Following on from my post last week regarding the law of attraction (click here to read, otherwise this one may not make sense), I agree that negative experiences are an essential part of life and growth. I have written about this many times before in both my books and posts.
I know if I hadn’t experienced dark times, I would not have pushed myself forward to be where I am now. Many good things come out of negative situations. I am a big believer in that.
However, we don’t need to continue to have unnecessary negative emotions and experiences to grow. And when I say unnecessary, I mean the negativity that is perpetually stirred up in the world, designed to keep people down.
The ultimate goal is to evolve out of suffering by making the appropriate changes.
I’m not saying once we’ve done the ‘work’, we will never have a negative experience again, or that we won’t have those uncomfortable hunches that lead us away from unnecessary situations, but we should avoid festering within negativity that has been purposely stoked up, if we want to live happily and healthily.
I have written before that Empaths tend to have certain negative experiences for the exact reason it keeps us evolving. The more work we do on ourselves, the faster we vibrate, and these experiences should lessen.
Luckily, we can come to recognise the difference between an experience that is meant to help us evolve, and negativity that is continually stirred up to keep people distracted and divided.
But even when we have raised our vibration, it is very easy to dip back into dark thoughts and feelings, if we allow ourselves, because of our emotional memories and ‘negativity bias’. Which impacts the way the law of attraction (LAO) works for us.
Those in control, who stir up negativity, know about the negativity bias, and they know how to draw humans into emotional suffering. When we stay in negativity, it prevents us from evolving and from becoming empowered. We can choose to stay out of it.
The more negativity we focus on, the more we draw back. The more we focus on positivity, the more we attract. Like attracts like.
Change your thoughts change your life?
For Empaths, there may be more challenges when working the LOA. But there are many people who it seems only had to change their thoughts and keep a positive outlook to transform their life using the law.
Why did it work for them and not for others? I expect their journey was meant to be easier. Their mountains weren’t as high to climb.
The above people are very likely those who shared with the world that all we need to do, to change our life, is change our thoughts. It worked for them. They were the proof. But, alas, we are all different.
When it comes to the LOA, we also have to consider that none of us really knows what we set out to experience in life, or what our soul contract involves. And we don’t always know what our programmes are to ‘create’. But choosing to keep our outlook and thoughts more positive, and not dipping into unnecessary negativity will most definitely make our reality nicer, whether we live on the breadline or in comfort.
There are some very happy people who are poor. And there are some rich people who feel empty inside.
Some of the unhappiest people I’ve known have been wealthy.
I once knew a girl whose father was incredibly rich; he owned a beautiful big yacht that his crew would sail all over the Med. I assumed he must be super-contented in life, but she told me her father was not truly fulfilled. He always wanted more. When he sailed into different ports, such as Monte Carlo or Puerto Banus, there would always be someone with a bigger better yacht, moored up. He measured his worth by his wealth. So, when someone had more than him, it made him feel inferior. He continued to amass his fortune, but never really felt complete inside.
We come to learn that the best things in life really are free. Material possessions offer little nourishment for the soul. Money really can’t buy health, happiness and inner peace. It just makes life more comfortable.
Why do good things happen to bad people?
Another puzzle with the LOA, is that bad things happen to good people and one may question where is the law working in that?
Bad things happen to good people. And good things happen to bad people. And yes, some people do cruel things to defenceless children or animals. Innocent children get atrocious diseases and good parents suffer the consequence.
This is when the LOA doesn’t seem to make sense. Why do innocents suffer so?
I don’t have an answer for that.
But we don’t know how the law of karma has played out in these situations or indeed what the individuals soul contracts are.
It also seems baffling when some people, who are not nice, do ‘well’ in life. They may have a life that most could dream of and have people pander to their every need. How is the law of attraction working here? If they are bad people, should they not be vibrating at a low frequency and attracting awful stuff?
This is when we can see how the law of attraction works. It shows how beliefs and what we carry inside, emotionally, can create our world. Let me explain:
If you ask an Empath what they feel when around a psychopath and some narcistic types (grandiose), they will tell you they don’t feel much emotionally. Why? because these types have no remorse, they don’t have shame or a guilty conscience, and they don’t have pained emotions buried deep within. (That’s why, to an Empath, they almost feel clean. They may sense a darkness around them, but not from their emotions.)
These types have big egos, and they believe in themselves 100%. They work the LOA to their advantage without even trying. They truly believe they are entitled to a fabulous lifestyle, and this is what many of them create, whilst stepping over anyone who gets in their way. But karma eventually comes around.
Having been observing the world for many years, I’ve seen the law of attraction and karma work over and over. People may seem to get away with the bad things they’ve done for years, then, suddenly, karma catches up.
The slower someone vibrates, the slower their karmic return, and this is why it takes many, many years for some to ‘reap what they sew’.
For me, this belief helps make the cruelty of life make more sense. And, as I mentioned in my last post, karma may seem like a punishment but I believe it is a tool for growth and evolvement.
Understanding how the LOA works for an Empath, and for anyone else for that matter, is important if we want to avoid unnecessary unhappiness. And the best starting point is working to become the best version of ourselves.
However, when we’ve done some inner-work, the work doesn’t stop there. We still have to stay out of the negativity purposely stirred up in the world, or we can find ourselves being sucked in.
So, there you go. Obviously, this is a vast subject that takes much more than a few pages to cover (hence the book), but I hope these two posts have better explained to you the way of the law of attraction and the role karma also plays.
Until next time.