I have often been asked questions such as: ‘how can I be of service to others without being drained?’ or ‘I want to help, how should I do it?’ And, although I have replied to those who have asked these kind of questions in comments, I decided to write a mini-post about it.
I have already covered this topic in other blog posts; but as I know it is a frustrating question to have, I will address it again here.
It is an inbred trait for Empaths to want to help others, if only in an indirect way, and it can be incredibly soul-destroying to see another suffering and not be able to help them. Especially when it’s obvious they are either too ashamed to ask for help for fear of appearing weak, or if they have gone through life being the ‘strong one’ and when their life starts falling apart, they are afraid of being judged for having failed.
Everyone needs help and direction at some point, no matter how evolved they are. But it is still up to each person to seek out the answers they need and they have to be ready to ask for help and/or be willing to make changes.
We see suffering as bad, and it is. But it is through suffering that humans really learn and grow. It can also be an important rite of passage into spiritual consciousness. But still, everyone needs a pointer at some time.
So, one of the easiest ways to help others is to simply listen.
By listening, it is healing to the one being heard. People don’t really listen anymore. Most are too busy thinking about their own story to hear what others are trying to say, or are just waiting for their turn to talk. But to Empaths, listening comes as naturally as breathing.
This is why Empaths are often so sought out, because they listen and they hear. The downside to this is taking on too much, especially when another is repeating a victim-story, like a broken record, and refuses to help themselves by making any changes. Some people also need professional help, and guiding them towards it may be the best option.
It is always wise to have time limits, when listening to others, to prevent overwhelm and or taking on too much. With each person, time limits will be different. For some people, five minutes is enough time, with others an hour or so is ok. But always use grounding and protecting techniques before and after. See here and here.
Another incredible way to serve others, is by serving self first. When we work on ourselves, in mind, body and spirit, we become balanced and empowered. Our vibration then speeds up and we emit a much more powerful energy. The type of energy that is uplifting and healing to those around us.
So, just by empowering ourselves we can help empower others.
If you want to learn more about becoming an empowered Empath, this post is worth a read.
Until next time.