5 Ways to Make Your Spirit Soar

dove-wallpaper-13After I wrote the post, ‘Surviving Christmas’, I decided I wanted try to put myself in the frame of mind where I could align with the more positive aspect of Christmas, without getting involved in the commercial side, and hopefully make December a much more enjoyable month.

Although I have not been keen on the festive season these past years, I still enjoyed a good Christmas film. I realize that some may see them as being cheesy or fake, but I find there is something magical and uplifting about Christmas films. For some reason, I feel emotionally uplifted and motivated to be a better person after watching one.

It was after watching the film, Scrooged with Bill Murray, earlier in the month that I questioned as to why I like the films, but don’t care much for the season. And then it came to me, Xmas films are never about the stress, the debt or overindulgence that Christmas creates, but about doing good for others, forgiveness, turning one’s life around or finding love. So, with this in mind I had a little think about how I could reclaim my Christmas spirit without following ‘standard protocol’ and this is what I came up with:

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The Powerful Grounding, Protecting and Mirroring Properties of Haematite

haematite stonesMost Empaths and Sensitives will have a ‘thing’ for the crystal kingdom in some way or other. We can be drawn to crystals for many reasons, but especially for their beauty, texture, colour and the powerful vibrations they emit.

There are hundreds of different types of crystals all with countless healing properties but today I am focusing on one stone that, for very good reason, I’ve been drawn to lately…Haematite.

For the Empath, Haematite is a very powerful stone that has many helpful qualities. It is known as the grounding stone of grounding stones! It is also protecting and has a strong mirroring effect.

Haematite has the ability to both balance your energy and raise your vibration, lifting you up energetically, whilst still keeping you grounded. And one thing all Empaths need is to stay grounded! Continue reading

Why Empaths Need Protection

umbrella-protection--logistics-symbol_318-36130You may have noticed that I have written about protection, healing or grounding methods, for the Empath, lately and there is a very good reason for this.

There are some major changes/shifts going on, energetically, that are affecting all of us (humans) on many levels and these changes are bringing about a lot of pain, emotional disruptions and repetitive, negative thought patterns.

Generally, when there are major energy shifts all Empaths, HSPs and anyone of a Sensitive nature get clobbered from all directions.

If you are feeling like you are going seriously cuckoo with all the energies and emotions you are processing it is probably a good time to pull out your ‘protective-tools arsenal’ and start experimenting with different techniques. Especially, if you have a daily protection ritual that you are finding isn’t working so well. Continue reading

10 Ways Empaths can Protect Themselves from Other People’s Energy

For the Empath, being out in public can be a traumatizing time that can leave one feeling floored and out of sorts. Simply nipping to the shops can mean we end up wearing someone else’s energy for the rest of the day; which isn’t such a bad thing if the energy is positive and highly charged. However, more often than not, it is the not-so-nice energy that clings to us and follows us home.

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I have found that the best way to protect myself when out in public is by taking preëmptive measures as well as having a few tactics to pull out of the bag when needed. I am sharing here with you some that I have found to be the most effective:

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Traits of Sensitive People

Whilst doing a spot of cleaning the other day a book, I had read some ago and had the intention of writing a post about, fell open on the floor. The book in question is ‘Quiet’, by Susan Cain and it is her research and findings about the introverts of the world, famous and not so. It is a book I highly recommend to all you Empaths out there, as it gives a fair few ‘aha’ moments for many of our traits. It explains, for example, such subjects as to why introverts have the tendency to lose their short-term memory when overstimulated or by being put on ‘the spot.’

Anyway, getting back to what I was saying: I picked up said book and found it wedged open on page 136, which I duly read.  Page 136 makes reference to traits of highly sensitive people as compiled by Dr. Elaine Aron, a research psychologist. This list will probably be of interest to the introvert Empaths of the world and gives a physiological basis for the traits of Sensitivity…

Whilst researching the inner behaviour of sensitive people, especially those who did not like to be in social situations, Dr Aron found out some fascinating tendencies. She interviewed 39 people who described themselves as being either introverted or easily overwhelmed by external stimulation and asked them many varied questions, such as their film preferences, creative activities, relationships with family and friends, philosophical and religious views. Based on these interviews and further research she came up with a compilation of 27 attributes of the ‘highly sensitive person’.

Here is a sampling of some of those attributes… see if you can lay claim to any, if not all of them (it is interesting to note that this list has some similarities to my 30 Traits of an Empath):

  • Highly sensitive people tend to be keen observers who look before they leap.
  • They arrange their lives in ways that limit surprises.
  • Sensitive to sights, sounds, smells, pain, and stimulants such as coffee.
  • Have difficulty when being observed or judged for general worthiness.
  • Tendency to be philosophical or spiritual in their orientation, rather than being materialistic.
  • Dislike being engaged in small talk.
  • Describe themselves as being creative or intuitive.
  • Dream vividly and have good dream recall.
  • Love music, art, nature and physical beauty.
  • Feel exceptionally strong emotions, such as acute bouts of joy, sorrow, melancholy and fear.
  • Process information about their environments, both physical and emotional, very deeply.
  • Notice subtleties: such as another person’s shift in mood or a light bulb burning too brightly.
  • Tend to have unusually strong consciences.
  • Dislike or avoid violent films and TV shows.
  • Acutely aware of the consequences of their own behaviour.
  • In social settings they often focus on subjects like the personal problems of others.

Through Aron’s (and other scientists) research, it has been found that the amygdala (a part of the brain which plays a huge part in processing emotions) becomes strongly activated in highly sensitive people, far more so than those not of a sensitive nature, when exposed to other human suffering or pain (picking up their emotions), even just being shown pictures of people in pain is enough to trigger this response. Because of this, highly sensitive people have no choice but to feel what others feel.

Aron also found that most introverts, but not all, are highly sensitive…or in other words they’re Empaths!

To find if you are an introvert, and what type click here to take the Briggs Meyers personality test.

Here is another post which may be of interest on getting over-stimulated

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Benefits of Meditation for The Empath

chibi_buddha_144332For an Empath, learning to control the mind is prerequisite to a happy, healthy life. It is after all our thoughts that create our outlook on reality. The way we think about anything is how we feel about it, as our thoughts and feelings are interconnected.

Our thoughts are a catalyst to building feelings of anger, fear, sadness etc. Yet, what some don’t realise is we do have a choice over our thoughts, but only when one is in control of them.

A busy mind has one thought after another flowing through. It is said that the average person has about 35 thoughts a minute. Our thoughts can keep us up at night and wake us in the morning. They take over our mind when we are driving (how often have you got somewhere without remembering the journey?) and they stop us from seeing what is going on around us. They distract us from life.

Being able to still the mind takes time and effort, but in doing so, you are allowing time for you. It does not mean you will never have thoughts again; you will simply be able to stop the thoughts that create painful emotions. This is essential to an Empath, who soaks up other people’s emotions like a sponge. Once a thought becomes attached to the emotions absorbed off others, you claim full ownership of them.

The best thing for stilling an overly busy mind and gaining control of your thoughts is some type of meditation.

There are many types of meditation you can try, that don’t always involve sitting on the floor in lotus position, and there will always be a type to suit the person: chanting, breath-work, visualisation, trance etc.

You don’t have to stay in doors either, you can do a walking meditation, where you externalise your awareness and really focus on everything around you, e.g.: your feet on the grass as you walk or the trees and clouds in the sky above you.

When practised with awareness, yoga is a moving meditation which unites body, mind and spirit and is a good option for those who do not like to sit still ;).

Unlike in relaxation, you don’t want to fall asleep in meditation. This is the time to control a busy mind; if you fall asleep, you lose that opportunity.

Our ego will always put up a fight to stay in control of the mind. When you first sit down to meditate, you will find that the world and his wife have taken up residence in your mind, all fighting to say their bit. This is entirely normal, albeit somewhat frustrating. This is just like turbulence on a plane, if you push through, you will climb above it and then all will become calm, smooth and serene.

A regular meditation practise is essential if you want to reap the full benefits because, as with anything in life, good things don’t happen overnight. Great things take time to develop.

Not only is meditation a must for gaining control of the mind, it is also anti-ageing, de-stressing to the body and an aid to sleep, especially when done in darkness.

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Meditating in darkness is a precursor to the release of melatonin. Melatonin is known as the anti-ageing hormone and is produced by the pineal gland (area of third eye) in the darkness.

What Does Melatonin Do?

Melatonin is a naturally occurring hormone that regulates the sleep cycle. It is an antioxidant and anti-inflammatory and helps prevent, and treat, many illnesses including cancer. Those suffering insomnia and with sleeping difficulties are thought to have a melatonin deficiency.

The immune system does most of its work at night and is believed to be interlinked with production of melatonin. When melatonin levels are suppressed, illness  occurs.

As we age our melatonin production decreases. Scientists believe this reduction is interrelated to ageing and age-related disorders.

To produce more melatonin we need spend more time in complete darkness. However, these days there is so much light pollution that sleeping in darkness is not so easy to do anymore. Because of the street lights, even with the curtains closed, our bedrooms tend to stay on the light side. This will hinder the production of melatonin and lead to a less than restful night’s sleep.

Studies have shown that meditation, done in complete darkness, before bedtime increases production of melatonin and produces enough to last the night. This can be further aided by focusing on the third eye (centre of forehead) during meditation; this will stimulate the pineal gland (melatonin producer) and allows the body to be filled with melatonin.

To begin a meditation practise it is best to plan a set time everyday. Perhaps start with 10 minutes and then build to twenty or thirty. Having no distractions is important. If you think someone will walk in and disturb you, that’s all you’ll think about when you’re supposed to be meditating. If there is a lot of external noise, pop some earphones in and play some gentle music, or listen to a guided meditation… It’s all good…

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Navigating Psychic Attack for The Empath

There are many forms of psychic attack, the one I’m making reference to here is the negatively charged energetic vibrations sent from one person to another through dark thought forms.

It can be tricky to discern between the emotions our own thoughts have created, by pondering a painful subject from the past, and that when we are under psychic attack.

Most people would not feel the dark thoughts others have about them. However, this is not the case for those of a Sensitive nature. If another is having reoccurring bad thoughts towards the Empath, it turns into a full-blown psychic attack.

The times we are in are creating many imbalances within humans, mentally and physically, and it is those of us who are Sensitive getting the backlash.

Who will it be coming from? Generally, a psychic attack will come from family members, not necessarily blood related, friends who are close or once used to be, or work colleagues.

How can you tell when being attacked? When under psychic attack the telltale signs are repeating negative thought patterns surrounding one person. For example: a certain friend (the one thinking and thus sending bad thoughts) will keep popping in your mind along with negatively charged feelings, throughout the course of the day or days. You may wake up thinking angry thoughts towards this person, when you have had no recent contact with them or reason to be feeling angry with them. However, one will always manage to link the negatively charged feelings to an unhappy past situation and therefore falsely believe one is responsible for creating the angry thoughts.

When under attack, the one thinking/sending the dark thoughts does not necessarily know that you are on the receiving end of their menacing musings. The most likely explanation is that the said person is going through a difficult time in life and is filled with turbulently vexed emotions. Instead of taking responsibility and finding the true cause for their troubles, they lash out and project blame onto others for their unhappiness, through their thoughts. (You will probably not be the only one the thoughts are directed at, but you will probably be the only one feeling them.)

What should you do when you sense a psychic attack? You have to nip it in the bud straight away and this means not indulging in any of the dark thoughts or emotions you are experiencing, which has to be said, is not easy to do. By engaging the thoughts you then become part of the problem.

The Empath has the power to project angry thoughts back to the source without even realising it and in doing so, can unintentionally open a two-way psychic battleground with angry thoughts flying back and forth. It can go on for days and in these cases, the Empath will always come off worse.

More than any other, Empaths have to be cautious of what they project out into the world in the way of gloomy, angry or irrational thought forms. What goes out, will have the tendency to come back amplified. (The positive flip side to this is the return of projecting positive, happy, love-filled thoughts out into the world).

You may have noticed that your moods can be projected onto others. If feeling happy you can lift others up and if feeling sad, you can see it wash over others. Even your tiredness or stumbling over words can be projected onto another. So yes, Empaths take on negative, energetic vibrations from others, but they can also powerfully, project them back out.

How do we stop ourselves engaging in dark thoughts? The easiest way is to do this is distract yourself the moment you notice dark thought forms repeatedly going back to the same person. You may have already discovered your own way to do this but making noise in your head can really help: singing, humming, chanting etc. Just like plugging in your ears and singing loudly blocks out external sounds, I’ve found this helps with outside thoughts too.

How can we protect ourselves from psychic attack? Build up a strong energy-field (aura or energetic body). Being weak, physically or mentally, will automatically weaken your energy-field. Our energy-field is our ‘invisible’ shield which helps to protect us from outside ‘invisible’ influences, such as negative thoughts and emotions.

Suppressed emotions, poor diet, lack of exercise, a busy head, illness and emotional pain can all contribute to weakening our energetic body. If you suspect you have been on the receiving end of psychic attack it may be a good time to reevaluate your lifestyle. By strengthening the body and mind will in turn strengthen our energy-field and thus help ward off psychic attack.

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Empaths Transform Your Life!

I have already written about the devastating effects wheat has on the body and mind. And, after more in-depth research, I will expand on the reasons behind this and take a look at how gluten is being linked back to most disease.

This information is important for the health of anyone, but especially to those of a Sensitive nature who are already vulnerable to the afflictions caused by external energies.

I feel it is vital that everyone, particularly Empaths, are made aware of just how toxic wheat and gluten is to the system. Simply by removing it from the diet can have a huge transformation on one’s all round mental and physical health.

Everyone will benefit from removing wheat, and even gluten, from their diet. Particularly if they suffer from any kind of depressive illness or are introverted to the point of not wanting to venture out into the world. Click here to check any symptoms you may have against those caused by wheat.

Last year I gave up wheat and it is one of the best things I have done for my health and wellbeing. If you too want to see big changes in your health and happiness, and I mean changes, why not try the 4 week elimination challenge.

If you are unsure whether you can give up the dreaded grain for even just a month read on, you may just change your mind.

How wheat was changed

The wheat we consume today is nothing like our grandparents feasted on. It is now the product of genetic manipulation and these changes began as far back as 1935 when genes for semi-dwarf wheat were first bred.

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Dwarfing the wheat genes enabled greater seed production. And, because dwarf wheat only grows to a height of two feet, instead of the usual four, it made it less prone to wind damage.

By the 1970s this semi-dwarf wheat was being successfully farmed in Mexico, India and Pakistan. By 1985 much of the Western world was producing semi-dwarf wheat and by 1997, 81% of the developing world had introduced this crop.

Although the sole intention of genetic crossbreeding of wheat was to give greater yield, thus ending world famine, it also changed components of the wheat protein known as gliadin, which caused many problems to the human body.

To try and explain this as un-technically as possible:

Gliadin is a lectin and a part of wheatgerm and gluten. Lectins are proteins that are found within plants and animals; they do the same job of antibodies within the human body, fighting off foreign invaders such as bacteria.

Stomach acid has little effect on lectins - they are virtually indigestible! So, if a person has consumed wheat, the lectins move into the intestine undigested. Our intestinal tract knows exactly how to filter waste and extract nourishment; it knows toxins and bacteria from the nutrients our bodies need to feed its vital cells.

Lectins have the capacity to switch off this filtering service and disturb the intestines ability to act as a filter. The colon then becomes permeable or leaky and allows toxins into the body that have no right to be there. These toxins wreak havoc on our physical systems and can show up in any part of the body from: inflammation of the gut and bowel disease, arthritis, dermatitis, acid reflux, asthma, eczema, inflammation of the organs, imbalance in the endocrine system (system which secrete hormones into bloodstream), chronic fatigue, weight gain/loss and joint pain. But those ailments are just the tip of the iceberg.

Another symptom related to the changes in wheat is the scourge of depression that has been on the rise since the mid eighties; coincidentally around the time genetically mutated wheat became abundant and a staple at every meal.

In the 1950s it was estimated that no more than 50 to a 100 people out of a million had the need for antidepressants; that figure stands today at 1 in 10!

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More than 40 million people worldwide are now taking antidepressants. According to The National Centre for Health Statistics, in America alone, the use of antidepressants increased by 400% between 1988 and 1994 and numbers have continued to escalate since then.

It has been scientifically proven that wheat can change our personality and behaviour! In tests, wheat was put through the process of digestion. It was found when wheat broke down, during digestion, it did so into many small proteins. These small proteins had the ability to cross the blood-brain barrier and bind themselves to the opiate receptors of the brain, having the effect of creating behavioural changes such as paranoia and depression.

The opiate effect of wheat is similar to that of narcotics, but without the pleasurable high and it is addictive, so addictive that it will give withdrawal symptoms soon after elimination. To some, the very notion of giving up wheat (bread, cakes, pasta and pizza) fills them with dread, even anger, that is just the addiction talking.

Once eliminated from the diet, the desire for wheat foods disappears completely. For some it may take days for others a couple of weeks. However, the addiction will return if wheat is reintroduced, as well as some other nasty effects.

Gluten

It is recently coming to light that 7 out of 10 people are gluten intolerant. However, gluten intolerance does not always show up in tests. In fact, a whopping 70% of those tested will get a misdiagnosis and be told they are safe to eat gluten when they are intolerant.

Traces of gluten can be found in most grains. However, it is highest in wheat, barley and rye.

Many people wrongly assume that if they do not have bowel problems they cannot be gluten intolerant. Bowel problems are one of the last signs of intolerance.

Symptoms can shift and change over the course on one’s life. In childhood, gluten intolerance may be seen as asthma or eczema, in teenage years acne or introversion and adulthood anything from depression to backache to cold-sores or clumsiness. There are hundreds of ailments linked to it. The longer gluten is in the diet, if you are intolerant, the more destructive it becomes. It is now becoming known that most human disease can be traced back to gluten.

It is probably safe to say that if you are one who has had random disorders of the body and mind popping up throughout life or, and especially, if you suffer chronic fatigue, you could be gluten sensitive.

You could go and get a test, but as already mentioned, 70% will get a false negative. The best way to find out is through elimination. Why not use ‘Stoptober October’ to find out for yourself. You will feel happier and healthier and you will probably lose weight.

Please note that if you are planning on going gluten or wheat-free, try to avoid all, or most of, their replacements as they have no health benefits. They are ‘chemicals in a can’ or pack or bag, and will serve in spiking your blood-sugar levels, which opens another can of worms.

It does not have to be difficult. There are lots of websites directed towards a gluten-free lifestyle, detailing healthy and delicious ways to eat for all the family. 

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AN EMPATH’S GUIDE TO LIVING IN THE WORLD

 Living in this heavily populated world, Empaths are faced with many energetic challenges. If it is not having others dump their negative energies on them, they are being drained of their vital energy. Simply being out in public places can be enough to suck their life-force dry, or just by being in the presence of a certain family member can be the reason behind a weeks worth of energy and emotional clearing.

Learning to set energetic boundaries is, of course, a given for those of a Sensitive nature and for many Empaths they are hardwired into automatically doing this. However, sometimes life just gets in the way and we may need gentle reminders as to what we could be doing to protect ourselves and thus make life more enjoyable. Then there are the newly learned Empaths, who have only just discovered of their birthright and are in search of as much information as they can get feast their eyes upon, to help them deal with the rigours of life.

To Block or Not to Block That is The Question.

For Empaths wanting to block out all external emotions and energies would no doubt be a priority. However, it is not always that cut and dry. For one thing, she might have already tried every energy-blocking technique known to man, without any success. And then there is the question of why is it Empaths feel and take on what they do, emotionally, is it not for a purpose? In taking on these negative energies are they not helping rid the world of them? The answer to that question is debatable and it may well be that there is no answer, or can only be answered by opinions. However, Empaths need to learn how to protect themselves from wayward energies so that they can continue to function in everyday life.

Out and About

If you are one who finds being in public areas, such as shopping malls and cinemas, unbearable, to the point of avoiding them at all costs, there are some techniques you could try that may help when you venture into people-packed-places.

When an Empath is alone in people-congested areas, they can soak up the any negatively charged energies no sooner than having stepped over the building’s threshold. Being with another person (of whom you are energetically compatible) will act as a buffer and help diffuse the energies and lessen the incoming impact. It will also serve as a pleasant distraction and take your mind off what you are feeling. Chances are, after the shopping trip or outing, you may still feel drained but your experience will have been a much more pleasant one.

If taking a friend or family member is not possible, finding a grounding technique that works for you and using it before going out is essential. Below are some you could try:

Power Poses

A power pose is generally anything that fully opens the body and can be as simple as opening up one’s arms wide (so your body is in the shape of a cross) and taking long slow breaths through the nose. Holding a gentle smile is further empowering.

If you are familiar with yoga, a Starfish pose (standing with wide legs and arms) is ideal, as is a Warrior pose with open arms. Holding the power pose for a couple of minutes prior to leaving home or entering an energy-hostile environment will serve in uplifting and expanding one’s energy field. This is opposed to how an Empath would normally go out into the world, wanting to be small and invisible.

Grounding Visualisations

These can be anything from visualising roots coming from your feet grounding you to the earth to mentally building a halo of white light around your body and expanding it with your breath. Take a couple of minutes to quieten the mind before attempting.

Affirmations

Positive mini-declarations repeated in the mind can serve in being uplifting, empowering and protective. Statements such as: I can do it, I will do it, can instantly and positively change your mindset and thus make one better equipped to handle incoming energies. Find one that works for you, suitable for the time and place.

Music Therapy

Taking your music and earphones can be a huge help when out and about. Listening to music you love creates an inner-expansion, uplifts and creates a ‘bliss bubble’ around you. It can enable you to glide through public-places seemingly unaffected. However, it is best to get into the ‘music zone’ before entering a peopled place.

Breath-work

Please see this post for  various breathing techniques.

There are many other grounding and mind quietening methods available, such as meditation, that require a committed, daily practise to reap the full benefits.  The above methods are what can be done in a hurry or simply when one is feeling out of sorts. You may need to play around with different techniques to find that which works for you. For example, there is no point visualising yourself engulfed in a halo of white light if you do not believe it really works.

Bedtime

If you are one who doesn’t like sleep-snuggling or having to sleep close to your partner in bed, no matter how much you love them, you are not alone. Having sleeping-space is essential for the Empath.  Most Empaths will loathe having anyone get in their ‘energy-space’, day or night, but as sleep-time is crucial for recharging, it is even more important that they are allowed it.

If you share a bed, and it is not possible for you to have your own bedroom, opt for the largest size bed available, if space permits.

If you still struggle sleeping near your partner or wake-up feeling drained, use one of the above grounding techniques and adapt them to bedtime mode.

Eating

Know your food and how it affects you. Listen to what your body is telling you as to what is and isn’t right for you. If, for example, you have a nagging feeling that dairy is causing you to have an allergic reaction, you could try the 30 day exclusion challenge, to see if it is. This involves abstaining from all dairy (or whatever you suspect does not agree with you, be it wheat, sugar, alcohol or meat) for 30 days. Then, after that time, gradually introduce it back into your diet. If you have a big reaction to it, you know that you are intolerant, allergic or energetically incompatible and probably best removing it from your diet.

Over a period of about 15 years, I’ve tried many eating and exercise plans. I have tried and trained in many holistic therapies and healing, and researched the benefits of nutrients. I always believed that the answers to my healing lay in the metaphysical, and if I made myself more ‘spiritual’ I would find life easier… I hadn’t taken into consideration that it didn’t matter how many hours I sat in meditation or doing yoga or how many spiritual texts I read, if I was putting poison into my physical body, no amount of meditation or spiritual awareness was going to balance me. Of everything I have tried over the years, holistically, spiritually and energetically, the most profound changes happened to me when I changed my diet!

I have written about benefits of changing the diet before (and will no doubt again), but as I consider it to be one of the best things we can do to aid physical healing and spiritual growth, especially for Sensitives, I will keep spreading the word. We may all be very different, with different spiritual, nutritional and physical requirements, but none of us will benefit from taking drugs or eating drug-like food…

Empaths will react more to drug-like foods than those not of a sensitive nature, because we tend to be highly reactive. High reactive people will taste the bitterness in lemons more than others, feel emotional and physical pain more, go red in the face easier and be affected by drugs and alcohol worse than those who are not highly reactive.

High reactives are very responsive to different vibrations of energy. Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies and that includes food, drugs or alcohol: the faster the vibration, the higher the frequency. Empaths can be negatively affected by anything of a low vibration. Most drugs and alcohol have a low vibrational energy and will bring the Empath down fast.

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It is also wise to take note how your food is prepared. Food prepared in an angry or unhappy environment will carry that energy and thus show up within you. Most Empaths will benefit from having mainly homemade food, so they know exactly what energy goes into their meals.

Socialising and Stimulants

Unfortunately, any kind of stimulant (alcohol, drugs, etc) will only serve in weakening the Empath (as they do any other human). Under the influence, it may feel like external energies are being blocked out but unfortunately this is not the case. They still seep in and still need to be dealt with.

When in company, other people’s emotions may show up in the Empath as aggression or an overly dominant ego on the evening of consumption or as a physical and emotional hangover from hell the day after.

If you don’t like the idea of giving up your favourite tipple or social life, try using grounding techniques prior to an evening out and drink lots of water throughout the evening, it has a cleansing effect. Also keeping your body in a more alkaline state will help keep you balanced and stop alcohol doing as much damage.

Friends 

The longer the Empath has known a friend, the more impact the friend can have on their energy. And, as you would imagine, this could be either a good or bad thing, depending on the relationship. Knowing how to navigate your friendships can serve in offering healthier and happier relationships.

Have you noticed that friends may act differently depending on who they are with? For example: you may have two very good friends whom when you spend one-to-one time alone, there is no ill effect. However, put those two friends together and the energy dynamic shifts in such a way that one can feel drained, angered or even bullied in their collective presence. If this has been a friendship, or even family, experience of yours it may be advisable to see certain friends on a one-to-one basis only.

Friends’ energy and how it affects those of a Sensitive nature will change along with their age and life circumstances. If down or depressed, a friend can unintentionally take the Empath down with them. In theses cases one has to learn to emotionally unplug. One can still listen and be there, but in a detached way.

Also, be very wary of an unwanted energy drain. We all know people who drain energy, otherwise known as the ‘Energy Vampires’, but when a friend, who isn’t normally a drainer, is experiencing a tough time their energy-sucking tentacles may seek out an instant uplift, from anywhere they can get it. To avoid being a friend’s ‘energy-replacement-meal’, watch for any drain and where it is coming from. It will normally be from one of four of the main energy centres (chakras): sacral (below belly), solar plexus (mid belly), heart (heart area) or throat (front of throat) and it can be felt by a pull or ache in that area. Wherever you feel it, cover that area immediately with your hands or arms. It is not by chance that we cross our arms over our stomach or chest in social situations; we are subconsciously stopping an energy-drain.

Empaths tend to be very faithful to their friends and keep them in their life for the long-haul. For this reason, it is a good idea to choose friends wisely.

Discover the 7 secrets of an Empath

Work 

For the Empath finding their calling or vocation can be a challenge of epic proportions. As living a lie through having to pretend they like doing a job which they don’t, or sell a product they do not believe in, is nothing short of torture for them. Also, as eighty percent of the workforce do not enjoy their job, this is not conducive to an energy-efficient or happy working environment (another obstacle for the Empath).

If we listen, our Internal Guidance System will continuously present us with vocational options, perhaps as interests or passions. If searching for your dream job, or just a new direction in life, here are some questions that may ignite the answer:

What are your passions?

What do you love to do?

What do you believe in?

What would you wake up excited to do each day?

What can you not live without doing?

What engages you?

What interest keeps coming back to you?

If you could change the world for the better, how would you do it?

Roadblocks

Roadblocks are what stop you going down your desired or chosen route in life. They can be seen through sickness, redundancy, depression, loss of money and social status or non-starting projects. They can unexpectedly pop up out of nowhere, take you off your current journey and bring your life to a standstill or send you off in a new direction.

When encountering roadblocks it may seem like they are purely an unfair punishment, but this comes down to our perspective of them. They are normally presented as a detour and a way to make changes to our life’s journey when we are refusing to listen to our Internal Guidance Systems. This detour may involve a long and winding scenic-route, which also happens to be an uncomfortable, seemingly never-ending, bumpy road. But again, this is down to our perspective. We have a choice: we can get wrapped up in the inconvenience and discomfort of the long ‘scenic-route’, focusing only on that, or we can concentrate on the ever-changing landscape as it passes and be grateful for being given a chance to slow down.

We can get so caught up in arriving at our destination that we miss most of the journey.

Everything presented to us in life is a gift and is something we can learn from, good or bad, if only we allow ourselves to see it.

Exercise

Exercise is essential to an Empath’s wellbeing. It works not only the physical but energetic bodies and can help clear stagnant or negative energy. Sadly, we live in a society that promotes a ‘no-pain-no-gain’ philosophy towards exercise and a focus on sculpting the muscles rather than healing the body and mind. Exercise should be fun and liberating, not torturous or painful (unless you enjoy that ).

There are so many ways to exercise and it doesn’t have to be costly or complicated. It can be as simple as turning on some funky music and shaking your hips around the kitchen. Dancing when no one is watching is unbelievably uplifting and you get to make your own moves with the beat of the music.

Running or walking in nature, freestyle dance, where there are no rules, or one of the many forms of yoga, are probably some of the best forms of exercise for the Empath. These can be done alone and at home, and there is no need for a gym membership. Swimming in the sea or a lake would also be great, if you’re fortunate enough to have one nearby.

A gym-class is not always the best environment for an Empath, especially if it has a very ego-driven or body-conscious atmosphere and adorned by lots of mirrors. There are some who can pick up negative energies from mirrors. If there have been many insecure, or body conscious, people gazing into gym-mirrors, an Empath may feel that residual energy (this can also be the case in clothes stores) and take it on as their own.

Relationships 

For the Empath, relationships can prove to be a complicated area of life, but also very rewarding when one has found a compatible mate (who very likely won’t be an Empath).

Empaths can be greatly misunderstood and seem aloof and disconnected to a new or prospective partner and it may take a while for their detachment and need for time alone, to be not taken personally by their partner.

When one is romantically connected to another, it can make the energetic connection complicated. Reading someone, who holds no emotional ties, normally comes quite easily for the Empath. However, when there is a strong emotional bind it can distort one’s ability to read energies clearly. This can lead to confusion and frustration, especially in the early building, days of a relationship and even further down the road. Not everyone is as inclined to be as honest as an Empath; especially if they have grown-up or worked in an environment that lying is ‘quietly’ seen as acceptable (it is surprising how often this is the case). This is a huge bugbear for the Empath because they can feel the energy of a lie, but not always what the lie is. In some cases ,this can lead to paranoia which in turn leads to ungrounded accusations and arguments.

A whole book  could be dedicated to the relationship highs and lows of an Empath and how to handle each and every situation (see The Empath Awakening for more on Empath relationships). But in brief, it’s safe to say that the best way to be in any relationship is honest (unless the truth will cause unnecessary pain) and never be afraid to show your True-Self.

It’s always good to remember that every relationship no matter how brief can offer a valuable lesson. Even toxic relationships, which are filled with strife and arguments, can show us areas of our life that need to be worked on or improved.

Comfort Zone 

Allowing yourself to step out of your comfort zone, on a daily basis, allows for growth in all areas of your life.  It enables you to face your fears and in facing them it gives you a greater capacity to deal with negative emotions. When we stay comfortable, we stay small and don’t expand. As the saying goes: 

‘If it doesn’t challenge you it doesn’t change you!’  

                                                                          – Fred Devito

We can step out of our comfort zone by going further than we would like during exercise, by making a phone-call we’ve been putting off for months, telling someone you love them or anything that makes you squirm or feel uncomfortable at the thought of doing. 

Getting Out of Your Head

Thoughts can be destructive to our health and wellbeing, especially when they are negative and repetitive. Empaths tend to spend a lot of time in their heads, which is great when thoughts are creative, happy or enlightening. However, spend too much time around certain people or places and the happy thoughts can quickly turn into painful memories, anger or thoughts of being wronged or unfairly treated by another.

You may not even realise that these irrational thoughts, that are on a perpetual time-loop, have been ignited by being around certain others, as they don’t always kick in till a day or two after exposure.

So, how do we stop them? It’s not easy but it can be done. The best techniques to try involve externalising one’s awareness or distracting the mind.

Externalising Awareness

One of the best ways to get out of the head is to focus your awareness outside of yourself, using a meditative technique called mindfulness. This can be done almost anywhere and involves focusing on something outside of your mind. You could gaze at a flickering candle or pay close attention to your scenery as you pass it by (obviously not to be done whilst driving ;)). If you like walking in nature look up at the trees and notice all you can about the bark, branches and leaves, see the different cloud formations in the sky or inspect the wild flowers growing within the foliage.

Thought Distraction

When your thoughts are in negative-overdrive doing activities which allow you to indulge them is not advisable. You really need to be distracted and this normally involves stepping out of your comfort zone. The easiest way to do this is through exercise. If you practise yoga do a pose you find challenging or which requires stamina or concentration, such as the Plank, Warrior, Tree or Crow (the Asthanga yoga sequence is great because you have to focus on sequence, breath and bandhas).  If you like to run, swim or cycle try doing it in intervals: power up for 30 seconds to a minute, slow it down for 30 seconds to a minute. If you like to dance or do aerobics do a routine which you have to memorize, this is great at keeping the mind distracted. Put on an exercise DVD or check out YouTube for exercise routines that will challenge you without being injurious. 

Summary 

As we are all here on our own journey with learning experiences unique to us, not all the tips and advice offered here will be helpful to everyone, but you will never know until you try them for yourself. 

As an Empath, you may have come into life purely to gain experience of feeling others emotions. And because of this, it is important to remember that just because one Sensitive seems to have learnt how to deal with the external energies and you haven’t, even after trying every technique in the book and attending every self-help seminar, doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong or even being punished. It may simply mean you have not yet achieved a certain lesson from a certain experience. It could also be that you are capable of enduring more hardships in life and your mountains are higher and harder to climb than most and in turn you will be learning more.

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Sensitivities of an Empath

If you are an Empath or Sensitive you will be more than used to not handling anything of a low vibration, but lately you may have noticed those sensitivities amping up.

Many Empaths suffer allergies in some shape or form. However, you may be allergic or intolerant and not even be aware of it. If you are in contact with something on a daily basis that you are allergic to, you tend to have a continuous, albeit sometimes minor, reaction. For example: you may suffer with a constant stuffy nose, itchy eyes, muscle or joint discomfort, headaches or constipation, but because you’ve had the symptoms for as long as you can remember, you give little thought to them, but any one of them could be a sign of an allergy.

Normally, the way to determine an allergy is a process of elimination: To withdraw from your diet, for a time, the suspected allergy inducing item and then reintroduce it. If you are allergic you will normally have a big reaction to it. However, you may now be finding that your own body is giving you spontaneous allergic reactions, to things you have come into daily contact with, for most of your life.

The thing is, most of us already know what we should or shouldn’t consume. We all have the internal Knowing. We get that nagging feeling that something is not a fit for us. However, as humans we have also wanted to indulge in the forbidden fruit. But now, it would seem, we are getting put on track and our own bodies are guiding us, and in some cases rather abruptly, to make the change.

Here is a little list of some types of reactions you may have been experiencing:

  • If you use alcohol to help get you through social situations, you find yourself getting intoxicated ridiculously easily and feeling so ill after consumption that you believe you’re literally going to die. Hangovers last for days or even a week.
  • After eating meat, poultry or fish you feel more depressed than normal and your energy levels plummet.
  • You may find that the kick start coffee in the morning is giving you the jitters, making you feel anxious and/or nauseous.
  • When coming into contact with air fresheners, cleaning products, perfumes or garden chemicals, your nose starts streaming and you develop cold-like symptoms.
  • Consuming anything genetically modified triggers a whole host of uncomfortable symptoms.
  • White sugar (or anything refined) makes your body instantly lethargic and your mind race.
  • TV and internet (that you have previously been ok with) gives you brain fog and makes you feel restless or irritable.

When you take heed of your body’s warning signals, in the shape of instant negative reactions, and remove whatever it is lowering your vibration, you effectively release yourself from its control. Although touted as much desired pleasures, the contents of the list above are mostly energy draining and toxic to us. And if your body/mind/intuition is telling you its time to give them up, it is probably wise to listen. In return you will have more energy, feel happier, freer and will have to deal with less of the dark stuff within.

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Benefits of Relaxation for the Empath

The majority of us have no idea how much tension we continuously hold within our muscles. In today’s society we have unknowingly trained our muscles to stay in a perpetual state of contraction and because of this, even in sleep, they don’t fully relax.chibi_buddha_144332

Our muscles are constantly stimulated either through the stresses of modern life or through vigorous sports and exercise. Even TV programmes, that we may watch of an evening to relax, have an effect of firing up the mind which can in turn stimulate the muscles, further tensing them. Also, painful emotions can be stored within the muscles, leading to greater muscle fatigue.

Even now, whilst reading this, you will probably be holding tension somewhere in your body. If you take your awareness to your face you may notice that your forehead, jaw or eyes are not relaxed. But until this was pointed out to you, you were unaware of it. If you travel further into the body you may find your shoulders are hunched or your wrists may be extended back, all creating pressure in the muscles and joints. We could go through the entire body, but I think it’s safe to say that you will be, unwittingly, holding tension somewhere.

When our muscles are constantly contracted and alert they are fuelling the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight) and not only is this depleting the body of vital energy, that those of us who have low energy cannot afford to lose, but it is also prematurely ageing, can raise blood pressure and lower our immune system.

In training the muscles to soften and loosen-up through relaxation, it will switch on the parasympathetic nervous system, which in turn will slow our breathing, lower the blood pressure, initiate deep relaxation of body and mind, and allows healing to occur.

In yoga, it is known that the relaxation, at the end of a class, is the most beneficial part of the practice. Not only is it time for the body to rest but it’s the time that the benefits of practise are fully integrated.

To fully relax the body we need to be in a supine position, lying on the floor or on a bed, with our whole body weight being supported (for anyone suffering back problems: a bolster or cushion under knees is helpful). The best way to get a muscle to relax is to tense it first, for five to ten seconds. Start at the feet and work up through limbs, torso and face, tensing and relaxing each body part in turn (great one to do if you can’t sleep) and then stay for a while in this deep state of stillness. If time is short, you could do the lower part of body first, then upper half, finishing on the face. Not only does this exercise promote relaxation but it will also aid in stilling the mind.

You may not always feel the benefits of relaxation directly after (hence us not always realising what a benefit it is). In some, the valuable results may not be felt till the day after.

Relaxation can be done anytime, but the best time is after exercise when the muscles have been stretched and strengthened and the mind is quieter.

If you are Highly Sensitive (Empath) or suffer from any kind of chronic fatigue doing full-body muscle resting will be of great help to your overall well-being.

Quick Recap of Relaxation Benefits

  • Reduces fatigue
  • Anti-ageing
  • Lowers blood pressure
  • Boosts immune system
  • Induces restful sleep
  • Allows for muscle regeneration
  • Switches on parasympathetic nervous system
  • Promotes mind stillness
  • Aides in general well-being.

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Still the Empath Mind with Ancient Yoga Techniques

I recently watched a television programme where the discussion was about overcoming pre-performance nerves. One of the presenters was talking about how she had learnt to deal with her debilitating stage-fright:  She explained that a wise mentor had given her the advice to change her emotions. He had told her: when she felt fear and nervousness prior to a performance, to focus her mind and change her nervousness into excitement. To her amazement, she found the technique worked and although she still suffered from the jitters before a stage entrance she knew she could turn those emotions into enthusiasm, with the intentional direction of her mind.

The programme got me thinking of how easy (or not) it is to change our emotions from negative to positive and although I understand that we have a choice as to how we interpret our emotions, I really don’t believe it’s that cut and dry. There are so many other factors to consider, none more so than the stimuli that triggered the emotion and our state of mind.

The mind is an incredibly powerful tool. The unfortunate thing is it generally runs rings around most and the majority of us do not know how to control it.

Many illnesses start in the mind in the shape of stress/fear/anger etc. and the mind has the power to heal those ailments, in some cases in, an instant. We’ve seen evidence of this in the placebo effect. For example:  when testing the effectiveness of new pharmaceutical drugs, test subjects are normally divided into two groups. One group will be given the real drug, being tested, and others will be given a fake (placebo). There have been many cases where those given the placebo have healed from their ailments, because their mind believed they were given the drug. There have also been cases where groups of volunteers have been given operations, for things such as knee or hip injuries, some of the subjects were given bona fide operations and some were given dummy ops (where the volunteer was anaesthetised but only an incision was made and nothing more, giving the patient the belief that they had had the procedure). Some of the the volunteers who’d had the dummy op (placebo), healed from their injury, just because they believed they had had the intended medical procedure. The placebo effect is a simple case of just how powerful the mind is, in that it was the mind’s belief that healed the body.

We all know the mind is capable of creating emotional turmoil, especially when the thoughts have gone into overdrive. We can speed up the heart rate just by envisaging a scary scenario or we can make ourselves angry by imagining an injustice against us. The more innovative the mind the more possibilities there are. One can only imagine what damage could be done within the body by those who have creative imaginations. Guess who have amazingly creative imaginations…? Yup, Empaths.

Empaths can sit for hours, happily staring into space with just their thoughts for company and entertainment, and whilst this is a lovely past time when the thoughts are happy and positive, it is not so much when they are dark or brooding. Happy thoughts uplift, inspire, balance and nourish the body and mind. The opposite is true for turbulently-vexed thoughts. They impact the body in the form of painful and angry emotions that burn within one’s solar plexus (mid stomach area) and it becomes a vicious cycle: thoughts feeding emotions and emotions feeding thoughts.

When Empaths feel the emotions of those around them, they can turn into their thoughts without them even realizing it and before they know what’s hit them, the Empath can be caught up in a tornado of torrid, angry thoughts that didn’t stem from their own circumstances.

It has to be noted that when in public, Empaths won’t always know where or from whom the emotions come from, because not everyone shows on the surface what is going on within and not everyone carries pain.

When I was younger and worked as a hairdresser, I spent my days surrounded by people of all ages, and all of whom I worked very closely with. In the time before I knew anything about being an Empath, I could never understand why I felt so uncomfortable around certain people. But what used to baffle me the most was why I felt most uncomfortable around those who came across as being really sweet and lovely. But when I was around those who were first-class grumps or those who may have been direct, rude or obnoxious, I never used to feel very much, well, other than the obvious, surface, negativity. I now know that those sweet and lovely people, who I felt uncomfortable with, were sensitive beings who held a lot of emotional pain within them and this is what I was picking up. Those who were grumpy or obnoxious didn’t hold much pain within them; it was all on the surface level and not hidden away.

The mind has its own way of interpreting energy. Sometimes it will make it into a story and sometimes it will make one feel physically ill or drained. Our programmes will normally determine how we read energy and when I say programmes, I mean our lineage and history. One may be very different from our grandparents, parents and siblings but we are made from the same stuff as them, so there is a strong likelihood that what was carried within them, will be carried within us. We inherit more than just our physical appearance. Our history is made up from the events that happened to us through our lives, good and bad. The factors between our lineage and history can greatly determine how we operate within the world and how our personal programmes come into being. If one finds negative emotions continuously arising in certain situations, it could be time to get re-programmed and this means taking control of the mind and changing the mindset. If this is something you are looking for then my recommendation is in the practice of yoga.

In my quest to quieten the mind and heal my body over the years, I have tried many different things, but the one constant, and something I have always come back to, is yoga and the many branches thereof. It is only now, after years of study and practice, that I have a greater insight into the roots of yoga and an understanding as to why it is and has been such a help to me as a Sensitive.

Sadly, in much of the Western World, the focus of yoga (and in facts most forms of exercise) has had a strong emphasis on the effect it has on the physical appearance, or getting the body into ‘pretzel-shaped’, advanced postures (that most western bodies are not designed for). But yoga goes so much deeper than that.

Yoga has been around for thousands of years and originated in India. For all the many benefits yoga has to offer the body, it was primarily designed to still the mind. It is only when we have a quiet mind that we can truly find peace. The ancient yogis knew that to have a quiet mind you could not have a body in pain so the yoga poses (asana) were designed to strengthen,  heal and soothe the body of ailments and in turn, make it so one could sit comfortably, for hours on end, in deep meditation. The poses were also created as a challenge for the mind, for when the mind is focused on overcoming an obstacle it can not be filled with riotous thoughts.

Within yoga we are also trained to control the breath, either through dynamic yoga (flowing in and out of postures) or through pranayama (regulation of breath though certain techniques and exercises). It is through control of the breath that we control the mind. I have done yoga for nearly 20 years and it is only relatively recently that I have been making a conscious effort to regularly practice the breathing techniques (I used to dip in and out). Not only can the different breathing techniques be energising and uplifting, but they are also calming, relaxing and rejuvenating. Another huge benefit I have found from practising pranyama is that certain techniques can alleviate and even remove negative, incoming emotions from others. It is just a case of finding the correct pranayama technique for the specific problem.

I have written about yoga and the breathing systems before and will, no doubt, again, but in these challenging times we find ourselves in, I see them as an essential part of an Empaths protection.

Below is a list of breathing exercises and links to demonstrations on Youtube. You don’t have to sit cross-legged on the floor when practising, you can sit in a normal chair as long as  your back is straight.

Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing).

This technique quietens the mind and blisses you out. It is great to do before bedtime especially if you’ve got a wired, monkey mind. It also balances the masculine and feminine energies within the body.

Kapalbhati (bellows breath).

 This is an all round brilliant, breathing technique, it also works out and strengthen the core stomach muscles. It is beneficial to do in the morning as it is energising (to be done on an empty stomach), or when one needs a quick energy boost. It is fabulous to do if you are feeling a lot of emotion around the solar plexus area, which it quickly eliminates. After performing this breathing technique, you are left with a quiet, yet energised, mind.

Ujayi (victorious breath) 

 This is commonly used within yogic asana practise to create heat within the body, keep the mind focused and help eliminate toxins. It really helps quieten the mind as it is kept focused on the breath. I have recently found this one great to do when in places such as supermarkets, where there’s lots of people and a rush of emotions swirling round. It helps block out the incoming, keeps you centred and it is doubly effective if you lightly contract the stomach muscles.

Dynamic Asana Practice.

This is yoga asana, but instead of holding poses static for a certain length of time, you move in and out with the breath. Again brilliant for quietening the mind but also great for alleviating tension in the body as well as creating strength and flexibility. (I have not attached a link to this as it’s probably best to first practise under a qualified instructor).

To reap maximum benefits you should try to practise pranayama everyday, if only for 5 minutes. It is best to practice in a quiet, comfortable and warm place. However, the breathing techniques can be taken out with you, Ujayi is best for this. You can do them whilst sitting in a traffic jam, whilst walking in a shopping centre or anywhere else where  and when needed.

All yogic breathing systems should be approached gradually. When first attempted they can make you dizzy or sometimes anxious, with persistence these will pass so don’t be put off.

Clear Your Clutter Transform Your Life!

How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?

Have you kept old clothes believing they may come back in fashion one day, or in case you lose or gain weight?

Have you been given a gift that you didn’t really like, but kept it to avoid hurting another’s feelings?

I think it’s safe to say most of us could say yes to at least one of the above questions. But hoarding, even just a little bit, will soon see our homes overloaded with junk. Bad news for Empaths or those of a sensitive nature.

An overly cluttered house leads to an overly cluttered mind and energy field. Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is extremely draining to the body and mind. Even clutter that the eye cannot see, still has a debilitating effect on the psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling within. This can lead to the Empath feeling drained and lethargic!

If you have a crowded house (and I don’t mean with people) you may not realize how much it can deplete your energy, leading to feelings of sluggishness, apathy and an uninspired mind.

Empaths tend to have an inbuilt loathing of clutter, whether they are aware of their gift or not, and this is because they can feel it dragging them down, energetically. They will tend to opt for more of an uncomplicated decor, without too much fuss in the way of ornaments etc., for the simple reason that all objects hold energy. But over the years clutter can unintentionally build and we can find ourselves with all sorts of bric-a-brac, that were probably gifts, strewn around the house, which only serve in being draining.

Many years ago, before I was even aware of the term Empath, I read a book by Karen Kingston called: ‘Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui’ (unfortunately, I no longer have the book, and don’t have a photographic memory, so am unable to paraphrase), it really resonated with me and inspired me to have a full-on house detox. I hatched a plan to rid the home of all unwanted, unused and unhelpful items we had hoarded. My husband and I ploughed through the house, room by room, and cleared tonnes of stuff (slight exaggeration there but you will be surprised how much can be crammed into the smallest draw). I have a minimalistic decor-style and have never liked visual clutter, so everything that was removed came out of cupboards, draws and wardrobes. It was amazing how clean, fresh and liberated we both felt afterwards.

The first thing we all need to summon, when it comes to de-cluttering, is bravery. It may sound silly to suggest being brave when it comes to clearing the house, but in a way that’s exactly what we need. Fear will always rear its ugly head when making any changes in one’s life and when de-cluttering it will be there to tell you how much you need those unneeded items.

In the current economic climate it is an ideal environment for hoarding to thrive. We may hold onto possessions because we fear we won’t be able to replace them with something better or of equal value. You can probably look around any room in your house now and count at least 5 items that serve no purpose. Hoarding is born from the fear of lack and in clearing the clutter you are also facing, and in turn clearing, that fear.

To find out whether you really need something in your life simply ask this question: How will this item improve or make my life better? If you can’t come up with an answer (other than it won’t) it’s probably time to ditch or give it to charity.

When your home is full there is no room for anything new to come into your life. In making space, you are sending out a message that you are open to receive (but hopefully not more clutter).

Clearing the clutter doesn’t just have to be of your external environment, you can also have an internal-clutter-clearing session. Disposing of old beliefs, traits or thought patterns is both liberating and rejuvenating. Granted, they’re not as easy to be rid of as belongings, but probably ten times more beneficial.

A trait that will do you the world of good to eliminate is overly judgemental behaviour of self or others.

Being judgemental is so imprisoning and it causes untold harm to the bearer. It doesn’t have to be vindictive in nature to be damaging: it can be as simple as feeling another is more worthy than ourselves, thinking we are not good enough or believing our opinions are better than others.

Being judgemental catches us all unaware, but when we are conscious of it we are one step closer to removing it (for an Empath, if we are being judgemental, or indeed being judged, it can hold a heavy dark and anxious feeling/energy).

If you are in doubt of what you should or shouldn’t keep in your life, see the following questions:

Clutter Clearing Check List for the Internal and External:

  • Does this serve me today?
  • Will this serve me in the foreseeable future?
  • Can this serve anyone else?
  • Why am I holding onto this?
  • Will keeping/holding onto this make me happy?

A word of warning: you can guarantee that within days of having a clear-out your mind will play tricks on you, finding use for anything and everything you threw/gave away (even though you may not have worn/used it for five years, or previously forgotten of its existence). Just know that this is part of the de-cluttering process and it will pass.

Hope this post helps you on your path

Diane

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The Developing Traits of an Empath 2… The Knowing

I love the energy of a Saturday morning. It’s so calm and peaceful and when the sun is shining, like it is today, it all seems so extra special.

One of the many gifts an Empath has, is the ability to feel the energy of the days of the week. Friday afternoon and Saturday mornings are my favourite-feeling-days. Sunday evening and Monday morning are not so much.

Empaths can take for granted all that we feel energetically, that others cannot, because it just happens so naturally. For the most part of our life we may have assumed everyone could feel the same things as us. I remember as a child being able to see the energy/aura around the inanimate and the animate. I used to love lying on the grass on a warm summer’s day and just stare at the hazy energy around the lush, green trees swaying gently in the breeze. This I also assumed was something everyone else could see/do. It was only in adulthood when I reminisced about it with family and friends that I discovered they didn’t see the auras of objects or anything else for that matter. Sadly, that natural ability faded with time. Now if I want to see auras, I have to really focus and work at it.

It is not uncommon for children, whether they are an Empath or not, to have metaphysical gifts: seeing and being able to communicate with spirits and non physical beings is a common one, as is intuition. Unfortunately, many children tend to forget, grow out of or consciously close down these abilities when they become adults, for fear of being different. For the Empath, intuition is not something one tends to grow out of, but it is something that can go largely ignored in adulthood.

Intuition (the Knowing) can come in many forms, foreseeing future events, being psychic, having the ability to read others etc. This intuition can be developed, if that’s what one wants, and enhanced, but I believe the most important thing we should start doing is just to listen to that which we already have.

Every Empath will have intuition to varying degrees. For most it will come as strong feelings within the gut area in regard to certain stimuli. For example: when we first meet someone we may get the overwhelming feeling that this person will be bad news in some way, and the stronger the feeling, the more stark the warning. We may then share this feeling with another, only to be told not to be silly, that our suspicions are unfounded and we should really like this person because they are fabulous. So we may tell ourselves we were wrong and the feeling fades, only for the memory of it to come back to haunt us when they do something bad to us, or a loved one in the future.

Another example is: on a visit to the bank we are advised, by the bank manager, where to invest our money for the greatest yield, we then experience that gut-burning dread in our solar plexus. We ignore it, thinking the bank manager knows more than we do and he wouldn’t advise us to invest if it wasn’t a good idea (I think you know where this is heading), only to find out, months or years down the line, that investment was the worst thing we could have done. I could go on and on with examples but I’m sure you get the picture.

Many of us ignore these gut-feelings (Knowing) for many reasons, maybe because we want to see the best in others or we don’t believe in ourselves as much as we should, or even that they just don’t fit in with our plans or desires. Those gut-feelings are there to warn, serve and protect us from experiencing anything we don’t need to (we already take on enough as it is). This strong sense of Knowing that Empaths have is a guide and way-shower for us and it also helps us discern what is right or wrong for us individually. We may question it, especially if it does not fit in with the ethics of society (but then let’s face it, with all the corruption going on in the world, society, as a whole, does not seem the best for advising anyone on ethics).

I will relay a situation that happened to me, many years ago, involving me ignoring my intuition: In the days when I had my own business, I was interviewing for a junior place and one girl, who seemed pleasant but came with extra baggage and a sob-story, came in. During the interview, my solar plexus was screaming and my head was yelling at me, not to take her on. But a side of me decided to be morally-correct and not to listen to these warnings. I told myself, everyone deserved a chance to prove themselves. That decision came back to haunt me: the girl in question was constantly taking time off and when she did come in she was always late and she brought with her a very negative, draining energy, that all could feel (not just me). If we tried explaining anything or reprimanding her on her behavior she would argue back. Basically, she was hell on legs and in her short time with us, did a lot of damage. So, the moral of the story is, in my ignoring my intuition and opting to take the moral-high-road, I subjected myself to a lot of unnecessary pain that could have been avoided, had I listened.

When we get these strong urges, feelings, premonitions or notions in any shape or form, it is in our best interest to listen to them (this is when it also helps to have a quiet mind). The reason behind them may not be revealed for days, weeks, months or even years but they will normally always be explained.

My post today is a follow on from the last and further dipping into the meaning of the Knowing. I find that if I don’t post what I’ve written on the same day I write it, it doesn’t get posted. Either because I don’t get round to finishing it off or the energies, which I may have been referring to in the post, change and what was relevant one day is no longer so. For this reason I end up missing or forget to include information.

Until next time 🙂

©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

Supplements And The Empath

If you are an Empath or Sensitive, you will know only too well how easy it is to pick up coughs, colds and the like on a regular basis. Most Sensitive people will tend to get twice as many ailments as those not predisposed to the condition.

An out of balance Empath/Sensitive (especially one who has absorbed external stresses as well as having their own to deal with) need only briefly be in the presence of someone with the beginnings of a sniffle to pick up a full-blown dose. Of which, the ensuing symptoms will tend to be worse than those of the original carrier. (Click here to find a quick way to alkalise and rebalance body).

One of the problems an E/S has is not always being aware of an imbalance within as they can quickly creep up, if not be a constant state. From my own experience I have discovered that the best way to stay in balance is to have all bases covered. And what I mean by that is to take care of our physical, mental and energetic bodies (body, mind and spirit). In this post I am focusing on balance of the body (immune system) in the way of supplements.

Heard of the saying: ‘like attracts like’ or ‘like increases like?’ Well, it works in all areas of our life. Generally those picking up on negative emotions will feel like (for want of a better word) crap. When you feel crap you want to eat crap (fast food, stodgy and sugary food) and that type of food does not tend to have much in the way of nutritional value. So basically, we feel rubbish, eat rubbish, feel more rubbish… and get no nutrients. Nutrients are our safeguard against illness because they keep the immune system strong. There would be no point for me to say, ‘Avoid all nutrient devoid foods’, because we all already know they are no good for us. We also know that on our darker days after being bombarded by the world and his wife’s emotions, that family size block of chocolate has a billion times more appeal than a leafy lettuce, crunchy carrot and tangy tomato salad. And this is where supplements come in.

I came to realise, firsthand, the importance of supplements through unintentional trial and error over the years. In my haphazard approach to taking vitamins and minerals (taking them for 6 months then non for the next), I found that when taking supplements I have far less immune system related illnesses and ailments than when not taking them.

There is much controversy over the effectiveness of supplements, especially synthetic ones, and whether they actually work. Many experts say that a healthy, balanced diet is all we need for optimum nutritive levels, but even with the healthiest of diets do we really know how nutritiously balanced our food is? It is well-known that our soil is no longer as rich in minerals as it once was, which ultimately affects the mineral content of the fruit and vegetables grown in it. The ripe and brightly coloured fruits that we see on our supermarket shelves may have travelled half way round the world, and already be months old, before they even get into our kitchens, meaning a much lower vitamin count than if delivered to the supermarkets within hours of being harvested.

It is easy to get reliable information on the web about supplements and their benefits and it is well worth doing the research and reading up on comments people have made in regards to certain brands/types before spending money. Depending on your areas of weakness will depend on which supplement you could/should be taking, but I have found the following to be a good all-round elixir:

  • A good multi-vitamin and mineral.
  • Extra Vitamin C and Zinc (especially if you get many colds).
  • Omega 3, found, for example, in fish oils or organic coconut oil (a diet consisting of a ratio 3-1 of Omega 6 to Omega 3 is a good balance. However, the average Western diet consists of a ratio of approximately 15-1 or more, through the high usage of vegetable oils in processed foods).
  • A  really good Multi-B vitamin.
  • Acidophilus (especially if you suffer from a sensitive digestive tract).
  • Vitamin D3 (more for the darker, winter months).
  • Digestive Enzymes, to be taken with meals, which will help break down food and extract the nutrients. Especially beneficial to those who suffer with indigestion or low stomach acid

I write these posts with the intention of helping others in passing on what I consider to be useful information, especially during these trying times. As I’ve said before, we do need to take responsibility for self and, if nothing else, this is just to take away or ease some of the pain we have. I also feel that it can just be good to know that we are not alone in our suffering and although you may not know anyone close by who is enduring what you are, many others around the globe are going though the same or similar.

I don’t believe that any one of us holds all the answers (we probably wouldn’t be here if we did) and what works for one won’t always work for another. So in that respect take what feels right to you and discard the rest. As an Empath/Sensitive you will always get that ‘gut feeling’ (the knowing) when something is not a fit for you, but you will also know only too well that you don’t always listen to the ‘gut feeling’, instead, preferring to listen to the mind (we can sometimes be our own worst enemies). We are eternal optimists and may want to believe something because we wish it to be true, as opposed to ‘knowing’ it’s true…

Until next time.

©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered