What’s It All About?

Today’s post is about a comment I received on the last post I shared.

When I first read the following comment, my initial reaction was this was a negative response. It ruffled my feathers. I wasn’t sure what it was about. But I then realized there was a reference to the law of attraction in my last post. (Read my last post here).

Here is the comment:

Thinking negatively is absolutely essential if we are to change ourselves. Without negativity there is literally no driving force for change. Shame, depression, despair, sadness, anxiety, disillusionment, guilt, aloneness, self-doubt, self-dissatisfaction, feelings of inferiority etc. force self-aware individuals with a conscience to do better (‘the Theory of Positive Disintegration’, analogous to ‘the dark night of the soul’).

The ‘law of attraction’ – as it’s widely understood – is hogwash. Poor and sick people didn’t set out to be poor and sick people, and thinking happy-clappy thoughts won’t make their reality any nicer. Also, bad things happen to good people, and as well as that all sorts of low-life try to attack good people (where’s the ‘law of attraction’ in that?) There isn’t one genuinely spiritual person who hasn’t gone through an utterly miserable time from others.

Where the ‘law of attraction’ becomes even more pernicious is with new-age internet scammers who tell their victims that the ‘get rich quick’ schemes they bought into didn’t succeed because ‘they weren’t thinking positively enough’.

As I pondered my reply, I realized it would be a lengthy one. So, I decided it was a good opportunity to write a post about it instead, because a) I agree with the comment, and b) because I don’t agree with it and c) because I realize many Empaths may be of the same mind, (and d) because anything that ruffles my feathers is drawing my attention to something that needs addressing).

It is a lengthy post and for that reason I have split it into two (so you don’t get bored whilst reading).

I’m not sure if the person who commented is a regular reader or was just passing through, but I would like to say thank you for raising the above points.

I suppose when I have talked about the law of attraction in past posts (LOA), I assumed my readers knew the way of the law, when I use it in the context to certain situations. But I now realize it may not be the case. So, let me explain further:

Firstly, we all vibrate at different frequencies. We ‘attract’ into our lives that of a similar vibration.

The more we work on ourselves in the mind, body and spirit, the faster we vibrate. For example, when we face our past ‘demons’, when we become aware of the consequences of our actions, or when we give up that which does not serve our body and mind, we become a better version of ourselves, and this speeds things up.

When we’ve done a lot of work on ourselves, we generally feel happier and healthier, and being around negativity or dark vibes (lower vibration) feels awful.

But just because we’ve done the work, does not make us invincible; we can still be drawn back into negative thinking and negative ways.

As many of you will probably know, when you find yourself dragged into negativity, you start noticing it everywhere. The more we focus, the more we find it.

Most quickly learn how to distract themselves and disengage from anything that lowers their vibration. But it can be hard to do. And when we stay too long in ‘dark mental spaces’ we attract back more of the same.

I know there are many people, who have turned away from the law of attraction (LOA), for the reason they did not get the promised results by adhering to the ‘rules.’ I myself got very disillusioned by it all.

Many years ago, I read all the books that I could get my hands on, on the subject of the LOA. I then followed the ‘rules’ laid out. I did the positive mantras and meditations, and tried to stay on top of negative thinking. But it didn’t seem to work. My life didn’t get more positive and I wasn’t any happier. It wasn’t until many years later that I came to understand why.

Through my research and self-trials, I developed such an understanding of the LOA that it prompted me to write a book on the subject, which I published late last year.

The thing is, the law of attraction is not the only law at work in our lives. Karma also plays a huge part. Not as a punishment, but to keep us accountable for our actions.

I don’t know everyone’s understanding of the LOA, but I expect most people think: we attract back to us what we focus on. Which is correct. And if we stay in a positive mindset, we can attract back what we want. Which is also correct. But there is so much more to it than that.

For one thing, what many people think they want (ego) is not what the heart wants (soul), and this causes a contradiction within one’s energy. Also, many of us carry buried pain that we are not aware of. We’ve carried it for so long that we don’t even realize it’s there. We also have many triggers that activates this buried pain which affects our thoughts.

How we think is often affected by the way we feel. But how we feel isn’t just affected by our thoughts. Our hormones, past traumas, diet, the people we hang out with, drugs, environmental factors, sleeping habits, levels of Sensitivity, and more, all have a massive impact on how we think and feel.

It is very difficult to just ‘change’ our way of thinking, when we have so many other factors controlling our thoughts. Also, even with the best intentions, the majority of the time we have no idea what or when we are thinking. And it is often our feelings that ignite our thoughts.

So, for this reason, many people give up on the law of attraction and trying to keep their mental projections positive, in a matter of weeks or months.

To see the LOA work, we have to make changes and stick with them, but not with just our thoughts, and that’s where most people come unstuck.

Ok, I will leave it at that for now and continue on with this subject next week.

If you want to read an excerpt from my book on the law of attraction, click here and click on ‘look inside’. But otherwise, I shall see you next week.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

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Moving Into A New World?

When sifting through some of my old posts, as I do from time to time, I came across one that caught my attention. 

The post is from 2015, so some of you may remember it, but it struck me as being quite apt for what we are seeing all around us today. So, I decided I would share it again.

Here it is:

Have you found that you seem to be getting triggered in negative ways recently?

You’re not alone.

Many Empaths are experiencing this.

You will especially notice these triggers if in the past years, you have significantly raised your vibration and have done lots of work on yourself in mind, body and spirit.

You may find that for most of the time you feel happy, then you come into contact with a certain person and it puts you into a negative place, or you may see a news segment that winds you up. Your thoughts change from being happy to low vibrational.

Thinking negatively is not a fault, humans are hardwired into having more negative thoughts than positive. It’s called negativity bias and stems back to our survival instincts from caveman days. We can brood for hours on dark menacing thoughts whilst positive ones may go unnoticed.

It only takes 17 seconds for a negative thought to take hold, which could then escalate into hours or days worth of dark thinking, which affects both our emotions and our physical health.

So, the question is, why are we getting triggered so much lately and why are we noticing all this negativity?

I don’t tend to write about the ‘dark energies’ of our planet, as it is not something I wish to focus on. But we all know there are both dark and light forces at work here. I choose to believe the dark is on its way out, but it does not seem to want to leave without a fight!

It certainly appears, those of us who have worked hard to change ourselves and raise our vibration are getting distracted and pushed out of alignment. There are many ways this is happening, either through: trauma triggers, psychic attack, career problems, political issues, global affairs, etc. It really depends where your interests and thus focus lies.

If you are disconnected from online media and other media outlets, that promote highly charged negative news, another way to get you is through people. You may find people popping up in your life who act as trauma triggers or you may notice more cruel behaviour in the world around you.

Gloom Feeds Gloom

We all know that our thoughts create our reality. Through the law of attraction, we draw back to us what we focus on. When we are triggered, it can swiftly take us out of a lovely happy place and into a dark or painful place. If we stay focused on negativity too long we then attract back more.

If you find this happening to you, distract yourself the moment you realize you are pondering anything negative, or when you feel your emotions being activated. This post may help.

Remember, we only have a 17 second window to stop ourselves from being drawn into negative situations. The more creative your mind, the quicker you will find yourself being ignited by negativity.

Earlier in the week, when I was pondering the reasons behind the dark energy triggers, and why we are being purposely drawn into emotional conflict, my mind went back to something I read many years ago by Dolores Cannon, about the separating world.

Through her work as a past-life hypnotherapist, Dolores discovered that our world would split in two, becoming high and low vibrational worlds. I don’t know if this is metaphorical or physical, but if you look around, it certainly appears to be happening.

It’s as though the human race has been split. People that see the world one way and people who see it another way. And there does not seem to be any way to debate or discuss certain situations. Some people’s minds seem so closed, that it is almost as though they are living in another reality.

There is so much anger and conflict, that for the Empaths of the world it can be unbearable to live in, if we focus on it. That’s why it is so important to stay disconnected from anything or anyone who drags us into emotional conflict.

Dolores did say the eventual outcome would be wonderful. So, fingers crossed on that one. The video below explains about Dolores’ work and her findings. It is easy to understand and follow.

Sadly, Dolores Cannon passed away in 2014, but if you are interested in her work, she has left an amazing legacy and a wealth of information in books and online videos.

If you have found yourself feeling more drawn into weird conflicts recently, I hope this post lets you know you are not alone.

So, there you go. Although it is an old post it still seems relevant. Maybe what we are seeing all around us is the world splitting, and people moving into different realities.

Until next time.

Diane

 

©Diane Kathrine at Empaths Empowered





 

Living Free From the Fear of Failure & Judgement

Some time ago I came across an article that really resonated with me. In short, the article was about a woman’s realization of how she had imprisoned herself with the fear of shame and failure. The business she owned had not been making any money for a long time. It was bleeding her dry. But because she was so worried of being labelled as a failure, she continued to fight to save the company.

By holding on, however, she was getting into more debt, becoming more stressed and unhappier. Being so caught up with the idea of being ‘seen’ as unsuccessful, she did not listen to the quiet voice within, telling her it was ok to let go. Instead, she was tortured by the loud irrational voice of her ego, telling her she must continue to hold on to her business at all costs, because failure was too shameful and she needed the business to justify her place in society.

When she eventually listened to the ‘quiet voice’, and filed for bankruptcy, she felt a huge relief and an incredible sense of freedom. Finally, she saw that it was her own judgement and fear of failure that had kept her imprisoned and not the business itself.

The quiet voice inside has often drawn my attention to this issue: In that it’s ok to be wrong, or it’s ok to allow myself to make a mistake and it really doesn’t matter what others think of who I am, what I do or don’t do. And it’s ok to be rejected for not fitting into the box of others’ expectations. As long as I continue to work to be the best I can be, without harm to others, the mistakes or fails I make along the way are for me to learn from.

If we are honest, the pressures of social/tribal acceptance are probably some of the biggest hurdles humans have to overcome. Prisons are created from the worries we have about what others think of us, as well as the fear that we’ll be rejected if we are different or don’t fit in.

How many people change their looks or personality to fit into the so-called ‘societal norm’? I think we’ve all been guilty of it at some point in life for one reason or another. We can be so desperate to be accepted, that we hide our brilliant unique selves and create a fake persona that we hope will be liked or accepted. A quote that relates to this is:

‘It is better to be despised for being who you truly are than to be loved for being someone you are not.’  

When we live inauthentically, we never truly know who we are and therefore we never find true happiness.

Clearly, there is a very good reason for people to try to be something they’re not. We’ve seen what happens to those who don’t comply with societal norms or those who think outside the box and are gallant enough to share their thoughts with the world. They often get ridiculed (and that includes freethinkers, those who question authority, those who are deemed a bit ‘woo-woo’ and anyone who can see the bigger picture). We only need to look into our history books to see the evidence of this.

I have never-ending respect for anyone who continues to stand up for what they believe in, especially when they are standing up for fellow humans, in a non-violent way. They may get repeatedly knocked down, but they continue to get up and push forward.

It takes bravery to stand up to others in a non-violent way and it takes bravery to admit when we’re wrong or if we’ve ‘failed’.

Allow for Failure  

So, to get back to the initial point… We all make mistakes and humiliating things happen to everyone, but in this world, it just seems so shameful to admit to it. 

We need to give ourselves permission to ‘fail’ and we must remind ourselves that each of us is on our own journey. If others want to judge or criticize us, then they are trapped in their own prison of suppression.

Some of the unhappiest people I have known have been ‘heavy judgers’, and they certainly haven’t been ‘the winners in life’. So, it’s super-important that we don’t allow the judgers to govern us through our fears.

A failure is simply a learning curve. An experience that shows us how not to do something in the future.

I’m not saying aim to fail, but when we allow for failure, without giving up, we allow ourselves to grow in incredible ways.

I once read that those who truly succeed in life are those who allow themselves to fail over and over.  Which makes sense.

We make mistakes and we learn. Even if it is learning how not to do something. And, when we stop worrying of what others think, we can continue to surge forward being true to ourselves. Free to Be!

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time. Diane. 

©Diane Kathrine

 

Let’s Talk Social Hangovers

 

As Empaths, I’m sure many of you have experienced a social hangover… I know I certainly have.

So, what exactly is a social hangover and how does it affect us?

Basically, it’s similar to a boozy hangover, except it’s caused from consuming too much people energy and it happens whether you drink alcohol or not.

The physical symptoms are varied from one Empath to the next, but here are just a few: fatigue, headaches and generally feeling blah. For more extreme cases, it may require a day in bed.

Back in the days when I used to drink alcohol, I assumed feeling rough the day after was all down to guzzling too many Budweiser. So, when I ventured out alcohol free, I was surprised to discover I still got the ‘hangover’. I soon clicked on to the fact that it was the aftereffects of being peopled (alcohol had just heightened the impact).

No matter how in balance or grounded we are, as Empaths, we all have time limits when in social situations. For some, it is two hours, for others it will be four or five. And of course, it depends on the type of people we are surrounded by. Angry, bitter, inauthentic or socially uncomfortable people will impact us three times faster than most, as will anyone who is in emotional crisis. Continue reading

This is Incredible!

Just a quick one today.

As it’s new year and we all have intentions of becoming healthier and happier, I’ve decided to do a fantastic offer on Kindle Countdown for all you lovely Empaths. For 2 days you can get the Empath Eating plan for $1.26. Yes, that’s right, only $1.26. The price will gradually increase until it goes back to full list price on 16th January 2019.

You can click here to have a quick read through of the first part of the book, to see if the information is for you. Remember it’s only for 2 days that the price will be so low.

Here’s a little blurb from the book.

Modern diets and lifestyles have taken too many Sensitive people down. Most have no idea how food hinders their happiness or how by making a couple of changes could transform their life.

The Eating Plan for Empaths & HSPs:

•Exposes the true nature of drug-like food on your Sensitive traits

•Reveals the easy-to-follow steps to overhaul your diet

•Enables you to take back control of what you feel, think and absorb

•Sets you up for a life of joy and emotional freedom

•Shows you how to suppress and soothe Sensitivity stress

•Promotes weight-loss and wellbeing

The secret to any self-empowerment lies in having knowledge and a willingness to change. Until you make changes to your diet, you will never understand how it affects you as a Sensitive Person.

If you want to see an amazing transformation in the way you look, feel and think you need to read this book!

Ok, that’s it for now. I’ll be back soon with my next post.

Until next time.

Diane

There seems to be a technical problem on the Kindle store. Some are seeing the full list price instead of the countdown price. I have been in touch with Amazon and I’m waiting for their reply.

This offer is unfortunately only available to those who have access to Amazon.com and Amazon.co.uk

 

Can You Feel It?

 

Don’t you love the energy of a new year? Just today I felt a real shift in the way the energy feels. It’s like there’s a freshness all around and an upbeat vibe drifting through the air.

 It’s as though positive intentions are ramping up, as ideas for fresh starts are being put into place all around.

I was away for Christmas, in the Caribbean, so I missed a lot of the Xmas madness. I got back on the 28th, and there was still a real stressed-out energy lingering. It wasn’t very nice to come back to. Even my husband found the energy dark and stressful, which made him a little grumpy. (My Empath ways have shown up in him more in recent years and he has become much more in tune with the energy of others.)

It’s only today that I’ve felt the sludgy Christmas energy lift… Can you feel it too?

It never ceases to amaze me how one day can make such a difference to the way the collective energy feels. Today my environment feels calm and uplifted and, because of that, so do I.

Christmas isn’t a rest for most people and it certainly isn’t relaxing. Much of the festive period is spent drinking too much, eating crap, and burning the candle at both ends. It’s also stressfully busy. This is why many Empaths find it a difficult time of year (even if they like the tradition of the festive season).

As well as feeling the emotions of individuals, Empaths also feel collective stress, and no matter how well we look after ourselves, the month of December can be a trying time because there is so much stress energy around. This is why January comes as such a welcome relief.

I love the energy of new beginnings and new intentions. January is a fresh start for everyone. We get the chance to wipe the slate clean and set new goals for the year ahead. It feels uplifting and liberating.

I’m not sure yet what my intentions are for this year; other than to have more fun and listen to more music. I often forget how uplifting music is. Especially the tunes that I love. It’s such an easy way to get a quick pick-me-up. But, because I like to work in silence, I don’t tend to listen to music much, other than at the gym.

And fun. Life seems so serious these days. I love laughing and having a good time, but I am often so focused on living or working to stay in balance as an Empath that I forget life is also about having fun.

Laughter is the perfect way to release the feel-good endorphins, which helps wash away everyday stress and the energy of others. Laughing really does keep us young and in good spirits. I think I have just convinced myself even more that this year I intend to find more time for fun… Watch this space.

What about you? Have you got any plans or goals for this year? Feel free to share them in the comments below.

Ok, that’s it for today. Just a quick post to comment on the energy shift.

Until next time.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

How to Know What You Need to Heal Right Now

Empath life often feels like a double-edged sword. On the one hand we have incredible encounters and insights that few will ever experience, and on the other, we endure emotional energy and overwhelm that can at times be crippling, and affects our quality of life.

Experiencing the energy of those we come into contact with impacts our biology. Meaning, our immune system is compromised and our hormones get overworked, just by picking up the emotions of others, which can eventually lead to anything from depression to physical health problems.

 So, yes, we have to constantly work to heal, reset and stay in balance. 

The problem is it is difficult to know what we need to heal for each given situation.

Because Empaths tend to be Sensitive to anything of a low vibration, it is not only others’ emotions that take their toll. We can be taken down by work stress, being peopled, environment pollutants, EMF, earth changes, diet, etc.  Also, what works one day to reset or heal, might not work so well the next.

So, how do we determine what we need now?

The best way to find that answer is to simply ask yourself.

Our body has the wisdom to know what’s required for self-healing, and we are able to decide what we need by the way something feels after asking prompting questions.

For example: sit quietly and take a couple of calming breaths, close your eyes and ask yourself: will my body benefit from doing a short yoga practice today?

See how that question feels within your body.

Then ask yourself, will my body benefit from not doing yoga today? Then see how that feels. One will feel right, one will feel wrong.

You can use this technique with any question to see what you need to heal/rebalance now.

When questioning yourself, be sure to listen to the body and not the mind. The mind is good at talking us out of doing what we don’t particularly want to do.

As you know, I share many techniques for the Empath to heal, reset, stay grounded or detached from emotional energy for the reason we are all different. We all have different needs, and we are constantly evolving. By swapping and changing it also helps to keep the body guessing.

When we do the same workout every day, for example, the body gets used to it. We don’t always feel as much benefit as when we mix up our routines. The same can be said for rebalancing  or healing techniques:

One day we might need a certain crystal to stay grounded, another day an essential oil is required, we may benefit from yoga to reset one day, another day we may need HIIT, or meditation might work best one day to calm a stressed mind, then on another day pranayama breathing is more beneficial.  

I must say that my two all-time favourites for energy cleansing, emotional clearing, rebalancing, etc. are getting outdoors in nature and being in water (the bath/shower, sea, natural pools, etc.) Nothing works as quickly or as dramatically.

If I ever feel out of sorts or over-wired from too much emotional energy and go for a walk in the woods or down by the local waterway, I’m always amazed at how quickly I feel uplifted and cleansed. I can go from feeling wired or overwhelmed to feeling fantastic within an hour of being in nature.

Nature and water are also great to cleanse your energy field, especially if you have spent too much time on the internet or on electrical devices, or if you have been peopled.

Salt baths are also incredible for resetting and healing the body (it’s also a great time to do a meditation or to tune into your higher self).

So, if you are not sure what will work best to rebalance, sit quietly and ask yourself what you need. I will add links at the bottom of the page to posts with grounding/energy clearing/rebalancing techniques, just for some fresh ideas.

Love and best wishes.

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

15 Ways to Stay Grounded

An Empath’s Guide to Living in the World

5 Ways to Stop Empath Overwhelm

Essential Oils for the Empath

Meditation and Breathing Exercises

 

Unplug from the Energy of Others

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Photo by Pixabay on Pexels.com

So here we are again, not long off another year-end.

And what a year it’s been!

I’m sure 2018 will always be remembered as the year of conflict and division.

I know every year has its own crazy vibe, but this one seems particularly explosive with all the dark energy that’s been stirred up.

For those of us who are Empaths, it has certainly been a challenge to stay out of the angry clashing energy, fired up across the world, that has created a huge wave of all-consuming dark emotions!

To top it all off, we’ve arrived once more at the ‘Christmas silly season’. I know many Empaths struggle at this time of year (I was once one of them). All the rushed and stressed emotional energy, being produced by the masses, can prove to be nothing short of exhausting. Even when we stay tucked away, in our own little sanctuaries, the emotional energy is difficult to avoid. And the lack of sun/daylight in the northern hemisphere, means a lack of Vitamin D, and thus extra stress-related colds and flu to deal with.

So, it goes without saying that we all need to step it up at this time of year. We have to work that extra bit harder to stay grounded, balanced and in control of emotions. Which, as you may now be thinking, is not so easy to do. When feeling out-of-sorts from not only the ‘Christmas energy’ but all the other ‘stuff’ we’ve had to endure, working on self is often the last thing we have time or energy for.

adult blur city dawn

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I think you’ll agree; this year has gone from one level of trauma to another. The energies have switched from stress to anger to hate to fear to more stress. It’s obvious the populace is being distracted and divided with the intention of keeping us from finding our true-inner-power.

What I mean is, we are in a unique time where past issues are coming up to the surface to be resolved and healed for everyone. Not only in the way of karmic return but in calls to find balance of the body and mind (modern life puts a huge strain on our human bodies). This shows up in many ways: feeling constantly dissatisfied, suffering illness, anxiety, fear, anger and other strong emotions.  There are many other ways in which people receive their inner-calls to make changes and go within.

Instead of being able to address old wounds and or physical issues, as they arise, people are being given reasons to project their emotional pain on to others. Which only serves in keeping the pain alive.

When we are kept angry or distressed, by focusing on the world’s injustices or propaganda, it not only keeps us trapped in a negative mind-set but it stops us from taking the steps to face and heal any physical or emotional wounds that need attention. We then continuously draw back more reasons to feel emotionally low.

For those Empaths who have already done much inner-work, it sometimes feels like we are being taken back several steps. It doesn’t help that feeling the emotional energy of the world, when it is so negatively charged, can be incredibly isolating.

As I mentioned in my last post, because of constant shifting energy, we need to keep swapping and changing our healing/grounding techniques. But at this time of year it is even more important. If we don’t take control of what we feel, the way we feel will control our life.

So, here I have some winter remedies that I hope will help:

Consciously Unplug

This is so important, even if it’s just for five minutes a day.

By consciously unplugging from all external distractions, it not only allows for a vibrational reset, it shifts our focus. Which helps us break the connection to the emotional energy of others, and allows us to tune into our higher-self.

By simply closing your eyes and focusing on your breath or doing some type of meditative practice, it works well to unplug.

One technique I like to use is the ‘balancing triangle breath’.

This may sound strange, but in my mind’s eye I draw a triangle with my breath between my nose and third eye.

If you want to try it: Inhale through your left nostril (you can block the opposite nostril with thumb), taking the breath up to the third eye (centre of forehead), then on the exhale see your breath travel from the third eye down the right nostril and then back over to the left nostril. After a few breaths reverse the flow from right to left, and then keep alternating.

The image may help you get a better idea of what I mean (I apologize for the creepy face).

The above technique not only helps you unplug and re-centre, it also helps balance your masculine and feminine energy (learn more here).

Avoid Negative People

This is something I probably don’t need to remind you of, but I know how hard it is at this time of year. Work’s do’s, Xmas family get-togethers and the like, mean we end up spending time with those we wouldn’t normally. But if there’s one thing that can suck dry your last remnants of goodwill, its being around ‘negatives’ or ‘energy vampires’

Did you know, science has even acknowledged that by spending too much time around negative people it can influence health and happiness? There are many studies showing how prolonged ‘people stress’ alters gene expression within the immune system… Meaning: anyone can become sick just by hanging out with toxic people. So, for an Empath, who can wear another person’s emotional energy like a heavy winter coat, it’s double whammy!

What can we do to protect our health from people stress?

Well, an easy place to start is:

Eat Lots of Bright Coloured Food

Sadly, I’m not talking about Smarties and M&Ms. I’m talking real food.

By eating lots of lovely bright coloured fruit and veg, it ensures you get lots of vitamins, antioxidants and enzymes which ward off stress-related illnesses (especially colds and flu). If this is difficult, try taking a good range of supplements (read here to learn more about supplements and the Empath).

And, if all else fails have a bath:

Take a Salted-Magnesium-Essential-Oil Bath:

A salt bath with added magnesium and lavender is an incredible combination for instilling calm and balance. It’s also super soothing to your emotions.

Salt clears negative energy, it also heals and softens the skin. Magnesium helps one relax, and boosts energy, supports the endocrine system and aids sleep (quality sleep is essential for repairs). An essential oil, such as lavender, is both relaxing and uplifting. You can buy magnesium bath salts in most supermarkets.

Hope this helps.

Ok, so if I don’t get to post again before Christmas, I hope you all have a truly wonderful time.

Don’t forget to check this out before 30th Dec.

Until next time.

Stay empowered.

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

 

 

Empaths Are Now Being Talked About In The Mainstream Media


I would never normally share two posts within one week, but when I came across this article, I got quite excited and wanted to share it with you.

Empath traits are seldom talked about by anyone other than Empaths. So, to find an article that was published in the MailOnline about the subject made me giddy as a Kipper.

The Woman Who Swears She Can Feel Other People’s Emotions

It seems synchronistic with my last post about the Empath Awakening, that we are now seeing it discussed in the mainstream.

I’m sure you’ll read it yourself, but the article claims that our Empath traits are a form of synesthesia:

Wikipedia Definition

Synesthesia is a perceptual phenomenon in which stimulation of one sensory or cognitive pathway leads to automatic, involuntary experiences in a second sensory or cognitive pathway. People who report a lifelong history of such experiences are known as synesthetes. 

To put synesthesia into laymen’s terms, when someone hears poetry or song, they may see shapes, colours or patterns. For an Empath, however, they feel other people’s emotions as if their own.

I have written extensively in my books about how an Empath’s brain works in relation to experiencing heightened emotions via the limbic system, which apparently has a significant influence on the synesthetic process.

Although, I don’t want to get hung up on ‘labels’ and I believe the traits of an Empath has far more to do with than just being a ‘condition’, it is reassuring to know that it is now recognized as a very real phenomena and not some woo-woo topic.

It also means that we get to talk about the subject more freely. Many Empaths, myself included, don’t talk openly about what we feel and experience for the reason we can sense the disbelief or judgements in others (people find it difficult to believe in a] what they don’t themselves experience, and b] topics not being talked about in the mainstream). Which can in itself be draining as well as disappointing.

All in all, I’d say it is a good day for the Empaths!

So, that’s it for me today.

Hope you’ve had a wonderful weekend.

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

Why Are So Many Empaths Awakening Now?

 

I hope this post finds you well. It’s been a couple of months since my last blog offering. I’ve been super-busy writing, researching and editing my next book. But, I’ve wanted to address this subject for a while, about something you may yourself have noticed… an Empath awakening.

You’ve probably observed the wave of Empaths who have awakened to who they are in recent years. More and more are coming to understand that many of the challenges, they have faced throughout life, have come about because they are an Empath.

Why is this awakening happening now?

Good question. There has to be a reason. Right?

For the past forty years we have seen a huge spiritual awakening. But it’s only been within the past ten years or so that an Empath’s awareness has been on the increase.

This awakening seems to have been greatly perpetuated by the fact most of us felt lost or disconnected from society and we needed to understand why. But the other fact we have to consider to this uprising is the way the world is now.

All around us there has been a surge of crazy conflict energy that is being purposely stoked. The energy of which spreads across the world like wildfire, via the internet and other channels, and is hard to extinguish. Perhaps, this could be the reason behind this Empath emergence.

The theme surrounding an Empath’s awakening appears to be similar from one person to the next. For most, it occurs after enduring dark times, or when we start to ‘work on ourselves’. For example: we may begin a yoga or meditation practice to help us deal with the sense of disconnect we feel, or we may follow a calling to study metaphysical or holistic subjects as a way to gain a greater understanding of life or to become a better person. But after adopting new ways of being, or opening up our awareness it triggered strange physical and emotional responses within. Or, in other words, it rouses dormant Empath traits.

The thing is, when we start to work on ourselves our ‘Sensitivities’ heighten. We not only feel all energy more intensely, but we may also find that we become sensitive to everyone and everything.

What do I mean by this? Well, as an Empath, we have always felt the emotions and energy of others (often without realising), but when we start working on ourselves, we come to sense it more powerfully. This shows up in different ways: places frequented without problem suddenly induce exhaustion. The negative person, who used to drain us, now floors us. We start noticing injustices or seeing things in the world that were previously invisible to us. We may become more sensitive to food, chemicals and inauthenticity. There are many other ways, but the first sign of the awakening tends to be an increased sensitivity to people energy. Continue reading

The Daily Reset: Important for all Empaths!

 

If you are an Empath this post is important for you to read, especially if you answer yes to the following…

Are you struggling to stay focused? Do you feel enraged by the injustices going on around you? Does it feel like you are forgetting who you are or losing your mind?

If you answered yes to any of those questions you are not alone. Many Empaths are experiencing a strong sense of confusion and separation from their true-self.

Why?

Because of the triggering chaos energy that is all around us. The media is stirring up so much hate and uncertainty that it is felt by everyone, but it is particularly troubling for the Empaths.

This energy is so potent it is difficult to keep it out of our heads and it becomes easy to forget ourselves.

You may worry that you are losing your mind, you can have a fuzzy brain, you might experience waves of anger or sadness, you could feel helpless or hopeless. It’s almost as if the mind has been hijacked and whilst we stay connected to the media, in all its shapes and forms, we will continue to struggle with these issues.

However, I do realise avoiding all media outlets is near impossible for many and therefore it is so important to do a daily reset…

Those who control the media want to control people’s minds. When something controls your mind it also controls your thoughts and your energy.

Bad news on all levels!

Social media’s very nature is designed to be addictive, to draw you in and keep you going back for more. It has the power to activate your dopamine levels and, because of this, your body and brain wants to go back for another hit.

You might think you are choosing to peruse online media outlets, but it is actually a reaction in your brain that is making the choice for you.

The fear mongering, used by the mainstream media, is often a tactic used to keep people controlled, distracted and divided. There is rarely any information shared that is uplifting, inspiring or ‘feel good’.

By keeping everyone preoccupied by negative political opinions, global disasters, wars, etc. it keeps everyone in a low vibrating space.  These types of stories create anger and fear. All of which builds negative energy and conflict!

When conflicts arise, both in the media and out on the streets, a blanket of massively contagious, dark energy is produced. Which when at it’s worse is difficult to avoid, no matter how much you work on staying grounded and protected.

Negativity generates negativity.

Negative emotions are contagious and are subliminally taken on even by those who aren’t Sensitive. People then get swept along by the irrational moods being intentionally perpetuated by the media. They breed and feed.  It is a type of gaslighting.

Wikipedia defines gaslighting as a form of psychological manipulation that seeks to sow the seeds of doubt in a targeted individual or group, making them question their own memory, perception and even sanity! By using persistent denial, misdirection, contradiction and lying it attempts to destabilize the victims’ beliefs.

So yes, when the mainstream media is gaslighting it stirs up all kinds of malevolence, which the Empaths take on, often without realising. This dark energy can seep into your conscience without your knowing and can shape your opinions and beliefs. It catches you off guard. And because the populace is continuously fed more reasons to become fearful, infuriated or dissatisfied, and very little to feel positive and cheerful about, low-level energy continues to escalate.

Whether you pay attention to the propaganda stirred up by the media or not, you will still be affected by the emotional energy it produces. At times, the energy of which is so overwhelming, it can seep into your thoughts, even during sleep.

What can we do?

We must work hard to stay unplugged and in balance, otherwise we will get swept along with all the hysteria.

By doing a daily reset of mind, body and spirit it will help keep us vibrating in our higher energy and keep us protected. Here’s some ways to do that:

Daily Reset for Empaths

1. Get out in nature daily: Walk in woodlands or by the sea for at least 30 minutes a day. If you live in a city go to the park and stay near the trees (see this post to learn why it is so beneficial). If you live in a desert or have no access to sea air or dense greenery, the next best thing is a salt bath.

2. Meditate: Meditating is essential. Every day, we need to quieten the mind and clear it through meditation. Even if you do it for only 3 minutes it is more beneficial than not doing it at all. Use breathing exercises to calm your mind, then follow it with a mini meditation. A good one to use is focusing on your third eye (centre of forehead) and see it as a blank screen whilst listening to your breath. Learn the benefits of meditation for an Empath  here.

3. Exercise: When you exercise your body releases endorphins which make you feel good. It not only keeps you physically fit but also works all the systems in your body and keeps you happier.

4. Avoid eating rubbish food: This isn’t so much as being part of a reset but more a way of being. Essential nevertheless. When you eat rubbish, you feel more rubbish and end up eating more rubbish. It’s a vicious cycle. Keep your food fresh and unprocessed. If you want to learn more about how certain foods impact your Empath life see here.

5. Watch/read uplifting material: We need to keep reminding ourselves of who we are and our true beliefs, otherwise we will be swamped by the fear-mongering opinions and hate that is spewed out by the media.

If you spend a lot of time on your laptop keep a link to an inspirational website or YouTube videos. Also try to limit your time on the internet. I know it is difficult, especially if you use the internet for work or if it is your way with connecting with others, but the longer you stay connected, the worse you will feel.

6. Tax your mind: Do crossword puzzles, Sudoku, learn poetry or a language, even for just ten minutes a day. Anything that keeps your mind positively stimulated and distracted from the gaslighting will help keep your brain empowered. It also helps in preventing your thoughts from going over to the dark side.

7. Drink lots of water: Drinking lots of water is so simple to do, but many of us forget.

Not only is water an elixir of youth, but it is incredible for keeping you grounded and ensuring your body and mind stays in perfect working order. This post explains just how amazing water is.

If you have any techniques that you find works for you, please feel free to share them in the comments below. Here are a couple of posts that offers ways to stay grounded and protected:

Easy Ways to stay grounded

An Empath’s guide

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

Whose Emotion Are You In? A Guide For Empaths


Is this your emotion you are feeling? Or does it belong to someone else?

Learning to differentiate between ‘whose emotion belongs to whom’ certainly proves to be a challenge for many Empaths.

Not recognizing other people’s energy, within oneself, is a common theme within the Empath world. Just knowing you take on the emotions from others, does not mean you can automatically discern them from your own or are able to prevent them from affecting you.

When you pick up heavy emotional energy you can feel it in a number of ways: Good emotions rarely cause problems. But if what you pick up is negative, you may interpret it as the emotion you least enjoy or that which is related to an unresolved issue. It is also common for foreign energy to stoke up anger or irritation, even if the other is not themselves experiencing this emotion.

Because there are so many people who carry stress and hidden pain, it can be difficult for the Empath to avoid when out in public places. And if you have a lot of buried pain, it will make the experience, of picking up someone else’s, so much worse.

The reason for this is, the brain tries to rationalize what the body is feeling and will try to categorize the feelings you take on. If the emotions you pick up in another are something similar to what you have experienced from a past experience, the mind will trigger that memory. Which often means you get caught up in painful memories, totally unaware it was triggered by someone else’s energy.

Also, if you are one who dislikes people in your “personal bubble” you will not welcome their emotional energy either and this itself can stoke up dark feelings.

Others’ energy suddenly showing up, uninvited, in your energy field can feel invasive and claustrophobic.

The energy you pick up does not have to be negative to stir up negativity; being unsolicited is enough to ignite unpleasant feelings. (This post may help you when out in public.)

So how can you tell when an emotion does not belong to you? The easiest and quickest way to make this determination is to speak to the emotions directly:

When you initially sense any type of overpowering emotion say to yourself: if these emotions are not mine, leave me now!

If the feelings do not belong to you, they will promptly start to lose their grip. You will experience a definite shift in the way you feel. It may be subtle but you will feel a change. When you notice this subsidence distract yourself, immediately.

Why?

Because negative emotions are powerful. If you don’t take your focus off them they will return. Unpleasant emotions engage unpleasant repetitive thoughts and once your thoughts get wrapped up in the emotions, belonging to others, there is no getting away from them.

Here’s a quick check list to help determine whose emotion you are in:

  • Were you feeling happy then within seconds of being in the company of another you felt sad, anxious or angry?
  • Do you suddenly find yourself caught up in feelings that are triggering long-forgotten memories?
  • Did your mind suddenly become scrambled and your thoughts become foggy?
  • Are you suddenly feeling uninspired or lethargic?
  • Do you feel like you are experiencing psychic attack?
  • Are you experiencing waves of bitterness, anger or irritability (when you don’t normally carry those traits)?
  • Does the area around your solar plexus feel fluttery, heavy or uncomfortable?
  • Are you feeling fearful with no real reason?

If you answer yes to any of the above it could be an indicator that you are experiencing someone else’s energy and emotions.

The Fear Belonging to Others

It is important to recognize if a fear belongs to you. Just like picking up emotions, the Empath can pick up other people’s irrational fears and take them on as their own. Feeling fear is not always a bad thing, it is often a protecting force, but if it belongs to another it may unnecessarily hold you back in life.

Fear is a powerfully controlling emotion. Because it is so potent, it can be debilitating. Even when it belongs to another.

Fear belonging to someone else, feels much the same as your own. If in doubt to whom the fear belongs, use the same technique as above and make the following statement: If this fear is not mine, leave me now! Say it out loud or in your head. If it is not yours, the fear will start to shift.

Another quick way to discern between your fear (or other type of emotion) and another’s, is to check if you had it before being in their company. For example: You may be going on holiday with a friend who has a secret fear of flying. You are super-excited about the trip, that is until you sit next to your friend on the plane. She hates flying and is terrified but is trying hard not to show it. When seated, you suddenly experience a wave of panic wash over you. You don’t question if it’s anyone else’s fear because it seems so real. And, because your friend has not expressed to you, her fear of flying, you don’t suspect it is coming from her. You now think of nothing else but this prevailing wave of fear that is stirring up floods of panic within. It wipes away the joy and excitement, you previously felt, as you become traumatized by the panic. You then may convince yourself you are scared of flying.

You do not have to be connected to a person to feel, and take on, their fear. All it takes is for you to be connected to their energy. If you didn’t have fear about a situation, or event, before being in the company of another, you have to consider that the fear may not belong to you.

Fear creates negative emotions: Negative emotions create lasting memories. If someone or something caused an intense fear, every time you are with them, or in a similar situation, the memory of the emotion will be reignited. This is why it is important to distinguish whose emotion you are in.

The above is a snippet from the book 7 Secrets of the Sensitive.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time,

Diane

©Diane Kathrine

 

 

Is it Time to Let Them Go?


Being in harmony with people is essential to an Empath’s health and wellbeing. So, it should go without saying that as Empaths we should be extra vigilant of not only whom we allow into our life but also those we allow to stay.

This issue isn’t about being egotistical or ‘special’, and it’s not about thinking we’re too good for some people. It’s about letting go of those who constantly make us feel bad, who drain our energy and suck the joy from our life. And that should probably include the people who are angry or bitter towards us, those who attack or lie about us to others and those who seem to enjoy seeing us suffer.

Sadly, the people this includes is most often adult family members or friends who we would have at one time considered close.

Unfortunately, most people manage to invoke an emotional response within the Empath at some point, and it is often the kindest of people who carry the most pain. If we were to let go of all those who ignited an undesirable emotional reaction, we would probably be left with no one in our life. Occasionally being triggered or feeling another’s pain is nothing compared to what certain people can make an Empath feel, especially those who seem to thrive on ‘all things negative’.

Super-charged-negative people can drain your energy within a matter of minutes of being in their presence. Too often, you end up wearing the energy of these people for days after exposure. And nothing you try seems to prevent their dark vibes seeping into your aura.

Because an Empath cares and has deep empathy for those suffering, they tend to avoid doing anything that they consider may cause pain to others. Even to those who refuse to change and have allowed their unhappiness to make them bitter and angry and who blame the world for their woes. It is for this reason many Empaths keep in their lives those who cause them great unhappiness.

Empaths often feel they have a responsibility to help others help themselves to change. But many of those people do not want to change and, although they may protest otherwise, they actually enjoy living under a cloud of negativity.

It might sound selfish to suggest that one must always put the emotional health of self first, but it’s true. We have a responsibility to keep our body and mind healthy. If another continually causes you stress it will eventually make you ill (continuous stress causes illness).

If a food or substance made you violently ill or caused you to feel depressed, you would likely avoid it; the same should be applied to those who cause you emotional turmoil or those who take pleasure in putting or keeping you down.

 

You may learn from bad experiences, but you don’t need to keep experiencing another person’s negativity to grow.

Why do Empaths get so badly affected by the negativity of others?

Most Empaths tend to continuously work on making themselves better people. When you work on yourself, and make any positive changes to your mind, body or spirit, you become cleaner and purer. Your vibration then speeds up and anything of a lower vibration can feel plain awful… and that includes negative people.

Another fact that has to be taken into consideration is that when you vibrate in a ‘higher space’ it can cause a reaction in those around you. People sense change, whether it is visually apparent or not. They feel when another has changed or stepped up their frequency and some don’t like it.

You have probably already noticed that when in an emotionally low place, some friends prefer you that way. Yet when you make changes and put yourself in a high vibrating space, those same friends don’t like it. They may try to bring you back down and attempt to extinguish your inner-light and happiness.

Because not everyone is ready to raise their vibration they may try to draw you back down to their level, and they can do this through snide remarks or mean behaviour. Some still have lessons to learn at their level and are not ready to move forwards, but they may resent the fact that you are.

The purpose of an Empath’s suffering

The further I travel down this road, the more I see the higher purpose served behind the dark behaviours displayed in people.

When we endure difficulties, by experiencing challenging situations or relationships, we eventually come to realise what we need to change for our own growth and development.

We can learn so much from the bad behaviour of others. Even if it’s as simple as developing the courage to say no, to believe in one’s own self-worth, to let go of the need to be in control or to finally walk away from those who continually make us feel bad.

Any undesirable behaviour that repeats, in any type of relationship, is something that needs to be investigated. Repetition highlights flaws or issues that need to be worked on and learnt from. We all learn from the bad situations presented in life. But if the same emotional scenarios keep playing out, no one is gaining, learning or growing from the situation and it is time to cut the cord. (If others truly care and want to keep you in their life they will work to change their ways.)

Once you have learned from an experience you don’t need to re-learn it over and over. You may learn from bad experiences, but you don’t need to keep experiencing the same peoples’ bad behaviour to grow.

This is not about being spiteful or uncaring. You can be grateful for all they have shown you in life and still keep the love you have for them. But if you know in your heart that a relationship is doing you more harm than good and it feels time to let them go, then it is probably time to let them go.

Hope this helps on your journey.

Until next time…

Diane.

©Diane Kathrine

 

Why Empaths are Hurt by Criticism and How to Prevent it Impacting Your Life

 

There is no escaping this simple fact of life, the majority of Empaths are easily hurt by the criticisms and judgements of others. In some cases, so much so, that it may prevent them from taking any creative risks in life.

Yes, the pain of criticism holds many of us back, for the simple reason it is human nature to avoid anything which causes pain.

But as the old saying goes: ‘The only way to avoid criticism is to say nothing, do nothing and be nothing’. And I doubt there are many Empaths who want to go through life doing nothing.

As a blogger, an author and an ‘active poster on Facebook’, I have come across my fair share of criticism. Some of it being quite harsh. And, I will not lie, it does not feel good.

I have often questioned why is it that I feel so disconcerted when someone insults me or criticises my work and the best answer I can come up with is because I care.

It is not that I am so much concerned about being ‘disliked’, but more that I don’t want to cause insult or feel I have hurt or offended another by my offerings or opinions. I also get a little rattled when someone has misread my intentions or made wrong assumptions about me or my work.

That said, I also know criticism can be a great learning tool. Especially in regard to anything work-related or creative. We are often too close to our own work to see where things could be improved. An honest, constructively critical eye can help us see what we were previously blinded to. But, sadly, there are too many people who are insulting in their criticism. Instead of using a critique as a way to help another, some deliver it in such a way that is belittling or cutting Continue reading

Are You an Introvert Empath?


Many Empaths identify with being an introvert, for the reason that introversion tends to go hand-in-hand with an Empath’s journey.

Even if you started life exhibiting more extrovert ways, the way the world makes you ‘feel’ can trigger or build introvert leanings, such as: a regular need for solitude, not enjoying spending time around people, experiencing social aggravation when around crowds, etc.

Did you know that nearly 75% of the world are extroverts? So, if you consider yourself to be  an introvert Empath you are a minority and that is something to be celebrated. But even if you consider yourself to be extrovert, you may also carry many introvert tendencies.

Sadly, many Empaths, or those who sit in between the spectrum of introvert and extrovert as an ambivert, often feel that their introvert ways can hold them back in life.

Generally speaking, most Empaths go through a stage of excessive introversion at some point in their life, especially around times of awakening, spiritual development or major life transitions (extreme introversion can also be a sign of major imbalance or even nutrition deficiency, please see this post for more information), it tends to be part of their path of evolvement. Introvert ways also become more clear with age.

Having introvert traits, in this extrovert-driven world, often brings challenges and hurdles to overcome. So much so, it can leave many Empaths feeling out-of-place, as though they’ve been dumped into a reality where the rules have been written for everyone else. It’s a world where fitting in with social expectations often means living a lie.

There is so much pressure to show extrovert ways, both in the workplace and in social situations, that many introverts are having to ‘fake it’ in order to ‘fit in’.

But, if there’s one thing an Empath dislikes its having to pretend (unless they’re actors up on stage) or act in a way that does not represent their truth. They do not like to conform and they do not like having to live a lie by changing their true behaviour to appease others.

Many introvert Empaths prefer not to be the centre of attention and often dislike networking, small talk and fake friendliness. But as this is an expected way to progress in the modern world it can leave a number of Empaths at odds with themselves.

Some may believe their lack of social skills is down to shyness, but there is much difference between being shy and being introvert.

Although some introverts can be shy, that is not always the reason they do not like excess social interaction.

Shyness is born from a fear: a fear of judgement or social rejection and experiencing social anxiety when interacting with others. An introvert can happily engage others in conversation (when not drained or overwhelmed) at social events, they just don’t like having the pressure to do so if it’s not what they want. They prefer to observe a room rather than work it. And as an Empath can become easily overwhelmed by the dichotomy of energies produced by large groups, social engagements can be a thing of dread. Continue reading