6 SIGNS AN EMPATH HAS A NEGATIVITY ADDICTION

Did you even think it was possible to become addicted to negativity?

I mean, it sounds utterly bonkers, doesn’t it?

When we think of addictions, we often just think about the ones related to drugs or alcohol, perhaps even to gambling. But to negativity?

So, how does it work?

Basically, negative emotions can give the body a rush of the stress hormones, cortisol and adrenaline, which can become addictive, especially when regularly activated.

We read a lot about becoming addicted to dopamine, the pleasure hormone, yet we don’t see much about addictions to the stress hormones. But they are probably more common, especially amongst Sensitive people.

I have written in-depth about negativity addictions and the negativity bias in my book: Become a Super-Empowered Empath, but, over the years I have only covered it in a couple of posts.

Part of my book discusses how an Empath can have a negativity addiction without knowing, and how it impacts their life. I also give ways to overcome it.

The reason I wanted to discuss it here is because the world is in such a state of emotional despair.

Emotions are being purposely ignited to keep people in fear or anger, and this can be what leads to a negativity addiction.

Having an addiction to negativity causes so many problems within the body and mind, and will most certainly end up causing emotional toxicity.

As Empaths, we all know what it feels like to spend time around anyone who has emotional toxicity. Not good.

So, the last thing we would want is to experience it ourselves.

The thing is, once you have a negativity addiction, your brain works in sneaky ways to activate your body into releasing stress hormones, by drawing your attention to anything that it knows will make you react.

This reaction is often unique to you.

After giving up many addictive things, I know exactly how tricky addictions are, especially within the brain.

It is not until we give something up for a period of time that we see just how our choices and thoughts were governed by an addiction.

Now, I’m sure you’ll be keen to find out what the signs are of a negativity addiction.

So, without further ado, let’s look.

6 SIGNS OF NEGATIVITY ADDICTION

1.  You are drawn to media sites that stir up anger or adrenaline rushes

You find yourself returning to media or news sites that wind you up or fill you with anger.

2. You constantly find fault in others

Finding fault in others is something we all do from time to time. It’s part of human nature. But when it is a constant reaction, there’s a problem within. For example: you could find yourself reacting to strangers when you go to the supermarkets or places of interest, you may find yourself seeing shortcomings in everyone who crosses your path.

3. Your thoughts rapidly ignite anger

You might get infuriated by someone who has a different opinion than yours, or you could find yourself becoming enraged by politicians whose agendas you do not agree with. If you get riled at the slightest things and find your thoughts naturally venturing over to the dark side, without you always knowing how they got there, this could be a sign of negativity addiction.

4. You always bring the conversation back to negative issues

When in conversations with others, you often find your discussions come back to reasons to be annoyed. Normally an Empath would move conversations away from difficult subjects, but when suffering a negativity addiction, they will be the one who keeps the awkward conversations going.

5. You seem to thrive when ranting and raving about any injustice that you see in the world

You get high when talking all things negative. Which as you might expect, is not a normal Empath trait. You may feel energised and purposeful when raging about things that make you angry, and your natural empathic switch, that would keep you from engaging in such conversations, seems to be switched off.

6. You secretly enjoy being around people with whom you can get into dark discussions

Normally, Empaths like to avoid overly negative people, for the reason that it stirs up uncomfortable emotions within. But when suffering with a negativity addiction, you might actually find yourself enjoying conversations with those who might put others down or find fault in the world.

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Just because you might identify with any of the above traits does not make you a bad person. Your body could be tricking you into getting a hit of the stress hormones.

All our big media sites know just how addictive our stress hormones are, as well as our negativity bias, and for this reason they put stories out that focus on all things negative, thus keeping us coming back for more.

I often write about the importance of Empaths avoiding media outlets because it creates negative emotions.

WHY DO WE BECOME ADDICTED TO NEGATIVITY?

The reason you may not consciously be aware that you are addicted to stress hormones is because they are activated without you necessarily taking part.

Which makes sense when you think about it, because when an Empath picks up and feels other people’s emotions and stresses, their own stress hormones can get activated.

This can happen without you having any particular big stresses in your own life.

So, yes, Empaths are prone to having negativity addictions and this is because they feel everything so powerfully.

Yet there is always light at the end of the tunnel. As with any addiction, we have to see it for ourselves and understand how the brain is tricking our mind into focusing on negative issues, which will trigger the stress hormones.

Often, when we become aware of a problem within, it is half way to overcoming it.

WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT

If you suspect you have an addiction to negativity, and are therefore drawing more negativity into your life (like attracts like), you have to stay vigilant of knowing when your hormones are being spiked.

You normally recognise a hormone spike by the discomfort around the gut or chest area. It may feel like a burning sensation or a sense of dread, or your heart might be pounding. It could also trigger anxiety or panic attacks.

As soon as you feel this discomfort, act immediately with some type of distraction, so that your thoughts don’t get involved.

Why?

Thoughts feed emotions. Emotions feed thoughts. Emotions are fuel for your stress hormones.

You only have a seventeen second window before a negative thought takes your mind over to the ‘dark side’. You then become hostage within your own head. Yes, only seventeen seconds. This post may help with distraction.

The simplest way to heal a negativity addiction is to remove anything from your life that creates an emotional reaction.

Avoid people or places that put you in a low mood or activate dark thoughts.

If you want to learn more about how negativity addictions impact your Empath life, and ways to overcome them, then my book goes into much greater detail.

It may seem that I write a lot about the negative aspects of being an Empath, but as I know how many problems Sensitive people can experience, just by experiencing too many stress hormones, I find it such important work.

This blog is about empowering the Empaths of the world and helping them understand why they react and feel the things they do, and ultimately help them to find balance in life.

If I can help just one fellow Empath out of their suffering, it is worth the time I spend on these posts.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

IS THIS AN EMPATH THING? OR SOMETHING ELSE?

One of the problems with being an Empath, is some of our traits can cause an issue for our health and wellbeing.

For example, if we have spent a day in a certain place, where perhaps there are a lot of people around, and we feel tired, down or anxious, we may automatically assume that we have been peopled.

But not every ailment of the mind and body has been caused by our Empath traits.

There’s a chance it could be caused by something entirely different. Something you may not have given much thought to.

Because, as Empaths, we are highly reactive, we are often prone to suffering with issues like sensory overload. Where, basically, our senses become overwhelmed by too much noise, too much light or too much people energy.

Yet, there’s another massive contributor to Empath stress, and sensory overload, that doesn’t get talked about enough:

ELECTROMAGNETIC FREQUENCIES: EMF

Nowadays, with 5G towers popping up everywhere, it is getting harder and harder to avoid the frequencies being radiated out into our environment.

Here’s just a handful of issues caused by EMF.

• Brain fog
• Memory loss and a three second memory
• Difficulty concentrating
• Dizziness
• Fatigue
• Sensory overload
• Sleep disturbances such as insomnia or frequently waking up through the night
• Headaches
• Palpitations

I am fully aware that the above symptoms could be caused by a number of other things, such as autoimmune conditions, a poor diet, hormones, stress, etc.

But if you are suffering more than usual, with random symptoms, you have got to consider that it could be EMF.

There are thousands of studies showing how EMFs are hazardous to human health.

And there have been many warnings about how the energy emitted by mobile phones, for example, is a human carcinogen.  But no one is listening because if the symptoms haven’t been immediate, people aren’t linking their maladies with EMF.

And as Empaths, we might blame something else, like ‘our Sensitive traits.’

The thing is we are electrical beings.

You and me, we both create electromagnetic fields.

Virtually every single process which keeps us alive can be traced back to an electric field.

A giant electric field holds all our atoms together.

Every time we move a muscle, we create an electric field.

We wouldn’t be able to function without our electric fields.

So, it should probably go without saying that we are going to be massively impacted by other electrical fields. Such as EMF and WIFI.

‘Every atom has its own electric field, and when you put two atoms close together, they can mess around with the electric field of the other.’ Jack Frazer Master’s Physics Oxford University

If you know that you are in a heavy WIFI zone, one of the first things I would try to protect from EMF is daily Earthing, or just get out in nature.

I have a video here that explains the many benefits of Earthing for Empaths.

The second thing is to turn off your WIFI at night, and do not sleep with any wireless gadgets, including your phones, in your bedroom.

The third step, to protect from EMF, is invest in Himalayan Salt Lamps for your bedroom, or for other rooms in the house.

Through experimentation, I have found that the salt lamps are so much more beneficial in the bedroom. We have two. Both on the bedside cabinets. They seem to help with clearing EMF, and with bringing calm to our sleep.

Salt is so healing to the body and mind of an Empath. Whether that’s taking a salt bath, drinking SOLE water, going for a swim in the ocean, or using a salt lamp.

Although I’m not entirely sure if there are any scientific studies that have proved their EMF protection benefits, I have found since we put salt lamps in our bedroom that the energy feels clearer and calmer.

The salt lamps are also soothing to the mind and body, and offer enough light to read before bed. They are also just nice to gaze upon.

Another way to stay protected, from EMF, is to use crystals such as Tourmaline. I have a post here that explains more on the subject.

This is such a huge topic, and although I know of several things that seem to work for EMF clearing, I am by no means an expert on the subject.

I just think it is so important to raise awareness of the dangers that EMF can cause to all humans, but especially to Empaths who are highly reactive, and highly Sensitive to all types of energy.

For this reason, I’m including a link to a free online conference that is going on, at the start of Feb, where experts are deep-diving into the hazards of EMF and giving ways to overcome the toxic effects.

Here’s the link EMF Hazards Summit 2023 – Learn the truth about EMF radiation

Click on the above to see if it is of any interest to you, or someone you know.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

10 Incredible Yoga Poses for the Empath and Why You Need to Practice Them

Many Empaths come to find huge benefits in practising yoga on their journey through life. It is something that reaps huge benefits when practised regularly in mind, body and spirit.

Any of you who have been reading my blog for a while, or who have read my books, may know I’m a bit of a yoga nerd. I believe in it so much that back in 2011 I jetted off to India to do my yoga teacher training. And I am so glad that I did.

The thing is with yoga, it’s a lifelong practice that is continuously revealing. And what I mean by this is, by consistent practice not only does it work to heal ailments of the body and mind, it really does work to expand consciousness.

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One of the many things yoga has taught me over the years is we all have to practice it in our own way. What works for one won’t work for another.

Not only do we have to adapt poses for body shapes and limb lengths, we have to find a way of practising that suits our personality and energy levels. This is the case for all levels of yoga from beginner to advanced.

That said, for the Empaths of the world, we all tend to hold certain stress emotions in similar places, especially around the solar plexus, the lower back and within the hips and thighs. This often leads to problems in those areas, such as stomach issues, back pain and excessive thigh-burn when exercising.

EMPATHS IT’S TIME TO USE THIS INCREDIBLE POWER

In many of my posts, I write about techniques that Empaths can used to protect themselves from the rigours of Empath life (here, here, here and here).

What I probably haven’t mentioned, in many of these posts, is that several of these protection techniques also act as powerful forms of distraction that work in so many empowering ways.

Distracting the mind from pain, whether physical, spiritual or mental, is an incredible tool which we often forget about using to our advantage…

Examples

There are many occasions when we use techniques to distract the mind without necessarily realising.  When experiencing hunger pain, for example, if all you think about is food, you’ll remain hungry. If you engage your mind, with work or some tasks, your hunger quickly vanishes.

Another example can be seen in yoga: Whilst moving through the poses we might focus on ujjayi breath and holding bandhas (physical and energetic locks). By doing this, not only does it help direct prana, but the mind is focused and taken off the physical challenge of the pose. This also has the effect of taking the attention away from the stresses of everyday life. Which in turn contributes to a calm yet uplifted mindset after practise.

There are many other examples I could discuss, but, instead, let’s get straight to the easy distraction techniques you can use in your everyday life to stay empowered and on top:

1. Stay in Your Passions:

Doing what you love is so empowering during these challenging times. Not only does engaging in your passions work as a powerful distraction, but doing things that lighten your soul, and bring a sense of peace and joy to your life, will lift you up like nothing else.

If you don’t feel like you have anything to fit that bill, it is the perfect time to start experimenting with hobbies and pastimes, or just get creative.

In a world of rules, routine and restrictions, people seldom get time to be creative. But spending time creatively is one of the easiest ways to revel in the feel-good-factor. When you feel good you also feel grounded and centred. When creating from your passions, or interests, it has an uplifting effect and keeps the mind away from dark thoughts and feelings. A must for all Empaths.

2. Listen to Uplifting Music and Sing!:

Listening to the songs that move you in all the right ways can instil such a sense of joy and euphoria. If you know the words, sing along. It is incredible how much you can be uplifted by the music you love. It envelops your body and mind in the most powerful vibrations and distracts the attention in all the right ways. Singing along can itself be meditative. (Researcher, Gunter Kreutz, also discovered singing increases cortisol and other chemicals involved in healing.)

Music can go both ways. My advice would be to avoid music that encourages melancholy or brings back difficult memories, even if you enjoy the song.

UNCOVER THE SECRETS OF AN EMPATH

3. Use Your Pen and Paper

This may sound strange. How can pen and paper help distract the mind? Well, when you write things down, for example with what you want to do going forward in life, you connect with your right brain which helps keep you in creative mode. There is something about handwriting, as opposed to tapping words out on a computer, that helps activate our creative mind. When the creative mind is activated, as opposed to the logical left mind, you also receive more revelations in regards to what is currently happening in your life, or in our world, and can help you see the ‘bigger picture’.

In regards of to what to write about, either let your heart-mind guide you to what is right for you, or make notes on how you would like your future to be.

4. Get Near Trees:

This might sound like the hippiest statement ever, but spend as much time around trees as you can. Gaze upon them. Even go as far as hugging a tree. This not only has the effect of distracting the mind from the darkness in the world, but it takes you into a place of calm and healing. Let’s face it, we wouldn’t be alive if we didn’t have trees and greenery. There is so much wisdom and healing energy around trees (this post explains more), and that is exactly what many of us need right now to clear, rebalance and reset from the demands of Empath life.

5. Stop Doing Things That Bore You:

This isn’t so much a form of distraction. More a form of empowerment.  Feeling bored or unengaged by things that you used to enjoy, or were once an interest, is going to bring you down fast. If you are finding hobbies, lifestyles, or even people, you used to love, have stopped being pleasurable, maybe it’s time you stopped engaging in them, or at least have a break and see if you miss them. Perhaps try a new hobby instead.

6. Exercise:

Engaging in physical activity is a brilliant way to distract the mind from overwhelm or uncomfortable feelings. It’s also a fantastic way to keep the body and mind healthy. Depending on how you feel should depend on what is the best form of exercise to create balance within the body and mind.

If you are feeling lethargic and tired, some type of HIIT training (High intensity interval exercise) is super beneficial. It is also the best exercise for releasing human growth hormone.  HGH is a hormone that naturally elevates our moods, raises physical energy and keeps the mind in a more positive space. I have attached a link here to a 20-minute HIIT video on YouTube that can be done by most fitness levels (it is even beneficial to do if you suffer chronic fatigue). Just be sure to start slow, at your own level and don’t force your body into anything it’s not ready for.

If you are the opposite of being lethargic, and feel wired or hyper, then breath-and-bandha-focused yoga will help bring you back to a state of equilibrium, whilst also working as a distraction for the mind.

The reason I recommend breath-and-bandha-focused yoga is because, speaking from experience, it can be easy for the mind to wander and remain unfocused in yoga practice. When practising using the breath and bandhas simultaneously, however, it takes your yoga practice to another level. Here’s a couple of links to videos, of how to engage yogic breath and bandhas, on YouTube:

Breath and Bandhas

Yoga Breathing

Walking, whilst engaging your focus on your scenery/surroundings, is also fantastic for both high and low energy levels. Out near trees, even better!

The Biggest Obstacles

One of the biggest hurdles we face, when empowering the body and mind, is that when we are stressed or feel out of sorts, by the happenings in the world or indeed just Empath life, we often don’t feel like doing anything. We get so wrapped up in what we feel that we don’t think about anything else. But, when in a state of unease, this is the perfect time to use the power of distraction to engage the mind.

If you want to use clever distractions to your advantage, my advice would be to engage in them the moment you feel your mind wandering into ‘darker territory’ or, even better, find something you can do daily that keeps you in a state of empowerment…

Hope this helps you on your journey.

Until next time.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

How Black Tourmaline can Help the Empath During These Unprecedented Times

During these times of mass change and turmoil, everyone is having to work extra hard to stay not only happy and healthy, but grounded and protected.

This is where Black Tourmaline can help.

But before we get to the benefits of this incredible crystal, let’s take a quick look at what is going on in the world, and how it is impacting the Empaths…

As I’m sure you’re more than aware, the world is currently a very confusing place to be.

Strange influxes of energy are not only affecting the Sensitive people, but also everyone else. That is why staying centred/grounded is so important right now.

Most awakened souls already know the importance of staying grounded and are constantly taking steps to stay balanced.

Sadly, there are too many people out there who aren’t working on themselves in any which way, and are instead taking their grievances out on others. Whether that be online or in person.

Which basically means they are spewing toxic energy out into the world with every rant and rave. And this is on top of everything else that is currently happening.

Ugly Energy

Picking up on this ugly energy means the Empaths are getting a double whammy of discomforts to deal with.

It really is one thing after another. Physically, emotionally and spiritually.

So much so, more and more are finding staying grounded so much harder to do.

There are levels of emotional frenzy around, which come and go like a raging tide, that I’m not sure I’ve ever experienced before…

So, if you are feeling like you are going slightly cuckoo, with how you feel from one day to the next, know that you are not alone.

Healing

What we really need right now is a mass healing. People need to come together and truly appreciate one another. Instead, what we are seeing is more distract and divide.

People are attacking each other on the strength of what the governments, media or social media says. No one knows who or what to believe.

The thing is, and as I’ve discussed many times before, we are shifting into a new era, and nothing is set in stone. Even the most intuitive of people are struggling to predict anything. I don’t think anyone can say with 100% certainty where we are heading.

My personal belief is that things are becoming so uncomfortable for people, that it is pushing many into ‘an awakening’ (others, however, are going further the opposite way).

The Sensitive

Empaths are very sensitive not only to any shift in energy, but also to the collective energy of the masses and what they are experiencing.

The problem is, we so often get caught up in these energy shifts and emotional fluctuations of the populace, that we forget our own traits, and what we should be doing to stay in a higher vibrating space.

And what I mean by this is, we forget that, as Empaths, we over-feel everything, and how this impacts the way we think and feel, and generally how we show up in the world.

For example, one Empath might currently be experiencing excess anxiety or overwhelm, another may be undergoing digestive issues, whilst another may experience headaches or brain fog.

Yes, and that is just from picking up energy from others (not to mention how shifting energy impacts us).

We can get so wrapped up in our symptoms or feelings, that we forget to do our protection and grounding routines.

That’s not to say we can blame all our ailments on over-feeling everything. Sometimes we have simply got physical issues that need addressing. But that is a subject for another occasion.

Today, I want to share with you the benefits of Black Tourmaline, and why it is super helpful during these times for an Empath…

Black Tourmaline

Black Tourmaline is a great stone for an Empath; not only because it is the go-to stone for protection, it is also empowering for when enduring challenging times.

Tourmaline is a powerful grounding stone, that connects the base chakra to the Earth. It is a stone that helps with the unpredictability of Empath life.

In appearance, Black Tourmaline is usually glossy and black and sometimes has veins of grey or beige running through.

It is electrical in nature and has a pulsating energy that helps align the chakras of the body.

Interestingly, Black Tourmaline has the ability to become electrically charged just by heating or rubbing it. When charged, one end becomes positive and the other end negative, allowing it to attract or repel particles of dust.

Black Tourmaline is known as a radiation blocker and shields against toxins, electromagnetic pollution, and radiation related to mobile phones, PCs, and other electronic devices.

The stone itself doesn’t so much hinder the EMF exposure; but, instead enhances the body’s electrical field. Thus, creating a grounded shield against harmful electromagnetic radiation.

With all the radiation we are experiencing, as well as 5G towers that are going up everywhere, this stone is super important right now.

As mentioned, Black Tourmaline is an excellent grounding crystal for the Empath. It offers a protective shield which also makes it perfect to use when out and about in busy peopled places.

It is known that Black Tourmaline helps soothe panic attacks, especially those caused by energy overload. Something many are currently experiencing. It also helps soothe the irrational fears that cause anxiety.

This crystal is good to wear for protection, especially against:

• Energy vampires
• Anyone who is overly angry
• The complainers of the world
• The people who like to burden you with their problems but have no intentions of improving their situations by making lifestyle changes
• Dark or repetitive thoughts
• Negative emotional energy

When carried by an Empath, Black Tourmaline acts like an ‘invisibility cloak’ against those who use them as an ‘emotional dumping ground.’

It is also a good crystal for improving concentration, especially when suffering brain fog.

By balancing the base chakra, it is believed to be beneficial for relieving problems with elimination in the bowels, and assists the body in removing heavy metal toxins and environmental pollutants.

Black Tourmaline is often used for aligning the right/left hemispheres of the brain (feminine and masculine), which often become imbalanced by the stresses of Empath life.

How to Use

Obviously, there are many ways you can use this crystal in different layouts.

I personally find the best way to use this is the easiest way:

Either hold the stone in your hand and focus on its protective energy, or, when lying down, pop it in the centre of your forehead (third eye) and allow it to work from there (especially good to use if your mind won’t shut up or if you’re under thought/psychic attack).

Natural Therapies

It is a shame that more people don’t turn to natural therapies for healing, because they really do make a lot of difference to our health and wellbeing.

Herbs, natural food, exercise, aromatherapy oils and crystals can work wonders for our health, and are great to use during these difficult times.

Whoever it was who put humans here on this earth plane, gave us all we needed to heal ourselves, including Black Tourmaline.

Read this post to see how Black Tourmaline can protect you from invisible energy.

If you have used this crystal yourself, please feel free to share your success stories below.

Hope you are all keeping happy and healthy in whatever corner of the world you live.

Until next time.

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

LETTING GO OF THINGS YOU THOUGHT TO BE TRUE

This morning, in my inbox, I received a post from someone who I have been subscribed to for many years: Aluna Joy.

I have dipped in and out of Aluna’s messages over the years, depending on the draw of the message. Today, as I cast my eyes over the headline, it grabbed my attention straight away. And, as I went on to read her post, I knew the draw was for a reason. It was one of those synchronistic moments. (The post actually arrived Tuesday morning, but I didn’t get around to posting this until today.)

Basically, the post addressed an issue I had woken up with on my mind, but more importantly, it confirmed what I had been thinking and feeling for a while.

As you know, in recent times, this world has been kept in a state of absolute fear, anger, uncertainty, etc. Which has not only triggered doubts as to where we’re heading as a species, but it has also kept many people imprisoned within a matrix of destructive repetitive thoughts.

As Empaths, we have not only had to live through the same challenges everyone else has, we have also picked up on the collective emotions that have been particularly heightened for the last twelve months. All of which has impacted us in some strange ways.

You may have also noticed that your Empath intuition hasn’t been working the same, or is perhaps not as dependable as it was. Which may have pushed you to look outside of yourself for information or for confirmation of what you are experiencing.

This is only natural. Looking for answers is hardwired into our being. But when we look outside of ourselves too much, it means we open ourselves up to information we would not normally be open to. We become exposed to the kind of misinformation that is designed to create sides and cloud our judgement.

Anyway, this morning the first thing on my mind was how vulnerable we have all been to misinformation and how it has impacted us. When I opened my emails, and saw Aluna Joy’s message, I felt it was going to relate to my morning musings. And it was…

Her message was basically saying that we are in fragile times, where we are being exposed to many contradicting messages. It has got to the stage where we don’t know who or what to believe.

These are all distractions, designed to stop us from moving forward and keep us trapped in the old world. Which ultimately kept us stuck. But we are now in the process of letting it all go…

So, instead of me writing about a subject that has already been so eloquently discussed in her writings, I am leaving links to Aluna Joy’s post.  I feel you will all benefit from reading the message (if you haven’t already.)  Keeping Centered whilst Navigating Fragile Times

I hope it helps.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

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How to Stop Being Controlled by Shame and Judgement

We are in unique times, where past hurts and insecurities are coming up to the surface, currently on a daily basis, for us to clear. We are also in times where we can address the roots of these pains and either let them go or simply acknowledge the lessons they offered.

One such thing that causes incredible insecurity and suffering is the shame bought on by judgement. Fearing the judgements of others, as well as the judgements we place on ourselves, has kept us imprisoned more than we probably realise. Until we recognise this, we will continue to alter our behaviour patterns to fit in with others’ expectations, and not be true to ourselves.

The fear of judgement not only hinders authenticity, pushing us to alter opinions and beliefs to align with mainstream narratives, it also holds us back from following dreams and reaching potentials. Living as a ‘people pleaser’ or ‘the nice guy’ may seem like the best way to keep the peace, but if we are being untrue in these actions we are simply holding ourself back.

We are in times where being authentic is so important. Let’s face it, the old world has been pretty much built on lies. To live more authentically, we have to face the truth and this means recognizing how the fear of rejection, shame and a desire to ‘fit-in’ has altered our actions and ideas.

How This Works

The fear of judgment and rejection work hand-in-hand

When we don’t share the truth of who we are, for the fear of being judged or rejected, we end up burying parts of ourself. We cannot be true if we hide who we are.

For example, as Empaths, we might not want to share our ‘Empathic traits’ because it gives reason for others to judge and reject.

Those of us who are Sensitive, feel the judgements of others, even when unsaid or hidden behind fake positivity. If these judgments trigger buried feelings of shame, which causes old wounds to reopen, we will work even harder to avoid being judged. Which often means locking ourselves down to others and becoming impenetrable.

Caring about others’ opinions creates a prison for both the body and mind, and blocks authenticity.

Human Nature

As humans, judgements are systematically threaded in to our core. Even if it is just to assess whether a certain person is safe or trustworthy.

Assessing a situation or person, for safety reasons, is normal and can prevent unnecessary suffering. However, living in fear of being judged not only makes us afraid of speaking our truth, we might also hide our creative side for being shamed about not being good enough. Our gifts then stay hidden away and we don’t allow new ideas in.

We are Controlled by Pain and Shame

We all carry emotional pain that is locked up in shame. By its manipulation, good people are controlled by the ‘powers that be.’ They pigeon hole us. Telling us we need to follow the same agenda, have the same opinions and education. But, as I’ve said many times before, we are all different, with different outlooks and needs, even as Empaths. We are supposed to have freedom of speech and thought, yet, those who don’t agree with the mainstream narratives are often vilified or shamed in some way.

No one wants the agony that is triggered by humiliation. This is why so many live in the fear of judgement. And this is what holds many people back from taking chances in life and living in their truth.

I believe a big reason why Empaths ‘freeze’ around inauthenticity is because it’s a constant reminder that fakery and pretence does not promote growth, especially when it is used for manipulation. Lying and living inauthentically is cheating at life. It’s also following the ‘easy path.’

Looking from Another Perspective

Those who faced the biggest adversities in life, especially after facing judgements and discriminations, and came out on top, are the ones who have the most incredible life stories to share.

Yes, their journey may have been painful, it may have been overcoming one thing after another, but it also created exponential growth.

Being given an easy ride in life doesn’t give much in the way of lessons.

Another thing I have said many times over the years, is that the easy path never turns out to be easy. The person who has come from an underprivileged background and clambered their way to the top, overcoming adversity and disapproval, will have a far more interesting and rewarding life than the one born with a silver spoon and having everything handed to them on a plate.

Ironically, the ‘powers that be’ have also dictated to us what success is. People are judged on levels of achievement by perceived wealth, house size, car and wardrobe. But true success is not needing ‘stuff’ to know your worth.

Success should be measured by levels of contentment and hurdles faced and overcome.

We earn our rewards through putting the work in, and we gain understanding through life experience and challenges faced.

Humans don’t grow and gain understanding from having it easy. I’m not saying that emotional pain should be a goal to strive towards. But having emotional discomforts and hardship can give us motivation and momentum to push ourselves up, out and beyond.

However, if we continue to follow the herd, because it is easy and the best way to avoid shame and judgements, we are simply locking down our unique spark and following a road that leads to unfulfillment.

Surrender Judgements

If we want to live a life away from judgements, it helps to own self-acceptance. Know your worth. Accept that the past may have caused emotional pain for the reason it offered obstacles to overcome.

Know that it is ok to be different. Know that if you have suffered and struggled and strived to live authentically you are doing something right.

We may not know the shape of things to come or where our future will lead, but as I said in my last post, it is time to surrender our fears, beliefs and old ways of being. Let go of the fear of shame and instead focus on the light within.

It is time to create the new.

Happy Summer Solstice. Let’s see where the eclipse and astrological alignments take us next.

Until next time.

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Diane

©Diane Kathrine

A GUIDE FOR THE EMPATH ON THE GRIEF OF LETTING GO AND CREATING THE NEW

Times are changing. Even the most unaware are aware of this. We are in times of both creation but also destruction. We are in times of grief and surrender.

The old world has gone. Never to return.

Transitions are difficult. We have been thrust upon a new path. For some, this will be a path of awakening, which will create great confusion, and for others it is a realization that the life we knew is gone for ever.

The old world celebrated and worshipped attractiveness and beauty, wealth and celebrity status, it was full of deceit and fakery, there was an abuse of power and it was heavily governed by masculine energy. The new world is moving away from all that (although it won’t leave without a fight).

I can only speculate as to where we are heading, but something I know for sure; we are in times of surrender and release. Before we move into the new, we release the old.

As the old ends, the new comes forth. But we are being kept so distracted. Distractions are all around us. At one level they are to keep people down and controlled, at another, they are there to rouse us to our true potential.

We have to go through the dark to find the light.

Those of us who awakened many years ago did so after a period of difficulties. Often several years of challenges. We are now in a time of moving from one world to another, whilst at the same time being in a quickening where awakenings are happening en masse.

For the Empaths, this can trigger all sorts of strange disturbing sensations. Mental and physical. You will be feeling the uncertainty of the populace as well as experiencing your own ‘shift.’ It will seem like something just doesn’t ‘feel’ right.

Grief or Anger?

These are times of shedding and release. It is letting go of what we thought we wanted, desired or dreamed of. Everything is up for assessment. And that part can be scary as well as inciting waves of grief.

We might associate grief with the passing of a loved one, but grief can also come from losing a life we once knew.

People sense that life will never be the same again. This realization incites grief which also manifests as hurt and anger.

Humans need to express this anger and will find ways to lash out.

As the old saying goes: ‘We are not really upset about what we think.’

There will be more angry outbursts to come. Which is bad but also good.

When we endure extreme difficulties, it is a pathway towards awakening to new possibilities. Awakenings are painful experiences. So is rebirth.

Time to Release

Now is the time for us all to release, unpack and decide what to let go of.

We may have no idea of how our new world is going to unfold, but we should not be waiting for someone else to create if for us, nor keep us tied to the old with painful distractions.

These are times of preparation.

The old ways of doing things no longer fit. It is time to let go. Yes, it is scary. It’s scary because there is no hiding. The times of change are upon us…

We may be in a period of great upheaval and uncertainty, but there are deep transformations happening inside each of us. We are detaching from that which is no longer a fit.

These transformations are personal and individual. It is a shedding and also a revealing.

JUST BE

The old world was very much about doing, forcing, pushing, and living inauthentically. This is the time to JUST BE. And what I mean by that is be your true authentic self. Live honestly. Be in a space of creation with whatever your gift is. Live as though you are creating the new world.

We are in transitional times but also trying times. For some, there will be more miserable uncomfortable periods ahead. It will get ‘darker and darker’ until people awaken to their sovereignty.

Instead of being dragged down into the dark murk, allow yourself to rise above to the surface and float within the calm waters of creation. Decide which world you want to live in and be in that energy!

As always, my advice is to stay away from mainstream media… ‘The air is so much cleaner’ outside its manipulated ramblings. Not giving your focus to the mainstream also means they cannot control and feed off your energy.

If ever there was a time to be amongst the trees and forests, now is it. Nature is so healing and very much at one with the term JUST BE. By tuning into the grounding energy of our beautiful trees, it keeps us in alignment with our higher self.

I will leave you with a poem that I feel is inline with what is to come…

“One day when you wake up, you will find that you have become a forest. You have grown roots and found strength in them that no one thought you had. You have become stronger and more beautiful, full of life-giving qualities. You have learned to take all the negativity around you and turn it into oxygen for easy breathing. A host of wild creatures live inside you and you call them stories. A variety of beautiful birds rest inside your mind and you call them memories. You have become an incredible self-sustaining thing of epic proportions. And you should be so proud of yourself, of how far you have come from the seeds of who you used to be.”

–Nikita Gill, You Have Become a Forest

Until next time…

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Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

10 THINGS THAT WEAKEN AN EMPATH

I am about to share some things that weaken an Empath, either by inducing high levels of emotional or physical stress, or by weakening the body.

Now, before you think this post is going to be all doom and gloom it’s not. It’s for a purpose. It’s a way of highlighting how tough times develop us in unusual ways.

We all experience difficulties in life, it’s part of the journey, but it helps to have an understanding of why they happen and where they can take us. So here we go.

The top ten things that weaken an Empath…

1. Negative People:

Science has acknowledged that just by spending too much time around constantly disapproving or miserable people it can impact health and happiness. Meaning: we become sick just by hanging out with negative people.

Backed by studies that show how prolonged people stress alters gene expression within the immune system, more and more doctors are recommending their patients to avoid spending time with negative people to safeguard their health.

For an Empath, who both lifts and experiences the dark emotions or intentions off others, they are worst affected than most by negative people. They soon come to understand that it is best to avoid them.

2. Narcissists:

We live in a society that promotes narcissism. You only have to look online or on social media outlets to see evidence of this. But the type of narcissist that weaken an Empath the most are the type who like to control and manipulate.

An Empath carries the type of ‘light’ that might be considered as a weakness or something that can be controlled. This light often makes them a target of manipulative people and puts them in the firing line of narcissists.

That said, even when an Empath avoids contact with them, they can still get caught up in ‘the narcissist’s web.’ (Read more here and here). Which can cause various emotional and physical problems for an Empath.

3. Unbalanced Chakras:

If an Empath’s chakras are unbalanced it means they will not handle being around people for any length of time. It also means they are open to developing a number of health complaints.

The chakras are weakened by personal trauma, anxiety, stress, EMFs, modern lifestyles and unsuitable diets. If any of the chakras are forced open, by any of the above, it can result in physical ailments and a diminished or permeable aura.

A vulnerable aura is bad news for anyone, but is especially debilitating to an Empath. The condition not only drains physical energy but also allows the energy of others to have a worst impact. Read more here.

4. Too Much WIFI:

Electromagnetic frequencies (EMFs), created from wireless technologies, disrupt energy frequencies within the body and energy field. They affect the chakras and endocrine glands, immune system and nervous system. In fact, the symptoms of ‘EMF overload’ are similar to those an Empath might experience from being ungrounded.

Sadly, escapism of EMF and WIFI is virtually impossible. Yet there are some simple things we can do to help protect ourselves. Read more on this

5. Low Vibrational Food:

Foods that have been refined, genetically altered, contain artificial flavourings, preservatives, etc., not only weaken the body but also the mind. They trigger amygdala activation (responsible for activating heightened emotions), ignite autoimmune conditions, depression and more.

Consuming animal produce, where the animals greatly suffered, might also trigger depression within an Empath.

Low vibrational food, such as the above, has a negative impact on all humans, but for an Empath, who often has a ‘hot amygdala’ the impact tends to be experienced far worse. Read more here.

6. Psychic Attack:

When an Empath is under psychic attack, they will know it by the repetitive thoughts going back to a certain person, accompanied by deeply uncomfortable emotions. However, it is when they themselves get caught up in ‘the attack’ that things become problematic.

Once tied up in the thought-process, triggered by psychic attack, it becomes difficult to break free. Dark thoughts lead to dark emotions and stress, which negatively impact health and wellbeing.

Luckily there are ways around this. This post explains more about the subject.

7. Not Living in Truth:

Again, this is something that weakens everyone, but not living in truth is particularly bad for an Empath’s wellbeing.

An Empath first becomes aware of how inauthenticity weakens them after spending time around those who seem to ‘lie for a living.’

The truth is, everyone lies to some extent; if only to themselves. It is how we navigate life and ultimately it is how we uncover our own truth. But, if an Empath avoids living their truth, they will get constant reminders to put them back on track, one of which is ‘freezing’ around inauthenticity. Read more here.

8. Conflict:

Empaths are generally the type of people who dislike confrontation, because it might lead to conflict, which can cause insult and injury to all parties involved.

Through life experiences most Empaths come to understand that minds are not changed through confrontation and thus conflict, but by living by example.

If an Empath gets caught up in conflict it can trouble their mind long after it has passed. This serves in keeping the stress hormones active in the body which can lead to health problems.

9. Observing Cruelty, Acts of Violence & Mainstream Media:

Witnessing acts of cruelty or violence, whether fact or fiction, are difficult for an Empath to observe. They cause stress and deep emotional disturbances within their body, impacting the immune system and emotional wellbeing.

The mainstream media, for example, glorifies suffering as a way to entertain. Yet, at the same time seduces people into experiencing fear (an emotion that becomes addictive the more it is experienced).

Avoiding the media outlets that manipulate fear, as a point of seductive entertainment, is best avoided by all Empaths. Read more here.

10. Rejection:

Rejection, for an Empath, is not something they easily brush aside. It wounds them deeply. Rejection is an unfathomable cause of insecurity that impacts them for many years into their future.

An inherent trait of an Empath is to be protective and faithful to all who they allow into their life. To be pushed away by those they trusted or considered as friends, generates a deep mistrust of people and a weakening of body and mind. Read more here.

Now for the Good News

Undergoing experiences that might have made life challenging, dark and difficult (any or all of the above) offers incredible experiences for an Empath. From the depths of this darkness emerges a budding flower.

Like the beautiful lotus flower grows out of the mud, so do Empaths find their way into the light by experiencing the darkness.

Most of you have endured living in the shadows and have experienced great stresses in life. But we all come to understand why… Enduring painful experiences, that weaken us, thrusts us towards a greater understanding of life, evolvement and spiritual awareness.

We have to go through the dark to experience the light. If we had not gone through all that we had, we would not develop the inner strength and understanding that takes us to another level.

Experiencing pain and working through it, allows us to see from a higher perspective. The dark really does serve the light.

So yes, although the above may weaken an Empath, they can ultimately take them to places of great evolvement and understanding…

Until next time.

PLEASE HELP SUPPORT ME AND MY WORK

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

The Self-Acceptance Solution: Set Yourself Free from Empath Insecurities

We are living in some incredible times. Times where we can move into our own authority and start living an empowered life.

However, as nice as it would be to think we can just sit back and watch as our lives become magically transformed, we still have to put some work in if we want to see positive transformations. When I say work, it isn’t really. It’s more about making small changes. One such thing is letting go of old inbuilt programmes and beliefs. For example, letting go of the belief that we are not good enough.

Self-acceptance sounds like such a simple concept but why has it been so hard for us to do? We are all unique in our own special way. Connected to others but still individual. Our higher self knows this, but our hive mind struggles with the concept. Many of us have wandered through life not feeling complete because we have been striving to be something or someone else. Why?

Well, to start with, we have been given so many reasons to not feel good enough. Not clever enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough, not confident enough, not rich enough, etc. We have been truly pigeonholed. Expected to be one way. Same opinions. Same beliefs. Same looks. Same goals. But in our hearts, we have always known that we are not supposed to be the same as everyone else.

COMPARISSONS

I remember in my youth, comparing myself to the models in magazines. Working in the hair and beauty industry there were always lots of fashion magazines in the salon. The message we saw was that to be happy and accepted we had to be rake thin and perfect. Little did we know back then that all the pictures had been photoshopped and even the models didn’t look that way. But the belief was subliminally pushed in: We are not good enough.

Now that I’m older, I see the message hasn’t really changed for the older generations. Celebrities in their fifties and beyond (the age when skin starts sagging and lines get more pronounced, grey thinning hair is harder to hide and the body takes on a ‘jigglier’ form) have plump line-free skin, fabulous hair and the sculpted bodies of twenty-year-olds.

Now, although there is nothing wrong with wanting to look great whatever our age, in some cases a bit of insecurity can even be beneficial in that it pushes us towards self-betterment, but being bombarded with images of ageless celebrities can impart the message that this is how we should look and if we don’t we have failed.

It doesn’t help that the majority of the celebs deny having had plastic surgery, making claims that their youthful appearance is all down to ‘green juices and facials.’ When really, they have had their body fat sucked out and their faces reshaped and lifted.

MIND CONTROL

But it doesn’t stop with appearance. Our thoughts have been governed in such a way that we have not been free to be our true selves. Having opinions or beliefs that don’t tick the right boxes or fit in with mainstream narratives has been seriously frowned upon, and many have been too afraid to speak their truth for fear of being ostracized.

The ‘powers that be’ haven’t wanted us to accept ourselves. They wanted us to feel insecure, insignificant and fearful of being judged. This type of insecurity not only kept us slaves to a system and made lots of money for an industry, but it also kept us from being at one with ourselves.

THE SELF-ACCEPTANCE SOLUTION

It is time to let go of the illusions that we are not good enough or that we have to be a certain way to be accepted. As long as we accept ourselves, it really doesn’t matter what others think or believe. We really don’t need to convince anyone of who we are or what we feel.

Self-acceptance is one of the greatest gifts we can give ourselves. In a world where fitting-in has created huge limitations, self-acceptance is a revolutionary act that sets us free.

That’s what I call self-empowerment!

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time.

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Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

Prevent Panic Attacks and Anxiety: A Guide for Empaths & HSPs

If you have ever experienced a panic attack you will know only too well that they are not something you would wish on anyone. They create the kind of dread and sense of impending doom that are beyond comprehension.

Because Empaths and HSPs feel everything so intensely, it is often the case that they are more prone to experiencing anxiety and panic attacks.

Not Feeling Safe

Going through life over-feeling emotions and the emotional energy of others can create the perception of being unsafe, especially when out in public or around certain people. Feeling unsafe can put the body into fight-or-flight mode which is a response of the sympathetic nervous system. When the body is in fight-or-flight it is in a constant state of stress.

We often experience a sense of not feeling safe when we have experienced past traumas, especially bereavement or physical or emotional abuse, and not dealt with them.

Another issue many Empaths and HSPs face, which can affect our perception of safety, is feeling misunderstood. When we feel misunderstood it often creates an inability to truly connect with others. Which often leads to a sense of isolation, and is a catalyst for repetitive dark thoughts.

Research has shown that negative thought patterns can be inflammatory. They create problems within the body and mind and keep us in trauma mode.

We all have good and bad within us, light and dark. When we are suffering or in pain, as in with anxiety or panic attacks, it is often because we have inadvertently been feeding the darkness. We allow our pain to dictate our lives. That said, we don’t necessarily have to have been suffering to experience panic attacks. Sometimes external factors, certain foods or hormonal changes can be the trigger.

Being aware of triggers, as well as having knowledge of what we can do if we start to suffer with anxiety or panic attacks, can ensure we don’t needlessly suffer. The following are some simple steps to help prevent anxiety…

1. Use meditation and breathing exercises:

Breathing and meditation practices help cultivate more positive thoughts, help balance the stress hormones and instil calm. However, some people find meditation too stressful to perform when experiencing panic attacks or anxiety. The stillness can become unnerving. In these cases, moving meditations, such as yoga with the breath, or deep breathing is massively beneficial.

The Whisky Breath is a quick breathing exercise which can offer instant relief. Simply inhale for a count of four and then exhale for a count of eight. Continue for as long as you need. This exercise switches on the parasympathetic nervous system, which helps to prevent or stop panic attacks.  The three-minute meditation performed daily, after doing the Whisky Breath breathing, will help keep the mind positive and anxiety at bay.

There’s more information on breathing exercises and yoga here and here.

2. Keep away from people who make you feel unsafe:

If you don’t feel safe, or have trust issues with certain friends or family members, or if you don’t feel they have your best interest at heart it can cause emotional trauma. It is wise to avoid those who create safety issues for the health of your body and mind, which in turn can prevent anxiety.

3. Check your diet:

Are you eating chemical-laden foods, or foods that are known to trigger autoimmune conditions? Anxiety can sometimes be a warning from your body, telling you to pay attention. If you suspect your diet is activating anxiety or panic attacks, keeping a food diary can help you pinpoint the triggers. Read more on this post.

4. Supplement wisely:

Even with the healthiest of diets it is difficult to know we are getting, or absorbing, a full range of nutrients. We often eat anti-nutrient foods without realising (foods that block or hinder nutrient absorption), which means the good stuff we do take in doesn’t get chance to do its job. Vitamin and mineral deficiency can be a big trigger for anxiety. A basic supplementation regime can help in regards to anxiety and panic attacks. This post gives more info.

5. Take Valerian Root:

Valerian root is a natural herb used for treating anxiety and insomnia. Similar to melatonin, valerian root puts you in relaxed sleepy state. Valerian contains a neurotransmitter called GABA, that is known to have a powerfully calming effect on the mind.

6. Do therapeutic exercise:

Yoga and walking are probably two of the most therapeutic forms of exercise. There is a type of yoga to suit everyone, but it has to be practised regularly to see results. Walking is easy and super beneficial for the body and mind. Also, high intensity exercise, which helps release human growth hormone, can be beneficial for stopping panic attacks.

7. Use crystals:

There are many different types of crystals that can help with anxiety. Rose Quartz in particular is a lovely stone to help with panic attacks. It is a love stone that really helps calm the emotions. When choosing crystals for anxiety it is best to see them in person (instead of ordering online). If gazing on a certain stone makes you feel calm inside it is generally a good choice.

8. Salt therapy:

Taking salt baths can be incredibly calming and soothing for the body and mind. Even better, if you live near an ocean taking a daily dip can work wonders for soothing anxiety. This post gives more details.

9. Check your water levels:

If you are dehydrated, even just a little, it can trigger anxiety and panic attacks. This post gives more information.

10. Reduce wireless air time:

More research is coming to light showing how WIFI is a major cause of anxiety and panic attacks, especially when spending a lot of time wirelessly downloading on the internet (Youtube, etc.). Give yourself a few days away from WIFI and see what effect it has. Switch your phone to aeroplane mode when not in use and limit your time on the internet. This post explains more.

11. Keep your bedroom as a calm zone:

Quality sleep is important for preventing anxiety and panic attacks. Don’t keep electrical gadgets, especially WIFI gadgets, in the bedroom. Keep your bedroom well aired and clean. Use black out curtains to ensure a solid night’s sleep.

12. Use essential oils:

Essential oils are perfect for instilling calm. Lavender being one of the best allrounders, but other good ones are Basil, Chamomile or Geranium. You can normally feel the calming effects of these essential oils within ten minutes of application. Simply massage a few drops, mixed with a teaspoon of oil, into the soles of your feet. Or use them in your bath, add them to your body oils or put a few drops on your pillow before sleep time. Check this post out for more essential oils and their benefits.

13. Avoid caffeine:

Caffeine is one of the worst things for triggering panic attacks and anxiety. It is found in coffee, tea, chocolate and colas. Avoidance will go a long way to keeping anxiety and panic attacks at bay.

14. Avoid stimulants:

Alcohol and recreational drugs can be another big trigger of anxiety. Many people assume alcohol is a relaxant, but it is when the effects wear off that the problems start.

15. Avoid chemicals:

If you are Sensitive, it often means you will be sensitive to chemicals in products and scents, which can trigger many unusual physical reactions and stress within the body. Keep your products as natural as possible, including laundry detergent, household cleaning products and personal hygiene products.

16. Listen to soothing sounds:

There are some incredibly soothing sounds that can help reduce anxiety and prevent panic attacks. Ocean sounds, angelic harmonies, thunderstorms, gentle chimes, etc. are incredibly calming to the body and mind. Try to avoid live music downloads (such as on Youtube) as the WIFI can trigger more anxiety. Perhaps buy a CD and listen through headphones.

17. Don’t eat late at night:

Eating late at night can be the trigger for sleep anxiety and panic attacks. Try to have your last meal at least three hours before bedtime to ensure it is digested.

18. Get out in Nature:

This is a perfect remedy for anxiety and panic disorder. Even listening to the birds singing is beneficial. Read more here on the benefits of nature for an Empath.

19. Massage and reflexology:

Massaging body treatments work wonders for helping with anxiety, especially reflexology, which works on the reflex points on your feet. Schedule in time for yourself and book in a weekly treatment to help soothe your body and mind.

20. Talk to a specialist:

If you know you have supressed past trauma such as a bereavement, emotional or physical abuse, or unresolved issues, it might help to talk to a trained therapist. Supressed trauma is often reignited in times of stress, which often triggers panic attacks.

21. Have your hormones checked:

This is a big one, especially for women. If you are going through any kind of hormonal transition, such as perimenopause or menopause, it can be a big trigger for panic attacks. Perimenopause often starts from the late thirties onwards and can create many unusual and uncomfortable physical and mental symptoms.

So, there you go. Hopefully, you will have found something on the list that will help if you suffer with anxiety or panic attacks. But even if you don’t suffer with anxiety now, it is always good to have this page bookmarked for future reference. Anxiety can be triggered at any point in life, sometimes with no known cause. Having a reminder of what steps to take to combat panic attacks can avoid a lot of unnecessary suffering.

Until next time.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

 

 

The Miracle Three-Minute Meditation for a Tired Empath Mind

It is said that the average person has about thirty-five thoughts a minute. Now, I can’t say whether that is true for everyone, I’m not even sure how thoughts are measured, but we certainly think more than we realise.

Consistent positive thoughts tend to bring about positivity in our world. However, it is when our thoughts become dark, menacing and repetitive that they make life more challenging. Which, sadly, for the majority, is often the case. Especially when experiencing difficulties or stress in life.

Research

Research has shown that negative thought patterns are inflammatory. Meaning, they are not only disruptive to our mental health but also to our physical. The body and mind are connected. What weakens one will weaken the other.

As most of you know, getting out of a repetitive thinking pattern is not easy to do, especially when thoughts have been triggered by stress, trauma or ‘people factors.’ But training our mind for stillness, through meditation, can be a passport to a healthier and happier life.

Get Back in Control

The problem is, in our busy lives, finding time for a meditation practice becomes a chore and can in itself cause feelings of stress. We’re often advised that the only way to see results, from meditating, is to spend fifteen to twenty minutes in deep meditation. Well, I’ve discovered that that does not have to be the case.

We can get incredible benefits from practicing meditation for just three minutes a day. Yes, just three minutes!

We can all find a spare three minutes. Whether that be when we are in the bath, when we are cooling down after exercise, whilst waiting for dinner to cook, or before we go to sleep at night. It is very doable. I find morning is the best time, as it sets me up for the day.

You may now be thinking there would be no way you could still the mind within a three-minute time frame. But it is entirely possible and I am about to reveal the simple steps that can allow for three minutes of thought-free bliss.

What You Need

You will need a loud ticking clock, or at least loud enough to hear, and a comfortable place to sit where you won’t be disturbed.

Technique

• Close your eyes
• Focus your mind on the clock ticking. One tick should be one second.
• Now, start counting back from thirty. Allow your mind to go nowhere else except the ticking clock and your count.
• When you reach one, fold over one of your fingers and go back to counting back from thirty. Continue for another five rounds. Folding over a finger after each round (your fingers are your counters).
• If you find your mind attempting to wander, simply bring it back to the count and the tick of the clock.
• After six rounds of counting back from thirty, your mini meditation is done.

How easy was that? Three minutes and done.

The practice becomes so enjoyable that you often find when the three minutes are up you want to stay that little bit longer within the stillness of your mind. (It is often in this stillness that we get incredible insights and intuitive downloads.) In fact, this three-minute meditation is the perfect starting point to building a longer practice. If that’s what you want.

(I will note that if your mind has been overly hectic with a rush of rampant thoughts, you may need to do the technique twice. First time to still your mind, the second round to enjoy the stillness.)

Make it Your Own

If you prefer to change the way you count, feel free. I find counting backwards for a round of thirty is a better way to stay in control of my mind. It is often when I do a longer count that my mind starts wandering. But, if you prefer, counting back from sixty or even one-hundred and eighty is fine too. Whatever works for you.

Why the Clock?

There’s something rhythmically therapeutic about listening to a ticking clock. I guess the flowing beat is hypnotic. It helps keep the mind distracted from thoughts. That’s not to say you won’t have thoughts when you first start practicing. Thoughts are powerful little blighters. They do not like to be told to shut up. But by using the count and the ticking clock, you very quickly realise when your mind is wandering, and can pull it back into line.

Watch this video to see the importance of meditating at this time.

Ok, that’s it for me for today. Look out for my next post which is a guide to preventing anxiety and panic attacks for an Empath.

Until next time…

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

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Could EMF and WIFI Be Disrupting Your Empath Life?

EMF and the Empath

I noted in my last quick post that I had been a couple of weeks without WIFI in December, and what a positive impact it had on me. It is quite incredible how dependent we have become on the internet for everything. So much so, it is difficult to imagine life without it. But have we really considered what effect all the electromagnetic fields (EMFs) are having on our Empath sensitivities?

In this last post, I discussed how many Empath lives are disrupted by sensory overload. Another massive factor which also contributes to this overload are electromagnetic fields (EMFs) which include WIFI.

Electromagnetic Pollution

Over the years, the use of smart phones and laptops has skyrocketed. Even the ‘untechiest’ person will have a mobile phone. It certainly doesn’t help that the majority of our phones are also connected wirelessly to the internet which gives off considerable amounts of EMFs when data is streamed.

This increase in mobile phone use has also led to the need for more cell towers around our towns and cities, which means greater levels of EMF in our environment.

Wireless gadgets are not the only problem. There are many other devices within the home that allow these invisible frequencies to build up; such as televisions, fluorescent lighting, microwave ovens, etc.

EMF and the Empath

EMFs are so powerful they can be measured.

You and me, we both create electromagnetic fields. Virtually every single process which keeps us alive can be traced back to an electric field. A giant electric field holds all our atoms together. We wouldn’t be able to function without our electric fields. Every time we move a muscle, we create an electric field. We are electrical beings.

Think about walking into a room full of angry people where the atmosphere could be ‘cut with a knife.’ It wouldn’t be long before you were affected by the EMF of the room (whether you were an Empath or not), via the merging of electrical fields. No matter how happy you were prior to entering an angry room, the electrical energy of others can influence your own energy and thus your mood.

‘Every atom has its own electric field, and when you put two atoms close together, they can mess around with the electric field of the other.’ Jack Frazer Master’s Physics Oxford University

The above quote explains why the energy of one person can impact the energy of another. Our electric fields like to ‘mingle.’ It also shows that frequencies emitted by WIFI can ‘mess around’ with our own.

One electric field affects the way another functions. So, if you experience strange symptoms, or if your Empath traits are making life difficult, it could be caused by EMF.

Maybe it is time to pay attention to how you feel after spending a lot of time on wireless networks.

As Empaths we easily recognise the impact of the energy of people but many of us are also affected by the electromagnetic frequencies emitted within our environment without realizing.

Hazards to Health

EMF disrupt energy frequencies within our body and within our energy field, they affect our chakras and endocrine glands, immune system and nervous system. In fact, the symptoms of enduring too much EMFs are similar to those an Empath might experience from being ungrounded.

Here’s a Sampling:

• Dark moods, depression or emotional overwhelm
• Difficulty concentrating and trouble giving attention to anything which requires focus
• Brain fog and memory loss
• Anxiety, panic attacks and irritability
• Fatigue and lack of motivation
• Dizziness
• Sleeplessness (even though exhausted)

How Do You Know If You’re Affected?

One of the best ways to find out if you are EMF sensitive is to have an electrical detox. Which I must admit can be a challenge because let’s face it, electrical gadgets are everywhere. Perhaps spend a few days away from all things electrical or just turn off the electricity in your home for a while and see how it affects you. Even just switching your phone setting to aeroplane mode, when not in use, will make a difference.

I personally found that when I was not using my phone and laptop for two weeks my brain became clearer, my thoughts more lucid and I felt more energised. Others report of feeling generally happier and healthier or having strange symptoms clear up.

The Solution

Sadly, continuous escapism of EMF and WIFI, in this modern world, is virtually impossible. Yet there is one simple thing we can do to help protect ourselves. Use crystals.

EMF Shielding

Certain crystals can act like bioelectrical shields against EMF. Not surprisingly, the crystals that work best for EMF protection are the stones we use for grounding.

Crystals to Use:

Ferromagnetic crystals (containing iron) are best for EMF protection. There are several of them, but my favourites are:

• Hematite
• Black Tourmaline
• Shungite

If you have been impacted by electromagnetic frequencies, you will likely notice the difference as soon as you use one of the above grounding stones.

Other stones that can also be used are Pyrite and Magnetite (although I have never tried them myself, others have reported them to work).

How To Use Crystals for EMF Protection:

When using grounding crystals, such as Black Tourmaline, for EMF protection the goal is to create a shielding barrier between you and your wireless devices. The best ways to do this are:

• Put them in your trouser/shirt pocket or wear them as jewellery such as necklace or bracelet.
• Place them in between you and your devices. Perhaps on your work desk.

After Use

It is not always possible to keep a crystal on hand. In some cases, we need to use them after EMF exposure. They can be used with good results in the following ways:

• Use your grounding crystal in meditations: Hold your crystal, or crystals, in your hands and keep your mind focused on their energy during your meditation.
• Place a grounding crystal on the third eye (centre of forehead) for five to ten minutes: This helps with clearing any brain fog caused by EMF.
• Use grounding crystals around your bath tub: (Not in water, as some crystals may rust). This not only helps clear EMFs; it also makes bath time a much fizzier and cleansing affair.

When using crystals for EMF protection there are two IMPORTANT THINGS to remember:

• Powerfully magnetic crystals should not be used near your laptop or external hard drives because they could fry them.
• Being semiconductors of energy, Clear Quartz (or other silicate crystals) should not be used near electronic devices, as they can amplify the EMFs

Extra EMF Protection

Although certain crystals work wonders for EMF shielding, we can also take further steps to protect ourselves. The simplest ways are to turn off your wireless routers at bedtime, don’t keep your mobile or other electrical devices on your body, keep your phones and laptops out of your bedroom, and switch off electrical appliances at the mains when not in use.

Also, as was mentioned in my last post, get out in Nature as much as possible. Nature heals us on so many levels and is the perfect protection from EMF. Read more here on the benefits of being in Nature for an Empath.

Remaining vigilant of what might weaken us as Empaths helps ensure we live our happiest and healthiest life. Knowledge is power. Hopefully, this post has shed some light as to how you might have been affected by EMF. We live in an ever-changing fast-paced world that seems to bring in more challenges by the day. Levels of electromagnetic pollution are bound to get worse, so taking some simple steps now to prevent overload can go a long way.

If you are interested in learning more about how crystals can help you as an Empath, I will be releasing a book on the subject in early spring.

Hope that you have all recovered from the festive period and here’s to a fantastic 2020!

Until next time

Diane

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Sources:

(Part of the above information has been lifted from my upcoming book – Crystal Healing for the Empath – scheduled for release early spring.) Crystal Healing for the Empath Diane Kathrine

https://www.forbes.com/sites/quora/2017/11/03/how-the-human-body-creates-electromagnetic-fields/

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Sheltering from Loud Energy and Sensory Overload

To some loud energy may seem like a weird concept. But not to an Empath. An Empath will immediately know what is meant by loud energy and why we often need to find ways to shelter from it.

As Empaths, we become adept at differentiating levels of energy. We even become proficient at knowing what someone will feel like just by observing them from a distance. I often think we measure a person’s energy in a similar way that we measure sound. And just like sound can be interpreted as being loud, so can someone’s energy. (I’m sure you have experienced wanting to ‘shush’ someone even though they have not said a word.)

It is often the case that the livelier a person the louder their energy. However, someone can still have loud energy without necessarily being a loud person. There are several factors that seem to raise a person’s ‘vibrational volume’ and they are:

• Being in quiet emotional pain (suffering in silence).
• Grasping for attention or being super self-absorbed.
• Being famous (although this energy can be quite enigmatic).
• Containing anger or resentments.

Having loud energy is certainly no crime and we cannot build resentments towards someone just because of their ‘energetic decibels.’ But, just like persistent loud noises can impact our health and wellbeing, so can loud energy.

Sensory Overload

You may yourself have noticed that on some occasions you are not affected by the noisy energy of a person, but at other times it winds you up to the point of distraction. This often happens when there’s been a sensory overload. If all your senses have been on overload you won’t handle a person’s loud energy as well as you should.

We talk about being sensitive to other people’s energy, but that’s not all we can be sensitive to. Many Empaths have heightened senses. We hear sounds louder, see colours brighter and taste foods more intensely. We also suffer more with food sensitivities which also contributes to heightened senses.

It is often when all our senses are on overload that we cannot handle the loud energy of people. And is another reason why Empaths don’t do well spending a lot of time in places that are loud or filled with lots of people.

Sensory overload can trigger: fatigue, mood swings, people irritation, and more.

If we become irritated when around another person, we often blame it on their energy, but it might just be that it was ‘the straw that broke the camel’s back.’ In other words, all our other senses have become so heightened that we cannot take any more ‘input.’

The thing is when we are overloaded it causes unnecessary stress to the body and mind. We then get caught up in a vicious cycle of energy overload and our senses never get a rest.

Now, as nice as it would be to ask someone to contain their energy, this obviously isn’t an option. We need ways to filter and cleanse our senses so that we don’t get taken down by sensory overload.

I often talk about the importance of grounding for an Empath, which is not just great for ‘energy protection’ it also works as an easy way to rebalance or calm our senses.

Nature

Getting outdoors into the natural world is one of the top ways of grounding. Nature is so soothing to the body, mind and soul. Sadly, the green spaces in and around our cities are getting less and less. Houses, apartment blocks and business units are being built on every available piece of land. This has more impact on our general wellbeing than we probably realize. (Read more about Nature’s healing power here.)

My husband and I do a lot of travelling around the UK. Mostly down south on the M6. But we also go up to Scotland. When we drive towards London, we don’t pass much greenery and we often arrive at our destination lethargic and agitated. However, when driving up to Scotland the opposite is true. We often feel uplifted. If you have done any driving through the UK (or any other place where you go from city to greenery) you might have also experienced this yourself. The further North you travel, on the M6 in the UK, the greener it becomes. The landscape is beautiful and calming to gaze upon. It is soothing to the senses. And that is without even getting out of the car.

Although I know the volume of traffic plays a part in draining our energy when travelling (south-bound on the M6 is particularly busy), we have also sat in traffic heading towards Scotland and it by no means has the same effect.

So, yes, to protect from sensory overload, get out in Nature as much as possible. Keep plants and flowers in the house and garden. Even potted herbs dotted around the kitchen will help bring Nature indoors.

If you don’t get chance to get outdoors much, never fear, there are other fab ways to help soothe the senses and they are:

Meditative Breathing

Before and after going to busy places use meditative breathing exercises for a couple of minutes or longer. A good one to use is the 4/7/8 breathing technique. Inhale for 4 beats, hold for 7 beats, exhale for 8 beats. This practice is soothing to all senses and helps protect from loud energy.

Buzzing bee breath is another great technique to use. Simply close your eyes, plug in your ears with your fingers, inhale and, keeping the mouth closed, exhale whilst making the sound of a buzzing bee. (See more here.)

Crystals

Carrying or wearing grounding crystals, such as Hematite or Black Tourmaline, are perfect for protection. These stones not only help protect you from loud energy, they are also soothing to the emotions and help keep you grounded. (More on crystals coming soon.)

Aromatherapy

A great way to soothe your senses and bring all-round calm is by using aromatherapy oils. Before going to peopled places, put some lavender on a hanky and breathe it in when ‘overloaded.’ Or use essential oils in the bath after an energy overload. (Here’s a post to get you started.)

It is also a good idea to avoid overly potent chemical smells (car fumes, air fresheners, cleaning products, soaps, perfumes and deodorants, etc.), which can also overload the senses.

Music

The right type of music, or sounds, can work wonders for soothing your senses and protecting from loud energy. Take your ear phones and Ipod (do people still use these?) or other device and listen to soothing or uplifting music when in places where there is a lot of sensory stimuli.

Eye Cupping

Too much visual stimuli can be overloading. A simple way to soothe your sight sense is eye cupping. Rub your hands together to warm them up, then place your palms over your eyes. Open your eyes into the dark warmth of your palms for as longs as needed (only perform when safe to do so).

So, there you go. Hopefully you will have some new inspiration of what to try to prevent sensory overload and to protect from loud energy. (If you’re looking for more this post might help.)

In my next post I will be addressing a massive factor that is responsible for causing Empath overwhelm and sensory overload. Be sure to look out for it.

Hope you’re all keeping well in your little corners of the world.

Until next time.

Diane

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What is Really Making You Angry as an Empath?

Have you found yourself suffering more with angry emotional reactions lately than what is usual? Have you ever wondered why?

Following on from my last post about the shadow side, today I want to discuss another way in which the shadow may be experienced: through anger.

The reason this is an important issue to address is because anger is especially damaging to the body. Anger stresses the adrenals, causes stomach problems, and weakens the heart area. in fact, just one minute of anger can suppress the immune system for five hours.

In current times it seems anger is being purposely stimulated amongst the masses, which is not good for the Empaths.

All around the world we see people getting angry or hateful over ‘local or global affairs.’ There is so much fury being projected on to issues presented online that it makes you question: are people really so angry with these issues or is it something else? Something deeper that has been suppressed that is trying to draw their attention?

An Empath will always be affected by the anger in others; but they also have their own to deal with. However, because they know the damage anger can do, when projected on to others, it is often suppressed. Which rarely leads to anything good.

You’re Never Angry About What You Think You’re Angry About!

The above statement is so true. We are rarely infuriated by what we think. We are simply projecting our pain when triggered.

When we project our pain on to external factors, instead of looking inwards to find and fix what needs fixing, we don’t uncover the real roots of our anger.

How Do We Uncover What is Really Making Us Angry?

An unhealed Empath, who has spent years stuffing down emotions, can find offence in pretty much everything. In these times, however, everything is rising to the surface. As noted many times in other posts, imbalances in hormones, due to the diet and environmental factors, plays a huge part in emotional reactions (read more here), but they mostly have to do with our past.

Going Backwards to go Forwards

In life we often have to go backwards to go forwards. What I mean by this is we have to visit the origins of the wounds from our past before we can move away from them.

If, for example, anger is triggered in the present by someone expressing their beliefs, the question has to be asked: Why are their opinions striking a chord?

Could it be related to a buried memory from childhood? Maybe a memory of being told you were wrong? Or perhaps being told you were not good enough? Perhaps regularly? Or it could be that you just want to express yourself without someone jumping in to say that your opinions are unfounded, or liken your ideas to a conspiracy theory (yes, that has happened to me before).

Anger projected into the present is likely to have originated from a past issue, often made much worse by hormone imbalances (read more here ), but it will usually be disguised as anger towards something else.

The ego is often blamed for certain ‘toxic feelings.’ And yes, the ego likes to dominate, it likes to be right and is also easily bruised. But an inflated ego is not always the precursor to anger within an Empath, it is more likely to be the wounds of the shadow.

The shadow holds the unresolved issues, emotional pain and insecurities that affect our behaviour and outlook on life. It also likes to trigger anger. That said, sometimes experiencing dark emotions is not always a bad thing.

Can Positive Situations Come from Anger?

There are times when anger and rage can propel us to make changes in life, pushing us onwards and upwards. It can also help us address that which needs addressing. However, when it is anger outbursts or silent anger, that quietly lingers in the shadows without serving any purpose except stress, then it is a problem!

Do we really want to punish our self for someone else’s opinion or mistake? Because that’s what we do when we host or suppress the emotion of anger.

People will always disagree. It doesn’t mean one is right and the other is wrong. There is just a difference of opinion. We do not need to convince anyone of anything. If someone is not ready to hear our opinion it is not our job to force it upon them. In fact, some people will never hear what we have to say, no matter how much truth is in our words, and that’s ok.

So, how do we tackle the anger or uncomfortable feelings that arise?

Firstly, do not suppress anger. But also, don’t take it out on others.

Many years ago, I read Louise Hay’s recommendation of using a pillow to release anger. Simply take a nice fluffy pillow and, when no one is around, beat it up. It does help.

Secondly, get familiar with the triggers:

To find out where your anger stems from, question yourself. Who are you really angry with? When you ask this question, a picture of someone will quickly come to mind often alongside an uncomfortable memory or feeling.

Do you really want that person or persons to continue to hurt you today? If the answer is no, it’s time to stop or release the anger reaction. Breathe through it or just pause and allow it to pass.

As I said, anger is hugely detrimental to health, as is any of the other stressed/pained emotions.

I realize that switching off emotions is a lot harder than just turning off a light switch. There are several other factors we have to consider. For example, have we become addicted to the hormones these emotions produce (read this post to uncover if you have a negativity addiction)? or are we unable to let go of the pain because it has become part of our identity? But understanding the cause helps in reducing the reactions.

The long-term goal is to stop feeding the shadow when it ignites an anger response. But recognizing that it is the shadow at work is halfway to making this realization.

Healing

When healed, we come to understand that what others say, think or do is more a reflection of them and not us. But until we get to this place, using grounding techniques, such as those I discuss here, will help reduce anger or prevent other emotional reactions, and a nice fluffy pillow (for pounding out the emotions) is always there for those darker days.

These journeys, we are each experiencing, have been designed especially for us. The beliefs we have and the problems we face are ours to overcome. The same can be said for everyone out there. By allowing others to have their own opinion, by walking away from fights that will never be resolved, or from the people who take pleasure in putting others down, it is not only liberating but also healing. And addressing the truth behind anger goes a long way towards its release.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time.

Diane.

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