Today’s post is about a comment I received on the last post I shared.
When I first read the following comment, my initial reaction was this was a negative response. It ruffled my feathers. I wasn’t sure what it was about. But I then realized there was a reference to the law of attraction in my last post. (Read my last post here).
Here is the comment:
Thinking negatively is absolutely essential if we are to change ourselves. Without negativity there is literally no driving force for change. Shame, depression, despair, sadness, anxiety, disillusionment, guilt, aloneness, self-doubt, self-dissatisfaction, feelings of inferiority etc. force self-aware individuals with a conscience to do better (‘the Theory of Positive Disintegration’, analogous to ‘the dark night of the soul’).
The ‘law of attraction’ – as it’s widely understood – is hogwash. Poor and sick people didn’t set out to be poor and sick people, and thinking happy-clappy thoughts won’t make their reality any nicer. Also, bad things happen to good people, and as well as that all sorts of low-life try to attack good people (where’s the ‘law of attraction’ in that?) There isn’t one genuinely spiritual person who hasn’t gone through an utterly miserable time from others.
Where the ‘law of attraction’ becomes even more pernicious is with new-age internet scammers who tell their victims that the ‘get rich quick’ schemes they bought into didn’t succeed because ‘they weren’t thinking positively enough’.
As I pondered my reply, I realized it would be a lengthy one. So, I decided it was a good opportunity to write a post about it instead, because a) I agree with the comment, and b) because I don’t agree with it and c) because I realize many Empaths may be of the same mind, (and d) because anything that ruffles my feathers is drawing my attention to something that needs addressing).
It is a lengthy post and for that reason I have split it into two (so you don’t get bored whilst reading).
I’m not sure if the person who commented is a regular reader or was just passing through, but I would like to say thank you for raising the above points.
I suppose when I have talked about the law of attraction in past posts (LOA), I assumed my readers knew the way of the law, when I use it in the context to certain situations. But I now realize it may not be the case. So, let me explain further:
Firstly, we all vibrate at different frequencies. We ‘attract’ into our lives that of a similar vibration.
The more we work on ourselves in the mind, body and spirit, the faster we vibrate. For example, when we face our past ‘demons’, when we become aware of the consequences of our actions, or when we give up that which does not serve our body and mind, we become a better version of ourselves, and this speeds things up.
When we’ve done a lot of work on ourselves, we generally feel happier and healthier, and being around negativity or dark vibes (lower vibration) feels awful.
But just because we’ve done the work, does not make us invincible; we can still be drawn back into negative thinking and negative ways.
As many of you will probably know, when you find yourself dragged into negativity, you start noticing it everywhere. The more we focus, the more we find it.
Most quickly learn how to distract themselves and disengage from anything that lowers their vibration. But it can be hard to do. And when we stay too long in ‘dark mental spaces’ we attract back more of the same.
I know there are many people, who have turned away from the law of attraction (LOA), for the reason they did not get the promised results by adhering to the ‘rules.’ I myself got very disillusioned by it all.
Many years ago, I read all the books that I could get my hands on, on the subject of the LOA. I then followed the ‘rules’ laid out. I did the positive mantras and meditations, and tried to stay on top of negative thinking. But it didn’t seem to work. My life didn’t get more positive and I wasn’t any happier. It wasn’t until many years later that I came to understand why.
Through my research and self-trials, I developed such an understanding of the LOA that it prompted me to write a book on the subject, which I published late last year.
The thing is, the law of attraction is not the only law at work in our lives. Karma also plays a huge part. Not as a punishment, but to keep us accountable for our actions.
I don’t know everyone’s understanding of the LOA, but I expect most people think: we attract back to us what we focus on. Which is correct. And if we stay in a positive mindset, we can attract back what we want. Which is also correct. But there is so much more to it than that.
For one thing, what many people think they want (ego) is not what the heart wants (soul), and this causes a contradiction within one’s energy. Also, many of us carry buried pain that we are not aware of. We’ve carried it for so long that we don’t even realize it’s there. We also have many triggers that activates this buried pain which affects our thoughts.
How we think is often affected by the way we feel. But how we feel isn’t just affected by our thoughts. Our hormones, past traumas, diet, the people we hang out with, drugs, environmental factors, sleeping habits, levels of Sensitivity, and more, all have a massive impact on how we think and feel.
It is very difficult to just ‘change’ our way of thinking, when we have so many other factors controlling our thoughts. Also, even with the best intentions, the majority of the time we have no idea what or when we are thinking. And it is often our feelings that ignite our thoughts.
So, for this reason, many people give up on the law of attraction and trying to keep their mental projections positive, in a matter of weeks or months.
To see the LOA work, we have to make changes and stick with them, but not with just our thoughts, and that’s where most people come unstuck.
Ok, I will leave it at that for now and continue on with this subject next week.
If you want to read an excerpt from my book on the law of attraction, click here and click on ‘look inside’. But otherwise, I shall see you next week.