Are You Dealing With the Aftermath of Strange Energy?

Have you been feeling off this past week or so? Have you been picking up dark energy, feeling fatigued, frustrated, edgy or anxious? Has your appetite increased or have you been craving sugary foods?

If you answered yes to any of the above, you’re not alone. There’s certainly been a strange energy lingering, which is very likely due to aftereffects of the solar activity last week. Read more about it here.

When there are any shifts or changes in energy or excessive solar activity, the effects can ricochet out and be felt for days or weeks after by an Empath.

I wouldn’t normally put out a post so close to my last one, but as I have observed some strange behaviour and felt a real heaviness in the energy these past several days, I thought it a good idea to send this out in case any of you have been impacted.

I posted the following article a couple of years ago, but as it is still as relevant today as when I initially wrote it, the advice still applies…

In recent years there has been such a lot happening with energetic changes. And anything to do with energy shifting will always affect the Empath in weird and wonderful ways.

But it is how it impacts others that might disrupt your life as an Empath.

When there is any type of ‘shift’ it usually brings to the surface that which has long been buried within the populace. Which often causes conflict, activates anger issues and finger-pointing.

If as an Empath you experience waves of feeling emotionally floored, angry, anxious or under attack, with no real reason for it, it could simply be down to a shift.

When these shifts happen you may, at times, feel like you are out-of-body, observing life as it is going on around you, but not really feeling part of it. It might seem as though you are watching helplessly from the side-lines as others refuse to face the truths of themselves or of this world and that everywhere people seem angry and preoccupied with issues or concerns. They are busy looking for ways to project this anger and they lash out, which then fuels it further.

This destructive emotional energy then just builds and builds and becomes more overwhelming for those of us who are Sensitive.

When we are simply observing the madness going on around us, in a detached way, it does us no harm. But it is too easy to become embroiled in it all and thus take on emotional energy that does not belong to us.

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Because the ‘anger energy’ stirred up by shifts, can be powerful, our mind wants to search out a logical explanation and reason for it. Even if the emotion doesn’t belong to us.

For example, if you had a disagreement with a friend or family member in the past where you felt betrayed or treated unjustly, you might find yourself festering over those memories; even though you have already forgiven those involved or let the situation go.

But if the mind cannot find a memory to attach the emotional energy to, it will look for something else to connect with. You may find yourself drawn into an injustice happening to a friend or family member. A political issue, that would not normally garner your attention, suddenly draws you in and winds you up the wrong way. Or you may become engaged in an issue that isn’t really there.

As Empaths, when we absorb strong emotional energy belonging to another we can still be tricked into believing it is our own. No matter how aware or how much work we have done on ourselves, we can still be taken off guard by these potent energies

Here are some ways in which you might experience energy shifts:

1. Waking Up Vexed: This is a common theme. Waking up in the morning, or in the middle of the night, with your mind already focusing on some past injustice, that had not even been remotely on your mind. These memories take over your thoughts which then trigger emotional responses. If you start your day in a low mood, you will draw to you more situations that match this low mood energy and the darker your day becomes. Continue reading

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The Easy Empath Elixir

Are you one of the many Empaths who struggles to stay in balance?

You are not alone. The stresses of ‘Empath life’ certainly takes its toll on emotional and physical wellbeing. But did you know that just by drinking more water you can become happier and healthier as an Empath?

Sound too good to be true…? Read on…

The body consists of up to 75% water (some body tissue has 95%), so it will come as no surprise that we need to drink lots of water to stay in balance physically and mentally.

When out-of-sorts, we can turn to water as our primary holistic care. Not only will it help keep the body functioning properly but it also helps in dealing with Empath overwhelm and emotional energy.

Most are unaware just how dehydrated they are because they regularly drink fluids throughout the day. But as the body uses so much water, just to function, it is quickly being used and in constant need of replenishment.

Breathing alone loses a quarter of the body’s water, on a daily basis, and that’s without any physical exertion.

Dehydration affects well-being, appearance and accelerates the aging process. Being well-hydrated is essential to keep the body functioning optimally and one’s energy preserved.

We could not survive more than a few days without fluid and this should make it clear how important it is.

But not only does an insufficient supply of water create problems with the functioning of the body and mind, it can also influence how an Empath interprets and experiences the energy of others.

Because they are often on overload, from experiencing too much emotional energy, the Empath’s filtering system does not always work as efficiently as it could and toxins stay in the body longer than they should. And due to the fact, the body is fighting with an excess of toxins, the body’s equilibrium is affected. Continue reading

Have You Been Affected by The Eclipse?

Whilst writing a post about ways to explain yourself, as an Empath, I had an overwhelming feeling that I should make a side note about the strange sensations some of you may have endured for the past month, since the solar eclipse in the USA. So, what started off as a few lines about the strange aftereffects quickly grew into several paragraphs and, for that reason, I have decided to put this out as a mini post on its own—with the originally intended post to follow in due course.

I don’t tend to write much about the effects of earth energies or solar phenomena, because there are many others far better versed on the subject than I. But, as the aftershocks of last month’s solar eclipse (which is still ongoing) has left many Sensitive folk reeling, I thought it a good idea to mention some of the symptoms you may have undergone… in case any of you are thinking you are going slightly cuckoo.

So here goes: Last month’s solar eclipse has bought up some intense emotions in people and may have also triggered waves of lethargy and a lack of inclination towards doing anything—especially usual routines.

If you have experienced unusual fatigue and a ‘can’t be bothered’ attitude towards most things, since the eclipse, it is probably a good idea to give into it and allow yourself to rest as much as possible. Put off what you don’t need to do and allow yourself guilt-free respite.  Continue reading

Ever Wondered Why You Continue to Suffer as an Empath?

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Have you tried all types of grounding or protective techniques, as an Empath, and find nothing works? Or have you found you are more negatively affected when spending time around people than you ever have been?

Have you considered the possibility that you may be suffering with leaky aura syndrome?

Most Empaths come to realize they have a leaky aura when they experience near-constant exhaustion, after spending time around people. The grounding and protection techniques, they try, don’t make any difference to how they feel or experience energy, they become overly sensitive and struggle to enjoy life.

Anyone whose auric field is congested, particularly with negative energy, may eventually develop auric permeability. But it is not just negative energy that can cause leaky aura syndrome: the biggest contributors are excessive stress, emotional pain, poor lifestyle choices, bad people, toxic environments and food.

After a lifetime of being Sensitive, and the challenges that go with it, the Empath’s body becomes less resilient (especially evident after the age of thirty). A weakened body weakens the energy field and is a major contributor to leaky aura syndrome.

The auric field is affected by your thoughts, feelings, actions and words. And because of the law of attraction, depending on the way you think and feel will determine what you draw into your life.

If as an Empath you have leaky aura syndrome, and are unaware of it, you have little control over what you attract. You will struggle to protect yourself from the low-level vibrations in your environment; they seep into your energy field even when you work to stop them. You then vibrate at this same frequency, drawing in more of the same. Continue reading

The Destructive Impact the Media has on an Empath

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As an Empath, do you feel flat, depressed or outraged after reading newspapers or online media? Do you find your emotions being triggered? Or does your mind become frazzled after spending time on online news outlets?

If you answered yes, you’re not alone. Many Empaths find themselves impacted by the streams of negativity filtered out by the media (so much so, many have to avoid them). You’ll probably agree, that in recent times it seems to be getting worse!

These days, there seems to be a never-ending stream of anxiety-inducing stories pumped out by the world’s news outlets, that only serve in causing separation, insecurity, unhappiness or hate.

As an Empath, whether you pay attention to the propaganda stirred up by the media or not, you may still be affected by the emotional energy it produces. At times, the energy of which is overwhelming.

We all know the fear mongering, used by the media, is often a tactic used to keep people controlled, distracted and divided. There is rarely any information shared that is uplifting, inspiring or ‘feel good’.

It’s as though people are being distracted from their own power… If you keep everyone preoccupied by political opinions, global disasters, wars and the ‘fabulous lives of the rich and famous’, it keeps them in a low vibrating space.  These types of stories create anger, fear or indirectly tell the world that their lives aren’t good enough or that a life of celebrity is the only way to find happiness and purpose. All of which builds negative energy and conflict!

 

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When conflicts arise, both in the media and out on the streets, a blanket of massively contagious, dark energy is produced. Which when at it’s worse is difficult to avoid, no matter how much you work on staying grounded and protected.

As I mentioned in my last post: negativity generates negativity. Negative emotions are contagious and are subliminally taken on even by those who aren’t Sensitive.

People get swept along by the irrational moods being intentionally perpetuated by the media. They breed and feed.  It is a form of gaslighting.

And because the populace is continuously fed more reasons to become fearful, infuriated or dissatisfied, and very little to feel positive and cheerful about, low-level energy continues to escalate.

So, as an Empath, even if you pay little attention to the media or the propaganda it generates, the murky energy stirred up can still leave you feeling overwhelmed, lost or alone. It can seep into your energy field, even during sleep, and its effects may show up as periods of lethargy, low or erratic moods and a sense of disconnection (especially if you are often around others who feel dissatisfied with life).

As humans, we want to find an explanation for the low moods we experience and as an Empath, it is easy to blame these dark energies on present life circumstances.

I have already written about this subject in recent months. But as it is a continuing theme, I feel it is right to discuss it again because the impact it has on an Empath can be debilitating.

Picking up on dark energy, coming from the masses, is nothing short of exhausting. It is difficult to hide from even with the best intentions.

When affected by ‘global negativity’ it prevents an Empath (and even those not of a Sensitive nature) from uncovering their true power. And if distracted from one’s true power, one cannot find the peace, happiness and balance we are meant for

Part of overcoming the low vibrational energy, constantly being stirred in the world, is to keep mind, body and spirit strong. Eat good food, exercise, meditate, stay grounded and keep clearing your energy field.

Also, if ever there was ever a time to keep your mind empowered now is it. A good way to do this, other than the aforementioned, is by focusing on all your strengths, staying positive and being grateful for the small things.

Look to find your hidden super powers and stay focused on them. Like attracts like.

What we focus our attention on grows. When we embrace our positive inner-power, that power will grow. We then project out this positive vibrant energy out into the world.

Coming Soon: Be sure to keep an eye out for my post on leaky aura syndrome and why it is impacting so many Empaths.

Until next time…

Diane

The following posts may also help:

Clear Your Energy Field: here, here and here

Stay Grounded: here, here and here

Empath Diet and Exercise: here, here and here

 

 

©Diane Kathrine

Two Days Left to Grab Your Free Copy

Hope you’re all having a fabulous weekend!

Just another quick reminder that there are just 2 days left to grab your free copy of  The Empath Awakening on Kindle. The offer ends at midnight Pacific time on Sunday the 21st August (tomorrow). The price will then return to $7.99

The book reveals the many interesting  ways of an Empath and covers subjects about what can weaken or strengthen them, including: relationships, work, stress, deceit, residual emotions and much more.

Kindle Version Empath AwakeningDiscovering you are an Empath is a day of great revelation. Finally, you have an answer for all that you feel and experience! This knowing is just the start of an incredible journey…

Understanding the gift, and all it entails, is the first step to unleashing its gentle power and truly defining yourself as an Empath!

For the newly awakened, life can be wrought with challenges and emotional pain; but it doesn’t have to be. The Empath Awakening shows you where your imbalances may hide and how to treat them. It teaches you how to heal and seal a permeable aura and unplug from unnecessary emotions. The book also imparts valuable knowledge essential for a happy, healthy  life!

You can read the book on any device from your phone, laptop or iPad although you may have to download the free Amazon Kindle App.

Click here for free Kindle download of The Empath Awakening or here for paperback version (not included on offer). Please note these links are for Amazon Kindle US. If you are from another part of the world you will have to download it from the online Amazon store in your area. Just type in The Empath Awakening by Diane Kathrine in the Amazon Kindle search bar.

Hope you enjoy…

Special Announcement: The Empath Awakening

Don’t miss out! For 5 days The Empath Awakening is free to download on Kindle from today until Sunday the 21st August.

Kindle Version Empath AwakeningDiscovering you are an Empath is a day of great revelation. Finally, you have an answer for all that you feel and experience! This knowing is just the start of an incredible journey…

Understanding the gift, and all it entails, is the first step to unleashing its gentle power and truly defining yourself as an Empath!

For the newly awakened, life can be wrought with challenges and emotional pain; but it doesn’t have to be. The Empath Awakening shows you where your imbalances may hide and how to treat them. It teaches you how to heal and seal a permeable aura and unplug from unnecessary emotions. The book also imparts valuable knowledge essential for a happy, healthy  life!

 

You can read the book on any device from your phone, laptop or iPad although you may have to download the free Amazon Kindle App.

Click here for free Kindle download of The Empath Awakening or here for paperback version (not included on offer). Pleas note these links are for Amazon Kindle US. If you are from another part of the world you will have to download it from the online Amazon store in your area. Just type in The Empath Awakening by Diane Kathrine in the Kindle search bar.

If you download the book and find the information to be helpful, I would really appreciate it if you could write a Kindle review for me. Or if you would like to offer any constructive criticism please feel free to inbox me on my FB page Empaths Empowered.

Enjoy…

Are You Unknowingly Triggered by Residual Energy?

Continuing from my last post, about how residual energy impacts the Empath, I am here sharing more information how residual energy, picked up from people, triggers an Empath.

As mentioned in my last post, residual energy has a big impact on Empaths. It can seep into their energy field and influence their thoughts and moods for days after being picked up. Anyone and everyone can leave a trail of dark lingering energy, when in a low mood, but those who affect Empaths in the most painful ways are the people who act as emotional trauma triggers (ETTs).

To those who are Sensitive, the mere mention of an ETT’s name is enough to ignite an unpleasant emotional response. But the worst reaction happens when one has spent time in their presence and their imprint has fused into one’s energy body. Continue reading

Residual Energy and How It Impacts the Empath

You have probably heard the expression “residual energy”, it is a term all Empaths become familiar with. It is often used when describing the energy remnants left in objects, places or buildings by the people who have gone before.

When a traumatic event has happened in an area it leaves a powerful imprint which Empaths can pick up on. The same can be said if there has been a lot of anger, hate or erratic emotions within a particular place.

Certain rooms in most houses will contain a host of different vibes and residual energy. Bedrooms, where confused, angry or moody teens grew up, can acquire a heavy, dense energy stain. Living-rooms, where families relax and come together, often have a laidback vibe.

Like many other Empaths, I have always sensed residual energy within buildings and locations. But I did not always know what it was I sensed. If I felt a dense energetic imprint, when I was younger, in the places I visited I immediately assumed  the space was haunted. The denser and darker the energy, the more I convinced myself a spooky spectre was lurking within the shadows (I had a big fear of ghosts in childhood). The stronger the energy the more it felt like a presence.

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But dark residual energy can indeed feel like a malevolent presence to the Empath. It certainly took me a while to distinguish between the stain left by painful emotions and that of other phenomena. Just like defining the emotional energy in others, it can be a challenge for an Empath to interpret residual energy.

Most used buildings contain a layer of residual energy — both positive and negative. Empaths pick up on these vibes rather like first impressions. We notice them at first but don’t always continue to if we visit a place often.

When a house had been filled with love and happiness it can feel like the sun is shining indoors. However, when a house has been layered with deep anguish it often feels stormy and cold. These energetic imprints can last for years after they have formed and greatly affect the ambience of a place.

Empaths are affected by dark residual energy in many different ways: Continue reading

What to Expect from Your Empath Transformation

Hope you’re all keeping really happy and healthy in your little “Empath” corners of the world.

Just a quickie to let you know the print version for 7 Secrets of the Sensitive is now available to order. You can order it here on Amazon or here on The Book Patch or here for Barnes and Noble. There’s still 24 hours to get the special eBook pre-order price (saving $12.01 on print price)

Just in case you don’t know what the book is about, here is a little of what you can expect to discover:

  • Why parts of the Empath brain overreact to emotions and learn how to stop this from happening.
  • Projection and how Empaths send out what they think and feel to others.
  • How the disruption of our chakras affect the body and mind.
  • How and why certain foods destroy the Empath’s emotional wellbeing.
  • The reason why Empaths feel everything so powerfully.
  • What the dominant and sometimes overpowering Empath gut sensations mean.
  • The overwhelming emotional overload Empaths experience and how to instantly overcome it.
  • How Empath fatigue affects life and who or what causes it.
  • Why Empaths attract certain types (including narcissists) and repel others.
  • The reason Empaths form instant dislikes for certain people.
  • Inauthentic behavior and how it weakens an Empath.
  • Trauma triggers and their causes.
  • How to recognize psychic attack and how to protect from it.
  • Thoughtbombing, what it is and how to stop it.
  • How to tell the difference between your own emotions and those which don’t belong to you.

Within ‘7 Secrets of the Sensitive – Harness the Empath’s Hidden Power’ I help you understand why you experience what you do. I show what simple steps you can take to revolutionize your life, take back your power and live the life for which you were destined. As an Empath you deserve an incredible happy life!

If you do happen do purchase a copy I would just like to say a huge thank you and I look forward to it helping transform your Empath life!

Until next time…

Diane

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5 Easy Ways to Stop Empath Overwhelm

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Every Empath experiences it at some point and it is one of the most challenging aspects of being Sensitive. The overwhelm endured, from taking on too much emotional energy from others can,  at times, be unbearable.

Empath overwhelm is often caused by being “peopled”. But being around crowded places or overly negative people is not the only way an Empath becomes overwhelmed.

When someone has caused hurt, by their words or actions, or if the Empath has had negative thoughts directed towards them  it often throws them completely off-balance, sending them nose-diving into overload. And that is not to mention what they suffer from being in the firing line of another’s low-mood.

The more out of alignment the Empath (feeling run down, emotionally low, having unbalanced chakras and hormones, etc.) the worst they will be affected by overwhelm and the longer it will last.

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Empath overwhelm affects everyone differently, some much worse than others, at different stages of life. It causes lethargy, apathy and mood swings, and can  trigger thoughts that keep you awake at night and dark emotions that reduce  your verve for life.

The best way to combat the impact of overwhelm is to ‘nip it in the bud’ as soon as you become aware of it. The following techniques work quickly to stop Empath overwhelm in its tracks:

1. Eat a small amount of chocolate:

I say small amount because large amounts have the opposite effect (I discovered this the delicious way, by devouring too much).

Chocolate can transform and uplift your mood in an instant. Containing compounds which promote happiness, chocolate is the go-to food when you have been emotionally or energetically triggered.

Serotonin is a neurotransmitter, produced by eating chocolate, known as the happy hormone. This hormone not only activates your bliss centers but it also helps refrain you from dipping into dark thoughts.

In my opinion, milk chocolate tends to work better than dark (as dark chocolate has a higher amount of caffeine). But the type you choose is something you can experiment with yourself. Most chocolate contains refined sugar which is a big cause of depression, and inflammation, not just in Empaths but all humans. So keep chocolate just for the times when you’ve been hit by emotional overload.

Eat between 2 to 4 small squares of chocolate, washed down with a pint of cool water. The water speeds up the healing and re-balancing process. 

2. Temple hold:

Place two to three fingers on either side of the temples (between the eyebrows and hairline) and hold for as long as needed.

This simple technique helps break the repetitive thoughts that are triggered from emotional pain and overwhelm. It also works to block the dense feelings they cause.

I’m not sure why this method works but it does. (I suspect it is because it activates acupressure points and soothes the parts of the brain responsible for emotions.) It makes one feel safe and helps contain any excess ‘head energy’.

Great to do at bedtime, when emotional overwhelm turns into rampant thoughts that keep you awake. Taking some calming, conscious breaths at the same time further helps.

3. Short burst of high intensity exercise: 

A mini power-walk or run, dynamic yoga moves, dance routines or skipping, etc.  helps burn off raging or uncomfortable emotions. I’m talking very doable bursts of exercise that last between 1 to 5 minutes.

Performing short bursts of high intensity exercise releases endorphins into the body which block the pain transmission signals and produce euphoric feelings that calm the entire system.

A great exercise I use, when I have been emotionally fired-up, is the plank. Most will have heard of the plank; it is a challenging yoga move that activates all the muscles in the body. Maintaining it for just 30 seconds is often all it takes to blast out any negative energy.

There is a variation of the plank to do whatever your fitness level, from beginners and beyond. You will find plenty of excellent instructional videos on YouTube to get you started.

Whatever exercise you choose, as your mini blast, make sure to do something that makes you feel uncomfortable and your muscles burn. (The saying ‘fight fire with fire’ springs to mind here).

See 7 Secrets for more on the transformative power of specific exercises and the healing hormones they release.

4. Singing:

This may not be something you want to do when feeling low, but it is excellent for lifting the moods. Sound affects you on many levels and singing raises your vibration and can stop emotional overwhelm in its tracks.

Anyone can sing, hum or chant, even whistling works. Just make sure the song you chose is uplifting and not one that stokes up painful emotional memories.  Try it and see.

5. Avoid caffeine:

Being a stimulant, caffeine will heighten any emotional overwhelm you are experiencing. You don’t always realize how caffeine worsens your emotions because the effects kick in 30 to 40 minutes after consumption.  It can make you anxious and jittery and anything you feel negatively inside is amplified. Not having caffeine will not always prevent emotional overload but it significantly reduces the symptoms and the way it affects you.

So there you go, quick, simple techniques, taken from the book 7 Secrets of the Sensitive, that work to reduce the Empath’s overwhelm! For more similar techniques see 10 Ways to Protect Yourself.

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Until next time

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

 


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Clear Your Empath Emotions with Tapping

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You have probably heard about the emotional freedom technique (EFT), known as Tapping, but did you know it could help balance your Empath emotions?

The premise of EFT is that by tapping certain acupressure/meridian points on the face and body it releases blocked energy and suppressed emotions. Tapping is also known to help with addictions, chronic pain, insomnia, anxiety and for calming persistent thoughts.

The concept of Tapping was derived from the Eastern medicinal systems of acupuncture and acupressure. Both of which use the body’s meridian points to aid in healing. It is claimed that by tapping the acupressure points, with your fingertips, it activates your body’s innate healing power.

For those Empaths who dislike meditation this may be an excellent alternative!

The repetitious practice of Tapping is meditative. Any meditative practice, which stills an Empath’s busy mind and calms their emotions, is of value. Just like meditation, Tapping is a practice one has to build to see the best results. It is said that EFT can calm, and heal, the most powerful of emotions or emotional memories.

It will always be beneficial for the evolving Empath to try new ways of staying in balance.  When you stay in control of your thoughts and emotions it allows you to live happily and without restriction in your own little corner of the world. And for this reason, it is worth giving EFT a try.

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What is Smudging and How Can it Help Empaths?

burning sage sticksYou may have heard of ‘smudging’ but are not quite sure what it is or how it can help you as an Empath.

So what is smudging?

Basically, smudging is the practice of burning of herbs and using the smoke to remove negative energy from people, places or objects.

For the Empath, smudging can be a great tool. It is a quick and easy method to help remove negative energies picked up when being out and about in ‘peopled places’ or just to clear one’s energy field.

Smudging has been used for centuries all over the world. Today it is mainly associated with Native North Americans who use it in their healing ceremonies. However, many other countries burn herbs for cleansing:

In India they use incense, in Chinese acupuncture Mugwort is used, in Africa varied herbs are burnt, even the Christian Church burn herbs in their ceremonies. And although many of these actions have become ritualized, their basis stemmed from using smoke to remove negative energy. Continue reading

Knowing It’s Ok to Let Go of Toxic Friends & Family

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There always comes a point in an Empath’s life where they have to re-evaluate their relationships.

Being in harmony with people is essential to an Empath’s health and wellbeing. Most people invoke emotional responses at some point and it is often the kindest of people who carry the most pain.

Yet feeling another’s pain is nothing compared to what a toxic person can make you endure.

Most Empaths have at least one person in their life who cause them a wave of  negative emotions, just by being in their presence. These people, who may be a friend or family member, seem to spew acid when they talk: they complain about everything, appreciate nothing and only look out for their own interests.

Toxic people drain your energy within a matter of minutes. Even self-protection techniques may not work to prevent their dark vibes seeping in. Complete avoidance is often the only way.

 Typical sensations experienced when with toxic people:

  • Anger or feelings of bitterness: This can last for the duration of being in their presence and up to 10 days after. Depending on their negative traits will depend on what you feel.
  • Fatigue: Struggling to keep your eyes open, especially if they are venting.
  • Being out of sorts: A range of strange feelings wash over you, from being spaced out, to nausea.
  • Negative talk: Finding yourself talking negatively of others, even though it is not a typical trait of yours.
  • Apathy: Losing all previous zest and optimism.

If you have a toxic person in your life you  may have already tried helping them by sharing what has helped you, in dealing with the rigours of life. Sadly, they did not want to listen and have no intentions of making any changes to themselves, preferring to continue to offload their negative rants on you.

The Empath never wants to hurt or cause unnecessary pain to others, and it is for this reason many keep in their lives those who cause unhappiness. Yet, one must always put the emotional health of self first.

If a food or substance made you violently ill, or caused you to feel depressed, you would likely avoid it; the same should be applied to those who cause emotional turmoil.

We have a responsibility to keep our body and mind healthy. If another continually causes stress (all stress eventually leads to illness) the only option is often to remove them from our life.

I am not talking about having the ego dented by another’s random disrespect. Everyone has people who offend, hurt or make them angry, by their lack of understanding. And we in turn will no doubt, unknowingly, do the same to others. This issue is about those toxic friends, or family members, who repetitively (and often intentionally) bring you down.

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The point comes in all toxic friendships when you have to decide if it is causing more harm than good. Here are some questions to ask that may help you evaluate your friend/relationship and hopefully help you see if it is a healthy one:

  •  Am I taking anything from this friend/relationship?
  • Does spending time with him/her make me happy?
  • Do I dread being in his/her presence?
  • When was the last time I enjoyed being in his/her company?
  • Do we have any of the same interests?
  • Is it a one-sided friendship with me fitting in with his/her needs?
  • Does this relationship affect my emotional health?
  • Do I feel ill, emotionally drained or intense negative emotions after being with him/her?
  • Am I being used as an emotional dumping ground?
  • Does he/she have a lot of negative thoughts or anger towards me?
  • Am I learning anything from spending time with him/her?
  • Is being in this relationship making me grow spiritually, emotionally or other?
  • Is this relationship beneficial to either of us?
  • Has he/she become dependent upon me?
  • What are my real reasons for staying in this relationship?

I must point out that not all toxic relationships are destructive. There are many reasons we encounter toxic people. A common reason being the Mirror of the Empath Effect. Certain encounters act as a mirror and show us weaknesses or issues we need to resolve within ourselves.

Any undesirable behaviour that repeats, in any type of relationship, is something that needs to be investigated. Repetition highlights flaws or issues that need to be worked on and learnt from.

We all learn from the bad situations presented in life. Yet if the same emotional scenarios keep playing out no one is gaining, learning or growing from the situation and it is time to cut the cord.

Once you have learned from an experience you don’t need to re-learn it over and over. You may learn from bad experiences, but you don’t need to keep experiencing other people’s negativity to grow.

This is not about being spiteful or uncaring. You can be grateful to a toxic person for all they have shown you in life and send them love. But when it feels time to let them go, it is.

I have attached a link to an article I came across quite randomly whilst writing this post and offers another writer’s perspective on ways to deal with toxic people, and although it is not written with the Empath in mind, it is worth a read.

If you want to learn more about restructuring your life as an Empath, and harnessing your hidden power, you may want to read this.

Hope this helps on your Empath Journey.

Until next time…

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©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

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The Incredible Gift of Empath Feeling

The main aspect of being an Empath is that they can feel, and often experience, the emotions of others. The Empath can tell when another is feeling nervous, when one is angry or sad. They enter shopping centres, or busy peopled places, and feel an array of strange sensations, that are coming off others, wash over them. This is due to their gift of being able to feel…

Granted, not all Empaths consider the ability to experience every Tom, Dick and Harry’s emotional energy as a gift. In fact, some would say quite the opposite. But that is often because they haven’t either  yet figured out what it’s for or they still have their own issues or physical imbalances to work through (which may take some time).

Before they become aware of their birthright, some Empaths may not give much thought to all they experience, energetically, because what they feel happens so naturally. It is not something they force, nor do they have to work at it. They may go through life assuming everyone experiences the same ‘stuff, not realizing what they ‘feel’ is unique to them and part of Empath life.

But once the Empath’s eyes are open to their incredible traits and abilities they have, they can’t unsee them. All those ‘feelings’ finally have an explanation.

Other than their ability to sense the emotions of others, most Empaths also have incredible intuition…

Empath intuition comes in many forms, but for most it comes as strong gut sensations, having the ability to read others, or just having a ‘knowing’ about future outcomes.

Empath intuition can be developed (see this post for more details), if that’s what one wants, but a good place to start is just to listen to what you already have.

Some ignore their gut-feelings (Knowing) for many reasons: Maybe they want to see the best in others, or perhaps they don’t believe in their intuition as much as they should. But every Empaths gut-feelings are there to warn, serve and protect from experiencing anything they don’t need to (you already take on enough as it is).

The strong sense of intuition an Empath has is both their guide and their best friend.

They may question their intuition, especially if it does not fit in with what their mind wants, but they would be wise to listen to it.

Strong urges, feelings, premonitions or notions in any shape or form, happen for a reason and it is in one’s best interest to take heed of them.

The reason behind them may not be revealed for days, weeks, months or even years but they will have a purpose that will eventually reveal itself. For more information on tuning into Empath intuition see this post.

Another one of the many traits an Empath has is the ability to feel the energy of the days of the week.

If you love the energy of a Saturday morning, because of it feels calm, peaceful and uplifting but are not so keen on the energy of Sunday evening, there’s a reason for that too…

Empaths pick up on collective energy.

The start of the weekend, when the majority are off work, can feel deliciously freeing. Late weekends, however, (Sunday evening for example) has that heavy vibe as people prepare to return to jobs they dislike or even dread doing.

Some Empaths will blame their workday feelings on their own job dissatisfaction, not realizing they are picking up on the energy of those around them.

But not only do some Empaths have the ability to feel energy but they can also see it.

I remember, from an early age, seeing energy fields (auras), around the animate and inanimate, without even trying.

I loved lying on the grass, on a warm summer’s day, and watching the hazy energy around the trees as they swayed gently in the breeze.  I assumed this was something everyone could see/do.

It was only in adulthood, that I discovered not everyone could see energy fields. I realized it was just another trait of being Sensitive to energy.

The Empath’s ability to see or feel energy can strengthen or weaken with passing years, depending on life circumstances. But they have these traits for a reason, and a great part of Empath life is figuring them out and learning how they can guide them towards the life they were born to lead.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time

Diane

©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered