The Double Life of An Empath

If you are an Empath, there is a good chance you go through life feeling like you lead a double life or have to wear a face when spending time with others.

I recently read that the Japanese believe people have three faces: The face we show the world, the face we show our family and close friends, and the face we show no one. It is our hidden face which is apparently our truest reflection.3-faces

As Empaths, we often slip on our ‘muggle face’ when out in public, or even with close friends and family, as a way to better fit in. We may rarely get the chance to display our ‘magical Empath face’ for the fact we feel  it won’t be accepted. For some, the only time this face is openly worn is when at home or when alone.

Now we could be accused of being disingenuous, or even cowardly, for not publicly displaying our Empath face, but there is a very good reason we hide our truths… and it’s not just to protect ourselves. Continue reading

Inauthenticity and the Empath

Have you noticed that the level of untruths visible within the world is skyrocketing lately? But the strange thing is we can also see that people are blindly inhabiting this world of deception, fraud and dishonesty, as if it is the normal, acceptable thing to do.

In these current times, many Empaths are struggling with the countless pretenses we face in daily life. We have a strong awareness of the fact we are meant to live with integrity. We know we are not supposed to lie for personal gain or to manipulate others and, although we may strive each day towards bettering our-self and finding our truth, it becomes increasingly harder to do when all around us we see so much dishonesty and corruption.

In a world where silver-tongued fraudsters, who spin twisted webs of deceit, are rewarded for their outspoken dishonesty, and those who speak their truth get attacked or victimized, it is easy to understand why people are hesitant to live authentically. And because it seems many are content to bury their heads and not hear or accept real truths, it can feel like things will never change and only get worse.

This evident level of deceit has caused many Empaths frustration, unhappiness and a deep sense of disconnect from the real meaning of life. Everywhere we look truths are suppressed and lies are snowballing out of control. Empaths feel the energy of ‘the lie’ and are deeply affected by them, even when they don’t know what the lie is.

We are in a time where dishonesties are breeding more dishonesty and much of the populace are living in a state of cognitive dissonance. This is causing conflict and chaos within the Empath’s psyche, and is another reason some are so out-of-balance. Something will always feel off ‘energetically’ whilst the world is awash with hyped propaganda and disinformation, and can leave the Empath feeling anxious and physically drained.

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But it’s not just living under a disingenuous and power-corrupt establishment that creates imbalance within the Empath, simply being in the presence of inauthenticity can be enough to throw us into disarray.

As an Empath, when we spend time with someone who is not vibrating truthfully it affects us on many levels. When in the company of those whose words don’t match their vibrational energy, it can feel as if our brains have been scrambled. So much so, we may struggle to form a complete sentence when spending time with them. This mind-numbing effect is not caused because the other person is in any way evil, but because our Empathic antenna is picking up all is not what it seems. We are detecting that what this person is showing is not a true reflection of who they really are. Quite often this is because they are hiding deep inner pain. When anyone creates a fake persona, it is a way to hide a side from others that they believe will be rejected (or in some cases as a way to manipulate). Every human wants to feel special and loved, but because many feel unworthy or unlovable, they create a fictitious side to their personality and become inauthentic in their quest to be accepted.

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When we come across inauthentic people, it is easy to believe we are getting energetically attacked because often that is exactly what it feels like. Our brain gets scrambled because we are reading contradictory energy. It can be seen as stumbling over words or our memory and thought process being unpleasantly affected. It can even cause illness, nervousness or anxiety. This ‘brain scrambling’ could be classed as a form of protection. Our brains are trying to make us aware that something is not right with the present energetic connection. We are not always given direct information about the nature of the contradiction, just a sign that something is off (it is up to us to learn to decipher our reactions). Anyone who is not emanating truthful vibes will put an Empath on high alert, even when we are not in imminent danger. Continue reading

Special Announcement: The Empath Awakening

Don’t miss out! For 5 days The Empath Awakening is free to download on Kindle from today until Sunday the 21st August.

Kindle Version Empath AwakeningDiscovering you are an Empath is a day of great revelation. Finally, you have an answer for all that you feel and experience! This knowing is just the start of an incredible journey…

Understanding the gift, and all it entails, is the first step to unleashing its gentle power and truly defining yourself as an Empath!

For the newly awakened, life can be wrought with challenges and emotional pain; but it doesn’t have to be. The Empath Awakening shows you where your imbalances may hide and how to treat them. It teaches you how to heal and seal a permeable aura and unplug from unnecessary emotions. The book also imparts valuable knowledge essential for a happy, healthy  life!

 

You can read the book on any device from your phone, laptop or iPad although you may have to download the free Amazon Kindle App.

Click here for free Kindle download of The Empath Awakening or here for paperback version (not included on offer). Pleas note these links are for Amazon Kindle US. If you are from another part of the world you will have to download it from the online Amazon store in your area. Just type in The Empath Awakening by Diane Kathrine in the Kindle search bar.

If you download the book and find the information to be helpful, I would really appreciate it if you could write a Kindle review for me. Or if you would like to offer any constructive criticism please feel free to inbox me on my FB page Empaths Empowered.

Enjoy…

The Morphing Empath

If you are an Empath you have probably had at least one morphing experience. Some of you may experience it on a daily basis.  I liken morphing to an encounter with a boggart would… You would have to be familiar with Harry Potter to understand where I am going with this.

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In the Harry Potter books a boggart is described as a shape-shifting non-being that takes on the form of the viewer’s worst fear.

So what does this have to do with an Empath you might ask? Continue reading

What to Expect from Your Empath Transformation

Hope you’re all keeping really happy and healthy in your little “Empath” corners of the world.

Just a quickie to let you know the print version for 7 Secrets of the Sensitive is now available to order. You can order it here on Amazon or here on The Book Patch or here for Barnes and Noble. There’s still 24 hours to get the special eBook pre-order price (saving $12.01 on print price)

Just in case you don’t know what the book is about, here is a little of what you can expect to discover:

  • Why parts of the Empath brain overreact to emotions and learn how to stop this from happening.
  • Projection and how Empaths send out what they think and feel to others.
  • How the disruption of our chakras affect the body and mind.
  • How and why certain foods destroy the Empath’s emotional wellbeing.
  • The reason why Empaths feel everything so powerfully.
  • What the dominant and sometimes overpowering Empath gut sensations mean.
  • The overwhelming emotional overload Empaths experience and how to instantly overcome it.
  • How Empath fatigue affects life and who or what causes it.
  • Why Empaths attract certain types (including narcissists) and repel others.
  • The reason Empaths form instant dislikes for certain people.
  • Inauthentic behavior and how it weakens an Empath.
  • Trauma triggers and their causes.
  • How to recognize psychic attack and how to protect from it.
  • Thoughtbombing, what it is and how to stop it.
  • How to tell the difference between your own emotions and those which don’t belong to you.

Within ‘7 Secrets of the Sensitive – Harness the Empath’s Hidden Power’ I help you understand why you experience what you do. I show what simple steps you can take to revolutionize your life, take back your power and live the life for which you were destined. As an Empath you deserve an incredible happy life!

If you do happen do purchase a copy I would just like to say a huge thank you and I look forward to it helping transform your Empath life!

Until next time…

Diane

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Do Empaths Have Mediumistic Abilities?

pschic development imageBecause Empaths are an intuitive bunch it can arouse the question whether they also have psychic and mediumistic abilities. Being mediumistic is not a trait to fall under the ‘traits of an Empath’. However, there are some who do have this ability.

Some Empaths have mediumistic abilities and some mediums have Empathic abilities. But whether we were born with mediumistic abilities or not, it is a gift that can be developed. If it is something we are drawn to and want to develop most can work towards becoming gifted mediums. Empaths are highly intuitive and are aligned to most things of a metaphysical nature. We often experience a strong pull towards mediumship in the ‘early days’ of awakening. However, it is not a subject one should take lightly and finding a good teacher is essential. The teacher has to know and understand all about the traits and sensitivities of an Empath. Continue reading

Are you an Empath or HSP?

 

The definitions between an Empath and a highly sensitive person (HSP) are so similar that some may question as to which camp they fall in. Hopefully, after reading this you may have a better idea.

Here are some of the type of questions Elaine N. Aron uses in her book, ‘The Highly Sensitive Person’, to decide a HSP:

(The stronger you relate to the questions is an indication of your Sensitivity.)

  1. Are you aware of subtleties in your environment?
  2. Do other people’s moods affect you?
  3. Are you sensitive to pain?
  4. Do you need to withdraw if you are having a busy day?
  5. Are you sensitive to the effects of caffeine?
  6. Are you easily overwhelmed by strong smells, bright lights or loud noises?
  7. Do you have a rich and complex inner life?
  8. Are you conscientious?
  9. Do you startle easily?
  10. Are you aware how to make others feel more comfortable?
  11. Do you get frustrated if you are made to do too many things at once?
  12. Do you avoid watching violence on TV or in films?
  13. Do you become uncomfortable when a lot is going on around you?
  14. Do you avoid upsetting or overwhelming situations?

See more known traits of a HSP here. Continue reading

12 Quick Questions to Discover if You Are an Empath

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If you want to know if you are an Empath these questions will quickly help decide:

1. Do you walk into busy places and find yourself overwhelmed with emotions?

2.  Do some people make you feel inexplicably uncomfortable, finding you stumble over your words or have uneasy sensations in the pit of your stomach when with them?

3. Did you experience any strange phenomena as a child, such as seeing or hearing ghosts, having imaginary friends, seeing energy fields around objects or people, or knowing things you shouldn’t? Continue reading

When People Become Trauma Triggers for the Empath

Trauma Triggers EmpathIf you have someone in your life who acts as a trauma trigger they will no doubt have already sprung to mind upon reading the title of this post.

Those who act as a trauma trigger cause a response at the mere mention of their name, and can have the Empath awash with a torrent of painful emotions, just by thinking about them.

For the Empath, feeling other people’s energy and emotions is normal, both negative and positive. Some people emit lovely, light vibrations and are a joy to be around, but there are some who live under a cloud of negative energy and are riddled with angsts that they seem to feed on. These ‘trigger’ people tend to spew out dark, angry energy  and refuse to accept or change their behaviour, even if it has been pointed out to them how their ways affect others. They tend to find fault in everyone (except themselves) and choose not to see the good in those around them. Continue reading

What’s the Deal with Antiques and Empaths?

On my post ‘At a Glance 30 Traits of an Empath’ there is one trait that has caused some controversy over the years, more than any other trait:

Trait 28.   Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-hand 

Anything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An Empath may even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

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I feel now is as good a time as any to address this particular trait. Many people wrongly assume the reason number 28 is on the list is because antiques hold negative energy. Anything pre-owned can carry negative or positive energy but this is not the reason it is on the list. Continue reading

Clear Your Clutter Transform Your Life!

How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?

Have you kept old clothes believing they may come back in fashion one day, or in case you lose or gain weight?

Have you been given a gift that you didn’t really like, but kept it to avoid hurting another’s feelings?

I think it’s safe to say most of us could say yes to at least one of the above questions. But hoarding, even just a little bit, will soon see our homes overloaded with junk. Bad news for Empaths or those of a sensitive nature.

An overly cluttered house leads to an overly cluttered mind and energy field. Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is extremely draining to the body and mind. Even clutter that the eye cannot see, still has a debilitating effect on the psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling within. This can lead to the Empath feeling drained and lethargic!

If you have a crowded house (and I don’t mean with people) you may not realize how much it can deplete your energy, leading to feelings of sluggishness, apathy and an uninspired mind.

Empaths tend to have an inbuilt loathing of clutter, whether they are aware of their gift or not, and this is because they can feel it dragging them down, energetically. They will tend to opt for more of an uncomplicated decor, without too much fuss in the way of ornaments etc., for the simple reason that all objects hold energy. But over the years clutter can unintentionally build and we can find ourselves with all sorts of bric-a-brac, that were probably gifts, strewn around the house, which only serve in being draining.

Many years ago, before I was even aware of the term Empath, I read a book by Karen Kingston called: ‘Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui’ (unfortunately, I no longer have the book, and don’t have a photographic memory, so am unable to paraphrase), it really resonated with me and inspired me to have a full-on house detox. I hatched a plan to rid the home of all unwanted, unused and unhelpful items we had hoarded. My husband and I ploughed through the house, room by room, and cleared tonnes of stuff (slight exaggeration there but you will be surprised how much can be crammed into the smallest draw). I have a minimalistic decor-style and have never liked visual clutter, so everything that was removed came out of cupboards, draws and wardrobes. It was amazing how clean, fresh and liberated we both felt afterwards.

The first thing we all need to summon, when it comes to de-cluttering, is bravery. It may sound silly to suggest being brave when it comes to clearing the house, but in a way that’s exactly what we need. Fear will always rear its ugly head when making any changes in one’s life and when de-cluttering it will be there to tell you how much you need those unneeded items.

In the current economic climate it is an ideal environment for hoarding to thrive. We may hold onto possessions because we fear we won’t be able to replace them with something better or of equal value. You can probably look around any room in your house now and count at least 5 items that serve no purpose. Hoarding is born from the fear of lack and in clearing the clutter you are also facing, and in turn clearing, that fear.

To find out whether you really need something in your life simply ask this question: How will this item improve or make my life better? If you can’t come up with an answer (other than it won’t) it’s probably time to ditch or give it to charity.

When your home is full there is no room for anything new to come into your life. In making space, you are sending out a message that you are open to receive (but hopefully not more clutter).

Clearing the clutter doesn’t just have to be of your external environment, you can also have an internal-clutter-clearing session. Disposing of old beliefs, traits or thought patterns is both liberating and rejuvenating. Granted, they’re not as easy to be rid of as belongings, but probably ten times more beneficial.

A trait that will do you the world of good to eliminate is overly judgemental behaviour of self or others.

Being judgemental is so imprisoning and it causes untold harm to the bearer. It doesn’t have to be vindictive in nature to be damaging: it can be as simple as feeling another is more worthy than ourselves, thinking we are not good enough or believing our opinions are better than others.

Being judgemental catches us all unaware, but when we are conscious of it we are one step closer to removing it (for an Empath, if we are being judgemental, or indeed being judged, it can hold a heavy dark and anxious feeling/energy).

If you are in doubt of what you should or shouldn’t keep in your life, see the following questions:

Clutter Clearing Check List for the Internal and External:

  • Does this serve me today?
  • Will this serve me in the foreseeable future?
  • Can this serve anyone else?
  • Why am I holding onto this?
  • Will keeping/holding onto this make me happy?

A word of warning: you can guarantee that within days of having a clear-out your mind will play tricks on you, finding use for anything and everything you threw/gave away (even though you may not have worn/used it for five years, or previously forgotten of its existence). Just know that this is part of the de-cluttering process and it will pass.

Hope this post helps you on your path

Diane

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©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

Supplements And The Empath

If you are an Empath or Sensitive, you will know only too well how easy it is to pick up coughs, colds and the like on a regular basis. Most Sensitive people will tend to get twice as many ailments as those not predisposed to the condition.

An out of balance Empath/Sensitive (especially one who has absorbed external stresses as well as having their own to deal with) need only briefly be in the presence of someone with the beginnings of a sniffle to pick up a full-blown dose. Of which, the ensuing symptoms will tend to be worse than those of the original carrier. (Click here to find a quick way to alkalise and rebalance body).

One of the problems an E/S has is not always being aware of an imbalance within as they can quickly creep up, if not be a constant state. From my own experience I have discovered that the best way to stay in balance is to have all bases covered. And what I mean by that is to take care of our physical, mental and energetic bodies (body, mind and spirit). In this post I am focusing on balance of the body (immune system) in the way of supplements.

Heard of the saying: ‘like attracts like’ or ‘like increases like?’ Well, it works in all areas of our life. Generally those picking up on negative emotions will feel like (for want of a better word) crap. When you feel crap you want to eat crap (fast food, stodgy and sugary food) and that type of food does not tend to have much in the way of nutritional value. So basically, we feel rubbish, eat rubbish, feel more rubbish… and get no nutrients. Nutrients are our safeguard against illness because they keep the immune system strong. There would be no point for me to say, ‘Avoid all nutrient devoid foods’, because we all already know they are no good for us. We also know that on our darker days after being bombarded by the world and his wife’s emotions, that family size block of chocolate has a billion times more appeal than a leafy lettuce, crunchy carrot and tangy tomato salad. And this is where supplements come in.

I came to realise, firsthand, the importance of supplements through unintentional trial and error over the years. In my haphazard approach to taking vitamins and minerals (taking them for 6 months then non for the next), I found that when taking supplements I have far less immune system related illnesses and ailments than when not taking them.

There is much controversy over the effectiveness of supplements, especially synthetic ones, and whether they actually work. Many experts say that a healthy, balanced diet is all we need for optimum nutritive levels, but even with the healthiest of diets do we really know how nutritiously balanced our food is? It is well-known that our soil is no longer as rich in minerals as it once was, which ultimately affects the mineral content of the fruit and vegetables grown in it. The ripe and brightly coloured fruits that we see on our supermarket shelves may have travelled half way round the world, and already be months old, before they even get into our kitchens, meaning a much lower vitamin count than if delivered to the supermarkets within hours of being harvested.

It is easy to get reliable information on the web about supplements and their benefits and it is well worth doing the research and reading up on comments people have made in regards to certain brands/types before spending money. Depending on your areas of weakness will depend on which supplement you could/should be taking, but I have found the following to be a good all-round elixir:

  • A good multi-vitamin and mineral.
  • Extra Vitamin C and Zinc (especially if you get many colds).
  • Omega 3, found, for example, in fish oils or organic coconut oil (a diet consisting of a ratio 3-1 of Omega 6 to Omega 3 is a good balance. However, the average Western diet consists of a ratio of approximately 15-1 or more, through the high usage of vegetable oils in processed foods).
  • A  really good Multi-B vitamin.
  • Acidophilus (especially if you suffer from a sensitive digestive tract).
  • Vitamin D3 (more for the darker, winter months).
  • Digestive Enzymes, to be taken with meals, which will help break down food and extract the nutrients. Especially beneficial to those who suffer with indigestion or low stomach acid

I write these posts with the intention of helping others in passing on what I consider to be useful information, especially during these trying times. As I’ve said before, we do need to take responsibility for self and, if nothing else, this is just to take away or ease some of the pain we have. I also feel that it can just be good to know that we are not alone in our suffering and although you may not know anyone close by who is enduring what you are, many others around the globe are going though the same or similar.

I don’t believe that any one of us holds all the answers (we probably wouldn’t be here if we did) and what works for one won’t always work for another. So in that respect take what feels right to you and discard the rest. As an Empath/Sensitive you will always get that ‘gut feeling’ (the knowing) when something is not a fit for you, but you will also know only too well that you don’t always listen to the ‘gut feeling’, instead, preferring to listen to the mind (we can sometimes be our own worst enemies). We are eternal optimists and may want to believe something because we wish it to be true, as opposed to ‘knowing’ it’s true…

Until next time.

©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

A Note to Empaths

I decided to write this short post for all you Empaths out there suffering and struggling with all these crazy, painful, bi-polar emotions, day-in, day-out. It’s been tough for us in recent months because not only have we got our own stuff coming up (made all the worse by solar activity), but we’ve also got all the emotional pain coming from outside of us, from family, neighbours, colleagues etc, which has also intensified and there is, seemingly, no escaping it. It’s certainly not an easy time to be an Empath.

At this time, you maybe experiencing many more physical maladies than usual, because you are picking up and absorbing them unintentionally, from those you spend time with or near. And because so many more people are suffering with different ascension/solar related symptoms, emotionally and physically, it’s double whammy for us. The other week I spent a day with a close friend who had sore, swollen eyelids. Guess what I got the very next day after being with her? Yes, sore, swollen eyelids, whilst my friend’s own swollen eyelids, quickly healed.

It can be difficult to tell what emotional/physical symptoms belongs to us and what doesn’t because we are constantly being bombarded from all directions. It is, however, still easy for us to gauge how bad another is feeling, especially when we enter their energy field, because we will immediately pick up on their pain body. It can make being round those we love difficult, especially if they are suffering. And it is so easy for us to interpret their pain as ours, which can, in turn, set off a whole host of other bad feelings within.You might be at a stage where you’re not particularly liking yourself, and that will be because you are identifying with all the stuff coming up/in, emotional-wise, and taking it on as either being part of your personality or as your own. And it would be easy for me to say, ‘It’s not yours, don’t take it on board.’ But as I know on some days it is almost impossible not to, I won’t say it.

So, this post is just a note to say you’re not on your own in this seemingly never-ending onslaught.  Each day will pose a new challenge for us, in some which way. Keep trying different remedies and see what helps (especially salt remedies) in lifting the dark, incoming energy. If an Empath were to go to the doctors in these ‘trying times’ we would surely be diagnosed with some kind of depressive illness, but at least we know the truth!

There is no way we would be going through all this stuff if it wasn’t for a reason…a very good reason. And if screaming into a cushion doesn’t help get some of the debris out, try smiling… because if nothing else, it will make you look (and hopefully feel) happier!