The Double Life of An Empath

If you are an Empath there is a good chance you go through life feeling like you lead a double life; or you may  wear a mask when spending time with others.

I recently read that the Japanese believe people have three faces: The face we show the world, the face we show our family and close friends, and the face we show no one. It is our hidden face which is apparently our truest reflection.

As Empaths, we often slip on our ‘muggle face’ when out in public, or even with close friends and family, as a way to better fit in. We rarely get the chance to display our ‘magical Empath face’ for the fact we feel  it won’t be accepted. For some, the only time this face is openly worn is when at home or when alone.

Now we could be accused of being disingenuous or even cowardly for not publicly displaying our Empath face. But there is a very good reason we hide our truths… and it’s not just to protect ourselves. Continue reading

Empaths and Inauthenticity

Have you noticed the World’s untruths, being revealed, have skyrocketed lately?

The strange thing is, instead of questioning them, people are accepting these untruths as if it is the normal thing to do.

But the Empaths are struggling with them. The countless pretences they face in daily life are bringing them down.

Empaths have a strong awareness of integrity. They know they shouldn’t lie for personal gain, or to manipulate others. And although they strive towards living their truth, it becomes increasingly difficult when the world is filled with such dishonesty and corruption.

In a world where silver-tongued fraudsters, who spin twisted webs of deceit, are rewarded for their outspoken dishonesty, and those who speak their truth get attacked, it is easy to understand why people are hesitant to live authentically. Truths are suppressed whilst lies snowball out of control.

Empaths feel the energy of a lie, even if they don’t know what the lie is, and are deeply affected by them. We are in a time where dishonesty is breeding and many are living in a state of cognitive dissonance.

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Whilst the world is awash with hyped propaganda and disinformation, something will always feel off to the Empath. Continuous lies leave  them confused, anxious or drained, and causes conflict and chaos within their psyche. Global deception is a reason many are so out-of-balance.

It’s not just living under a disingenuous, power-corrupt establishment that creates imbalance within the Empath, simply being in the presence of inauthenticity will throw them into disarray.

When an Empath spends time with someone who is not vibrating truthfully it affects them on many levels.

When in the company of those whose words don’t match their vibrational energy, the Empath brain may scramble. So much so, they struggle to form a complete sentence.

This mind-numbing effect is caused by their Empathic antenna sensing all is not what it seems. It is detecting a person not showing the true reflection of who they are.

Empaths themselves often wear a mask of inauthenticity in certain situations, or find themselves unintentionally morphing, but more on that shortly.

In most cases, when someone creates a fake persona it is a way to hide a side they believe will be rejected. Every human wants to feel special and loved. But because they feel unworthy, many create a fictitious side in their bid to be accepted. Inauthenticity breeds and feeds. An initial quest to fit in can escalate over time into a manipulative personality.

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When an Empath encounters inauthentic people they may assume it is their own shortcomings creating the ‘freeze‘. But what is really happening is a brain scramble caused by contradictory energy.

Brain scramble may cause: stumbling over words, memory and thought process being unpleasantly affected, nervousness, anxiety and even illness to occur.

I believe this ‘brain scrambling’ is a form of protection. The brain is alerting us to an inconsistency, or contradiction, with the energy connection. We don’t always know the nature of the contradiction but just that something is off (it is up to us to decipher our reactions).

Anyone who is not emanating truthful vibes will put an Empath on high alert. Even when they are not in imminent danger. Continue reading

Discover Your Purpose & Find Your Empath Wings

The following is an edited extract taken from the book ‘7 Secrets of the Sensitive’. I have lifted paragraphs from chapter 5 so as not to give too much of the book away. Enjoy…

‘One thing I know is the Empaths are here for an important reason. I can feel it. As I’m sure you can too. You may not know what this purpose is yet, but you are certainly on your way to finding out. Continue reading

7 Secrets of the Sensitive

Fabulous news! The print version for 7 Secrets of the Sensitive: Harness the Empath’s Hidden Power is now available to order. You can order it here on Amazon or here for Barnes and Noble. You can also order the eBook (saving $12.01 on print price)

Just in case you don’t know what the book is about, here is a little of what you can expect to discover:

  • Why parts of the Empath brain overreact to emotions and learn how to stop this from happening.
  • Projection and how Empaths send out what they think and feel to others.
  • How the disruption of our chakras affect the body and mind.
  • How and why certain foods destroy the Empath’s emotional wellbeing.
  • The reason why Empaths feel everything so powerfully.
  • What the dominant and sometimes overpowering Empath gut sensations mean.
  • The overwhelming emotional overload Empaths experience and how to instantly overcome it.
  • How Empath fatigue affects life and who or what causes it.
  • Why Empaths attract certain types (including narcissists) and repel others.
  • The reason Empaths form instant dislikes for certain people.
  • Inauthentic behavior and how it weakens an Empath.
  • Trauma triggers and their causes.
  • How to recognize psychic attack and how to protect from it.
  • Thoughtbombing, what it is and how to stop it.
  • How to tell the difference between your own emotions and those which don’t belong to you.

If you want to revolutionize your Empath life this book is for you!

Here is the cover and blurb (click on image to go to bookstore)

7 secrets e-book version

For too long the Empaths have been taken down by an emotionally charged world. Now is the time for that to change!

7 Secrets of the Sensitive reveal the hidden power of an Empath and provide the keys to unlock their true potential.

By the time you have finished reading this book you will gain control of all you feel; you will know how to find happiness, health and emotional stability and you will discover your true life purpose.

Finally you can enjoy the fantastical life you were born to live!

 

For any of you who may have read my blog for a few years, you may have noticed I am writing much more often than I ever have in the past. The reason for this is because my life has seen many incredible changes and  they are changes that have happened by the changes I have made to my life. It’s time now to pass the information on.

Within ‘7 Secrets of the Sensitive – Harness the Empath’s Hidden Power’ I help you understand why you experience what you do. I show what simple steps you can take to revolutionize your life, take back your power and live the life for which you were destined. As an Empath you deserve an incredible happy life!

If you do happen do purchase a copy I would just like to say a huge thank you and I look forward to it helping transform your Empath life!

Now Available: The Empath Awakening

Kindle Version Empath AwakeningDiscovering you are an Empath is a day of great revelation. Finally, you have an answer for all that you feel and experience! This knowing is just the start of an incredible journey…

Understanding the gift, and all it entails, is the first step to unleashing its gentle power and truly defining yourself as an Empath!

For the newly awakened, life can be wrought with challenges and emotional pain; but it doesn’t have to be. The Empath Awakening shows you where your imbalances may hide and how to treat them. It teaches you how to heal and seal a permeable aura and unplug from unnecessary emotions. The book also imparts valuable knowledge essential for a happy, healthy Empath life!

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Empath Power

Empat PowerThere are some major changes happening on the planet affecting Empaths on many levels. These changes bring pain, emotional disruptions, repetitive, negative thought patterns and physical distress.

With any energy shift, Empaths, and anyone of a Sensitive nature, get clobbered from all directions. Not only do they endure the discomfort of a shifting period in their own way, but they also pick up on how the populace are experiencing these ups and downs. If you often feel overwhelmed and overloaded by all you have to process during these turbulent times, Empath Power is for you.

As an Empath you are one of life’s game changers! It is imperative you stay grounded, protected and healthy during these testing periods and this book is your guide to show you how!

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Diane x

Do Empaths Have Mediumistic Abilities?

pschic development imageBecause Empaths are an intuitive bunch it can arouse the question whether they also have psychic and mediumistic abilities.

Being mediumistic is not an attribute that falls under the ‘traits of an Empath’, but that is not to say they cannot have the gift.

Some Empaths have mediumistic abilities and some mediums have Empathic abilities. But whether you were born with mediumistic abilities or not, it is a gift that can be developed.

If it is something you are drawn to, and want to develop, most can work towards becoming gifted mediums. Empaths are highly intuitive and are aligned to most things of a metaphysical nature.

They often experience a strong pull towards mediumship in the ‘early days’ of awakening. However, it is not a subject one should take lightly and finding a good teacher is essential. The teacher has to know and understand all about the traits and sensitivities of an Empath. Continue reading

5 Ways to Make Your Spirit Soar

dove-wallpaper-13After I wrote the post, ‘Surviving Christmas’, I decided I wanted try to put myself in the frame of mind where I could align with the more positive aspect of Christmas, without getting involved in the commercial side, and hopefully make December a much more enjoyable month.

Although I have not been keen on the festive season these past years, I still enjoyed a good Christmas film. I realize that some may see them as being cheesy or fake, but I find there is something magical and uplifting about Christmas films. For some reason, I feel emotionally uplifted and motivated to be a better person after watching one.

It was after watching the film, Scrooged with Bill Murray, earlier in the month that I questioned as to why I like the films, but don’t care much for the season. And then it came to me, Xmas films are never about the stress, the debt or overindulgence that Christmas creates, but about doing good for others, forgiveness, turning one’s life around or finding love. So, with this in mind I had a little think about how I could reclaim my Christmas spirit without following ‘standard protocol’ and this is what I came up with:

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Are You A Multipotentialite Empath?

careerMany people struggle finding their life purpose, especially the Empaths.

Feeling confused as to whether we are walking the ‘right occupational path’ is all too common for the Sensitive. There are many reasons for this, but the way the world makes us ‘feel’ certainly contributes to this confusion.

Because we get exhausted, depressed or overstimulated by spending too much time around others, it leads to feelings of unfulfillment, which we often blame on our chosen profession.

This sense of unfulfillment may push us towards trying many different vocations,  in the hope it will put us on the path to our ‘true’ life-purpose.

Empaths are hardwired into learning, gaining knowledge and wisdom. They have active imaginations and look for ways to fill their creative-mind-space. They may believe they like trying out new jobs because they have yet to find a career that is a fit, but there could also be another reason… You could be a multipotentialite Empath! Continue reading

What is an Empath’s Purpose in Life?

 

One of the most frequently asked questions by those on the path of awakening is: What is my purpose in life?

I know only too well how frustrating it is to have this question burning unanswered within.

For the Empath it is doubly frustrating because they have this incredible gift and most do not know what it is for or what they are supposed to do with it.

I have often been asked questions such as: ‘how can I be of service to others?’ or ‘I want to help others but how should I do it?’ 

It is an inbred trait for Empaths to want to help others, especially if they are suffering. However, many have tried and failed when attempting to help others help themselves. It is incredibly soul-destroying to see another suffering and not be able to help. Continue reading

12 Quick Questions to Discover if You Are an Empath

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If you want to know if you are an Empath these questions will quickly help decide:

1. Do you walk into busy places and find yourself overwhelmed with emotions?

2.  Do some people make you feel inexplicably uncomfortable, finding you stumble over your words or have uneasy sensations in the pit of your stomach when with them?

3. Did you experience any strange phenomena as a child, such as seeing or hearing ghosts, having imaginary friends, seeing energy fields around objects or people, or knowing things you shouldn’t? Continue reading

Dark Thoughts and Moving into a New World

worldHave you found that you seem to be getting triggered in negative ways recently? You’re not alone. You will be especially noticing these triggers if, in the past years, you have significantly raised your vibration and have done lots of work on yourself.

You may find that for the much of the time you feel happy, even blissed out and then you receive a message off someone that automatically puts you into a negative place and changes your thoughts from being happy to angry or low vibrational.

To find yourself thinking negatively is not your fault, humans are hardwired into thinking more negative thoughts than positive, it’s called negativity bias and stems back to our survival instincts from caveman days. We can brood for hours on dark menacing thoughts whilst positive ones can often go unnoticed.

It only takes 17 seconds for a negative thought to take hold, which could then escalate into hours or days of dark thinking, which will affect both our emotions and our physical health.

The question you may ask is why are we getting triggered so much lately? I don’t tend to write about the ‘ Continue reading

Trinity Healing for The Empath

Anyone who has read many of my posts is probably aware that I am very much an advocate of taking responsibility for self-healing.

When it comes to realigning mind, body and spirit, I believe  we are the ones who must do it for ourselves and we should not hand our power over to others (in most cases). It is after all our unique journey. We learn most in life by that which we overcome.

I wasn’t always of this mind. When I was younger, I hoped others would or could do it for me. I thought the best option was the easy option… I learnt the hard way on that one.

It was over 20 years ago when I started looking for answers to mysteries of life. And in that time I have made many discoveries. Especially in regard to Empath life!

It took me a while to see it, but the journey of an Empath, and its many ups and downs, is a brilliant and amazing fast-paced rollercoaster ride and a true blessing. If it were an easy, comfortable trip we would never get to overcome the many obstacles we do. And, in turn, accomplish and learn so much.

We climb mountains, float on clouds and stumble into darkness, sometimes all in one day, and it is these experiences that make the Empath journey so worthwhile.

I have by no means got the answers to life’s mysteries, nor would I yet want to have. We have to leave something to learn on life’s path. However, the most important detail I have realized to date is: we will never find true health, peace or happiness as an Empath until we heal the trinity of mind, body and spirit.

Mind = thoughts, ego and emotions
Body =  physical vessel
Spirit = the energetic body and higher self or soul

We come as a trinity package and when it comes to healing we generally have to work on all three.

The longer body is out of alignment the worst damage it will cause to the Empath trinity.

Some of the worst damage caused to the mind, body and spirit is from the consumption of an unsuitable diet.

It does not matter if your body is toned and athletic or whether you have a regular spiritual or meditative practise. If your diet is unsuitable it not only weakens your body but also causes leaky aura (seriously bad news for the Empath )and has a harmful effect on your mind (also bad news for an Empath).

I had no idea that what we put in our mouths could have such a harmful effect on our all round physical and mental health, as an Empath, until I changed my diet.

My transformation began when I gave up wheat [see post here ]. Once my mind was clear of the drug-like and mind-numbing effects of wheat, tuning into my body’s needs became easier and easier.

After wheat elimination came the removal of refined sugar and again, I could not believe the change. Happiness became a staple.

I now realize that within the medical establishment, holistic and new-age arena, they and we are being misled and misinformed. The cause of most problems in both body and mind is what we feed ourselves. The low-fat, high grain/sugar diet we have been consuming these past thirty years has turned many into sleep walkers. This way of being stops us from reaching any type of enlightened state.

Wheat and refined sugars strip the body of essential nutrients and enzymes. An imbalance of just one nutrient or enzyme, in the body, causes untold misery in the mind. Deficiency is destructive.  I would not have believed this had I not witnessed such a transformation within myself by eliminating the foods that deplete nutrients [see post here on supplements for Empaths].

Without enzymes we would cease to exist. They keep us alive, nourish our bodies and keep our mind healthy. As we age our enzyme production decreases. This, coupled with a bad diet, puts us on a fast-tracked-path to mental and physical illness. This is why it is so important to keep our enzyme consumption high and eliminate foods that strip them.

Giving up much loved foods is not easy, I know, but once out of the system you do not miss them and you will not believe just how amazing you can feel. Your Empath life will turn around!

For those of you who have suffered a lifelong battle with ailments, allergies, fatigue, illness or depression, you will be amazed just how well you can feel. In fact, just by eliminating wheat alone will get a new lease of life.

This may sound like a bold statement but making changes to your diet will help you discover your true self and accomplish your dreams. Click here to learn more.

Modern diets and lifestyles have taken too many Empaths and Sensitives down. Putting them out of action without them realizing their diet is preventing them from becoming who are they are meant to be.

You may already consider yourself to have a ‘healthy diet‘, but if you don’t feel amazing as an Empath, something is off.

If you want to see BIG changes in your life, change your diet!

If you have worked on yourself mentally, spiritually and physically and still suffer bouts of  Empath fatigue, overwhelm, depression or many physical ailments it is time to address what you eat…

The time has come for you to really start living, not just existing, and get doing what you came here to do. There is nothing to lose but everything to gain…

2017 Update: If you are interested in changing your Empath life for the better this book will help you. Or click on the link if you want to check your Empath symptoms.

Hope this helps on your journey!

Until next time,

Diane

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Knowing It’s Time for the Empath to Let Go of Toxic People

To the Empath being in harmony with people in life is essential to their health and wellbeing. Toxic friendships cause untold pain and damage and should be avoided.

If there are people in your life who cause any kind of emotional pain, which lasts long after you’ve left them, it is time to evaluate the relationship and perhaps release them for your life.

Before you can be of service to others you have to find balance within and that means taking care of your physical and mental needs. It also means you should stop exposing yourself to anything which is toxic, in the form of food, substances or people.

Most Empaths have at least one toxic person in their life who cause a wave of intense, negative emotions to rain down on them, just by being in their presence. These people, who may be a friend or family member, seem to spew acid whenever they talk.

Their acidity is felt in any of the main energy centres (chakras), especially on the front torso, in the form of an ache or pain. To some, it feels like hot lava is being poured over the solar plexus area (seat of emotions). Others may experience aches or stabbing pulsations around their chakras.

It is normal for toxic people to talk negatively of everyone and everything. They can drain your life force within a matter of minutes. Even after trying every trick in the book for self-protection, nothing seems to stop their venom seeping into the Empath’s physical and energetic body.

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 Typical sensations which can be felt by being with toxic people

  • Anger or feelings of bitterness embodying you: This can last for the duration of being in their presence and up to 10 days after. Depending on the negative traits they carry will depend on what you feel.
  • Fatigue: Struggling to keep your eyes open, especially if they are venting.
  • Being out of sorts: A range of strange feelings wash over you, from being spaced out, to nausea.
  • Negative talk: Finding yourself talking negatively of others, even though it is not a typical trait of yours. Overly toxic people can easily lure the unvigilant Empath into their judgemental behaviour.
  • Apathy: Losing all previous zest and optimism.

If you have a toxic person in your life you  may have already tried helping them by sharing what has helped you, in dealing with the rigours of life. Sadly, they did not want to listen to what you have to say about any kind of self-help, preferring to offload their negative rants on you.

You may have also tried getting them to see situations from different perspectives, hoping they may recognise that by changing their attitude it would change their whole life…to no avail.

The Empath would never want to hurt or cause unnecessary pain to others, and it is for this reason many keep in their lives those who cause much emotional pain. Yet, one must always put the emotional health of self first. If you know a food or substance made you violently ill or caused you to feel depressed, you would avoid it; the same should be applied to those who cause emotional turmoil.

We have a responsibility to keep our bodies and mental wellbeing strong and healthy, and if another is causing us damage (all stress will eventually lead to illness), it is our duty to either confront the said person or remove them from our life.

I am not talking about having the ego dented by another’s random disrespect. Everyone has people who offend, hurt or make them angry, by their lack of understanding. And they in turn will no doubt do the same to others. This issue is about those toxic friends, or family members, who repetitively bring you down and do immense energetic damage.

For the Empath, navigating friendships can be a grey area. Most people can invoke an emotional response and it is often the kindest of people who carry the most pain. Yet feeling another’s pain is nothing compared to what a toxic person makes you endure.

The point comes in all toxic friendships when you have to decide if it is causing more harm than good. Here are some questions to ask that may help you evaluate your friend/relationship and hopefully help you see if it is a healthy one:

  •  Am I taking anything from this friend/relationship?
  • Does spending time with him/her make me happy?
  • Do I dread being in his/her presence?
  • When was the last time I enjoyed being in his/her company?
  • Do we have any of the same interests?
  • Is it a one-sided friendship with me fitting in with his/her needs?
  • Does this relationship affect my emotional health?
  • Do I feel ill, emotionally drained or intense negative emotions after being with him/her?
  • Am I being used as an emotional dumping ground?
  • Does he/she have a lot of negative thoughts or anger towards me?
  • Am I learning anything from spending time with him/her?
  • Is being in this relationship making me grow spiritually, emotionally or other?
  • Is this relationship beneficial to either of us?
  • Has he/she become dependent upon me?
  • What are my real reasons for staying in this relationship?

I must point out that not all toxic relationships are destructive. There are many reasons we encounter toxic people. A common reason being the mirror effect. Certain encounters act as a mirror and show us weaknesses or issues we need to resolve within ourselves.

You may have seen a pattern of behaviour in the way family and friends behave towards you. For example: friends may act overly needy towards you or they may not be there for you when you need them. If you notice any behaviour, in others, being a trend, it is most definitely not happening by chance. Any undesirable behaviour that repeats, in any type of relationship, is something that needs to be investigated. Repetition highlights flaws or issues that they need to worked on and learnt from.

We all learn from the bad situations presented in life. Yet if the same emotional scenarios keep playing out no one is gaining, learning or growing from the situation and it is time to cut the chord.

Empaths take on and feel others emotions and energetic attributes, and it does them no good to keep in their life those who carry toxic energy. Once you have learned from an experience you don’t need to re-learn it over and over. You may learn a lot from bad people and bad experiences, but you don’t need to keep experiencing other people’s negativity to grow.

Repetitive painful emotions turn into illness.  If another repeatedly  leaves a dark imprint on you, simply by being in their presence, it is time to let them go. This is not about being hateful. You can be grateful to a toxic person for all they have shown you in life and send them love. But when it feels time to let them go then it is. If it makes you feel better about the situation tell yourself it doesn’t have to be forever.

If you want to learn more about restructuring your life as an Empath, and harnessing your hidden power, you may want to read this.

I have attached a link to an article I came across quite randomly whilst writing this post and offers another writer’s perspective on ways to deal with toxic people, and although it is not written with the Empath in mind, it is worth a read.

Hope this helps on your Empath Journey.

Until next time…

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Simple Steps for a Blissful Empath Life!

We attract into our life who and what we are. To draw more magnificence to your Empath life you need to develop a magnificent outlook on life.

The following are 50 ways of being which will see many incredible positive changes happen to your life!

1. Let Go of Expectations of Others

Expectations can cause untold pain and frustration. Let them go and it will free you from disappointment.

2. Learn to Accept

You cannot and should not control everything in life. Acceptance is essential if you want to live a happy, healthy life.

3. Release Dependency on Others

When you depend on another to make you happy, or to give your life meaning, you miss out on discovering how incredible you are.

4. Control your Thoughts

Stress and unhappiness are born from chaotic Empath musings. Quieten your mind and calm your thoughts.

5. Judge Not

Judging makes you fearful of judgements. Choose not to judge, yourself or others, and you will find emotional freedom.

6. Stop Procrastinating

Don’t put off today what you can do tomorrow. Why waste life thinking about what you could be doing?Just do it!

7. Be at Peace with Criticism

Trying to avoid criticism prevents you from doing what you are meant to do and becoming who you are meant to be as an Empath.

8. Change not Another nor let Another Change You

Don’t mould others into the people you want them to be and don’t change yourself to please another. Just be! Allow your Empath self to be true.

9. Don’t Take it Personally

If another treats you badly, it is a reflection on them. Not you!

10. Get Out in Nature

Spending time in nature is grounding and uplifting and will soothe your Empath soul.

11. Never Give Up

Good things don’t arrive overnight. People have little appreciation of that which comes easy. No matter what your age: Believe in yourself and don’t stop striving towards your goals.

12. Leave the Crowd Behind

You are here to enjoy your exclusive life experience. Follow your calling not the crowd’s.

13. Collect Experiences not Treasures

When you leave your body you only take your knowledge and experiences. Make as many as you can.

14. Abandon the Fear of Failure

A failure is an experience that simply teaches you how not to do something. Whatever you choose to do as an Empath you will learn. Don’t let fear hold you back from trying.

15. Stay Protected

Keeping away from negative, draining energy will keep you empowered as an Empath.

16. Embrace Success

Expect success as an Empath and you will always have it!

17. Love What You Do and Do What You love

Follow your passions. When happy in your work success will follow.

18. Don’t Place Your Worth on Your Appearance

Youthful beauty fades but inner-beauty continues to grow. Let your inner-Empath-beauty shine!

19. Take Responsibility For Your Energy

You receive back what you give out. Project powerful, uplifting vibrations into the world and collect the rewards.

20. Create The Change You Want To See

Don’t wait. Create your Empath dream life. Be the change see the change.

21. Know You are Worthy

No man is better than himself. Putting another on a pedestal instils the idea of unworthiness. Believe in your brilliant Empath-self!

22. Listen to Others

Listening generously, to those who truly need to be heard, is healing. Heal others heal yourself.

23. Think Not of Revenge

You don’t need to ‘show another’. Believe in karma. What goes around does indeed come around.

24. Remember You Have Freewill

It is your journey! Choose the Empath life you want to live.

25. Send Love into the World

Opening your heart to others is a show of strength. Love is empowering. Love will heal you and the world!

26. Let Go of Pain

You wouldn’t hold a fiery ember, so why allow painful emotions to burn within?

27. Don’t Allow Rules to Stifle Creativity

Creativity allows the Empath spirit to soar. If a rule no longer works make a new one.

28. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Daily

If you want to evolve as an Empath, do something each day that makes you uncomfortable.

29. Stop Waiting for Another to Complete You

The only person who can make you whole is you.

30. Learn to Be on Your Own

Spending time alone turns the Empath’s journey into an extraordinary expedition.

31. Express Gratitude

Being grateful sends a powerful message to the universe that you are open to more reasons to be grateful.

32. Keep Your Self-Talk Positive

It is the key to a happy, productive Empath life.

33. Eat What Nature Intended

For lasting health and happiness keep your diet clean. Listen to your intuitive dietary promptings and feed yourself nourishing food.

34. Nurture Body Mind and Spirit

They are connected. Only when all three are balanced will you find harmony as an Empath.

35. Free Your Voice and Learn to Say No

Only do it because you want to do it. You will never please others by constantly giving into their expectations. They just expect more.

36. Remember Your Friends

One of the biggest regrets of those on their deathbed is losing touch with old friends. You cannot make new ‘old friends’. You rarely make friends like the ones who have been in your life for the long hall, don’t forget them.

37. Free Yourself from Childhood Issues

The child in you lived and got through those difficult times; don’t let the adult be punished by them.

38. Let Go of Resentment

Why let another’s actions blight your life? Resentment makes you bitter. Let it go.

39. Control Anger

Breathe though and release it. Anger only punishes the bearer.

40. Help Others to Help Themselves

Instead of doing it for them, show them how to do it.

41. Lose The Need to be Right

Wanting to be right just makes others wrong. Value others’ opinions.

42. Question Everything

Don’t believe everything you read, hear or see. Trust your Empath gut. If it doesn’t feel right chances are it won’t be.

43. Give Without Expect of Return

Doing nice things for others, without expecting anything back, is nourishment for the soul.

44. Stop Throwing Pity Parties

Like attracts like. Talking like a victim keeps you stuck in that mind-set.

45. Strive for Many Life Experiences

Keep your Empath life energised with new experiences every day.

46. Chase Your Dreams

Don’t die with your dreams unrealized. Step out there and create them.

47. Trust Your Intuition

Your Empath Knowing has more power than you may know. Let it guide you.

48. Find Your Passions

How will you know what they are if you don’t seek them out?

49. Select Acquaintances With Prudence

As an Empath, you become who you spend most time with. Choose wisely.

50. Choose Happiness

For a joyful  life make the decision to feel happy each and everyday. And stay away from anything that hinders your joy!

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time,

Diane

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AN EMPATH’S GUIDE TO LIVING IN THE WORLD

Living in this heavily populated world Empaths face many energetic challenges. If it is not having others dump their negative energies on them, they are drained of their vital energy just by spending too much time in public.

Learning to set energetic boundaries is, of course, a given for those of a Sensitive nature and many Empaths are hardwired into automatically doing this. However, sometimes life just gets in the way.

We all need gentle reminders, from time to time, about what we could be doing to protect ourselves and thus make life more enjoyable. And this is what I hope to present in this guide for the Empath.

For Empaths, wanting to block out all external emotions and energies would, no doubt, be a priority. But it is not always that cut and dry. For one thing, she might have already tried every energy-blocking technique known to man, without any success.

And then there are the questions: why is it Empaths feel and take on what they do, emotionally, is it not for a purpose? In taking on these negative energies are they not helping rid the world of them?

The answer to those question are debatable. But the fact is all Empaths need to learn to protect themselves from wayward energies, and know how to stay grounded, so they can continue to function in everyday life.

Out and About

When an Empath is alone in people-congested places, they may soak up the highly charged energies no sooner than having stepped over the building’s threshold.

If you are one who finds being in public areas, such as shopping malls and cinemas, unbearable, to the point of avoiding them at all costs, there are some techniques you could try that may help:

Take a Friend: Being with another person acts as a buffer and helps diffuse external energies. This lessens the impact, when spending time in public places. It also serves as a pleasant distraction and takes your mind off what you are feeling.

Chances are, after the shopping trip or outing, you may still feel drained but your experience will have been a much more pleasant one.

If taking a friend, or family member, is not possible find a grounding technique, that works for you, and use it before going out. Below are some you could try:

Power Poses: A power pose is generally anything that opens up the body. They can be as simple as opening up one’s arms wide (so your body is in the shape of a cross) and taking long, slow breaths through the nose. Holding a gentle smile is further empowering.

If you are familiar with yoga, a Starfish pose (standing with wide legs and arms) is ideal, as is a Warrior pose with open arms.

Holding the power pose for a couple of minutes before leaving home, or entering an energy-hostile environment, serves in uplifting and expanding one’s energy field. This is opposed to how an Empath often goes out into the world, wanting to feel small and invisible.

Grounding visualizations: These could be anything from visualising roots coming from your feet, grounding you to the earth, to mentally building a halo of white light around your body and expanding it with your breath.

Take a couple of minutes to quieten the mind before attempting.

Affirmations: Positive mini-declarations repeated in the mind can serve in being uplifting, empowering and protective. Statements such as: ‘I am empowered ‘or ‘I am in control’, instantly, and positively, change your mind-set, and your vibration, and thus make you better equipped to handle excessive energies.

Find one that works for you, suitable for the time and place.

Music therapy: Taking your music and earphones is a huge help when out and about. Listening to music you love creates an inner-expansion. It uplifts your energy and creates a protective ‘bliss bubble’ around you. This energy expansion enables you to glide through public-places seemingly unaffected.

It is best to get into the ‘music zone’ before entering a peopled place.

Breath-work: There are many grounding and mind quietening methods available, such as meditation, that require a committed, daily practise to reap the full benefits.  However, the breathing methods, included in the post below are  meditative techniques and can be done in a hurry or when one is feeling out of sorts.

You may need to play around with different breathing techniques to find one which works for you. They can be used before entering or whilst in a busy place. 

Please see this post for  various breathing techniques.

Bedtime

If you are one who doesn’t like sleep-snuggling, or having to sleep close to your partner in bed, no matter how much you love them, you are not alone.

Having sleeping-space is essential for the Empath. 

Most Empaths loathe having anyone get in their ‘energy-space’, day or night, but as sleep-time is crucial for recharging, it is even more important they are allowed it.

If you share a bed, and it is not possible for you to have your own bedroom, opt for the largest size bed available, if space permits.

If you still struggle sleeping near your partner or wake-up feeling drained, use one of the above grounding techniques and adapt them to bedtime mode.

Eating

Know your food and how it affects you. Listen to what your body is telling you about what is and isn’t right for you. If, for example, you have a nagging feeling that dairy is causing you to have an allergic reaction, you could try the 30 day exclusion challenge, to see if it is.

This involves abstaining from all dairy (or whatever you suspect does not agree with you, be it chocolate, tomatoes, alcohol or GMOs) for 30 days. After that time, gradually introduce it back into your diet. If you have a big reaction to it, you know you are intolerant, allergic or energetically incompatible and  are best removing it from your diet.

Over a period of about 15 years, I’ve tried many eating and exercise plans. I have tried and trained in many holistic therapies and healing, and researched the benefits of nutrients. I always believed that the answers to my healing lay in the metaphysical, and if I made myself more ‘spiritual’ I would find life easier… I hadn’t taken into consideration that it didn’t matter how many hours I sat in meditation or doing yoga, or how many spiritual texts I read, if I was putting poison into my physical body, no amount of meditation or spiritual awareness was going to balance me.

Of everything I have tried over the years, holistically, spiritually and energetically, the most profound changes happened to me when I changed my diet!

I have written about benefits of changing the diet before (and will do again, and again), but as I consider it to be one of the best things you can do to aid physical healing and spiritual growth, especially for Sensitives, I will keep spreading the word.

We may all be very different, with different spiritual, nutritional and physical requirements, but none of us will benefit from taking drugs or eating drug-like food…

Because they tend to be highly reactive, Empaths react more to drug-like foods than those not of a Sensitive nature. High reactive people taste the bitterness in lemons more than others, feel emotional and physical pain more, go red in the face easier and are affected by certain foods, drugs and alcohol worse than those who are not highly reactive.

High reactives are responsive to different vibrations of energy. Everything is energy vibrating at different frequencies and that includes what we eat and drink: the faster the vibration, the higher the frequency. Empaths are negatively affected by anything of a low vibration. Certain foods, drugs and alcohol all have a low vibrational energy and bring the Empath down fast.

If you suspect your diet is impacting your health, and Empath ways, and are keen to learn of all the negative ways your diet can impact Empath life click here. 

It is also wise to take note how your food is prepared. Food made in an angry or unhappy environment will carry that energy and thus show up within you.

Most Empaths benefit from having mainly homemade food, so they know exactly what energy goes into their meals.

Socializing and Stimulants

Unfortunately, any kind of stimulant (alcohol, drugs, etc.) only serve in weakening the Empath (as they do any other human). Under the influence, it may feel like external energies are blocked but unfortunately this is not the case. They still seep in and still need to be dealt with.

When in company, other people’s emotions may show up in the Empath as aggression or an overly dominant ego on the evening of consumption or as a physical and emotional hangover from hell the day after.

If you don’t like the idea of giving up your favourite tipple, or social life, try using grounding techniques before an evening out and drink lots of water throughout the evening. Water has both a cleansing and grounding effect. Also include lots of alkalizing foods in your diet. By keeping your body in a more alkaline state it helps keep Empath balance and prevents alcohol doing as much damage.

Friends 

The longer the Empath has known a friend, the more impact the friend can have on their energy. As you would imagine this could be a good or bad thing, depending on the relationship.

Knowing how to navigate your friendships serves in offering healthier and happier relationships.

Friends’ energy and how it affects those of a Sensitive nature will change along with their age and life circumstances. If down or depressed, a friend can unintentionally take the Empath down with them.

In theses cases one has to learn to emotionally unplug. One can still listen and be there, but in a detached way.

Also, be very wary of an unwanted energy drain.

We all know people who drain energy, otherwise known as the ‘Energy Vampires’, but when a friend, who isn’t normally a drainer, is experiencing a tough time their energy-sucking tentacles may seek out an instant uplift from anywhere they can get it.

To avoid being a friend’s ‘energy-replacement-meal’, watch for any drain and where it is coming from. It is normally be from one of four of the main energy centres (chakras): sacral (below belly), solar plexus (mid belly), heart (heart area) or throat (front of throat) and it may be felt by a pull or ache in that area.

Wherever you feel the drain, cover that area immediately with your hands or arms. It is not by chance that we cross our arms over our stomach or chest in social situations; we are subconsciously stopping an energy-drain.

Empaths tend to be very faithful to their friends and keep them in their life for the long-haul. For this reason, it is a good idea to choose friends wisely.

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Work 

For the Empath finding their calling or vocation can be a challenge of epic proportions.

Living a lie, through having to pretend they like doing a job which they don’t, or sell a product they do not believe in, is nothing short of torture for the Empath.

As eighty percent of the workforce do not enjoy their job, this does not make for an energy-efficient or happy working environment (another obstacle for the Empath).

If you listen, your Internal Guidance System will continuously present you with vocational options, perhaps as interests or passions.

If searching for your dream job, or just a new direction in life, here are some questions that may ignite the answer:

  • What are your passions?
  • What do you love to do?
  • What do you believe in?
  • What would you wake up excited to do each day?
  • What can you not live without doing?
  • What engages you?
  • What interest keeps coming back to you?
  • If you could change the world for the better, how would you do it?

Roadblocks

Roadblocks are what stop you going down your desired or chosen route in life. They can be seen through sickness, redundancy, depression, loss of money and social status or non-starting projects. They can unexpectedly pop up out of nowhere, take you off your current journey and bring your life to a standstill or send you off in a new direction.

When encountering roadblocks it may seem like they are purely an unfair punishment, but this comes down to your perspective. They are normally presented as a detour and a way to make changes to your life’s journey when refusing to listen to your IGS.

This detour may involve a long and winding scenic-route, which also happens to be an uncomfortable, seemingly never-ending, bumpy road. But again, this is down to your perspective. 

You have a choice: you can get wrapped up in the inconvenience and discomfort of the long ‘scenic-route’, focusing only on that, or you can concentrate on the ever-changing landscape as it passes and be grateful for being given a chance to change.

Everything presented to us in life is a gift, even roadblocks, and are something to learn and grow from… if only you allow yourselves to see it.

Exercise

Exercise is essential to an Empath’s wellbeing. It works both the physical and energetic bodies, and helps clear stagnant or negative energy.

Sadly, we live in a society that promotes a ‘no-pain-no-gain’ philosophy towards exercise and a focus on sculpting the muscles instead of healing the body and mind. Exercise should be fun and liberating, not torturous or painful (unless you enjoy that ).

There are many ways to exercise and it doesn’t have to be costly or complicated. It can be as simple as turning on some funky music and shaking your hips around the kitchen. Dancing when no one is watching is unbelievably uplifting and you get to make your own moves with the beat of the music.

Running or walking in nature, freestyle dance, where there are no rules, or one of the many forms of yoga, are some of the best forms of exercise for the Empath. These could be done alone at home, and there is no need for a gym membership.

Swimming in the sea, or a lake, would also be great, if you’re fortunate enough to have one nearby.

A gym-class is not always the best environment for the Empath, especially if it has a very ego-driven or body-conscious atmosphere and adorned by lots of mirrors.

Some Empaths pick up negative residual energy left on mirrors. If there have been many insecure, or body conscious, people gazing into gym-mirrors (or mirrors in clothes shops, etc.) an Empath may feel the lingering energy of these insecurities and take them on as their own.

Relationships 

For the Empath, relationships often prove to be a complicated area of life. But also very rewarding when they find a compatible mate (who very likely won’t be an Empath but may still be sensitive).

Empaths are a greatly misunderstood bunch. If they seem aloof or disconnected (after suffering Empath overwhelm) it may take a while for their detachment, and need for time alone, not to be taken personally by a prospective partner.

When one is romantically connected to another, it can make the energetic connection complicated.

Reading someone, who holds no emotional ties, comes quite easily for the Empath. However, when there is a strong emotional bind it can distort one’s ability to read energies clearly. This can lead to confusion and frustration, especially in the early building, days of a relationship and even further down the road.

Not everyone is as inclined to be as honest as an Empath; especially if they have grown-up or worked in an environment where lying is ‘quietly’ seen as acceptable (it is surprising how often this is the case). This is a huge bugbear for the Empath because they feel the energy of a lie, but not always what the lie is. In some cases, this leads to paranoia which in turn leads to ungrounded accusations and arguments.

A whole book  could be dedicated to the relationship highs and lows of an Empath and how to handle every situation (see The Empath Awakening for more on Empath relationships). But in brief, it’s safe to say that the best way to be in any relationship is honest (unless the truth will cause unnecessary pain) and never be afraid to show your True-Self.

It’s always good to remember that every relationship, no matter how brief, offers valuable lessons. Even toxic relationships, filled with strife and arguments, can show areas of  life that need to be worked on or improved.

Comfort Zone 

Allowing yourself to step from your comfort zone, on a daily basis, allows for growth in all areas of your life.  It enables you to face your fears and, in facing them, it gives you a greater capacity to deal with any negative emotions you meet.

When we stay comfortable, we stay small and don’t expand. As the saying goes: 

‘If it doesn’t challenge you it doesn’t change you!’  

                                                                          – Fred Devito

Stepping from the comfort zone can be done by going further than you would like during exercise, by making a phone-call you’ve been putting off for months, by telling someone you love them, or anything that makes you squirm but which you know you should do. 

Getting Out of Your Head

Thoughts can be destructive to your health and wellbeing, especially when they are negative and repetitive. Empaths tend to spend a lot of time in their heads, which is great when thoughts are creative, happy or enlightening. But spend too much time around certain people, or places, and those happy thoughts can quickly turn into painful memories, anger or notions of being wronged or unfairly treated by another.

You may not realise those irrational thoughts, that are on a perpetual time-loop, were ignited by being around certain others, as they don’t always kick in till a day or two after exposure.

So, how do you stop them? It’s not easy but it can be done. The best techniques involves externalising your awareness or by distracting the mind.

Externalising Awareness: One of the best ways to get out of the head is to focus your awareness outside of yourself, using a meditative technique called mindfulness.

This can be done almost anywhere and involves focusing on something outside of your mind. You could gaze at a flickering candle or pay close attention to your scenery as you pass it by (obviously not to be done whilst driving).

If you like walking in nature look up at the trees and notice all you can about the bark, branches and leaves, see the different cloud formations in the sky or inspect the wild flowers growing within the foliage.

Thought Distraction: When your thoughts are on negative-overdrive, doing activities which allow you to indulge them is not advisable. You need to distract yourself. One of the quickest ways to do this is by stepping out of your comfort zone. 

When your mind becomes preoccupied by anything which causes discomfort it stops engaging dark or repetitive thoughts. A few minutes exercising usually does the trick:

If you practise yoga do a pose you find challenging or which requires stamina or concentration, such as the Plank, Warrior, Tree or Crow.  

Do some on the spot exercise: march, jog, star jumps, twist jumps, etc.

Just be wary of injury before doing any on the spot exercise. When your muscles, or joints, are cold they are not as pliable and are more prone to injury. Start slowly and build up the intensity.

 Conclusion 

As we are all here on our own journey with learning experiences unique to us, not all the tips and advice offered here will be helpful to everyone. But until you try them for yourself you will not know what works or what doesn’t. 

As an Empath, you may have come into life purely to gain experience of feeling others’ emotions. And because of this, it is important to remember that just because one Sensitive has learnt how to deal with external energies and you haven’t, even after trying every technique in the book, doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong or being punished. It may simply mean you have not yet achieved a certain lesson from a certain experience.

It could also be that you are capable of enduring more hardships in life and your mountains are higher and harder to climb than most and in turn you will be learning more.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time…


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 If you regularly suffer with emotional overwhelm see this post: 5 Ways to Stop Empath Overwhelm

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It’s True! The Truth will Set you Free as an Empath!

Finding the truth of who you really are as an Empath is one of the hardest things you will face whilst on this path of awakening.

If you are struggling with the current shift happening in the world, or with being an Empath, I guarantee, one of the reasons is you are not facing your personal truth.

The person you see in the mirror is an accumulation of many fear-based emotions, untruths, rejections and painful events, built up from your personal history.

Ever heard the saying, ‘We’re not really upset about what we think we’re upset about?’ It means we’re not facing the true cause of our pain.

Finding your truth is not an overnight process. It can take years. At least it took me years and I’m still uncovering new stuff all the time.

It was part of my journey to go the long way round, perhaps, so I could share the information here.

So how did I make the discovery? That the truth really will set you free…? Through journaling.

When I was at my lowest ebb (part of my resistance to the a changing world and my Empath ways) I did not want to talk to anyone about what I was feeling inside. I believed it would make me appear weak and vulnerable. I felt frustrated that I was not in control of my emotions (When I discovered I was an Empath they made more sense) and, as I was not prepared to talk to anyone about it, I had to find a way to offload. I did this by journaling.

I came across journaling, quite by chance during a quest to improve my writing skills. In her book, Writing down the Bones, Natalie Goldberg explained: to hone one’s writing ability one should write every day. The idea was just to put pen to paper and see what came out. This is exactly what I did… Continue reading