How Do You Know If You’re Really An Empath?

Being that we are in the midst of a largescale awakening, I thought it a good time to share this post from 2018, giving ways to determine if you are an Empath or simply a sensitive soul…

Over the years, I have often been asked the question: ‘How do I know for sure if I’m an Empath?’

My answer always tends to be the same: Generally, if you’re an Empath when you discover the term, and the traits it encompasses, you just know whether it applies to you or not. It is like a light bulb moment. You finally have an explanation for all that you feel and have experienced throughout your life… But, there are always exceptions.

In this post we will look at two traits that truly define an Empath.

What does it matter?

Although I don’t like to get too caught up in labels, I do think knowing and understanding who you are can help you on your journey. Also, knowing your defining traits can help you find balance in life.

There is also the fact to consider that what might help an Empath, might not help the sensitive person. For example: dealing with emotional pain you are picking up from another is different to dealing with emotional pain caused by past trauma.

Ultimately, we all want to live the best life we can. We want to be happy and find stability and we want to leave these bodies in the hopes we did little harm. Knowing who we are and what strengthens or weakens us can help us achieve this.

The reason I think some sensitive people get confused over whether they are an Empath is because they feel things so strongly and share many of the Empath traits. But there are two traits that sets the Empath apart:

  • An ability to feel/read the emotional energy of others.
  • Heightened empathy.

Feeling emotions of other people

The chief trait of an Empath is feeling other people’s emotions, moods, buried pain and energy, but they also have incredible emotional intelligence and empathy for others, even if they don’t actually like spending time with people.

We will now look at how these traits work:

As already noted, when an Empath first discovers the term, it is the moment their life makes sense. Everything they have experienced finally has a reason. But still, there are many more layers to uncover…

If you have spent a lifetime feeling the emotional energy of others, without realising, it may take a while to differentiate these emotions from your own.

As humans, we are very good at hiding our true feelings. Just because someone has a smile on their face, does not mean they are not experiencing emotional pain. But an Empath will always feel what another doesn’t show.

There are a number of ways in which you may experience another’s emotional energy:

  • You might suddenly feel insecure when in the presence of someone who has low self-esteem, social hang-ups or has worries of what others think.
  • You may experience waves of sadness or you may want to burst into tears, if someone near you is grieving or emotionally low.
  • You could suddenly fill with rage or annoyance or get stabbing pains around certain chakras when the person in close proximity has hidden anger.
  • You sense a heaviness around the pit of your stomach when with people who have buried issues they refuse to deal with.
  • When there is a clash of energy (the other person carries similar traits to you) you might feel anxious or constricted around the chest, you could also experience palpitations.
  • You may start to act differently or take on personality traits, of the person you are with, especially if they have a dominant personality. (Read more about this here).

There are many other ways an Empath can interpret the emotional energy of people. They don’t even have to be in their presence to sense certain people’s strong emotions. (Read more here)

Heightened empathy

This trait is a very obvious but not much talked about way of an Empath. But nevertheless, heightened empathy is a prominent trait and a very big part of Empath life, which goes hand in hand with emotional intelligence.

Because an Empath knows how it feels to be hurt by another’s words or actions, they will go out of their way not to do it themselves. But they are still humans. They can still suffer anger or may occasionally lash out when in emotional pain.

Empaths often consider how their words or actions may be interpreted and are careful not to cause offence. They are often conscious of not hurting people, either through the written or verbal word. Which has to be said, is near impossible in a world of varying opinions and beliefs.

Again, we are all human and we can still unintentionally do or say something that offends or upsets. But if an Empath realises they have done or said something which hurts another it will eat them up for days, weeks, months and even years.

An Empath also experiences great discomfort if they see others suffer (human or animal). Even seeing suffering from afar can leave them emotionally broken.

They also hate to let others down. For example: they might go out, on a social event, even though they feel ill, overwhelmed or fatigued, so as not to risk hurting anyone’s feelings.

That said, if another repeatedly hurts an Empath, they will eventually walk away and not look back, regardless of how it hurts the other.

I am by no means suggesting that a sensitive person does not have empathy or emotional intelligence. What I am saying is, in an Empath it is incredibly heightened. So much so, it can take them a long time to understand why others don’t have the same level of consideration.

(If you know that you are an Empath but your empathy has all but gone out of the window, after a lifetime of let-downs, you may find the following posts beneficial: here, here, here, and here.)


I was also going to add heightened intuition to the traits that truly define an Empath. But as someone can be intuitively savvy and have an ability to read someone, but not be an Empath, I decided against it. That said, it is still a defining trait, which most Empaths use to navigate life.

All humans have intuitive senses, just as they also have the ability to sense emotions in others and feel an atmosphere. In Empaths, however, these traits are incredibly heightened.

So, there you go. If you were not sure if being an Empath applies to you, I hope this helps you decide. Or if you are an Empath, I hope it helps you understand your traits a little better.

For more traits of an Empath click here

Until next time…


©Diane Kathrine



3 thoughts on “How Do You Know If You’re Really An Empath?

  1. Hi Diane,

    I would love to hear your thoughts on vaccines. I’m someone who’s absolutely against getting a covid vaccine and can’t believe how people are so willing, without hesitation to get something they know nothing about injected into their body. It’s baffling to me. I’m also sure that without a vaccine people are likely to be discriminated against and or restricted when it comes to travel and possibly even socialising.

    As I mentioned I’m dead against vaccines but also not opposed to having my opinion challenged. I know you tend to be pretty neutral in your posts but I’m sure you have your own thoughts about the vaccine which I/ we would love to hear…

    • Hi Fish,

      My thoughts on vaccinations are similar to yours.

      Our creator, or nature, gave us immune systems to battle off germs and viruses, etc. That’s not to say we won’t get ill. Every year most people get one type of bug or another. it is part of life. Some of these illnesses take us out of action for a week or two (or in some cases many weeks), and there will always be years when particularly bad strains traverse the world that kill a lot of people.

      This has been what we’ve known. But now, they want to vaccinate everyone against an illness that has more than a 99% survival rate. I expect, if it is a contagious as it is claimed, the majority of people came into contact with this strain before lockdowns even began (I think I had it in Dec 2019), and should have developed immunity.

      Before the year of 2020, it was the case that when you had an illness or disease, you built an immunity to it. This was what I was led to believe was the same premise of vaccines. Inject a small amount of a virus/disease into the body so it can build up antibodies. But all the rules have now changed. Everything is a contradiction. The vaccination programmes do not make sense to me.

      I have read that since the 1980s, when vaccinations increased in the populace, over 300 autoimmune diseases have come about. I have not done research in this area but something I know for sure, people are suffering more with physical and mental health issues than ever before. Also, I have seen doctors talk about the reason we have never had vaccines for the corona is because they have never been able to make it safe. Yet, within less than a year they have come up with one that they are pushing on the entire human race. This again, doesn’t make sense.

      Anyway, I hope this has answered your question on my thoughts on vaccines. 🙂

      • Wow. Yes it has and thank you so much for that. It actually makes me angry to be honest. Knowing there isn’t anything we can do but watch it all roll out while every inch of me is screaming this is preposterous, somebody do something. I’m a tarot reader and use my cards a lot to gain insight. I also speak to my guides and I just keep hearing hold space for peace, which is for the most part what I’ve been doing but the vaccines do scare me. I even had a bad dream that I was hiding from people in a helicopter who were talking to me through a megaphone because they knew I wasn’t “chipped”, couldn’t find me on the system and wanted me to take the vaccine. This dream was almost a year ago now but it still haunts me. I think at this point we may need a miracle. Thank you again Diane 🙂

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