How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?
Have you kept old clothes believing they may come back in fashion one day, or in case you lose or gain weight?
Have you been given a gift that you didn’t really like, but kept it to avoid hurting another’s feelings?
I think it’s safe to say most of us could say yes to at least one of the above questions. But hoarding, even just a little bit, will soon see our homes overloaded with junk. Bad news for Empaths or those of a sensitive nature.
An overly cluttered house leads to an overly cluttered mind and energy field. Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is extremely draining to the body and mind. Even clutter that the eye cannot see, still has a debilitating effect on the psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling within. This can lead to the Empath feeling drained and lethargic!
If you have a crowded house (and I don’t mean with people) you may not realize how much it can deplete your energy, leading to feelings of sluggishness, apathy and an uninspired mind.
Empaths tend to have an inbuilt loathing of clutter, whether they are aware of their gift or not, and this is because they can feel it dragging them down, energetically. They will tend to opt for more of an uncomplicated decor, without too much fuss in the way of ornaments etc., for the simple reason that all objects hold energy. But over the years clutter can unintentionally build and we can find ourselves with all sorts of bric-a-brac, that were probably gifts, strewn around the house, which only serve in being draining.
Many years ago, before I was even aware of the term Empath, I read a book by Karen Kingston called: ‘Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui’ (unfortunately, I no longer have the book, and don’t have a photographic memory, so am unable to paraphrase), it really resonated with me and inspired me to have a full-on house detox. I hatched a plan to rid the home of all unwanted, unused and unhelpful items we had hoarded. My husband and I ploughed through the house, room by room, and cleared tonnes of stuff (slight exaggeration there but you will be surprised how much can be crammed into the smallest draw). I have a minimalistic decor-style and have never liked visual clutter, so everything that was removed came out of cupboards, draws and wardrobes. It was amazing how clean, fresh and liberated we both felt afterwards.
The first thing we all need to summon, when it comes to de-cluttering, is bravery. It may sound silly to suggest being brave when it comes to clearing the house, but in a way that’s exactly what we need. Fear will always rear its ugly head when making any changes in one’s life and when de-cluttering it will be there to tell you how much you need those unneeded items.
In the current economic climate it is an ideal environment for hoarding to thrive. We may hold onto possessions because we fear we won’t be able to replace them with something better or of equal value. You can probably look around any room in your house now and count at least 5 items that serve no purpose. Hoarding is born from the fear of lack and in clearing the clutter you are also facing, and in turn clearing, that fear.
To find out whether you really need something in your life simply ask this question: How will this item improve or make my life better? If you can’t come up with an answer (other than it won’t) it’s probably time to ditch or give it to charity.
When your home is full there is no room for anything new to come into your life. In making space, you are sending out a message that you are open to receive (but hopefully not more clutter).
Clearing the clutter doesn’t just have to be of your external environment, you can also have an internal-clutter-clearing session. Disposing of old beliefs, traits or thought patterns is both liberating and rejuvenating. Granted, they’re not as easy to be rid of as belongings, but probably ten times more beneficial.
A trait that will do you the world of good to eliminate is overly judgemental behaviour of self or others.
Being judgemental is so imprisoning and it causes untold harm to the bearer. It doesn’t have to be vindictive in nature to be damaging: it can be as simple as feeling another is more worthy than ourselves, thinking we are not good enough or believing our opinions are better than others.
Being judgemental catches us all unaware, but when we are conscious of it we are one step closer to removing it (for an Empath, if we are being judgemental, or indeed being judged, it can hold a heavy dark and anxious feeling/energy).
If you are in doubt of what you should or shouldn’t keep in your life, see the following questions:
Clutter Clearing Check List for the Internal and External:
- Does this serve me today?
- Will this serve me in the foreseeable future?
- Can this serve anyone else?
- Why am I holding onto this?
- Will keeping/holding onto this make me happy?
A word of warning: you can guarantee that within days of having a clear-out your mind will play tricks on you, finding use for anything and everything you threw/gave away (even though you may not have worn/used it for five years, or previously forgotten of its existence). Just know that this is part of the de-cluttering process and it will pass.
Hope this post helps you on your path
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©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered