Unshackle Yourself From Empath Clutter

Whilst sifting through my blog earlier I came across a post about clearing clutter, which I posted some years ago. It was one of those synchronistic moments that acted as a much-needed reminder about letting go of the old and redundant.

Uncluttering is the perfect solution for clearing stagnant energy and lifting the spirits. Being the start of spring, it is the ideal time to get rid of that which no longer serves.

I decided to re-post the original (after some editing and updates) in the hopes it will serve you as it has me.

It is incredible how quickly clutter builds within the home and the mind. How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?

Have you kept old clothes for when you lose weight or hope they may come back in fashion one day? 

Or have you been given a gift  you didn’t really like, but kept to avoid hurting another’s feelings?

I think it’s safe to say most could answer yes to the above questions. But hoarding, even just a bit, soon sees your home overloaded with junk. Bad news for Empaths or those of a Sensitive nature.

An overly cluttered house leads to an overly cluttered energy field.

Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is extremely draining to the body and mind. Even clutter the eye cannot see has a debilitating effect on the psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling. Continue reading

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5 Ways to Make Your Spirit Soar

dove-wallpaper-13After I wrote the post, ‘Surviving Christmas’, I decided I wanted try to put myself in the frame of mind where I could align with the more positive aspect of Christmas, without getting involved in the commercial side, and hopefully make December a much more enjoyable month.

Although I have not been keen on the festive season these past years, I still enjoyed a good Christmas film. I realize that some may see them as being cheesy or fake, but I find there is something magical and uplifting about Christmas films. For some reason, I feel emotionally uplifted and motivated to be a better person after watching one.

It was after watching the film, Scrooged with Bill Murray, earlier in the month that I questioned as to why I like the films, but don’t care much for the season. And then it came to me, Xmas films are never about the stress, the debt or overindulgence that Christmas creates, but about doing good for others, forgiveness, turning one’s life around or finding love. So, with this in mind I had a little think about how I could reclaim my Christmas spirit without following ‘standard protocol’ and this is what I came up with:

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The Powerful Grounding, Protecting and Mirroring Properties of Haematite

haematite stonesMost Empaths have a ‘thing’ for the crystal kingdom, in some way or other.

They are drawn to crystals for many reasons, but especially for their beauty, texture, colour and the powerful vibrations they emit.

There are hundreds of different types of crystals all with countless healing properties but today I am focusing on one stone that, for very good reason, I’ve been drawn to lately…Haematite.

For the Empath, Haematite is a very powerful stone that has many helpful qualities. It is known as the grounding stone of grounding stones! It is also protecting and has a strong mirroring effect.

Haematite has the ability to both balance your energy and raise your vibration, lifting you up energetically, whilst still keeping you grounded. And one thing all Empaths need is to stay grounded! Continue reading

Why Empaths Need Protection Now More Than Ever!

You may have noticed I have written a lot about protection, healing or grounding methods, for the Empath, in recent times, and there is a very good reason for this.

There are some major changes/shifts going on, energetically, that are affecting everyone on many levels and these changes are bringing about a lot of pain, emotional disruptions and repetitive, negative thought patterns.

Generally, when there are major energy shifts, Empaths, and anyone of a Sensitive nature, gets energetically clobbered from all directions.

If you feel like you are going seriously cuckoo, with all the energies and emotions you are processing, it is probably a good time to pull out your ‘protective-tools arsenal’ and start experimenting with different techniques. Especially, if you have a daily protection ritual that isn’t working so well. Continue reading

10 Ways Empaths can Protect Themselves from Other People’s Energy

For the Empath, being in public places is often a traumatizing time that may leave them floored and out of sorts.

Simply nipping to the shopping mall can mean they end up wearing someone else’s energy for the rest of the day. Which isn’t such a bad thing if the energy is positive and highly charged. However, it is mostly the not-so-nice energy that follows them home.


I have found that the best way to stay protected when in public is either to take preëmptive measures, before leaving home, or know some useful, energy balancing techniques to use as and when needed.

Here are some effective protective techniques:

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Traits of Sensitive People

Whilst doing a spot of cleaning the other day a book, I read time some ago, fell open on the floor. The book ‘Quiet’, by Susan Cain is about research and findings on the introverts of the world, famous and not so.

Anyway, when I picked up the book I found it wedged open on page 136, which I duly read (typical trait of an Empath getting distracted from chores by something that appears more interesting).  Page 136 makes reference to traits of highly sensitive people as compiled by Dr. Elaine Aron, a research psychologist.

Whilst researching the inner behaviour of sensitive people, especially those who did not like to be in social situations, Dr Aron found out some fascinating things:

Aron interviewed 39 people who described themselves as either introverted or easily overwhelmed by social stimulation, and asked them questions regarding their film preferences, creative activities, relationships with family and friends, philosophical and religious views. Based on these interviews, and further research, she came up with a compilation of 27 attributes of the ‘highly sensitive person’.

Here is a sampling of some of those attributes… it is interesting to note that this list has some similarities to my 30 Traits of an Empath:

  • Highly sensitive people tend to be keen observers who look before they leap.
  • They arrange their lives in ways that limit surprises.
  • Sensitive to sights, sounds, smells, pain, and stimulants such as coffee.
  • Have difficulty when being observed or judged for general worthiness.
  • Tendency to be philosophical or spiritual in their orientation, rather than being materialistic.
  • Dislike being engaged in small talk.
  • Describe themselves as being creative or intuitive.
  • Dream vividly and have good dream recall.
  • Love music, art, nature and physical beauty.
  • Feel exceptionally strong emotions, such as acute bouts of joy, sorrow, melancholy and fear.
  • Process information about their environments, both physical and emotional, very deeply.
  • Notice subtleties: such as another person’s shift in mood or a light bulb burning too brightly.
  • Tend to have unusually strong consciences.
  • Dislike or avoid violent films and TV shows.
  • Acutely aware of the consequences of their own behaviour.
  • In social settings they often focus on subjects like the personal problems of others.

Through Aron’s (and other scientists’) research, it has been found that the amygdala (a part of the brain which plays a huge part in processing emotions) becomes strongly activated in highly sensitive people when exposed to other human suffering or pain (picking up their emotions). Even just being shown pictures of people in pain is enough to trigger this response. Because of this, highly sensitive people have no choice but to feel what others feel.

Aron also found that most introverts, but not all, are highly sensitive…or Empaths!

To find if you are an introvert, and what type click here to take the Briggs Meyers personality test.

For more books on the incredible Empath traits and ways for the Empaths to find their hidden power click here.

Hope all is really good in your Empath world…

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Incredible & Essential Benefits of Meditation for The Empath

chibi_buddha_144332For an Empath, learning to control the mind is prerequisite to a happy, healthy life. It is after all thoughts that create your outlook on reality.

As thoughts and feelings are interconnected, the way you think about anything is how you feel about it. Thoughts trigger emotions both positive and negative.

Your thoughts are catalyst to building feelings of anger, fear or sadness, etc. Yet, what some don’t realise is you have a choice over the thoughts you indulge.

A busy mind has one thought after another flowing through.

It is said that the average person has about 35 thoughts a minute.

Thoughts keep you up at night and wake you in the morning. They take over your mind when driving (how often have you got somewhere without remembering the journey?) and distract you from life.

Being able to still the mind may take time and effort but, in doing so, you ignite your inner-power as an Empath! And one of the best ways to do this is through meditation.

By meditating, it does not mean you will never have thoughts again. You simply gain greater control over those you chose to focus on. This ultimately prevents us getting lost in the type of thoughts that trigger painful emotions. Which is especially beneficial to the Empath, who soak up the thoughts and emotions of others like a sponge, and also have their own to deal with.

There are many types of meditation to try, and they don’t all involve sitting on the floor in the lotus position. There is a type to suit each Empath: chanting, breath-work, visualisation, trance, etc.

You don’t have to stay in doors either. You can do a walking meditation where you externalise your awareness and focus on everything around you. e.g.: your feet on the grass as you walk or the trees and clouds in the sky above you.

When practised with awareness, yoga is a moving meditation that unites body, mind and spirit and is a good option for those who do not like to sit still.

Unlike in relaxation, you don’t want to fall asleep in meditation. This is the time to quieten a busy mind through your own intention; if you fall asleep, you lose that opportunity.

When you first start meditating, you often find your mind chatter steps up a gear. It feels like the world and his wife has taken up residence in your head… all with very loud voices. This is often your egoic mind at work wanting to stay in control of your thought process. This is entirely normal, albeit somewhat frustrating. And, just like turbulence on a plane, when you push through you eventually climb above it… then, all becomes calm, smooth and serene.

A regular meditation practise is essential if you want to reap the full benefits because, as with anything in life, good things don’t happen overnight. The more we practice the calmer our thoughts and emotions become.

Not only is meditation a must for gaining control of the mind it is another great technique for balancing the chakras (Read here how unbalanced chakras destroys the Empath).

Meditation is anti-ageing, de-stressing to the body and an incredible aid to sleep — especially when done in darkness.

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Meditating in the dark helps keep the pineal gland (third eye) healthy, which in turn keeps the production of melatonin balanced.

What Does Melatonin Do?

Melatonin is known as the anti-ageing hormone and is produced by the pineal gland (area of third eye) in the darkness. It is a naturally occurring hormone that regulates the sleep cycle.

It is an antioxidant and anti-inflammatory and helps prevent, and treat, many illnesses including cancer.

Those suffering insomnia or with mild sleeping difficulties are thought to have a melatonin deficiency.

The immune system does most of its work at night and is believed to be interlinked with the production of melatonin. When melatonin levels are suppressed, illness  occurs.

As we age melatonin production decreases. Scientists believe this reduction is interrelated to ageing and age-related disorders.

To produce more melatonin you need spend more time in complete darkness. However, these days there is so much light pollution that sleeping in darkness is not so easy to do anymore.

Because of the street lights, even with the curtains closed, your bedrooms tend to stay on the light side. This hinders the production of melatonin and leads to a less than restful night’s sleep.

Studies have shown that meditation, done in complete darkness, before bedtime increases production of melatonin and produces enough to last the night. This can be further aided by focusing on the third-eye (centre of forehead) during meditation, which in turn stimulates the pineal gland.

To begin a meditation practise, it is best to plan a set time every day. Perhaps start with ten minutes and build to twenty or thirty.

Having no distractions is important. If you think someone will walk in and disturb you, that’s all you’ll think about when you’re supposed to be meditating.

If there is a lot of external noise, pop some earphones in and play some gentle music, or listen to a guided meditation… As long as you practice regularly you will continue to see the many benefits unfold.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time..

©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

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Navigating Psychic Attack: A Guide for The Empath

There are many forms of psychic attack. For the purpose of this post I’m referring to the type which is sent, from one person to another, through dark thought forms.

It is difficult to discern between the emotions our thoughts create, by pondering a stressful subject, to those we experience through psychic attack, and this is why many Empaths are unaware they are on the receiving end of malicious contemplations. 

Most people do not experience the dark thoughts of others. This is not the case for the Empaths. If another is having undesirable thoughts about them, it can turn into full-blown psychic attack.

We are in the midst of some challenging times which are bringing many insecurities, and hidden issues, to the surface within humans. Instead of facing them, many are projecting the discomfort they feel onto others by blame.

Those who choose not to deal with  their inner-conflicts tend to vibrate at a low-frequency and their energy becomes toxic to the Empath. Because they find it difficult to be around those who are experiencing deep negative issues the Empath may need to disconnect, or stop spending time around them, which often causes bitter resentments to form.

Generally, a psychic attack comes from family members, not necessarily blood related, friends who are close or once used to be, work colleagues or those the Empath has disconnected from. As already mentioned, most do not pick up on the dark brooding thoughts others have about them (everyone thinks badly of others at some point), but being so Sensitive, to all energy, the Empaths do.

How can you tell when being attacked?

When under psychic attack the tell-tale signs are repeating negative thought patterns surrounding one person. For example: a certain friend (the one thinking and thus sending bad thoughts) will repeatedly pop into your mind, along with negatively charged feelings, throughout the course of the day or days.

You may wake up thinking angry thoughts towards this person, when you have had no recent contact with them or reason to be feeling angry with them. And you will somehow manage to link the negatively charged feelings to a past situation and, therefore, falsely believe you are responsible for creating the angry thoughts.

When under attack, the one thinking/sending the dark thoughts does not necessarily know you are on the receiving end of their menacing musings. Instead of taking responsibility and finding the true cause for their troubles, they lash out and project blame onto others for their unhappiness, through their thoughts. (You will probably not be the only one the thoughts are directed at, but you will probably be the only one feeling them.)

What should you do when you sense a psychic attack?

You have to nip it in the bud straight away and this means not indulging the dark thoughts or emotions you are experiencing. Which has to be said, is not easy to do. By engaging their thoughts you become part of the problem.

The Empath has the power to project angry thoughts back to the source without realising, and in doing so, unintentionally open a two-way psychic battleground with angry thoughts flying back and forth. It can go on for days. And in these cases, the Empath always comes off worse.

More than any other, Empaths have to be cautious of what they project out into the world in the way of gloomy, angry or irrational thought forms. What goes out has the tendency to come back amplified. (The positive flip side to this is the return of projecting positive, happy, love-filled thoughts out into the world).

You may have noticed your moods are projected onto others. If feeling happy you lift others up, if sad you see it wash over those in your presence. Even your tiredness, and stumbling over words, is projected to another. So yes, Empaths take on negative, energetic vibrations from others, but they can also powerfully, project them back out.

How do we stop engaging dark thoughts?

The easiest way is to do this is distract yourself the moment you notice any dark thought forms. Especially if they repeatedly go back to the same person. You may have already discovered your own way to do this but making noise in your head can really help: singing, humming, chanting etc. Just like plugging in your ears and singing loudly blocks out external sounds, I’ve found this helps with outside thoughts too. You could also try exercise or get creative.

How can we protect ourselves from psychic attack?

Build up a strong energy-field (click here, here or here for more info).

Being weak, physically or mentally, automatically weakens your energy-field (aura). Your energy-field is your ‘invisible’ shield which protects you from outside ‘invisible’ influences, such as negative thoughts and emotions.

Suppressed emotions, poor diet, lack of exercise, a busy head, illness and emotional pain all contribute to weakening of the energetic body. If you suspect you have been on the receiving end of psychic attack it is a good time to tune into your IGS and reevaluate your lifestyle. By strengthening the body and mind  (see here for more) it will in turn strengthen your energy-field and thus help ward off psychic attack or negative energy.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time.

Diane

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Why Not Transform Your Empath Life for Good?

As an Empath, if you change your diet you can transform your life!

I have already written about the devastating effects wheat has on the body and mind. And, after more in-depth research, I will expand on the reasons behind this and take a look at how wheat and gluten is being linked to most disease.

This information is important for the health of anyone, but especially to those of a Sensitive nature who are already vulnerable to the afflictions caused by external energies.

I feel it is vital that everyone, particularly Empaths, are made aware of just how toxic wheat and gluten is to the body and mind. By removing it from the diet it will have a huge transformation on one’s all round mental and physical health.

Every Empath will benefit from removing wheat, and even gluten, from their diet. Particularly if they suffer from any kind of depressive illness or are introverted to the point of not wanting to venture out into the world.

Click here to check any Empath symptoms you may have against those caused by wheat.

 Last year (2012) I gave up wheat and it is one of the best things I have done for my health and Empath wellbeing. But I am not the only one. Many, many others are saying the same thing.

How wheat was changed

The wheat you consume today is nothing like your grandparents feasted on. It is now the product of genetic manipulation and these changes began as far back as 1935 when genes for semi-dwarf wheat were first bred.

Dwarfing the wheat genes enabled greater seed production. And, because dwarf wheat only grows to a height of two feet, instead of the usual four, it made it less prone to wind damage.

By the 1970s this semi-dwarf wheat was being successfully farmed in Mexico, India and Pakistan. By 1985 much of the Western world was producing semi-dwarf wheat and by 1997, 81% of the developing world had introduced this crop.

Although the sole intention of genetic crossbreeding of wheat was to give greater yield, thus ending world famine, it changed components of the wheat protein known as gliadin, which caused many problems to the human body.

To try and explain this as un-technically as possible:

Gliadin is a lectin and a part of wheatgerm and gluten. Lectins are proteins that are found within plants and animals; they do the same job of antibodies within the human body, fighting off foreign invaders such as bacteria.

Stomach acid has little effect on lectins – they are virtually indigestible! So, if a person has consumed wheat, the lectins move into the intestine undigested. The intestinal tract knows exactly how to filter waste and extract nourishment; it knows toxins and bacteria from the nutrients our bodies need to feed its cells.

Lectins have the capacity to switch off this filtering system and disturb the intestines ability to act as a filter. The colon then becomes permeable or leaky and allows toxins into the body that have no right to be there.

These toxins wreak havoc on our physical systems and show up in any part of the body as: inflammation of the gut, bowel disease, arthritis, dermatitis, depression, anxiety, acid reflux, asthma, eczema, inflammation of the organs, imbalance in the endocrine system (system which secrete hormones into bloodstream), chronic fatigue, weight gain/loss and joint pain. But those ailments are just the tip of the iceberg. And for the Empath, lectins can heighten all their negative traits and supress the positive.

Depression

Another symptom related to the changes in wheat is the plague of depression that has been on the rise since the mid eighties; coincidentally around the time genetically mutated wheat became abundant and a staple at every meal.

In the 1950s it was estimated that no more than 50 to a 100 people out of a million had the need for antidepressants; that figure stands today at 1 in 10!

More than 40 million people worldwide are now taking antidepressants. According to The National Centre for Health Statistics, in America alone, the use of antidepressants increased by 400% between 1988 and 1994 and numbers have continued to escalate since then.

It has been scientifically proven that wheat can change your personality and behaviour! (Bad news for the Empaths who are already vulnerable.) In tests, wheat was put through the process of digestion. It was found when wheat broke down, during digestion, it did so into many small proteins. These small proteins had the ability to cross the blood-brain barrier and bind themselves to the opiate receptors of the brain, having the effect of creating behavioural changes such as paranoia and depression.

The opiate effect of wheat is similar to that of narcotics, but without the pleasurable high and is addictive. So addictive in fact that it will give withdrawal symptoms soon after elimination.

To some, the very notion of giving up wheat (bread, cakes, pasta and pizza) fills them with dread, even anger, that is just their addiction talking.

Once eliminated from the diet, the desire for wheat foods disappears completely. For some it may take days for others a couple of weeks. However, the addiction will return if wheat is reintroduced, as well as some other nasty effects.

Please note that if you are planning on going gluten or wheat-free,  avoid all store brought ‘gluten-free’ bread or cake replacements. They have no health benefits and turn to glucose in the body faster than table sugar. They are ‘chemicals in a can’ or pack or bag, and will serve in spiking your blood-sugar levels, which opens another can of worms.

(Update 2017)  I believe so much in the power of diet change for an Empath I have written a book about it. If you too want to see big changes in your health and happiness, and I mean changes, why not read The Eating Plan for Empaths & HSPs it might transform you Empath life!

Hope this helps on your Empath journey:

For More information on this important subject see Uniting Mind, Body and Spirit

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AN EMPATH’S GUIDE TO LIVING IN THE WORLD

Living in this heavily populated world Empaths face many energetic challenges. If it is not having others dump their negative energies on them, they are drained of their vital energy just by spending too much time in public.

Learning to set energetic boundaries is, of course, a given for those of a Sensitive nature and many Empaths are hardwired into automatically doing this. However, sometimes life just gets in the way.

We all need gentle reminders, from time to time, about what we could be doing to protect ourselves and thus make life more enjoyable. And this is what I hope to present in this guide for the Empath.

For Empaths, wanting to block out all external emotions and energies would, no doubt, be a priority. But it is not always that cut and dry. For one thing, she might have already tried every energy-blocking technique known to man, without any success.

And then there are the questions: why is it Empaths feel and take on what they do, emotionally, is it not for a purpose? In taking on these negative energies are they not helping rid the world of them?

The answer to those question are debatable. But the fact is all Empaths need to learn to protect themselves from wayward energies, and know how to stay grounded, so they can continue to function in everyday life.

Out and About

When an Empath is alone in people-congested places, they may soak up the highly charged energies no sooner than having stepped over the building’s threshold.

If you are one who finds being in public areas, such as shopping malls and cinemas, unbearable, to the point of avoiding them at all costs, there are some techniques you could try that may help:

Take a Friend: Being with another person acts as a buffer and helps diffuse external energies. This lessens the impact, when spending time in public places. It also serves as a pleasant distraction and takes your mind off what you are feeling.

Chances are, after the shopping trip or outing, you may still feel drained but your experience will have been a much more pleasant one.

If taking a friend, or family member, is not possible find a grounding technique, that works for you, and use it before going out. Below are some you could try:

Power Poses: A power pose is generally anything that opens up the body. They can be as simple as opening up one’s arms wide (so your body is in the shape of a cross) and taking long, slow breaths through the nose. Holding a gentle smile is further empowering.

If you are familiar with yoga, a Starfish pose (standing with wide legs and arms) is ideal, as is a Warrior pose with open arms.

Holding the power pose for a couple of minutes before leaving home, or entering an energy-hostile environment, serves in uplifting and expanding one’s energy field. This is opposed to how an Empath often goes out into the world, wanting to feel small and invisible.

Grounding visualizations: These could be anything from visualising roots coming from your feet, grounding you to the earth, to mentally building a halo of white light around your body and expanding it with your breath.

Take a couple of minutes to quieten the mind before attempting.

Affirmations: Positive mini-declarations repeated in the mind can serve in being uplifting, empowering and protective. Statements such as: ‘I am empowered ‘or ‘I am in control’, instantly, and positively, change your mind-set, and your vibration, and thus make you better equipped to handle excessive energies.

Find one that works for you, suitable for the time and place.

Music therapy: Taking your music and earphones is a huge help when out and about. Listening to music you love creates an inner-expansion. It uplifts your energy and creates a protective ‘bliss bubble’ around you. This energy expansion enables you to glide through public-places seemingly unaffected.

It is best to get into the ‘music zone’ before entering a peopled place.

Breath-work: There are many grounding and mind quietening methods available, such as meditation, that require a committed, daily practise to reap the full benefits.  However, the breathing methods, included in the post below are  meditative techniques and can be done in a hurry or when one is feeling out of sorts.

You may need to play around with different breathing techniques to find one which works for you. They can be used before entering or whilst in a busy place. 

Please see this post for  various breathing techniques.

Bedtime

If you are one who doesn’t like sleep-snuggling, or having to sleep close to your partner in bed, no matter how much you love them, you are not alone.

Having sleeping-space is essential for the Empath. 

Most Empaths loathe having anyone get in their ‘energy-space’, day or night, but as sleep-time is crucial for recharging, it is even more important they are allowed it.

If you share a bed, and it is not possible for you to have your own bedroom, opt for the largest size bed available, if space permits.

If you still struggle sleeping near your partner or wake-up feeling drained, use one of the above grounding techniques and adapt them to bedtime mode.

Eating

Know your food and how it affects you. Listen to what your body is telling you about what is and isn’t right for you. If, for example, you have a nagging feeling that dairy is causing you to have an allergic reaction, you could try the 30 day exclusion challenge, to see if it is.

This involves abstaining from all dairy (or whatever you suspect does not agree with you, be it chocolate, tomatoes, alcohol or GMOs) for 30 days. After that time, gradually introduce it back into your diet. If you have a big reaction to it, you know you are intolerant, allergic or energetically incompatible and  are best removing it from your diet.

Over a period of about 15 years, I’ve tried many eating and exercise plans. I have tried and trained in many holistic therapies and healing, and researched the benefits of nutrients. I always believed that the answers to my healing lay in the metaphysical, and if I made myself more ‘spiritual’ I would find life easier… I hadn’t taken into consideration that it didn’t matter how many hours I sat in meditation or doing yoga, or how many spiritual texts I read, if I was putting poison into my physical body, no amount of meditation or spiritual awareness was going to balance me.

Of everything I have tried over the years, holistically, spiritually and energetically, the most profound changes happened to me when I changed my diet!

I have written about benefits of changing the diet before (and will do again, and again), but as I consider it to be one of the best things you can do to aid physical healing and spiritual growth, especially for Sensitives, I will keep spreading the word.

We may all be very different, with different spiritual, nutritional and physical requirements, but none of us will benefit from taking drugs or eating drug-like food…

Because they tend to be highly reactive, Empaths react more to drug-like foods than those not of a Sensitive nature. High reactive people taste the bitterness in lemons more than others, feel emotional and physical pain more, go red in the face easier and are affected by certain foods, drugs and alcohol worse than those who are not highly reactive.

High reactives are responsive to different vibrations of energy. Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies and that includes what we eat and drink: the faster the vibration, the higher the frequency. Empaths are negatively affected by anything of a low vibration. Certain foods, drugs and alcohol all have a low vibrational energy and bring the Empath down fast.

If you suspect your diet is impacting your health, and Empath ways, and are keen to learn of all the negative ways your diet can impact Empath life click here. 

It is also wise to take note how your food is prepared. Food made in an angry or unhappy environment will carry that energy and thus show up within you.

Most Empaths benefit from having mainly homemade food, so they know exactly what energy goes into their meals.

Socializing and Stimulants

Unfortunately, any kind of stimulant (alcohol, drugs, etc.) only serve in weakening the Empath (as they do any other human). Under the influence, it may feel like external energies are blocked but unfortunately this is not the case. They still seep in and still need to be dealt with.

When in company, other people’s emotions may show up in the Empath as aggression or an overly dominant ego on the evening of consumption or as a physical and emotional hangover from hell the day after.

If you don’t like the idea of giving up your favourite tipple, or social life, try using grounding techniques before an evening out and drink lots of water throughout the evening. Water has both a cleansing and grounding effect. Also include lots of alkalizing foods in your diet. By keeping your body in a more alkaline state it helps keep Empath balance and prevents alcohol doing as much damage.

Friends 

The longer the Empath has known a friend, the more impact the friend can have on their energy. As you would imagine this could be a good or bad thing, depending on the relationship.

Knowing how to navigate your friendships serves in offering healthier and happier relationships.

Friends’ energy and how it affects those of a Sensitive nature will change along with their age and life circumstances. If down or depressed, a friend can unintentionally take the Empath down with them.

In theses cases one has to learn to emotionally unplug. One can still listen and be there, but in a detached way.

Also, be very wary of an unwanted energy drain.

We all know people who drain energy, otherwise known as the ‘Energy Vampires’, but when a friend, who isn’t normally a drainer, is experiencing a tough time their energy-sucking tentacles may seek out an instant uplift from anywhere they can get it.

To avoid being a friend’s ‘energy-replacement-meal’, watch for any drain and where it is coming from. It is normally be from one of four of the main energy centres (chakras): sacral (below belly), solar plexus (mid belly), heart (heart area) or throat (front of throat) and it may be felt by a pull or ache in that area.

Wherever you feel the drain, cover that area immediately with your hands or arms. It is not by chance that we cross our arms over our stomach or chest in social situations; we are subconsciously stopping an energy-drain.

Empaths tend to be very faithful to their friends and keep them in their life for the long-haul. For this reason, it is a good idea to choose friends wisely.

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Work 

For the Empath finding their calling or vocation can be a challenge of epic proportions.

Living a lie, through having to pretend they like doing a job which they don’t, or sell a product they do not believe in, is nothing short of torture for the Empath.

As eighty percent of the workforce do not enjoy their job, this does not make for an energy-efficient or happy working environment (another obstacle for the Empath).

If you listen, your Internal Guidance System will continuously present you with vocational options, perhaps as interests or passions.

If searching for your dream job, or just a new direction in life, here are some questions that may ignite the answer:

  • What are your passions?
  • What do you love to do?
  • What do you believe in?
  • What would you wake up excited to do each day?
  • What can you not live without doing?
  • What engages you?
  • What interest keeps coming back to you?
  • If you could change the world for the better, how would you do it?

Roadblocks

Roadblocks are what stop you going down your desired or chosen route in life. They can be seen through sickness, redundancy, depression, loss of money and social status or non-starting projects. They can unexpectedly pop up out of nowhere, take you off your current journey and bring your life to a standstill or send you off in a new direction.

When encountering roadblocks it may seem like they are purely an unfair punishment, but this comes down to your perspective. They are normally presented as a detour and a way to make changes to your life’s journey when refusing to listen to your IGS.

This detour may involve a long and winding scenic-route, which also happens to be an uncomfortable, seemingly never-ending, bumpy road. But again, this is down to your perspective. 

You have a choice: you can get wrapped up in the inconvenience and discomfort of the long ‘scenic-route’, focusing only on that, or you can concentrate on the ever-changing landscape as it passes and be grateful for being given a chance to change.

Everything presented to us in life is a gift, even roadblocks, and are something to learn and grow from… if only you allow yourselves to see it.

Exercise

Exercise is essential to an Empath’s wellbeing. It works both the physical and energetic bodies, and helps clear stagnant or negative energy.

Sadly, we live in a society that promotes a ‘no-pain-no-gain’ philosophy towards exercise and a focus on sculpting the muscles instead of healing the body and mind. Exercise should be fun and liberating, not torturous or painful (unless you enjoy that ).

There are many ways to exercise and it doesn’t have to be costly or complicated. It can be as simple as turning on some funky music and shaking your hips around the kitchen. Dancing when no one is watching is unbelievably uplifting and you get to make your own moves with the beat of the music.

Running or walking in nature, freestyle dance, where there are no rules, or one of the many forms of yoga, are some of the best forms of exercise for the Empath. These could be done alone at home, and there is no need for a gym membership.

Swimming in the sea, or a lake, would also be great, if you’re fortunate enough to have one nearby.

A gym-class is not always the best environment for the Empath, especially if it has a very ego-driven or body-conscious atmosphere and adorned by lots of mirrors.

Some Empaths pick up negative residual energy left on mirrors. If there have been many insecure, or body conscious, people gazing into gym-mirrors (or mirrors in clothes shops, etc.) an Empath may feel the lingering energy of these insecurities and take them on as their own.

Relationships 

For the Empath, relationships often prove to be a complicated area of life. But also very rewarding when they find a compatible mate (who very likely won’t be an Empath but may still be sensitive).

Empaths are a greatly misunderstood bunch. If they seem aloof or disconnected (after suffering Empath overwhelm) it may take a while for their detachment, and need for time alone, not to be taken personally by a prospective partner.

When one is romantically connected to another, it can make the energetic connection complicated.

Reading someone, who holds no emotional ties, comes quite easily for the Empath. However, when there is a strong emotional bind it can distort one’s ability to read energies clearly. This can lead to confusion and frustration, especially in the early building, days of a relationship and even further down the road.

Not everyone is as inclined to be as honest as an Empath; especially if they have grown-up or worked in an environment where lying is ‘quietly’ seen as acceptable (it is surprising how often this is the case). This is a huge bugbear for the Empath because they feel the energy of a lie, but not always what the lie is. In some cases, this leads to paranoia which in turn leads to ungrounded accusations and arguments.

A whole book  could be dedicated to the relationship highs and lows of an Empath and how to handle every situation (see The Empath Awakening for more on Empath relationships). But in brief, it’s safe to say that the best way to be in any relationship is honest (unless the truth will cause unnecessary pain) and never be afraid to show your True-Self.

It’s always good to remember that every relationship, no matter how brief, offers valuable lessons. Even toxic relationships, filled with strife and arguments, can show areas of  life that need to be worked on or improved.

Comfort Zone 

Allowing yourself to step from your comfort zone, on a daily basis, allows for growth in all areas of your life.  It enables you to face your fears and, in facing them, it gives you a greater capacity to deal with any negative emotions you meet.

When we stay comfortable, we stay small and don’t expand. As the saying goes: 

‘If it doesn’t challenge you it doesn’t change you!’  

                                                                          – Fred Devito

Stepping from the comfort zone can be done by going further than you would like during exercise, by making a phone-call you’ve been putting off for months, by telling someone you love them, or anything that makes you squirm but which you know you should do. 

Getting Out of Your Head

Thoughts can be destructive to your health and wellbeing, especially when they are negative and repetitive. Empaths tend to spend a lot of time in their heads, which is great when thoughts are creative, happy or enlightening. But spend too much time around certain people, or places, and those happy thoughts can quickly turn into painful memories, anger or notions of being wronged or unfairly treated by another.

You may not realise those irrational thoughts, that are on a perpetual time-loop, were ignited by being around certain others, as they don’t always kick in till a day or two after exposure.

So, how do you stop them? It’s not easy but it can be done. The best techniques involves externalising your awareness or by distracting the mind.

Externalising Awareness: One of the best ways to get out of the head is to focus your awareness outside of yourself, using a meditative technique called mindfulness.

This can be done almost anywhere and involves focusing on something outside of your mind. You could gaze at a flickering candle or pay close attention to your scenery as you pass it by (obviously not to be done whilst driving).

If you like walking in nature look up at the trees and notice all you can about the bark, branches and leaves, see the different cloud formations in the sky or inspect the wild flowers growing within the foliage.

Thought Distraction: When your thoughts are on negative-overdrive, doing activities which allow you to indulge them is not advisable. You need to distract yourself. One of the quickest ways to do this is by stepping out of your comfort zone. 

When your mind becomes preoccupied by anything which causes discomfort it stops engaging dark or repetitive thoughts. A few minutes exercising usually does the trick:

If you practise yoga do a pose you find challenging or which requires stamina or concentration, such as the Plank, Warrior, Tree or Crow.  

Do some on the spot exercise: march, jog, star jumps, twist jumps, etc.

Just be wary of injury before doing any on the spot exercise. When your muscles, or joints, are cold they are not as pliable and are more prone to injury. Start slowly and build up the intensity.

 Conclusion 

As we are all here on our own journey with learning experiences unique to us, not all the tips and advice offered here will be helpful to everyone. But until you try them for yourself you will not know what works or what doesn’t. 

As an Empath, you may have come into life purely to gain experience of feeling others’ emotions. And because of this, it is important to remember that just because one Sensitive has learnt how to deal with external energies and you haven’t, even after trying every technique in the book, doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong or being punished. It may simply mean you have not yet achieved a certain lesson from a certain experience.

It could also be that you are capable of enduring more hardships in life and your mountains are higher and harder to climb than most and in turn you will be learning more.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time…


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Sensitivities of an Empath

If you are an Empath or Sensitive you will be more than used to not handling anything of a low vibration, but lately you may have noticed those sensitivities amping up.

Many Empaths suffer allergies in some shape or form. However, you may be allergic or intolerant and not even be aware of it. If you are in contact with something on a daily basis that you are allergic to, you tend to have a continuous, albeit sometimes minor, reaction. For example: you may suffer with a constant stuffy nose, itchy eyes, muscle or joint discomfort, headaches or constipation, but because you’ve had the symptoms for as long as you can remember, you give little thought to them, but any one of them could be a sign of an allergy.

Normally, the way to determine an allergy is a process of elimination: To withdraw from your diet, for a time, the suspected allergy inducing item and then reintroduce it. If you are allergic you will normally have a big reaction to it. However, you may now be finding that your own body is giving you spontaneous allergic reactions, to things you have come into daily contact with, for most of your life.

The thing is, most of us already know what we should or shouldn’t consume. We all have the internal Knowing. We get that nagging feeling that something is not a fit for us. However, as humans we have also wanted to indulge in the forbidden fruit. But now, it would seem, we are getting put on track and our own bodies are guiding us, and in some cases rather abruptly, to make the change.

Here is a little list of some types of reactions you may have been experiencing:

  • If you use alcohol to help get you through social situations, you find yourself getting intoxicated ridiculously easily and feeling so ill after consumption that you believe you’re literally going to die. Hangovers last for days or even a week.
  • After eating meat, poultry or fish you feel more depressed than normal and your energy levels plummet.
  • You may find that the kick start coffee in the morning is giving you the jitters, making you feel anxious and/or nauseous.
  • When coming into contact with air fresheners, cleaning products, perfumes or garden chemicals, your nose starts streaming and you develop cold-like symptoms.
  • Consuming anything genetically modified triggers a whole host of uncomfortable symptoms.
  • White sugar (or anything refined) makes your body instantly lethargic and your mind race.
  • TV and internet (that you have previously been ok with) gives you brain fog and makes you feel restless or irritable.

When you take heed of your body’s warning signals, in the shape of instant negative reactions, and remove whatever it is lowering your vibration, you effectively release yourself from its control. Although touted as much desired pleasures, the contents of the list above are mostly energy draining and toxic to us. And if your body/mind/intuition is telling you its time to give them up, it is probably wise to listen. In return you will have more energy, feel happier, freer and will have to deal with less of the dark stuff within.

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Benefits of Relaxation for the Empath

The majority of us have no idea how much tension we continuously hold within our muscles. In today’s society we have unknowingly trained our muscles to stay in a perpetual state of contraction and because of this, even in sleep, they don’t fully relax.chibi_buddha_144332

Our muscles are constantly stimulated either through the stresses of modern life or through vigorous sports and exercise. Even TV programmes, that we may watch of an evening to relax, have an effect of firing up the mind which can in turn stimulate the muscles, further tensing them. Also, painful emotions can be stored within the muscles, leading to greater muscle fatigue.

Even now, whilst reading this, you will probably be holding tension somewhere in your body. If you take your awareness to your face you may notice that your forehead, jaw or eyes are not relaxed. But until this was pointed out to you, you were unaware of it. If you travel further into the body you may find your shoulders are hunched or your wrists may be extended back, all creating pressure in the muscles and joints. We could go through the entire body, but I think it’s safe to say that you will be, unwittingly, holding tension somewhere.

When our muscles are constantly contracted and alert they are fuelling the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight) and not only is this depleting the body of vital energy, that those of us who have low energy cannot afford to lose, but it is also prematurely ageing, can raise blood pressure and lower our immune system.

In training the muscles to soften and loosen-up through relaxation, it will switch on the parasympathetic nervous system, which in turn will slow our breathing, lower the blood pressure, initiate deep relaxation of body and mind, and allows healing to occur.

In yoga, it is known that the relaxation, at the end of a class, is the most beneficial part of the practice. Not only is it time for the body to rest but it’s the time that the benefits of practise are fully integrated.

To fully relax the body we need to be in a supine position, lying on the floor or on a bed, with our whole body weight being supported (for anyone suffering back problems: a bolster or cushion under knees is helpful). The best way to get a muscle to relax is to tense it first, for five to ten seconds. Start at the feet and work up through limbs, torso and face, tensing and relaxing each body part in turn (great one to do if you can’t sleep) and then stay for a while in this deep state of stillness. If time is short, you could do the lower part of body first, then upper half, finishing on the face. Not only does this exercise promote relaxation but it will also aid in stilling the mind.

You may not always feel the benefits of relaxation directly after (hence us not always realising what a benefit it is). In some, the valuable results may not be felt till the day after.

Relaxation can be done anytime, but the best time is after exercise when the muscles have been stretched and strengthened and the mind is quieter.

If you are Highly Sensitive (Empath) or suffer from any kind of chronic fatigue doing full-body muscle resting will be of great help to your overall well-being.

Quick Recap of Relaxation Benefits

  • Reduces fatigue
  • Anti-ageing
  • Lowers blood pressure
  • Boosts immune system
  • Induces restful sleep
  • Allows for muscle regeneration
  • Switches on parasympathetic nervous system
  • Promotes mind stillness
  • Aides in general well-being.

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Still the Empath Mind with Ancient Yoga Techniques

Empaths often spend years trying to get in control of their emotions. It is after all their emotions that determine their levels of happiness. But one thing many turn away from, in their pursuit of balance, is yoga. This is unfortunate as there are many yoga techniques that work brilliantly for stilling the Empath mind, and  their emotions, which in turn helps build a strong energy field.

The mind is incredibly powerful. Most are unaware of just how much it shapes their world. When you don’t have control of it, your mind will shape a reality plucked straight from your worst nightmare.

Many illnesses, born from stress, fear or anger,  start in the mind. But the mind also has the power to heal them. In some cases, in an instant.

You may have heard about this in the placebo effect. For example:  when testing the effectiveness of pharmaceutical drugs, trials are often done on 2 test groups. One group are given the real drug being tested, and the others a fake (placebo). There are many cases when those given the placebo healed from their ailments. Their mind believed it was given the authentic drug and it set into motion the healing process.

There are also cases where groups of volunteers were given placebo operations for things such as knee or hip injuries. A placebo operation is where the volunteer is anesthetized but only an incision is made on the place of injury, and nothing more. This gives the patient the belief they had had the procedure.   And the mind, believing the injury has repaired, instructs the body to heal.

Every Empath eventually comes to understand the power of their mind. It is capable of creating such beauty but also the worst type of inner turmoil. Especially when thoughts are on overdrive. The mind could speed up your heart rate just by envisaging a scary scenario, or make you angry by pondering an injustice. The more innovative the mind the more possibilities. One can only imagine what damage is done, within the body, by those who have creative imaginations. And guess who own incredibly creative imaginations…? Yup, the Empaths.

An Empath can sit for hours happily staring into space with just their thoughts for entertainment. Whilst this is a lovely past time, when thoughts are happy and positive, it is not so much when they are dark, and brooding.

Happy thoughts uplift, inspire, balance and nourish the body and mind. The opposite is true for turbulently-vexed thoughts. They negatively impact the body and create angst within the solar plexus (mid-stomach area). Because thoughts feed emotions and emotions feed thoughts, negative thought patterns become an encumbering repetitive cycle for many Empaths.

When Empaths pick up the emotions, or thoughts, of those around them, they often claim them as their own. Before they know what’s hit them, the Empath is caught up in a tornado of torrid, angry thoughts that don’t belong to them.

The mind has its own way of interpreting energy. Sometimes it makes it into a story and sometimes it makes one feel physically ill or drained. Our own programs decide how we read energy. When I say programs, I mean our lineage and personal history. We inherit more than just our physical appearance. 

You may have a different personality than your grandparents, parents or siblings but as you are made from the same stuff there is a likelihood you will carry similar emotional debris, beliefs and insecurities (which becomes your programing).  Your personal history is an accumulation of the events that happened throughout your life, good and bad. Both factors determine how your programs run and thus how you show up in the world. But just because you run a particular program, doesn’t mean it can’t be changed. 

If you find negative emotions are ruling your life now is the time to set a new program. This means taking control of your mind. If this is something you would like to do then my recommendation is to start practicing some type of yoga technique.

In my quest to quieten my mind and heal my body, over the years, I tried many things, but the one constant I have always come back to is yoga and the many branches thereof. After years of study and practice I have a greater insight into the roots of yoga and an understanding why it is such an incredible elixir to the Empath.

Yoga has been around for thousands of years and originated in India. For all the many benefits yoga has to offer the body, it was primarily designed to still the mind. It is only when the mind is quiet that we truly find peace.

The ancient yogis knew you could not keep a quiet mind with a body in pain. The yoga poses (asana) were designed to strengthen,  heal and soothe the body. The poses also act as a distraction for the mind. It stands to reason that when the mind is focused on overcoming an obstacle, such as a challenging yoga pose, it cannot be filled with riotous thoughts.

Yoga also teaches us to control the breath either through dynamic yoga (flowing in and out of postures), or through pranayama (regulation of breath though certain techniques and exercises).

Not only are the different yogic breathing techniques energizing and uplifting, they are also calming, relaxing and rejuvenating. From an Empath perspective, pranayama also helps block  the negative energy of others and helps build more powerful energy field (aura) which, amongst other things, protects against psychic attack and other low thought forms.

In these challenging times, yoga and the yogic breathing systems are a blessing to the Empath and should be part of every Empath’s life.

Below is a list of breathing exercises and links to their demonstrations on YouTube.

Nadi Shodhana (alternate nostril breathing) is a technique that quietens the mind and blisses you out. It is great to do before bedtime, especially if you have a wired, monkey mind. It also balances masculine and feminine energies within the body. For an instructional video click here.

Kapalbhati (bellows breath) a brilliant energizing breathing technique that also works and strengthens the core stomach muscles. It is best to do in the morning (always on an empty stomach), or when one needs a quick energy boost. It is a fabulous practice for eliminating excess emotions held around the solar plexus area (seat of emotions). After performing a few rounds of  kapalbhati, you are left with a quiet, yet energised, mind. For an instructional video click here.

 Ujayi (victorious breath) is commonly used within yogic asana practise to create heat within the body. It keeps the mind focused and helps remove toxins. I find this technique great to use when in places such as supermarkets, where there are lots different ‘people’ energies swirling round. Ujayi helps block out any incoming energies and keeps you centred . For instructional video click here

Dynamic Asana Practice: This is a flowing yoga practice that moves with the breath. Instead of holding poses static, for a certain length of time, you move in and out of the postures with the rhythm of your breathing. Again, brilliant for quietening the busy Empath mind, but also great for alleviating tension, and building strength and flexibility within the body. (I have not attached a link to this as it’s best to learn under a qualified instructor).

To reap the greatest benefits of any yoga breathing techniques you should try to practise every day, if only for 5 minutes. Any yogic breathing system should be approached gradually. When first attempted they may cause dizziness or sometimes anxiousness. This, however, quickly passes so don’t be put off.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

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Clear Your Empath Clutter Transform Your Life!

It is incredible how quickly clutter builds within the home and the mind. How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?

Have you kept old clothes for when you lose weight or hope they may come back in fashion one day? 

Or have you been given a gift  you didn’t really like, but kept to avoid hurting another’s feelings?

I think it’s safe to say most could answer yes to the above questions. But hoarding, even just a bit, soon sees your home overloaded with junk. Bad news for Empaths or those of a Sensitive nature.

An overly cluttered house leads to an overly cluttered energy field.

Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is extremely draining to the body and mind. Even clutter the eye cannot see has a debilitating effect on the psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling.

If you have a crowded house (and I don’t mean with people) you may not realize how much it depletes your energy. Clutter causes sluggishness, apathy and an uninspired Empath mind.

Empaths tend to have an inbuilt loathing of clutter, whether they are aware of their gift or not, and this is because they feel ‘clutter energy’ dragging them down. They may opt for an uncomplicated decor, without too much fuss, for the simple reason all objects hold energy. But over the years clutter unintentionally builds.

Many years ago, I read a book by Karen Kingston called: ‘Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui, it really resonated with me and inspired me to have a full-on house detox.

I hatched a plan to rid the home of all unwanted, unused and unhelpful items we had hoarded. My husband and I ploughed through the house, room by room, and cleared tonnes of stuff (slight exaggeration, but you will be surprised how much is crammed into the smallest draw). I have a minimalistic décor style and have never liked visual clutter. So everything removed came out of cupboards, draws and wardrobes.

It was amazing how clean, fresh and liberated we both felt afterwards. Removing the clutter also cleared energetic debris held within the unused items.

Where to start

The first thing you need to summon when de-cluttering is bravery. Yes, it may sound silly to suggest being brave when it comes to house-clearing, but it’s often exactly what you need. Letting anything go causes discomfort. Fear always rear its ugly head when making any changes in life. When de-cluttering, fear likes to perch on your shoulder and whisper in your ear, telling you how much you need those unneeded items.

Hoarding is born from the fear of lack. By clearing your clutter you face this fear. When your home is full there is no room for anything new to come into your life. In making space, you send out a message to the universe that you are open to receive (but hopefully not to more clutter).

To find out whether you really need something in your life simply ask this question: How will this item improve my life? If you can’t come up with an answer (other than it won’t) it’s probably time to ditch or give it to charity.

Mental Clutter

Clearing the clutter doesn’t just have to be of your home, you can have an internal-clutter-clearing session.

Disposing of old beliefs, traits or thought patterns is both liberating and rejuvenating. Granted, they’re not as easy to be rid of as belongings, but probably ten times more beneficial.

A trait that will serve you no-end in eliminating is overly judgemental behaviour.

Judgemental behaviour carries a dark, cluttering energy

Although Empaths may dislike judging others it doesn’t mean they won’t harshly judge themselves. Being judgemental is imprisoning and causes untold harm. And it doesn’t have to be vindictive to be damaging: Believing you are not good enough, or another is more worthy is destructive. Self-judgements shrinks your self-worth and clutters your mind with insecurities.

Being judgemental catches all Empaths unaware. But when you work to clear it you become more conscious and automatically disengage from judgemental musings before they have chance to do damage.

Clutter Clearing Check List for the Internal and External

If you are in doubt of what you should or shouldn’t keep in your life, see the following questions:

  • Does this serve me today?
  • Will this serve me in the foreseeable future?
  • Can this serve anyone else?
  • Why am I holding onto this?
  • Will keeping/holding onto this make me happy?

A word of warning: Within days of having a clear-out your mind will play tricks on you. You will suddenly find use for everything you de-cluttered. You may not have used an item for 5 years but your mind will find a job for it once you’ve binned it. Just know that this is part of the de-cluttering process and it will pass.

Hope this post helps you on your Empath journey.

Until next time

Diane

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Developing Traits… The Empath Knowing

I love the energy of a Saturday morning. It’s so calm and peaceful and when the sun is shining, like it is today, it’s extra special.

One of the many gifts an Empath has is the ability to feel the energy of the days of the week. Each day has a unique vibration. Friday afternoon and Saturday mornings are my favourite-feeling days. Sunday evening and Monday morning not so much.

The reason Empaths feel the energy of days is because they pick up on collective energy. Early weekends feel liberating because most people are off work. Late weekends start to feel heavy as the dread of returning to unpopular jobs kicks in.

Empaths take for granted all they experience, energetically, because it happens so naturally. For the most part of life they may assume everyone experiences the same.

I remember as a child being able to see energy outlines (auras) around the inanimate and the animate. I loved lying on the grass on a warm summer’s day and stare at the hazy energy around the lush, green trees swaying gently in the breeze. I assumed this was something everyone could see/do. It was only in adulthood, when I reminisced about it with family and friends, I discovered they didn’t have the same childhood experiences. Sadly, that ability faded with time. Now if I want to see auras, I have to work at it.

It is not uncommon for children, whether they are an Empath or not, to have metaphysical abilities. They often see and communicate with spirits and non-physical beings or are extremely intuitive. Unfortunately, most tend to forget these abilities when they become adults. For the Empaths, however, intuition is not something they outgrow, but it maybe something largely ignored in adulthood.

Intuition (the Knowing) comes in many forms, foreseeing future events, being psychic, having the ability to read others, etc. This intuition can be developed (see this post for more details), if that’s what one wants. But a good place to start is just to listen to what you already have.

Every Empath has intuition to varying degrees. For most it comes as strong feelings within the gut area in regard to certain stimuli. For example: when you first meet someone you may get the overwhelming feeling that this person will be bad news. The stronger the feeling, the starker the warning.

Another example is: on a visit to the bank you are advised, by the bank manager, where to invest your money for the greatest yield. You immediately experience a gut-burning dread within the solar plexus. You may ignore it, believing the manager knows more than you do, only to find out, months or years down the line, that the investment was the worst thing you could have done.

I could go on with examples but I’m sure you get the picture.

Many ignore the gut-feelings (Knowing) for many reasons. Maybe you want to see the best in others or you don’t believe in yourself as much as you should. But those gut-feelings are there to warn, serve and protect you from experiencing anything you don’t need to (you already take on enough as it is).

The strong sense of Knowing Empaths have is their guide. It helps you discern what is right or wrong for you. You may question the Knowing, especially if it does not fit in with what your mind wants, but you would be wise to listen to it.

I will relay a situation that happened to me, many years ago,  that involved me ignoring my intuition: In the days when I had my own business, I was interviewing for a junior position in the salon. At the time we were desperate for a junior and didn’t get a good response from the advert; only one girl came in for the job. During the interview, my solar plexus was screaming  at me and my head was yelling, not to take this girl on. But being short-staffed I decided to ignore my intuition. I also told myself, everyone deserved a chance to prove themselves.

As you can imagine that decision came back to haunt me: the girl in question was constantly taking time off and when she did come in she was always late. She brought with her a very negative, draining energy, that everyone in the salon was affected by. Clients complained about her and if we tried explaining anything to her or reprimanding for her behaviour she would argue back. Basically, she was hell on legs and in her short time with us, she did a lot of damage to the staff and the salon’s reputation.

So, the moral of the story is don’t ignore your Empath intuition or its promptings.

When you get these strong urges, feelings, premonitions or notions in any shape or form, it is in your best interest to take heed (this is when it also helps to have a quiet mind). The reason behind them may not be revealed for days, weeks, months or even years but they will have a protective reason. For more information on tuning into you solar intuition see this post.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time

Diane

©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

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