The End of the World as We Know It?

Although I have dislike of watching strong violence on the TV, I do have a penchant for zombie and end of world catastrophe movies. One of my favourites being ‘World War Z’. It only recently dawned on me that these zombie films are almost like a metaphor for the world we live in today.

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In a typical zombie film, a plague or virus wipes out the human host. It may look like the body is alive, but it is just going through the motions, whilst under the control of a parasitical hive-minded predator. The zombie is unable to show empathy, think for itself or express any emotion, other than rage, and all it seemingly can do is attack those not akin to it. Hmmm, sound familiar?

We are surrounded by what seems like many non-thinking sleepwalkers who are just going through the motions of life but aren’t really taking part in it. They follow the protocol of: consume, reproduce, sleep and obey (If you’ve ever seen the film ‘They Live’ you’ll know where I’m coming from) and don’t seem able to see, never mind question, the wrongdoings currently happening in the world.

Our reality has shifted, and the world is becoming more divided. We are seeing evidence of this everywhere we look. The polarities are so tangible now and it truly seems like there is a war between light and dark being played out. We are in the midst of some challenging, earth shifting times, that are affecting everyone in some way or other. The Empaths are feeling these changes in a pungently unpleasant way.

People are being played off against one another. With their minds distracted and preoccupied, it has kept them from waking up to the truth of themselves and the world. This is causing friction and frustration. There are a lot of unhappy folks out there, looking for ways to express their pain. They don’t know why they are feeling the way they are, they just want somewhere to offload their aggravations, and guess who frequently gets in the firing line…? yes, the Empaths and Sensitive.

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Discover Your Purpose & Find Your Empath Wings

Hope this post finds you happy and healthy, and looking forward to another fabulous weekend!

Summery weather has now arrived in the UK. We’ve had to wait a while. It’s been a long wet winter. Finally, it’s warm enough to sit outside without the need for a warm woolly jumper.

As promised, I am here posting another extract from my new book, 7 Secrets of the Sensitive. The following has been taken from Secret 5: Finding your Empath Wings. I have lifted certain paragraphs from the chapter, so as not to give too much away… 🙂

‘One thing I know is the Empaths are here for an important reason. I can feel it. As I’m sure you can too. You may not know what this purpose is yet, but you are certainly on your way to finding out. Continue reading

Could the Empath be an Introvert Narcissist?

Contrary to the title of this post, I am not suggesting that Empaths are in fact covert introvert narcissists. The title was just to grab your attention. The reason being, last week an article came to my attention that made me stop in my tracks and was the cause for a lengthy conversation with myself about the traits of a narcissist and how they could be confused with the traits of an Empath.

As you read on you will understand why I felt the need to write this post and address this subject. There is much written about Empaths and narcissists and the toxic relationships that can result from these encounters. But I have had comments on my site (which I don’t publish if they are overly negative or attacking) comparing Empaths to narcissists and this is why I would like to address this subject.

Narcissism is defined as a psychological condition characterized by self-preoccupation and incredibly high self-esteem with a distinct lack of empathy. The origin of narcissism stems from the myth of Narcissus, the youth from ancient Greece who fell in love with his own reflection in the water, only to drown in the process.

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5 Ways to Make Your Spirit Soar

dove-wallpaper-13After I wrote the post, ‘Surviving Christmas’, I decided I wanted try to put myself in the frame of mind where I could align with the more positive aspect of Christmas, without getting involved in the commercial side, and hopefully make December a much more enjoyable month.

Although I have not been keen on the festive season these past years, I still enjoyed a good Christmas film. I realize that some may see them as being cheesy or fake, but I find there is something magical and uplifting about Christmas films. For some reason, I feel emotionally uplifted and motivated to be a better person after watching one.

It was after watching the film, Scrooged with Bill Murray, earlier in the month that I questioned as to why I like the films, but don’t care much for the season. And then it came to me, Xmas films are never about the stress, the debt or overindulgence that Christmas creates, but about doing good for others, forgiveness, turning one’s life around or finding love. So, with this in mind I had a little think about how I could reclaim my Christmas spirit without following ‘standard protocol’ and this is what I came up with:

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Are You A Multipotentialite Empath?

careerMany people struggle finding their life purpose, especially the Empaths. Feeling confused as to whether we are walking the ‘right occupational path’ is all too common for the Sensitive. There are many reasons for this, but the way the world makes us ‘feel’ certainly contributes to our confusion. Because we get exhausted, depressed or overstimulated by spending too much time around others, it can lead us to feeling unfulfilled and often blaming our chosen profession.

This sense of unfulfillment can lead us to trying many different vocations, in a bid to find the work that feels a fit and we hope will put us on the path to our true-life-purpose.

Empaths are hardwired into learning, gaining knowledge and wisdom. We have active imaginations and are often looking for ways to fill our creative-mind-space. Many try different posts, college courses or careers and believe the reason for this is because we are searching for our true vocation, however, there maybe another reason… You could be a multipotentialite Empath! Continue reading

What is an Empath’s Purpose in Life?

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One of the most frequently asked questions by those on the path of awakening is: What is my purpose in life?

I know only too well how frustrating it is to have this question burning unanswered within.

For the Empath it is doubly frustrating because we have this incredible gift and most do not know what it is for or what we are supposed to do with it.

I have often been asked questions such as: ‘how can I be of service to others?’ or ‘I want to help others but how should I do it?’ 

It is an inbred trait for Empaths to want to help others, especially if they are suffering. However, many of us have tried and failed when attempting to help others help themselves. It can be incredibly soul-destroying to see another suffering and not be able to help them. Continue reading

10 Essential Oils to Re-Balance the Empath

essential_oilsThe value of essential oils has been known for more than 6000 years, not only for their amazing healing properties but for their ability to bring energetic balance back to the body and mind, and promote emotional wellbeing.

Essential oils are composed of tiny molecules which can easily be penetrated by the body. When the essences are inhaled they enter the body, via the cells that line the nasal passages. These then send messages to the brain which directly affects the emotions by working on the limbic system, the limbic system controls the major functions of the body. Thus essential oils are able to heal and balance one’s physical and mental bodies at the same time.

Although the following essential oils have many therapeutic benefits, I will mainly be listing their energetic and emotional balancing qualities. These oils can also help remove the emotional energy, in the form of depression, low moods or anger, you may have picked up off others. Continue reading

Dark Thoughts and Moving into a New World

worldHave you found that you seem to be getting triggered in negative ways recently? You’re not alone. You will be especially noticing these triggers if, in the past years, you have significantly raised your vibration and have done lots of work on yourself.

You may find that for the much of the time you feel happy, even blissed out and then you receive a message off someone that automatically puts you into a negative place and changes your thoughts from being happy to angry or low vibrational.

To find yourself thinking negatively is not your fault, humans are hardwired into thinking more negative thoughts than positive, it’s called negativity bias and stems back to our survival instincts from caveman days. We can brood for hours on dark menacing thoughts whilst positive ones can often go unnoticed.

It only takes 17 seconds for a negative thought to take hold, which could then escalate into hours or days of dark thinking, which will affect both our emotions and our physical health.

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AN EMPATH’S GUIDE TO LIVING IN THE WORLD

 Living in this heavily populated world, Empaths are faced with many energetic challenges. If it is not having others dump their negative energies on them, they are being drained of their vital energy. Simply being out in public places can be enough to suck their life-force dry, or just by being in the presence of a certain family member can be the reason behind a weeks worth of energy and emotional clearing.

Learning to set energetic boundaries is, of course, a given for those of a Sensitive nature and for many Empaths they are hardwired into automatically doing this. However, sometimes life just gets in the way and we may need gentle reminders as to what we could be doing to protect ourselves and thus make life more enjoyable. Then there are the newly learned Empaths, who have only just discovered of their birthright and are in search of as much information as they can get feast their eyes upon, to help them deal with the rigours of life.

To Block or Not to Block That is The Question.

For Empaths wanting to block out all external emotions and energies would no doubt be a priority. However, it is not always that cut and dry. For one thing, she might have already tried every energy-blocking technique known to man, without any success. And then there is the question of why is it Empaths feel and take on what they do, emotionally, is it not for a purpose? In taking on these negative energies are they not helping rid the world of them? The answer to that question is debatable and it may well be that there is no answer, or can only be answered by opinions. However, Empaths need to learn how to protect themselves from wayward energies so that they can continue to function in everyday life.

Out and About

If you are one who finds being in public areas, such as shopping malls and cinemas, unbearable, to the point of avoiding them at all costs, there are some techniques you could try that may help when you venture into people-packed-places.

When an Empath is alone in people-congested areas, they can soak up the any negatively charged energies no sooner than having stepped over the building’s threshold. Being with another person (of whom you are energetically compatible) will act as a buffer and help diffuse the energies and lessen the incoming impact. It will also serve as a pleasant distraction and take your mind off what you are feeling. Chances are, after the shopping trip or outing, you may still feel drained but your experience will have been a much more pleasant one.

If taking a friend or family member is not possible, finding a grounding technique that works for you and using it before going out is essential. Below are some you could try:

Power Poses

A power pose is generally anything that fully opens the body and can be as simple as opening up one’s arms wide (so your body is in the shape of a cross) and taking long slow breaths through the nose. Holding a gentle smile is further empowering.

If you are familiar with yoga, a Starfish pose (standing with wide legs and arms) is ideal, as is a Warrior pose with open arms. Holding the power pose for a couple of minutes prior to leaving home or entering an energy-hostile environment will serve in uplifting and expanding one’s energy field. This is opposed to how an Empath would normally go out into the world, wanting to be small and invisible.

Grounding Visualisations

These can be anything from visualising roots coming from your feet grounding you to the earth to mentally building a halo of white light around your body and expanding it with your breath. Take a couple of minutes to quieten the mind before attempting.

Affirmations

Positive mini-declarations repeated in the mind can serve in being uplifting, empowering and protective. Statements such as: I can do it, I will do it, can instantly and positively change your mindset and thus make one better equipped to handle incoming energies. Find one that works for you, suitable for the time and place.

Music Therapy

Taking your music and earphones can be a huge help when out and about. Listening to music you love creates an inner-expansion, uplifts and creates a ‘bliss bubble’ around you. It can enable you to glide through public-places seemingly unaffected. However, it is best to get into the ‘music zone’ before entering a peopled place.

Breath-work

Please see this post for  various breathing techniques.

There are many other grounding and mind quietening methods available, such as meditation, that require a committed, daily practise to reap the full benefits.  The above methods are what can be done in a hurry or simply when one is feeling out of sorts. You may need to play around with different techniques to find that which works for you. For example, there is no point visualising yourself engulfed in a halo of white light if you do not believe it really works.

Bedtime

If you are one who doesn’t like sleep-snuggling or having to sleep close to your partner in bed, no matter how much you love them, you are not alone. Having sleeping-space is essential for the Empath.  Most Empaths will loathe having anyone get in their ‘energy-space’, day or night, but as sleep-time is crucial for recharging, it is even more important that they are allowed it.

If you share a bed, and it is not possible for you to have your own bedroom, opt for the largest size bed available, if space permits.

If you still struggle sleeping near your partner or wake-up feeling drained, use one of the above grounding techniques and adapt them to bedtime mode.

Eating

Know your food and how it affects you. Listen to what your body is telling you as to what is and isn’t right for you. If, for example, you have a nagging feeling that dairy is causing you to have an allergic reaction, you could try the 30 day exclusion challenge, to see if it is. This involves abstaining from all dairy (or whatever you suspect does not agree with you, be it wheat, sugar, alcohol or meat) for 30 days. Then, after that time, gradually introduce it back into your diet. If you have a big reaction to it, you know that you are intolerant, allergic or energetically incompatible and probably best removing it from your diet.

Over a period of about 15 years, I’ve tried many eating and exercise plans. I have tried and trained in many holistic therapies and healing, and researched the benefits of nutrients. I always believed that the answers to my healing lay in the metaphysical, and if I made myself more ‘spiritual’ I would find life easier… I hadn’t taken into consideration that it didn’t matter how many hours I sat in meditation or doing yoga or how many spiritual texts I read, if I was putting poison into my physical body, no amount of meditation or spiritual awareness was going to balance me. Of everything I have tried over the years, holistically, spiritually and energetically, the most profound changes happened to me when I changed my diet!

I have written about benefits of changing the diet before (and will no doubt again), but as I consider it to be one of the best things we can do to aid physical healing and spiritual growth, especially for Sensitives, I will keep spreading the word. We may all be very different, with different spiritual, nutritional and physical requirements, but none of us will benefit from taking drugs or eating drug-like food…

Empaths will react more to drug-like foods than those not of a sensitive nature, because we tend to be highly reactive. High reactive people will taste the bitterness in lemons more than others, feel emotional and physical pain more, go red in the face easier and be affected by drugs and alcohol worse than those who are not highly reactive.

High reactives are very responsive to different vibrations of energy. Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies and that includes food, drugs or alcohol: the faster the vibration, the higher the frequency. Empaths can be negatively affected by anything of a low vibration. Most drugs and alcohol have a low vibrational energy and will bring the Empath down fast.

If you want to transform your life and learn more about how your diet is impacting your health and Empath ways click here. 

It is also wise to take note how your food is prepared. Food prepared in an angry or unhappy environment will carry that energy and thus show up within you. Most Empaths will benefit from having mainly homemade food, so they know exactly what energy goes into their meals.

Socialising and Stimulants

Unfortunately, any kind of stimulant (alcohol, drugs, etc) will only serve in weakening the Empath (as they do any other human). Under the influence, it may feel like external energies are being blocked out but unfortunately this is not the case. They still seep in and still need to be dealt with.

When in company, other people’s emotions may show up in the Empath as aggression or an overly dominant ego on the evening of consumption or as a physical and emotional hangover from hell the day after.

If you don’t like the idea of giving up your favourite tipple or social life, try using grounding techniques prior to an evening out and drink lots of water throughout the evening, it has a cleansing effect. Also keeping your body in a more alkaline state will help keep you balanced and stop alcohol doing as much damage.

Friends 

The longer the Empath has known a friend, the more impact the friend can have on their energy. And, as you would imagine, this could be either a good or bad thing, depending on the relationship. Knowing how to navigate your friendships can serve in offering healthier and happier relationships.

Have you noticed that friends may act differently depending on who they are with? For example: you may have two very good friends whom when you spend one-to-one time alone, there is no ill effect. However, put those two friends together and the energy dynamic shifts in such a way that one can feel drained, angered or even bullied in their collective presence. If this has been a friendship, or even family, experience of yours it may be advisable to see certain friends on a one-to-one basis only.

Friends’ energy and how it affects those of a Sensitive nature will change along with their age and life circumstances. If down or depressed, a friend can unintentionally take the Empath down with them. In theses cases one has to learn to emotionally unplug. One can still listen and be there, but in a detached way.

Also, be very wary of an unwanted energy drain. We all know people who drain energy, otherwise known as the ‘Energy Vampires’, but when a friend, who isn’t normally a drainer, is experiencing a tough time their energy-sucking tentacles may seek out an instant uplift, from anywhere they can get it. To avoid being a friend’s ‘energy-replacement-meal’, watch for any drain and where it is coming from. It will normally be from one of four of the main energy centres (chakras): sacral (below belly), solar plexus (mid belly), heart (heart area) or throat (front of throat) and it can be felt by a pull or ache in that area. Wherever you feel it, cover that area immediately with your hands or arms. It is not by chance that we cross our arms over our stomach or chest in social situations; we are subconsciously stopping an energy-drain.

Empaths tend to be very faithful to their friends and keep them in their life for the long-haul. For this reason, it is a good idea to choose friends wisely.

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Work 

For the Empath finding their calling or vocation can be a challenge of epic proportions. As living a lie through having to pretend they like doing a job which they don’t, or sell a product they do not believe in, is nothing short of torture for them. Also, as eighty percent of the workforce do not enjoy their job, this is not conducive to an energy-efficient or happy working environment (another obstacle for the Empath).

If we listen, our Internal Guidance System will continuously present us with vocational options, perhaps as interests or passions. If searching for your dream job, or just a new direction in life, here are some questions that may ignite the answer:

What are your passions?

What do you love to do?

What do you believe in?

What would you wake up excited to do each day?

What can you not live without doing?

What engages you?

What interest keeps coming back to you?

If you could change the world for the better, how would you do it?

Roadblocks

Roadblocks are what stop you going down your desired or chosen route in life. They can be seen through sickness, redundancy, depression, loss of money and social status or non-starting projects. They can unexpectedly pop up out of nowhere, take you off your current journey and bring your life to a standstill or send you off in a new direction.

When encountering roadblocks it may seem like they are purely an unfair punishment, but this comes down to our perspective of them. They are normally presented as a detour and a way to make changes to our life’s journey when we are refusing to listen to our Internal Guidance Systems. This detour may involve a long and winding scenic-route, which also happens to be an uncomfortable, seemingly never-ending, bumpy road. But again, this is down to our perspective. We have a choice: we can get wrapped up in the inconvenience and discomfort of the long ‘scenic-route’, focusing only on that, or we can concentrate on the ever-changing landscape as it passes and be grateful for being given a chance to slow down.

We can get so caught up in arriving at our destination that we miss most of the journey.

Everything presented to us in life is a gift and is something we can learn from, good or bad, if only we allow ourselves to see it.

Exercise

Exercise is essential to an Empath’s wellbeing. It works not only the physical but energetic bodies and can help clear stagnant or negative energy. Sadly, we live in a society that promotes a ‘no-pain-no-gain’ philosophy towards exercise and a focus on sculpting the muscles rather than healing the body and mind. Exercise should be fun and liberating, not torturous or painful (unless you enjoy that ).

There are so many ways to exercise and it doesn’t have to be costly or complicated. It can be as simple as turning on some funky music and shaking your hips around the kitchen. Dancing when no one is watching is unbelievably uplifting and you get to make your own moves with the beat of the music.

Running or walking in nature, freestyle dance, where there are no rules, or one of the many forms of yoga, are probably some of the best forms of exercise for the Empath. These can be done alone and at home, and there is no need for a gym membership. Swimming in the sea or a lake would also be great, if you’re fortunate enough to have one nearby.

A gym-class is not always the best environment for an Empath, especially if it has a very ego-driven or body-conscious atmosphere and adorned by lots of mirrors. There are some who can pick up negative energies from mirrors. If there have been many insecure, or body conscious, people gazing into gym-mirrors, an Empath may feel that residual energy (this can also be the case in clothes stores) and take it on as their own.

Relationships 

For the Empath, relationships can prove to be a complicated area of life, but also very rewarding when one has found a compatible mate (who very likely won’t be an Empath).

Empaths can be greatly misunderstood and seem aloof and disconnected to a new or prospective partner and it may take a while for their detachment and need for time alone, to be not taken personally by their partner.

When one is romantically connected to another, it can make the energetic connection complicated. Reading someone, who holds no emotional ties, normally comes quite easily for the Empath. However, when there is a strong emotional bind it can distort one’s ability to read energies clearly. This can lead to confusion and frustration, especially in the early building, days of a relationship and even further down the road. Not everyone is as inclined to be as honest as an Empath; especially if they have grown-up or worked in an environment that lying is ‘quietly’ seen as acceptable (it is surprising how often this is the case). This is a huge bugbear for the Empath because they can feel the energy of a lie, but not always what the lie is. In some cases ,this can lead to paranoia which in turn leads to ungrounded accusations and arguments.

A whole book  could be dedicated to the relationship highs and lows of an Empath and how to handle each and every situation (see The Empath Awakening for more on Empath relationships). But in brief, it’s safe to say that the best way to be in any relationship is honest (unless the truth will cause unnecessary pain) and never be afraid to show your True-Self.

It’s always good to remember that every relationship no matter how brief can offer a valuable lesson. Even toxic relationships, which are filled with strife and arguments, can show us areas of our life that need to be worked on or improved.

Comfort Zone 

Allowing yourself to step out of your comfort zone, on a daily basis, allows for growth in all areas of your life.  It enables you to face your fears and in facing them it gives you a greater capacity to deal with negative emotions. When we stay comfortable, we stay small and don’t expand. As the saying goes: 

‘If it doesn’t challenge you it doesn’t change you!’  

                                                                          – Fred Devito

We can step out of our comfort zone by going further than we would like during exercise, by making a phone-call we’ve been putting off for months, telling someone you love them or anything that makes you squirm or feel uncomfortable at the thought of doing. 

Getting Out of Your Head

Thoughts can be destructive to our health and wellbeing, especially when they are negative and repetitive. Empaths tend to spend a lot of time in their heads, which is great when thoughts are creative, happy or enlightening. However, spend too much time around certain people or places and the happy thoughts can quickly turn into painful memories, anger or thoughts of being wronged or unfairly treated by another.

You may not even realise that these irrational thoughts, that are on a perpetual time-loop, have been ignited by being around certain others, as they don’t always kick in till a day or two after exposure.

So, how do we stop them? It’s not easy but it can be done. The best techniques to try involve externalising one’s awareness or distracting the mind.

Externalising Awareness

One of the best ways to get out of the head is to focus your awareness outside of yourself, using a meditative technique called mindfulness. This can be done almost anywhere and involves focusing on something outside of your mind. You could gaze at a flickering candle or pay close attention to your scenery as you pass it by (obviously not to be done whilst driving ;)). If you like walking in nature look up at the trees and notice all you can about the bark, branches and leaves, see the different cloud formations in the sky or inspect the wild flowers growing within the foliage.

Thought Distraction

When your thoughts are in negative-overdrive doing activities which allow you to indulge them is not advisable. You really need to be distracted and this normally involves stepping out of your comfort zone. The easiest way to do this is through exercise. If you practise yoga do a pose you find challenging or which requires stamina or concentration, such as the Plank, Warrior, Tree or Crow (the Asthanga yoga sequence is great because you have to focus on sequence, breath and bandhas).  If you like to run, swim or cycle try doing it in intervals: power up for 30 seconds to a minute, slow it down for 30 seconds to a minute. If you like to dance or do aerobics do a routine which you have to memorize, this is great at keeping the mind distracted. Put on an exercise DVD or check out YouTube for exercise routines that will challenge you without being injurious. 

Summary 

As we are all here on our own journey with learning experiences unique to us, not all the tips and advice offered here will be helpful to everyone, but you will never know until you try them for yourself. 

As an Empath, you may have come into life purely to gain experience of feeling others emotions. And because of this, it is important to remember that just because one Sensitive seems to have learnt how to deal with the external energies and you haven’t, even after trying every technique in the book and attending every self-help seminar, doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong or even being punished. It may simply mean you have not yet achieved a certain lesson from a certain experience. It could also be that you are capable of enduring more hardships in life and your mountains are higher and harder to climb than most and in turn you will be learning more.

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Clear Your Clutter Transform Your Life!

How many of us hold onto things long after they’ve outlived their use?

Have you kept old clothes believing they may come back in fashion one day, or in case you lose or gain weight?

Have you been given a gift that you didn’t really like, but kept it to avoid hurting another’s feelings?

I think it’s safe to say most of us could say yes to at least one of the above questions. But hoarding, even just a little bit, will soon see our homes overloaded with junk. Bad news for Empaths or those of a sensitive nature.

An overly cluttered house leads to an overly cluttered mind and energy field. Clutter equates to stagnated energy and is extremely draining to the body and mind. Even clutter that the eye cannot see, still has a debilitating effect on the psyche and creates an overcrowded feeling within. This can lead to the Empath feeling drained and lethargic!

If you have a crowded house (and I don’t mean with people) you may not realize how much it can deplete your energy, leading to feelings of sluggishness, apathy and an uninspired mind.

Empaths tend to have an inbuilt loathing of clutter, whether they are aware of their gift or not, and this is because they can feel it dragging them down, energetically. They will tend to opt for more of an uncomplicated decor, without too much fuss in the way of ornaments etc., for the simple reason that all objects hold energy. But over the years clutter can unintentionally build and we can find ourselves with all sorts of bric-a-brac, that were probably gifts, strewn around the house, which only serve in being draining.

Many years ago, before I was even aware of the term Empath, I read a book by Karen Kingston called: ‘Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui’ (unfortunately, I no longer have the book, and don’t have a photographic memory, so am unable to paraphrase), it really resonated with me and inspired me to have a full-on house detox. I hatched a plan to rid the home of all unwanted, unused and unhelpful items we had hoarded. My husband and I ploughed through the house, room by room, and cleared tonnes of stuff (slight exaggeration there but you will be surprised how much can be crammed into the smallest draw). I have a minimalistic decor-style and have never liked visual clutter, so everything that was removed came out of cupboards, draws and wardrobes. It was amazing how clean, fresh and liberated we both felt afterwards.

The first thing we all need to summon, when it comes to de-cluttering, is bravery. It may sound silly to suggest being brave when it comes to clearing the house, but in a way that’s exactly what we need. Fear will always rear its ugly head when making any changes in one’s life and when de-cluttering it will be there to tell you how much you need those unneeded items.

In the current economic climate it is an ideal environment for hoarding to thrive. We may hold onto possessions because we fear we won’t be able to replace them with something better or of equal value. You can probably look around any room in your house now and count at least 5 items that serve no purpose. Hoarding is born from the fear of lack and in clearing the clutter you are also facing, and in turn clearing, that fear.

To find out whether you really need something in your life simply ask this question: How will this item improve or make my life better? If you can’t come up with an answer (other than it won’t) it’s probably time to ditch or give it to charity.

When your home is full there is no room for anything new to come into your life. In making space, you are sending out a message that you are open to receive (but hopefully not more clutter).

Clearing the clutter doesn’t just have to be of your external environment, you can also have an internal-clutter-clearing session. Disposing of old beliefs, traits or thought patterns is both liberating and rejuvenating. Granted, they’re not as easy to be rid of as belongings, but probably ten times more beneficial.

A trait that will do you the world of good to eliminate is overly judgemental behaviour of self or others.

Being judgemental is so imprisoning and it causes untold harm to the bearer. It doesn’t have to be vindictive in nature to be damaging: it can be as simple as feeling another is more worthy than ourselves, thinking we are not good enough or believing our opinions are better than others.

Being judgemental catches us all unaware, but when we are conscious of it we are one step closer to removing it (for an Empath, if we are being judgemental, or indeed being judged, it can hold a heavy dark and anxious feeling/energy).

If you are in doubt of what you should or shouldn’t keep in your life, see the following questions:

Clutter Clearing Check List for the Internal and External:

  • Does this serve me today?
  • Will this serve me in the foreseeable future?
  • Can this serve anyone else?
  • Why am I holding onto this?
  • Will keeping/holding onto this make me happy?

A word of warning: you can guarantee that within days of having a clear-out your mind will play tricks on you, finding use for anything and everything you threw/gave away (even though you may not have worn/used it for five years, or previously forgotten of its existence). Just know that this is part of the de-cluttering process and it will pass.

Hope this post helps you on your path

Diane

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