Finding Purpose as an Empath and Being in Control

Last month, I happened across a great piece in The Guardian about depression and mental health, that really struck a chord with me.

Basically, the article said that depression is not about chemical imbalances—as it has been touted by the scientific and medical communities for many years—but more about power imbalances and a lack of control. (Even though it was not written with the Empath in mind, I recommend that you read it. It’s quite enlightening.) Here is a link to the article:

Most Empaths and Sensitives are prone to having bouts of depression and or depressive moods. Although we can often link these gloomy periods to spending time with overly negative people, being around those who act as trauma triggers, or eating unsuitable foods, etc. but power imbalances, and a lack of life-control is something we should also consider.

A lack of control being linked to depression makes total sense. Not having power in one’s life also equates to feelings of helplessness and the sense of walking aimlessly. When we feel we are not in control of our life, and have no direction it might also be said that we have no purpose.

Everyone needs purpose. To have a reason to get up in the morning to do something not only that we enjoy but that we know we are good at. But how many people can make that claim? Not many. Most are stuck in jobs not for the joy or purpose it gives them, but for the pay-check.

Anyone who is creative and/or intelligent (and I don’t just mean educated) are naturally inclined to want to be in control of their destiny and have a reason for being. Granted, some think they would prefer others to make their decisions for them—often born from having a fear of making the wrong decision or a lack of belief in self—but someone else controlling our life or purpose will never bring happiness.

Over 80% of the workforce are unfulfilled and unhappy in their work. That’s a lot of people.

If we consider a lot of people went into professions chosen by their parents, or they chose their careers before they got to know who they were, it makes total sense. After all, who knows at sixteen what they will want to do for the rest of their lives. Not many people. We change so much from when in our teenage years to when we are in our thirties. This, I believe, is a reason that so many people find themselves unhappy in their work in later life. They didn’t choose their vocation or they chose too young.

The lack of life-control in society means we end up living in conflict. Inside, we want to do something that feels meaningful and gives us purpose. In reality, many are stuck working to pay for mortgages, bills and children, and to fund a lifestyle.

What we are told will make us happy rarely does because one size does not fit all. People feel like they are not in control.

I often refer to myself as being a ‘quiet control freak’. And that is not because I secretly want to rule others or be on some kind of ‘power trip’ with them. It’s because I want to be in control of my life… at least as much as I can. I realise we can’t control everything. But I do want to control what I do, where I go and how my time is used, I also want to be in control of whose energy I’m in. So, I tend to have a problem if others try to control me or if their energy is overbearing. The ‘quiet’ comes in because instead of being argumentative or objectionable, with those who force control, I quietly back away.

Having a desire to control one’s own life is not a bad thing. We are at the helm of our own ships and it is up to us to set our own course and destination. We should be able to do this when we are ready to do so (which is rarely at the age we are expected).

Not being in control can seem like a form of imprisonment, as can feeling forced to do work we have no passion for or interest in. That is not freedom. Humans are supposed to have freewill. We also need to know we have choices, even if we don’t choose to use them.

Too often Sensitive people are made to feel small and insignificant by those who enjoy undermining others. In our bid to overcome this we may search for positions of power or wealth in the belief they will make us whole or worthy. Alas, this is often not the case. Even if we achieve great status, power and vast material wealth, if we do not feel in control or if we are not following our true calling a void remains inside.

The article I linked to above, an extract from Johann Hari’s book: ‘Lost Connections’, suggests that the depression most experience is caused by our inner-self trying to raise our awareness that we are off-course. ‘It’s telling us that our natural psychological needs are not being met and it is a form of grief.’ Which I totally agree with.

We need to listen to our emotional signals and this is something I write a lot about:

By listening to our gut’s promptings and intuition it can save us unnecessary heartache. As an Empath, however, defining these signals is a challenge. Because we feel everything so powerfully, it is difficult to discern the trigger of our own emotions, and those that belong to others.  But, speaking from experience, this is something we can all learn to overcome.

In the past, I have had times when I suffered with mild depression or experienced low moods, both of which pushed me to find the cause and make necessary changes to my life. Nowadays, if I experience a gloomy mood, I can link it back to either eating a food I shouldn’t (normally containing high levels of lectins), having spent too much time in peopled places or around excess negativity (or there’s been intense shifts in energy). Because I have learnt to interpret my own signals and triggers, I try to follow what is right for me. There is nothing worse than experiencing low moods unnecessarily.

If we are constantly down or depressed, these are our inner-messages telling us something is not right either with the path we are walking or the way we are living our lives.

If you regularly read my posts, you may already know I am a great believer that bad things happen for good reasons. We just don’t see it at the time. Depression can be a call for change, our change. But we have to question the feelings we experience and find the root cause. Which will be different for everyone.

We need to focus on taking back our power and that starts with getting in control of what we can.

To live happily as Empaths, staying in control is something we must work on daily, otherwise the world, and the way it makes us feel, will swallow us up.

Because this is a vast subject and an area many Empaths struggle with, I will continue the theme in my next post. But if you want to look at ways to take back control here are some posts that may help you on your way.

Are You Leaking Energy?

What is an Empath’s Purpose?

Transform Your Empath Life with This One Thing

An Empath’s Guide

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

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A Guide to Surviving Christmas for the Empath

As I was nosing through some of my old posts, I came across one I posted two Christmases ago (read it here). It made me smile because I remembered how much I disliked the month of December and how bad I always felt when it came to the ‘Silly Season’.

But this year, I have loved every minute of the month. I have loved the cold, damp darkness and wrapping up in warm winter woollies. I have admired the twinkling lights dangling from the trees and houses in the neighbourhood and I have loved socializing and getting together with friends.

Although I still choose not to participate in the ‘material side’ of Christmas, I am now able to enjoy the month without being taken down by the ‘crazy energy’ it produces. And I know this change is due to the fact I continue to work on myself, as an Empath, and I am always finding new ways to overcome the many obstacles life throws us.

However, I know how challenging life can be for the Empath at Christmas. It can be overwhelming, draining and difficult. And, for that reason, I am sharing extracts from the ‘Surviving Christmas‘ post because the techniques still remain beneficial and are good to help one find balance.

Surviving Christmas

Daily Grounding

Most Empaths have a daily grounding ritual, but to stay out of the ‘Christmas stress’ we need to add something extra to it… childlike positivity.

Adopting childlike excitement into your energy can help protect you from the stress energy of others.

We have a choice where our energy and focus goes. Consciously choosing the right focal point is essential to keeping our energy in the right place.

You only have to cast your mind back to childhood to remember how explosively exciting Christmas was. So, instead of tuning into people’s stress energy, focus your awareness on a child’s exhilaration and it will help keep you uplifted and energised.

Carry Haematite or Other Protective Stones

Haematite is both grounding and mirroring, and it will help protect you when in busy, stressed places (basically everywhere over the festive period).

Keeping a piece with you at all times is a good way to shield yourself from unwanted energy. If you want to learn more about the benefits of Haematite for the Empath see this post.

Eat Lots of Bright Coloured Food

Oranges, lemons and limes, red apples, blueberries and bananas, for example, will help keep you protected and healthy over the silly season.

Christmas contributes to bad eating. Party food and alcohol carry little in the way of nutrients, and if we pick up lots of stress energy the immune system will be compromised.

By eating lots of lovely bright coloured foods it ensures you get lots of vitamins and enzymes which wards off colds and builds your resilience towards stress-related illness.

When we eat brightly coloured food, in the form of delicious fruit and veg, we reap many benefits.

Also whether we gaze upon it of consume it, colour raises one’s mood and vibration and that is always going to be super beneficial at this time of year.

Shake it Off

If you get overwhelmed by too much stress energy a brilliant way to get rid of it is by shaking it off.

Start by giving each leg a good shake, shake your bum and your torso, shake your arms and hands, blubber through your lips and wobble your cheeks, run your hands through your hair and give the scalp a good shake (I do not recommend shaking the head as tension is often held in the neck).

Shaking works even better if you can do it in water and/or with some uplifting funky music.

The shaking method also works great if you pick up on any anger energy.

Eat Chocolate

Eating moderate amounts of chocolate is a perfect, and delicious, way for an Empath to ground and recharge.

Many Empaths are naturally drawn to chocolate, their inner-knowing already knows of its benefits. However, not all chocolate is created equal, the darker the chocolate the better and if it is organic, perfect!

Opt for minimum 70% cocoa when choosing your chocolate fix.

Dark chocolate is super healthy as long as it in not loaded with unrefined sugar.

White refined sugar is inflammatory. It causes excess cortisol to be released into the body which then heightens uncomfortable emotions and stress for the Empath (click here to learn more). So try to avoid it.

Practice Gratitude

Christmas can cause overwhelm for an Empath and put them in a negative mindset, but by practising gratitude it can raise the spirits like nothing else.

Being grateful for what you already have in your life will bring in more things to be thankful for. Or, if you don’t feel like you have much to be grateful for, be grateful for the amazing things that are coming your way.

You will be amazed at just how uplifting this is. It also works like chocolate and floods your system with feel good hormones.

Here are some more posts that will help the Empath with Xmas stress

If you need to relax this post will help:  Incredible Relaxation Technique for the Empath

If you pick up on other people’s stress energy and emotions cast your eyes over this: Protection for the Empath

And if you spend time around overly negative people you need to read this: Reasons to Avoid Negative People

I would also like to take this opportunity to wish you all the very best this festive season and I hope and wish you all the most amazing 2018.

Wishing you all much love, happiness and festive fun.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine.

 

Why Do So Many Empaths Feel Disconnected?


If you are one of the many Empaths who feel unable to make real connections with people, or with life itself, know that you are not alone and that there is a reason for it.

We don’t always realize, but life is a series of linked events; each one leading to the next, like the spots on a dot-to-dot puzzle. Yet, most are unaware that the seemingly random occurrences of life and a feeling of ‘disconnect’ are in any way pivotal to the course of our destiny…

Because our mind is kept so busy trying to make sense of life’s conundrums,  we are often kept from connecting the dots on our unique and mysterious life puzzle. Our Empath sensitivities may also prevent us from seeing how amazing our lives are, or how this sense of ‘disconnectedness’ serves us.

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The majority of us work hard trying to figure out life. We may wonder where our true purpose lies or we may constantly find ourselves looking at ways to better fit in with others. It may even feel like we are not on the ‘right path’.

So why do so many Empaths feel disconnected?

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It may certainly seem that the Empath is destined to got through life feeling off-course, unfulfilled, overwhelmed, or disconnected…

Yes, there are many things that come with being an Empath that make life difficult: getting hurt easily, feeling others’ emotional pain and being a beacon for other people’s problems, being but a few. Yet all the difficulties we have endured, built an incredible resilience and have strengthened us, in ways that is difficult to describe. Empath challenges are part of a unique path.

It is easy to forget that we came here for a reason – to experience life as an Empath and the many challenges that go with it – because we get distracted by the obstacles we face.

Empath life is often strenuous, painful, overly emotional, sometimes lonely and often comes with a huge sense of disconnect from others. Which is ironic considering we feel the energy of others so powerfully. But, when we allow ourselves to see it, Empath life is also enlightening, invigorating, electrically charged and a true gift.

Empaths can boast of life experiences few can expect to have. We feel things others don’t and we have a strong sense of intuition that will take us to all the right places, if we believe in it and follow its guidance.

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Sometimes, we purposely make life more difficult for ourselves, without realizing. And sometimes we allow ourselves to wallow in self-pity or we get stuck in victim mentality. We may also subconsciously choose to ignore what we need to do to keep us safe and sane on our journey … but the keys to our happiness and ‘reconnection’ are always there for us to find, when we are ready.

So, to get to the reason for feeling disconnected, it is often a call from our soul. Being disconnected keeps us moving forward, looking for ways to better ourself or find the answers. If we were to feel extremely contented and comfortable in life, we would not look for ways to become empowered. It can also act as a nudge, telling us we are out of balance and need to make changes (out of balance Empaths will face more life-challenges see more here).

As an Empath, it is easy to see dark or challenging times as punishments, but when we come through the other side we always find an incredible gift inside the experience.

The experiences we have, as Empaths, really are unique, and every difficulty we have endured and overcome has catapulted us forward, shaping the course of our life.

When we connect the dots of our past, we  see a bigger picture emerge. Everything happens for a reason.  Disconnection shapes and changes us, pushing us towards evolvement.

Listen to your soul, tune into your intuition and don’t be afraid to make the changes you know that will reconnect you to your truth, purpose and happiness.

You may also find this post helpful: Why do Empaths have such a strong sense of not belonging?

Hope this helps on your journey… books for empath

Until next time.

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

Why it’s Difficult to Explain Who You Are as An Empath

A question that often comes up on my blog, and on Facebook, is how to better explain to others who we are as Empaths. Although I have written about the subject in the past, I feel it’s a good time to revisit the topic because it can be such a frustrating part of Empath life.

When we awaken to our Empath ways everything we’ve experienced emotionally and physically, when around people, finally makes sense. We understand our need for time alone, why we feel such crazy energy when in busy places, and why we experience such overpowering emotions when with certain people. We come to accept our ‘inner knowing’ as the incredible guiding force it is and stop fighting or ignoring the intuition that comes with it.

We often become so excited by our newfound knowledge that we want to tell the world. We have an explanation for all the inexplicable things we’ve experienced, throughout life, and we now know we are not the only ones. However, we quickly come to discover that discussing the ways of an Empath is no easy feat. Learning who we are, it would seem, was the easy part of the journey.

Oh, we may try to explain what we now know about our traits to others. The reasoning behind our Empath ways is so simple, why wouldn’t anyone else understand? But when we try to describe ourselves it doesn’t always go the way we hoped. And when we see others struggling to comprehend our explanations it causes us more frustration. We may then try to overexplain ourselves, struggling to find the key words to convince the other of our validity. Yet the more details we give the more discouraged we become. Sadly, the reason people don’t hear is not just because they don’t understand but because, too often, their ears are closed to the subject.

Although we like to believe we live in a world of free speech, opinion and thought, it is clearly not the case (I do believe this is changing though. Tends to get worse before better). We regularly see those who don’t follow the herd, or agree with the majority, who are attacked or ridiculed. So, it is hardly surprising some Empaths fear talking openly about their traits. People can be very closed-minded as well as fearful of acknowledging the minority. And it doesn’t help that the greatest prisons we live in is the fear of what others think of us. (Read why Empaths are hurt by criticism here).

If you’ve been an awakened Empath for some years, you will no doubt already know that explaining who we are and what we feel, can be a gruesomely tricky area. Most Empaths quickly come to realize that the subject of being ‘Sensitive to energy’ and the emotions of others is just too ‘out there’ for some to consider.

The lack of interest, from muggles (those who are not open), about the ways of an Empath, may come as a surprise to the newly awakened. But the longer you walk this weird and wonderful path the more sense it makes. Just because we are ready to accept who we are, does not mean those around us are. Even if they don’t verbalise their dismay, at our disclosures, we always sense a lack of acceptance or a quiet rejection, even at it’s most subtle. Continue reading

The Destructive Impact the Media has on an Empath

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As an Empath, do you feel flat, depressed or outraged after reading newspapers or online media? Do you find your emotions being triggered? Or does your mind become frazzled after spending time on online news outlets?

If you answered yes, you’re not alone. Many Empaths find themselves impacted by the streams of negativity filtered out by the media (so much so, many have to avoid them). You’ll probably agree, that in recent times it seems to be getting worse!

These days, there seems to be a never-ending stream of anxiety-inducing stories pumped out by the world’s news outlets, that only serve in causing separation, insecurity, unhappiness or hate.

As an Empath, whether you pay attention to the propaganda stirred up by the media or not, you may still be affected by the emotional energy it produces. At times, the energy of which is overwhelming.

We all know the fear mongering, used by the media, is often a tactic used to keep people controlled, distracted and divided. There is rarely any information shared that is uplifting, inspiring or ‘feel good’.

It’s as though people are being distracted from their own power… If you keep everyone preoccupied by political opinions, global disasters, wars and the ‘fabulous lives of the rich and famous’, it keeps them in a low vibrating space.  These types of stories create anger, fear or indirectly tell the world that their lives aren’t good enough or that a life of celebrity is the only way to find happiness and purpose. All of which builds negative energy and conflict!

 

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When conflicts arise, both in the media and out on the streets, a blanket of massively contagious, dark energy is produced. Which when at it’s worse is difficult to avoid, no matter how much you work on staying grounded and protected.

As I mentioned in my last post: negativity generates negativity. Negative emotions are contagious and are subliminally taken on even by those who aren’t Sensitive.

People get swept along by the irrational moods being intentionally perpetuated by the media. They breed and feed.  It is a form of gaslighting.

And because the populace is continuously fed more reasons to become fearful, infuriated or dissatisfied, and very little to feel positive and cheerful about, low-level energy continues to escalate.

So, as an Empath, even if you pay little attention to the media or the propaganda it generates, the murky energy stirred up can still leave you feeling overwhelmed, lost or alone. It can seep into your energy field, even during sleep, and its effects may show up as periods of lethargy, low or erratic moods and a sense of disconnection (especially if you are often around others who feel dissatisfied with life).

As humans, we want to find an explanation for the low moods we experience and as an Empath, it is easy to blame these dark energies on present life circumstances.

I have already written about this subject in recent months. But as it is a continuing theme, I feel it is right to discuss it again because the impact it has on an Empath can be debilitating.

Picking up on dark energy, coming from the masses, is nothing short of exhausting. It is difficult to hide from even with the best intentions.

When affected by ‘global negativity’ it prevents an Empath (and even those not of a Sensitive nature) from uncovering their true power. And if distracted from one’s true power, one cannot find the peace, happiness and balance we are meant for

Part of overcoming the low vibrational energy, constantly being stirred in the world, is to keep mind, body and spirit strong. Eat good food, exercise, meditate, stay grounded and keep clearing your energy field.

Also, if ever there was ever a time to keep your mind empowered now is it. A good way to do this, other than the aforementioned, is by focusing on all your strengths, staying positive and being grateful for the small things.

Look to find your hidden super powers and stay focused on them. Like attracts like.

What we focus our attention on grows. When we embrace our positive inner-power, that power will grow. We then project out this positive vibrant energy out into the world.

Coming Soon: Be sure to keep an eye out for my post on leaky aura syndrome and why it is impacting so many Empaths.

Until next time…

Diane

The following posts may also help:

Clear Your Energy Field: here, here and here

Stay Grounded: here, here and here

Empath Diet and Exercise: here, here and here

 

 

©Diane Kathrine

The Word is Spreading

This morning I was happy to find in my inbox a newsletter from the renowned Dr. Judith Orloff, stating she had recently gone gluten and sugar free, and she recommended this way of eating to other Empaths. I felt quite excited by the fact word is clearly spreading about the importance of addressing the diet to find complete balance, health and happiness as an Empath.

I have written about the benefits of changing the diet for some years now, after seeing the changes in myself when I removed certain foods from my diet. Not only in my health but to my Empath ways. What we eat can either bring us down or transform our life in the most amazing way. The more of us who discover the power our food has on our life, not just as an Empath but as a human, the more of us who can then spread the word to others.

I believe so much in the transformational benefits of the proper diet for those who are Sensitive that I have written a book about it called: ‘The Eating Plan for Empaths and HSPs – Change Your Diet Change Your Life!’ Here’s a snippet of what the book entails:

  • Why the wrong diet leaves the Empath life-weary, energetically open and overly receptive to the negative emotions of others.
  • What you don’t know about wheat. How it has been genetically altered and why this has impacted our health and Empath traits.
  • The destructive effect wheat and sugar has on the Sensitive person’s brain and the reason they are hidden in most processed foods.
  • Why Empaths and HSPs are hardwired into becoming addicted to drug-like foods and how this can be effortlessly corrected.
  • How strong emotions, coupled with poor diet, damage the gut and trigger anything from anxiety and excessive introversion to lower back pain and stomach disorders, and the approaches to rectify the damage.
  • Ways to soothe the seat of emotions through nutrition.
  • An easy-to-follow eating plan that will get you off wheat and sugar for good, reshape your life and lead to a more blissful existence.

the-eating-plan-for-empaths-and-hsps-pic-monkeyAs well as a 4-week elimination plan, the book includes at least 90 mouth-watering, easy-to-follow recipes to make the food transition a comfortable and effortless one.

I have amassed a wide selection of gluten and sugar-free recipes since I first eliminated wheat, back in 2012, after much trial and error (and mess) in the kitchen, and have included many of them in the book.

The path of the Empath is already challenging enough; we should not be brought further down by what we eat. We all want to attain balance and peace, but that will not happen without a change in our eating habits. The wrong diet will affect your spiritual awareness and prevent intuition from developing, it also heightens the impact of other people’s energy and emotions, and hinder one’s ability to find inner calm, happiness and health… something we all need to experience in our life now. The thing is, until you make the necessary changes to your diet you won’t see how foods, like wheat and sugar, are affecting you.

My life has transformed since changing my diet and I know yours can too. If you are interested and ready to change your diet and change your life, whilst losing some weight in the process, this book is for you!

Until next time

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

Dealing with Energy Shifts as an Empath

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In recent years there has been such a lot of shifts and changes with energy patterns that have been difficult to deal with for the Empaths of the world.

Anything to do with energy shifting will always affect the Empath in weird and wonderful ways. But it is how it impacts others that might disrupt your life.

When there is any type of ‘shift’ it usually brings to the surface that which has long been buried within the populace, which often causes conflict, activates anger issues and finger pointing.

If, as an Empath, you experience waves of feeling emotionally floored, angry, anxious or under attack, with no real reason for it, it could simply be down to a shift.

When these shifts happen you may, at times, feel like you are out of body observing life as it is going on around you but not really feeling part of it, you may overhear conversations that seem so predictable and obvious that you wonder why others are having them, or you may wonder why people can’t seem to jump off the hamster wheels they are so fervently spinning on.

It might seem as though you are watching helplessly from the side-lines as others refuse to face the truths of themselves or of this world and that everywhere people seem angry and preoccupied with issues or concerns.

What is often happening is that people are experiencing the emotional energy of their ‘buried issues’, which comes up in times of energy shifts, and they need to find a way to rationalise it or a reason for it. They may then project what they are feeling onto political issues or lash out at family members or friends.

This destructive energy then just builds and builds and becomes more overwhelming for those of us who are Sensitive. Continue reading

The Empath Awakening

Kindle Version Empath AwakeningWell, here I am with the news of another book release: The Empath Awakening.

The book, which could be classed as a prequel to 7 Secrets of the Sensitive, is about what to expect during the transition time of an ‘Empath Awakening’.

I cover subjects such as: friendships and family, toxic relationships, how the mind, body and spirit are impacted by Empath imbalances and how to overcome them, traits that become out of balance, how a permeable aura allows other people’s emotional energy to take you down, and much more.

Because I know many of you have already purchased one of my books, I am offering it for free for five days on Kindle Select. The free offer will run from tomorrow (Wed 17th Aug) to Sunday (21st Aug).

If you want to have a quick look at the book, to get an idea of what its about, click here or on the above image, to read the blurb and some sample pages.

Here is a short extract explaining how the Empath’s weakened aura (energy-field) can impair their quality of life:

The Empath Aura

Your aura emanates around you like a luminous egg-shaped sheath. It extends around and away from the body for anything up to five feet (in a healthy person). The vibration of this energetic frame is fine and subtle.

Those who are unhealthy, in their body and mind, have an unhealthy, receded aura which is also permeable (energy leaks out and in).

Our aura both surrounds and penetrates our body and resonates with both our physical and mental bodies. Years’ worth of data is stored within our energy-field; this information is normally an accumulation of happy and sad experiences, ideas and opinions, unreleased painful emotions, negative thought-forms, past life memories and toxins, etc. Because Empaths pick up energy from others, we can also carry inside our aura their negative thought-forms and energy.

A weakened body and mind weakens our aura. Low-level thoughts and emotions, unbalanced chakras, food intolerances, poor diet, drugs and alcohol all impair the body, and anything that debilitates the body damages our aura.

When the aura is damaged, it becomes leaky. This is bad news on many levels: it allows our energy out (causing fatigue and other imbalances), and admits other people’s energy in, which then merges with our own.

Empaths are known to have a permeable aura, and this is why people’s energy can be so debilitating. But they are not the only ones. Anyone who is unhealthy or with emotional issues possess a weakened energy-field, which means their energy and emotions are also able to leak out.

If an Empath comes into close proximity with those who have a leaky aura, they will soak up anything leaked like a super-absorbent sponge. It may appear that strangers’ energy purposely infringes our own, but it is often an energetic merger.

If you are unhealthy, eat an unsuitable diet, take drugs or stimulants, drink alcohol, smoke cigarettes, experience stress and have dark thoughts you will likely have a permeable aura. This means you pick the emotions and energy off others which then becomes etched within your energy-field. You are also affected by negative residual energy and other low frequency vibrations. The only way to heal the aura is by making some changes.

Experiencing overwhelm, after picking up a stranger’s emotional energy, often means the memory of it gets imprinted. Any future interactions, with unfamiliar energy, may cause something like an “energetic allergic reaction”. These reactions are draining and can leave us feeling well below par for hours or even days. If these responses become a common occurrence, following time spent in public places, it prevents us from fully participating in our own life. This is seen by avoidance of peopled areas and anything that involves social interaction.

By finding total balance of mind, body and spirit, it works something like an “energetic anti-histamine” for the Empath. A healthy body and mind results in a powerful aura and creates the Empath’s invisible armour.

A formidable aura empowers the Empath. It persuades other people’s energy to bounce off and is key to living a happier life.

We cannot expect our mind and spirit to be strong when we are putting something into the body that weakens it. Nor can we expect our body to be strong if we experience “Sensitivity stress”.

Sensitivity Stress

Empaths are Sensitive. Anyone who is Sensitive will experience overwhelming emotions, vivid thoughts, and they get hurt more easily than most. This can lead to Sensitivity stress which compromises the immune system… and eventually results in a damaged aura.

Sensitivity stress is endured by those who experience other people’s emotional pain and energy as an adverse reaction (feeling drained, experiencing negative emotion or becoming unwell), they also overreact to any emotional situation and are prone to having anxiety or panic attacks.

This type of stress is not caused by having deadlines to work to and a mammoth to-do-list (although they certainly won’t help), it is caused by having a Sensitive nature, being overly stimulated from external energy and/or having buried emotional pain. Just like normal stress, it damages the immune system and puts strain on the mind and body. This in turn leads to illness, rampant negative thoughts, and a weakened aura…

So there you go a sneaky peak at what The Empath Awakening is about.

The book will be available for free download until the 21st August. Then it will return to full Kindle price of $7.99 ($14.99 for paperback copy).

You can read the book on any device from your phone, laptop or iPad although you may have to download the free Amazon Kindle App.

Click here for free Kindle download of The Empath Awakening or here for paperback version (not included on offer). Please note these links are for Amazon Kindle US. If you are from another part of the world you will have to download it from the online Amazon store in your area. Just type in The Empath Awakening by Diane Kathrine in the Kindle search bar.

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Hope all is keeping really well in your little corners of the world.

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Diane

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Summer Solstice, The Strawberry Moon and Empath Power

This Monday 20th June 2016 befalls a rather special occurrence… The summer solstice.

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The summer solstice has long-since been noted as a magical day with a time-honored history of celebrations. This year’s solstice comes with an extra bonus of being a full moon. The last time this occurred was 70 years ago.

There are not many who have ever experienced a celestial event of this magnitude. Having a full Strawberry Moon on the same day as a summer solstice is a truly rare event.

The full moon in June is known as the Full Strawberry Moon because it is the time of year to harvest ripening fruit, which also coincides with the strawberry season.

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If you are sensitive to the energy of full moons and/or solstices, this one will surely pack a magical punch. It is a great time to set your intentions for the year ahead and wonderful period to spend in contemplation and meditation (and to spend as much time as you can in nature) to experience the full magnificence of this occasion.

Empath Power

Empath Power, the book, has now been released. I timed the release to coincide with this magical solstice weekend. It is available in both paperback and eBook versions. Here is a snippet of what it entails:

Empat PowerThere are some major changes happening on the planet affecting Empaths on many levels. These changes bring pain, emotional disruptions, repetitive, negative thought patterns and physical distress. 

With any energy shift Empaths, and anyone of a Sensitive nature, get clobbered from all directions. Not only do they endure the discomfort of a shifting period in their own way, but they also pick up on how the populace are experiencing these ups and downs. If you often feel overwhelmed and overloaded by all you have to process during these turbulent times Empath Power is for you. 

As an Empath you are one of life’s game changers! It is imperative you stay grounded, protected and healthy during these testing periods and this book is your guide to show you how! 

You can go to the Kindle store here to read the first section for free and see if this book is what you might need at this present time.

Have a superb Strawberry Solstice weekend!

Until next time…

Diane

Are You A Multipotentialite Empath?

careerMany people struggle finding their life purpose, especially the Empaths.

Feeling confused as to whether we are walking the ‘right occupational path’ is all too common for the Sensitive. There are many reasons for this, but the way the world makes us ‘feel’ certainly contributes to this confusion.

Because we get exhausted, depressed or overstimulated by spending too much time around others, it leads to feelings of unfulfillment, which we often blame on our chosen profession.

This sense of unfulfillment may push us towards trying many different vocations,  in the hope it will put us on the path to our ‘true’ life-purpose.

Empaths are hardwired into learning, gaining knowledge and wisdom. They have active imaginations and look for ways to fill their creative-mind-space. They may believe they like trying out new jobs because they have yet to find a career that is a fit, but there could also be another reason… You could be a multipotentialite Empath! Continue reading

Is it ok for an Empath to Let Go of Toxic Friends or Family?

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Most Empaths have at least one person in their life who cause them a wave of  negative emotions, just by being in their presence. These people, who may be friends or a family member, seem to spew acid when they talk: they complain about everything, appreciate nothing and only look out for their own interests.

Being in harmony with people is essential to an Empath’s health and wellbeing.

Most people will invoke an emotional response within the Empath at some point and it is often the kindest of people who carry the most pain. Yet feeling another’s pain is nothing compared to what a toxic person can make the Empath endure.

Toxic people can drain your energy within a matter of minutes, and even self-protection techniques may not work to prevent their dark vibes seeping in. 

Typical sensations experienced when with toxic people:

  • Anger or feelings of bitterness: This can last for the duration of being in their presence and up to 10 days after. Depending on their negative traits will depend on what you feel.
  • Fatigue: Struggling to keep your eyes open, especially if they are venting.
  • Being out of sorts: A range of strange feelings wash over you, from being spaced out, to nausea.
  • Negative talk: Finding yourself talking negatively of others, even though it is not a typical trait of yours.
  • Apathy: Losing all previous zest and optimism.

If you have a toxic person in your life, you  may have already tried helping them by sharing what has helped you, in dealing with the rigours of life. Sadly, they did not want to listen and have no intentions of making any changes to themselves, preferring to continue to offload their negative rants on you.

The Empath will generally avoid hurting or causing unnecessary pain to others, and it is for this reason many keep in their lives those who cause unhappiness. Yet, one must always put the emotional health of self first.

If a food or substance made you violently ill, or caused you to feel depressed, you would likely avoid it; the same should be applied to those who cause emotional turmoil.

We have a responsibility to keep our body and mind healthy. If another continually causes stress (all stress eventually leads to illness) the only option is often to remove them from our life.

I am not talking about having the ego dented by another’s random disrespect. Everyone has people who offend, hurt or make them angry, by their lack of understanding. And we in turn will no doubt, unknowingly, do the same to others. This issue is about those toxic friends, or family members, who repetitively (and often intentionally) bring you down.

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The point comes in all toxic friendships when you have to decide if it is causing more harm than good. Here are some questions to ask that may help you evaluate your friend/relationship and hopefully help you see if it is a healthy one:

  •  Am I taking anything from this friend/relationship?
  • Does spending time with him/her make me happy?
  • Do I dread being in his/her presence?
  • When was the last time I enjoyed being in his/her company?
  • Do we have any of the same interests?
  • Is it a one-sided friendship with me fitting in with his/her needs?
  • Does this relationship affect my emotional health?
  • Do I feel ill, emotionally drained or intense negative emotions after being with him/her?
  • Am I being used as an emotional dumping ground?
  • Does he/she have a lot of negative thoughts or anger towards me?
  • Am I learning anything from spending time with him/her?
  • Is being in this relationship making me grow spiritually, emotionally or other?
  • Is this relationship beneficial to either of us?
  • Has he/she become dependent upon me?
  • What are my real reasons for staying in this relationship?

I must point out that not all toxic relationships are destructive. There are many reasons we encounter toxic people. A common reason being the Mirror of the Empath Effect. Certain encounters act as a mirror and show us weaknesses or issues we need to resolve within ourselves.

Any undesirable behaviour that repeats, in any type of relationship, is something that needs to be investigated. Repetition highlights flaws or issues that need to be worked on and learnt from.

We all learn from the bad situations presented in life. Yet, if the same emotional scenarios keep playing out no one is gaining, learning or growing from the situation and it is time to cut the cord.

Once you have learned from an experience you don’t need to re-learn it over and over. You may learn from bad experiences, but you don’t need to keep experiencing other people’s negativity to grow.

This is not about being spiteful or uncaring. You can be grateful for all they have shown you in life and send them love. But when it feels time to let them go, it is.

I have attached a link to an article I came across quite randomly whilst writing this post and offers another writer’s perspective on ways to deal with toxic people, and although it is not written with the Empath in mind, it is worth a read.

If you want to learn the secrets of being an Empath, find ways to restructure your life and harness your hidden power, you may want to read this.

Hope this helps on your Empath Journey.

Until next time…

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©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

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50 Ways for a Happy Empath Life!

We attract into our life who and what we are. To draw more magnificence to your Empath life it helps to develop a more magnificent outlook on life.

Here are 50 ways of being which, if adopted, will see many incredible positive changes happen in your life!

1. Let Go of Expectations of Others

Expectations can cause untold pain and frustration. Let them go and it will free you from disappointment.

2. Learn to Accept

You cannot and should not control everything in life. Acceptance is essential if you want to live a happy, healthy life.

3. Release Dependency on Others

When you depend on another to make you happy, or to give your life meaning, you miss out on discovering how incredible you are.

4. Control your Thoughts

Stress and unhappiness are born from chaotic Empath musings. Quieten your mind and calm your thoughts.

5. Judge Not

Judging makes you fearful of judgements. Choose not to judge, yourself or others, and you will find more emotional freedom.

6. Stop Procrastinating

Don’t put off today what you can do tomorrow. Why waste life thinking about what you could be doing?Just do it!

7. Be at Peace with Criticism

Trying to avoid criticism prevents you from doing what you are meant to do and becoming who you are meant to be as an Empath.

8. Change not Another nor let Another Change You

Don’t mould others into the people you want them to be and don’t change yourself to please another. Just be! Allow your Empath self to be true.

9. Don’t Take it Personally

If another treats you badly, it is a reflection on them. Not you!

10. Get Out in Nature

Spending time in nature is grounding and uplifting and will soothe your Empath soul.

11. Never Give Up

Good things don’t arrive overnight. People have little appreciation of that which comes easy. No matter what your age: Believe in yourself and continue striving towards your goals.

12. Leave the Crowd Behind

You are here to enjoy your exclusive life experience. Follow your calling not the crowd’s.

13. Collect Experiences not Treasures

When you leave your body you only take your knowledge and experiences. Make as many as you can.

14. Abandon the Fear of Failure

A failure is an experience that simply teaches you how not to do something. Whatever you choose to do as an Empath you will learn. Don’t let fear hold you back from trying.

15. Stay Protected

Keeping away from negative, draining energy will keep you empowered as an Empath.

16. Embrace Success

Expect success as an Empath and you will always have it!

17. Love What You Do and Do What You love

Follow your passions. When happy in your work success will follow.

18. Don’t Place Your Worth on Your Appearance

Youthful beauty fades but inner-beauty continues to grow. Let your inner-Empath-beauty shine!

19. Take Responsibility For Your Energy

You receive back what you give out. Project powerful, uplifting vibrations into the world and collect the rewards.

20. Create The Change You Want To See

Don’t wait. Create your Empath dream life. Be the change see the change.

21. Know Your Worth

No man is better than himself. Putting another on a pedestal instills the idea of unworthiness. Believe in your own brilliant Empath-self!

22. Listen to Others

Listening generously, to those who truly need to be heard, is healing. Heal others heal yourself.

23. Think Not of Revenge

You don’t need to ‘teach another a lesson’. Believe in karma. What goes around does indeed come around.

24. Remember You Have Freewill

It is your journey! Choose the Empath life you want to live.

25. Send Love into the World

Opening your heart to others is a show of strength. Love is empowering. Love will heal you and the world!

26. Let Go of Pain

You wouldn’t hold a fiery ember, so why allow painful emotions to burn within?

27. Don’t Allow Rules to Stifle Creativity

Creativity allows the Empath’s spirit to soar. If a rule no longer works make a new one.

28. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone Daily

If you want to evolve as an Empath, do something each day that makes you uncomfortable.

29. Stop Waiting for Another to Complete You

The only person who can make you whole is you.

30. Learn to Be on Your Own

Spending time alone turns the Empath’s journey into an extraordinary expedition.

31. Express Gratitude

Being grateful sends a powerful message to the universe that you are open to more reasons to be grateful.

32. Keep Your Self-Talk Positive

A positive inner-voice is the key to a happy, productive Empath life.

33. Eat What Nature Intended

For lasting health and happiness keep your diet clean. Listen to your intuitive dietary promptings and feed yourself nourishing food.

34. Nurture Body Mind and Spirit

Your body, mind and spirit are connected. Only when all three are balanced will you find harmony as an Empath.

35. Free Your Voice and Learn to Say No

Only do it because you want to. You will never please others by constantly giving into their expectations. They just expect more.

36. Remember Your Friends

One of the biggest regrets of those on their deathbed is losing touch with old friends. You cannot make new ‘old friends’. You rarely make friends like the ones who have been in your life for the long hall, don’t forget them.

37. Free Yourself from Childhood Issues

The child in you lived and got through those difficult times; don’t let the adult be punished by them.

38. Let Go of Resentment

Why let another’s actions blight your life? Resentment makes you bitter. Let it go.

39. Control Anger

Breathe though and release it. Anger only punishes the bearer.

40. Help Others to Help Themselves

Instead of doing it for them, show them how.

41. Lose The Need to be Right

Wanting to be right just makes others wrong. Value opinions.

42. Question Everything

Don’t believe everything you read, hear or see. Trust your Empath gut. If it doesn’t feel right chances are it’s not.

43. Give Without Expect of Return

Doing nice things for others, without expecting anything back, is nourishment for the soul.

44. Stop Throwing Pity Parties

Like attracts like. Talking like a victim keeps you stuck in that mind-set.

45. Strive for Many Life Experiences

Keep your Empath life energised with new experiences every day.

46. Chase Your Dreams

Don’t die with your dreams unrealized. Step out there and create them.

47. Trust Your Intuition

Your Empath Knowing has more power than you may realise. Let it guide you.

48. Find Your Passions

How will you know what your true passions are if you don’t seek them out?

49. Select Acquaintances With Prudence

As an Empath, you become who you spend most time with. Choose wisely.

50. Choose Happiness

For a joyful  life make the decision to feel happy each and every day. And stay away from anything that hinders your joy!

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If you’re curious why people behave strangely around you or act as though they don’t like you, you may want to read this post: The Mirror of an Empath.

Hope this helps on your Empath journey.

Until next time,

Diane

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©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered

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Developing Traits of an Empath

In recent months I noticed many comments asking how to develop the traits of an Empath. Many are now wanting to follow their calling but are not sure how best to do it.

Although an Empath came into the world ready to do their job of transmuting negative, dense and dark energies, they find they are taken down by them. There are many things about modern life that pushes an Empath out-of-balance. This not only makes life difficult and sometimes painful, but it also means the energy they pick up has a negative impact on them.

It also doesn’t help that they cannot openly discuss their abilities. Try explaining to anyone, who has their feet firmly rooted in the material world, about an Empath: They assume you’ve lost your marbles and look at you as if you are from another planet. For this reason, many Empaths keep to themselves who they are, which can make this a lonely path to walk. It also makes it difficult live authentically. But this is not enough to stop the Empath from pushing onwards and upwards.

It goes without saying that an experienced Empath takes on more than the inexperienced. When I say experienced I’m referring to those who are aware of their gifts and know how to stay grounded and protected. Experience also comes through the obstacles and hurdles met and overcome.

Ironically you would think the more challenges an Empath faces the easier life would become. Not the case. Many Empaths find the further they travel in life the steeper their climb. I guess this comes down to the more done the more expected.

Empaths are constantly at work in the unseen realms mopping up negative energies. Whether they are aware of it or not, they go through life transmuting energy. And, as there seems to be a never-ending supply of dense and dark energies, they are always on call.

It is part of an Empath’s life-path to help bring balance into this chaotic world and many are doing this without being conscious of it. Sadly, the job of an Empath is thankless and, usually, an unrecognised one.  But all the same it is a very real one.

Unlike other metaphysical jobs, the majority are not aware of just how much an Empath takes on. What makes matters more frustrating is if they get labelled as being lazy or a hypochondriac because of what they take on.

Negative energy can make an Empath physically ill, especially when they have a weak energy field and are out-of-balance. It is the type of illness a medical doctor cannot treat.

Learning to discern between energies/emotions coming from their external environment, and that of their own, proves to be a huge challenge for an Empath but it is one of the first things they need to become aware of for self-protection (see this post). It is too easy for an Empath to take on another person’s pain and mistake it as their own. This causes stress and  emotional pain which may lead to unnecessary illness. Building a powerful energy field also helps protect from overwhelming emotions. A good diet and exercise is one of the best ways to do this.

I  recently watched a program about solar flares (coronal mass ejections) and how power plants protect themselves from their impact. When a solar flare is expected to hit, the power station cranks up the electricity in the grid to full blast. This gives a protective shield and diffuses the energy, of the flare, though the grid. The Sun’s energy can’t then fry the system. This reminds me of what happens when we do vigorous exercise: we crank up our feel good endorphins, which in turn raises our vibration and builds a stronger energy field so that when the external energies hit, they simply get diffused. Even just 5 minutes working out to your max reaps huge benefits. (If you become easily overwhelmed from too much energy see this post)

As well as doing exercise it is good to keep a quiet mind. Negative thoughts cause stress and emotional turmoil. Because an Empath picks up the thought-forms of others it is imperative they have control of their own mind and thoughts. Meditation is the best way to get a still mind.

However, sometimes, for the Empath, mediation is difficult to do or keep up. There are many reasons for this. But if you are one who finds mediation incredibly frustrating, do not despair. There are some other brilliant techniques you can try that will help calm your mind and build a strong energy field (see this post).

If you are interested in developing your intuitive gifts there are some easy steps to take (see this post), but if you are more drawn to developing other metaphysical abilities such as: healing or clairvoyance it is best to do so under the guidance of a good teacher (who knows about Empath abilities). Although some Empaths are born with clairvoyant, mediumistic, medically intuitive or other abilities, I would not recommend developing them on your own. Opening up energetically to the invisible realms may cause problems for the unaware and could lead to some scary experiences. 

If you want to transform your life as an Empath and harness your hidden power you may want to read this

 

 

 

Hope this helps on your journey as an Empath.

Until next time.

Diane

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