Why Garlic is the Empath’s Best Friend

We all know that garlic keeps the blood-sucking vampires away but what about the ones we dread being in the presence of most…the energy vampires? For the Empath, it may not keep the latter away but it can certainly help counteract the damage they cause, both physically and energetically.

Garlic is an amazing tool when it comes to healing the body; it is a powerful antibiotic, anti-fungal and anti-inflammatory, it helps remove heavy metals and contains potent anti-oxidants that help build a healthy immune system. However, for the Empath, it is what it can do for the energetic body that you may find of interest.

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10 Essential Oils to Re-Balance the Empath

essential_oilsThe value of essential oils has been known for more than 6000 years, not only for their amazing healing properties but for their ability to bring energetic balance back to the body and mind, and promote emotional wellbeing.

Essential oils are composed of tiny molecules which can easily be penetrated by the body. When the essences are inhaled they enter the body, via the cells that line the nasal passages. These then send messages to the brain which directly affects the emotions by working on the limbic system, the limbic system controls the major functions of the body. Thus essential oils are able to heal and balance one’s physical and mental bodies at the same time.

Although the following essential oils have many therapeutic benefits, I will mainly be listing their energetic and emotional balancing qualities. These oils can also help remove the emotional energy, in the form of depression, low moods or anger, you may have picked up off others. Continue reading

Dark Thoughts and Moving into a New World

worldHave you found that you seem to be getting triggered in negative ways recently? You’re not alone. You will be especially noticing these triggers if, in the past years, you have significantly raised your vibration and have done lots of work on yourself.

You may find that for the much of the time you feel happy, even blissed out and then you receive a message off someone that automatically puts you into a negative place and changes your thoughts from being happy to angry or low vibrational.

To find yourself thinking negatively is not your fault, humans are hardwired into thinking more negative thoughts than positive, it’s called negativity bias and stems back to our survival instincts from caveman days. We can brood for hours on dark menacing thoughts whilst positive ones can often go unnoticed.

It only takes 17 seconds for a negative thought to take hold, which could then escalate into hours or days of dark thinking, which will affect both our emotions and our physical health.

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When People Become Trauma Triggers for the Empath

Trauma Triggers EmpathIf you have someone in your life who acts as a trauma trigger they will no doubt have already sprung to mind upon reading the title of this post.

Those who act as a trauma trigger cause a response at the mere mention of their name, and can have the Empath awash with a torrent of painful emotions, just by thinking about them.

For the Empath, feeling other people’s energy and emotions is normal, both negative and positive. Some people emit lovely, light vibrations and are a joy to be around, but there are some who live under a cloud of negative energy and are riddled with angsts that they seem to feed on. These ‘trigger’ people tend to spew out dark, angry energy  and refuse to accept or change their behaviour, even if it has been pointed out to them how their ways affect others. They tend to find fault in everyone (except themselves) and choose not to see the good in those around them. Continue reading

10 Ways Empaths can Protect Themselves from Other People’s Energy

For the Empath, being out in public can be a traumatizing time that can leave one feeling floored and out of sorts. Simply nipping to the shops can mean we end up wearing someone else’s energy for the rest of the day; which isn’t such a bad thing if the energy is positive and highly charged. However, more often than not, it is the not-so-nice energy that clings to us and follows us home.

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I have found that the best way to protect myself when out in public is by taking preëmptive measures as well as having a few tactics to pull out of the bag when needed. I am sharing here with you some that I have found to be the most effective:

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What’s the Deal with Antiques and Empaths?

On my post ‘At a Glance 30 Traits of an Empath’ there is one trait that has caused some controversy over the years, more than any other trait:

Trait 28.   Will not choose to buy antiques, vintage or second-hand 

Anything that’s been pre-owned carries the energy of the previous owner. An Empath may even prefer to have a brand new car or house (if they are in the financial situation to do so) with no residual energy.

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I feel now is as good a time as any to address this particular trait. Many people wrongly assume the reason number 28 is on the list is because antiques hold negative energy. Anything pre-owned can carry negative or positive energy but this is not the reason it is on the list. Continue reading

Why Empaths Freeze Around Inauthentic People

Ever spent time with someone who on the surface seem as nice as pie but when with them you feel awful and struggle to form a sentence? This is a caused by your Empathic antenna sensing that all is not what it seems. You are detecting that what this person is showing is a fake persona created to hide something from others.

When an Empath comes across fake people it is common for them to shut down as a form of protection.  This can be seen as stumbling over words or one’s memory and thought process being affected. Anyone who is not emanating truthful vibes will put an Empath on high alert.
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Is This a Cure for Social Anxiety and Introversion?

It has been a while since my last blog post, to say the least. I hadn’t realized just how long, until I glanced at the date of my last post… Eeeek! Time really is whizzing by!

I apologise for the lack of updates. It is not because I have lost interest in my little blog, far from it, I have missed my time away from the keyboard and writing about my passions of self-development for the Empath. The reason I have been away for so long is because my life has seen many changes this past year (all positive), which has meant I have had little time to spend on Just Be. But as I have now found myself with a free period, I wanted to come here and share with you information I recently came across about a condition that could be causing some of you unnecessary social anxiety and excessive introversion.

Like many of you out there, I consider myself to be an introvert and an Empath, with food and environmental sensitivities…which basically means, in this world, it is a constant battle to stay in balance. There are seemingly never ending hurdles to overcome when it comes to my/our wellbeing.

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How to Heal an Empath’s Emotions

Since I wrote my last post, Traits of the Sensitive, I decided to do a little research on the amygdala, the part of the brain which Dr. Elaine Aron, a research psychologist, found to be highly activated in Sensitives, when witnessing or being in situations that incite emotional responses. I wanted to know just what health implications it may have on us, by its constant activation. Here’s what I found:

The amygdala is a set of small almond-shaped clusters of nuclei, located deep within our brain’s temporal lobe, which plays a huge part in processing emotions. The more aggressive the emotion the more responsive the amygdala becomes, and is directly responsible for triggering the fight or flight response hormones.

Aron found, through a series of trials and research, when Sensitives were exposed to pictures of human suffering, the amygdala was activated, which in turn releases hormones into the body further enticing emotional responses.

[As Empaths, we know we don’t need to just watch another endure pain to experience suffering, simply being in the presence of someone carrying disturbed, vexed or negative emotions is enough to set off a huge reaction within us, whether the other person shows the emotions or not.]

The amygdala is not a thinking part of the brain; so to speak, it is more of a reacting part, which will activate when exposed to stimuli such as stress, fear or other strong emotions. It causes an automatic response known as the fight or flight response.

The fight or flight response is the body’s way of protecting us from dangerous situations. The process elevates hormones to give us the energy and strength to run away from danger or stay and fight for our life.

Two of the  hormones released into the body, by amygdala activation, are adrenalin and cortisol. These hormones increase heart rate, respiration and glucose levels, all essential for increased body activity. When these hormones are constantly activated by endocrine glands (courtesy of amygdala activation) and not used (by running away or fighting), it has a knock on effect and will put other organs out of whack, which can eventually lead to all sorts of illnesses such as heart disease, adrenal fatigue and diabetes, to name but a few.

Now, in normal situations, when a stressful situation is removed from the person experiencing it (a one-off stressful day at work for example), their stress levels return to normal and the amygdala stops activation. It is when the stress/emotional triggers do not decrease that causes problems within the body. This is where health complications can arise for the Empath.

Empaths don’t always get away from stressful emotions so easily, for not only do they have to deal with their own day-to-day stresses, but that of others too. When in a shopping centre or public place, one will stop feeling stranger’s emotions quite soon after leaving. However, when picking up another’s emotions, one is connected to via a family or friend relationship, these emotions do not leave so quickly and can last for anything from days, up to a week after exposure. This will also mean our amygdala is staying activated and thus a large amount of unnecessary hormones are getting dumped into our bodies which will not be used in the way they should be…

 So what can we do about it?

1. The first step we can take in preventing unnecessary amygdala activation is to avoid known triggers. The people we know who stimulate a heavy negative emotional response within us, see post here (lasting more than a day) will very likely always affect us this way and to protect our/yourself you should start doing a clear-out (if you haven’t already) of those people. Yes, I know, easier said that done for some, but it is essential for your health and wellbeing and in these cases you really do have to put yourself first. Think about your health and let go of guilt associated with releasing a family member or old friend from your life.

It is known that triggers related to past experience, memories etc, produce stronger reactions in the amygdala than more recent, non-past-related experiences, and this is all the more reason to avoid those who you have a bad history with (I know how difficult detachment is, but from my experience, with those who evoke negative emotional responses within, over time things get worse, not better. No matter how much you work on yourself).

People who bring nothing to your life but emotional pain will eventually bring disease too. As already noted the amygdala is a defence mechanism automatically activated by emotional responses, so even if you have trained the amygdala not to react to certain stimuli, it can be triggered by memory and being with someone who has caused you past emotional pain.

2. Control your mind and thoughts: Keep the mind quiet to stop unnecessary amygdala activation from thoughts, read post here

3. Avoid stimulants: Sensitives react to coffee and other stimulants more than most, so it is best to know your caffeine intake limits and stay within them (take note at which point you get a physical response – too much caffeine can cause shakiness, pounding heart, flushing, faster breathing and an aching chest – and stay under the that amount), otherwise you may activate the amygdala.

4. Exercise daily. Exercise has many redeeming benefits but in the case of amygdala activation, it can help disperse and use up excess glucose, adrenalin and cortisol in the bloodstream, caused by emotional responses off others (see final point).

5. Control glucose levels through diet: Emotions off others can result in extra glucose being dumped into our bloodstream (after the amygdala activates cortisol production), which plays havoc with our waistline and also messes with the hormones of the body. It is essential for good health that we create balance from the food we eat to prevent blood glucose spikes as we are already at risk of having spikes, just by being around others. I have already written posts regarding how wheat and sugar is dangerous to us Empaths, but this post, on how they affect our blood sugar levels, is worth a look at. And although it is explaining how high blood sugars make us overweight, it also explains how food triggers our glucose (blood sugar) levels.

 6. Cover all bases: As we never really know when we may be in a situation that will cause an amygdala activation, through being peopled or other, it is best to have all bases covered. This post will help.

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Traits of Sensitive People

Whilst doing a spot of cleaning the other day a book, I had read some ago and had the intention of writing a post about, fell open on the floor. The book in question is ‘Quiet’, by Susan Cain and it is her research and findings about the introverts of the world, famous and not so. It is a book I highly recommend to all you Empaths out there, as it gives a fair few ‘aha’ moments for many of our traits. It explains, for example, such subjects as to why introverts have the tendency to lose their short-term memory when overstimulated or by being put on ‘the spot.’

Anyway, getting back to what I was saying: I picked up said book and found it wedged open on page 136, which I duly read.  Page 136 makes reference to traits of highly sensitive people as compiled by Dr. Elaine Aron, a research psychologist. This list will probably be of interest to the introvert Empaths of the world and gives a physiological basis for the traits of Sensitivity…

Whilst researching the inner behaviour of sensitive people, especially those who did not like to be in social situations, Dr Aron found out some fascinating tendencies. She interviewed 39 people who described themselves as being either introverted or easily overwhelmed by external stimulation and asked them many varied questions, such as their film preferences, creative activities, relationships with family and friends, philosophical and religious views. Based on these interviews and further research she came up with a compilation of 27 attributes of the ‘highly sensitive person’.

Here is a sampling of some of those attributes… see if you can lay claim to any, if not all of them (it is interesting to note that this list has some similarities to my 30 Traits of an Empath):

  • Highly sensitive people tend to be keen observers who look before they leap.
  • They arrange their lives in ways that limit surprises.
  • Sensitive to sights, sounds, smells, pain, and stimulants such as coffee.
  • Have difficulty when being observed or judged for general worthiness.
  • Tendency to be philosophical or spiritual in their orientation, rather than being materialistic.
  • Dislike being engaged in small talk.
  • Describe themselves as being creative or intuitive.
  • Dream vividly and have good dream recall.
  • Love music, art, nature and physical beauty.
  • Feel exceptionally strong emotions, such as acute bouts of joy, sorrow, melancholy and fear.
  • Process information about their environments, both physical and emotional, very deeply.
  • Notice subtleties: such as another person’s shift in mood or a light bulb burning too brightly.
  • Tend to have unusually strong consciences.
  • Dislike or avoid violent films and TV shows.
  • Acutely aware of the consequences of their own behaviour.
  • In social settings they often focus on subjects like the personal problems of others.

Through Aron’s (and other scientists) research, it has been found that the amygdala (a part of the brain which plays a huge part in processing emotions) becomes strongly activated in highly sensitive people, far more so than those not of a sensitive nature, when exposed to other human suffering or pain (picking up their emotions), even just being shown pictures of people in pain is enough to trigger this response. Because of this, highly sensitive people have no choice but to feel what others feel.

Aron also found that most introverts, but not all, are highly sensitive…or in other words they’re Empaths!

To find if you are an introvert, and what type click here to take the Briggs Meyers personality test.

Here is another post which may be of interest on getting over-stimulated

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Knowing It’s Time to Let Go of Toxic People

To the Empath being in harmony with people in life is essential to their health and wellbeing. Toxic friendships can cause untold pain and damage to the Sensitive one.

If there are people in your life who cause you any kind of emotional pain, which lasts long after you’ve left them, it may be time to evaluate the relationship and perhaps release them for your life.free toxic image

Before we can really help or be of service to others we have to find balance within and that means taking care of our physical and mental needs and stop exposing ourselves to that which is toxic, in the form of food, substances and people.

Most Empaths will have at least one toxic person in their life that can cause a wave of intense, negative emotions to rain down, just by being in their presence. These people, who may be a friend or family member, seem to spew venom when they talk which can be felt in any of the main energy centres (chakras), especially on the front torso, in the form of an ache or pain. To some, it can feel like hot lava is being poured over the solar plexus area (seat of emotions) with an intense burning sensation. It is normal for toxic people to talk negatively of everyone and everything, which can drain the life force within a matter of minutes. Even after trying every trick in the book for self-protection, nothing seems to stop their venom seeping into the Empath’s physical and energetic body.

 Typical sensations which can be felt by being with toxic people:

  • Anger or feelings of bitterness embodying you: This can last for the duration of being in their presence and up to 10 days after. Depending on the negative traits they carry will depend on what you feel.
  • Fatigue: Struggling to keep your eyes open, especially if they are venting.
  • Being out of sorts: A range of strange feelings wash over you, from being spaced out, to nausea.
  • Negative talk: Finding yourself talking negatively of others, even though it is not a typical trait of yours. Overly toxic people can easily lure the unvigilant Empath into their judgemental behaviour.
  • Apathy: Losing all previous zest and optimism.

A toxic friend will probably be a family member or lifelong friend and because of this you have a natural fear of letting them go, not least because you probably love them. Chances are, you have already tried helping them by sharing what has helped you, in dealing with the rigours of life. Sadly, they do not want to hear or listen to what you have to say about any kind of self-help, preferring to offload their negative rants on you. You may have also tried getting them to see situations from different perspectives, hoping they may recognise that by changing their attitude and outlook, it would change their whole life…to no avail.

The Empath would never want to hurt or cause unnecessary pain to others and it is for this reason, many keep in their lives, those who cause much emotional pain. Yet, one must always put the emotional health of self first. If you know a food or substance made you violently ill or caused you to feel depressed, you would avoid it; the same should be applied to those who cause emotional turmoil. We have a responsibility to keep our bodies and mental wellbeing strong and healthy, and if another is causing us damage (all stress will eventually lead to illness), it is our duty to either confront the said person or remove them from our life.

I am not talking about having our ego’s dented by another’s random disrespect. We all have people who offend, hurt or make us angry, by their lack of understanding, at some point. And we in turn will no doubt do the same to others. This issue is about those toxic friends or family members who repetitively bring you down and do immense energetic damage. It can be so intense that you know exactly when they are having negative thoughts about you.

For the Empath, navigating friendships can be a grey area, as most people will invoke an emotional response within. It is often the kindest of people in whom we feel the most pain. Yet feeling another’s pain is nothing compared to what some can make us endure. The point will come in toxic friendships when one has to decide if it is causing more harm than good. Here are some questions to ask yourself that may help evaluate your friend/relationship and hopefully help you see if it is a healthy one:

  •  Am I taking anything from this friend/relationship?
  • Does spending time with him/her make me happy?
  • Do I dread being in his/her presence?
  • When was the last time I enjoyed being in his/her company?
  • Do we have any of the same interests?
  • Is it a one-sided friendship with me fitting in with his/her needs?
  • Does this relationship affect my emotional health?
  • Do I feel ill, emotionally drained or intense negative emotions after being with him/her?
  • Am I being used as an emotional dumping ground?
  • Does he/she have a lot of negative thoughts or anger towards me?
  • Am I learning anything from spending time with him/her?
  • Is being in this relationship making me grow spiritually, emotionally or other?
  • Is this relationship beneficial to either of us?
  • Has he/she become dependent upon me?
  • What are my real reasons for staying in this relationship?

From my experience there are many reasons why we encounter toxic people in our lives. One of the most common being the mirror effect. Certain experiences or encounters with others act as a mirror and show us weaknesses or issues we need to resolve within ourselves.

You may already have seen a pattern of behaviour in family and friends towards you. Examples are: others being either overly needy of you or not being there for you when you need them. If you have noticed any such behaviour being a trend in others actions towards you, it is most definitely not happening by chance and will be an area where, when questioned and understood, a wealth of knowledge will be attained.

Another reason we may endure difficult relationships with others could be we are there to highlight flaws or issues within their life story, that they need to work on and learn from. We all learn from experiences and situations presented to us in life. Yet if the same emotional scenarios keep playing out with another and all that comes from it, is you being left with their emotional baggage to clear up, that they have refused to take responsibility for, no one is gaining, learning or growing from the situation and it may be time to cut the chord.

Empaths take on and feel others emotions and energetic attributes. Some people show up in our lives to press our buttons or to make us aware of patterns of behaviour in self that needs addressing, which in turn helps us make the necessary changes to ourselves. Beyond that, we have to see the lesson we may need to learn from a relationship is about having the courage to let it go. It can be in loss that we and others learn and grow the most.

We can learn a lot from bad people and bad experiences, but we don’t need to keep on experiencing other people’s negative emotions. It is not helping them or us. Once we have learnt from an experience, we don’t need to re-learn it over and over.

Our repetitive painful emotions can and will turn into illness, if we continue to let them occur. If another continuously leaves us with a painful energetic imprint, simply by being in their presence, it is time to let them go. This is not about hating or turning against them, we can be grateful to them for all they have taught and shown us in life and in the long-run, will benefit both parties.

Empaths can powerfully project their emotions out and this includes that which we take on from others. We are each responsible for the energy we put out into the world in the form of words, emotions and thoughts. If being in another’s presence is causing our emotions to fluctuate so profusely that we emit negative vibrations, it is up to us to stop being in said person’s presence, until the time when we know they cannot or will not affect us.

I have attached a link to an article I came across quite randomly whilst writing this post and offers another writer’s perspective on ways to deal with toxic people, and although it is not written with the Empath in mind, it is worth a read.

http://positive-thoughts.typepad.com/positive-thoughts/2014/05/smart-ways-to-deal-with-toxic-people-by-.html

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Navigating Psychic Attack for The Empath

There are many forms of psychic attack, the one I’m making reference to here is the negatively charged energetic vibrations sent from one person to another through dark thought forms.

It can be tricky to discern between the emotions our own thoughts have created, by pondering a painful subject from the past, and that when we are under psychic attack.

Most people would not feel the dark thoughts others have about them. However, this is not the case for those of a Sensitive nature. If another is having reoccurring bad thoughts towards the Empath, it turns into a full-blown psychic attack.

The times we are in are creating many imbalances within humans, mentally and physically, and it is those of us who are Sensitive getting the backlash.

Who will it be coming from? Generally, a psychic attack will come from family members, not necessarily blood related, friends who are close or once used to be, or work colleagues.

How can you tell when being attacked? When under psychic attack the telltale signs are repeating negative thought patterns surrounding one person. For example: a certain friend (the one thinking and thus sending bad thoughts) will keep popping in your mind along with negatively charged feelings, throughout the course of the day or days. You may wake up thinking angry thoughts towards this person, when you have had no recent contact with them or reason to be feeling angry with them. However, one will always manage to link the negatively charged feelings to an unhappy past situation and therefore falsely believe one is responsible for creating the angry thoughts.

When under attack, the one thinking/sending the dark thoughts does not necessarily know that you are on the receiving end of their menacing musings. The most likely explanation is that the said person is going through a difficult time in life and is filled with turbulently vexed emotions. Instead of taking responsibility and finding the true cause for their troubles, they lash out and project blame onto others for their unhappiness, through their thoughts. (You will probably not be the only one the thoughts are directed at, but you will probably be the only one feeling them.)

What should you do when you sense a psychic attack? You have to nip it in the bud straight away and this means not indulging in any of the dark thoughts or emotions you are experiencing, which has to be said, is not easy to do. By engaging the thoughts you then become part of the problem.

The Empath has the power to project angry thoughts back to the source without even realising it and in doing so, can unintentionally open a two-way psychic battleground with angry thoughts flying back and forth. It can go on for days and in these cases, the Empath will always come off worse.

More than any other, Empaths have to be cautious of what they project out into the world in the way of gloomy, angry or irrational thought forms. What goes out, will have the tendency to come back amplified. (The positive flip side to this is the return of projecting positive, happy, love-filled thoughts out into the world).

You may have noticed that your moods can be projected onto others. If feeling happy you can lift others up and if feeling sad, you can see it wash over others. Even your tiredness or stumbling over words can be projected onto another. So yes, Empaths take on negative, energetic vibrations from others, but they can also powerfully, project them back out.

How do we stop ourselves engaging in dark thoughts? The easiest way is to do this is distract yourself the moment you notice dark thought forms repeatedly going back to the same person. You may have already discovered your own way to do this but making noise in your head can really help: singing, humming, chanting etc. Just like plugging in your ears and singing loudly blocks out external sounds, I’ve found this helps with outside thoughts too.

How can we protect ourselves from psychic attack? Build up a strong energy-field (aura or energetic body). Being weak, physically or mentally, will automatically weaken your energy-field. Our energy-field is our ‘invisible’ shield which helps to protect us from outside ‘invisible’ influences, such as negative thoughts and emotions.

Suppressed emotions, poor diet, lack of exercise, a busy head, illness and emotional pain can all contribute to weakening our energetic body. If you suspect you have been on the receiving end of psychic attack it may be a good time to reevaluate your lifestyle. By strengthening the body and mind will in turn strengthen our energy-field and thus help ward off psychic attack.

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Clear Your Clutter Transform Your Life!

How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?

Have you kept old clothes believing they may come back in fashion one day, or in case you lose or gain weight?

Have you been given a gift that you didn’t really like, but kept it to avoid hurting another’s feelings?

I think it’s safe to say most of us could say yes to at least one of the above questions. But hoarding, even just a little bit, will soon see our homes overloaded with junk. Bad news for Empaths or those of a sensitive nature.

An overly cluttered house leads to an overly cluttered mind and energy field. Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is extremely draining to the body and mind. Even clutter that the eye cannot see, still has a debilitating effect on the psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling within. This can lead to the Empath feeling drained and lethargic!

If you have a crowded house (and I don’t mean with people) you may not realize how much it can deplete your energy, leading to feelings of sluggishness, apathy and an uninspired mind.

Empaths tend to have an inbuilt loathing of clutter, whether they are aware of their gift or not, and this is because they can feel it dragging them down, energetically. They will tend to opt for more of an uncomplicated decor, without too much fuss in the way of ornaments etc., for the simple reason that all objects hold energy. But over the years clutter can unintentionally build and we can find ourselves with all sorts of bric-a-brac, that were probably gifts, strewn around the house, which only serve in being draining.

Many years ago, before I was even aware of the term Empath, I read a book by Karen Kingston called: ‘Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui’ (unfortunately, I no longer have the book, and don’t have a photographic memory, so am unable to paraphrase), it really resonated with me and inspired me to have a full-on house detox. I hatched a plan to rid the home of all unwanted, unused and unhelpful items we had hoarded. My husband and I ploughed through the house, room by room, and cleared tonnes of stuff (slight exaggeration there but you will be surprised how much can be crammed into the smallest draw). I have a minimalistic decor-style and have never liked visual clutter, so everything that was removed came out of cupboards, draws and wardrobes. It was amazing how clean, fresh and liberated we both felt afterwards.

The first thing we all need to summon, when it comes to de-cluttering, is bravery. It may sound silly to suggest being brave when it comes to clearing the house, but in a way that’s exactly what we need. Fear will always rear its ugly head when making any changes in one’s life and when de-cluttering it will be there to tell you how much you need those unneeded items.

In the current economic climate it is an ideal environment for hoarding to thrive. We may hold onto possessions because we fear we won’t be able to replace them with something better or of equal value. You can probably look around any room in your house now and count at least 5 items that serve no purpose. Hoarding is born from the fear of lack and in clearing the clutter you are also facing, and in turn clearing, that fear.

To find out whether you really need something in your life simply ask this question: How will this item improve or make my life better? If you can’t come up with an answer (other than it won’t) it’s probably time to ditch or give it to charity.

When your home is full there is no room for anything new to come into your life. In making space, you are sending out a message that you are open to receive (but hopefully not more clutter).

Clearing the clutter doesn’t just have to be of your external environment, you can also have an internal-clutter-clearing session. Disposing of old beliefs, traits or thought patterns is both liberating and rejuvenating. Granted, they’re not as easy to be rid of as belongings, but probably ten times more beneficial.

A trait that will do you the world of good to eliminate is overly judgemental behaviour of self or others.

Being judgemental is so imprisoning and it causes untold harm to the bearer. It doesn’t have to be vindictive in nature to be damaging: it can be as simple as feeling another is more worthy than ourselves, thinking we are not good enough or believing our opinions are better than others.

Being judgemental catches us all unaware, but when we are conscious of it we are one step closer to removing it (for an Empath, if we are being judgemental, or indeed being judged, it can hold a heavy dark and anxious feeling/energy).

If you are in doubt of what you should or shouldn’t keep in your life, see the following questions:

Clutter Clearing Check List for the Internal and External:

  • Does this serve me today?
  • Will this serve me in the foreseeable future?
  • Can this serve anyone else?
  • Why am I holding onto this?
  • Will keeping/holding onto this make me happy?

A word of warning: you can guarantee that within days of having a clear-out your mind will play tricks on you, finding use for anything and everything you threw/gave away (even though you may not have worn/used it for five years, or previously forgotten of its existence). Just know that this is part of the de-cluttering process and it will pass.

Hope this post helps you on your path

Diane

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©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

Grounding Techniques for Empaths

For Empaths and Sensitives, in these trying times, it is a challenge for us to stay grounded as we are constantly being bombarded with a real mix of negative, external emotions. Even if we stay home and don’t venture out of our personal sanctuaries, our empathic antennas are picking up so much of the pain from the outside world. Because of this we can easily become consumed with depression, listlessness and apathy and lose sight of what our roles here are to do.

All of the following techniques have been tried and tested by yours truly and I can attest to the benefits of them. Although I have to say on the darker days,  even these techniques don’t always clear the emotional debris.

As one goes through life one learns if you don’t paddle your own canoe, you don’t move’. Katherine Hepburn

Change your thoughts: Many of us help create our life situations with the thoughts we keep, especially dark, repetitive ones. From the second a negative thought pops into our head we only have a matter of moments before its settles in and changes our mindset from positive to negative, once this happens, one bad thought after another keeps rolling in. The best way to avoid it is not to indulge in them in the first place. When a dark thought pounces, change it, immediately, to a good one. Sounds simple, it’s not. It’s difficult, but we do have a choice about what we think (and feel). We can allow our thoughts to rule us or we can rule our thoughts… Change your thoughts change your life!

Water: The body is made up of 75% water (some body tissue even contains 95%), so it will come as no surprise that this is way up there on the self-healing scale. Many of us are unaware of just how dehydrated we are. An insufficient supply of water creates problems with the functioning of our body, affects our well-being, appearance and accelerates the ageing process.

Most of us should be drinking at least 8 glasses of pure water a day, just to replenish what our body loses naturally through sweating, urination etc. The heavier we are the more water we need.

If you type, ‘the healing powers of water,’ into any search engine you will get hundreds of pages worth of information on the subject, but by far the best I have so far come across is the site of Dr F. Batmanghelidj M.D. who is a pioneer in the discoveries of the healing power of water. He has written many books on the subject, the most renowned being, The Body’s Many Cries for Water.  He reveals many of his findings on his website www.watercure.com.  Here you will find an abundance of well-researched-data on how water can heal the body and how to consume it safely, without flushing our necessary minerals from the body.  And, unlike many other sites, he does not charge for the information.

His mantra is, ‘You’re not sick; you’re thirsty. Don’t treat thirst with medication’. And it has been his life’s mission to get this word out to the world.

There is an old religious saying (or at least it was used by many God-fearing Christians in yesteryear), ‘Cleanliness is second to godliness.’ I used to believe the saying was a ridiculous, bully-tactic for making young children clean behind their ears (which in those days it probably was), but now I can see it from another point of view. Water washes more than just dirt away; it has the power to cleanse our energetic body and clear negative energies. If you’re sceptical, try this when you come home from a hard day at work: Instead of reaching for the wine, jump straight in the shower and see what a lifting effect it has on you. Combine it with the healing power of salt and you’re onto a winner.

To find out more on how you can get medicinal benefits from taking sea salt with water (the correct quantities), please refer to Dr F Bamaghelidji’s website www.watercure.com

Sea Salt: It is said that the ‘father of medicine,’ Socrates, was amongst the first to discover the, almost magical, healing ability of sea salt, after noticing how quickly seawater would heal wounded fishermen’s hands.

Sea Salt Not only is sea salt a great medicinal healer, it is deeply purifying. It has the power to draw out and dissolve negative energies from the emotional and physical body. This is especially helpful if your day involves interacting with others, where too often you end up picking their stressed or anxious energy.

The best way to get an external, daily, salt cleanse (if you don’t live near the ocean) is in a salt bath. Immersing the body for at least 20 minutes in salt water will get rid of any negative emotions picked up during the day. This is especially important for empaths who absorb negative energies like a sponge. For best results add 1 to 2 cups of sea salt to a warm bath (along with your favourite essential oil or a crystal. See below). If you don’t have time for a soak then another great option is a salt-scrub prior to showering. (You can easily make this from fine milled sea salt and oil).  Not only will the salt clear unwanted energies, it will also leave your skin silky smooth and glowing.

Nadi Shodhana/Alternate Nostril Breathing: Balance your inner masculine and feminine energy (which easily gets out of balance in these times) by doing alternate nostril breathing:

Sit comfortably with your back straight and eyes closed. Place the tip of the right thumb on the edge of the right nostril and the right, ring finger hovering over the left nostril. Closing off the right nostril inhale through the left for a count of 3. Close the left nostril then exhale through the right for a count of 3, inhale through the right for a count of 3. Close the right nostril and exhale through the left… this was 1 round of Nadi Shodhana, do 9 more then build up to at least 20. (If you are more of a visual learner there are lots of videos on Youtube for alternate-nostril breathing)

It is normal when beginning Pranyama (breathing exercises) to get a little dizzy, if this happens just resume normal breathing until it passes.

Exercise and play: In the western world many of us turn to exercise for the benefits of weight loss and a toned body. However, exercise offers so much more: it can release pent-up emotions, remove impurities through sweat, enhances and uplifts moods, energizes and allows us to have fun. Instead of referring to it as workout-time, we should call it playtime.

When it comes to playtime do what you love. Some of you maybe stuck in a boring exercise routine that you do out of necessity rather than play. If this is the case, find something you love. What did you love to do as a child? Being out on your bike? Skipping? Hula-Hooping? Bouncing up and down on a trampoline? Horse-riding? All excellent forms of play (exercise). If you detested running and were no good at it, chances are it will probably be the same now. If you loved gymnastics then yoga will definitely be a great one for you to try.

If you don’t like rules, routines or set times then go freestyle. Make the rules yourself. Get the music cranked up and dance like nobody’s watching (which it’s probably best if no one is whilst throwing your shapes out). Dance, stretch and jump your cares away and get a sweat on. All you need is 10 minutes a day, but I guarantee if you’re doing something you love those 10 minutes will easily turn into 20, 30 or 40… Who needs a gym or a class?

Meditation: This is a must if you have a busy head with endless mind-chatter and fearful thoughts. It will help you deal with stressful situations and give you clearer insight. There are many forms of meditation out there; it’s just a case of finding what suits you. If you’ve never attempted it here’s one to try:

Sit in a comfortable position with your back straight, close your eyes and, breathing through your nose, focus on your breath. Inhale for 3 seconds and exhale for 3 seconds. On the inhale feel your tummy expand and on the exhale feel it deflate (Note: when you first try this it is common to get dizzy or feel anxious). You will find, at first, your mind turns into a monkey and starts jumping all over the place, from one thought to the next, but just keep coming back to your breath. Start with a few minutes and build it up to whatever suits you.

Creativity: In a world of rules and routine, we seldom get time to be creative but this is one of the easiest ways to revel in the feel-good-factor. When we create, from our passions or interests, it has an uplifting effect on our psyche and because we’re engaging in something we love it keeps our minds away from dark thoughts and feelings.

Many will say that they’re not creative because they don’t see themselves as artistic. But you don’t have to be a master crafter or award-winning composer to indulge in creative outlets. Simply making a dance routine, writing a story or poem, arranging flowers or devising a menu, are forms of creativity. We all have a way to be creative, it maybe that you’ve just not discovered yours yet.

Chakra balancing: We have 7 main chakras which are part of our energetic body. They are our centres of spiritual power that run the length of our body, from our root chakra (lower torso) to our crown chakra (crown of head). The chakras are whirling vortices of energy that are aligned with our endocrine system (organs which secrete hormones such as adrenalin, cortisone and thyroxine into the body), which if out of whack can create disease (dis-ease) within the body. The 3 best ways to self-balance our chakras is through: meditation, yoga or using crystals:

Yoga: The Five Tibetan rites is one form of yoga specifically designed to balance the chakras as well as short (10 to 20 mins max), kick-ass workout for body and mind.

Meditation: through doing either a guided, chakra meditation or just focusing positively on each one in turn will help keep them balanced. You can get guided meditation CD’s at Amazon.com

Crystals(see below).

Yoga: Many people say yoga is not for them, but it’s the very people who turn away from yoga that are the ones who need it most. Yoga will serve anyone and everyone no matter what age or ability and it should be a staple in every person’s life.

YogaThere is a yogic saying that, ‘We’re only young as the spine is flexible.’ And because yoga works to create a supple spine it could be classed as an elixir of youth.

The very core of yoga is built on our breath. We breathe our way in and out of postures and for this reason yoga can be classed as a moving meditation. It stills and calms an overworked mind (which is why many will say it’s not for them because they fear the stillness) and creates a strong supple body.

There are many forms of yoga and there will be a fit for everyone. For those sporty types who love to work hard and build a sweat there’s Ashtanga or Bikram yoga. For those who need a gentler pace there’s Iyengar or Dru yoga.

The hardest part of yoga is getting on the mat, once there your body will flow gracefully through the poses and thank you for it after.

Nature: Being outdoors in nature will have a healing and uplifting effect on all. If you work in a city with no access to parkland make sure you get out at weekends away from cars and air pollution.

Laughter: As grown-ups we spend too much time being solemn and serious, and too little time having fun (especially in the current times). Do you remember the last time you had a proper belly laugh?

You don’t stop playing because you grow old; you grow old because you stop playing!

We hear children laugh all the time. They don’t know how to take life seriously, it’s all about play and fun. We should all strive to stay childlike. To see the world in wonder and above all have fun and laugh. Anything that makes us laugh will make our spirits soar. It really is a therapy.

Crystals: The healing power of crystals has long been known in many cultures, from Atlantis to ancient Egypt.  Many ancients had crystal chambers that would be used to heal many an ailment.

Blue Purple Red: Amethyst Crystals

Crystals can be used in conjunction with the chakras to help balance them and remove blockages. This can be done by matching the colour of the chakra with the colour of a crystal. For example: the solar plexus chakra is yellow so a good choice would be Citrine. The sacral chakra is orange so Amber could be used. And the throat chakra is blue so Blue-Lace Agate would work to balance it. Place the crystal on the body, inline with the chakra. It is best to do this whilst lying down (crystals fall off otherwise) and perhaps do a meditation or listen to soothing music for as long as you feel require. (Click here for best grounding stone)

Red Base/root chakra: Red Jasper

Orange Sacral chakra: Amber

Yellow Solar Plexus chakra: Citrine

Green/pink Heart chakra: Rose quartz/Aventurine

Blue Throat Chakra: Blue-Lace Agate

Indigo Third eye chakra: Sodalite

Violet Crown chakra: Amethyst

Depending on your need (and on the crystal), you can put crystals in your bath, under your pillow, in your socks and use them in your meditations or just as a visual aide.

Essential oils: As with crystals the healing power of essential oils has been known through the ages. It is through the olfactory senses that much benefit is derived from the oils. The best all round essential oil is Lavender because, unlike all other oils, it can be used without a carrier-oil and applied directly to the skin or put straight into your bath water (other oils can irratate the skin if used neat). Amongst its many benefits, it is an antidepressant antiseptic, antifungal, it can even be used as a sleep aid. See the best oils for the Empath here

Love: The most important self-healing tool we have is love… it makes the world go round. Doing what you love will uplift you more than anything else. The Beatles were onto something when they sang, ‘All you need is love!’Unfortunately, we are humans, having a human experience, in a human body and love is one of the last emotions we tend to bathe ourselves in.

Truth: Truth is an all encompassing liberator and once you become an advocate your eyes will be opened to another world.

©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

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