hidden.

I am in the process of experimenting with adding raw coconut oil and higher levels of omega 3, essential fatty-acids, into my diet to see if there is any improvement with my energy levels. I will keep you posted if it works.

Introverts, Empaths and Spirituality

Below is a brilliant post by Gregg Prescott of in5d.com.

Most, if not all, Empaths are introverts and should find this an interesting read:

by Gregg Prescott, M.S.
www.in5d.com

Why do introverts tend to be highly spiritual?

Society dictates that we follow specific images projected by the main stream media, so why do introverts tend to rebel from these stereotypes?

Introverts tend to look within for answers versus having the need for societal approval. Often, extroverts will view the introvert as being antisocial, stuck up or as loners, but even with these labels, the introvert will stand his or her ground with complete disregard for how others perceive him or her.

If you are an introvert, then you will find complete comfort in solitude. You often find yourself immersed in deep thought and contemplation. Your need for approval by others is significantly less than the extrovert as you realize that all answers come from within.

While you may partake on social occasions, you often enjoy simply watching the environment around you versus being the center of attention, which many introverts try to avoid. On a metaphysical level, the introvert realizes how we are all connected and does not need the external approval and attention that is often sought after by the extrovert.

Approximately 75% of the world are extroverts, which makes the introvert the minority, yet the introvert will not succumb to societal pressure in order to conform.

While some introverts may be shy, there is a big difference between shyness and being introverted. Shyness is a facet of social anxiety and the fear of rejection while being introverted is the ability to be at social function without the need for complete social interaction. For example, if the introvert was at a party, he or she can easily have conversations with many people, but often chooses not to.

The introvert can have extroverted tendencies while still remaining to be an introvert. Many introverts will pick and choose the time and place to be extroverted, such as waiting in line at the grocery store. In this situation, the conversation is limited and there is no long term commitment to continue the conversation, allowing the introvert to have social interaction without being forced into it. Within minutes, the introvert will once again find the tranquility of being the observer.

Within the solitude, the introvert finds much time to reflect on life. He or she will have a small group of close friends and will feel comfortable being themselves around these people.

The extrovert will feel uncomfortable when there is a small break in the conversation while the introvert understands that sometimes words do not need to be spoken to appreciate the company of the person they’re with. A hug and a smile speak louder than words for the introvert.

The introvert is amused by the extrovert and will observe their mannerisms. An introvert will tend to be on the outside of a group, looking within.

Introverts prefer to watch, listen and observe and don’t talk very much but when they’re with people they feel close to, they will openly talk to about things that they’re passionate about.

Many people within the spiritual and metaphysical genres are introverts and often look within for answers. They are more apt to understand the principle of oneness and how we are all connected on a deeper level than the extrovert, who looks for physical approval.

Introverts tend to use the right side of their brain and often are often musically or artistically inclined. They may also be poets or philosophers and can easily see outside the box.

The introvert will question the origins of what society has told us to be the truth and unlike a scientist, he or she does not need empirical data to maintain his or her own beliefs. The metaphysical fields often attract the introvert because of this.

Inner reflection is commonly used by the introvert as he or she will look within for answers versus what he or she may have been taught. The introvert will use discernment as he or she weighs what has been learned externally versus what he or she feels resonates as the truth within.

Introverts are often empaths as well. Their sensitivity to how other people feel tends to be heightened as opposed to the extrovert who is more consumed with how others are perceiving himself or herself.

Extroverts may also be highly spiritual and will display their spirituality more openly than the introvert. They are easily able to talk to anyone about spiritual and metaphysical topics while the introvert will pick and choose who he or she will talk to about these issues.

The bottom line: despite being only 25% of the population, the introvert will rarely change their attitude or personality to appease others, with the exception of their employment. Many introverts have learned how to be “temporary extroverts” but in the end, their comfort zone brings them back to be an introvert. While society will continue to make the introvert feel like an outcast, the introvert will not be persuaded by peer pressure or conformity in order to appease others because he or she already knows that the truth is within.

Find Out if You are an Introvert Empath

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A Note to Empaths

I decided to write this short post for all you Empaths out there suffering and struggling with all these crazy, painful, bi-polar emotions, day-in, day-out. It’s been tough for us in recent months because not only have we got our own stuff coming up (made all the worse by solar activity), but we’ve also got all the emotional pain coming from outside of us, from family, neighbours, colleagues etc, which has also intensified and there is, seemingly, no escaping it. It’s certainly not an easy time to be an Empath.

At this time, you maybe experiencing many more physical maladies than usual, because you are picking up and absorbing them unintentionally, from those you spend time with or near. And because so many more people are suffering with different ascension/solar related symptoms, emotionally and physically, it’s double whammy for us. The other week I spent a day with a close friend who had sore, swollen eyelids. Guess what I got the very next day after being with her? Yes, sore, swollen eyelids, whilst my friend’s own swollen eyelids, quickly healed.

It can be difficult to tell what emotional/physical symptoms belongs to us and what doesn’t because we are constantly being bombarded from all directions. It is, however, still easy for us to gauge how bad another is feeling, especially when we enter their energy field, because we will immediately pick up on their pain body. It can make being round those we love difficult, especially if they are suffering. And it is so easy for us to interpret their pain as ours, which can, in turn, set off a whole host of other bad feelings within.You might be at a stage where you’re not particularly liking yourself, and that will be because you are identifying with all the stuff coming up/in, emotional-wise, and taking it on as either being part of your personality or as your own. And it would be easy for me to say, ‘It’s not yours, don’t take it on board.’ But as I know on some days it is almost impossible not to, I won’t say it.

So, this post is just a note to say you’re not on your own in this seemingly never-ending onslaught.  Each day will pose a new challenge for us, in some which way. Keep trying different remedies and see what helps (especially salt remedies) in lifting the dark, incoming energy. If an Empath were to go to the doctors in these ‘trying times’ we would surely be diagnosed with some kind of depressive illness, but at least we know the truth!

There is no way we would be going through all this stuff if it wasn’t for a reason…a very good reason. And if screaming into a cushion doesn’t help get some of the debris out, try smiling… because if nothing else, it will make you look (and hopefully feel) happier!

The Truth will Set you Free… It’s True!

The Truth Will Set You Free… It’s True!!!

Finding the truth of who you really are is probably, one of the hardest things you will have to face whilst on this path of awakening.

If you are struggling with the current shift that is happening on our planet, I can guarantee, one of the reasons will be that you are not facing your personal truth. The person you see in the mirror is probably an accumulation of fear-based emotions, untruths, rejections and painful events, built up from your personal history. Ever heard the saying, ‘we’re not really upset about what we think we’re upset about?’ It means we’re not facing the true cause of our pain.

Finding your truth is not an overnight process. I’m sorry to say it can take years, well at least it took me years (and although I’ve come a long way, it’s still something I’m working on). Perhaps if I had known what an impact finding my truth would have had on me, I would have searched it out long ago. It was part of my journey to go the long way round, perhaps, so I could share the information here.

So how did I make the discovery? That the truth will set you free…? Journaling, or in other words keeping a diary.

When I was at my lowest ebb (part of my resistance to the transition) I did not want to talk to anyone about what I was feeling inside. I believed it would make me appear weak and vulnerable. I felt frustrated that I was not in control of my emotions (I later found out that many of them were not mine. See traits of an empath) and, as I was not prepared to talk to anyone about it, I had to find a way to offload. I did this by journaling.

I came across journaling, quite by chance during a quest to improve my writing skills. In her book, Writing down the Bones, Natalie Goldberg explained, that in order to hone one’s writing ability one should write everyday.

Cover of "Writing down the Bones"

Cover of Writing down the Bones

The idea was just to put pen to paper and see what came out… Well, you can probably guess the rest. My ‘writer in training manuals’ turned into my soul-searching journals.

I found that when I started to journal it flowed out of me so fast and furiously that I had to make sure I had many, easy flowing, pens and spiral-bound pads. I would write and write about something and nothing: having arguments on paper with myself, analysing the behaviour of others, comparing spiritual teachings, to name a few.

I wasn’t writing things down with the intention of ever re-reading them. In the beginning, some of my writings could be quite venomous, depending on my mood. Even my beloved dog got written about in an unsavoury way, on one of my darker days. It was all a release valve, a way of discharging many years worth of pent-up emotions from my emotional body. I learnt that by putting my issues on paper I could better understand them. It enabled me to see it all from a higher perspective or in other words, ‘The bigger picture’.

It was during my time of journaling that I realised I was not being honest, in life or in my writings. I was not allowing my true-self to make an appearance because I was so used to hiding my real feelings, that I wasn’t sure how to let them out. So, I allowed myself to be completely honest in my journal. And when I did I found it so liberating, although, admittedly difficult at first, to finally be revealing and facing the truth of myself.

One of the problems I first faced in writing ‘my truth’ was I was afraid someone may read my journals and discover my secrets, the secrets of my personal weakness’s that I had managed to keep hidden from the world. You may now be wondering what kind of secrets are lurking in my closet… to be fair, nothing notable or juicy, they are relatively standard. Here’s a sampling: I feared (still do) being judged, not being good enough, not being liked, being controlled by others and the worst one… people finding out about any of the above and using them against me.

By confronting and analysing my baggage I made discoveries about myself and realised my real issues were not what I thought they were. For example, I would get upset or angry with others if they let me down; I later discovered, through journaling, my real problem was that I did not like, not being in control, I’m a quiet control-freak if you like, and in them letting me down, they were controlling me. Once I realised this was the issue, it helped me deal with it.

I also discovered that if you expect too much out of another, expect to get disappointed. We are all on our individual journeys and expecting another to change their path for our convenience or trying to stop another’s evolvement is not good for our own.

Allowing yourself to confront your truth is so cathartic and freeing, you will wonder why you allowed yourself to carry such a burden for so long. It also releases energy, wasted in our quest for secrecy.

Once you start on the truth, in being truthful to yourself, you have also got to be truthful with others… now this is a tricky one. I don’t mean carelessly dishing out your opinion to anyone who will listen. Truth can get confused with opinions and many opinions come from our ego and not from true-self. Another challenge is discerning the two.

An opinion is transient and is something we use to help us navigate and make sense of our current, life situations. I don’t know about you but my opinions have changed constantly over the years, which I believe is healthy. ‘Limited beliefs offer a limited life!’ To have the same ideas all through your life is simply suffocating. As you grow your ideas and opinions should, hopefully, grow too. Identifying too much with your views and not allowing them to change will stop your soul growth and probably keep you doing the same routine, day in day out… my idea of hell, but then, that is just my opinion!

When I suggested to my sister, that we should strive for the truth, in order to free ourselves, she disagreed, her response was to say, “No, the truth hurts!” She then went on to relay a story that happened to her when she was younger:

My sister and her boyfriend had decided to go out for the evening. At the time, she was a young mum and did not get out very often. She applied make-up put on a new dress and feeling good, she went in to see her boyfriend’s sisters to get their approval. On seeing my sister they immediately laughed at her for wearing make-up and told her she looked stupid, which automatically made her feel ugly and worthless. The sisters apparently prided themselves on saying it as it was, they said they didn’t lie. And this was my sister’s reason for the truth not being the best option, which would be a viable one if everyone involved had told the truth.

My sister is and was very pretty and, although she didn’t use it often, could easily enhance her beauty with the application of make-up. And even though I did not see her the evening in question, I know she would have looked beautiful. The real reason her boyfriend’s sisters were laughing at her was not because she looked stupid or ugly, but because they were threatened by her beauty. Instead of them being honest and admitting she looked pretty, they wanted to make her feel the insecurity they felt. It made them feel better by putting her down. What they portrayed as their honesty was an insecurity hidden as ‘their truth’. It’s the nature of the beast.

You have probably heard at least one person (if not yourself) declare, “I say it like it is!” or, “Take me as I am!” To me, these statements are the biggest give away lines to a person’s vulnerability. It is a defence mechanism, in that, if you can fool others into believing that you don’t give a damn, it will protect you from getting hurt. Or by offering hurtful un-truths it will gain you respect for being fearless. It may have others fooled, but it will not serve you in any way. Lies only serve in weakening us.

Now, let’s get down to the business of lying. Did you know that when you tell a lie, even a white one, that you are being manipulative…? Probably not, but the truth is when you tell a lie, such as to a friend saying, “Sorry I didn’t make it last night I had food poisoning.” When it was really, “I didn’t make it last night because I could not be bothered coming out.” You are being manipulative. You don’t want your friend to think badly of you, or perhaps berate you, for letting him/her down. However, it might be in your ‘opinion’ that you are actually being considerate because you don’t want to hurt their feelings. The reality is you are protecting yourself. In not wanting to be the ‘bad guy’, you manipulate the truth and convince yourself you are doing it to protect another.

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If you have made plans (contracts) with a friend and decide you cannot keep them for whatever reason, be honest and tell the truth. If you cannot tell them the real reason, then maybe you should reconsider your decision to let them down. In your quest to be honest, try to take into consideration another’s feelings.

Lying will always have repercussions. We never get away with anything in life (even though many of us believe we do). If you lie to others prepare for it to be returned. Most people will lie to gain respect or have someone think more highly of them. A quote that relates to this is:

It is better to be disliked for the person you really are than to be loved for being someone you are not!’

This rings true on so many levels. I’m sure you can think of someone who has gained love or respect from pretence, or offering untruths out to the world. The wheel of karma is spinning faster and the world of deceit is nearly at an end, we are seeing many untruths revealed daily, within our everyday lives, in the media and the courtrooms…

A life lived without the truth is an unfulfilled life!’

So what benefits do you get from telling your truth, living your truth and being your truth…?  Emotional freedom from a life you did not realise was a prison (we cannot be free when bound by lies). When you live your truth, it is as though a huge weight has lifted, you feel cleaner and free. You start to see life in a different light, as the truths of the world are revealed. But most importantly the truth of who you truly are begins to unveil. You will see that you are none of those fears and insecurities, you once carried… You are a beautiful ‘free’ being who’s now about to embark on whole new episode of life in truth!

At A Glance: 30 Traits of an Empath

By Diane Kathrine

1.     Knowing: Empaths just know stuff, without being told. It’s a knowing that goes way beyond intuition or gut feelings, even though that is how many would describe the knowing. The more attuned they are the stronger this gift becomes.

2.     Being in public places can be overwhelming: Places like shopping malls, supermarkets or stadiums, where there are lots of people around, can fill the Empath with turbulently vexed emotions that are coming from others.

 3.     Feeling others emotions and taking them on as your own: This is a huge one for Empaths. To some, they will feel emotions off those near by and with others they will feel emotions from those a vast distance away, or both. The more adept Empath will know if someone is having bad thoughts about them, even from a great distance.

 4.     Watching violence, cruelty or tragedy on the TV is unbearable: The more attuned an Empath becomes the worse it is and may make it so they eventually have to stop watching TV and reading newspapers altogether.

 5.     You know when someone is not being honestIf a friend or a loved one is telling you lies you know it (although many Empaths try not to focus on this because knowing a loved one is lying can be painful). Or if someone is saying one thing but feeling/thinking another, you know.

 6.     Picking up physical symptoms off another: An Empath will almost always develop the ailments off another (colds, eye infections, body aches and pains), especially those who they’re closest to, somewhat like sympathy pains.

 7.     Digestive disorders and lower back problems: The solar plexus chakra is based in the centre of the abdomen and it’s known as the seat of emotions. This is where Empaths feel the incoming emotion of another, which can weaken the area and eventually lead to anything from stomach ulcers to IBS (too many other conditions to list here). Lower back problems can develop from being ungrounded (amongst other things) and one, who has no knowledge of them being an Empath, will almost always be ungrounded.

 8.     Always looking out for the underdog: Anyone whose suffering, in emotional pain or being bullied draws an Empath’s attention and compassion.

 9.     Others will want to offload their problems on you, even strangers: An Empath can become a dumping ground for everyone else’s issues and problems, which, if they’re not careful can end up as their own.

 10.    Constant fatigue: Empaths often get drained of energy, either from energy vampires or just taking on too much from others, which even sleep will not cure. Many get diagnosed with ME.

 11.    Addictive personalityAlcohol, drugs, sex, are to name but a few addictions Empaths turn to, to block out the emotions of others. It can be a form of self-protection in order to hide from someone or something (external emotions).

12.    Drawn to healing, holistic therapies and all things metaphysical: Although many Empaths would love to heal others, they can end up turning away from healing (even though they have a natural ability for it), after they’ve studied and qualified, because they take on too much from the one they are trying to heal. Especially if they are unaware of their empathy. Anything of a supernatural nature is of interest to Empaths and they don’t surprise or get shocked easily.

 13.   Creative: From singing, dancing, acting, drawing or writing an Empath will have a strong creative streak and a vivid imagination.

 14.    Love of nature and animals: Being outdoors in nature is a must for Empaths and pets are an essential part of their life.

 15.    Need for solitude: An Empath will go stir-crazy if they don’t get quiet time. This is even obvious in empathic children.

 16.    Gets bored or distracted easily if not stimulated: Work, school and home life has to be kept interesting for an Empath or they switch off from it and end up daydreaming or doodling.

 17.   Finds it impossible to do things they don’t enjoy: As above. Feels like they are living a lie by doing so. To force an Empath to do something they dislike through guilt or labelling them as idle will only serve in making them unhappy. It’s for this reason many  Empaths get labelled as being lazy.

 18.   Strives for the truth: This becomes more prevalent when an Empath discovers his/her gifts and birthright. Anything untruthful feels plain wrong.

 19.   Always looking for answers and knowledgeTo have unanswered questions can be frustrating for an Empath and they will endeavour to find an explanation. If they have a knowing about something they will look for confirmation. The downside to this is an information overload.

 20.  Likes adventure, freedom and travel: Empaths are free spirits.

 21.  Abhors clutterIt makes an Empath feel weighed down and blocks the flow of energy.

 22.  Loves to daydream: An Empath can stare into space for hours, in a world of their own and blissfully happy.

 23.  Finds routine, rules or control, imprisoning: Anything that takes away their freedom is debilitating to an Empath even poisoning.

 24.  Prone to carry weight without necessarily overeating: The excess weight, especially around the belly area, is a form of protection to stop the negative incoming energies having as much impact.

 25.  Excellent listener: An Empath won’t talk about themselves much unless it’s to someone they really trust. They love to learn and know about others and genuinely care.

 26.  Intolerance to narcissism: Although kind and often very tolerant of others, Empaths do not like to be around overly egotistical people, who put themselves first and refuse to consider anyone’s feelings or points of view, other than their own.

 27.   The ability to feel the days of the week: An Empath will get the ‘Friday Feeling’ if they work Fridays or not. They pick up on how the collective are feeling. The first couple of days of a long, bank holiday weekend (Easter for example) can feel, to them, like the world is smiling, calm and relaxed. Sunday evenings, Mondays and Tuesdays, of a working week, have a very heavy feeling.

 28.   Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-handAnything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An Empath will even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

 29.   Sense the energy of food: Many Empaths don’t like to eat meat or poultry because they can feel the vibrations of the animal (especially if the animal suffered), even if they like the taste.

 30.   Can appear moody, shy, aloof, disconnectedDepending on how an Empath is feeling will depend on what face they show to the world. They can be prone to mood swings and if they’ve taken on too much negative will appear quiet and unsociable, even miserable. An Empath detests having to pretend to be happy when they’re sad, this only adds to their load (makes working in the service industry, when it’s service with a smile, very challenging) and can make them feel like scuttling under a stone.

 

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If you are new to discovering you are an Empath be sure to check out: Grounding Techniques for Empaths and Sensitives and Stop Empath Overwhelm Instantly 

There are many tried and tested techniques on this page that will help you better deal with your gift. Also, check out these 12 quick questions, you may also find the following posts helpful:

Transform Your Life!

Why Empaths Freeze around Inauthentic People

It’s Time to Let go of Toxic People

Supplements to Heal the Empath

An Empath’s Life Guide

This above list has been compiled as a guide to help the unknowing Empath recognize his/her gift.

Empaths may carry many of the same traits but not all of them. One Empath may be able to eat meat whilst another may love being around antiques… we are all different.  Some can override or block certain traits and some traits will come and go over the years (strengthen or weaken) as life circumstances change for the individual.

Hope this helps you on your path.

Diane

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Being an Empath

Today, I decided I was going to create a page about life as an Empath. It wasn’t until I sat down and started to write about an Empath’s traits that I remembered downloading an article on the subject in May, last year. I’m not even sure if, back then, I looked at it, but when I read it earlier I felt as though it could have been written specifically for me. It then crossed my mind that there must be hundreds of thousands of people struggling with the same condition (some may call it a gift but until you recognize how it affects you mentally and physically it can be a detrimental condition), unaware that the bewildering, emotional ups and downs they deal with on a daily basis are, mostly, not their own.

If you didn’t know already an Empath is someone who is hyper-sensitive to many things, but mainly emotions of others. They can pick up the feelings of another and take it on as their own.

An Empath can be feeling perfectly happy and relaxed one minute, then enter a public place and within seconds get feelings of: anger, sadness or anxiety wash over them that are coming from others. If unaware that they are empathic, they may believe the cause to be a phobia of public places, a dislike of shopping, or even people.

Many Empaths become reclusive because it’s easier to stay away from the stimuli than to deal with the bombardment of negative emotions they get when in public.

My being an Empath is not something I tend to share with others. In the past I’ve tried telling close friends but just ended up feeling frustrated with their inability to grasp the concept. When one has not experienced something first hand we don’t tend to understand it and as Empaths are not generally subject to discussion in common society, we are probably seen as being neurotic or out there instead of gifted, although it certainly won’t feel like a gift to many. Another reason I don’t tend to tell others of my abilities is because I don’t want them feeling uncomfortable around me. I’m sure they wouldn’t want to know that I can tell if they’re lying or know when what they’re saying was not what they were truly feeling or thinking.

Everyone who is an Empath will have different empathic abilities. The two most common being: Picking up on others emotions and feeling the energy of places. For example: you may walk into a crowded room and sense a heavy tension, even though everyone was smiling. Or on entering a friend’s new house (which was old, but new to them) you feel a negative vibe, as if something bad has happened there. What we are picking up on is residual energy. If the house was filled with arguments and angst the energy stays there. Likewise, when walking into a house that has been filled with happiness and love, to an Empath it can feel like the Sun is shining indoors.

I was once a bit of a Facebook addict, however, this is a site that causes me much discomfort, emotionally. Especially reading a post by a person who is declaring their happiness and stating how wonderful life is, when you know it’s quite the opposite for them. We can pick up on all the energies of the people connected to us on Facebook and it can be most overwhelming. I’m never quite sure why I keep going back… but then Empaths are prone to addiction (more about that in later posts).

The more in tune you become as an Empath the more you see the world for what it is. Reading newspapers becomes a challenge, especially the ones packed with lies, gossip and no real news. The TV can become unbearable, in particular any kind of programmes with violence or cruelty. Even watching reality-singing-shows will sadden you. Seeing them quash the dreams of young hopefuls (whose main ambition in life is to feel special) and humiliate them in the name of entertainment and money. I’m amazed how many people love watching the early stages of the shows, when many of the contestants are ridiculed by the judges for their lack of talent (even though they’ve already been through two prior auditions before they get to see the celebrity judges, unaware that they are only through for the comedy element), only to stop watching when it becomes about the real talent. To me, the early stages of the shows turn the audience (at home and in the studio) from individuals into a crowd with mob mentality, laughing and jeering at those whose only crime was a belief they had the talent to make it in the world of showbiz. Reminds me of days people were put in the stocks to be scoffed at.

So there we go, my first post on life as an Empath with many more to come.

Till next time…